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Speaker 1: Welcome back to hear me out.

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Speaker 2: Today is a very very special guest. We have Busy

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Speaker 2: Newbolds my Pete.

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Speaker 3: Hello, I'm so happy to be here too, Easies.

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Speaker 1: I don't think we've had had teasies before. How did

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Speaker 1: we meet?

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Speaker 3: I don't even remember. I feel like I've known you

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Speaker 3: my whole life.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I've known easy since. She probably met my sister

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Speaker 2: when they were in year seven?

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Speaker 3: Is that when you met or you know, yeah, eight

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Speaker 3: or you're known.

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Speaker 1: And I'm two years younger, so I've known them since.

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Speaker 3: Then, since you were twelve and I was fourteen.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy. I'm so happy to have you.

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Speaker 2: I feel like so many people are so into the.

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Speaker 1: Whole fitness hits boy.

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Speaker 3: That I've got going on now, the full thing. It's

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Speaker 3: all happening, all happening.

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Speaker 2: So I thought her better to come on and help

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Speaker 2: with some of those questions, especially coming into the new

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Speaker 2: year and obviously wanting to do that whole self betterment

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Speaker 2: New Year's resolution.

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Speaker 3: Bullshit, Yep, it's coming, it's coming in January.

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Speaker 1: It's coming.

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Speaker 3: People are slowly falling off now, yeah, and then as

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Speaker 3: soon as John comes people will be wanting to get by.

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Speaker 2: It's silly and though I feel like, give yourself a

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Speaker 2: bit of grace in this period. But I think it's

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Speaker 2: so funny though, because I've spoken to you guys before

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Speaker 2: about my job at the call center and how I

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Speaker 2: worked at the call center for two years full.

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Speaker 1: Time Monday Friday nine to five.

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Speaker 2: Actually we were rocking eleven till seven shifts, which was

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Speaker 2: a fucking nightmare and a half.

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Speaker 1: But Izzy was next to me every single day.

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Speaker 3: For like a year and a half.

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Speaker 2: For like a year and a half, it was the

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Speaker 2: craziest job in the fucking world.

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Speaker 3: I actually will never like I can't when I think

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Speaker 3: about it. You'd look around the room and you'd know

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Speaker 3: fifty people.

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Speaker 2: No, I feel like it filled that thing for us

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Speaker 2: that we missed not going to a college school. It

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Speaker 2: was very much that for the first couple of years

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Speaker 2: out of school. Yeah, there was probably like eighty people

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Speaker 2: on the floor all up, and I reckon we knew

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Speaker 2: personally fifty of them.

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Speaker 3: It was the funnest job, though at.

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Speaker 2: That time I had fucking shit thrown across me at

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Speaker 2: over the pool table. We pulled the spoiled brat in

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Speaker 2: front of the whole fucking team during the ping pong tournment.

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Speaker 3: But no, my memory is so bad it is mad.

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Speaker 3: I don't remember, like And.

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Speaker 2: Then our team leader was like, don't you fucking like

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Speaker 2: ship was? It was not a normal job.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't And like every Friday night everyone would go

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Speaker 3: out like to all hours of the morning.

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Speaker 2: People would be fucking drinking during work. It was crazy.

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Speaker 2: And the funny thing was easy and I were on

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Speaker 2: we both had a crusher on these two boys that

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Speaker 3: Everyone'd always be like stir.

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Speaker 2: We just leaned down that little bit to seven down

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Speaker 2: the corridor and it was It was actually so fun.

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Speaker 3: It was excitement.

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Speaker 2: It was excitement, and we got to look cute every day,

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Speaker 2: but not too cute.

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Speaker 1: Sorry.

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Speaker 3: When I think about my fashion back then, what was

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Speaker 2: Imagine how much better it would have been if it

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Speaker 2: was ten now I know, But then it's like, I

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Speaker 2: really am glad that I'm not in that period of

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Speaker 2: my life. It was like anxiety. I remember I crashed

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Speaker 2: my car and the remember my first day there, and

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Speaker 2: I you, you remember nothing. This has got the worst

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Speaker 2: where the fucking rock. My first day on that job,

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Speaker 2: I scratched the shit out of a BMW neck. I

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Speaker 3: I think I do remember that slightly.

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Speaker 2: And I was late and when I got like the

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Speaker 2: worst blood nose of my life, and I left my

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Speaker 2: But everyone thought I just didn't show up. But my

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I don't remember that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And I couldn't call anyone and say hey, I'm here.

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Speaker 3: I'm here. Yeah, he's got a blood nose.

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Speaker 2: For the last two hours, I'm losing blood quickly. Someone

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Speaker 2: called all the fucking ambulance.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that was a lot, that was a party period.

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Speaker 3: That was a party period, and then we went into lockdown.

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Speaker 3: It was a blessing.

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Speaker 1: It was because it got us out of that job.

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Speaker 1: I think I don't know if I would have quit others.

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Speaker 3: I stayed in that job for another show.

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Speaker 1: Sitting at my desk in my dad's study.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's when I first started vaping, actually, because I

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Speaker 2: was quite a heavy smoker back in the day. Disgusting habit.

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Speaker 2: But Dad was like, I can't smoke while I'm sitting

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Speaker 2: at a fucking desk. Like, Dad was like, try this now.

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Speaker 2: It was under those little two hundred puff mini bars

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Speaker 2: and then I stole them from him for fucking weeks.

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Speaker 1: But I think that got us out of that job.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, it was one of those things where it's

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Speaker 2: like no one really wanted to quit because it was

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Speaker 2: such an environment that everyone knew was in. It was

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Speaker 2: like you were the cool kids working at the calls.

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Speaker 3: But I feel like, as soon as you're sitting at

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Speaker 3: your desk doing that job selling electricity and gus calling people,

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Speaker 3: annoying people, you didn't want to No.

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Speaker 2: No, it was the worst, most mundane, definitely job in

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Speaker 3: That in your house by yourself.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but we were inbound, which, in case you guys

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Speaker 2: don't know what that means, people are calling us now, Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 2: best job in that was a lot better because you

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Speaker 2: could see where you were in the queue and who

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Speaker 2: was going to pick up the call next, and if

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Speaker 2: it was you, you'd reset You're you'd go offline quickly

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Speaker 2: to the bottom of the queue. So then you had

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Speaker 2: another hour and a half before living came to you.

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Speaker 2: So we'd pick up one or two calls a day

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Speaker 2: at getting paid normal.

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Speaker 3: Amount, watching Netflix.

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Speaker 2: Like all watching Netflix right next to you on the

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Speaker 1: And you know when they're about to do it, and

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Speaker 1: you'll just reset it. Literally that was that was a

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Speaker 2: And they knew it. Oh yeah, there was something they

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Speaker 2: could do in my home byere me. Oh I didn't

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Speaker 2: get any sales before and he still didn't. So here

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Speaker 2: we are to stay.

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Speaker 1: But firstly, yes him here please friends the gold message

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Speaker 1: or ex whenever, really your fucking friends.

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Speaker 3: To begin with non.

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Speaker 2: Funnily enough, I'll start with I saw a psychic and

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Speaker 2: he's actually seeing this psychic as well, and she's.

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Speaker 3: I need to share something on that.

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Speaker 1: Oh you do.

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Speaker 2: She's insane, said so many amazing things. But the thing

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Speaker 2: about a psychic because I guess how good really are

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Speaker 2: they until you start seeing things that they've said happened.

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Speaker 3: Come to fruition.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so a lot of the things she said, we'll

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Speaker 2: probably be while before i'd noticed them. But she did

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Speaker 2: say one thing, there's someone I have some issues with,

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Speaker 2: and she was like, this person is going to do

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Speaker 2: it's the next couple of weeks and they've done it.

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Speaker 2: They fucking slid into my ex's DMS.

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Speaker 3: It's actually wild. I didn't know that she'd said that

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Speaker 2: That, yeah, it keeps in my mind. And the girl

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Speaker 2: But they messaged my ex and I obviously messaged them

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Speaker 2: and was like really, like really and it turned into

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Speaker 2: since you were like seventeen, Like this isn't this is

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Speaker 2: my older ex by the way, So yeah, we haven't

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Speaker 2: dated in a long time, but he did really fuck

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Speaker 2: me over and you guys would know all about that

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Speaker 2: with you know, sleeping with my best friend or that shit.

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Speaker 1: It was a long carry on fucking four.

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Speaker 2: Years dilemma with this man of like how long the

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Speaker 2: trauma carried on for me?

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I weirdly got upset, Like I didn't think something like

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Speaker 3: I think it's fair as well, given your history. And

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Speaker 3: it's just the principal at the end of the day,

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Speaker 3: it doesn't matter who it is or what it's about.

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Speaker 3: It's just like having it's the betrayal of trust.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and knowing like I've had so many friends in

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Speaker 2: the past. I have so many beautiful friends, but I

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Speaker 2: have had a lot of old friends that have betrayed

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Speaker 2: where you don't trust me, Like, I would never do

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Speaker 2: anything like that. Yeah, it's not fair, And I'm like,

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Speaker 2: it takes me a while to get there. It does,

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Speaker 2: but if you're a good friend, I will get there.

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Speaker 1: I will trust you. Do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: So for this, I would never fucking do something like this.

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Speaker 2: And I'm just I'm angry, and I was upset, And

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Speaker 2: what I was getting at is that the psychic said

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Speaker 2: And that made me go, holy shit, this woman is

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Speaker 2: a fucking witch.

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Speaker 3: She is an like absolute witch.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I feel like ever since I've seen her, my life

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Speaker 3: has changed. It was like four weeks ago. Within the

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Speaker 3: space of like these four weeks. Yes, she's said stuff

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Speaker 3: that like I sort of knew deep down, but I

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Speaker 3: have also been actioning things. Yeah, And she said specifically

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Speaker 3: something about she kept saying something about March next year, right,

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Speaker 3: and she was like, there's going to be a massive

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Speaker 3: energetic shift. And she also said, you need to move

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Speaker 3: out of home.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, so you wanted to move

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Speaker 1: out of home since we were working.

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Speaker 3: Time and I tried like three times, but I know,

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Speaker 3: like the past year I've been at home and it's

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Speaker 3: been something like that's just like keeps like coming up.

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Speaker 3: And anyway, she said it, and I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna I have to action it now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I got two houses in Yeah, and the second house

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Speaker 3: I saw, I walked in and I was like, okay,

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Speaker 3: I know this is the one, like I need to

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Speaker 3: have this. Yeah, and I'm going to do anything.

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Speaker 3: You know you don't have to be fully healed. You're

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Speaker 2: Because I don't want to date someone because I feel lonely,

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Speaker 1: I'm two thousands year of the dragon, isn't it? I

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Speaker 3: It's a year of shedding your old identity, letting go

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Speaker 3: And I find that that feels true for me. I

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Speaker 2: This has been the best year of my life today

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Speaker 3: Now. That's setting boundaries, and setting boundaries is the most

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Speaker 2: But it's like, I also think being that yes man

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Speaker 3: And what I've learned is your true friends will understand

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Speaker 3: Like for example, when I stopped drinking for my longest

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Speaker 3: I was saying no to it like lot of things,

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Speaker 2: And people that are pushing you to drink, it's like

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Speaker 3: Also, people who push you to drink often just want

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like they want you to have as much

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Speaker 2: They just want to have someone alongside them so they're

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Speaker 3: No, And I feel like when I did that, that

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Speaker 2: No, completely, And I want to get into all the

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Speaker 2: But I first want to start. We have a couple

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Speaker 1: What do you do? You've got your fucking busy She's

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Speaker 3: Girl, gotten busy. Yeah. So I'm working at groups in

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Speaker 3: Hawthorne and I have the best boss in the world.

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Speaker 3: Chout out to Obi is the best. I have only

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Speaker 3: been there for six months now and I am loving

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Speaker 3: it and I cannot believe how much it's.

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Speaker 2: Just shut up and yeah, it's just shut up. How

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Speaker 3: This week is forty seven sessions?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, crazy, which is crazy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and like having to turn people away now, which

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's only so many hours in the day. And

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Speaker 3: then found OBI found this gym and it just all

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Speaker 3: like aligned.

447
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Speaker 2: So well, yeah, and that's where I train now, and

448
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Speaker 2: I feel like being there has been the first time

449
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Speaker 2: in my life where I've had, like i'll say, somewhat

450
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Speaker 2: consistent exercise schedule, because there's obviously still those days where

451
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Speaker 2: I'll like wake up in the morning and I'm like, yusy,

452
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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I can't fucking do it, like I just

453
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Speaker 2: like morning, like this morning. But what my psychologist said,

454
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Speaker 2: dust your eese off. That was early this morning. Now

455
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Speaker 2: I hear it doesn't matter, So I try and make

456
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Speaker 2: myself not feel guiltyuse what I said to easy is

457
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Speaker 2: it tends to then spiral into me canceling more than

458
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Speaker 2: i'd like to because I'm like, I did it yesterday.

459
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Speaker 1: Oh I feel guilty.

460
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Speaker 2: I'm tired now and oh it's a fucking mess anyway, okay,

461
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Speaker 2: hear me out walking is better than running before you,

462
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Speaker 2: I assume.

463
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Speaker 3: There's two answers to that, So it depends what you're

464
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Speaker 3: doing it for. If you're doing it for like your

465
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Speaker 3: mental health and running makes you feel good, then great

466
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Speaker 3: that the running is your thing.

467
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Speaker 1: Some people clear their mind when they run, and I know.

468
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Speaker 3: That there's a few people who are like that. And

469
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Speaker 3: then if.

470
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Speaker 2: Psychos if don't know what they're talking about, but not you.

471
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Speaker 2: If I could run, I fucking would.

472
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah you could if you tried.

473
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Speaker 1: If you tried, my lung capacity is next to nothing.

474
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Speaker 3: And then in terms of like Futler and weight loss,

475
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Speaker 3: doing your walking, your steps is like a very good,

476
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Speaker 3: low impact, low stressful thing on your body, and it's

477
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Speaker 3: just you're exerting more energy, it's more output, and it's

478
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Speaker 3: not making you as hungry as running does. So for example,

479
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Speaker 3: say if I was wanting to lose weight, I was

480
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Speaker 3: getting fifteen thousand steps a day and it wasn't making

481
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Speaker 3: me more hungry, and which is a good thing, because

482
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Speaker 3: I was trying to eat less. Whereas if I'm running,

483
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Speaker 3: like last year I trained for a full marathon, I

484
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Speaker 3: was eating so much just to fuel myself, just to

485
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Speaker 3: be able to get through the day.

486
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Speaker 1: Food is fuel.

487
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Speaker 3: Yeah, food is fuel. But there's two answers to that, and.

488
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Speaker 2: That depends what it's for. It depends what it's for

489
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Speaker 2: for weight loss, walking is probably better. I agree, Yeah,

490
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Speaker 2: all right, hear me out. It requires discipline, not.

491
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Speaker 3: Motivation, Yes, one hundred percent.

492
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Speaker 1: I think you need both.

493
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Speaker 3: Yes, But I feel like action is what gives you

494
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Speaker 3: the motivation. And then if you're disciplined, it's like, for example,

495
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Speaker 3: with me, I get up at four p fifty every morning.

496
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Speaker 1: Fuckingly, sorry, that's just discipline.

497
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Speaker 3: It's not like I'm motivated to do that everything.

498
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Speaker 1: I guess it's true. It's like I'm motivated.

499
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Speaker 2: I want to look what, I want to be strong,

500
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Speaker 2: but I don't have the discipline to be as consistent

501
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Speaker 2: as I need to be.

502
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's like a discipline.

503
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Speaker 3: If I have to do five weight sessions a week,

504
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Speaker 3: the discipline will get me through that. I've got a

505
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Speaker 3: full week. I have to fit those sessions in. Like,

506
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Speaker 3: for example, last week, I had to go into the

507
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Speaker 3: gym on Sunday because I had no time during the week.

508
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Speaker 3: So I do believe that discipline wins over motivation.

509
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Speaker 1: What the fuck?

510
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Speaker 3: As in?

511
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Speaker 1: I don't really get what they're saying here, but see

512
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Speaker 1: me out.

513
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Speaker 2: Supplements are just expensive pee unless you get your blood's

514
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Speaker 2: done and you need it. I don't really know what

515
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Speaker 2: they mean by expensive pea, but maybe are supplements? Do

516
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Speaker 2: you think supplements are worth it? I guess is what

517
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Speaker 2: we're kind of getting.

518
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Speaker 3: There depends which supplements.

519
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Speaker 1: I feel like, what would you say a good supplement

520
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Speaker 1: that people should be taking?

521
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Speaker 3: So for me, my non negotiable is electrolytes. I will

522
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Speaker 3: have them as soon as I wake up every.

523
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Speaker 1: Day, like a hydraulde or a level or I have.

524
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Speaker 3: A salty electrolyte. You can have soady, you can have

525
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Speaker 3: you know what's it called?

526
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Speaker 1: Tastes savory.

527
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Speaker 3: Mine tastes salty, But I like that because I can

528
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Speaker 3: put it in my water bottle and I don't have

529
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Speaker 3: to wash it out every time I have it, whereas

530
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Speaker 3: if you put like a flavored one in it ruins

531
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Speaker 3: you drink bottle.

532
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Speaker 2: Because I was taking drinking electrolytes, non shopping select no

533
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Speaker 2: normal water, only electrotes, and I got my nose job.

534
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Speaker 1: Lol. I love how you're like fit. I'm like nose job,

535
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Speaker 1: like I like your lives.

536
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Speaker 2: Full time for like three months and I never I

537
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Speaker 2: rented my bottle out, but I watched her.

538
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Speaker 3: Water bottle and she found mold in them.

539
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Speaker 2: Like black mold, and I was like, this is why

540
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Speaker 2: I'm so fucking sick. I did actually tell everyone on

541
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Speaker 2: here when it happened, and so many girls messaged me

542
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Speaker 2: and was like, holy fucking shit, I just checked my

543
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Speaker 2: water bottle.

544
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Speaker 1: It's fucking mold.

545
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Speaker 3: Terrifying. Yeah, because when do you think anyway we don't

546
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Speaker 3: need to go down that wall?

547
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Speaker 1: No, when do I think I last watched that?

548
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Speaker 3: Probably I don't I remember, And I was just thinking

549
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Speaker 3: that as I pulled up, because I was like embarrassed

550
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Speaker 3: to bring it in.

551
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Speaker 2: I now have to because my thing is I don't

552
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Speaker 2: watch them because I like to still use them.

553
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Speaker 1: So now it's like I'll use that for a week

554
00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:01,840
Speaker 1: only water.

555
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Speaker 2: I don't put electrolytes in my water bottle anymore because

556
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Speaker 2: of that trauma, and I think that's fair.

557
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Speaker 3: Well, I need to give ones because they're good. But

558
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Speaker 3: anyway back to supplements electrolytes, Yes, creatine is a performance

559
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Speaker 3: enhancer and I take that to just compliment my training.

560
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Speaker 3: And then the other one I take is amino acids,

561
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Speaker 3: but they're the three main ones. And then the other

562
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Speaker 3: one is magnesium for sleep.

563
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I take magnesium at night, But I have a

564
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Speaker 2: question about creatine. Creatine to me, almost seems like something

565
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Speaker 2: that's very for like people that are really hardcore into training.

566
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Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean to give you the

567
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Speaker 2: extra energy use to extra strengths.

568
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Speaker 1: I don't fucking know what.

569
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Speaker 2: It doesn't talk down my house, But I never thought

570
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Speaker 2: I'm like at a level where like I can start

571
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Speaker 2: incorporating creatine.

572
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Speaker 3: It's good for cognitive function as well. But it's also

573
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Speaker 3: just the one percent time. It's not gonna like make

574
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Speaker 3: your body totally different.

575
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Speaker 1: I felt like it would make me feel like the

576
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Speaker 1: Hulk like it.

577
00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:57,639
Speaker 3: Just like it helps with your muscle recovery. Slow down there.

578
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Speaker 1: Girl, So it doesn't. I don't like I'm not gonna

579
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Speaker 1: like feel different whenever.

580
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 3: It's just good for recovery, cognitive function, muscle growth. Yeah,

581
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Speaker 3: it's just those little one.

582
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Speaker 1: Percent take it more before training.

583
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Speaker 3: I take it as I'm training, right, Bevore, you can

584
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Speaker 3: take it anytime of the day. Okay, Yeah, I'll thank you.

585
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Speaker 1: All right, hear me out. Bf T is a cult.

586
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Speaker 2: And if it isn't, then why did I have seven

587
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Speaker 2: people try to recruit me at the pub?

588
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Speaker 1: Is that a it's a gym?

589
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Speaker 3: BFT I can't speak on that because I've never done it.

590
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Speaker 2: It's like a core plus sort of thing, Like it's

591
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Speaker 2: just a brand gym training fucking Maybe I want to

592
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Speaker 2: know why you had seven people recruiting you any part?

593
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Speaker 2: What did you This is if you ever had a

594
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Speaker 2: Planet Fitness in America, I feel like it's a gym

595
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Speaker 2: I only it's randomly coming up in my feed now

596
00:22:43,359 --> 00:22:45,360
Speaker 2: fits well, Girly, I've got all this gym shit coming

597
00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 2: up with and there's this thing called the lunk alarm.

598
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Speaker 1: We never heard about it.

599
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Speaker 2: It's like in Planet Fitness gyms, and that's why a

600
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Speaker 2: lot of people they talk about how much they fucking

601
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Speaker 2: hate it and like why they've stopped then going to

602
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Speaker 2: Planet Fitness. It's this alarm that someone behind the desk

603
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Speaker 2: has access to. Basically lunking or like being a lunk

604
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Speaker 2: is Like I'm saying this purely based off the fact

605
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 2: that I googled it yesterday, not because I know anything

606
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Speaker 2: about it.

607
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Speaker 1: So like, don't come at me if I'm saying something wrong.

608
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Speaker 2: People that like grunt and throw, like will drop weights

609
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Speaker 2: if they do a really heavy set and they've done

610
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Speaker 2: it and they kin'd of just drop it. And it's like,

611
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Speaker 2: but I'm like people gruntings them like kind of what

612
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Speaker 2: is it called like training till failure or something?

613
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Speaker 1: What don't fucking lie I did do that today, Yeah, grunting.

614
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Speaker 2: But I'm like, really they set the alarm off and

615
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Speaker 2: it's just used that goes off from grunting. Even they

616
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Speaker 2: think it's like a bad environment or like makes people uncomfortable.

617
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Speaker 2: I'm like, so someone, there's all these videos of people

618
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Speaker 2: like silently finishing their sets, like and making sure they

619
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Speaker 2: like don't grunt or say anything. They're like because they're

620
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Speaker 2: a ptsc from fucking Planet Fitness and.

621
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Speaker 1: The lung alarm.

622
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Speaker 3: I've never heard of that.

623
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Speaker 2: Yeah, just like today anything like that in Australia, like

624
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Speaker 2: glam because I wouldn't think that grunting is an issue.

625
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Speaker 2: Like if a guy's grunting, get a gym or a

626
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Speaker 2: girl's gone to get a gym, I'm like, go you.

627
00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:02,119
Speaker 3: I don't think it's an issue, but it depends how loud.

628
00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 3: And I also really don't like when someone slams their

629
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Speaker 3: weights down or slams the equipment. I like, when I'm

630
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Speaker 3: training someone that happens, I like turn around because it's

631
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Speaker 3: just like.

632
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Speaker 2: Freakscept maybe it's like they their muscles are so tired

633
00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:18,200
Speaker 2: that they like can't let it down either carry it's

634
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:19,720
Speaker 2: a bit to carry on. Well, yeah, that's why the

635
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 2: alarm will go off. You're in plant lulum, Yeah, the

636
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 2: lunk alarm. And they also said people that have a

637
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Speaker 2: big one, what's like the big measure of water, not

638
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Speaker 2: a leader, like the you know, the like the jugs

639
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:33,399
Speaker 2: that they basically have in Bali that they put in

640
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 2: your fucking water mission a tank, like a tank of water,

641
00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:40,439
Speaker 2: like a bucket, basically those like blue tanky not bottles.

642
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Speaker 2: You know, people have them, but they're like these massive ones.

643
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Speaker 2: If you bring one of those in in Planet Fitness

644
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Speaker 2: and it doesn't have a screw top or something, you'll

645
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:49,359
Speaker 2: get lunk alarmed. Or if you wear a singlet with

646
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 2: your nipple showing like a man females, you'll get lunk alarm.

647
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Speaker 1: What else.

648
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Speaker 2: So it's more that I thought was interesting grunting, yelling,

649
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Speaker 2: dropping weights, which via it's their judgment free zone. I'm like,

650
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 2: how is grunting violating judgment free zone?

651
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 3: Just doesn't make sense.

652
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 2: I think it's also about filming. It's like filming yourself

653
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Speaker 2: on the tripo. You'll also get lunk alarmed for it.

654
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 3: Fair. Can't say I don't do that befair anyway.

655
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Speaker 1: Filming yourself in a TRAPO, yeah, people do it.

656
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Speaker 2: I hate seeing those videos where men like fucking flip

657
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Speaker 2: their shit because there's a woman filming themselves. So you're

658
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:25,600
Speaker 2: not in the background, baby, and if you are, move.

659
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Speaker 1: Move, move your ass, move yours.

660
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Speaker 2: Yet they like go and fucking slam the chick's phone down.

661
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,120
Speaker 2: I'm like, you now look like an arshole. She got

662
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Speaker 2: it on camera.

663
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Speaker 3: I actually saw a really bad one. Were probably talking

664
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Speaker 3: about the same.

665
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Speaker 2: Yeah, was like he was in a blue of red

666
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 2: t shirt. Yeah, he like put his weight down and

667
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:42,919
Speaker 2: then smacked her phone off the sand. She's like, you

668
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 2: weren't even in it, but you are now and it's online.

669
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:48,199
Speaker 2: So arseholes anyway.

670
00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 3: Can I say hear me out?

671
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:50,400
Speaker 1: Please?

672
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 3: Okay, because it's happened to me on the weekend, go

673
00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 3: hear me out. Getting to a social event where you

674
00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:01,560
Speaker 3: don't know many people on time is more stressful than being.

675
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 1: Late, yep, because everyone's sober.

676
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 3: Yep. This happened to me on the weekend and I

677
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,240
Speaker 3: knew two people and they were both in conversation and

678
00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:10,639
Speaker 3: I was standing on the outskirts on my phone, and

679
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:13,199
Speaker 3: I wanted to like, oh no, no, no, no, be swallowed up.

680
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 1: That's a socialis.

681
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,040
Speaker 2: Some people don't mind, and some people are really happy

682
00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:19,600
Speaker 2: to kind of just start getting in conversations with new people.

683
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 2: I need to talk to the people I know until

684
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:23,879
Speaker 2: I'm comfortable and like.

685
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:25,560
Speaker 1: That will probably be a while.

686
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:27,439
Speaker 2: But it's like when you go to an event and

687
00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:28,879
Speaker 2: you know one person, You're like, I need you to

688
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 2: stay with me.

689
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:30,679
Speaker 1: Do not leave me.

690
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 3: My introvertness could not happen.

691
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:33,959
Speaker 1: You feel like everyone's looking at you.

692
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 3: I know, I just.

693
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:38,679
Speaker 1: Anxiety, man, So I.

694
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 3: Can hear me out. Yeah, if you too loudly, yeah me,

695
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:46,200
Speaker 3: I will politely ask you to leave the room, okay,

696
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,440
Speaker 3: or I will remove myself from the room.

697
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 2: I think I could be allowed to her. Have you

698
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:55,479
Speaker 2: never noticed it? Maybe I used to. I don't have

699
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 2: people pull me up on it regularly. I just think

700
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:01,199
Speaker 2: I had a specific friend, said friend that would always

701
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 2: get angry at me for the way I bite my

702
00:27:03,560 --> 00:27:06,840
Speaker 2: back teeth because I smack my jaw a lot when

703
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 2: I'm anxious, really and like, so if I'm sitting there,

704
00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 2: I won't be eating anything, but I'll smack my back

705
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 2: teeth together and they always get really angry at me

706
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 2: for it, and I'm like, I can't control it, Like

707
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 2: it's still I'm doing it because I'm stressed.

708
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 1: So maybe that not so much allowed to it.

709
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 2: But I think you need to remove yourself because telling

710
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 2: someone to move is rude.

711
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 3: I agree, fair depending on how close you are with

712
00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:26,439
Speaker 3: that person.

713
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:28,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a hear me out that's gym related.

714
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 1: Please hear me out.

715
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 2: Going to the gym without a PT is actually really

716
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 2: fucking intimidating.

717
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:35,000
Speaker 3: And hard one hundred percent.

718
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 2: Like I wouldn't be able to go into a gym alone.

719
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 2: And the reason I have easy ears because it's like

720
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:42,160
Speaker 2: she's telling me what to do. But it's like gyms

721
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 2: are very male sentence spaces a lot at the time,

722
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 2: and like I would not be comfortable going even now

723
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 2: after I've done some more training and I kind of

724
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 2: know maybe what I'd be doing, I wouldn't.

725
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:55,520
Speaker 1: Feel comfortable going to Like what's a fucking gym called?

726
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: I literally.

727
00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,680
Speaker 3: Fitness? Yeah. No, I feel like every time you walk

728
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 3: into a new gym, it's like you don't know where

729
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 3: anything is, you don't know the setup, so you don't

730
00:28:04,280 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 3: want to be like standing looking around, like not knowing

731
00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:08,119
Speaker 3: what you're doing. It's embarrassing.

732
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:11,400
Speaker 2: I just think it's intimidating really to any one that's

733
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 2: going to the gym on their own. Like, let's go

734
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:15,240
Speaker 2: to the gym in Bali. I'm like, have you seen

735
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:16,760
Speaker 2: how many hot men working that's out in the gym

736
00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:18,119
Speaker 2: at Bali. No, I will not be going to the

737
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 2: gym at Bali unless I have a pt telling me

738
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 2: what to do.

739
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:24,159
Speaker 3: The one, the one in uha Watu, the Bamboo Fitness.

740
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:25,200
Speaker 1: Oh, I've never been.

741
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:28,720
Speaker 3: Oh, it's so funny, it's it's I love it. It's hilarious.

742
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 1: It's a testosterone hut.

743
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 3: It is a scene.

744
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

745
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:36,199
Speaker 3: I was watching because we went away with another couple

746
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:39,680
Speaker 3: and I was watching one of the guys I was with.

747
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 3: He was watching a girl do like a headstand and

748
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 3: his eyes were coming out of his head. He was like,

749
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 3: what's going.

750
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 2: It's like show Off Central. Everyone's flexing their muscles in there.

751
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 2: Everyone's shirtless. No, you couldn't possibly wear a shirt exercising. No, No,

752
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 2: you need to be barefoot and shirtless if you want

753
00:28:56,760 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 2: to work out at Bamboo Fitness.

754
00:28:57,960 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 3: Yes, correct.

755
00:28:58,480 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 2: And I feel like if you have a shirt on.

756
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:02,040
Speaker 2: All the other bros in there are like, ooh, you're

757
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 2: still got You've got something to hide.

758
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 3: Yeah anyway, no, how I actually love that gym.

759
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 2: I would love to go, but maybe I need to

760
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 2: go with you so you can you can train me,

761
00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 2: because yeah, I just I don't have the Like we've

762
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 2: just stated, we're both socially anxious people.

763
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 1: I just I couldn't do it.

764
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's like, yeah, it's different being told what

765
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 3: to do by a trainer. It's like you don't have

766
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 3: to think about it. You've got someone who knows what

767
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,240
Speaker 3: they're saying, who knows what they're doing, who has a

768
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 3: method to what It's.

769
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 2: Like if your form shit, that's not my fault, that's

770
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 2: your fault because you should be telling me how to

771
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 2: fix it. Whereas it's like if I'm on my loansome

772
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 2: fucking about to break my back, everyone's like, girl, fix

773
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 2: your phone, fix your phone?

774
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 1: What do you do?

775
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 3: Then it's my fault if you're with me with.

776
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 1: My phone.

777
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 2: Definitely anyway, Basically props to any female that regularly goes

778
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 2: to a gym by themselves, because like, I really wish

779
00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 2: I had that in me, but I don't.

780
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 1: Okay, let's get into you. You used to be a

781
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 1: three six five party girl.

782
00:29:58,480 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 3: I love it. I love that.

783
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 2: When did you transition from party to sort of training

784
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 2: and health?

785
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 3: It was honestly during lockdown. So from probably the age

786
00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 3: of I reckon sixteen was when I like properly started

787
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 3: like partying. And it was every weekend from sixteen onwards,

788
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 3: and it did become problematic, like I'm not gonna lie.

789
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 3: It was a problematic thing for me, and I always wondered,

790
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 3: why am I different to my friends?

791
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 1: Why do I take it too far?

792
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 3: Yeah? Why do I take it too far? Why does

793
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 3: alcohol not react well to me? And I always thought

794
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 3: there was something wrong with me, But it's like, first

795
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 3: of all, taking a step back. If I can't ingest

796
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,120
Speaker 3: a drug properly, that is not my fault. It's a

797
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 3: drug like you're not meant to have it, do you

798
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 3: know what I mean? Anyway, I was in this cycle

799
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 3: of every weekend, I'd go out and I'd drink. Sometimes

800
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 3: I'd black out. The next day would always be literally.

801
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 1: I'd just be full of apologies and regret.

802
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 3: And hell on earth, like self induced hell on Earth.

803
00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 3: And it was just Yeah, this toxic cycle and I

804
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 3: didn't how to break out of it. And I remember

805
00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,680
Speaker 3: this moment. I was like I was walking around the

806
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,520
Speaker 3: town and I was like trying to find podcasts of

807
00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 3: people who had gone sober, and I could not find any,

808
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,200
Speaker 3: Like I was like searching, searching. I was like, I

809
00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 3: need I want to get out of this cycle. I

810
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:17,520
Speaker 3: need like I need help. Yeah, and anyway, it wasn't.

811
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:19,240
Speaker 3: I think I found one and it was it was

812
00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 3: quite helpful, but it wasn't until twenty nineteen. Obviously, everyone

813
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 3: went into lockdown and my partner at the time was like,

814
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 3: why don't you do dry July because he so I

815
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 3: think it was after a night out. I'd blacked out.

816
00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 3: I was hysterically crying, and he was like, why don't

817
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:35,719
Speaker 3: you start Why don't you try dry July. And I

818
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:37,960
Speaker 3: was like, Okay, that's a good idea. We're in lockdown and.

819
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:39,800
Speaker 2: It kind of makes you feel like, Okay, whatever happened

820
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 2: last night, Fine, I'm going to start, yeah, fixing it.

821
00:31:42,160 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 3: One hundred percent. And I did it, and obviously that's

822
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 3: for a month, and I was like, wow, I did

823
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 3: not know that you could feel like this in terms

824
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:53,880
Speaker 3: of that you could feel this good. My anxiety was

825
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 3: so much less like I was, like, I feel like

826
00:31:57,040 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 3: a completely different person. And in that time I was

827
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 3: doing homework outs our friend Britt was doing on her

828
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 3: Instagram online workout.

829
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 2: Yes, I guess a question, sorry to interrupt, is that's

830
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,479
Speaker 2: really it's fucking amazing to and drive the line. It's

831
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 2: something I don't even know if I've ever even considered it,

832
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 2: but I think it's because I fear I have the

833
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 2: fear of missing out and so having started it and

834
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 2: something like lockdown is very helpful. But you say you

835
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 2: were doing it or you know they have in moments

836
00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 2: where you are going like sober when it's not lockdown?

837
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 2: Is it hard feeling like you're missing out on things?

838
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:33,479
Speaker 3: One? Honestly, it's like for me it felt like I

839
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 3: was you're basically changing your identity when I was known

840
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 3: as a like sort of a party girl, someone who

841
00:32:39,840 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 3: you could.

842
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 2: As even have one of those names we spoke about

843
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 2: in the last episode. Right, it was like, do you

844
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:45,920
Speaker 2: have an alter ego? Shost me and I don't.

845
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 1: But is he?

846
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 3: This is?

847
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 1: He did Karen, And funnily.

848
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 2: Enough, that was before Karen's became you know how Karen's

849
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:55,959
Speaker 2: are now like those fucking moms that actually was before

850
00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 2: then we just would call the Karens.

851
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 3: She was named in Europe, I think in two eighteen

852
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 3: when I was on Sour Croatia and I had to

853
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 3: get carried back onto the boat. Yes, anyway, moving.

854
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 1: On, she's dead.

855
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 3: She's dead. I'm not feel about that now she is,

856
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 3: but yeah, no, you're basically changing her identity. And it's

857
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 3: so it was so uncomfortable. Like I remember weekends where

858
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 3: I'd be sitting at home where I'm so used to

859
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 3: going out, and i would feel I'd be sitting feeling

860
00:33:22,520 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 3: so incredibly uncomfortable, and in my head, I'd just be like,

861
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 3: have foresight that what you're doing is paying off. You

862
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 3: can't see the benefits right now, but it's going to

863
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 3: pay off. And that's what just kept me going. Like

864
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 3: every Sunday morning, I'd wake up feeling fresh, and.

865
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 2: Though that Sunday morning made up for the fucking fact

866
00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 2: so that you were sitting at.

867
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 3: Home ondred percent and I remember feeling I was like,

868
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 3: no drug can top this feeling on a Sunday morning,

869
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 3: because I'd always been so used to being hungover, I'd

870
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 3: be waking up fresh on a Sunday going for a run.

871
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 3: This is when I got into running, Going for a run,

872
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 3: and I was like, there's no drug that can make

873
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 3: me feel better than how I feel right now, which

874
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 3: is self confident. My self worth was so much higher

875
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 3: because I can guarantee that if you black out your

876
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 3: self worth is it very low? Like yeah, don't you

877
00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 3: don't feel good about it?

878
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 2: Like you're going to fill in those blanks and they're

879
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 2: not going to be They're probably you're gonna make them

880
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:13,800
Speaker 2: worse than what they actually even are in your head.

881
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 2: And it's like, you know, I would say I'm somewhat

882
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 2: known as a party girl present speak.

883
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 1: I whether it's problematic yet.

884
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 2: Honestly, I don't think it's there yet, but I think

885
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,320
Speaker 2: if I can't because I think I've pulled back hectically

886
00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 2: since I've started seeing my psychologists and since, like I said,

887
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 2: I've started training more. I think I noticed myself on

888
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 2: the brink of problematic and I was like no, just

889
00:34:36,600 --> 00:34:39,280
Speaker 2: in a way that like i'd live for those weekends,

890
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. And then when I started

891
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:42,719
Speaker 2: to train, and I was like, you know, I'm getting

892
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 2: up earlier.

893
00:34:43,200 --> 00:34:44,360
Speaker 1: I feel better.

894
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 2: In every aspect yet those fucking Sunday mornings are still

895
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:48,839
Speaker 2: the bane of my fucking week.

896
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 1: Why am I still doing it?

897
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 3: Well, it's because it becomes a cycle, and it's like,

898
00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:56,879
Speaker 3: you know, you feel anxious for what three to four

899
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:57,479
Speaker 3: days after?

900
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 1: Yes, it knocks my week. So it was I think.

901
00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 2: Now I'm working with my psych mainly, like God, my

902
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 2: fucking lucky psych knows nothing about my exes or my

903
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 2: friends yet because I've been too busy being like, help

904
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 2: me with my I just want to feel better. I

905
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 2: want to be confident. I want to be happy. I

906
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 2: want to not be anxious. Look, I have anxiety.

907
00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 1: You know. How can I manage it?

908
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 3: Though?

909
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:20,239
Speaker 2: And how can I stop taking steps to make it worse.

910
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 2: It's like, yes, I take legsipro cool, but it's like

911
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 2: I'm still putting myself in situations where my anxiety is

912
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 2: going to be fucking horrible. So yes, there's definitely moments

913
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 2: where I look at that weekend and I'm like, there's

914
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,200
Speaker 2: three of my best friend's birthdays. Yeah I'm gonna be

915
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 2: drinking and yeah I'm gonna have fun. But I always

916
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:37,359
Speaker 2: now I'm going home earlier, which is fucking great, and

917
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 2: trying to at least make Sunday not today where I

918
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 2: spend it rotting in bed, because even if you get

919
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,360
Speaker 2: up and get and do something, you feel like you

920
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 2: haven't wasted it away, and I feel like then it

921
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:49,439
Speaker 2: makes your Monday better. Or a lot of the time

922
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:51,319
Speaker 2: I'll just be like, I just want drink for this,

923
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 2: because I know with the people I'm around, I could

924
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 2: get carried away. This isn't anything major, maybe it's just

925
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:58,160
Speaker 2: an event. So I'm just not going to drink for

926
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 2: this instead, and I'll just drive. It's like those little

927
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:02,720
Speaker 2: changes I think for me right now have been better

928
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 2: until I can obviously get into, you know, maybe a

929
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 2: more serious state. But I do think like you know,

930
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:10,720
Speaker 2: I love socializing and I love being out and about,

931
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 2: and I think it so important while you're single, I

932
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 2: think we should also stay.

933
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:18,319
Speaker 1: It's far harder to do that whole sober thing.

934
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 3: Well, to be honest, this brings me back to another story.

935
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 3: When I did fifteen months completely sober. That was when

936
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 3: I was twenty four. So I started my Sober Curious

937
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:31,560
Speaker 3: journey at the age of twenty one. I did months on,

938
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 3: then i'd do months off. And I remember I've been

939
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 3: journaling for since I was twenty one, so that's I've

940
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 3: got six years worth of journals. Pretty much every day

941
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:43,600
Speaker 3: I've journaled, and I've looked back on those journals. When

942
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:47,880
Speaker 3: I was struggling with alcohol, it consumed me. That was

943
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 3: literally all I wrote about it. It's like I don't

944
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 3: want to drink this weekend, blah blah blah blah, Like

945
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 3: it was all I could think about. I was like, stuck.

946
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 2: Living your life on. I need to not drink. I

947
00:36:57,040 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 2: need to not drink. Go, I'm going to drinkle. I

948
00:36:58,560 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 2: drink too much.

949
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:04,479
Speaker 3: And then I finally did fifteen months off and this

950
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 3: was when I was probably like going through the hardest period.

951
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:09,160
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's the hardest thing I've ever

952
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 3: gone through, but it was pretty intense, and it was

953
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:15,840
Speaker 3: off the back of an intense relationship that went terribly wrong.

954
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:21,120
Speaker 3: And I'm so grateful that I was sober because from

955
00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 3: the year after we broke up, because I would like,

956
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:25,040
Speaker 3: I would have been a mess, Like.

957
00:37:25,080 --> 00:37:27,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, it would have been partying to kind of forget

958
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:28,800
Speaker 2: these things, and then it would have just spiral.

959
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.

960
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 3: Compartitely in saying that being single and doing that was

961
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 3: so hard, but so rewarding, like that's when I built

962
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 3: my self confidence, and like I still went out. Don't

963
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 3: get me wrong, I still went out and I socialized.

964
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 3: I've put myself in situations where I was around the

965
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 3: people that I loved and I knew I didn't need

966
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 3: our coho to have fun. I would be you get

967
00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:53,680
Speaker 3: sort of drunk off the energy of the people you're around.

968
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 3: Then I'd go home at ten and I'd be like, Okay,

969
00:37:56,560 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 3: my social cup is full and anxiety free. I'm waking

970
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 3: up the next day. I'm getting on with my day.

971
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and that Yeah, that fifteen months was the

972
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 3: best thing I could have done for myself, because, as

973
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 3: I said, I was in a really bad place with alcohol,

974
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 3: like where I was affecting my relationships and my mental

975
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:19,839
Speaker 3: health and everything. That's why I decided to give it up.

976
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:21,880
Speaker 1: I feel like, yeah, this it's hard.

977
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:25,600
Speaker 2: Sometimes being breakup would be brutal, but even it's like

978
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:28,720
Speaker 2: you wonder when you're trying to go sober and you're single,

979
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:30,400
Speaker 2: It's like how am I going to meet people? And

980
00:38:30,440 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 2: it's like I think the key to that is still

981
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 2: socializing in those days, and the.

982
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:38,879
Speaker 3: Key to that is to not have that mentality. Yeah,

983
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 3: of how am I going to meet someone?

984
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:41,919
Speaker 2: You can meet someone at a fucking cafe. You mightn't

985
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 2: want to meet someone at fucking electying to.

986
00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 3: Meet someone at a bar when you're drunk, do you

987
00:38:46,239 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 3: really like? Yes? Of course that there's been.

988
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 1: Very a lot, Like I've never met someone at a

989
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 1: bar when I'm drunk. Yeah, I like.

990
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 2: So I'm like, why now, in this little pocket of

991
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 2: me trying to be a bit healthier, am I going

992
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 2: to meet the love of my life?

993
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 1: And I'm missing out exactly?

994
00:38:57,560 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 3: No.

995
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 2: I would always said I'd rather meet someone sober and organically.

996
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 2: You have those dating apps now and everything. So I

997
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 2: think the pressure I say this in like, look, I'm

998
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,280
Speaker 2: not sitting here saying I intend or plan ongoing sober.

999
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:14,400
Speaker 2: I don't trying to work out a better relationship and

1000
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:18,359
Speaker 2: a better sort of alcohol life health balance. And I

1001
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 2: think I'm definitely getting there. I am aware that I'm

1002
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:22,919
Speaker 2: going into fucking silly season and almost in my mind,

1003
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 2: this is my way to show myself how far I've

1004
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:27,800
Speaker 2: come by acting differently to the way I have years before.

1005
00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred pe so.

1006
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:30,560
Speaker 1: And it's also be a test.

1007
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:34,319
Speaker 3: It's also for the people who have been in the

1008
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 3: position where I've been feel really alone. I have had

1009
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:41,800
Speaker 3: people message me on Instagram asking me, like any tips

1010
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 3: that I have, Like, it's just it's a coping mechanism, drinking,

1011
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 3: and just maybe look at who you're surrounding yourself with

1012
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:51,279
Speaker 3: and if they're bringing out the best in you. That's

1013
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 3: all I have to say on that, Like, you just

1014
00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 3: want to surround yourself with people who have your best

1015
00:39:55,880 --> 00:40:00,120
Speaker 3: interests at heart and who will support you no matter what.

1016
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 1: What are your tips for the people that have asked you?

1017
00:40:02,239 --> 00:40:04,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, so, well that's one of them. So surround yourself

1018
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,840
Speaker 3: with people who bring out the best in you. Maybe

1019
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,720
Speaker 3: if you are feeling particularly anxious and you are prone

1020
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:14,480
Speaker 3: to maybe blacking out, maybe don't drink or don't go

1021
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:16,440
Speaker 3: if you know that you're going to feel anxious in

1022
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 3: that situation.

1023
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:18,839
Speaker 2: I mean, if it's maybe a setting, whether someone's going

1024
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 2: to be there and you're worried that, like you might

1025
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,840
Speaker 2: drink too much, you can sit. The phomo is actually

1026
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,480
Speaker 2: never really that bad because the next morning it disappears

1027
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:28,240
Speaker 2: because you're feeling good and they're feelings.

1028
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 3: That's the one thing that I'll say is FOMO doesn't

1029
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 3: exist when you picture fast forward to tomorrow when you

1030
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:37,880
Speaker 3: feel amazing and you know everyone else is going to

1031
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,680
Speaker 3: feel hungover. That's what you have to tell yourself when

1032
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:42,719
Speaker 3: you're in that I don't know if I want to drink.

1033
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 3: It's like and when you're umming and raing, just don't drink.

1034
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 2: Just yeah, It's like, I don't know if I drink,

1035
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 2: want to drink. It's like, how about we think about

1036
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 2: how do I want to feel tomorrow?

1037
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 1: Think about that instead exactly.

1038
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 2: And that's been a big key for me, especially because

1039
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 2: of getting into this work. There's a lot of midweek

1040
00:40:59,040 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 2: events and drinking that's kind of around. So it's like

1041
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 2: if I got a big day tomorrow, yeah, I'll describe

1042
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 2: to this event because it's like, how do I want

1043
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 2: to feel tomorrow?

1044
00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 3: Exactly? How do you want to feel tomorrow? How do

1045
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:12,239
Speaker 3: you want to show up as the best version of yourself?

1046
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 3: And I can guarantee that blacking out, saying from past

1047
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 3: experiences is not your best version. So obviously there's not

1048
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 3: many people that I know do black out. And that's

1049
00:41:24,440 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 3: why I say, like my drinking was problematic, and it

1050
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:31,799
Speaker 3: was obviously stemming from being quite anxious as a younger girl. Yeah,

1051
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 3: and that was my coping mechanism.

1052
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:36,279
Speaker 2: I want to ask, do you think party girl Jim

1053
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:39,160
Speaker 2: girl are they mutually exclusive or do you think you

1054
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 2: can add both?

1055
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 3: That is a great question because I feel like when

1056
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 3: I was at my old gym, I was there for

1057
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 3: nearly three years, and the approach there was like quite

1058
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 3: intense in the sense that none of the coaches drank

1059
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 3: and naturally that that was my first job as a

1060
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:58,239
Speaker 3: pete and I sort of took that mentality on and

1061
00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:01,239
Speaker 3: at the time that was great rate for where I

1062
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 3: was at. But after nearly three years and like having

1063
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:07,959
Speaker 3: a lot of growth personally, I feel like since being

1064
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:12,239
Speaker 3: at Gripped, my boss there's he has balance with his

1065
00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 3: drinking with his food, like he'll get gyg every day, like.

1066
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: Like fucking treaded, yeah, incredible threaded, Yeah, healthy, a healthy

1067
00:42:20,239 --> 00:42:25,040
Speaker 1: approach and being around that balance, it's been really helpful

1068
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:25,239
Speaker 1: for me.

1069
00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:27,520
Speaker 3: Like for the last six months you've probably seen like

1070
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:29,839
Speaker 3: I've been going out. I've had a lot on this

1071
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 3: like past six months, but I have been leaning into

1072
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:34,719
Speaker 3: it and like I've been having so much fun and

1073
00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 3: I did never not once did I miss a session.

1074
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:41,240
Speaker 3: My weight session. Not once did I cancel work.

1075
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:43,360
Speaker 1: I think that's where discipline comes in.

1076
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's where just not once did I not meal

1077
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 3: prep for the week? Like, it definitely can be mutually,

1078
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 3: Like they can coexist, Yeah, they can coexist. And I

1079
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 3: think it's just about being organized, and I think it's

1080
00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:00,960
Speaker 3: about like having your goals at the front of your mind.

1081
00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 3: But at the same time, socializing is just as important

1082
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 3: of a pillar of health as any other pillar. Yell.

1083
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 2: I also think it's just so important for young people

1084
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 2: to realize you can you can.

1085
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:14,919
Speaker 1: Stay at home that night and nothing's gonna change.

1086
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:17,000
Speaker 2: There's no night out that's ever going to be this

1087
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 2: mind blowing, incredible.

1088
00:43:18,400 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: Fuck. You should have been there. It was amazing. There'll

1089
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: be another one next week.

1090
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 2: So if you're not in the mind space where you

1091
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:24,640
Speaker 2: feel like you can do it healthily and you can

1092
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 2: go home at a reasonable hour, and you feel like, fuck,

1093
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 2: this kind of seems like one those nights where it's

1094
00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:29,560
Speaker 2: going to get a bit out of control.

1095
00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:30,879
Speaker 1: Maybe I want to stay home. Stay home.

1096
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, stay home. There's nothing wrong with staying home. You're

1097
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 3: not weird for staying home. You're not going to miss anything.

1098
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 2: Like, if I can weirdly say one thing, and I'm

1099
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:41,280
Speaker 2: not coming from a place of being in that fitness

1100
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:43,719
Speaker 2: and being in that balance yet, but something that has

1101
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:47,040
Speaker 2: helped me get there is reading my fucking books, because

1102
00:43:47,040 --> 00:43:49,640
Speaker 2: how often do I say it easy? I was gonna drink,

1103
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:50,960
Speaker 2: but I thought I kind of would rather be at

1104
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:52,360
Speaker 2: home reading later at the end of the night, so

1105
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna.

1106
00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:54,319
Speaker 1: Drives like that.

1107
00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 2: Having that peaceful routine for me every night that I

1108
00:43:57,440 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 2: actually like will choose overnights out a lot has been

1109
00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 2: really nice.

1110
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: So finding something that you love like that.

1111
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:06,480
Speaker 2: And I think reading is great because it's something you

1112
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 2: do at night before you go to bed. So it's like,

1113
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:11,279
Speaker 2: I can't read while I'm drunk, so I always I

1114
00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:13,839
Speaker 2: will actually like veto the fucking drink so I can

1115
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 2: make sure I'm at home reading.

1116
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:17,520
Speaker 1: And it's like, that's just a little thing that's really

1117
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:18,000
Speaker 1: helped me.

1118
00:44:18,160 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 2: Finding something like that that you love, even if it

1119
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:21,879
Speaker 2: means like you love going for a run in the morning,

1120
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 2: but you can't do that hungover, so it's like, what

1121
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 2: would you rather do?

1122
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, Finding little hobbies that aren't surrounded by drinking,

1123
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 3: like finding a walk with a friend, booking a plates

1124
00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:32,040
Speaker 3: class the next day, you.

1125
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 1: Know, like, yeah, not everything has to be alcohol.

1126
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:35,040
Speaker 3: No.

1127
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,359
Speaker 1: Sometimes it feels like it is though it does.

1128
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 3: It actually does, it does, but crazy.

1129
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 2: I very much think this is the first time in

1130
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 2: my life where I've been so acutely aware of it

1131
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 2: in a sense of not wanting that. I don't want that.

1132
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:52,799
Speaker 2: A lot of the time I've been like, I drink

1133
00:44:52,800 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 2: a lot, but I'm like, ugh, he is what it is.

1134
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:56,880
Speaker 1: It's fine. I'm with my friends, it's fine.

1135
00:44:57,040 --> 00:44:59,479
Speaker 2: These last couple of months, I'm like, I have said

1136
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:01,400
Speaker 2: no to all lot more because I don't want that

1137
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 2: Sunday morning feeling. Whereas previously it would be like, oh,

1138
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 2: I'll just go and I'll be fine there. I'm like,

1139
00:45:07,200 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 2: I will veto the whole night, so I do not

1140
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 2: even run into the chance that I'll have that. And

1141
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:15,440
Speaker 2: so I think, yeah, this summer will be different for

1142
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 2: me in a good way, a great way. I definitely

1143
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 2: will still still be there. You will see me important, yeah,

1144
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 2: because I want that, and I like, some is the

1145
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:25,320
Speaker 2: funnest time of the fucking year. I want to be

1146
00:45:25,360 --> 00:45:28,320
Speaker 2: able to experience it with my friends. But I definitely

1147
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:31,640
Speaker 2: need to keep that boundary and be exercising even through

1148
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 2: summer because I don't want to lose something I've been

1149
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 2: working so hard towards.

1150
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:37,440
Speaker 3: And the thing is, it's like, you don't want exercise

1151
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:39,399
Speaker 3: just to be like a short term thing. You want

1152
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:42,280
Speaker 3: it to be a lifestyle. You want it to become

1153
00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:45,000
Speaker 3: a lifestyle. Like, for example, whenever I'm on a holiday,

1154
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:47,640
Speaker 3: I will make sure I either go to the gym

1155
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 3: or I'll get up and go for a walk and

1156
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:51,880
Speaker 3: start my day. And that's purely because I am a

1157
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 3: better human being for it, Like I will yeah, so

1158
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:57,360
Speaker 3: much better to be around, I'll be less anxious. My

1159
00:45:57,440 --> 00:46:00,160
Speaker 3: whole day is just set up like that. But I

1160
00:46:00,200 --> 00:46:03,919
Speaker 3: think it's important over the holiday period to keep those

1161
00:46:03,920 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 3: good routines in while still leaning in and having fun

1162
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,720
Speaker 3: with your friends. And if you're trying to say, for example,

1163
00:46:09,760 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 3: lose weight or for me, I'm trying to build muscle,

1164
00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 3: having your meals prepared and knowing what you have on

1165
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 3: that week, how can you schedule in time around that

1166
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:23,640
Speaker 3: where you're going to be organized for your workouts and

1167
00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 3: your meals and all of that. So just about being

1168
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:29,359
Speaker 3: prepared and not being extreme and not going at all

1169
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 3: because you're going to feel worse doing that.

1170
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:33,399
Speaker 1: So many people ask about my gym, Jenny.

1171
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:35,440
Speaker 3: Okay, let's get into it.

1172
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 2: Do you actually think you've seen a difference in me

1173
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 2: working out in what way? In like motivation progress?

1174
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:45,400
Speaker 3: Yes, you are a different person.

1175
00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm a happier person.

1176
00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 3: You're a happier person. You've got structure in your week.

1177
00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 3: You know you have a certain time four days out

1178
00:46:51,600 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 3: of Monday to Friday. Seven Yeah, four days out of

1179
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 3: seven basically where you have to be somewhere at ten

1180
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 3: thirty am and that starts day and then from there

1181
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 3: it's a good day because you're not rushing from appointment

1182
00:47:05,040 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 3: to whatever you have on.

1183
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:08,319
Speaker 2: Like it's like everything's already. I've like started my day.

1184
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 2: I'm awake and I'm doing something.

1185
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:12,760
Speaker 3: That's my structure is so important and purpose, like waking

1186
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 3: up with a purpose.

1187
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 2: Okay, we have a couple listener questions. What are your

1188
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:19,919
Speaker 2: thoughts on or rings, apple, watches, et cetera. And what's

1189
00:47:19,960 --> 00:47:20,839
Speaker 2: most helpful to you?

1190
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 3: So I have a garment and I have a whoop.

1191
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:24,560
Speaker 3: I think it's a bit ex.

1192
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:26,480
Speaker 2: So like fuck those, I have a garment and a

1193
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:28,279
Speaker 2: will Yeah exactly.

1194
00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:30,120
Speaker 1: Really I wanted an ara ring.

1195
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:32,359
Speaker 3: Oh okay, so I think the whoop is so ugly

1196
00:47:32,360 --> 00:47:35,239
Speaker 3: it looks like a hospital band around my wrists. Let me, yeah,

1197
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:37,359
Speaker 3: it's not. It's not it, but I think it's because

1198
00:47:37,400 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 3: I do have an ugly band, and I know you

1199
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 3: can get better ones and I just haven't gotten around

1200
00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 3: to it. I love my whoop purely for my sleep.

1201
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:50,120
Speaker 3: It tells me like how well I've slept, how long

1202
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 3: in rem sleep, deep sleep, light sleep?

1203
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:54,440
Speaker 2: How LONGA say that an aora ring for those that

1204
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:56,760
Speaker 2: don't want to wear that would be does.

1205
00:47:56,680 --> 00:47:59,280
Speaker 3: The same thing pretty much, and I think it's very important.

1206
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:03,040
Speaker 3: And also for females it helps track your cycle. So

1207
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:05,799
Speaker 3: what I've noticed with my whoop is my sleep and

1208
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:09,160
Speaker 3: my recovery is so much worse in my lue till phase,

1209
00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 3: which is the phase leading up to your peeriod is.

1210
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 2: He always comes in and goes, I mean my lue teel.

1211
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, I'll be good today, prom me. So

1212
00:48:16,760 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 2: I'll do it, you tell me.

1213
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:20,840
Speaker 3: But yeah, that's why I think it's important. And I

1214
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:23,920
Speaker 3: love that tool behind it. It's like you can track it,

1215
00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 3: you can see.

1216
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 2: Like, so you would recommend someone getting something like that. Yeah,

1217
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:29,120
Speaker 2: And if I just can say one thing to any

1218
00:48:29,160 --> 00:48:31,320
Speaker 2: of you who end up getting garments whoops or fucking

1219
00:48:31,320 --> 00:48:34,080
Speaker 2: Apple watches, wear it with a formal dress, and you

1220
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 2: deserve to have your handcut off. I'm serious, It's hideous.

1221
00:48:38,760 --> 00:48:43,120
Speaker 2: And do you really need to know all that fitness info?

1222
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 1: No, you don't when you're on a night out.

1223
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 3: Also, the other thing is I've always been notorious for

1224
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:51,239
Speaker 3: wearing my watches whilst tanning, and I always know the

1225
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 3: ugliest hand. I'm not doing that this summer out there

1226
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 3: right now.

1227
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 2: Sometimes it doesn't need to be on the risk, it's

1228
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 2: not happening. And there's nothing hot about an Apple Watch tan. No,

1229
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 2: there's nothing hot about a tan full stop. Okay, be

1230
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 2: some smart this summer, kiddies, all right.

1231
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:09,719
Speaker 1: Tips, Just stop eating bad.

1232
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 2: I always feel like I struggle with going out and

1233
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 2: being hungover and eating.

1234
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 3: Like I said before, it's being organized. So for example,

1235
00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 3: if you know you have an event on Saturday night,

1236
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 3: have your meals planned for breakfast and lunch on Saturday

1237
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 3: and then for breakfast, lunch and dinner on Sunday. So

1238
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:30,800
Speaker 3: do that on the Friday night. So have them all

1239
00:49:30,840 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 3: prepped knowing that you're going to go out Saturday night

1240
00:49:33,760 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 3: and then you know the next day, Okay, my food's

1241
00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:38,799
Speaker 3: already in there. And then that comes down to being

1242
00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:41,719
Speaker 3: disciplined eating that and not ordering a bit exactly and

1243
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:43,839
Speaker 3: knowing that you're going to It comes down to how

1244
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 3: you feel, right, how do you feel when you eat

1245
00:49:46,160 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 3: something bad for you?

1246
00:49:47,440 --> 00:49:48,120
Speaker 1: You feel like shit?

1247
00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, you feel like shit? And think about it, how

1248
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,280
Speaker 3: am I going to feel if I eat this beautiful

1249
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:55,400
Speaker 3: meal that I prepped a couple of days before. I'm

1250
00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:57,840
Speaker 3: going to feel good after. I'm gonna feel proud of myself.

1251
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 3: And then that just builds momentum, moment momentum because.

1252
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:02,319
Speaker 2: You're gonna keep meal prepping because you know you eat

1253
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 2: it and it was good and it felt good. And

1254
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 2: for me, it's like even when I'm ordering, and it's

1255
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:09,360
Speaker 2: like eating bad when I'm hungover. I actually have now recently,

1256
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 2: I cannot eat a meal that does not have a

1257
00:50:11,600 --> 00:50:13,080
Speaker 2: vegetable in it because it makes.

1258
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 1: Me feel like a fucking sack of shit.

1259
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:18,080
Speaker 2: Like as in, I need if I'm hungover and I'm ordering,

1260
00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:19,920
Speaker 2: I need to get like a sandwich or something like

1261
00:50:20,040 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 2: a solid sandwich is really good when I'm hungover because

1262
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:22,880
Speaker 2: it's like refreshing.

1263
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 3: What's I'll eat.

1264
00:50:24,280 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 2: I eat case it eats a lot because I'm like,

1265
00:50:27,200 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 2: I've got my avo, I've got my tomatoes.

1266
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 1: I'm not saying they're better for me.

1267
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 2: But they're better than getting a fucking greasy pizza from

1268
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 2: a lolavo, which I used to love. When I was

1269
00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:38,239
Speaker 2: dating my last boyfriend, I gained like six kilos in

1270
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:41,200
Speaker 2: like not that long because we would eat like a

1271
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 2: fucking shit and he exercised every fucking day, so he

1272
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:47,600
Speaker 2: was fine. Me on the other hand, I would eat

1273
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:50,200
Speaker 2: my shit in bed and just fucking rot there. So

1274
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:53,279
Speaker 2: I feel like it makes me feel it makes my

1275
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:56,720
Speaker 2: body feel better eating something that has vegetables and protein

1276
00:50:56,800 --> 00:50:59,080
Speaker 2: in it verse just like a pepperoni pizza would be

1277
00:50:59,120 --> 00:50:59,799
Speaker 2: my fucking go to.

1278
00:50:59,880 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 3: So I think it always comes down to how do

1279
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:03,319
Speaker 3: you how a you're gonna feel, how are you gonna

1280
00:51:03,320 --> 00:51:05,880
Speaker 3: feel about yourself? And the most important thing that we

1281
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:08,479
Speaker 3: can have as humans is self trust. If you break

1282
00:51:08,520 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 3: that trust within yourself, then your self esteem is gonna.

1283
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:11,879
Speaker 1: Be pretty good.

1284
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:14,520
Speaker 2: I'm struggling with self trust right now, heavily on Like

1285
00:51:14,560 --> 00:51:17,080
Speaker 2: I'll be like, oh, just go home at go home

1286
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:19,319
Speaker 2: at one and I'll end up going home like four

1287
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:21,800
Speaker 2: and then I'm like, fuck, I stupid fucking it, Like

1288
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:23,880
Speaker 2: you just make yourself self feel so guilty.

1289
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:26,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, but each time it's a learning curve and you

1290
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 3: learn something from it and you can't It's not growth

1291
00:51:29,120 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 3: is not linear. You're not just gonna get it right

1292
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:33,040
Speaker 3: every single day, do you know what I mean?

1293
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 2: The more you do for yourself, I find the more

1294
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 2: I trust myself. That is such a nice small wind

1295
00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:42,719
Speaker 2: small winds, Well, that was health.

1296
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 1: And fitness it Ezzy and Easy rock on dude, Oh

1297
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:47,880
Speaker 1: my god. That reminds me.

1298
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:49,719
Speaker 2: Do you remember when I came up from Bali and

1299
00:51:49,719 --> 00:51:51,480
Speaker 2: I said that we met those American guys that were like,

1300
00:51:51,840 --> 00:51:53,520
Speaker 2: did where's the free game?

1301
00:51:55,160 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 1: Yeah? Sorry?

1302
00:51:56,040 --> 00:51:59,839
Speaker 2: Fuck But obviously you are in such a different space

1303
00:51:59,880 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 2: to me. But I feel like it's so nice and

1304
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:04,000
Speaker 2: inspiring to have someone around me that, like you push

1305
00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:06,120
Speaker 2: me to do those things better. And it's like I'll

1306
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 2: talk to Easy and I'll come back and I'll be

1307
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:09,880
Speaker 2: like I got home a like for like what an idiot?

1308
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 2: And She's like, Okay, it's new week, let's go.

1309
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:13,720
Speaker 1: You can leave those weights.

1310
00:52:13,840 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 3: Yeah. In the past, what do we learn from it.

1311
00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 2: Dusting yourself off is such a big thing because it's like, oh, what,

1312
00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 2: you didn't do what you said you were going to do. Fine, whatever,

1313
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Speaker 2: new day, dust yourself up. Let's just keep moving forward.

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Speaker 2: And you don't always have to wait till Monday or

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Speaker 2: till the start of a week or till the start

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Speaker 2: of a month.

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Speaker 1: Start fucking now, bitches, right this second. And if you

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Speaker 1: suck up, yeah, it's silly season. Give yourself a bit

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Speaker 1: of grace. Socialize, have fun, but leaning be conscious.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and mind and zen and hot slate. Alright, bye bye,