WEBVTT - Feed yourself then!

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<v Speaker 1>Apogae Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?

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<v Speaker 1>Podcast?

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<v Speaker 2>We're on Instagram too. At am I A Bad Mum?

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<v Speaker 3>and dads that pick up the same vibes that we're

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<v Speaker 2>I got a message from a lovely lady the other

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<v Speaker 2>day on Instagram and it said, I've just discovered your podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel so seen.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yes, we are absolutely not alone in this wonderful

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<v Speaker 3>world of parenting.

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<v Speaker 2>And don't be offended as well if you're on our

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram and we don't reply back straight away. We have

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<v Speaker 2>moments I feel like going ages without responding, and then

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<v Speaker 2>all of a sudden, we'll respond to everyone in one way.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's just life as a parent.

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<v Speaker 3>One minute I can reply today, and then three weeks

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<v Speaker 3>later I'll.

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<v Speaker 1>Come back to you. Am I a bad Mum?

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<v Speaker 2>For not feeding them?

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<v Speaker 1>In general?

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<v Speaker 2>Generally speaking, there's a few things involved with this. The

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<v Speaker 2>first one and the reason why I was bringing it up,

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<v Speaker 2>is because Amelia came down. Obviously, school holidays, they've been

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<v Speaker 2>sleeping in a little bit longer. So literally they're wanting breakfast,

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<v Speaker 2>like lunchtime, skipping breakfast, going straight to lunch. And she

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<v Speaker 2>was like, there is no food in this house. Out

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<v Speaker 2>there was food rage. But I pride myself in being

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<v Speaker 2>able to make something out of nothing. Yeah, I'm very

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<v Speaker 2>good at that. Jay and the girls are terrible at it.

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<v Speaker 2>They will look in the fridge, open it up, stare everything,

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<v Speaker 2>and go, there's literally nothing that I can just take

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<v Speaker 2>out and eat. So she's always saying things like that.

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<v Speaker 2>They're both always saying things like that. But this particular day, rage,

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<v Speaker 2>we really had nothing really, So even.

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<v Speaker 3>Though you can make something out of nothing, that particular

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<v Speaker 3>day you were even like stretching your own ability.

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<v Speaker 1>You were like, how far can I push them?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>I reckon, could I make out of all of nothing

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<v Speaker 3>that we've got in the house today?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I think at a stretch, if I included the freezer,

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<v Speaker 2>I still would have been able to make something.

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<v Speaker 1>It just wouldn't have been as quickly on hand.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>So this is the difference where I think some people

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm not putting myself into J and the girl's

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<v Speaker 3>category because I'm not that far in because I'm a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit like you aroundm like no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's use what we've got and let's do that.

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<v Speaker 3>But like some times even I go, fuck rat, you

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<v Speaker 3>really let yourself down and your family because genuinely you

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<v Speaker 3>can't make anything right now, and you're usually.

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<v Speaker 1>They're on the fly, hungry, and then I get angry.

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<v Speaker 2>Life is busy, Like I feel like going grocery shopping

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<v Speaker 2>is a real luxury.

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<v Speaker 3>To be inture that it's at the same time, your

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<v Speaker 3>girls are at a different age where what are they

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<v Speaker 3>looking for? Though?

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<v Speaker 1>This is what I'm thinking.

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<v Speaker 3>If I'm getting up at midday and I've slept, what

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<v Speaker 3>am I looking for at twelve o'clock? In my head,

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't know what I'm looking for a twelve o'clock

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<v Speaker 3>because my body clock is so far gone that I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know what's going on.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't even know, Like I'm so lost with what

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<v Speaker 2>to even get them, like they don't like anything, anything, nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>But this particular day, Amelia was like, there is no food.

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<v Speaker 2>There is literally no food in the house, and she'd

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<v Speaker 2>come out to where I was in the lounge room

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<v Speaker 2>and both our cats were there. Now, our cats are

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<v Speaker 2>never usually close by at each other. It's a very

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<v Speaker 2>angry relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>They've never come around.

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<v Speaker 2>And on this particular day, both cats were laying there

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, tried to distract Amelia from the

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<v Speaker 2>fact there was no food in the house and went

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<v Speaker 2>look at the cats living in harmony. And she turned

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<v Speaker 2>around to me and she went, yeah, the cats are

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<v Speaker 2>all right. There's more cat food in this house than

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<v Speaker 2>there is human food. Do you want us to.

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<v Speaker 1>Start eating the cat food?

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, shit, I should really go to the shops.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. I think that's a great idea.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, there's a lot of nutrition in cat food

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<v Speaker 3>and maybe you should give it a go and see

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<v Speaker 3>me one hundred percent. But this is where it comes

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<v Speaker 3>off for me, is the fact that your children also

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<v Speaker 3>have access to Uber Eats. Yeah, and they do utilize

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<v Speaker 3>this a bit, don't they, the Uber eat But RT

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<v Speaker 3>is my credit cardge I know this, But.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I was like, I would just turn.

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<v Speaker 3>Around and go, well, there's something here, so i'd Uber

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<v Speaker 3>eats the groceries here, well, ken Now.

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<v Speaker 2>I like getting chef good Now microwave meals. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like there's a bit of shame over microwave meals, that

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<v Speaker 2>they're not healthy and they're a bit lazy. Now, these

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<v Speaker 2>particular ones, we're not sponsored by Chef Good. I'm sure

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<v Speaker 2>there's plenty of companies that do healthy ones.

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<v Speaker 1>These are healthy ones, proper ingredients.

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<v Speaker 2>They're nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Where are you getting them from?

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<v Speaker 2>I really love them.

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<v Speaker 1>You buy them online online, because they're not at Woolies

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<v Speaker 1>or anything.

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<v Speaker 2>No, and then you choose your recipes and then they

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<v Speaker 2>deliver them basically, and if you look at the cost

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<v Speaker 2>of living in bloody supermarkets at the moment, these Hello

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<v Speaker 2>Fresh Marley Spoon, they're actually not as overpriced as they

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<v Speaker 2>used to. Feel like Woolies is bloody one hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 2>I spend pretty much every time I go in to

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<v Speaker 2>get dinner.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel because you get distracted. That's because you get

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<v Speaker 3>distracted by everything else. It's like that's on special, that's

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<v Speaker 3>on special. I'm not I don't even need liquid for

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<v Speaker 3>my washing machine, but because it's on special for twelve dollars,

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<v Speaker 3>I'll get the six one to go up and just

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<v Speaker 3>in case.

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<v Speaker 1>They're just in case I do that.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I do that, so I don't mind buying these,

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<v Speaker 2>right the girls shame me or not?

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<v Speaker 1>Are they individual kings? Are they individual ones?

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<v Speaker 3>Or are they Like in my head, I'm thinking, because

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<v Speaker 3>you said the ingredients are fresh and all the rest,

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<v Speaker 3>is it like, what's the other one? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Hello fresh muley me where all the ingredients come? But

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<v Speaker 1>you still got to cook it?

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<v Speaker 2>No, they're already made by chefts and then you just

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<v Speaker 2>shove them in the microwave. Now, I don't love the

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<v Speaker 2>idea of not cooking stuff. However, life is busy. Parents

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<v Speaker 2>are busy, Moms are busy. Sometimes they are really handy

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<v Speaker 2>to have in the fridge on those days where you

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<v Speaker 2>get home late and I've got to stage my life

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<v Speaker 2>rate where I'm like, stop shaming yourself and make your

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<v Speaker 2>life easy? Does this make my life easy? I went

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<v Speaker 2>through a stage of if it's sunny outside, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I can't put washing in the dryer if it's sunny outside.

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<v Speaker 2>And now I'm like, is it going to help me

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<v Speaker 2>out to shove all of that towels and underwear and

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<v Speaker 2>socks and stuff in the dry out rather than spend

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<v Speaker 2>all that time hanging out each sock on the line. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it's gonna help my life. So just pay the little

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<v Speaker 2>bit more on the electricity bill, take away the shame

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<v Speaker 2>of it being sunny outside and that's not what you

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<v Speaker 2>should do, and just make life easy for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>We should all be doing that, Yeah, I agree.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway, back to the dinners, Holly shames me for buying those.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh you didn't kick dinner again. I went, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>Me and Dad like these on the occasions that we're

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<v Speaker 2>home late. Now you can choose your recipes for next

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<v Speaker 2>week on the app. Or your other option is you

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<v Speaker 2>cook for yourself on two days a week, because that's

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<v Speaker 2>all I buy them for two days a week, two

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<v Speaker 2>days when we're back laters to sit in the fridge

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<v Speaker 2>and whatever. And she looked at me and she was like, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, you need to go down to the shop.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll give you the amount of money I spend on those.

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<v Speaker 2>You've got to find something for that amount of money.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like ten dollars a meal age. There you go,

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<v Speaker 2>two meals a week for the two of you. You

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<v Speaker 2>got forty dollars. Go down to Woolies, find something, cook

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<v Speaker 2>it on those two days a week. I'll just order

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<v Speaker 2>the recipes.

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<v Speaker 3>See, But at the same time, I'm just going to

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<v Speaker 3>make you feel a little bit worse about yourself, mum

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<v Speaker 3>and just tell you that you're a bad mum because

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<v Speaker 3>you're ordering chef good Okay, amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I love the theory that you just use. Then I've like,

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<v Speaker 3>does this make me happy? I one hundred percent agree.

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<v Speaker 3>I am not there yet with cooking, but again, our

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<v Speaker 3>girls are at different sort of age groups, and also

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<v Speaker 3>I have a fussy eater, so then if I gave

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<v Speaker 3>her the option, it would just be one big bowl

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<v Speaker 3>of meat and nothing else.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm sort of like at both ends of it.

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<v Speaker 3>But I understand that feeling of going, fuck, do I

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<v Speaker 3>really want to do this tonight?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>And mine comes from the part of going do I

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<v Speaker 3>really want to battle them.

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<v Speaker 1>Having to eat dinner? Like? And it doesn't have to

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<v Speaker 1>be about it. I get this.

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<v Speaker 3>Everyone's parenting styles allows different availability, whether they eat or.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't eat.

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<v Speaker 3>I hate wasting food, so mine is like about like, obviously,

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<v Speaker 3>if you're hungry, now eat it now, because you're not

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<v Speaker 3>having it's not as open small as board. The covers

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<v Speaker 3>are not open for snacks after no kitchens, so if

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<v Speaker 3>you're hungry, eat it. If you're not, it'll be there

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<v Speaker 3>tomorrow for lunch, or or I'll put it in your

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<v Speaker 3>you know, your lunch box. Grace's actually down with that

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<v Speaker 3>idea now, She's just like, yeah, just put in my lunchbox.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, oh, I want everybody listening to this week

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<v Speaker 2>consciously make an effort to do something that's going to

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<v Speaker 2>make your life easier. The amount of times I'd be

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<v Speaker 2>like rushing home from work, we had to be out,

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<v Speaker 2>babysitter was coming. I didn't know what to do them

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<v Speaker 2>for dinner, and I would shame myself, going, don't get

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<v Speaker 2>the macas.

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<v Speaker 1>That's so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Just go through the fucking drive through.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it going to make your life?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it? Yes? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>What are you going to do to make your life is?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going through McDonald's. That makes my life sucking harder,

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<v Speaker 1>I can tell you that much.

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<v Speaker 3>The amount of guilt that I put my own self through,

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<v Speaker 3>it's not my kids. So I was like, I absolutely

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<v Speaker 3>punish myself thinking you have to go to the gym tomorrow. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>that's just my own head noise. But I'm with you

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<v Speaker 3>and saying, how can you lighten the load.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the moment of shame. Choose what's going to make

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<v Speaker 2>your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Easier and what's going to make you happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Mine is like that little part of me going, do

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<v Speaker 3>you really want this?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you really want to be doing this? I mean parenting.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't try and opt out of it all the time

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<v Speaker 3>because we don't want these wild animals of children.

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<v Speaker 1>But I mean, yeah, I get it, I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the same. I love it. Great theory. Good wrap

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<v Speaker 1>up there, Katie. We'll take that lak.

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<v Speaker 3>We'll take that one, put it in our pocket.