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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I do have a little topic I want to have

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Speaker 2: a chat around, So give us a call if you

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Speaker 2: are in agreeance or not with this sentence. Men are

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Speaker 2: more attractive when they have children, or maybe men are

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Speaker 2: more attractive when they're with children.

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Speaker 3: I think I know what you're saying, but I think

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Speaker 3: you're saying a different thing.

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Speaker 2: Oh Am, I not saying it very well.

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Speaker 1: No.

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Speaker 2: I think I tried to be really clear about it

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Speaker 2: and then I kind of made it sound a bit strange.

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Speaker 3: You are clear about it, But I think when a

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Speaker 3: woman sees a man with children, I think they desire

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Speaker 3: if it was a single woman, I think they might

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Speaker 3: desire the level of responsibility the man carries, and possibly

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Speaker 3: the lifestyle and the picture that's they're seeing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're in love with some do you know what

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Speaker 2: I mean?

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Speaker 1: Romantic tasics.

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Speaker 3: They see that and they think, eye isn't a cute?

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Speaker 3: The kids are perfect, and he's doing this be helping

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Speaker 3: out his beautiful wife who's at home getting a massage.

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Speaker 3: That the kids are dressed immacularly and their behavior is

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Speaker 3: spot on, And it's never the case, but in your mind,

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Speaker 3: in that moment you think, wow, what a world that

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Speaker 3: I wish maybe I could.

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Speaker 1: But I have.

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Speaker 2: I think you're only seeing that that version on Instagram

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Speaker 2: when you're you know, woolies or something, or you're in

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Speaker 2: the mall, no one's immaculately dressed, or things aren't going well.

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Speaker 2: But even if you see a dad with like a

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Speaker 2: you know, a toddler who's having a hit of a

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Speaker 2: tantrum and he's handling it, isn't it ridiculous that you

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Speaker 2: actually think, oh, he's doing such a great job. Whereas

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Speaker 2: if it was mum, you probably you don't even notice.

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Speaker 2: She's just doing what mums do. Anyway, we're talking about

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Speaker 2: this and as I said, get involved if it works

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Speaker 2: for you. If you do see men anything, oh isn't that?

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Speaker 2: Isn't that nice? As part of a new study, of course,

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Speaker 2: this is with heterosexual female sure, three hundred and sixty

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Speaker 2: of them. In fact, they were shown photos of male

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Speaker 2: models either alone or then interacting with a child, and

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Speaker 2: they raided those with the youngsters, ye twenty one.

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Speaker 1: More desirable.

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Speaker 2: I mean, so if there was a guy does that sorry,

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Speaker 2: no go.

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Speaker 3: When you saw me and we went to the footy

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Speaker 3: that day and I'm just a man having a pie

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Speaker 3: and a beer. But I had my two boys with me.

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Speaker 3: Did you look at me and go win a chicken dinner?

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Speaker 3: You must have No. Firstly, I was about it. Take

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Speaker 3: your time to think of it.

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Speaker 1: Firstly, I was.

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Speaker 2: Irritated because my tickets weren't working, and my level of

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Speaker 2: anxiety of around going to the SCG on my own

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Speaker 2: with my nine year old to go to the football,

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Speaker 2: even just on a like a really fundamental level, I was.

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Speaker 2: I was panicked, sure, but I thought, you know what,

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Speaker 2: Whip's going to have this under control. I'll just get

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Speaker 2: just get straight in there and get safe, like be safegaate.

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Speaker 2: And then my tickets did up in the wrong email,

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Speaker 2: so I wasn't happy about that. And then I have

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Speaker 2: to say there was also a little part of me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, what a man, What a man? What a matter?

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Speaker 3: Good mayn No.

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Speaker 1: I was thinking, this is interesting, why this Whip is

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Speaker 1: the kind of guy that takes his two boys to

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Speaker 1: the football and leaves his wife and daughter at home.

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Speaker 3: Of course that they were invited, but it's not of

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Speaker 3: interest to them. But once again to Tommy and I

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Speaker 3: walked past, this is a true story. Carriage Tommy and

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Speaker 3: I walked past a Ralph LAURENZS store in London. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Ralph Lauren, Ralph Lauren. And we looked inside and there

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Speaker 3: was a dad who looked like David Beckham, and he

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Speaker 3: had his three kids and they were all perfectly dressed

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Speaker 3: and they looked so sharp, and he was so handsome,

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Speaker 3: and I think we were.

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Speaker 1: Was it David?

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Speaker 3: I don't know, or Ralph could have been Ralph, but

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Speaker 3: Tommy and I looked at each other in that moment

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Speaker 3: and we're never going to be him. He's got everything together.

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Speaker 3: I think that's how girls sometimes see guys with their

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Speaker 3: kids out and about when it's looking good. But really

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Speaker 3: his world might be a disaster. He's probably terrible with

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Speaker 3: his mistress.

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Speaker 4: You only dated him for about six months.

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Speaker 1: Good one, Tommy.

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Speaker 2: Let's go to Jason and Padstow.

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Speaker 4: Good morning, Jason, Hey you guys, good morning to.

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Speaker 1: You to just what do you reckon? What do you

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Speaker 1: think about with Kate?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Look, those single Dad's show that started caring and nurturing

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Speaker 4: side towards kids, and do believe that's something that women

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Speaker 4: do love. But sometimes it is hard for a single

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Speaker 4: dad to actually find somebody to accept that as well,

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Speaker 4: so it's a bit of a double edged.

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Speaker 2: Are you a single dad?

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Speaker 4: No, I'm not, unfortunately No, Unfortunately, you're still working on Jason.

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Speaker 3: If you play your cards right, you'll get caught.

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Speaker 1: We'll all be singing hard enough.

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Speaker 2: Cale is in thoughts, Nick, Yeah, Guys with kids absolutely,

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Speaker 2: Chick Magnet.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, they get it. They get what I'm a

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Speaker 4: single mom and two kids, so they get what life

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Speaker 4: is like.

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Speaker 5: They get the business.

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Speaker 4: But it also shows that like soft side of them

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Speaker 4: as well. And I think that's really.

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Speaker 3: Isn't that beautiful? I mean it's almost more powerful than

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Speaker 3: a man with a puppy golden retriever. Do you know

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Speaker 3: what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Well, sometimes it depends which what kind of level of

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Speaker 2: commitment you're not no.

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Speaker 3: Cost Jenna, Hello, Hello, how are you? You're more attracted

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Speaker 3: to a man with kids, Jenna?

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Speaker 5: For certain degree? Like, for instance, my point of view

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Speaker 5: is I've got a boyfriend and we're twenty two. We've

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Speaker 5: been together six years, and when I see him with

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Speaker 5: his baby cousin, I just think this will be the

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Speaker 5: father of my children.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a chemical reaction going out.

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Speaker 2: I mean, they're just very it's very different like looking

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Speaker 2: after a child, Having a.

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Speaker 1: Child, isn't it?

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Speaker 5: Is there? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, compt but I know what you mean.

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Speaker 2: There is a level of you probably looking at him thinking, oh,

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Speaker 2: he's capable of that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, even on something just like he can.

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Speaker 3: That's beautifully said Jenna. Good luck. That's awesome, Tommy. We

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Speaker 3: should do traffic dating soon. It's just when we take

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Speaker 3: these calls often quite a lot of Singleton.

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Speaker 1: They call, yeah, yeah, we've done that.

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Speaker 3: Single parent edisher. It's Whippa with Kate Ritchie is a

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