WEBVTT - We're Entering Our Advice Era

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<v Speaker 1>High Scrollers is produced on Gadigal land.

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<v Speaker 2>We pay our respects to the traditional custodians of this

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<v Speaker 2>country and elders past and present.

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<v Speaker 1>Always was, always will be Aboriginal land. Well, well, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we have a message that we're reading out and answering

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<v Speaker 1>in this.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is fun. We're giving advice to someone. Don't

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<v Speaker 2>forget we have, sorry, you go.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I was just going to say the same thing

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<v Speaker 1>that you're saying.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, we have the email address in the Show notes.

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<v Speaker 2>You can always email us at any time. If you

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<v Speaker 2>want to send us some sort of... Dilemma.

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<v Speaker 1>You need advice on something.

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<v Speaker 2>Dilemma. A juicy story that has just like happened in

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<v Speaker 2>your life and you just think sharing this on the

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<v Speaker 2>podcast would be entertaining. Like if you just... If you

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<v Speaker 2>have like a juicy story that you're like, I need

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<v Speaker 2>this out in the world, but I'll never be able

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<v Speaker 2>to say it, send it through.

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<v Speaker 1>Because we'll say it for you.

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<v Speaker 2>We might. Well, we might if it's good enough.

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<v Speaker 1>Tiffany will say it.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, Britt and I don't actually see them as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Like they do go to Gay J. So Gay J

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<v Speaker 2>is the one in charge of the emails. And so

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<v Speaker 2>if you want to, like, just know that we're not

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<v Speaker 2>reading them before we read them now here.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like a real first reaction.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So Gay Jay has selected this from our emails.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm guessing it was an email, not a DM. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And do we know who it's from or is it anonymous?

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<v Speaker 2>You can be anonymous. Obviously, you don't have to make

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<v Speaker 2>a fake.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's anonymous. I don't think we have a

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<v Speaker 1>name here.

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<v Speaker 3>If I haven't included the name in there because they

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<v Speaker 3>said probably.

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<v Speaker 2>Yet to mention.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's read this out.

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<v Speaker 2>So don't forget, sorry, that if you do email... And

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<v Speaker 2>you want an anonymous?

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<v Speaker 1>Just say that.

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<v Speaker 2>Make sure you say that.

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<v Speaker 1>I would think I would just never say their name anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Fair enough.

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<v Speaker 3>Name's Shane.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, some of them might like a shout out.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So we got hello, Matt and Britt. I was hoping

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<v Speaker 1>for some advice regarding hens slash bucks and not being

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<v Speaker 1>included and feeling jealous and upset. If you do an

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<v Speaker 1>advice segment, thank you so much. Love your pod. My partner,

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<v Speaker 1>we will call him Oliver, has two best mates that

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<v Speaker 1>he met at uni and has been there since the

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<v Speaker 1>start of our relationship. We'll call them Anna and Tom.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait, who's that?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm already lost.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm lost too.

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<v Speaker 3>So he has two best mates, Anna and Tom, and

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<v Speaker 3>they're together.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is gays.

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<v Speaker 3>No. So this, I'm this girl.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, girl. Is with Oliver.

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<v Speaker 3>And he has two friends. Anna and Tom.

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<v Speaker 2>I need a whiteboard so I can put a big

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<v Speaker 2>family tree.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so it's a guy, and then he's got two besties,

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<v Speaker 1>which is a girl and a guy.

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<v Speaker 2>The guy and the girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I met Anna and Tom over the years, and we

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<v Speaker 1>have hung out heaps, had heaps of dinners, and even

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<v Speaker 1>met up overseas, and I thought I was pretty close

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<v Speaker 1>to them. While traveling overseas, we introduced my childhood best friend,

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<v Speaker 1>I will call her Sophie, and her partner, David. James

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<v Speaker 1>to Anna and Tom. Are you following Matt? Cause I am.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's introduced her childhood bestie and her partner to

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<v Speaker 1>the two other besties of her partner. Fast forward to now,

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<v Speaker 1>Anna and Tom are engaged and getting married, which we

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<v Speaker 1>are super excited for.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So this guy's two best friends are now getting married.

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<v Speaker 1>Fucking hell. Okay. My partner is speaking at their wedding

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't wait to celebrate their love. Recently I

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<v Speaker 1>found out, however, that they have organized a hens and

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<v Speaker 1>a bucks party. My partner originally thought I was invited, however,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't check the list. I told him I didn't receive

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<v Speaker 1>an invite and we checked the invitation list and my

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<v Speaker 1>best friend Sophie and James were invited along with my partner, however,

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<v Speaker 1>they did not invite me. Okay, this is getting personal

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<v Speaker 1>now because why are her childhood besties invited but not

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<v Speaker 1>her who is the partner of their best friend? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt immediately pretty hurt and was finding it hard

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<v Speaker 1>not to take it personally. I know other partners have

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<v Speaker 1>not been included in the hens and bucks party. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess it came as a surprise that Sophie and James,

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<v Speaker 1>so her best friends, were close to Anna and Tom.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still feeling a bit butthurt over it. I know

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<v Speaker 1>weddings and the events leading up to it are complicated

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<v Speaker 1>and you can't invite everyone, but I can't help but

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<v Speaker 1>feel a bit jealous of the situation, especially because I

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<v Speaker 1>am the one that suggested introducing Sophie and James to

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<v Speaker 1>Anna and Tom originally overseas. Would appreciate some advice. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>That makes sense to me.

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<v Speaker 2>It makes sense to me as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Should we paint this scenario as if though it was

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<v Speaker 1>you or me?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>So this would be, for example, if I started going

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<v Speaker 1>out with AJ.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>And he had a Two best friends, a guy and

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<v Speaker 1>a girl.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>I met them. Nice to meet you both.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>Those two besties end up getting together as a couple.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I introduce you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>To obviously AJ and his two best friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>Then as those two are getting married, you're invited and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>You're invited to the bucks or the hens or whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm not, but I've introduced you and Sky to

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<v Speaker 1>these two people.

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<v Speaker 2>So me and Sky are going to the bucks or

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<v Speaker 2>the hens.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm not invited, even though I introduced you and

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<v Speaker 1>Sky to AJ's best friends that are now a couple.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my God. This is like.

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<v Speaker 3>And AJ's the best man.

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<v Speaker 2>In the wedding.

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<v Speaker 3>Blah, blah, blah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I think that's personal.

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<v Speaker 2>No, but I do want to go back here because

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<v Speaker 2>it says, I found out, however, that they have organized

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<v Speaker 2>a hens and bucks party. My partner originally thought I

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<v Speaker 2>was invited, however, didn't check the list. I told him

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't receive an invite and we checked the invitation

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<v Speaker 2>list and my best friend Sophie and James were invited

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<v Speaker 2>along with my partner. However, they did not invite me.

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<v Speaker 2>I need more context there because.

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<v Speaker 1>What's an invite list?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Where are they seeing that? Is there a list? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>is it a Facebook group? A Facebook group, maybe.

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<v Speaker 2>But maybe she just hasn't been added by accident. Like, has.

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<v Speaker 1>But then how do you ask someone without that being awkward?

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine being like, hey, I noticed I wasn't added to

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<v Speaker 1>the event on Facebook or however she's seen this list.

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<v Speaker 1>But then what if it truly is them not wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to invite her? I would get... I think there's a

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<v Speaker 1>deeper issue there that they need to uncover.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yes, me too.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I think this is personal. If that were

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<v Speaker 1>me and I were in that situation... I completely understand

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<v Speaker 1>that you're upset. There may be more reasons to it.

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<v Speaker 1>What I'd be doing is I'd be getting AJ to ask.

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<v Speaker 1>the bride and groom on my behalf. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>I would go, Hey, you know, so-and-so why wasn't I invited?

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<v Speaker 1>But because AJ is the best man or whatever, a groom,

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<v Speaker 1>a groom, the best man or a in the fucking

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<v Speaker 1>groom party, I'd be getting AJ to go to either

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<v Speaker 1>the guy or the girl, whoever, and just say, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>like I noticed Brit wasn't invited. I just wanted to check,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, if everything's all good there, I understand you

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<v Speaker 1>can't invite everyone, but I just thought it was a

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<v Speaker 1>bit strange considering Matt and Sky are invited, but not Brit.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to ask. I'd be getting AJ to

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<v Speaker 1>ask on my behalf. What would you do?

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<v Speaker 2>I would be getting AJ to ask on my behalf

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<v Speaker 2>as well.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I would do in that situation. Because I

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<v Speaker 1>think if you have literally no idea why you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>been invited, there might be something there that they're not

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<v Speaker 1>being honest about.

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<v Speaker 2>There's two options. Either they actually don't like you and

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<v Speaker 2>don't want you there. And if that's the case, who

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<v Speaker 2>gives a fuck? Move on with life. You could die tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>Or they've accidentally forgotten to invite you, which is a

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<v Speaker 2>totally normal thing to happen. And like I have many

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<v Speaker 2>a times forgotten to invite someone to something because that's

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<v Speaker 2>just me. So there's really only two ways that it

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<v Speaker 2>can go.

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<v Speaker 1>Or maybe they assume that she's definitely coming because her

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<v Speaker 1>partner is in the bridal party.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. When you send... these emails in scrollers, no information

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<v Speaker 2>is too much. Like, like really, if you think, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to say too much. Like I don't want.

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<v Speaker 1>To tell us everything. Has something happened in the past?

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<v Speaker 2>Cause my, uh, my thing is that, I mean, they're

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<v Speaker 2>really the only two ways it can go, right? The

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<v Speaker 2>first is they don't actually like her, which say lovey,

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<v Speaker 2>let's move on. Or the second thing is they've forgotten

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<v Speaker 2>to invite her or just assumed that it was unspoken

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<v Speaker 2>that she was going. I don't know what this invite

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<v Speaker 2>list is. Like, this is what I mean by add

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<v Speaker 2>a bit more context. If you email us scrollers, cause.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, where are you seeing an invite list?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Where's the invite list?

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<v Speaker 1>It has to be a Facebook group, a Facebook event.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And she's seen that.

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<v Speaker 2>She isn't on there. Or there's new links that you

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<v Speaker 2>can get invited to. Like, They send you a text

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<v Speaker 2>and then you go on. It's like, I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>called like party full or something. Okay. And like you,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like a Facebook event, but via text because a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Have Facebook now. I just think like maybe they've genuinely

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<v Speaker 1>forgotten her because again, if her partner is in the

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<v Speaker 1>bridal party and is besties with this couple that's getting

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<v Speaker 1>married and if for any reason they didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>invite his partner- Would they not have the decency to

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<v Speaker 1>say to her partner, hey, mate, look, we're not inviting

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<v Speaker 1>her because X, Y, Z? Is that not a bit

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<v Speaker 1>awkward for them to not invite her but not say

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<v Speaker 1>anything and he's in the bridal party? This is where

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I'm missing context.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'm missing context too because it says, however,

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<v Speaker 2>they organized a hens and bucks party. I'm also like,

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<v Speaker 2>is that together? Is it a hens and bucks party

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<v Speaker 2>at the same time? I mean, we're so progressive these days.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody's doing everything. You know, like I'm like, are these

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<v Speaker 2>two separate events and are you, because are you upset

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<v Speaker 2>that you're not invited to the hens? Because it says

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<v Speaker 2>Sophie and James were invited along with my partner. To me,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going, are they all going to a hens and

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<v Speaker 2>bucks together?

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<v Speaker 1>Again, I just think if one of AJ's mates was

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<v Speaker 1>getting married, and AJ was in the bridal party and

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't invited to any sort of celebrations around that,

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<v Speaker 1>AJ's mate would go, hey mate, we're not inviting Brittany

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<v Speaker 1>because X, Y, Z, because he's close enough with those

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<v Speaker 1>people that he's in their bridal party. And if not,

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<v Speaker 1>AJ would be going to him, hey mate, I noticed

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<v Speaker 1>Brittany's not on the invite list. I just wanted to check, like,

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<v Speaker 1>have you forgotten her or is there a problem there?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, because I think that as well, that just that

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<v Speaker 2>scenario is fine and I wouldn't even I wouldn't even

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<v Speaker 2>be bothered. the type of person if I don't get

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<v Speaker 2>invited to something, I'm just like, whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>But also, is she invited to the wedding?

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<v Speaker 2>No, but yeah, I think she is. But I think

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<v Speaker 2>the problem here is adding in the childhood friends element.

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<v Speaker 2>Because if the situation happened without the childhood friends element

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<v Speaker 2>and AJ was in the bridal party and being invited

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<v Speaker 2>to the box and you weren't, I mean, me personally,

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<v Speaker 2>if Sky was in a wedding party for literally anyone

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<v Speaker 2>and I wasn't invited to the hens or bucks or whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>that's not an issue to me at all. In fact,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd go as far to say is if you don't,

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<v Speaker 2>if I don't have that much of a relationship with

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<v Speaker 2>you and you're Sky's friend, I don't expect to be

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<v Speaker 2>invited to the wedding at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, how close is she to this couple? Well, she

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<v Speaker 1>reckons she's pretty close.

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<v Speaker 2>But she also said, she also said being out to

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<v Speaker 2>a few dinners, seeing each other overseas, like, Again, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you thought you were more of a friend than

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<v Speaker 2>you actually were. I don't know. This is why I

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<v Speaker 2>fucking hate these segments because we don't have enough context.

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<v Speaker 1>I love these segments.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I feel like I'm being a bitch to

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<v Speaker 2>this girl that's written into us and no one's going

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<v Speaker 2>to want to write in because I just read everyone

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<v Speaker 2>to fill.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's valid that you feel this way. It

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<v Speaker 1>definitely is awkward, especially awkward because you're also going to

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<v Speaker 1>the wedding and then the two other besties. And my

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<v Speaker 1>advice is get your partner to ask on your behalf.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's no biggie if he's that close with them

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<v Speaker 1>in the bridal party. Hey, I've just noticed that Brits

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<v Speaker 1>not invited to the hen slash bucks. I just wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to check. Is it like a numbers thing or have

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<v Speaker 1>you forgotten?

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<v Speaker 2>Also, I agree that you're valid in feeling like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>why haven't I been invited? But two, I would encourage

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<v Speaker 2>you to get the fuck over it. Like, do you really,

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<v Speaker 2>how badly do you need to go to someone's fucking

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<v Speaker 2>hen's party?

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's more, I agree with what you're saying.

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<v Speaker 1>It's more the feeling of being like neglected or left

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<v Speaker 1>out or rejected.

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<v Speaker 2>But also have enough self-respect for yourself to go, don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>They're going to have a shit time without me anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>you know? Yeah. Because that's how I frame things. I go, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't invite me. No worries. Have fun, losers, you know?

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<v Speaker 3>I think it would sting significantly more that her. two

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<v Speaker 3>best friends are included. It's just feeling excluded.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all it is.

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<v Speaker 2>I reckon if they weren't included, then the scene would.

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<v Speaker 1>Be a different story. It's just literally the feeling of

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<v Speaker 1>being excluded. It's not nice and no one likes to

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<v Speaker 1>be left out. But, yeah, I wouldn't completely beat yourself

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<v Speaker 1>up over it. I would just get your partner to ask.

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<v Speaker 1>Just ask the question. Hard conversations, easy life. I always

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<v Speaker 1>say that. And also, low key, shame on the couple

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<v Speaker 1>getting married for not just mentioning it to your partner

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<v Speaker 1>in the first place. Yeah. Hey, AJ, we didn't invite

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<v Speaker 1>Britt because- Also.

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<v Speaker 2>Power move. Show up. What are they going to do? Say, sorry, babe,

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<v Speaker 2>you've got to leave. Power move. Just be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I thought I was invited. Why would I not be invited?

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<v Speaker 2>Let's have that conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. You know what I mean? I love these segments.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. I love it too.

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<v Speaker 1>Please send in your scenarios or even just stories.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. We can even do like a long form one

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<v Speaker 2>on YouTube exclusive as well.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I love talking about this kind of stuff. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. Great. Well, the only last thing that I would

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<v Speaker 2>ask is that whoever sent this in, I would love

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<v Speaker 2>an update so that we can share it. Not only

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<v Speaker 2>for us, but we want to share it with the scrollers.

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<v Speaker 2>This is the other problem with these segments. Sorry, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just shitting on these segments. But the other problem is

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<v Speaker 2>we now are so invested in this hen's party. And

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<v Speaker 2>how long ago did you get this email? How long

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<v Speaker 2>till it, are we even too late to give the advice?

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<v Speaker 2>Has it been and gone now? Like what's going on?

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<v Speaker 2>I need an update from you, even if we were

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<v Speaker 2>too late.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, please let us know.

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<v Speaker 2>And they might be busy. They might not even listen

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<v Speaker 2>to this episode. They might be one of the fucking

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<v Speaker 2>scrollers who doesn't even listen to close friends. Maybe. We

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know if they'll even hear this episode.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think we're onto something with this.

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<v Speaker 2>They could have turned off five weeks ago when Tiffany

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<v Speaker 2>come out and they hate us now and they don't

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<v Speaker 2>even listen to scrollers, you know. This is what I

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<v Speaker 2>mean with these segments. I just panic.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I think we're really onto something here, Matt. I

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<v Speaker 1>think this is going to be, if we can do

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<v Speaker 1>it properly, we could be onto a new scrollers segment.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. Well, I'm keen to do it properly.

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<v Speaker 1>Me too.

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<v Speaker 3>Everyone send in your scenarios, please.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you send enough in, we will keep it

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<v Speaker 1>going and then we will pitch to Nova. This is

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<v Speaker 1>an additional episode every week outside of mains and close friends.

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<v Speaker 1>And then we can ask for more money.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes. Yes. All right. Well, until then, we'll see you

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<v Speaker 2>next Tuesday.