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Speaker 1: Apogae Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am I

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Speaker 1: A Mad Mom?

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Speaker 2: Podcast?

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Speaker 1: Are we almost at the school holidays?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? You know they consistent feedback that I've had from

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Speaker 2: a lot of different moms over what are we? Are

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Speaker 2: we in week two? Yeah? Yeah, week two? We're in

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Speaker 2: week two roughly started? You know term four. We all

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Speaker 2: know that term four isn't naturally really busy with kids,

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Speaker 2: but it's also busy on our calendars because you're like

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Speaker 2: Christmas parties and kids, Christmas parties and breakups and sport breakups.

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Speaker 1: It's just work as well, because I, like, I had

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Speaker 1: a conversation with my husband day the other day.

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Speaker 2: I was like, we need to start thinking about.

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Speaker 1: Make king money to tide us over the Christmas period

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Speaker 1: when everything shuts down and not things to do anything.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And so the constant comment that I've had from

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Speaker 2: all these different moms over the past few weeks has

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Speaker 2: just been I'm drowning and it hasn't really even started yet.

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Speaker 2: I in particular ask this one mum she's got three boys,

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Speaker 2: and she was saying for her, rowing has started. And

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Speaker 2: so rowing means consistent every morning up at like four

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Speaker 2: to be at training by four point forty five am,

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Speaker 2: and she's driving the kids Acrosstown to do this to

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Speaker 2: get to school.

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Speaker 1: By this time, I wouldn't allow them to do it. Well,

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Speaker 1: I've been saying, I didn't give them the option to

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Speaker 1: take up rowing who had to get that's really much.

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Speaker 2: Off of me. She goes, I feel like I'm so

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Speaker 2: tired right now that I'm drunk. And I just sort

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Speaker 2: of looked at her and was like, how are you

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Speaker 2: going to do this for another What is it like

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Speaker 2: seven weeks or eight weeks? I don't think that is

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Speaker 2: for me. I don't think it is.

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Speaker 1: I think they finish in November.

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Speaker 2: No, her boys are definitely not. They're not in senior year.

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Speaker 2: So and then it's Christmas.

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Speaker 1: That's, oh my god, it's October.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, we're not talking about that.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe it because as soon as the Halloween

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Speaker 1: ship finishes next week one.

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Speaker 2: Of the moms that thing is Christmas mom goes she said,

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Speaker 2: I said, oh, are you guys doing anything for Halloween?

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Speaker 2: And she went, oh, by the time I decorate for Halloween,

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Speaker 2: it'll be fucking christ Yeah, it Christmas. So she said,

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Speaker 2: I'm skipping Halloween decorations. AND's going straight to Christmas. Am

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Speaker 2: I a bad mum for wanting to put a stop

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Speaker 2: to it? Okay, well, this is just a hot topic

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Speaker 2: and it's straight off the bat of I said it

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Speaker 2: on Channel nine News caught me off guard cooking dinner.

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Speaker 2: TV's on in the background. The top most expensive children's

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Speaker 2: sport that your kids could be doing as extracurricular okay,

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Speaker 2: and they had like the table up and it was

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Speaker 2: like the top ten. Wasn't only then at night, it

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Speaker 2: was the following morning it was on the Today Show

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Speaker 2: like they're trying to make so I don't know why.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why. We're at the end of the year.

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Speaker 2: We've already paid our fees. Yeah, don't worry about telling

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Speaker 2: us now how much could paid bad? Yeah, don't worry.

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Speaker 2: It's not going to show you what the forecast is

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Speaker 2: for next year. What could I have spent my money on?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh look at me. I could have saved

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Speaker 2: this amount of money. I genuinely though, had to go,

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Speaker 2: holy shit, because we and you, for your girls, we're

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Speaker 2: paying two lots of this. So the top most expensive

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Speaker 2: children's sport is dance, dance, dance, damn yeh.

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Speaker 1: Because it's not just the fee is for them to learn,

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Speaker 1: it's then the costume. Yeah, and then you have to

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Speaker 1: pay to go to the concert. Yeah, And that's just

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Speaker 1: expense after expense, and you have to pay for the photos.

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Speaker 2: They even gave you This is the funniest part. They

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Speaker 2: even gave you the breakdown of how much you were spending.

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Speaker 2: And they said, obviously with dance being frequently cited as

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Speaker 2: the most expensive overall, with costs averaging over thirty thousand

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Speaker 2: dollars for a child's childhood in Australia, Wow, so you're

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Speaker 2: spending at a minimum thirty thousand dollars of that childhood

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Speaker 2: span of how long they do dance, yeah, which I'm

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Speaker 2: over fine.

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Speaker 1: They did it from three until.

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Speaker 2: Like fourteen or fifteen. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's a long time.

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Speaker 1: I was not sad when they gave that outrage. I

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Speaker 1: had a moment I think I went to the last concert, yeah,

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Speaker 1: and had a moment.

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Speaker 2: Of oh, this is the last, this is a life.

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Speaker 1: A little bit sad, yes, in that moment, and then

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Speaker 1: after that I was like, oh no, I'm so fine.

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Speaker 1: I the next chapter, onto the next expense. I don't

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Speaker 1: keep her, No, it just just moves on.

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Speaker 2: To you, moved on to well, that was what I

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Speaker 2: was going to say to you. Was the second most

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Speaker 2: frequent of the top of the list. Annual expenses around

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Speaker 2: the three thousand dollar mark. So we're thinking fees for

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Speaker 2: a year ice hockey. Oh yeah, and your girls did

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Speaker 2: ice skating, yeah, Jesus.

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Speaker 1: Most expensive one.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Tennis is up there with costs averaging around sixteen

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Speaker 2: thousand over a childhood in Australia. Gymnastics closely followed behind that. Cricket.

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Speaker 2: I think we dance, I just go, naturally, I know

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Speaker 2: that we're getting hold per term, how much we're getting paid, right,

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Speaker 2: and I've only got one child dancing now, whom also

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Speaker 2: has danced since she was three. But at the same

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Speaker 2: time I sort of went, I don't even turn a

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Speaker 2: blind eye to it now, like does that make sense?

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Speaker 2: Like I just go, we know how much we've got

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Speaker 2: to pay if she's going to continue to do her dance,

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Speaker 2: and that is per term. Here I am complaining Elsie's

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Speaker 2: starting netball. Oh my god, three hundred and seventy five

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Speaker 2: dollars for a year of netple. That is crazy. Like

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Speaker 2: I'm banging on like it's the worst thing in the world,

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Speaker 2: because that is expensive. When they came on three hundred

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Speaker 2: and seventy five dollars for the year, we're just your

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Speaker 2: fees to play. Is that not good? Well, no, it's

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Speaker 2: still expensive, I believe.

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Speaker 1: But and then that how many is that like once

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Speaker 1: a week.

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Speaker 2: Or yeah, once a week. And that's just the winter season.

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Speaker 2: So now we're into summer, Katie, I've paid again, oh

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Speaker 2: summer yeah yeah, yeah, because we're now finished winter because

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Speaker 2: apparently netball now isn't just a winter sport, it's an

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Speaker 2: all rounder sport. And so it's of course make another competition. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: doesn't matter if it's forty degree heat.

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Speaker 1: Put them out there, and then do they have does

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Speaker 1: she have to have like a certain jersey?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, uniform, uniform. And then on top of that, Gracie goes,

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Speaker 2: I think I might want to play touch touch footy,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, well, how much the fe's go

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Speaker 2: touch footy? Yeah, on top of dance and then on

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Speaker 2: top of school and then on top of us. Okay,

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Speaker 2: how much? But touch footy was reasonable So for me

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Speaker 2: even to sign my name up, get this, I'm playing

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Speaker 2: touch football? Yeah? Am I playing touch football? Or trying

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Speaker 2: to way touch for all, I'm going to go trying.

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Speaker 2: But I even wrote back and was like, is this

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Speaker 2: how much it's going to cost me to play like

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Speaker 2: six games of touch footy? This is wild? Like yeah, insurances.

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Speaker 2: I was like, insurances, why because I'm old? This is bullshit.

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Speaker 2: And then even Graces, I think Gracie's was going to

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Speaker 2: be something like one eighty.

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Speaker 1: This is the thing. And then it just feels constant

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Speaker 1: because a season or a term or whatever.

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Speaker 2: It might be, it goes so fast.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you're like, oh, you have a moment

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Speaker 1: of going, oh, everything's paid up to date, and then

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Speaker 1: here's another.

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Speaker 2: One, here's ten two, pay this again, and you're like,

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Speaker 2: oh my gosh. And if your child is anything like

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Speaker 2: mine at the moment, we start the year in a

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Speaker 2: certain sized uniform and shoes, and now at the end

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Speaker 2: of the year, I'm buying more shoes that have gone

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Speaker 2: up nearly two sizes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I said to it, hang on a sec. Are you

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Speaker 2: sure these are right shoes for you? How could you

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Speaker 2: have been wearing those other ones? She goes, Mom, they've

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Speaker 2: been typed for do you know how You've been typed

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Speaker 2: for the whole season? And I was like, so at

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Speaker 2: what stage didn't you think to go Mum, I can

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Speaker 2: barely run in my shoes any longer, she goes, So

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Speaker 2: I do want to ask for nuance. I said, you've

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Speaker 2: just gone up two and a half sizes. That's a

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Speaker 2: big difference. Yeah. Anyway, the Asseix man made me feel

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Speaker 2: really bad about my Parentdee.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, at least you didn't put your kids in

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Speaker 1: school shoes for like three years. Are like seven sizes

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Speaker 1: too big and like flap them.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was I remember that podcast. They're probably going

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Speaker 2: to make grade twelve in.

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Speaker 1: Them, Rach. Honestly, I'm not buying any Amelia's lost a

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Speaker 1: jumper in winter. I'm like, I am not buying a

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Speaker 1: single piece of school uniform next year. For the last year.

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Speaker 1: You just make do with what you've got, Yes, right,

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Speaker 1: I will have only have bought two pairs of shoes, well,

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Speaker 1: four kids two pairs of shoes each for their entire

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Speaker 1: high school years.

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Speaker 2: But how many hats have you replaced?

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Speaker 1: I don't even replace the hats anymore. They know that

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Speaker 1: I don't replace hats anymore. They go with their sports

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Speaker 1: bucket hat m and blazer.

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Speaker 2: Did you end up replacing a blazer?

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Speaker 1: No? Blazers. I've got air tags in them. Oh yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I can track where they are.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, it's very smart. Yeah I know, and way

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Speaker 2: cheaper than replacing a blazer because your blazers are expensive.

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Speaker 1: Wh I pass a block shop, the dance shop block.

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Speaker 1: I smile to myself about not needing to go in

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Speaker 1: there and buy.

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Speaker 2: Tap shoes and shit. I walked fast, step by step

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Speaker 2: yesterday and I felt I don't want to go in.

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Speaker 2: Please don't make me go in. I was like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to do it. We only replaced shoes

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Speaker 2: midway through this year, and for the first time we

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Speaker 2: bought secondhand shoes. Tap shoes, yeah, because I said to her,

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Speaker 2: you don't even know that you're gonna like these, and no,

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Speaker 2: it's from this teacher and she's so good. And I

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Speaker 2: was like, she still wants fifty dollars for them, and

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Speaker 2: they're pretty warned. Can you negotiated a bit roller, negotiate

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Speaker 2: down