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Speaker 1: Come back to you. Am I a bad Mum?
Speaker 2: For not feeding them?
Speaker 1: In general?
Speaker 2: Generally speaking, there's a few things involved with this. The
Speaker 2: first one and the reason why I was bringing it up,
Speaker 2: is because Amelia came down. Obviously, school holidays, they've been
Speaker 2: sleeping in a little bit longer. So literally they're wanting breakfast,
Speaker 2: like lunchtime, skipping breakfast, going straight to lunch. And she
Speaker 2: was like, there is no food in this house. Out
Speaker 2: there was food rage. But I pride myself in being
Speaker 2: able to make something out of nothing. Yeah, I'm very
Speaker 2: good at that. Jay and the girls are terrible at it.
Speaker 2: They will look in the fridge, open it up, stare everything,
Speaker 2: and go, there's literally nothing that I can just take
Speaker 2: out and eat. So she's always saying things like that.
Speaker 2: They're both always saying things like that. But this particular day, rage,
Speaker 2: we really had nothing really, So even.
Speaker 3: Though you can make something out of nothing, that particular
Speaker 3: day you were even like stretching your own ability.
Speaker 1: You were like, how far can I push them?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I reckon, could I make out of all of nothing
Speaker 3: that we've got in the house today?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I think at a stretch, if I included the freezer,
Speaker 2: I still would have been able to make something.
Speaker 1: It just wouldn't have been as quickly on hand.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: So this is the difference where I think some people
Speaker 3: and I'm not putting myself into J and the girl's
Speaker 3: category because I'm not that far in because I'm a
Speaker 3: little bit like you aroundm like no, no, no.
Speaker 1: Let's use what we've got and let's do that.
Speaker 3: But like some times even I go, fuck rat, you
Speaker 3: really let yourself down and your family because genuinely you
Speaker 3: can't make anything right now, and you're usually.
Speaker 1: They're on the fly, hungry, and then I get angry.
Speaker 2: Life is busy, Like I feel like going grocery shopping
Speaker 2: is a real luxury.
Speaker 3: To be inture that it's at the same time, your
Speaker 3: girls are at a different age where what are they
Speaker 3: looking for? Though?
Speaker 1: This is what I'm thinking.
Speaker 3: If I'm getting up at midday and I've slept, what
Speaker 3: am I looking for at twelve o'clock? In my head,
Speaker 3: I wouldn't know what I'm looking for a twelve o'clock
Speaker 3: because my body clock is so far gone that I
Speaker 3: don't know what's going on.
Speaker 2: I don't even know, Like I'm so lost with what
Speaker 2: to even get them, like they don't like anything, anything, nothing.
Speaker 2: But this particular day, Amelia was like, there is no food.
Speaker 2: There is literally no food in the house, and she'd
Speaker 2: come out to where I was in the lounge room
Speaker 2: and both our cats were there. Now, our cats are
Speaker 2: never usually close by at each other. It's a very
Speaker 2: angry relationship.
Speaker 1: They've never come around.
Speaker 2: And on this particular day, both cats were laying there
Speaker 2: and I was like, tried to distract Amelia from the
Speaker 2: fact there was no food in the house and went
Speaker 2: look at the cats living in harmony. And she turned
Speaker 2: around to me and she went, yeah, the cats are
Speaker 2: all right. There's more cat food in this house than
Speaker 2: there is human food. Do you want us to.
Speaker 1: Start eating the cat food?
Speaker 2: I was like, shit, I should really go to the shops.
Speaker 1: You know. I think that's a great idea.
Speaker 3: I mean, there's a lot of nutrition in cat food
Speaker 3: and maybe you should give it a go and see
Speaker 3: me one hundred percent. But this is where it comes
Speaker 3: off for me, is the fact that your children also
Speaker 3: have access to Uber Eats. Yeah, and they do utilize
Speaker 3: this a bit, don't they, the Uber eat But RT
Speaker 3: is my credit cardge I know this, But.
Speaker 1: That's why I was like, I would just turn.
Speaker 3: Around and go, well, there's something here, so i'd Uber
Speaker 3: eats the groceries here, well, ken Now.
Speaker 2: I like getting chef good Now microwave meals. I feel
Speaker 2: like there's a bit of shame over microwave meals, that
Speaker 2: they're not healthy and they're a bit lazy. Now, these
Speaker 2: particular ones, we're not sponsored by Chef Good. I'm sure
Speaker 2: there's plenty of companies that do healthy ones.
Speaker 1: These are healthy ones, proper ingredients.
Speaker 2: They're nice.
Speaker 1: Where are you getting them from?
Speaker 2: I really love them.
Speaker 1: You buy them online online, because they're not at Woolies
Speaker 1: or anything.
Speaker 2: No, and then you choose your recipes and then they
Speaker 2: deliver them basically, and if you look at the cost
Speaker 2: of living in bloody supermarkets at the moment, these Hello
Speaker 2: Fresh Marley Spoon, they're actually not as overpriced as they
Speaker 2: used to. Feel like Woolies is bloody one hundred dollars
Speaker 2: I spend pretty much every time I go in to
Speaker 2: get dinner.
Speaker 3: I feel because you get distracted. That's because you get
Speaker 3: distracted by everything else. It's like that's on special, that's
Speaker 3: on special. I'm not I don't even need liquid for
Speaker 3: my washing machine, but because it's on special for twelve dollars,
Speaker 3: I'll get the six one to go up and just
Speaker 3: in case.
Speaker 1: They're just in case I do that.
Speaker 2: I know I do that, so I don't mind buying these,
Speaker 2: right the girls shame me or not?
Speaker 1: Are they individual kings? Are they individual ones?
Speaker 3: Or are they Like in my head, I'm thinking, because
Speaker 3: you said the ingredients are fresh and all the rest,
Speaker 3: is it like, what's the other one? Like?
Speaker 1: Hello fresh muley me where all the ingredients come? But
Speaker 1: you still got to cook it?
Speaker 2: No, they're already made by chefts and then you just
Speaker 2: shove them in the microwave. Now, I don't love the
Speaker 2: idea of not cooking stuff. However, life is busy. Parents
Speaker 2: are busy, Moms are busy. Sometimes they are really handy
Speaker 2: to have in the fridge on those days where you
Speaker 2: get home late and I've got to stage my life
Speaker 2: rate where I'm like, stop shaming yourself and make your
Speaker 2: life easy? Does this make my life easy? I went
Speaker 2: through a stage of if it's sunny outside, I'm like,
Speaker 2: I can't put washing in the dryer if it's sunny outside.
Speaker 2: And now I'm like, is it going to help me
Speaker 2: out to shove all of that towels and underwear and
Speaker 2: socks and stuff in the dry out rather than spend
Speaker 2: all that time hanging out each sock on the line. Yes,
Speaker 2: it's gonna help my life. So just pay the little
Speaker 2: bit more on the electricity bill, take away the shame
Speaker 2: of it being sunny outside and that's not what you
Speaker 2: should do, and just make life easy for yourself.
Speaker 1: We should all be doing that, Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2: Anyway, back to the dinners, Holly shames me for buying those.
Speaker 2: Oh you didn't kick dinner again. I went, you know what,
Speaker 2: Me and Dad like these on the occasions that we're
Speaker 2: home late. Now you can choose your recipes for next
Speaker 2: week on the app. Or your other option is you
Speaker 2: cook for yourself on two days a week, because that's
Speaker 2: all I buy them for two days a week, two
Speaker 2: days when we're back laters to sit in the fridge
Speaker 2: and whatever. And she looked at me and she was like, okay.
Speaker 2: I was like, you need to go down to the shop.
Speaker 2: I'll give you the amount of money I spend on those.
Speaker 2: You've got to find something for that amount of money.
Speaker 2: It's like ten dollars a meal age. There you go,
Speaker 2: two meals a week for the two of you. You
Speaker 2: got forty dollars. Go down to Woolies, find something, cook
Speaker 2: it on those two days a week. I'll just order
Speaker 2: the recipes.
Speaker 3: See, But at the same time, I'm just going to
Speaker 3: make you feel a little bit worse about yourself, mum
Speaker 3: and just tell you that you're a bad mum because
Speaker 3: you're ordering chef good Okay, amazing.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I love the theory that you just use. Then I've like,
Speaker 3: does this make me happy? I one hundred percent agree.
Speaker 3: I am not there yet with cooking, but again, our
Speaker 3: girls are at different sort of age groups, and also
Speaker 3: I have a fussy eater, so then if I gave
Speaker 3: her the option, it would just be one big bowl
Speaker 3: of meat and nothing else.
Speaker 1: So I'm sort of like at both ends of it.
Speaker 3: But I understand that feeling of going, fuck, do I
Speaker 3: really want to do this tonight?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: And mine comes from the part of going do I
Speaker 3: really want to battle them.
Speaker 1: Having to eat dinner? Like? And it doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be about it. I get this.
Speaker 3: Everyone's parenting styles allows different availability, whether they eat or.
Speaker 1: They don't eat.
Speaker 3: I hate wasting food, so mine is like about like, obviously,
Speaker 3: if you're hungry, now eat it now, because you're not
Speaker 3: having it's not as open small as board. The covers
Speaker 3: are not open for snacks after no kitchens, so if
Speaker 3: you're hungry, eat it. If you're not, it'll be there
Speaker 3: tomorrow for lunch, or or I'll put it in your
Speaker 3: you know, your lunch box. Grace's actually down with that
Speaker 3: idea now, She's just like, yeah, just put in my lunchbox.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I want everybody listening to this week
Speaker 2: consciously make an effort to do something that's going to
Speaker 2: make your life easier. The amount of times I'd be
Speaker 2: like rushing home from work, we had to be out,
Speaker 2: babysitter was coming. I didn't know what to do them
Speaker 2: for dinner, and I would shame myself, going, don't get
Speaker 2: the macas.
Speaker 1: That's so bad.
Speaker 2: Just go through the fucking drive through.
Speaker 1: Is it going to make your life?
Speaker 3: Is it? Yes? Yeah?
Speaker 2: What are you going to do to make your life is?
Speaker 1: I'm not going through McDonald's. That makes my life sucking harder,
Speaker 1: I can tell you that much.
Speaker 3: The amount of guilt that I put my own self through,
Speaker 3: it's not my kids. So I was like, I absolutely
Speaker 3: punish myself thinking you have to go to the gym tomorrow. Yeah,
Speaker 3: that's just my own head noise. But I'm with you
Speaker 3: and saying, how can you lighten the load.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the moment of shame. Choose what's going to make
Speaker 2: your life.
Speaker 1: Easier and what's going to make you happy.
Speaker 3: Mine is like that little part of me going, do
Speaker 3: you really want this?
Speaker 1: Do you really want to be doing this? I mean parenting.
Speaker 3: Don't try and opt out of it all the time
Speaker 3: because we don't want these wild animals of children.
Speaker 1: But I mean, yeah, I get it, I get it.
Speaker 1: I'm the same. I love it. Great theory. Good wrap
Speaker 1: up there, Katie. We'll take that lak.
Speaker 3: We'll take that one, put it in our pocket.