1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apogae Production. 2 00:00:22,841 --> 00:00:25,161 Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom? 3 00:00:25,241 --> 00:00:25,761 Speaker 1: Podcast? 4 00:00:25,961 --> 00:00:28,761 Speaker 3: We're on Instagram too. At am I A Bad Mum? 5 00:00:29,241 --> 00:00:32,840 Speaker 1: We are You'll always tell when we're on. Because we're on. 6 00:00:33,601 --> 00:00:35,561 Speaker 4: There's so many memes that will go up in a 7 00:00:35,641 --> 00:00:39,480 Speaker 4: row that get sent to us from the other mums 8 00:00:39,561 --> 00:00:42,441 Speaker 4: and dads that pick up the same vibes that we're 9 00:00:42,480 --> 00:00:43,081 Speaker 4: picking up on. 10 00:00:43,361 --> 00:00:44,561 Speaker 1: They're so funny. 11 00:00:44,641 --> 00:00:47,640 Speaker 4: We love literally receiving them to be able to share them. 12 00:00:48,281 --> 00:00:53,161 Speaker 2: I got a message from a lovely lady the other 13 00:00:53,241 --> 00:00:57,801 Speaker 2: day on Instagram and it said, I've just discovered your podcast. 14 00:00:58,681 --> 00:00:59,641 Speaker 3: I feel so seen. 15 00:01:00,041 --> 00:01:07,041 Speaker 4: Oh yes, we are absolutely not alone in this wonderful 16 00:01:07,081 --> 00:01:07,961 Speaker 4: world of parenting. 17 00:01:08,121 --> 00:01:10,121 Speaker 2: And don't be offended as well if you're on our 18 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:13,121 Speaker 2: Instagram and we don't reply back straight away. We have 19 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 2: moments I feel like going ages without responding, and then 20 00:01:17,081 --> 00:01:19,641 Speaker 2: all of a sudden, we'll respond to everyone in one day. 21 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:22,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's just life as a parent. 22 00:01:22,681 --> 00:01:26,161 Speaker 4: One minute, I can reply today, and then three weeks 23 00:01:26,241 --> 00:01:27,241 Speaker 4: later I'll. 24 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:27,601 Speaker 1: Come back to you. 25 00:01:37,481 --> 00:01:38,360 Speaker 3: Am I a bad Mum? 26 00:01:38,521 --> 00:01:40,761 Speaker 2: For not feeding them? 27 00:01:40,801 --> 00:01:41,401 Speaker 1: In general? 28 00:01:41,761 --> 00:01:45,801 Speaker 2: Generally speaking, there's a few things involved with this. The 29 00:01:45,961 --> 00:01:48,881 Speaker 2: first one and the reason why I was bringing it up, 30 00:01:49,041 --> 00:01:53,561 Speaker 2: is because Amelia came down. Obviously, school holidays, they've been 31 00:01:53,561 --> 00:01:57,321 Speaker 2: sleeping in a little bit longer. So literally they're wanting breakfast, 32 00:01:57,361 --> 00:02:01,201 Speaker 2: like lunchtime, skipping breakfast, going straight to lunch. And she 33 00:02:01,361 --> 00:02:05,281 Speaker 2: was like, there is no food in this house. Out 34 00:02:05,361 --> 00:02:08,561 Speaker 2: there was food rage. But I pride myself in being 35 00:02:08,601 --> 00:02:11,321 Speaker 2: able to make something out of nothing. Yeah, I'm very 36 00:02:11,361 --> 00:02:14,801 Speaker 2: good at that. Jay and the girls are terrible at it. 37 00:02:14,921 --> 00:02:16,921 Speaker 2: They will look in the fridge, open it up, stare 38 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,041 Speaker 2: at everything, and go, there's literally nothing that I can 39 00:02:19,081 --> 00:02:22,761 Speaker 2: just take out and eat. So she's always saying things 40 00:02:22,761 --> 00:02:24,441 Speaker 2: like that. They're both always saying things like that. But 41 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:28,761 Speaker 2: this particular day, rage, we really had nothing really, So 42 00:02:29,041 --> 00:02:32,481 Speaker 2: even though you can make something out of nothing, that 43 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:36,161 Speaker 2: particular day you were even like stretching your own ability. 44 00:02:36,361 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 1: You were like, how far can I push them? 45 00:02:38,561 --> 00:02:38,761 Speaker 2: Yeah? 46 00:02:38,841 --> 00:02:42,121 Speaker 4: I reckon, could I make out of all of nothing 47 00:02:42,201 --> 00:02:43,881 Speaker 4: that we've got in the house today? 48 00:02:44,041 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 3: Yeah? 49 00:02:44,321 --> 00:02:47,201 Speaker 2: I think at a stretch, if I included the freezer, 50 00:02:47,281 --> 00:02:48,881 Speaker 2: I still would have been able to make something. 51 00:02:49,121 --> 00:02:51,001 Speaker 1: It just wouldn't have been as quickly on hand. 52 00:02:51,081 --> 00:02:53,521 Speaker 4: Right. So this is the difference where I think some 53 00:02:53,561 --> 00:02:57,121 Speaker 4: people and I'm not putting myself into J and the 54 00:02:57,161 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 4: girl's category because I'm not that far in because I'm 55 00:03:00,841 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 4: a little bit like you aroundm like no, no, no. 56 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:04,201 Speaker 1: Let's use what we've got and let's do that. 57 00:03:04,401 --> 00:03:06,921 Speaker 4: But like some times even I go fuck rage, you 58 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:10,521 Speaker 4: really let yourself down and your family because genuinely you 59 00:03:10,561 --> 00:03:13,241 Speaker 4: can't make anything right now, and you're usually. 60 00:03:13,041 --> 00:03:17,201 Speaker 1: They're on the fly, hungry, and then I get angry. 61 00:03:17,361 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 2: Life is busy, Like I feel like going grocery shopping 62 00:03:21,001 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 2: is a real luxury. 63 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:25,321 Speaker 4: To be inture that it's at the same time, your 64 00:03:25,361 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 4: girls are at a different age where what are they 65 00:03:27,761 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 4: looking for? 66 00:03:28,481 --> 00:03:28,641 Speaker 2: Though? 67 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:29,601 Speaker 1: This is what I'm thinking. 68 00:03:29,881 --> 00:03:34,041 Speaker 4: If I'm getting up at midday and I've slept, what 69 00:03:34,081 --> 00:03:36,801 Speaker 4: am I looking for at twelve o'clock? In my head, 70 00:03:36,841 --> 00:03:39,081 Speaker 4: I wouldn't know what I'm looking for a twelve o'clock 71 00:03:39,081 --> 00:03:42,081 Speaker 4: because my body clock is so far gone that I 72 00:03:42,121 --> 00:03:43,041 Speaker 4: don't know what's going on. 73 00:03:43,361 --> 00:03:45,601 Speaker 2: I don't even know, Like I'm so lost with what 74 00:03:45,761 --> 00:03:49,681 Speaker 2: to even get them, Like they don't like anything, anything, nothing, 75 00:03:50,361 --> 00:03:54,801 Speaker 2: But this particular day, Amelia was like, there is no food. 76 00:03:55,001 --> 00:03:58,281 Speaker 2: There is literally no food in the house, and she'd 77 00:03:58,281 --> 00:04:00,601 Speaker 2: come out to where I was in the lounge room 78 00:04:00,681 --> 00:04:02,801 Speaker 2: and both our cats were there. Now, our cats are 79 00:04:02,841 --> 00:04:08,041 Speaker 2: never usually close by each other. It's a very angry relationship. 80 00:04:09,121 --> 00:04:09,961 Speaker 1: They've never come around. 81 00:04:10,001 --> 00:04:12,401 Speaker 2: And on this particular day, both cats were laying there 82 00:04:12,441 --> 00:04:14,601 Speaker 2: and I was like, tried to distract Amelia from the 83 00:04:14,601 --> 00:04:16,161 Speaker 2: fact there was no food in the house and went 84 00:04:16,161 --> 00:04:19,041 Speaker 2: look at the cats living in harmony. And she turned 85 00:04:19,041 --> 00:04:21,241 Speaker 2: around to me and she went, yeah, the cats are 86 00:04:21,241 --> 00:04:24,281 Speaker 2: all right. There's more cat food in this house than 87 00:04:24,320 --> 00:04:25,681 Speaker 2: there is human food. 88 00:04:25,961 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 3: Do you want us to start eating the cat food? 89 00:04:28,721 --> 00:04:32,441 Speaker 2: I was like, shit, I should really go to the shops. 90 00:04:32,041 --> 00:04:34,561 Speaker 1: You know. I think that's a great idea. 91 00:04:35,081 --> 00:04:37,961 Speaker 4: I mean, there's a lot of nutrition in cat food 92 00:04:38,201 --> 00:04:40,561 Speaker 4: and maybe you should give it a go and see 93 00:04:41,121 --> 00:04:43,441 Speaker 4: me one hundred percent. But this is where it comes 94 00:04:43,481 --> 00:04:46,280 Speaker 4: off for me is the fact that your children also 95 00:04:46,361 --> 00:04:50,241 Speaker 4: have access to Uber Eats. Yeah, and they do utilize 96 00:04:50,241 --> 00:04:52,401 Speaker 4: this a bit, don't they, the Uber eat But RT 97 00:04:52,601 --> 00:04:55,201 Speaker 4: is my credit cardge I know this, But that's why 98 00:04:55,241 --> 00:04:57,561 Speaker 4: I was like, I would just turn around and go, well, 99 00:04:57,601 --> 00:05:02,161 Speaker 4: there's something here, so i'd Uber eats the groceries here, well, 100 00:05:02,241 --> 00:05:03,001 Speaker 4: ken Now. 101 00:05:03,081 --> 00:05:07,801 Speaker 2: I like getting chef good now microwave meals. I feel 102 00:05:07,801 --> 00:05:10,561 Speaker 2: like there's a bit of shame over microwave meals, that 103 00:05:10,721 --> 00:05:14,801 Speaker 2: they're not healthy and they're a bit lazy. Now, these 104 00:05:14,841 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 2: particular ones, we're not sponsored by Chef Good. I'm sure 105 00:05:17,641 --> 00:05:19,840 Speaker 2: there's plenty of companies that do healthy ones. 106 00:05:19,961 --> 00:05:23,600 Speaker 3: These are healthy ones, proper ingredients. They're nice. 107 00:05:23,641 --> 00:05:24,601 Speaker 1: Where are you getting them from? 108 00:05:24,641 --> 00:05:25,321 Speaker 3: I really love them. 109 00:05:25,401 --> 00:05:28,161 Speaker 1: You buy them online online, because they're not at Woolies 110 00:05:28,201 --> 00:05:28,561 Speaker 1: or anything. 111 00:05:28,601 --> 00:05:30,801 Speaker 2: No, and then you choose your recipes and then they 112 00:05:31,161 --> 00:05:34,361 Speaker 2: deliver them basically, and if you look at the cost 113 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:37,761 Speaker 2: of living in bloody supermarkets at the moment, these Hello 114 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:41,241 Speaker 2: Fresh Marley Spoon, they're actually not as overpriced as they 115 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:45,121 Speaker 2: used to. Feel like Woolies is bloody one hundred dollars 116 00:05:45,201 --> 00:05:47,001 Speaker 2: I spend pretty much every time I go in to 117 00:05:47,001 --> 00:05:47,521 Speaker 2: get dinner. 118 00:05:47,561 --> 00:05:49,001 Speaker 3: I feel because you get distracted. 119 00:05:49,201 --> 00:05:51,841 Speaker 4: That's because you get distracted by everything else. It's like 120 00:05:52,001 --> 00:05:55,201 Speaker 4: that's on special, that's on special. I'm not I don't 121 00:05:55,201 --> 00:05:58,921 Speaker 4: even need liquid for my washing machine, but because it's 122 00:05:58,921 --> 00:06:01,481 Speaker 4: on special for twelve dollars, I'll get the six one 123 00:06:01,521 --> 00:06:02,921 Speaker 4: to go up and just in case. 124 00:06:03,440 --> 00:06:05,081 Speaker 1: They're just in case I do that. 125 00:06:05,121 --> 00:06:08,281 Speaker 2: I know I do that, so I don't mind buying these, 126 00:06:08,401 --> 00:06:11,681 Speaker 2: right the girls shame me or not? 127 00:06:11,841 --> 00:06:14,801 Speaker 1: Are they individual kinges? Are they individual ones? 128 00:06:14,961 --> 00:06:17,361 Speaker 4: Or are they Like in my head, I'm thinking, because 129 00:06:17,361 --> 00:06:19,841 Speaker 4: you said the ingredients are fresh and all the rest, 130 00:06:20,121 --> 00:06:20,361 Speaker 4: is it? 131 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:21,841 Speaker 1: Like what's the other one? 132 00:06:21,961 --> 00:06:22,041 Speaker 4: Like? 133 00:06:22,081 --> 00:06:25,201 Speaker 1: Hello fresh muley me where all the ingredients come? But 134 00:06:25,241 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: you still got to cook it? 135 00:06:26,601 --> 00:06:28,761 Speaker 2: No, they're already made by chefts and then you just 136 00:06:28,801 --> 00:06:32,561 Speaker 2: shove them in the microwave. Now, I don't love the 137 00:06:33,201 --> 00:06:37,361 Speaker 2: idea of not cooking stuff. However, life is busy. Parents 138 00:06:37,401 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 2: are busy, Moms are busy. Sometimes they are really handy 139 00:06:41,241 --> 00:06:43,121 Speaker 2: to have in the fridge on those days where you 140 00:06:43,161 --> 00:06:45,641 Speaker 2: get home late and I've got to stage my life 141 00:06:45,721 --> 00:06:49,001 Speaker 2: rate where I'm like, stop shaming yourself and make your 142 00:06:49,041 --> 00:06:52,081 Speaker 2: life easy? Does this make my life easy? I went 143 00:06:52,121 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 2: through a stage of if it's sunny outside, I'm like, 144 00:06:55,481 --> 00:06:58,921 Speaker 2: I can't put washing in the dryer if it's sunny outside. 145 00:06:59,481 --> 00:07:03,041 Speaker 2: And now I'm like, is it going to help me 146 00:07:03,201 --> 00:07:07,201 Speaker 2: out to shove all of that towels and underwear and 147 00:07:07,401 --> 00:07:10,201 Speaker 2: socks and stuff in the dry out rather than spend 148 00:07:10,401 --> 00:07:14,401 Speaker 2: all that time hanging out each sock on the line. Yes, 149 00:07:14,481 --> 00:07:17,641 Speaker 2: it's gonna help my life. So just pay the little 150 00:07:17,641 --> 00:07:21,041 Speaker 2: bit more on the electricity bill, take away the shame 151 00:07:21,361 --> 00:07:23,721 Speaker 2: of it being sunny outside and that's not what you 152 00:07:23,721 --> 00:07:26,281 Speaker 2: should do, and just make life easy for yourself. 153 00:07:26,281 --> 00:07:27,041 Speaker 3: We should all be. 154 00:07:26,961 --> 00:07:28,281 Speaker 1: Doing that, Yeah, I agree. 155 00:07:28,321 --> 00:07:32,280 Speaker 2: Anyway, back to the dinners, Holly shames me for buying those. 156 00:07:32,401 --> 00:07:34,961 Speaker 2: Oh you didn't kick dinner again. I went, you know what, 157 00:07:35,441 --> 00:07:38,041 Speaker 2: Me and Dad like these on the occasions that we're 158 00:07:38,041 --> 00:07:42,001 Speaker 2: home late. Now you can choose your recipes for next 159 00:07:42,001 --> 00:07:46,721 Speaker 2: week on the app. Or your other option is you 160 00:07:46,801 --> 00:07:50,281 Speaker 2: cook for yourself on two days a week, because that's 161 00:07:50,281 --> 00:07:52,481 Speaker 2: all I buy them for two days a week, two 162 00:07:52,561 --> 00:07:55,641 Speaker 2: days when we're back laters to sit in the fridge 163 00:07:55,641 --> 00:07:59,961 Speaker 2: and whatever. And she looked at me and she was like, okay. 164 00:08:00,121 --> 00:08:01,881 Speaker 2: I was like, you need to go down to the shop. 165 00:08:02,081 --> 00:08:04,441 Speaker 2: I'll give you the amount of money I spend on those. 166 00:08:05,161 --> 00:08:07,681 Speaker 2: You've got to find something for that amount of money. 167 00:08:07,961 --> 00:08:10,961 Speaker 2: It's like ten dollars a meal age. There you go, 168 00:08:11,241 --> 00:08:13,601 Speaker 2: two meals a week for the two of you. You 169 00:08:13,601 --> 00:08:16,841 Speaker 2: got forty dollars. Go down to Woolies, find something, cook 170 00:08:16,881 --> 00:08:18,081 Speaker 2: it on those two days a week. 171 00:08:18,921 --> 00:08:20,321 Speaker 3: I'll just order the recipes. 172 00:08:21,441 --> 00:08:23,521 Speaker 4: See, But at the same time, I'm just going to 173 00:08:23,561 --> 00:08:25,601 Speaker 4: make you feel a little bit worse about yourself, mum 174 00:08:25,801 --> 00:08:27,841 Speaker 4: and just tell you that you're a bad mum because 175 00:08:27,841 --> 00:08:31,641 Speaker 4: you're ordering chef good Okay, amazing. Yeah. I love the 176 00:08:31,641 --> 00:08:34,121 Speaker 4: theory that you just use. Then I've like, does this 177 00:08:34,201 --> 00:08:37,281 Speaker 4: make me happy? I one hundred percent agree. I am 178 00:08:37,561 --> 00:08:41,561 Speaker 4: not there yet with cooking, but again, our girls are 179 00:08:41,601 --> 00:08:45,761 Speaker 4: at different sort of age groups, and also I have 180 00:08:45,801 --> 00:08:48,801 Speaker 4: a fussy eater, so then if I gave her the option, 181 00:08:49,041 --> 00:08:51,081 Speaker 4: it would just be one big bowl of meat and 182 00:08:51,241 --> 00:08:51,841 Speaker 4: nothing else. 183 00:08:52,121 --> 00:08:53,961 Speaker 1: So I'm sort of like at both ends of it. 184 00:08:54,001 --> 00:08:56,521 Speaker 4: But I understand that feeling of going, fuck, do I 185 00:08:56,681 --> 00:08:58,481 Speaker 4: really want to do this tonight? 186 00:08:58,801 --> 00:09:00,361 Speaker 1: Yeah? 187 00:09:00,401 --> 00:09:02,961 Speaker 4: And mine comes from the part of going do I 188 00:09:03,081 --> 00:09:05,561 Speaker 4: really want to battle them. 189 00:09:05,521 --> 00:09:07,801 Speaker 1: Having to eat dinner? Like? And it doesn't have to 190 00:09:07,801 --> 00:09:08,801 Speaker 1: be about it. I get this. 191 00:09:08,961 --> 00:09:12,961 Speaker 4: Everyone's parenting styles allows different availability, whether they eat or. 192 00:09:12,961 --> 00:09:13,441 Speaker 1: They don't eat. 193 00:09:13,521 --> 00:09:17,561 Speaker 4: I hate wasting food, so mine is like about like, obviously, 194 00:09:17,641 --> 00:09:20,481 Speaker 4: if you're hungry, now eat it now, because you're not 195 00:09:20,481 --> 00:09:22,641 Speaker 4: having it's not as open small as board. The covers 196 00:09:22,641 --> 00:09:26,241 Speaker 4: are not open for snacks after no kitchen, so if 197 00:09:26,281 --> 00:09:28,721 Speaker 4: you're hungry, eat it. If you're not, it'll be there 198 00:09:28,761 --> 00:09:30,921 Speaker 4: tomorrow for lunch, or or I'll put it in your 199 00:09:31,041 --> 00:09:34,121 Speaker 4: you know, your lunch box. Grace's actually down with that 200 00:09:34,241 --> 00:09:36,401 Speaker 4: idea now, She's just like, yeah, just put in my lunchbox. 201 00:09:36,441 --> 00:09:42,481 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I want everybody listening to this week 202 00:09:43,441 --> 00:09:46,041 Speaker 2: consciously make an effort to do something that's going to 203 00:09:46,121 --> 00:09:49,521 Speaker 2: make your life easier. The amount of times I'd be 204 00:09:49,641 --> 00:09:52,401 Speaker 2: like rushing home from work, we had to be out, 205 00:09:52,481 --> 00:09:54,681 Speaker 2: babysitter was coming. I didn't know what to do them 206 00:09:54,681 --> 00:09:56,641 Speaker 2: for dinner, and I would shame myself, going, don't get 207 00:09:56,641 --> 00:09:57,241 Speaker 2: the macas. 208 00:09:57,481 --> 00:09:58,281 Speaker 1: That's so bad. 209 00:09:58,721 --> 00:10:01,001 Speaker 3: Just go through the fucking drive through. Is it going 210 00:10:01,041 --> 00:10:01,601 Speaker 3: to make your life? 211 00:10:01,721 --> 00:10:03,241 Speaker 4: Is it? Yes? Yeah? 212 00:10:03,481 --> 00:10:05,241 Speaker 3: What are you going to do to make your life is? 213 00:10:05,481 --> 00:10:08,001 Speaker 1: I'm not going through McDonald's. That makes my life sucking harder, 214 00:10:08,041 --> 00:10:08,961 Speaker 1: I can tell you that much. 215 00:10:09,441 --> 00:10:11,841 Speaker 4: The amount of guilt that I put my own self through, 216 00:10:11,881 --> 00:10:14,041 Speaker 4: it's not my kids. So I was like, I absolutely 217 00:10:14,041 --> 00:10:19,321 Speaker 4: punish myself thinking you have to go to the gym tomorrow. Yeah, 218 00:10:19,361 --> 00:10:21,961 Speaker 4: that's just my own head noise. But I'm with you 219 00:10:22,041 --> 00:10:24,761 Speaker 4: and saying, how can you lighten the load. 220 00:10:25,001 --> 00:10:28,081 Speaker 3: Yeah, the moment of shame. Choose what's going to make 221 00:10:28,161 --> 00:10:28,801 Speaker 3: your life. 222 00:10:28,561 --> 00:10:30,281 Speaker 1: Easier and what's going to make you happy. 223 00:10:30,521 --> 00:10:32,721 Speaker 4: Mine is like that little part of me going, do 224 00:10:32,761 --> 00:10:34,281 Speaker 4: you really want this? 225 00:10:35,001 --> 00:10:37,281 Speaker 1: Do you really want to be doing this? I mean parenting. 226 00:10:37,841 --> 00:10:40,201 Speaker 4: Don't try and opt out of it all the time 227 00:10:40,321 --> 00:10:43,121 Speaker 4: because we don't want these wild animals of children. 228 00:10:43,401 --> 00:10:45,241 Speaker 1: But I mean, yeah, I get it, I get it. 229 00:10:45,321 --> 00:10:47,881 Speaker 1: I'm the same. I love it. Great theory. Good wrap 230 00:10:47,961 --> 00:10:50,121 Speaker 1: up there, Katie. We'll take that lak. 231 00:10:50,521 --> 00:10:54,441 Speaker 4: We'll take that one, put it in our pocket.