WEBVTT - I thought I would NEVER say this!

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<v Speaker 1>Apogha production.

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<v Speaker 2>O'kme back to another episode of Am I A Bad Mom?

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<v Speaker 3>Podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>The question we continuously ask am I A Bad mum?

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<v Speaker 4>We like to really sit and ponder if we're actually

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<v Speaker 4>doing it right or just basically messing the whole shit up.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like by the time you've realized that you've

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<v Speaker 1>messed stuff up, it's kind of like too late.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I talk often.

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<v Speaker 1>About becoming a grandparent. When eventually we become grandparents, you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna fix that stuff up. Look at you with your mum, right,

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<v Speaker 1>your mom will give you advice now on your children.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, shouldn't do that with you.

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<v Speaker 3>No, not at all.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my gosh, what was this morning's She was commenting

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<v Speaker 4>on Ntella? Oh yeah, I was like, I looked at

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<v Speaker 4>her and I was like, really, Natella out of every Like,

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<v Speaker 4>my kids are pretty damn like you know, we're very

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<v Speaker 4>protein driven in the morning, especially for breakfast. Mum, you

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<v Speaker 4>offered to make them pancakes, So what do you expect

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<v Speaker 4>that they eat on it? And she went, oh, gosh,

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<v Speaker 4>anything but Natella.

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<v Speaker 1>But telling you, my dad stayed at our house and

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<v Speaker 1>the girls were a lot younger, and I remember him

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<v Speaker 1>saying he gave them natella on toast and I said, Dash, like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not what we normally give him for breakfast, and

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<v Speaker 1>he said what and genuinely right, he went, what is healthy?

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<v Speaker 2>It's full of nuts?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, Mom, this morning was a complete opposite

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<v Speaker 4>to that, Katie. And then I had that moment of

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<v Speaker 4>going but you gave us We had way worse than natella.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you ever think about your choices now when you

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<v Speaker 1>go for more healthy options or you don't have certain things. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I've read so much about vegetable oil and how that's

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<v Speaker 1>so terrible and it's in like everything so and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>kind of a bit like, well, unless you're a multi

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<v Speaker 1>millionaire with a chef or someone that can go through

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<v Speaker 1>all those ingredients and make sure you're eating the best stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just not doable. It's not doable in terms of

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<v Speaker 1>cost for starters, and it's also not practical, like you

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<v Speaker 1>could then never eat out, you could like, it's just

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<v Speaker 1>too hard, it's too hard.

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<v Speaker 3>To do that.

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<v Speaker 2>But when you look at your choices now, do you

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<v Speaker 2>look back and.

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<v Speaker 1>Go, oh, I mean, look at the first half of

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<v Speaker 1>my life from when I was eating that, I don't.

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<v Speaker 4>I genuinely have a giggle because Mum's other thing that

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<v Speaker 4>we grew up on afternoon snack.

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<v Speaker 3>We had two minute noodles, right, two minute noodles.

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<v Speaker 4>So now we've put an option of whole meal two

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<v Speaker 4>minute noodles to make it a little bit healthier, and like,

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<v Speaker 4>my girls only get it as a way off treat.

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<v Speaker 4>I think we were having it, Luke and I were

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<v Speaker 4>having it like every other noon after school. Yeah, that

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<v Speaker 4>was why she was parenting us. Now fast forward to

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<v Speaker 4>having my two around. These are the worst things that

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<v Speaker 4>you could ever be giving them.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, don't worry about the damage that's

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<v Speaker 3>already been done. Here, I'm down, I'm damaged. Don't worry

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<v Speaker 3>about my kids.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah yeah, I was like, here, I am going through

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<v Speaker 4>the markets to get organic vegetables and like, oh gosh,

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<v Speaker 4>don't beat the kids whole mail two minute noodles.

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<v Speaker 3>Why the MSG doesn't hurt anybody?

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<v Speaker 2>MSG coming out of our ears?

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<v Speaker 3>Am I a bad mom? Or looking forward to school holidays?

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<v Speaker 3>This is this is a fun one, Katie.

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<v Speaker 4>So I am genuinely looking forward to school holidays. And

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<v Speaker 4>this is the reason why I had somebody else in

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<v Speaker 4>our family say that they were willing to take the

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<v Speaker 4>kids camping.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, and I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, yes, have you booked it? Where are you going?

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<v Speaker 3>This is exciting.

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<v Speaker 4>You also did the wrong thing by saying it in

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<v Speaker 4>front of the girls, so they heard that. So you're

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<v Speaker 4>going to let them down if you don't take them. Now,

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<v Speaker 4>this person that I'm talking about is Sam Dad a

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<v Speaker 4>dad aka dad, and I genuinely and like now encouraging

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<v Speaker 4>it so much that it's actually so obvious because I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, yeah, no, where are you camping? Like this

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<v Speaker 4>would be so good? And he goes, well, you could come,

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<v Speaker 4>and I was like, nope, no, that was never.

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<v Speaker 3>On my posce.

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<v Speaker 2>You're that you're the fun guy.

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<v Speaker 3>You're the fun guy.

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<v Speaker 2>You do the fun stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>You love camping. Yeah, you bought swags just for the

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<v Speaker 3>three of you.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll say at home and iron everyone's school uniforms.

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<v Speaker 4>I do all the jobs, so like and not go camping.

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<v Speaker 2>How long are they thinking of going camping?

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<v Speaker 3>A week?

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<v Speaker 1>He was planning a week like seven day Yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>a long time for camping.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, best of luck. But the last time they went

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<v Speaker 3>camping was for what two nights?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I was gonna say, don't have all your hopes tied

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<v Speaker 1>up with seven days because my experience of camping, and

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't been for a long time because of my

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<v Speaker 1>very convenient analogy, but my experience of camping has always

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<v Speaker 1>been you plan for a certain amount of days and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm home after two.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes. Yeah, So they went for two days.

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<v Speaker 4>On the last camping trip, he ended up booking a

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<v Speaker 4>tiny home, so it was like a property with a

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<v Speaker 4>tiny home on it, just in case the girls didn't

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<v Speaker 4>want to camp.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, so they got a tiny home.

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<v Speaker 4>They got the pocket of land, he said, which was

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<v Speaker 4>good because then you've got the pocket of land. You

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<v Speaker 4>don't have to think about where you're going to go

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<v Speaker 4>camping the rest mind you. This was like eight hundred

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<v Speaker 4>dollars for his tiny home for two nights.

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<v Speaker 2>What and I was only slept in a tent outside.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, Maye, what the actual fuck is wrong

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<v Speaker 4>with you? They have swags like whatever the swags are,

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<v Speaker 4>and I think Sam bought himself double swag biggest mistake

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<v Speaker 4>because then he had someone in the swag both nights

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<v Speaker 4>and it was like one night, one girl, Elsie first night,

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<v Speaker 4>Gracie second night, and they were all sleeping outside the

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<v Speaker 4>tiny home, but in their swags.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay, so now.

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<v Speaker 4>They're planning seven nights Katie. But I'm feeling like I'm

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<v Speaker 4>going to just like jump the gun. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 4>get way too excited. But I figured, if I just

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<v Speaker 4>booked something, if I just go somewhere, not my.

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<v Speaker 2>Problem, like Fiji.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but if you yeah, if you cancel your own

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<v Speaker 4>camping trip, not my problem. You told me you were

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<v Speaker 4>going camping. Yeah, no, you organize this, yeah problem, they're

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<v Speaker 4>on you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So seven days, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Of course, I'm looking forward to school holidays.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not even going to be with them for a

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<v Speaker 4>week of the school holidays.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll take one week, you take the other.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it the first week or the second week.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It would be better if it's the second week because

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<v Speaker 2>because you'll do Oh no, it be better if it's

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<v Speaker 2>the first week.

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<v Speaker 1>Because then you get your time and then you get

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<v Speaker 1>time with the kids and then they go back to school.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, because it's kind of like school holidays gives all

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<v Speaker 4>of us holidays, right. I don't know if you ever

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<v Speaker 4>think about this in terms of the breakdown, but we've

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<v Speaker 4>talked about it before. School holidays for an adult means

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<v Speaker 4>no lunchboxes, no school run drop off timing, no driving

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<v Speaker 4>in traffic just to get to that one because the

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<v Speaker 4>traffic even lightens up. I don't know if this is

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<v Speaker 4>all over the world, but Brisbane it's like it's like

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<v Speaker 4>no one goes to work, no one goes to anywhere

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<v Speaker 4>in the mornings that they're school holidays and so like

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<v Speaker 4>there's so many things that we don't have to do.

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<v Speaker 4>So technically you're on holidays whilst they're on holidays.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but I certainly did do a lot of getting

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<v Speaker 1>up taking them to vacation care. First of all, it

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<v Speaker 1>was a drama because they hated going, and then they

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<v Speaker 1>compared it to Albert so and So's mum is home

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<v Speaker 1>and him blah blah blah blah blah. So I would

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<v Speaker 1>always have to pushback and the arguing over why did

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<v Speaker 1>they have to go to vacation care and other people don't.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, there's still plenty of people have to

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<v Speaker 1>go to work during school holidays and have to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>But then there's also the cost of it, Rach because

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<v Speaker 1>after school care or holiday care, vacation care works out

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<v Speaker 1>so much more expensive, especially over the Christmas school holidays.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've p like if you ever weeks and the

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<v Speaker 1>kids need to go to vacation care for like five

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<v Speaker 1>of them.

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<v Speaker 2>There's so much money. When is school holidays?

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, when have we got about three weeks?

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<v Speaker 4>Three weeks I think technically classified as winter holidays?

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<v Speaker 3>I think is it?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? And the girls say to me, as they do

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<v Speaker 2>every school holiday, are we going anywhere this school holidays? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>I did have a look at flights to Bali and

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<v Speaker 1>they were going to be eight thousand dollars and unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, that's seven.

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<v Speaker 2>Thousand dollars on our sick cat. So what do you want?

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<v Speaker 2>The ants will be no holiday or a cat.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe pick up a few extra shifts.