1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: Baddies, we have got a very exciting announcement for you. 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:05,160 Speaker 2: I am so excited. 3 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 3: As you know, we've been loving reading and experiencing The 4 00:00:11,400 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 3: Housemaid by Freedom McFadden with you guys, and a little 5 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 3: while ago one of you baddies suggested, what about we 6 00:00:20,239 --> 00:00:21,959 Speaker 3: all go watch the movie together. 7 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 1: When it comes out. 8 00:00:22,680 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 2: Amazing idea and we thought, hmmmm, we said we're on it. 9 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 1: It was a shot in the dark. 10 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 3: It was a massive, blindfolded dart throw at nothing, but 11 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 3: for some reason it landed right in the bullseye. We 12 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:42,599 Speaker 3: have the privilege of inviting you baddies to a special 13 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 3: advanced screening of The Housemaid. 14 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 2: Oh my god. We are going to be there and 15 00:00:49,920 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 2: we're going to enjoy the movie together for the first time. 16 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 3: We all we want to experience it with the baddies. 17 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:01,840 Speaker 3: So couple of things. We don't have all the fine 18 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 3: details yet, but what we do have is it's on 19 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:09,560 Speaker 3: the nineteenth of December, yep, in Sydney afternoon. Yeah, okay, 20 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 3: this is a Sydney only event, so apologies if anyone 21 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 3: is anywhere else. 22 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 1: We did our best, yes, but hey, we take what 23 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 1: we get. We're very excited. 24 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 2: And a few lucky baddies get to see the movie early. 25 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:23,320 Speaker 1: Yep. 26 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,960 Speaker 2: But otherwise, the movie The Housemaid is being released on 27 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:30,559 Speaker 2: Boxing Day. Yes, so if you miss out Boxing Day, 28 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 2: the Housemaid by FREEDA. McFadden and the movie that stars 29 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 2: some wonderful stars will be in theaters on Boxing Day. 30 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:40,280 Speaker 1: Yeah. 31 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 2: And Jake, how do the baddies potentially get their hands 32 00:01:44,720 --> 00:01:46,479 Speaker 2: on this occasion? 33 00:01:46,880 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: You know us, and you know we. 34 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 3: Love everyone equally, but we show some priority to our 35 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 3: special batties over on Patreons. So on Thursday, the eleventh 36 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 3: of December, you guys will be finding out how to 37 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:08,239 Speaker 3: secure your spot to come to the advanced screening of 38 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 3: the house made with us. 39 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so excited, Jake. The link to Patreon will 40 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 2: be in the description. 41 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:13,800 Speaker 1: Yep. 42 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 2: If you want to head over there early, that's how 43 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: you do it. But the rest of the details are 44 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 2: coming coming up. 45 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 1: On dilemmas, did you guys have sex last night? 46 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 3: No? 47 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 2: Really, we're just film me outsideide. 48 00:02:28,320 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: Do you guys have sex last night? 49 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 3: No? 50 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Is that you? Yeah? We did. 51 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:52,600 Speaker 3: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself, Jake Craig aka 52 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 3: Daddy and my podcast co host Addie aka Mummy. 53 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 1: I was going to say the man, but doesn't really 54 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: work with my name. 55 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:10,400 Speaker 3: A little inside information if anybody doesn't remember how we 56 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:13,320 Speaker 3: got the names mummy and daddy. It was the very 57 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 3: first Patreon episode we ever did, I believe. 58 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 2: Can you can you refresh my memory too? 59 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 1: I don't remember. I think it was the first. 60 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 2: I don't know why I'm mummy, but I don't know 61 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:26,080 Speaker 2: how we got the names. It actually didn't really have 62 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 2: anything to do with why your mummy and why I'm daddy. 63 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 2: I think it was the first ever Patreon episode, or 64 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 2: maybe one of the first, And it was the first 65 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 2: episode or the first in a long time that I 66 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 2: wore shorts on Oh. 67 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: And yeah, I do remember that. 68 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 2: It was in the wooden Lodge set up and you're like, 69 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 2: Daddy's wearing short dude. 70 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: Really I was in bally and. 71 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 3: You said something like, oh, you want shorts, and I 72 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 3: was like, yeah, daddy wears shorts on Patreon. 73 00:03:58,000 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: And then you said if you're daddy, who am I? 74 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: And I was like mummy and we. 75 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 3: Just like ran with it, and then we created we 76 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 3: manufactured personalities to go with it. Yeah. 77 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 1: I like how it happened organically. 78 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:11,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, even though it's a very common one because I 79 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 2: know we mean well a mummy and daddy. 80 00:04:14,120 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: She'd think gigs are daddy and daddy, daddy and daddy. 81 00:04:16,520 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: Everyone's just mummy and daddy or daddy and daddy. Yeah, 82 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: everyone just calls themselves that it's easy. 83 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 2: And you guys listening, no one else has this are 84 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:23,799 Speaker 2: the baddies. 85 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:24,920 Speaker 1: That is very true. 86 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 2: And Jake the other week I said we would start 87 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 2: each Dilemma's episode with a dilemma. Oh, do you have one? 88 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 1: Let me think? Not? Really? 89 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:41,840 Speaker 3: Really you, I. 90 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:43,280 Speaker 2: Reckon I could think of one. I got quite a 91 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 2: few things going home by life. 92 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 3: I could create a dilemma nothing that I would say 93 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 3: needs specifically urgent help. 94 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:55,200 Speaker 1: Give me one, teke a nothing one. I just remember then. 95 00:04:55,680 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 3: I actually do have one, pretty easy, pretty simple. But 96 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 3: I actually have been thinking about it, and I'm not 97 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 3: really sure what I want. 98 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 1: To get Beth for Christmas ooh at all? Yeah, I 99 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:13,320 Speaker 1: can't relate. 100 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 2: I've already got Cassie's Christmas presents. 101 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 1: Really, yeah, you can also tell me what they are 102 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: want me to forll them to? 103 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 2: You got no idea? She sent me links bottom I 104 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:23,720 Speaker 2: forgot where they are I think something's to do with 105 00:05:23,720 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 2: like cooking. 106 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: Oh, so she. 107 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 3: Would prefer to just say this is what I want, 108 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 3: you get it, yeah, and actually wouldn't buy herself. 109 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:33,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. And also it kind of comes back to you 110 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: know how we have. 111 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 2: The debate about what engagement ring to buy your partner, 112 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 2: and obviously the woman should pick it because she's. 113 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 1: Going to be wearing it for the rest of her life. 114 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: Christmas presents, Damn dude, that's funny. 115 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 3: Okay, So I really want to get Beth a dice 116 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:50,920 Speaker 3: and hair rout, but they're fucking like eight hundred dollars. 117 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, Cassie wanted a Ninja creamy in the like five hundred. 118 00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 3: See, I think I think I could spend five hundred 119 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 3: and be like that's fine, But I don't know, not 120 00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 3: not like I mean to be fair. Look, I could 121 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:04,719 Speaker 3: spend a thousand and be like that's fine. You know, 122 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 3: you can spend whatever you want, don't care what anyone spends. 123 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 3: But I also I wanted to be. 124 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 2: Special and I wanted to be also have to think 125 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 2: how much she's going to spend on you, because she 126 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:15,239 Speaker 2: she spends three hundred and you spend a thousand. 127 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: We actually so Jesus, she's quit her job. 128 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,919 Speaker 3: Yeah, she's got it. She's working casual and doing like 129 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:23,040 Speaker 3: then her own thing. But I did say to her, 130 00:06:23,120 --> 00:06:25,039 Speaker 3: I was like, we let's set a limit just so 131 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 3: you're you have ease of mind. So I believe we 132 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 3: set a limit of three hundred. 133 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: We can't be that. Yeah that's true. Yeah, you can't 134 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,360 Speaker 1: do that. Since that's again it needs it needs me 135 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:36,200 Speaker 1: three hundred bucks. Okay, what could you get up? 136 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 3: I was thinking right now, she's been super busy with 137 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 3: work for the last four years of her life. 138 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,840 Speaker 1: But she does You're about to say four weeks for 139 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: four years of her life. So, but she does. 140 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 3: Really love to bake and cook. She hasn't been doing 141 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,160 Speaker 3: any of that. So I'm thinking, do I get her 142 00:06:57,200 --> 00:07:00,919 Speaker 3: three hundred dollars worth of like fucking kid like you 143 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:03,760 Speaker 3: know that brand of lacroc or whatever, just like wicked 144 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 3: baking shit and wicked cooking shit. 145 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:08,360 Speaker 2: Let me but then do some research on what I 146 00:07:08,400 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 2: bought Cassie. She bought something cool for cooking. Don't really 147 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 2: know what it is, but again, no. 148 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: I feel like it's for cooking. It's not that cool 149 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: it is to her if she loves cooking. Yeah, that is. 150 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 2: Quite a dilemma. Common below what Jake should get Beth. 151 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: Because also she's not gonna listen she this also comes 152 00:07:27,640 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: out after Christmas. 153 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:36,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, anyways dilemmas. The theme is relationships beautiful. 154 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:38,600 Speaker 1: All right, we love that. Tell me to go first? Yes, please? 155 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 3: This one you can argue this is a relationship was 156 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 3: pretty good though. Ready This baddie says I dated a 157 00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 3: guy back in summer. Thinking back, he was definitely not 158 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 3: the guy I was looking for emotionally because we literally 159 00:07:55,720 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 3: had nothing to talk about. But he was good looking, 160 00:07:59,560 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 3: and most importantly, he's got the perfect dick and just 161 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 3: so easy to come. When I did it with him, 162 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 3: whoa and then she's gone. Ah, So here comes a dilemma. 163 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:18,840 Speaker 3: I used this lube back in his place, and it 164 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 3: was probably the best I've ever used. It doesn't dry 165 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 3: or burn, and it lasts long. I hate myself for 166 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 3: not having taken a photo of it. Things ended a 167 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 3: while ago, and now I'm with another guy, and I 168 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:34,760 Speaker 3: just really need to know the brand of that lube. God, 169 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 3: but it would be such an enormously tremendous explosive mistake 170 00:08:40,559 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 3: to text him again. After all, these months because it 171 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:44,800 Speaker 3: really took me a while to get over him. 172 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,080 Speaker 1: But oh god, the lube was good. Or maybe it's 173 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 1: him question mark, question Mark wasn't just him. Here's my 174 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:55,120 Speaker 1: question is are you trying? Are you? 175 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 3: He's this new guy, like he's not doing it for us, 176 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:01,360 Speaker 3: he's not doing it for you. So you're thinking maybe 177 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 3: it was a loube the other guy. 178 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:05,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, but it was him. Fuck, poor girl. This is tough. 179 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 2: Oh because if she's if she didn't say she has 180 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:11,079 Speaker 2: a new dude, I was like, just go sleep with 181 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:13,360 Speaker 2: me one more time, yeah, and find out. 182 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 3: But but also she end up really liking him and 183 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 3: struggling over Fuck. 184 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 1: This is tough. 185 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:22,239 Speaker 3: Though some people you just connect sexually not emotionally. 186 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 2: I actually have a really good response, like, obviously there's only, 187 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 2: like I don't know, ten lub brands you can buy 188 00:09:28,320 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 2: from most shops, not even ten five, Go buy all 189 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 2: five of them, all ten of them, and over the 190 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:34,679 Speaker 2: next week use them all. 191 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: If you saw it, would you recognize it? 192 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 3: Well, it's I think it's if you feel it, would 193 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 3: you recognize it? I feel actually if you saw it, 194 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 3: you'd recognize it. Yeah, unless he always like got it 195 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:44,160 Speaker 3: out and you're just like this is great. 196 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you just never looked at. 197 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 2: It, and you can also like was it centered, like 198 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 2: you could cut down like a couple of things. 199 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:53,160 Speaker 3: I just I'm not a loop guy. 200 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: I'm not a lip guy. 201 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:55,600 Speaker 2: I feel like it gets too sticky for me. 202 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:01,559 Speaker 3: It's I would like to it makes it messier. 203 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:01,840 Speaker 2: Too fair. 204 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:03,360 Speaker 1: It's also not really my decision. 205 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 3: Yeah. 206 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, and Cassie doesn't like it true. 207 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:07,000 Speaker 3: Yeah. 208 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, if she said it, I'll use it. Actually. Yeah, 209 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:12,840 Speaker 1: if it was needed, yeah, use it. Yeah, but it's 210 00:10:12,840 --> 00:10:20,640 Speaker 1: not neat No, if it was needed, i'd definitely use it. 211 00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:25,240 Speaker 2: But back in the day, did a coconut oil? Yeah, 212 00:10:25,280 --> 00:10:27,040 Speaker 2: you've told me this. I've never done that. Yeah, it 213 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:28,959 Speaker 2: wasn't that good for the old backdoor. 214 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 3: I actually don't know because I've never tried that was 215 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:34,320 Speaker 3: a different friend, but we've been told that. 216 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe me try that coconut oil. 217 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:44,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, cheaper too organic, Yeah, it's no chemicals. Yeah, coconut oil. 218 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 1: That solves your problem. 219 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 3: Also, the other thing I'm thinking is, obviously you never 220 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 3: looked at the bottle and he always used it. But 221 00:10:50,520 --> 00:10:52,360 Speaker 3: otherwise you would just go online and look up all 222 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 3: loup brands from whatever country you're in, or just all 223 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 3: lub brands in the world and just you scroll find it. 224 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: Let's go. So, I mean, think about this. Should you 225 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:08,520 Speaker 1: text him because the lube was so good? I think no? 226 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:10,719 Speaker 1: But ready, was it him or was. 227 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:13,719 Speaker 3: It the lube computing? 228 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:18,320 Speaker 1: It was him? Is the new guys shit at sex? Yes? 229 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:23,439 Speaker 1: No computing. Yeah, that was no computition, no computation. 230 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 2: I was going to say, is the real dilemma that 231 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:28,960 Speaker 2: you don't like this boy? 232 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 3: Because also, to be fair, she didn't even say like 233 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:33,800 Speaker 3: she wants the loop to get the sex better. 234 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: She's just saying that she really liked the loop. Maybe 235 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 1: the sex of this dude is fine. 236 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 2: Also, but if you were the dude in the new relationship, 237 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:42,560 Speaker 2: could you know your girls thinking about the lube with 238 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:43,160 Speaker 2: the last dude? 239 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:46,679 Speaker 1: Oh no, you couldn't tell me that the lube is 240 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 1: from a past relationship. 241 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 2: Or that like she's thinking that, fuck, this would be 242 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 2: better with some lube from the old relationship. 243 00:11:52,360 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you would never tell me that. 244 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:56,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, but the thoughts even like a little bit dangerous. 245 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:59,439 Speaker 1: What do you mean, like, how is it dangerous if 246 00:11:59,440 --> 00:11:59,960 Speaker 1: he finds out? 247 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:02,960 Speaker 2: Like so obviously she's having sex with this new man 248 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:05,280 Speaker 2: and then like a week ladder So, oh that was good, 249 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 2: but fuck that lube would make it better from my 250 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:08,920 Speaker 2: last relationship. 251 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 1: But she's not gonna say that. 252 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:12,679 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, I'm thinking of those thoughts. Dangerous, toxic. 253 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:17,320 Speaker 1: Ah, think about it. 254 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 3: You carry old tricks to new relationships, do you things 255 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:21,719 Speaker 3: you've learned in past relationships you bring with you? 256 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: I guess so if it works there, and it works now, 257 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 1: why not use it? You gotta Yeah, someone's got to 258 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 1: have cooked there. 259 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:35,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. Initially it's a lude company. So takeaways are, don't 260 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 2: message him, just trial an error. 261 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 1: Coconut oil. Throw that in there, and then yeah, attend 262 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:42,319 Speaker 1: to the coconut oil. 263 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:49,920 Speaker 3: The thing about coconut oil, right is summertime easy? 264 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:51,559 Speaker 1: Yeah? You know it's it's oil. 265 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,480 Speaker 3: If you finger in how much I've used it A 266 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:57,920 Speaker 3: coming on? So like you dip your finger in, it's 267 00:12:57,520 --> 00:12:58,360 Speaker 3: like it's water. 268 00:12:58,440 --> 00:12:58,880 Speaker 1: It's oil. 269 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 2: It goes like milk ya. 270 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:05,400 Speaker 3: Winter solid, I'm dead serious. So you pick it out 271 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 3: in a chunk and then you have to like let 272 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 3: it melt. Missed the computer? 273 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:10,480 Speaker 2: Have you done any research on like, I know it's 274 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 2: all natural on Like if it's okay to going to 275 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:14,319 Speaker 2: her girl's vagina. 276 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:21,319 Speaker 3: Computing, sure dancer isn't. Nope, I have not done research. 277 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:26,200 Speaker 3: But I heard it from a friend of a friend, 278 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:29,400 Speaker 3: and there you tried it. And actually, you know what, 279 00:13:29,480 --> 00:13:32,000 Speaker 3: I bet you the time, I bet you when I 280 00:13:32,120 --> 00:13:33,959 Speaker 3: used it, I was in a relationship when I use it. 281 00:13:34,240 --> 00:13:38,440 Speaker 3: When I used it, I'm pretty sure me and the 282 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:40,120 Speaker 3: current girlfriend at the time would have looked it up. 283 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 1: Okay, So like I we're not done. I don't think 284 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:45,520 Speaker 1: we would have just put some ship in a fucking 285 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:49,000 Speaker 1: pus bro. That's crazy. I think we would have looked 286 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:49,280 Speaker 1: it up. 287 00:13:50,440 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 4: You and hers conversation, She's probably try back in the 288 00:13:55,840 --> 00:14:01,880 Speaker 4: stone age too, and you were like computed, just let 289 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:03,959 Speaker 4: me try, let me fucking. 290 00:14:03,760 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 3: With it was back in the stone age tree when 291 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:09,080 Speaker 3: you actually had to use Google, Like my Google search 292 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:10,599 Speaker 3: would have been can coconut. 293 00:14:10,320 --> 00:14:17,079 Speaker 1: Or go in a computing I've got to computing, s Galler. 294 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 2: We try, okay, good one to start computing. 295 00:14:22,320 --> 00:14:23,240 Speaker 1: We will know after this. 296 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:30,520 Speaker 2: That's crazy, okay, my one juicy tea alert saren emoji 297 00:14:30,600 --> 00:14:31,200 Speaker 2: siren emoji. 298 00:14:31,320 --> 00:14:33,240 Speaker 1: Oh shit, yeah, that'll get our attention. If you want 299 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 1: us to read your dilemma, put that. 300 00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 2: In last year at my brother's twenty first, I got 301 00:14:38,400 --> 00:14:41,400 Speaker 2: tipsy and ended up hooking up with a mutual friend. 302 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:45,120 Speaker 2: Before things got heated, I asked if he still had 303 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:49,000 Speaker 2: a girlfriend. He said no, but the next morning he 304 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:54,120 Speaker 2: confessed he had lied. Now he occasionally messages me begging 305 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:57,840 Speaker 2: for a repeat performance because it was in quotes so good. 306 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:01,240 Speaker 2: I've told him to back off unless he's single, but 307 00:15:01,440 --> 00:15:03,440 Speaker 2: he was persistent until recently. 308 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 1: That's crazy. 309 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:09,360 Speaker 2: Fast forward to today, he and his girlfriend are not 310 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:13,160 Speaker 2: only together still, but also expecting. 311 00:15:12,760 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: A baby in November. Oh, I thought they had broken up, 312 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:18,880 Speaker 1: but they're expecting the first time. Okay, so they're together 313 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: and now they're expecting a baby. Yeah. I took the 314 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 1: only out of it. 315 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:23,760 Speaker 2: My ADHD took over the fast. 316 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:36,480 Speaker 3: Fucking hell, dude, Wow, okay, I don't No. 317 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:42,640 Speaker 2: Well, you've got two equations here, kind of like girl code, 318 00:15:42,640 --> 00:15:44,800 Speaker 2: she has a right to know, and then kind of 319 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 2: like it's not really your problem. 320 00:15:46,960 --> 00:15:50,960 Speaker 3: Here's the thing, right, if you were gonna do it, 321 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:54,200 Speaker 3: you probably should have sent the hate girly message. 322 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:57,560 Speaker 1: Way before the day you found out, Like. 323 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:03,080 Speaker 3: Is the only reason you're now considering because she's pregnant. 324 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:06,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a tough one too, because she has a 325 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 2: right to know. But then also you kind of like, I. 326 00:16:09,640 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 3: Don't know, and if he's done it with you, I 327 00:16:11,560 --> 00:16:13,040 Speaker 3: can guarantee you he's done it with others. 328 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 2: And he was consistently massaging you after. 329 00:16:15,840 --> 00:16:18,560 Speaker 3: So he's like begging you to have run it back 330 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:23,680 Speaker 3: because it's like such a good performance, right, imagine imagine 331 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:26,920 Speaker 3: begging to cheat on your girlfriend. 332 00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: That's crazy. 333 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:34,000 Speaker 2: He was begging his girlfriend. Yeah, crazy, Yeah, that's so 334 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 2: icky too. What do the men think that would work? 335 00:16:35,960 --> 00:16:38,000 Speaker 1: Like, come on, you said no already, but like, fuck 336 00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:42,120 Speaker 1: be sure? It was so good? Fuck off? Yeah? 337 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:44,840 Speaker 3: Can I be honest? I think you shouldn't say anything. 338 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 1: I don't know, Actually, what would are you ready? Okay? 339 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:54,720 Speaker 1: I was single. I slept with someone. They said they 340 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 1: were single. Next day they said they weren't single. 341 00:16:57,120 --> 00:16:59,040 Speaker 2: They messaged me a lot to run it back because 342 00:16:59,080 --> 00:17:02,120 Speaker 2: my dick was so good, and where else is something 343 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:02,640 Speaker 2: really nice? 344 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:06,479 Speaker 1: No, just kidding. I don't know if I would tell. 345 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:09,440 Speaker 2: I think for the situation, you don't know the girl, 346 00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:12,480 Speaker 2: even though she has a right to know, I think 347 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:14,159 Speaker 2: leave it. 348 00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 3: I actually wait, didn't we like one time talk about 349 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:22,359 Speaker 3: how you should tell the girl but it doesn't come 350 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,440 Speaker 3: from you, like spread a rumor. 351 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:27,520 Speaker 2: We've had the justifications or maybe not that what you're thinking. 352 00:17:27,560 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 2: But also if you message the girl and said, hey, 353 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:32,040 Speaker 2: I slept with some and so six months ago. 354 00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:34,919 Speaker 1: A lot of the time I think it's a lie. 355 00:17:35,760 --> 00:17:37,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, so they always thinks a lie, right, Like why 356 00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:39,439 Speaker 3: would you wait this long? Yeah, here's one thing that 357 00:17:39,520 --> 00:17:44,439 Speaker 3: was like can you suck get spread a rumor that 358 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:47,120 Speaker 3: doesn't come from you? So she eventually finds out then 359 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:49,639 Speaker 3: messages you. So it's like spread a rumor that you 360 00:17:49,720 --> 00:17:53,119 Speaker 3: guys slept together, and then eventually she messages you and 361 00:17:53,119 --> 00:17:54,920 Speaker 3: you're like, oh shit, yeah he actually he told me 362 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:57,119 Speaker 3: he was single, Like oh my god, I'm so sorry. 363 00:17:57,640 --> 00:18:00,320 Speaker 3: So like it was you, but like you know, he 364 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 3: actually knows. And she scanned out kind of on her own, 365 00:18:04,800 --> 00:18:05,639 Speaker 3: Like is that crazy? 366 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's crazy or not. I feel 367 00:18:07,119 --> 00:18:08,240 Speaker 1: like that's a good idea. 368 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:10,880 Speaker 2: It's very intricate, but also I reckon just like peace 369 00:18:10,920 --> 00:18:13,760 Speaker 2: of mind for the dilemma center, just leave him, move on. 370 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 3: A yeah, maybe now that there's a fucking kid involved, 371 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:21,359 Speaker 3: like it's probably gonna honestly, I wait, you could be 372 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:23,080 Speaker 3: doing the kid a favor. Let's think about this, right, 373 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:28,280 Speaker 3: should this child have parents that aren't together from the beginning, 374 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:31,920 Speaker 3: or should this child grow up with parents that are 375 00:18:32,280 --> 00:18:35,840 Speaker 3: quote unquote happy. But he's done it once, he's probably 376 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:38,120 Speaker 3: done it multiple times, therefore he will one hundred percent 377 00:18:38,200 --> 00:18:42,640 Speaker 3: do it again and karma will come around, all right, True? 378 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:45,919 Speaker 3: I would say the truth is a bitch shouldn't know 379 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:46,639 Speaker 3: him better? 380 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 1: So, yeah, like, do you should I reckon tell her? Oh? 381 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:56,520 Speaker 2: I was thought that whole ring ring and role just 382 00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 2: took me on was saying, don't tell her because CARMA's 383 00:18:58,280 --> 00:18:59,520 Speaker 2: going to come around and buy him in the arseny. 384 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:01,159 Speaker 3: Know. What I'm saying is like, do you want this 385 00:19:01,280 --> 00:19:04,439 Speaker 3: kid to be like, experience what it's like to have 386 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,399 Speaker 3: a happy family and then it be taken away, or 387 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:09,159 Speaker 3: just like from the very start, experience what it's like 388 00:19:09,200 --> 00:19:13,640 Speaker 3: to have hopefully amicable co parenting. 389 00:19:13,800 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 1: But also, I reckon, there's too much. 390 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:18,600 Speaker 2: Power in the dilemma center's hands for the situation. I reckon, 391 00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:21,280 Speaker 2: let things just peter out to see. 392 00:19:21,119 --> 00:19:24,399 Speaker 1: What happens and you move on. Yeah, okay, that's my advice. 393 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:26,280 Speaker 2: Also, wouldn't blame if you want to tell her? 394 00:19:26,359 --> 00:19:29,000 Speaker 1: Yeah? Same, Yeah, oh, yeah, yeah, you know what you choose. 395 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:32,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I just said that you pick. 396 00:19:39,400 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 1: Ahl, right are? 397 00:19:41,560 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 3: I know my friend is cheating on her boyfriend. For 398 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:47,639 Speaker 3: a few months back, my friend let me borrow her 399 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 3: phone to take some pictures, and while I was on it, 400 00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:52,760 Speaker 3: messages started popping up from a guy I've never heard of. 401 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:55,960 Speaker 3: The messages were saying stuff like quote can't wait to 402 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:59,000 Speaker 3: see you babe dot dot another one quote love you, 403 00:19:59,560 --> 00:20:01,280 Speaker 3: and some the pretty sexual stuff. 404 00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:02,119 Speaker 1: She doesn't know. 405 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:04,199 Speaker 3: I've seen the messages, and every now and then I 406 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 3: get a glance at her phone to see her texting him. 407 00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:09,560 Speaker 3: Every time I ask about it, she swipes off the 408 00:20:09,640 --> 00:20:12,160 Speaker 3: chat and says it to her mum or her boyfriend 409 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 3: or something. I saw a message saying quote can't wait 410 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:19,639 Speaker 3: to see you on insert date, and then the exact date, 411 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:22,800 Speaker 3: she happened to be out of town the whole day. 412 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:24,959 Speaker 3: So now I know she's seeing him and it's not 413 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 3: just an online relationship. 414 00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:28,879 Speaker 1: I even found I even found. 415 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:32,119 Speaker 3: Out from a picture I've seen that the necklace she 416 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:35,920 Speaker 3: wears he bought for her. My friend and her boyfriend 417 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:38,720 Speaker 3: have been together for many years. I'm sure he has 418 00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:41,120 Speaker 3: no idea about this. Should I confront my friend, tell 419 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:42,560 Speaker 3: her boyfriend, or do nothing. 420 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 1: Oh, another tough one. Holy fuck? What the hell? 421 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:50,280 Speaker 2: The hell? That one's really hard too, What the hell? Well, 422 00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:54,719 Speaker 2: so your best friend's the one that's cheating and obviously 423 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:57,119 Speaker 2: not that close with her partner, but he also has 424 00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:57,760 Speaker 2: a right to know. 425 00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:04,720 Speaker 1: I think who? So no, not who? 426 00:21:05,320 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 3: What type of person do you want to associate yourself with? 427 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:11,280 Speaker 3: And what type of person do you want to call 428 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 3: your best friend? I like this, so yes, therefore you 429 00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:20,760 Speaker 3: confront her? I agree, yes, yeah, and you confront her. Okay, 430 00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:24,119 Speaker 3: you can still love her, you can forgive her, but 431 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:25,919 Speaker 3: you have to know, let her know that you know 432 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,160 Speaker 3: and that you think she needs to do the right thing, 433 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:33,159 Speaker 3: and what she does can then depend on where your 434 00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:33,879 Speaker 3: friendship goes. 435 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:34,720 Speaker 1: Well. 436 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:43,360 Speaker 2: Computing good response, computing, very very mature response. 437 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:46,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, very mature. Yeah, what would Spock say? 438 00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:53,119 Speaker 2: Because logic dictates that you should tell her, Logic dictates 439 00:21:53,160 --> 00:22:00,399 Speaker 2: that this could get messy. Yeah, I think that's great. Honestly, 440 00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:01,720 Speaker 2: you hit the nail on the head straight away. 441 00:22:01,880 --> 00:22:03,160 Speaker 1: Fuck next dilemma. 442 00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 2: Okay, hi guys, I'm loving the pod. Here's my dilemma. 443 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:14,680 Speaker 2: Sorry if it's long, I kind of ran it a bit. 444 00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:18,040 Speaker 2: Do you think she's come back after writing the whole 445 00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:19,000 Speaker 2: thing and then wrote that again? 446 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:23,080 Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah? Or do they know they're about a ramble? 447 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 2: I don't know. Maybe either way it's a good one. 448 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 2: I've been dating this guy for a little over a 449 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:31,240 Speaker 2: year now, and I haven't noticed any big red flags 450 00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:34,320 Speaker 2: or deal breakers. A little background info is that before 451 00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:36,640 Speaker 2: we started dating, my best friend and I got into 452 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,200 Speaker 2: a huge fight and we didn't speak for a few 453 00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:43,080 Speaker 2: months because she dislikes my boyfriend a lot. She told 454 00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:46,280 Speaker 2: me that she had heard bad things about him, like 455 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:51,159 Speaker 2: he is known for cheating on multiple girls and being narcissistic. 456 00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,280 Speaker 2: I ignored these things because what she told me didn't 457 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,879 Speaker 2: make sense at the time and didn't match his character. 458 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:00,680 Speaker 2: He always validates my feelings and makes me feel safe 459 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,520 Speaker 2: around him. Even before we dated, he always treated me 460 00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:06,399 Speaker 2: so well. He didn't seem like the type to cheat 461 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:09,720 Speaker 2: on anyone. She recently told me that he sent her 462 00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:13,960 Speaker 2: pictures and videos on snap of himself naked and asked 463 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,600 Speaker 2: her to come over. I asked her for proof, and 464 00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:19,560 Speaker 2: she said she couldn't show me because snapchat tells you 465 00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:22,639 Speaker 2: when you screenshot, which is so valid. I talked to 466 00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:25,400 Speaker 2: my boyfriend and deny these things, and it really seemed 467 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:27,359 Speaker 2: like he was being honest. I don't know if I 468 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 2: should believe my friend when she has had something against 469 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 2: him from the start and gets weird when we talk 470 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,240 Speaker 2: about him. It does not seem like something he would do. 471 00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 2: But now I'm questioning if she's right from the start, 472 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:43,800 Speaker 2: what should I do in this situation? Oh my god. 473 00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:52,160 Speaker 1: Oh my god, who's lying? One of them is lying? 474 00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:56,640 Speaker 1: All right? Okay, wait, okay, okay, um. 475 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,280 Speaker 2: Why I would the friend come out of the blue 476 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 2: and say he just sent me naked pictures? 477 00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,080 Speaker 1: But also why wouldn't she screenshot? That's what I was thinking. 478 00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:11,960 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be scared at all. Who am I thinking about? 479 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:12,080 Speaker 2: So? 480 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, if like, if my girlfriend's best friend send me news? 481 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,000 Speaker 1: Oh wait, is that what it is? My girlfriend's best friend? No? 482 00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:22,880 Speaker 1: If my best friend's girlfriend, No, if it's if yeah 483 00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:26,080 Speaker 1: yeah yeah. If Cassie sent you to yeah yeah, I 484 00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 1: wouldn't give a fuck. If she knew I screenshot of them, 485 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:30,000 Speaker 1: I'd be like boom. 486 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:33,160 Speaker 3: I'd send her a message telling BODYE got your got 487 00:24:33,200 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 3: your bitch. 488 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:37,200 Speaker 1: I'd be like, yeah, I do. I think she could 489 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:38,200 Speaker 1: be lying. 490 00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:44,199 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm scared, not like who's in the wrong and 491 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,280 Speaker 5: there's no real way of knowing, but also if he's 492 00:24:47,320 --> 00:24:50,199 Speaker 5: doing something so wrong like that, like why would you 493 00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:51,200 Speaker 5: care if you screenshot it? 494 00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:51,760 Speaker 1: You wouldn't. 495 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:55,639 Speaker 2: That's why I think she's lying, and he if you 496 00:24:55,640 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 2: should always I was GONNAE should always trust the person 497 00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:04,000 Speaker 2: by their actions, and if he's doing everything right, you 498 00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:07,920 Speaker 2: have no reason to doubt his trust and devotion towards you. 499 00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:12,359 Speaker 3: But this is just straight up ruined your relationship, like 500 00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,240 Speaker 3: genuine it's this has fully ruined your own. 501 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:19,680 Speaker 2: Because there's there's two reasons behind this. Either the girl 502 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:21,919 Speaker 2: secretly likes your man and wants you to not to 503 00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:25,040 Speaker 2: be together or the way else would she want to 504 00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:29,160 Speaker 2: break him apart? Or the dude is a manipulative, narcissistic asshole, 505 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:31,359 Speaker 2: very likely, and he's hiding everything. 506 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:33,639 Speaker 1: I can't get around the fact that she didn't take screenshots. 507 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:35,880 Speaker 2: That's what I think, with the information we've been given, 508 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:39,640 Speaker 2: we have to come to conclusions that all things considered, Yeah, 509 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:43,960 Speaker 2: I think that logic dictates that she should shot. 510 00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:46,240 Speaker 1: Okay, reasons as. 511 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:49,919 Speaker 3: To why she couldn't screenshot so for some reason, she 512 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:51,960 Speaker 3: didn't want the guy to know she screenshotted. 513 00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 1: Is she scared of him? 514 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,960 Speaker 3: But also but like even if she's scared of him, right, 515 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:01,159 Speaker 3: she's got the proof. 516 00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:04,159 Speaker 1: Yeah, she got the proof. That's like a get out 517 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:07,040 Speaker 1: of jail free card. Like she legit it. No matter 518 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:11,160 Speaker 1: what he says, you could threaten her with anything. Yeah, 519 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,200 Speaker 1: look at this bitch. You literally have our photo of it. 520 00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:15,320 Speaker 1: Tell me that's not you. 521 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:21,479 Speaker 2: Yeah, same tattoo, motherfucker, Like, tell me that's not you. Eh, 522 00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:21,959 Speaker 2: I don't know. 523 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,719 Speaker 1: I think we can't look past that. Yeah. Fuck, I 524 00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:27,200 Speaker 1: has our two cents. 525 00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:28,680 Speaker 2: These have the hardest dilemmas. 526 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's actually actually like where or do we do? 527 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:32,399 Speaker 2: We? 528 00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:33,160 Speaker 1: Here? 529 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:33,359 Speaker 3: We go? 530 00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 2: Here we go, say to the friend. Entertain it, Yeah, 531 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:38,440 Speaker 2: get more fuck it? 532 00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, give me proof? Yeah yeah yeah, yeah, you know what, 533 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:42,360 Speaker 1: if you're such a good. 534 00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 3: Friend, all right, let's run this ship back, send him something, 535 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:52,400 Speaker 3: all right, start messaging him. Let me know how it goes. 536 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:54,160 Speaker 3: You don't even have to get nudes off him. If 537 00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:58,120 Speaker 3: he entertains the conversation with you that is clearly not platonic. Yeah, 538 00:26:58,320 --> 00:26:58,800 Speaker 3: let me know. 539 00:26:59,000 --> 00:26:59,919 Speaker 1: And I believe you and. 540 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 2: He should entertainer going off everything you've told me about him. 541 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,600 Speaker 1: That's a good plain. He's like, oh, finally I've got 542 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:07,520 Speaker 1: my chance. Yeah. 543 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,320 Speaker 2: But if he doesn't, Yeah, can I here's the answer? 544 00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:16,640 Speaker 1: Fu can I? Okay? Who should I be annoyed at more? 545 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,639 Speaker 1: My bestie or my ex? 546 00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:20,400 Speaker 2: Okay? 547 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:25,720 Speaker 1: Group of mates was staying at the den. I don't 548 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:26,359 Speaker 1: know what the den. 549 00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:29,080 Speaker 3: Is because we were doing some volunteer work in the 550 00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:33,399 Speaker 3: morning and going to a ball that night, so the 551 00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:36,879 Speaker 3: group was us Sorry, So the group of us nine 552 00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:42,119 Speaker 3: decided to watch a movie gossip and drink. Once we 553 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:44,919 Speaker 3: all decided to go to bed, a few had swags 554 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:48,119 Speaker 3: and a few were sweet sleeping on the couches. I 555 00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,919 Speaker 3: woke up at two am and noticed that my best 556 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:54,399 Speaker 3: friend was missing. I got up, went to the bathroom, 557 00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:57,560 Speaker 3: and when I went back to the couch, I heard it. 558 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 3: My best friend had got into my x's swag and 559 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:04,760 Speaker 3: we're having a route, rather loudly. 560 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:05,560 Speaker 1: For all to hear. 561 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,639 Speaker 3: The next day, they both deny it, but the ones 562 00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:13,200 Speaker 3: of us that were awake know what really happened that night. 563 00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:15,240 Speaker 1: Is that it. 564 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, so she should be she'd ask you who should 565 00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:19,440 Speaker 3: she be more annoyed at? 566 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:20,200 Speaker 1: That's fucking crazy. 567 00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 2: The best friend yeah, but also like this is why 568 00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:24,440 Speaker 2: I also kind of. 569 00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:28,760 Speaker 1: Like, also, you're not your friend. Yeah, you not your 570 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,439 Speaker 1: friend ship friends ship X. 571 00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:32,240 Speaker 2: Don't shop where you can continue to be friends of 572 00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:36,560 Speaker 2: your X doesn't work. It's insane, disrespecting X, disrespectful friend, 573 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:41,440 Speaker 2: disgusting in all counts. Also the decency to go. 574 00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:44,000 Speaker 1: Hard at least. Fuck. 575 00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,200 Speaker 2: I'm trying to think this a swag right next to everyone. 576 00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:49,640 Speaker 1: How long have you been broken up for? That's my question? 577 00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,120 Speaker 3: And I'm trying to think what would I do if 578 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:58,200 Speaker 3: I had confidence and it didn't affect me initially? I 579 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 3: would like him the walls of the swag and. 580 00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:06,840 Speaker 1: Like let it fall on them. 581 00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:09,040 Speaker 2: Fuck I reckon, Yeah, you could do something like that. 582 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,680 Speaker 2: I can just let it be you've lost a friend. 583 00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:16,040 Speaker 1: And film it for did you guys have sex last night? 584 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:16,239 Speaker 3: No? 585 00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:21,320 Speaker 2: Really, we just film me outside and outside, like, do 586 00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:22,320 Speaker 2: you guys have sex last night? 587 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:23,160 Speaker 3: No? 588 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:26,480 Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Is that you? Yeah? Yeah 589 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:26,800 Speaker 1: we did? 590 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,480 Speaker 2: What a terrible friend. I hate those friends actually brings 591 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:36,880 Speaker 2: up a good conversation. Who throw almost everything away to 592 00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:43,200 Speaker 2: get the opposite sex's pants down. There's a lot of 593 00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,719 Speaker 2: people who do that too. Their moles just disappear when 594 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:46,440 Speaker 2: they can get some. 595 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:48,240 Speaker 1: Deck or vagina. It is interesting. 596 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:52,680 Speaker 3: It's like, is there this crazy attraction because there was 597 00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 3: such a long time where it was something that was 598 00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:57,360 Speaker 3: so off limits that you wouldn't even think about being 599 00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,120 Speaker 3: sexually attracted to them. But now that they're single, it's 600 00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:01,200 Speaker 3: a possibility. So now you just like have this hankering 601 00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:02,600 Speaker 3: to just fuck them. 602 00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:03,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 603 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:07,720 Speaker 2: I've never had that neither neither. 604 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:10,480 Speaker 1: Ah, yeah, craziness. 605 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:14,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, it is funny too because, like I know, friends 606 00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,760 Speaker 2: too have had that exact mindset, not necessarily Saraihly with 607 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:19,200 Speaker 2: an ex, but a girl who has been i don't know, 608 00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:21,840 Speaker 2: dating a dude for ages and then she's single. 609 00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,680 Speaker 1: Like, oh she has a bit on the market for ages. Yeah, 610 00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:29,640 Speaker 1: she's so like yeah, I'm like, oh yeah, sure, yeah. 611 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 3: I started like you can even like you can, I'm 612 00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:34,360 Speaker 3: having to emit when someone's attractive. Yeah, but I feel 613 00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 3: like that I think they are like sexy, but I'm 614 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,840 Speaker 3: not going to have sex with them if the chance arose. 615 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:41,760 Speaker 1: Oh ya, You're not going to try to have sex 616 00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:42,080 Speaker 1: with them? 617 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,160 Speaker 2: No, And I always have that mindset of like they're 618 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:46,800 Speaker 2: always in that category. 619 00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:47,560 Speaker 1: For me as off limits, no matter what. 620 00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:51,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's an interesting and the best thing to do, 621 00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:53,760 Speaker 2: if you're mature and responsible, would be if you're the 622 00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:57,080 Speaker 2: best friend to say, hey, Jake's come up to me 623 00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:58,280 Speaker 2: and said he has feelings for me. 624 00:30:58,360 --> 00:30:59,200 Speaker 1: I know he's your ex. 625 00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:02,320 Speaker 2: How do you feel if I went through with that 626 00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:04,160 Speaker 2: or went on a date with him, and then you 627 00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:06,360 Speaker 2: could say I'm not comfortable with it, or that's fine, 628 00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,200 Speaker 2: I don't have any feelings for him anymore, and then 629 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:09,720 Speaker 2: go on a date not just buck next to me. 630 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:12,160 Speaker 3: I just think it's the craziest way to find out too, Like, 631 00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 3: what a crazy way to find out that your friend 632 00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:17,840 Speaker 3: isn't your friend? So disrespecting a imagine like also imagine 633 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:19,920 Speaker 3: being the ex boyfriend and the quote unquote best friend 634 00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:23,840 Speaker 3: and doing it, being like, can't belive you just got 635 00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,320 Speaker 3: away with that, and then the next day people were like, 636 00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:27,480 Speaker 3: did you guys have sex last night? 637 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:29,960 Speaker 1: And they're like nah, and. 638 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:33,600 Speaker 3: They did, and the reason like like like what, ma, 639 00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:35,040 Speaker 3: how can you deny it? Bro? 640 00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:39,200 Speaker 2: You're in a swag this like a millimeter thick, honestly 641 00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:40,640 Speaker 2: crazy spread with the hoes. 642 00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:43,520 Speaker 1: It'll just be the best feeling I open. 643 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:45,320 Speaker 2: I would that's a bit of closure. 644 00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:52,560 Speaker 1: For sure already. 645 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:55,920 Speaker 2: Next dilemma, dilemma, I kind of know my answer, however, 646 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,280 Speaker 2: I think I just want to know what you guys 647 00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:02,040 Speaker 2: are thinking. So last we met and decided to be 648 00:32:02,480 --> 00:32:10,400 Speaker 2: strictly fuck buddies ooh which I oh wait, I'm terrible 649 00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 2: at abbreviations friends with benefits, which is basically the same 650 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:14,800 Speaker 2: thing which. 651 00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:16,520 Speaker 1: I was one hundred percent okay with. 652 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:20,640 Speaker 2: They wanted nothing serious because of graduation coming up then 653 00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:23,640 Speaker 2: and they would be across the country afterwards. I told 654 00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,680 Speaker 2: them that I wouldn't do long distance because of what 655 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:29,400 Speaker 2: happened in my previous relationship. Tell me why they were 656 00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:33,520 Speaker 2: doing boyfriend duties on a friends with benefits salary in 657 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:35,400 Speaker 2: brackets unless I'm crazy. 658 00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:36,520 Speaker 1: And looked into it too much. 659 00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,120 Speaker 2: This was all in a six month period, three months 660 00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,480 Speaker 2: of three months of it in person until I felt 661 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:46,520 Speaker 2: them pull away, so I ghosted them first. Pretty sure 662 00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,880 Speaker 2: they took that as a challenge, talked to me again 663 00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:51,920 Speaker 2: two weeks later, and then ghosted me three months later. 664 00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:52,880 Speaker 1: Jeez. 665 00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:56,080 Speaker 2: And then she put a list of all the things 666 00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:57,400 Speaker 2: he was doing, and I guess we got to see 667 00:32:57,400 --> 00:33:00,280 Speaker 2: if this is like boyfriend Judy or not. Okay, one 668 00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:02,600 Speaker 2: good morning slash, good night texts. 669 00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:03,520 Speaker 1: You can say. 670 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:07,719 Speaker 2: Whether it's boyfriend or not friends of benefit. Yeah, all right, 671 00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,400 Speaker 2: so so ask me friends of benefits of boyfriend. Yeah, 672 00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,880 Speaker 2: friends of benefit or boyfriends. So good morning, slash, good 673 00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:18,120 Speaker 2: night texts. That's boyfriend, Hello slash, goodbye kisses. Boyfriend Three 674 00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:21,000 Speaker 2: our second date. I made dinner and they bought me 675 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,960 Speaker 2: sparkling grape juice because I told them I couldn't have 676 00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:25,960 Speaker 2: alcohol hole because of my medical reasons. 677 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:27,920 Speaker 1: Briend. Four. 678 00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,800 Speaker 2: They came to see me before leaving for a weekend. 679 00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:33,120 Speaker 2: My friend took my phone and said I miss you 680 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:34,640 Speaker 2: text and they sent back, I miss you too. 681 00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:40,080 Speaker 1: Boyfriend. That's a bit fucking techy, butte great at conversations. 682 00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,400 Speaker 3: Ah, that could be a fuck with by like that 683 00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:45,160 Speaker 3: could be friends of benefits for this one. 684 00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:53,320 Speaker 2: Both forehead kisses, boyfriend holding the face kisses. Oh my god, husband, husband, 685 00:33:53,320 --> 00:33:53,640 Speaker 2: you reckon. 686 00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,960 Speaker 1: That's great. That's fucking that's intimate. 687 00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:59,360 Speaker 2: Giving me comforting hugs on bad days. 688 00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:00,720 Speaker 1: Boyfriend. 689 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:04,320 Speaker 2: We both really liked listening to podcasts and talked about 690 00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:06,000 Speaker 2: our thoughts on them. 691 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:09,399 Speaker 1: That could be friends of benefits kept me company when 692 00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:12,400 Speaker 1: I was in the hospital. Boyfriend talked about what we 693 00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:13,280 Speaker 1: wanted in the future. 694 00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:16,880 Speaker 2: Boyfriend waited three days before we did anything. 695 00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:20,719 Speaker 1: That's open to interpretation. 696 00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:23,879 Speaker 2: I was also like, I suppose it probably took three 697 00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:25,800 Speaker 2: days for him to say I want to be friends 698 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:30,600 Speaker 2: with benefits. Yeah, Now a year later, this motherfucker comes 699 00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:31,480 Speaker 2: crawling back to me. 700 00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:33,279 Speaker 1: A year later, I thought it was. 701 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,960 Speaker 2: Going abroad, but came to visit after a game at 702 00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:41,680 Speaker 2: our college. I did ask them about last year Shenanigan's 703 00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,680 Speaker 2: and they avoided it and questioned it with humor whatever. 704 00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:46,840 Speaker 2: I was fine with a one night stand, but in 705 00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:48,600 Speaker 2: the middle of the season, they asked me what my 706 00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,960 Speaker 2: favorite flowers were, Like, brah, are you going to buy 707 00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:54,479 Speaker 2: me a bouquet of flowers or what? So we spent 708 00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:57,160 Speaker 2: the night together. He walked me out in the morning 709 00:34:57,280 --> 00:35:00,680 Speaker 2: and then kissed me goodbye. He told him to text 710 00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,200 Speaker 2: me when he got back, and he didn't and stop 711 00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:03,640 Speaker 2: talking to me. 712 00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:05,480 Speaker 1: Damn. 713 00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:09,640 Speaker 2: While we were together, we also joked about seeing each 714 00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:13,440 Speaker 2: other the following week, but nothing ever eventuated. What is 715 00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:16,280 Speaker 2: the logic behind this man and what was he thinking? 716 00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:18,160 Speaker 2: Sorry this is so long, but I don't know what's happening. 717 00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:26,600 Speaker 1: Shit. I mean, it's pretty obvious, like I think you 718 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,360 Speaker 1: can recognize. 719 00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:32,800 Speaker 3: You can recognize what he's doing. But at the same time, 720 00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:39,719 Speaker 3: the fact that like you're asking is means I think 721 00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:42,960 Speaker 3: you might have had some feelings for him, but you 722 00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:45,120 Speaker 3: can recognize what he's doing. So you're trying to tell 723 00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:46,680 Speaker 3: someone else what he's been doing just to see if 724 00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,160 Speaker 3: they have a different answer when you know the answer, 725 00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:53,800 Speaker 3: and the answer is he's being a fuck boy and 726 00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:54,919 Speaker 3: you should fuck him off. 727 00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, And it always comes back to if you haven't. 728 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,960 Speaker 2: Heard it from the relatables before, from Mummy and Daddy, 729 00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:04,520 Speaker 2: is friends with benefits. Fuck buddies never work when you're 730 00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:07,120 Speaker 2: having that intimate interaction with anybody. 731 00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:10,240 Speaker 1: It's too many emotions involved. 732 00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:11,880 Speaker 2: Even if you both say, oh, I just want to 733 00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:13,720 Speaker 2: have sex, it's never just sex. 734 00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:16,360 Speaker 1: Ever, it's never just sex. 735 00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:21,520 Speaker 2: Impossible, implausible, and one person or both people catch feelings 736 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:25,799 Speaker 2: and then there's this confusion behind how you're feeling because 737 00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:27,359 Speaker 2: you've said you just want to have sex, but then 738 00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:29,480 Speaker 2: the intimate action is making you fall in love with 739 00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,239 Speaker 2: each other because it's a beautiful process, and you put 740 00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,239 Speaker 2: this silly little label on it, And yeah, I think 741 00:36:35,239 --> 00:36:37,760 Speaker 2: you got to ask yourself, like, did I have feelings 742 00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:41,680 Speaker 2: for him and I should have known better. Yeah, and 743 00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:43,920 Speaker 2: it's hard too because in your situation it's kind of 744 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:45,680 Speaker 2: like sex is good and all, and hanging out with 745 00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,839 Speaker 2: him I really like. But then also I don't want 746 00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:50,080 Speaker 2: to stop that, but also we're not going to go 747 00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:51,040 Speaker 2: any further, So what do I do? 748 00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:53,319 Speaker 1: So you just keep doing it? Fuck, it's like a 749 00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:54,480 Speaker 1: reoccurring cycle. 750 00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:58,959 Speaker 3: And it's easy to get into, very easy to get into. 751 00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:03,360 Speaker 3: But moral of this story is, do not agree to 752 00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:04,280 Speaker 3: friends with benefits. 753 00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:05,759 Speaker 1: Never never, never never. 754 00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:07,560 Speaker 2: We've said it. The only time it ever works is 755 00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:09,239 Speaker 2: one night stand or something or like, but it's that 756 00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:11,239 Speaker 2: that's not it, or like you do it every six 757 00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:12,960 Speaker 2: months and there's a message, hey, come have sex. 758 00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:14,680 Speaker 1: And you leave and don't talk, yes, something like that. 759 00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:16,719 Speaker 3: And to be fair, the only reason I say I 760 00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:18,520 Speaker 3: think that works is because it like sounds like it 761 00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:20,279 Speaker 3: would work, but I've never done that. 762 00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:21,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, and no one ever wants that. 763 00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:23,520 Speaker 2: You're not gonna want just a message saying you want 764 00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:25,360 Speaker 2: to root and then comes over and then after rooting, 765 00:37:25,360 --> 00:37:27,680 Speaker 2: you just leave about saying anything you want to cuddle, 766 00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:28,480 Speaker 2: you want to fucking ki. 767 00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,719 Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone wants to be in a relationship for the night. Yeah, yeah, Cat, 768 00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:33,000 Speaker 3: that's where feelings come in exactly. 769 00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:37,799 Speaker 2: It's like fuckingss Nesta and Cassian, Nassy and Nessie, I 770 00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:42,120 Speaker 2: can Cassian, yeahs Nassy Nassi. 771 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:44,040 Speaker 1: That's there, that's their ship name. Yeah Nesta. 772 00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,239 Speaker 2: Nesta was like no, it's just sex, and Cassian loved 773 00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:47,080 Speaker 2: her and he couldn't admit it. 774 00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:51,800 Speaker 3: Well, he was very happy to be like, yeah, neess, 775 00:37:51,920 --> 00:37:54,319 Speaker 3: just sex, Come get this fucking egg plan. 776 00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:58,440 Speaker 1: Well, a lot of dudes also like anything's better than nothing. Yeah, acts, 777 00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:00,200 Speaker 1: that's so true. 778 00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:08,440 Speaker 3: Okay, last one, This is a crazy story from a baddie. Okay, 779 00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:13,360 Speaker 3: hey guys, this is more of a funny slash crazy 780 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:17,840 Speaker 3: story than a dilemma. I came home from UNI about 781 00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:21,360 Speaker 3: three weeks ago for holiday and met up with a 782 00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:26,560 Speaker 3: few of my girlfriends from secondary school. We pregamed and 783 00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,880 Speaker 3: then ended up bar hopping throughout the night. At this point, 784 00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:33,880 Speaker 3: I was a bit tipsy and horny, so I was 785 00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:37,319 Speaker 3: flirting with a couple of guys at the bar we 786 00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:40,680 Speaker 3: ended up going to. I saw this attractive guy and 787 00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:43,080 Speaker 3: just went for it. We talked for a while and 788 00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:46,280 Speaker 3: hit it off and ended up making out. I decided 789 00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:49,560 Speaker 3: fuck it and decided to have. So I decide fuck 790 00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,920 Speaker 3: it and decide to have a little one night stand 791 00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,520 Speaker 3: with this guy. We go to his place and we're 792 00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:57,080 Speaker 3: doing it, and all is well. The guy was great 793 00:38:57,120 --> 00:38:59,960 Speaker 3: and everything. That is, until in the middle of it, 794 00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:04,640 Speaker 3: he asks me to peg him. While I am an 795 00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:08,680 Speaker 3: adventurous GW, this still threw me off guard. I think 796 00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:10,839 Speaker 3: he noticed and immediately said I didn't have to if 797 00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:13,920 Speaker 3: I didn't want to. My first thought was no, but 798 00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:18,840 Speaker 3: honestly I was still horny and spontaneously decided, what's the 799 00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:22,200 Speaker 3: worst that can happen, so I agree this guy. This 800 00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:24,359 Speaker 3: guy then proceeds to pull out a strap on from 801 00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,520 Speaker 3: his closet and puts it on me and then lays 802 00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:30,680 Speaker 3: on the bed with his legs spread. At this point, 803 00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,280 Speaker 3: I just go for it and he starts moaning super loud. 804 00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:37,480 Speaker 3: I honestly find it pretty hot until he screams daddy 805 00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:42,880 Speaker 3: and another random guy's name he has a crush on someone. 806 00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:45,680 Speaker 3: At that point, I lost all horniness, and if I 807 00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:49,800 Speaker 3: were a man, I went soft. I took the strap 808 00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:52,600 Speaker 3: on off, grabbed my stuff, ordered the lift, and got 809 00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:55,040 Speaker 3: the fuck out of there. I will be erasing this 810 00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:56,680 Speaker 3: story from my mind. 811 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:01,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a that was just a confession. It was 812 00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:02,600 Speaker 1: just a bit of a confession. 813 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:05,920 Speaker 3: I mean, that's actually a fucking that's a pretty funny story, 814 00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:09,960 Speaker 3: especially because like it was like it was all consensual 815 00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:12,839 Speaker 3: and stuff, and then you decided, I'm not this isn't 816 00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:13,160 Speaker 3: for me. 817 00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:14,560 Speaker 2: He's got a little bit too weird at the end. 818 00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:16,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I got a little bit like too much for you. 819 00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:20,040 Speaker 1: And you got out of there, and I'm trying, like 820 00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:24,160 Speaker 1: I'm trying to think. I wonder like what made him 821 00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:26,040 Speaker 1: screaming on the dude's name, or he. 822 00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:27,799 Speaker 2: Must have a crush on them, or but there's kind 823 00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:30,600 Speaker 2: of like there's three boundaries right there, and he's done 824 00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:31,279 Speaker 2: all the right things. 825 00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:31,920 Speaker 1: Do you want to do it? 826 00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,759 Speaker 2: She said yes, the next one was daddy, and then the. 827 00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:37,000 Speaker 1: Next one is another person's name. 828 00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:39,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, be good in the bedroom is. 829 00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:45,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's hard as well. It's like I think, so 830 00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:49,520 Speaker 3: she did think no, and then she goes. 831 00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:51,560 Speaker 1: You know what, I'd fuck it, I'll try it. Yeah. 832 00:40:52,440 --> 00:40:54,560 Speaker 2: But then I think we love an open minded bad Yeah, 833 00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:58,319 Speaker 2: we love it open minded baddie, And like you know, 834 00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:01,920 Speaker 2: reading it, all things can sitd I think that everything 835 00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:06,879 Speaker 2: was done properly and at least she can tell the story. Yeah, 836 00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:08,279 Speaker 2: I don't recond and race it. 837 00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:09,840 Speaker 1: It's kind of like, fuck, guess what happened on my 838 00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:12,880 Speaker 1: one nightstand? True, it's it's a story to be told. 839 00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:13,719 Speaker 1: Let's be real. 840 00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:16,560 Speaker 2: It's a story to be told. And it's a good confession. 841 00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:21,239 Speaker 2: It is a good confession. Who was bigger than strap On. 842 00:41:21,320 --> 00:41:22,720 Speaker 1: Or his fuck? 843 00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:26,480 Speaker 2: He surely brought one that smaller in his own As 844 00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:27,879 Speaker 2: a man, you'd have to have. 845 00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:32,399 Speaker 1: You would have to like knowing a man's mentality to be. 846 00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:35,480 Speaker 2: Fair like as a girl like that. It's kind of 847 00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:39,200 Speaker 2: like that is it called dom like domin matrix type mindset? 848 00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:39,239 Speaker 3: Like? 849 00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:43,279 Speaker 2: And so yeah, it's like the dynamic shifted, like okay, 850 00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:43,759 Speaker 2: here we go. 851 00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:47,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, so at that point in time, she was kind 852 00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:50,280 Speaker 3: of obviously playing the dom and he was enjoying playing 853 00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,440 Speaker 3: the sub. Interesting, I could say that thing like hot 854 00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:56,520 Speaker 3: knowing you know, honestly the same, the dynamic shift not 855 00:41:56,520 --> 00:42:00,520 Speaker 3: for me, but not for me, nothing with them. 856 00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:01,839 Speaker 1: But I mean, it's not. 857 00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:06,720 Speaker 3: Something I've ever really even thought about. It's a funny story. 858 00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:10,280 Speaker 2: Well, Battie, that was another dilemmas. 859 00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:12,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope you enjoyed it. 860 00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:15,360 Speaker 2: I'll just put a link in the description for generalized dilemmas. 861 00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:17,359 Speaker 2: If you've got anything going on at the moment, link 862 00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:18,000 Speaker 2: will be there. 863 00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:19,759 Speaker 1: Yeah, and as you know, we answered them on the 864 00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:21,640 Speaker 1: Monday episodes exactly. 865 00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:24,719 Speaker 2: And also if you want more, there's stuff over on 866 00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:27,719 Speaker 2: Patreon book Club early actually episode every week, and there's 867 00:42:27,880 --> 00:42:29,840 Speaker 2: extensions of dilemmas here and there everywhere. 868 00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:31,880 Speaker 1: Stay, we love you.