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Speaker 1: Everyone. It's Carli here for this week's Mojo Monday. So

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Speaker 1: I was doing a bit of a cleanup of my

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Speaker 1: kitchen today and I got to that moment where like

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Speaker 1: everyone was out, which is always a great thing when

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Speaker 1: you're like doing a really big cleanup, because nobody comes

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Speaker 1: in and like ransacks the whole thing. So I got

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Speaker 1: to that moment where I stepped back and I thought, Yep,

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Speaker 1: this is it. It's clean, it's tidy, it's organized, and

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Speaker 1: everything was in its place. And then I had to

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Speaker 1: have a bit of a chuckle to myself because I

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Speaker 1: know the truth. Before the day's out, there will be

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Speaker 1: crumbs on the bench, which somehow always end up on

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Speaker 1: the floor, and plates will be left beside the sink

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Speaker 1: despite my best efforts at preemptive family briefing, and the

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Speaker 1: kitchen will slowly, inevitably return to being a kitchen in

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Speaker 1: a house where people live. And because I love a metaphor,

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Speaker 1: it struck me how much this is like life. I

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Speaker 1: heard Brene Brown say recently on another podcast that we

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Speaker 1: never arrive, and she's right. None of us ever reach

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Speaker 1: a point where things are permanently sorted, where our thoughts

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Speaker 1: are constantly calme, difficult emotions don't show up, and our

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Speaker 1: relationships are easy. Our bodies look and feel perfect, and

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Speaker 1: it all just stays that way. You won't, your children won't,

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Speaker 1: your family, your friends, your neighbors won't either. And the

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Speaker 1: problem isn't that we strive to improve ourselves because growth

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Speaker 1: is good. Looking after your mind and your body matters.

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Speaker 1: Of course, having goals and values and a direction gives

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Speaker 1: life shape. You know, growth is definitely a priority for me.

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Speaker 1: But the problem lies when we expect there to be

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Speaker 1: a final destination, a moment where our emotions just settle

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Speaker 1: and they stay settled. But life and being human just

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Speaker 1: doesn't work like that. There will always be challenges. Some

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Speaker 1: of those challenges will be big, some small, some expected,

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Speaker 1: some that completely blindside us. And with those challenges come emotions.

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Speaker 1: And sometimes these emotions are calm, and sometimes they're really

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Speaker 1: really difficult to feel, and sometimes all we want is

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Speaker 1: not to feel this way at all. And in our

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Speaker 1: Western culture, we spend a lot of time focusing on symptoms,

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Speaker 1: trying to control our emotions so that we can finally

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Speaker 1: live well, because they can so easily get in the way.

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Speaker 1: We all know that, But emotions are a bit like

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Speaker 1: my kitchen. Sometimes they're tidy and manageable, and other times

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Speaker 1: they feel completely overwhelming. But that doesn't mean that there

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Speaker 1: is anything wrong with me. So as you start to

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Speaker 1: think about your goals and your aspirations for twenty twenty six,

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Speaker 1: I want to invite you to reflect on something a

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Speaker 1: little different. Can you this year ride the waves of

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Speaker 1: your emotions while still striving for what matters to you,

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Speaker 1: still doing the important things that your emotions often tell

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Speaker 1: you not to do, the things that your emotions often

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Speaker 1: pull you back. Can you accept that you will never

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Speaker 1: be free of difficult emotions, just like a messy kitchen

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Speaker 1: and a busy family home, trusting they will come and

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Speaker 1: they will go. And as I say this as someone

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Speaker 1: who has always been emotionally sensitive and always will be,

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Speaker 1: the difference now is that I'm better, not perfect, but

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Speaker 1: better at not letting my emotions stop me from living

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Speaker 1: mine life. Sometimes that is really really hard to do,

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Speaker 1: but hard is good because hard is how we grow.

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Speaker 1: The work isn't about creating a life that never gets messy.

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Speaker 1: You know your kitchen is always going to get messy,

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Speaker 1: and so will you. It's about learning how to return

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Speaker 1: to what matters again and again and again, and doing

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Speaker 1: things even when it's hard. You know, life doesn't wait

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Speaker 1: for perfect emotions, Life doesn't wait for the perfect circumstances

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Speaker 1: for the perfect you. Life just keeps moving so you

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Speaker 1: keep moving forward. To so thank you for listening, and

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Speaker 1: to all those lovely people who send me encouraging messages

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Speaker 1: that my little Mojo Monday episode makes a difference. Thank

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Speaker 1: you so much. It means a lot to me. I

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Speaker 1: will catch you next week. Sea