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Speaker 1: us of what it means to be fully human. Strips

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Speaker 1: away all the bullshit, all the pretense, all the unimportant stuff,

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Speaker 1: and just leaves the truth. And it's in that truth

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Speaker 1: that we find not just lost, but also like profound

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Speaker 1: beauty and being alive and joy, and maybe we find

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Speaker 1: the courage to face our own mortality, the wisdom to

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Speaker 1: cherish the time we have, and the grace to honor

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Speaker 1: the lives of those that we love and those that

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Speaker 1: we lose, you know, both in their presence right here,

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Speaker 1: right now and then their absence. At sixty one, I'm

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Speaker 1: way closer to the finish line than I am the start.

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Speaker 1: And of course it's my intention to live a much

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Speaker 1: longer life, and to learn more stuff and do more stuff,

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Speaker 1: help people, serve people, and lift more heavy things, and

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Speaker 1: have more laughs, and ride more motorbikes, and you know,

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Speaker 1: do all the things. But the truth is, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how long I'll live. I don't know

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Speaker 1: how long I'll be there. I don't know what the

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Speaker 1: future holds. The truth is, I'm not in control of

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Speaker 1: all the variables in the lifespan equation, a lot of them,

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Speaker 1: but not all of them. And having had lots of

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Speaker 1: people die that I love, I'm aware of the gift

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Speaker 1: that is one day. I'm aware of the fragility of

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Speaker 1: life and also the gift of life, the gift that

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Speaker 1: is love, that is kindness, that is connection. And while

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Speaker 1: I'm not looking forward to dying, neither am I scared

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Speaker 1: of it and friends and listeners. I'm not exactly sure

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Speaker 1: why I felt compelled to do this episode today, but

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Speaker 1: as I said at the start, I feel like someone

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Speaker 1: or someone's one of you, some of you, a few

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Speaker 1: of you, a lot of you. I'm not sure, but

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Speaker 1: I feel like someone needs to hear it. And so

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Speaker 1: now I've done it. Love me,