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Speaker 1: Apoja Production. Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm

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Speaker 1: actually Bynes. This is a podcast where we learn, laugh,

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Speaker 1: and level up together. Let's go deep, let the emotions flow,

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Speaker 1: find the lessons to grow and glow. Nothing is off

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Speaker 1: be your expander. Hello everybody, Welcome back to Growing Glow.

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Speaker 1: I'm actually your host. If you're new here, welcome, if

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Speaker 1: variety of different topics and I'm going to answer as

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Speaker 1: do like the episodes. Are you more of someone who

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Speaker 1: a good solid hour. I feel like it depends on

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Speaker 1: shorter ones, like the bite sized chunks. But anyways, let's

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Speaker 1: get straight into it. So first up, I had someone

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Speaker 1: ask about lip and tongue ties with their babies. Both

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Speaker 1: of my children had really bad lip and tongue ties.

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Speaker 1: If you don't know what this is, basically like if

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Speaker 1: if you can pull it up, like you don't have

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Speaker 1: that you can't really pull your lip up. There's like

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Speaker 1: this connective tissue I suppose that connects it. That's the

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Speaker 1: same with your tongue. So if you can poke your

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Speaker 1: tongue fully out or when you lift it up, you

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Speaker 1: can see this connective tissue. For a lot of babies

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Speaker 1: So I'd never heard of this. I'd never seen anyone

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Speaker 1: who doesn't actually practice anymore. He was in Tellibudra to

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Speaker 1: So yeah, they did the laser and it's a lot

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Speaker 1: And it's very similar to the marriage when I met

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Speaker 1: And it doesn't mean that something's wrong with you, and

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Speaker 1: What is your word going into two thousand and twenty five?

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Speaker 1: more joy and bring more fun and bring more laughter,

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Speaker 1: because I think life's too short to not be having fun.

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Speaker 1: In my work, in my family, in my friendships, in

431
00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:38,880
Speaker 1: my lone time. I just want to have fun. It

432
00:19:38,921 --> 00:19:41,961
Speaker 1: brings me so much joy and makes me really playful

433
00:19:42,041 --> 00:19:45,761
Speaker 1: list my vibration, and I'm just like a funner, high vibe,

434
00:19:45,761 --> 00:19:47,881
Speaker 1: cool person to be around. So I don't not want

435
00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:49,001
Speaker 1: more of that. So that's going to be in the

436
00:19:49,041 --> 00:19:51,601
Speaker 1: forefront of my mind is fun. And when I get

437
00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:54,721
Speaker 1: asked to do opportunities, whether that's speaking events or podcasts

438
00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,840
Speaker 1: or go on trips or anything, if I don't think

439
00:19:57,880 --> 00:19:59,281
Speaker 1: it's going to be fun, I think it's going to

440
00:19:59,281 --> 00:20:01,360
Speaker 1: be a hard no. The other word that I'm going

441
00:20:01,441 --> 00:20:05,001
Speaker 1: to be leaning into more is flow. It's very similar

442
00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:08,481
Speaker 1: to surrender. I just feel this like feminine energy around

443
00:20:08,521 --> 00:20:11,521
Speaker 1: the word flow and just being softer. I've had a

444
00:20:11,521 --> 00:20:14,321
Speaker 1: coach for the last three months, and that was my

445
00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:17,001
Speaker 1: main intention, was learning how to soften more, how to

446
00:20:17,041 --> 00:20:20,201
Speaker 1: be open more, how to receive more, how to heal more,

447
00:20:20,241 --> 00:20:22,960
Speaker 1: how to forgive more, how to have more compassion. And

448
00:20:23,001 --> 00:20:25,721
Speaker 1: that three months was really deep work. But I really

449
00:20:25,801 --> 00:20:29,000
Speaker 1: feel like so much shifted for me internally, and I

450
00:20:29,120 --> 00:20:31,600
Speaker 1: feel so much more open and so much more softer,

451
00:20:32,241 --> 00:20:34,881
Speaker 1: which then helps me flow more. So flows another one.

452
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:38,481
Speaker 1: But the main word that I'm leaning into is curiosity.

453
00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:41,840
Speaker 1: Curiosity to me means like I've got to open mind

454
00:20:42,441 --> 00:20:44,681
Speaker 1: and things that I would normally be scared and maybe

455
00:20:44,721 --> 00:20:47,840
Speaker 1: turned down or make up a story about why I

456
00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:50,241
Speaker 1: can't do something. If I interest me in the slightest,

457
00:20:50,241 --> 00:20:52,120
Speaker 1: it means I'm curious, and I want to lean into that.

458
00:20:52,201 --> 00:20:55,321
Speaker 1: I want curiosity to kind of lead the way, and

459
00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:57,041
Speaker 1: it means I'm going to be open to so many

460
00:20:57,041 --> 00:20:59,121
Speaker 1: more opportunities. I'm going to give more things to go.

461
00:20:59,360 --> 00:21:02,521
Speaker 1: I'm not going to let fear be the one holding

462
00:21:02,561 --> 00:21:05,041
Speaker 1: the torch in my life. I just think curiosity is

463
00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:09,440
Speaker 1: really playful, really fun, really exciting, really like, oh what's next.

464
00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:11,600
Speaker 1: It's kind of like a mystery and I like that

465
00:21:11,681 --> 00:21:15,360
Speaker 1: variety as well, so fun, flow, and curiosity are my

466
00:21:15,441 --> 00:21:18,721
Speaker 1: three words going in twenty twenty five. This is really cute.

467
00:21:18,761 --> 00:21:20,881
Speaker 1: Someone asks what do you love most about Steve? There

468
00:21:20,961 --> 00:21:23,201
Speaker 1: is so many things I love about my beautiful husband.

469
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Speaker 1: The thing lately that's really come through he is just

470
00:21:26,801 --> 00:21:30,241
Speaker 1: my biggest rock. Like literally anything and everything I'm going through.

471
00:21:30,321 --> 00:21:32,880
Speaker 1: He has this ability to be able to hold the

472
00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:35,080
Speaker 1: space to me so well. I need to read the

473
00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 1: room sometimes if he's had like a really stressful day

474
00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:40,600
Speaker 1: and he's tired and exhausted, sometimes I'll wait to like

475
00:21:40,681 --> 00:21:43,281
Speaker 1: unload to him. But ninety five percent of the time

476
00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:45,440
Speaker 1: like the way he holds me and listens to me

477
00:21:45,561 --> 00:21:49,001
Speaker 1: and validates me. But then also he's a Libra, so

478
00:21:49,041 --> 00:21:53,921
Speaker 1: he's very calm, he's very grounded, he's very fair, he's

479
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:58,360
Speaker 1: very level headed. He is not someone that carries a

480
00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:02,321
Speaker 1: lot of anger. He's not very reactional. He thinks about

481
00:22:02,321 --> 00:22:06,080
Speaker 1: what he says. He's always inspiring me to embody more

482
00:22:06,120 --> 00:22:08,561
Speaker 1: of that. I just love all of that about him,

483
00:22:08,561 --> 00:22:11,080
Speaker 1: and going through something recently, he really has kept me

484
00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:13,561
Speaker 1: so calm and grounded. I've been so proud of how

485
00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:18,360
Speaker 1: I've handled eckier situations, and my responses have been so

486
00:22:18,561 --> 00:22:22,681
Speaker 1: loving and kind, and yeah, I really owe a lot

487
00:22:22,681 --> 00:22:24,321
Speaker 1: of that to him and a lot of my beautiful

488
00:22:24,360 --> 00:22:27,880
Speaker 1: girlfriends as well. But yeah, he just is a very beautiful, kind,

489
00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:31,761
Speaker 1: car balanced, fair person, and I think they're just such

490
00:22:31,761 --> 00:22:34,521
Speaker 1: incredible traits to have. But I love how he just

491
00:22:34,561 --> 00:22:37,241
Speaker 1: loves everything about me. He never judges me, he never

492
00:22:38,120 --> 00:22:41,001
Speaker 1: tries to change anything about me. He just fully accepts

493
00:22:41,041 --> 00:22:42,840
Speaker 1: all of me, which has really helped me on my

494
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:45,120
Speaker 1: own self love journey because the way he loves me

495
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:49,080
Speaker 1: helps me love me more too. He's also an incredible

496
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,360
Speaker 1: dad as well, and he can cook a really good

497
00:22:51,481 --> 00:22:55,721
Speaker 1: massmin curry. He's a great cook. What did slowing down

498
00:22:55,761 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 1: look like for you this year? How did you know

499
00:22:57,801 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 1: what to let go of and what to prioritize? So,

500
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Speaker 1: as you guys know, I had a brain aneurysm. I

501
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:07,041
Speaker 1: found out in March and I had surgery only three

502
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,521
Speaker 1: months ago. But I felt like as soon as I

503
00:23:09,561 --> 00:23:12,761
Speaker 1: got that news something switched inside me where I was like,

504
00:23:13,441 --> 00:23:18,160
Speaker 1: holy shit, life is so short. I am not happy.

505
00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:23,400
Speaker 1: I need to reevaluate literally everything, and I'm so sick

506
00:23:23,721 --> 00:23:27,201
Speaker 1: and tired of being sick and tired. I just felt

507
00:23:27,201 --> 00:23:29,241
Speaker 1: like my body was so burnt out. I was running

508
00:23:29,281 --> 00:23:32,360
Speaker 1: on adrenaline. I always felt the need to prove, not

509
00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:34,801
Speaker 1: to others, even even just to myself, that I could

510
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 1: do it, and I was hustling and I could achieve this,

511
00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:39,920
Speaker 1: and it was always looking future and the further goals,

512
00:23:39,961 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 1: and I just felt when I was in the hospital

513
00:23:41,801 --> 00:23:44,321
Speaker 1: and I actually had that time and space to just

514
00:23:44,321 --> 00:23:46,961
Speaker 1: sit and reflect, I was like, ohh, I just don't

515
00:23:46,961 --> 00:23:49,240
Speaker 1: want to live like this anymore. And I want to

516
00:23:49,281 --> 00:23:52,401
Speaker 1: like deconstruct the old belief that I have to be

517
00:23:53,120 --> 00:23:56,201
Speaker 1: hustling and working myself and burning myself into the ground

518
00:23:56,241 --> 00:23:59,761
Speaker 1: to be successful. I wanted to redefine what success looked

519
00:23:59,801 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 1: like to me, and success now is not about hustling

520
00:24:04,681 --> 00:24:07,160
Speaker 1: and doing one hundred things at once. It's about me

521
00:24:07,281 --> 00:24:09,001
Speaker 1: being able to do the things that bring me a

522
00:24:09,001 --> 00:24:12,081
Speaker 1: lot of joy, light and I can make a lot

523
00:24:12,080 --> 00:24:14,880
Speaker 1: of impact. Success to me is being able to have

524
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Speaker 1: the freedom and the flexibility to be able to be

525
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Speaker 1: with my kids as much as I want to whilst

526
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Speaker 1: working on my mission, which is making a really positive

527
00:24:23,521 --> 00:24:27,080
Speaker 1: impact on women's lives, helping them grow and glow and

528
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,961
Speaker 1: expand helping them not feel so alone, building a community

529
00:24:29,961 --> 00:24:32,801
Speaker 1: where they feel safe to express and to get to

530
00:24:32,801 --> 00:24:35,400
Speaker 1: know themselves on a deeper level. So that's when the

531
00:24:35,441 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 1: hard decision came to closing down my active web business

532
00:24:37,961 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 1: and then also handing over my health and fitness app

533
00:24:41,921 --> 00:24:45,041
Speaker 1: and programs to Levi, which was a really beautiful transition

534
00:24:45,521 --> 00:24:47,561
Speaker 1: because I love Levi so much and we've worked together

535
00:24:47,561 --> 00:24:50,120
Speaker 1: for the last fifteen years and I'm so excited for

536
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:52,400
Speaker 1: the things that he's going to expand and grow within

537
00:24:52,441 --> 00:24:54,361
Speaker 1: the app, and all of my challenges are still on there,

538
00:24:54,360 --> 00:24:56,240
Speaker 1: and I'm still a coach on the app, so i

539
00:24:56,281 --> 00:24:58,360
Speaker 1: still feel connected to him and to what you know

540
00:24:58,481 --> 00:25:01,321
Speaker 1: he's doing. But that was really beautiful. Closing down the

541
00:25:01,360 --> 00:25:04,120
Speaker 1: active wear label was really hard because I love active wear,

542
00:25:05,041 --> 00:25:08,321
Speaker 1: but I didn't love running a business. I didn't love

543
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:11,561
Speaker 1: managing a team. I think it's a very special skill

544
00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: to be able to manage a team effectively. Steve is

545
00:25:14,521 --> 00:25:17,041
Speaker 1: incredible at it, and it just wasn't a skill set

546
00:25:17,041 --> 00:25:18,321
Speaker 1: of mine. I felt like I just wanted to be

547
00:25:18,321 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 1: everyone's friends and make everyone happy and just like working

548
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:24,721
Speaker 1: around their schedules, and I would just sometimes hire people

549
00:25:24,721 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: out of fear or because they're my friends, or I've

550
00:25:28,041 --> 00:25:29,441
Speaker 1: always said it like I don't think I would even

551
00:25:29,481 --> 00:25:31,321
Speaker 1: ever own a business if it wasn't for Steve, Like

552
00:25:31,441 --> 00:25:34,241
Speaker 1: we both have such different strengths and weaknesses that really

553
00:25:34,281 --> 00:25:37,761
Speaker 1: compliment each other. Anyways, back to going on, going on

554
00:25:37,761 --> 00:25:40,201
Speaker 1: a run, back to what's slowing down look like? So, yes,

555
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 1: it was finding out about my brain aneurism. It was

556
00:25:42,241 --> 00:25:45,321
Speaker 1: closing down baseline. It was creating more space for me

557
00:25:45,360 --> 00:25:47,961
Speaker 1: to be with Taler at home more and just being

558
00:25:47,961 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 1: able to finish early and have more time with their kids.

559
00:25:50,521 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 1: So Steve, when I finish at like two o'clock most days,

560
00:25:53,481 --> 00:25:55,521
Speaker 1: and then we get that time with Tyler in the afternoon,

561
00:25:55,561 --> 00:25:57,001
Speaker 1: and then we get Taji and then we have the

562
00:25:57,001 --> 00:26:00,521
Speaker 1: time as a family, and that's really beautiful. And I'm

563
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 1: still busy with what I do. However, the hustle and

564
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: busyness feel so different to what it used to. I'm

565
00:26:08,681 --> 00:26:11,721
Speaker 1: so lit up by the work that I do now

566
00:26:11,761 --> 00:26:15,281
Speaker 1: compared to running an e commerce business. We still have Hideaway,

567
00:26:15,321 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 1: but I'm not obviously running that ship. Stevez. I feel

568
00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:20,681
Speaker 1: like the work I get to do now is from

569
00:26:20,761 --> 00:26:24,281
Speaker 1: like a very heart opening centered place of just wanting

570
00:26:24,321 --> 00:26:28,441
Speaker 1: to connect and there's no pressure on what I do.

571
00:26:28,521 --> 00:26:31,001
Speaker 1: There's no timelines and dead I mean, of course I

572
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,521
Speaker 1: need to do podcasts by a certain time, but even

573
00:26:33,521 --> 00:26:35,521
Speaker 1: like coming up to do this podcast, I just love

574
00:26:35,561 --> 00:26:37,561
Speaker 1: the conversations. I love the connection. I love that I

575
00:26:37,561 --> 00:26:39,801
Speaker 1: get to do this. I'm solow today, which is really

576
00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 1: cool actually, but I love that I get to do

577
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: that with a really close friend. I love the producers

578
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:46,641
Speaker 1: that we work with. They are the most fucking incredible humans.

579
00:26:46,721 --> 00:26:49,241
Speaker 1: I just I love them so much, and I feel

580
00:26:49,241 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 1: so grateful that I get to work within a team

581
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:54,880
Speaker 1: that's just so aligned, and even with Hideaway, like I

582
00:26:54,921 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 1: get to do the creative fun stuff. Now I'm not

583
00:26:57,521 --> 00:27:00,521
Speaker 1: bogged down with the logistics of running a business like

584
00:27:00,521 --> 00:27:02,400
Speaker 1: I was with Baseline. I get to literally work on

585
00:27:02,441 --> 00:27:06,001
Speaker 1: my strength, which is marketing and content creation and being

586
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:08,561
Speaker 1: really creative and doing that with the team and having fun.

587
00:27:08,681 --> 00:27:11,201
Speaker 1: Like my roles are very fun, which is cool because

588
00:27:11,201 --> 00:27:13,160
Speaker 1: that's my word going into next year. But I literally

589
00:27:13,241 --> 00:27:14,961
Speaker 1: have like a big smile on my face because I'm

590
00:27:14,961 --> 00:27:16,561
Speaker 1: so excited for next year to just be able to

591
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:19,360
Speaker 1: really focus on the podcast and hide Away that's been

592
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,201
Speaker 1: slowing down. For me, it has been just more time

593
00:27:21,241 --> 00:27:23,400
Speaker 1: with my family and doing more things that light me up.

594
00:27:23,481 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 1: So I'm not ever as tired and drained and stress

595
00:27:26,681 --> 00:27:29,801
Speaker 1: as what I used to be. So yeah, I'm still busy,

596
00:27:30,201 --> 00:27:33,161
Speaker 1: but I'm not If that makes sense. Oh, I feel

597
00:27:33,201 --> 00:27:36,081
Speaker 1: like I answered that in a roundabout way. When life

598
00:27:36,120 --> 00:27:38,640
Speaker 1: gets busy, what are the key habits and self care

599
00:27:38,681 --> 00:27:43,521
Speaker 1: that you never let slide? For me, it's breath. I

600
00:27:43,561 --> 00:27:46,201
Speaker 1: don't do like a long, heavy breath session every single day,

601
00:27:46,241 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 1: but I'll always as soon as I wake up just

602
00:27:48,001 --> 00:27:51,200
Speaker 1: take ten slow, long breaths. It's just a part of

603
00:27:51,241 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 1: what I do now. It's like brushing my teeth. I

604
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:56,961
Speaker 1: always start my day just getting some oxygen and regulating

605
00:27:57,001 --> 00:27:59,561
Speaker 1: myself so that I can start my day calm and

606
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:03,681
Speaker 1: clear for myself, my kids. Hydration and food. I feel

607
00:28:03,721 --> 00:28:05,640
Speaker 1: like that's something that never really goes out that wind. Know,

608
00:28:05,801 --> 00:28:08,001
Speaker 1: even if I'm not cooking at home as much, I

609
00:28:08,001 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: still choose healthy options when I'm out. And movement. I

610
00:28:11,241 --> 00:28:14,041
Speaker 1: feel like movements just something that I always prioritize. Health

611
00:28:14,041 --> 00:28:16,561
Speaker 1: and fitness has always been my biggest lifeline. Even when

612
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:18,161
Speaker 1: I was a little girl, I would dance, I would

613
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,241
Speaker 1: play sport. If I didn't want to be at home

614
00:28:20,281 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: with my stepdad, I would literally just walk for miles.

615
00:28:22,681 --> 00:28:25,641
Speaker 1: I would go and sprint stairs or just like make

616
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,561
Speaker 1: my own workouts up. I just felt like exercise for

617
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: me and moving my body it's a way that I

618
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:34,961
Speaker 1: get to move the stagnant energy and any low vibrational feelings.

619
00:28:35,321 --> 00:28:38,921
Speaker 1: Actually physically moving it helped me clear it. So movement

620
00:28:39,001 --> 00:28:41,721
Speaker 1: it definitely would be as well. And then even at night,

621
00:28:41,841 --> 00:28:44,161
Speaker 1: just during my skincare routine, just taking that time to

622
00:28:44,281 --> 00:28:47,561
Speaker 1: really like laden my body, in my face, in my seroms,

623
00:28:47,601 --> 00:28:50,601
Speaker 1: in my creams, and just spending that time loving on myself.

624
00:28:50,921 --> 00:28:53,801
Speaker 1: That never goes out that window either. See. I feel

625
00:28:53,801 --> 00:28:56,921
Speaker 1: like I've really worked on my foundational habits for so

626
00:28:57,401 --> 00:29:01,361
Speaker 1: many years that even when life gets tough or I'm

627
00:29:01,361 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 1: more busy in some way, shape or form, those habits

628
00:29:03,961 --> 00:29:06,161
Speaker 1: are just so ingrained with me. I mean, the last

629
00:29:06,201 --> 00:29:07,601
Speaker 1: week I've been flying to Sydney, and I go to

630
00:29:07,641 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 1: Sydney and next week and I'm up in Brisbane. I

631
00:29:09,441 --> 00:29:11,681
Speaker 1: haven't been exercising as much, but I was also sick

632
00:29:11,761 --> 00:29:14,121
Speaker 1: last week, so I'm kind of just having a week

633
00:29:14,201 --> 00:29:16,281
Speaker 1: or two off proper movement. I'm still going for a

634
00:29:16,321 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 1: couple of little walks and doing some stretches in the morning,

635
00:29:19,281 --> 00:29:21,001
Speaker 1: but I'm just giving my body a bit of arrest,

636
00:29:21,081 --> 00:29:23,921
Speaker 1: and I have zero guilt around that. How do you

637
00:29:23,921 --> 00:29:28,161
Speaker 1: and stead split mental load, cooking, cleaning kids' activities? Does

638
00:29:28,161 --> 00:29:30,361
Speaker 1: this split work for you? And if not, what would

639
00:29:30,401 --> 00:29:33,681
Speaker 1: you change? Steve and I have really good communicator in

640
00:29:33,721 --> 00:29:37,041
Speaker 1: our relationship, and we go through different seasons. But it's

641
00:29:37,041 --> 00:29:40,161
Speaker 1: been really beautiful now that we're both not running big businesses.

642
00:29:40,361 --> 00:29:41,960
Speaker 1: He's still running high Away, but now we don't have

643
00:29:42,001 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: Baseline as well. I felt like I've been able to

644
00:29:44,281 --> 00:29:48,001
Speaker 1: drop more into my feminine and I've been more enjoying

645
00:29:48,041 --> 00:29:51,841
Speaker 1: cooking for the family, enjoying cleaning up, enjoying being at

646
00:29:51,841 --> 00:29:54,161
Speaker 1: home more, Whereas when I was running Baseline, I was

647
00:29:54,201 --> 00:29:56,521
Speaker 1: in the office and working just as many hours as him.

648
00:29:56,521 --> 00:29:59,561
Speaker 1: That I felt like we still actually made it work

649
00:29:59,601 --> 00:30:01,881
Speaker 1: in the sense. Brene Brown did a talk on it

650
00:30:01,881 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 1: a little while ago, and she basically said relationships are

651
00:30:04,761 --> 00:30:08,561
Speaker 1: not fifty. You one day be feeling out a twenty

652
00:30:08,641 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 1: percent and your partner might be at eighty percent. So

653
00:30:11,361 --> 00:30:13,161
Speaker 1: they do a lot more that day, and then the

654
00:30:13,201 --> 00:30:15,681
Speaker 1: next day, your partner could have the most stressful day

655
00:30:15,681 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 1: at work, but you're feeling amazing. You had a great sleep,

656
00:30:18,281 --> 00:30:21,121
Speaker 1: you had a nice lotch shower, you're feeling energized, and

657
00:30:21,161 --> 00:30:23,601
Speaker 1: you're like, I feel amazing. You go sit down and chill.

658
00:30:23,641 --> 00:30:25,401
Speaker 1: So we would always just communicate where are we at.

659
00:30:25,401 --> 00:30:27,401
Speaker 1: I'm at a fifty, you're at a forty, I'm at

660
00:30:27,401 --> 00:30:29,121
Speaker 1: a ten, and I'm like, okay, go lay down, I've

661
00:30:29,161 --> 00:30:31,361
Speaker 1: got this, and vice versa. So we'd always just be

662
00:30:31,401 --> 00:30:33,721
Speaker 1: communicating and checking, and that's how we would share the load.

663
00:30:34,281 --> 00:30:37,481
Speaker 1: And then even at nighttime, say we've all had dinner together,

664
00:30:37,601 --> 00:30:39,481
Speaker 1: we'll just communicate and say, hey, do you feel like

665
00:30:39,521 --> 00:30:41,041
Speaker 1: doing the bath or do you want to clean the kitchen?

666
00:30:41,121 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 1: And normally he would likes to do the kitchen. I

667
00:30:43,601 --> 00:30:45,921
Speaker 1: like to do the bath, so whatever, all we both like,

668
00:30:45,961 --> 00:30:47,801
Speaker 1: we haven't caught up yet. Let's both go sit in

669
00:30:47,801 --> 00:30:49,321
Speaker 1: the bathroom and watch the kids' bath so we can

670
00:30:49,361 --> 00:30:51,161
Speaker 1: talk and catch up and then we'll clean up in

671
00:30:51,201 --> 00:30:53,881
Speaker 1: the morning. You know, it's just all about communication. So

672
00:30:53,921 --> 00:30:55,841
Speaker 1: I feel like the way that we do things really

673
00:30:55,881 --> 00:30:58,761
Speaker 1: works well. And we never used to have this when

674
00:30:58,801 --> 00:31:01,121
Speaker 1: Tage is a baby. I've said this so many times before,

675
00:31:01,161 --> 00:31:04,161
Speaker 1: but we were just not great communicators earlier on in

676
00:31:04,201 --> 00:31:06,921
Speaker 1: our relationship. But I'm so grateful we went through that

677
00:31:06,961 --> 00:31:09,161
Speaker 1: because we learnt so much on how to communicate and

678
00:31:09,241 --> 00:31:11,481
Speaker 1: work as a team now that now it just feels

679
00:31:11,521 --> 00:31:15,721
Speaker 1: so flowy and beautiful and together. There's never any resentment

680
00:31:15,761 --> 00:31:18,041
Speaker 1: because we're both pulling our weight and helping each other

681
00:31:18,041 --> 00:31:19,881
Speaker 1: where we can, and it works really well. So it

682
00:31:19,921 --> 00:31:22,681
Speaker 1: wouldn't change anything at the moment. What is your weekly

683
00:31:22,761 --> 00:31:25,240
Speaker 1: schedule work life balance nowadays since you don't have your

684
00:31:25,281 --> 00:31:29,721
Speaker 1: active wear label, So at the moment, Monday is pretty

685
00:31:29,801 --> 00:31:32,281
Speaker 1: much a full hideaway day. We record a lot of content,

686
00:31:32,321 --> 00:31:34,921
Speaker 1: We go around marketing plans, we talk about new launches,

687
00:31:35,321 --> 00:31:37,641
Speaker 1: we have team meetings. I go down in the warehouse

688
00:31:37,681 --> 00:31:40,401
Speaker 1: and check it on everything. It's a full hideaway day.

689
00:31:40,441 --> 00:31:42,761
Speaker 1: It's the only day that Claudia, our social media girl,

690
00:31:42,841 --> 00:31:45,921
Speaker 1: is in there as well, so yeah, it's all about hideaway.

691
00:31:46,001 --> 00:31:49,161
Speaker 1: I love that Tuesday. I'm back in the office as well,

692
00:31:49,241 --> 00:31:52,041
Speaker 1: and it's more like any leftover hideaway stuff that we

693
00:31:52,081 --> 00:31:54,561
Speaker 1: need to do. But then also I start to catch

694
00:31:54,601 --> 00:31:57,761
Speaker 1: on my admin work, look over my schedule my content things,

695
00:31:58,521 --> 00:32:01,481
Speaker 1: and then Wednesday, as of next year, is going to

696
00:32:01,561 --> 00:32:03,961
Speaker 1: be a podcast day. So mean the new co host

697
00:32:04,001 --> 00:32:06,921
Speaker 1: are having a whole day where we plan out episodes,

698
00:32:06,961 --> 00:32:08,841
Speaker 1: we plan out our future plans, we go out of

699
00:32:08,921 --> 00:32:13,561
Speaker 1: our goals, we film content, we celebrate our wins, we

700
00:32:13,601 --> 00:32:15,401
Speaker 1: get kid connect, we go to a cafe, work in

701
00:32:15,401 --> 00:32:19,201
Speaker 1: our laptops. We just get excited for what's to come

702
00:32:19,241 --> 00:32:21,721
Speaker 1: with the podcast. We're both so excited for next year.

703
00:32:21,761 --> 00:32:23,841
Speaker 1: And we just wanted to have one dedicated day each

704
00:32:23,881 --> 00:32:26,601
Speaker 1: week that that's just for us and our branding and

705
00:32:26,601 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 1: our business and our goals and just getting in that

706
00:32:29,201 --> 00:32:31,241
Speaker 1: beautiful energy that we want to put out to the audience.

707
00:32:31,921 --> 00:32:35,001
Speaker 1: Thursday is all day Tyala Day, and then pretty much Friday,

708
00:32:35,041 --> 00:32:37,321
Speaker 1: I'm with Tala all day as well, and then we'll

709
00:32:37,321 --> 00:32:40,041
Speaker 1: get targed from school and then it's the weekend and

710
00:32:40,081 --> 00:32:41,841
Speaker 1: then we can I don't do any work and I

711
00:32:41,881 --> 00:32:44,881
Speaker 1: absolutely love it. Then once a month we come up

712
00:32:44,881 --> 00:32:46,841
Speaker 1: to Brisbane to record the podcast. We'll come up I

713
00:32:46,841 --> 00:32:49,281
Speaker 1: think we're gonna come up on a Wednesday Thursday and

714
00:32:49,321 --> 00:32:51,561
Speaker 1: we stay up here the Wednesday night, so we record

715
00:32:51,681 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 1: all day Wednesday and then probably all day Thursday and

716
00:32:54,201 --> 00:32:57,081
Speaker 1: then drive back so we batch to our content that

717
00:32:57,201 --> 00:32:59,881
Speaker 1: just works for my lifestyle with my family, and that's

718
00:32:59,921 --> 00:33:02,041
Speaker 1: all done for the whole next month. So it's really

719
00:33:02,081 --> 00:33:04,561
Speaker 1: cool because it's like two whole days of these beautiful

720
00:33:04,561 --> 00:33:07,841
Speaker 1: conversation and meeting guests and just going deeper and I just, oh,

721
00:33:07,881 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 1: I just love it so much. It just lights me up.

722
00:33:10,041 --> 00:33:12,881
Speaker 1: So so yeah, it's really really beautiful. I'm really loving

723
00:33:12,881 --> 00:33:14,681
Speaker 1: my work life balance and I feel like I've got

724
00:33:14,681 --> 00:33:18,041
Speaker 1: a beautiful blend of all the things that I love.

725
00:33:18,361 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 1: I also get up and train really early, so I

726
00:33:20,201 --> 00:33:22,201
Speaker 1: get up at four thirty and I train at five.

727
00:33:23,001 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 1: My family doesn't wake up till six thirty, Steve, Taj

728
00:33:25,561 --> 00:33:27,681
Speaker 1: and Tala, so I kind of get all my exercise

729
00:33:27,761 --> 00:33:30,281
Speaker 1: in my me time before the days even started, and

730
00:33:30,321 --> 00:33:32,401
Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm in the best energy for them.

731
00:33:32,761 --> 00:33:36,641
Speaker 1: So that's my workout routine at the moment. And yeah,

732
00:33:36,681 --> 00:33:39,241
Speaker 1: then weekends are just full family time. We just hang out,

733
00:33:39,281 --> 00:33:41,601
Speaker 1: try to have no plans, go to parts, go to

734
00:33:41,641 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 1: the market, swim in the pool, watch a movie, cook pizzas.

735
00:33:44,761 --> 00:33:47,361
Speaker 1: Every Sunday night we do Homema pizzas, and yeah, it's

736
00:33:47,361 --> 00:33:51,001
Speaker 1: just really beautiful. Someone said, you've spoken about having million

737
00:33:51,041 --> 00:33:53,281
Speaker 1: dollar launches. She actually put at the start. Sorry if

738
00:33:53,281 --> 00:33:56,121
Speaker 1: this is nosy, but you've spoken about having million dollar

739
00:33:56,201 --> 00:33:59,401
Speaker 1: launches with Tone and Baseline. What about Hideaway? Are you

740
00:33:59,481 --> 00:34:03,241
Speaker 1: open to sharing numbers with that business? I've always kind

741
00:34:03,281 --> 00:34:06,081
Speaker 1: of not wanted to share number because I've never wanted

742
00:34:06,121 --> 00:34:08,761
Speaker 1: anyone to think that I'm bragging or that I'm rubbing

743
00:34:08,761 --> 00:34:11,440
Speaker 1: in someone's face or anything like that. But I really

744
00:34:11,561 --> 00:34:15,281
Speaker 1: the last year, I've seen so many business owners celebrate

745
00:34:15,321 --> 00:34:17,961
Speaker 1: their wins and talk about their big launches and talk

746
00:34:18,001 --> 00:34:21,361
Speaker 1: about their strategies behind it and celebrate it with their team,

747
00:34:21,481 --> 00:34:24,601
Speaker 1: and I just love it. I love it so much.

748
00:34:25,081 --> 00:34:27,121
Speaker 1: I've seen so many brands like set up the camera

749
00:34:27,201 --> 00:34:29,641
Speaker 1: and literally watch as their Black Friday sale goes live

750
00:34:29,681 --> 00:34:32,721
Speaker 1: and they're all celebrating, and it's just so beautiful and wholesome,

751
00:34:32,721 --> 00:34:34,761
Speaker 1: and I just think, why should we not celebrate that,

752
00:34:34,881 --> 00:34:37,881
Speaker 1: you know, me doing well or someone else is doing well,

753
00:34:37,961 --> 00:34:40,081
Speaker 1: doesn't take away from your hard work or what's going

754
00:34:40,081 --> 00:34:42,521
Speaker 1: on for you. I think there's just room for everyone.

755
00:34:42,721 --> 00:34:44,921
Speaker 1: And Yeah, I'm starting to kind of be a little

756
00:34:44,961 --> 00:34:49,121
Speaker 1: bit more open about money and my life and my

757
00:34:49,161 --> 00:34:52,841
Speaker 1: achievements and that kind of stuff, whereas always, yeah, I've

758
00:34:52,881 --> 00:34:55,001
Speaker 1: been scared to talk about it. I said that to

759
00:34:55,001 --> 00:34:57,121
Speaker 1: my coach, Taylor. I never want to feel like I'm

760
00:34:57,121 --> 00:35:00,081
Speaker 1: bragging and I want to stay relatable. And he was like,

761
00:35:00,121 --> 00:35:02,401
Speaker 1: that's so interesting. Why do you want to be relatable?

762
00:35:03,001 --> 00:35:04,721
Speaker 1: And I said, I just want everyone to feel close

763
00:35:04,761 --> 00:35:06,521
Speaker 1: and the mean like they can relate to me. And

764
00:35:06,561 --> 00:35:08,601
Speaker 1: he goes, don't you want to be a trailblazer. Don't

765
00:35:08,601 --> 00:35:10,001
Speaker 1: you want to be a leader? Because when I look

766
00:35:10,041 --> 00:35:12,241
Speaker 1: at you, I look at you as a leader. You

767
00:35:12,281 --> 00:35:14,521
Speaker 1: are leading the way. You are showing women that they

768
00:35:14,561 --> 00:35:18,361
Speaker 1: can break through these barriers, break through a hard childhood,

769
00:35:18,641 --> 00:35:22,041
Speaker 1: break through these limiting beliefs, and create their amazing dream

770
00:35:22,081 --> 00:35:24,841
Speaker 1: life that you have done. You have worked so hard.

771
00:35:25,361 --> 00:35:27,841
Speaker 1: And I don't think you should be relatable. I think

772
00:35:27,921 --> 00:35:30,121
Speaker 1: you should be leading the way and being a trailblazer

773
00:35:30,121 --> 00:35:32,841
Speaker 1: and talking about all of that and continue to show

774
00:35:32,881 --> 00:35:35,001
Speaker 1: women the way. And I was like wow. And when

775
00:35:35,001 --> 00:35:37,361
Speaker 1: he said that, I then was looking at other women

776
00:35:37,361 --> 00:35:39,921
Speaker 1: that I was really inspired by, who do talk about

777
00:35:39,961 --> 00:35:41,921
Speaker 1: their wins and their finances and how well their business

778
00:35:41,961 --> 00:35:43,321
Speaker 1: are doing. They show you their new car and the

779
00:35:43,401 --> 00:35:45,481
Speaker 1: new house and all that kind of stuff, and I'm

780
00:35:45,481 --> 00:35:47,961
Speaker 1: so moved and inspired by that. I love seeing them

781
00:35:48,001 --> 00:35:51,081
Speaker 1: be a trailblazer and it helps me see what's possible

782
00:35:51,081 --> 00:35:53,601
Speaker 1: and it really inspires me. I don't find I get

783
00:35:54,321 --> 00:35:59,001
Speaker 1: a lot of jealousy or envy over other women having success.

784
00:35:59,321 --> 00:36:02,641
Speaker 1: For me, I get really excited because I'm like, fuck, yeah,

785
00:36:02,761 --> 00:36:04,961
Speaker 1: look at what she's achieved, look at what she's earned, Like,

786
00:36:05,601 --> 00:36:08,161
Speaker 1: oh my god, that's so cool. Like good on her,

787
00:36:08,721 --> 00:36:10,441
Speaker 1: especially if she's got a cool story behind her, or

788
00:36:10,521 --> 00:36:13,241
Speaker 1: especially if she's making big impact. And I just love

789
00:36:13,241 --> 00:36:15,761
Speaker 1: seeing people win. So yeah, this is something I've kind

790
00:36:15,801 --> 00:36:18,881
Speaker 1: of been leaning into, but it feels quite edgy for

791
00:36:18,921 --> 00:36:21,241
Speaker 1: me to talk about, but yeah, I'm happy to talk

792
00:36:21,281 --> 00:36:25,241
Speaker 1: about it. So Hideaway is doing incredible. The last couple

793
00:36:25,281 --> 00:36:28,561
Speaker 1: of months have just been our biggest best ever. It's crazy,

794
00:36:28,601 --> 00:36:32,521
Speaker 1: which is so freaking cool. I'm so proud of Steve

795
00:36:32,601 --> 00:36:34,921
Speaker 1: in particular, but then the whole team, like everyone that's

796
00:36:34,921 --> 00:36:38,241
Speaker 1: involved that's made this happen. We're probably going to hit

797
00:36:38,321 --> 00:36:40,681
Speaker 1: close to three million in our Black Friday sale, which

798
00:36:40,721 --> 00:36:44,041
Speaker 1: is a record for us. So yeah, it's really come

799
00:36:44,081 --> 00:36:46,361
Speaker 1: a long way, and this is like over eight years

800
00:36:46,361 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 1: in business with Hideaway, and trust me when I say

801
00:36:48,481 --> 00:36:50,361
Speaker 1: we have had a lot of hard times. There's been

802
00:36:50,401 --> 00:36:52,641
Speaker 1: times where I'm like, how the fuck are we gonna

803
00:36:52,641 --> 00:36:54,641
Speaker 1: get out of this? Like how do we pay these bills?

804
00:36:54,681 --> 00:36:57,881
Speaker 1: You know? Cash flow is really really stressful and hard

805
00:36:57,921 --> 00:37:00,681
Speaker 1: when you have a business of our size now you

806
00:37:00,801 --> 00:37:03,321
Speaker 1: constantly are putting so much money out more money's coming

807
00:37:03,401 --> 00:37:05,841
Speaker 1: in and to juggle or like Se shows me the

808
00:37:05,841 --> 00:37:09,681
Speaker 1: spreadsheet and I'm like, oh my gosh, like I could

809
00:37:09,681 --> 00:37:12,641
Speaker 1: not handle this, but he loves it. My mom's working

810
00:37:12,641 --> 00:37:14,481
Speaker 1: for us full time at the moment. The team just

811
00:37:14,521 --> 00:37:16,961
Speaker 1: works so well together. But yeah, Hidaway's doing amazing. We

812
00:37:17,001 --> 00:37:18,481
Speaker 1: when we're going to get to a lot of wholesaling,

813
00:37:18,481 --> 00:37:21,841
Speaker 1: We've got some massive, massive retailers that are really interested.

814
00:37:21,921 --> 00:37:25,001
Speaker 1: So next year is just going to be really really exciting.

815
00:37:25,001 --> 00:37:26,641
Speaker 1: And I think it's just such a special thing because

816
00:37:26,641 --> 00:37:28,681
Speaker 1: it's still a family owned business. My mum started this

817
00:37:28,761 --> 00:37:31,121
Speaker 1: eight years ago in her kitchen. We've got the most

818
00:37:31,161 --> 00:37:34,241
Speaker 1: incredible team. Like the culture within our team environment is

819
00:37:34,281 --> 00:37:37,721
Speaker 1: so beautiful, and everyone loves our products. It's just really

820
00:37:37,721 --> 00:37:41,521
Speaker 1: really fun. It's really cool, and yeah, I'm very very

821
00:37:41,521 --> 00:37:43,841
Speaker 1: proud of where we're at. So yeah, I definitely don't

822
00:37:43,881 --> 00:37:45,321
Speaker 1: mind talking about it. I just feel like it's a

823
00:37:45,361 --> 00:37:47,401
Speaker 1: little bit edgy. But yeah, as I said, I love

824
00:37:47,401 --> 00:37:49,761
Speaker 1: seeing other people talk about this, and I think from

825
00:37:49,761 --> 00:37:52,521
Speaker 1: a you guys listening, it's just interesting to hear about it.

826
00:37:52,601 --> 00:37:54,161
Speaker 1: Like I'm a bit nosy. I love to hear the

827
00:37:54,241 --> 00:37:56,721
Speaker 1: numbers of what other people are doing. Like I saw

828
00:37:56,761 --> 00:37:59,281
Speaker 1: this other company and they said they made like one

829
00:37:59,321 --> 00:38:01,601
Speaker 1: hundred thousand dollars in their first hour of Black Friday,

830
00:38:01,641 --> 00:38:03,201
Speaker 1: and she was like, it was trouble what we made

831
00:38:03,241 --> 00:38:05,321
Speaker 1: last year, and she was so excited, and it's just

832
00:38:05,361 --> 00:38:07,801
Speaker 1: like I commented, I was like, fuck, yes, Like I

833
00:38:07,801 --> 00:38:09,561
Speaker 1: don't even know who you are, but I'm so happy

834
00:38:09,601 --> 00:38:11,601
Speaker 1: for you. I'm so excited for you, and I'm so

835
00:38:11,681 --> 00:38:13,881
Speaker 1: glad that she was talking about and celebrating it and

836
00:38:14,281 --> 00:38:16,641
Speaker 1: all of her customers and like people commenting were so

837
00:38:16,681 --> 00:38:19,561
Speaker 1: stoked for her. So I think it's really cool. If

838
00:38:19,601 --> 00:38:22,921
Speaker 1: you're still listening, thank you so much. I really hope

839
00:38:22,921 --> 00:38:25,681
Speaker 1: you guys enjoyed this. If you did, please leave a review.

840
00:38:26,081 --> 00:38:27,961
Speaker 1: If you love this, you can share this with your

841
00:38:27,961 --> 00:38:30,601
Speaker 1: friend or any of our other episodes. And also if

842
00:38:30,681 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 1: you'd love More Q and a episodes like this, maybe

843
00:38:33,521 --> 00:38:35,521
Speaker 1: we could do them every couple of months. Let me

844
00:38:35,601 --> 00:38:37,481
Speaker 1: know in their Facebook forum and if you're not a

845
00:38:37,521 --> 00:38:40,321
Speaker 1: member in there, search Grow and Glow for now and

846
00:38:40,361 --> 00:38:42,521
Speaker 1: then our podcast name will be changing. But all you

847
00:38:42,561 --> 00:38:44,521
Speaker 1: have to do is add yourself in will accept you

848
00:38:44,561 --> 00:38:47,121
Speaker 1: and you can come in and spend time and joining

849
00:38:47,121 --> 00:38:49,521
Speaker 1: the conversations with these other beautiful women who are very

850
00:38:49,521 --> 00:38:52,081
Speaker 1: aligned on the same journey wanting to learn and expand

851
00:38:52,281 --> 00:38:54,441
Speaker 1: and it's just a really nice community. So let me

852
00:38:54,481 --> 00:38:56,601
Speaker 1: know if you like this style of content and I

853
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Speaker 1: can definitely do it again, but with our new cos

854
00:38:58,681 --> 00:39:00,201
Speaker 1: she's got a lot of depth about her as well

855
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Speaker 1: as being cool to have you guys ask her some questions.

856
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Speaker 1: But otherwise, thank you and old be in your ears

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Speaker 1: in a couple of days time. Bye mm hm