1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: I get a team. I hope you will. Hope you're 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:06,200 Speaker 1: having a good week. It's Tuesday, as I sit down 3 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:10,720 Speaker 1: to record this, it is ten twenty seven and the 4 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: am in Melbs. It's been an interesting week or so 5 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: on Planet Me. It's a solo today, as you obviously 6 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 1: have gathered. Went up to see the oldies yesterday, to 7 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:24,959 Speaker 1: see the old man. The old man struggling a little 8 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: bit with a few things, seems to be turning the corner. 9 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: Bless his little socks, trying to keep him mobile mentally, 10 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:36,879 Speaker 1: emotionally and physically. Had a little bit of a setback, 11 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: but he's on the road to recovery. And the old 12 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: Dull bless her socks. The fucking the super nurse, the Dota, 13 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: the Caramm's just hovering like fucking Florence Nightingale around him 14 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: and just waiting on him hand and foot. And the 15 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: only child tries to get up there as much as 16 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: he can and give a little bit of support and love. 17 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: And anyway, that's enough of what's going on on Planet Me. 18 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: So I've just been reading some stuff and I thought 19 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:11,480 Speaker 1: I thought I might take the stuff that I've been 20 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 1: reading and turn it into a chat with you. Around 21 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:24,720 Speaker 1: this propensity that we can have to try to resonate 22 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:28,920 Speaker 1: with everyone, or to try to keep everyone happy, or 23 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:35,400 Speaker 1: to want to please everyone, and the impossibility and impracticality 24 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:38,040 Speaker 1: of that. And while we want to be we want 25 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 1: to be a good person with good intentions, we're always 26 00:01:43,840 --> 00:01:47,199 Speaker 1: going to have people who, for whatever reason, will find 27 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 1: offense or discontent or be angry, or be resentful, or 28 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 1: be whatever, or enlightened or joyful or appreciative of something 29 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 1: that comes out of your mouth or something that comes 30 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: off your keyboard or from your fingers. I guess so 31 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:08,960 Speaker 1: I's just reading on LinkedIn. I was having a bit 32 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:12,399 Speaker 1: of a squisite LinkedIn. Now, Jeff, if we have met, 33 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 1: I apologize. We may have met. I'm not sure. But anyway, 34 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: there's a dude called Jeff McKeon who follows me. Seems 35 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: like a really nice guy. Says, post some great stuff 36 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: and put up one of my posts yesterday. I'll read 37 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,359 Speaker 1: you the post in a minute, and the reason I'm 38 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 1: reading this will become apparent. So he wrote emotional regulation, 39 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:39,200 Speaker 1: self awareness, neuroscience, wisdom and philosophy all in a single 40 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 1: Australian quote, talking about my quote. Thanks Craig Harper still 41 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:45,919 Speaker 1: makes me laugh, but it is such a valuable way 42 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 1: to get the message across to anyone. Stay awesome and 43 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: stay kind, nice sentiments. So the post I wrote was 44 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 1: or the post that he shared of mind which I'd 45 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 1: written this years and there's probably six, seven, eight years old, 46 00:03:01,040 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: and it is shit happens, has happened, and will continue 47 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: to happen. But you, the reactor to the shit, get 48 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: to decide what it means and what impact it will have, 49 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 1: if any, in your world, because shit doesn't determine you. 50 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: You determine shit. Now, I know when I write that 51 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: that there will be a percentage of people who don't 52 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: resonate with that. There will be some that think, oh, yeah, 53 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: I understand what he's on about and that kind of 54 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: makes sense. And there might be a group who go, 55 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:35,080 Speaker 1: I fucking love that. That is exactly what I needed 56 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 1: to read or hear, and so on and so on. 57 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: And I expect that I will have all three responses 58 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:45,360 Speaker 1: and more. And one of the realities of I guess, 59 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,120 Speaker 1: not just for me, but anyone who's on social media, 60 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 1: is if you have an audience and there are people 61 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 1: going to watch your video or listen to your audio 62 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: or read what you wrote, then you are putting yourself 63 00:03:57,360 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: up to be evaluated, scene judged, critics, eyes, supported, endorsed, 64 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,520 Speaker 1: and not that we want to be criticized, but if 65 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:08,440 Speaker 1: you're putting yourself out there publicly, that is, once you 66 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: get to a certain audience threshold, that is a certain 67 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: amount of eyes or ears on you, then it is 68 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:20,719 Speaker 1: It's not probable, it's inevitable, you know. And so of 69 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: course everything that I put up, I never write anything 70 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: to offend anyone. I've never sat down. I've never sat 71 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:33,360 Speaker 1: down with the intention of writing something that people might 72 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 1: find offensive. I've never sat down with the intention of 73 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:41,039 Speaker 1: being critical of a particular person. I've never tried to 74 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: get anyone off side. But nonetheless, there have been thousands 75 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: of people I would suspect that didn't like what I wrote, 76 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:52,479 Speaker 1: that were offended by what I wrote, while you know, 77 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: another ninety eight percent of people reading the same post 78 00:04:56,040 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 1: were not. But nonetheless they were offended or they were 79 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 1: bothered by me and my idea, what they thought was 80 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: my intention and whatever. And so I know this, and 81 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:09,039 Speaker 1: I accept this, and also I also know that I 82 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 1: will get things wrong. I also know that I will 83 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: misjudge things. I also know that my intentions, my good intentions, 84 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:19,280 Speaker 1: won't always create good consequences or outcomes. And I need 85 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:21,279 Speaker 1: to know this, and I need to be this aware, 86 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: and I need to be this vulnerable and real and 87 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:26,920 Speaker 1: say that I will fuck things up, and I will 88 00:05:26,920 --> 00:05:31,360 Speaker 1: make judgment calls that are incorrect or misguided or off 89 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:33,760 Speaker 1: the mark or whatever, and I will do that, and 90 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,040 Speaker 1: I will keep doing that, not because I want to, 91 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: but because I'm flawed and because I'm human, despite the 92 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 1: fact that I don't get paid to put all the 93 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:45,680 Speaker 1: things I do. And even if you say, yeah, but 94 00:05:45,720 --> 00:05:48,479 Speaker 1: what about indirectly, trust me, the time, effort, and energy 95 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 1: that I have put into social media over the years 96 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 1: doesn't if I was doing it for remuneration. If I 97 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 1: was doing it for commercial reasons, I would be the 98 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: worst business man in the world. I do it because 99 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:08,719 Speaker 1: one I mostly enjoy it, but two I think it helps. 100 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,599 Speaker 1: It doesn't help everybody, but I absolutely know it helps 101 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 1: some people because I get that feedback, and I get 102 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 1: more positive than negative feedback, but nonetheless I get negative feedback. 103 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:21,919 Speaker 1: Absolutely fine with it, okay with it, and so I 104 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:24,960 Speaker 1: want to you know, I think one of the challenges 105 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: for us is that we want people to love us, 106 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:31,000 Speaker 1: to like us, to agree with us, to align with us. 107 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:34,480 Speaker 1: We don't put something up on social media, be it 108 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:38,560 Speaker 1: Facebook or LinkedIn or Instagram. We don't put something up 109 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:42,800 Speaker 1: to be criticized. We do it we generally think that 110 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:45,720 Speaker 1: we're going to get or we want some support or endorsement, 111 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: or we think that people are going to like what 112 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:50,720 Speaker 1: we've put up, or approve of what we've put us up, 113 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: or think better of us because of what we've put up. 114 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:57,360 Speaker 1: That's why we put shit up. If we're being honest, 115 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:00,279 Speaker 1: we don't put things up because we're trying to be 116 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 1: criticized or marginalized or rejected. We don't. But nonetheless, that 117 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:09,600 Speaker 1: is part of the human experience. And what I find 118 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 1: really interesting is that that sometimes I will put up 119 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 1: a message on one of my platforms, one of my pages, 120 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:25,120 Speaker 1: and because I would say, for the most part, I 121 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: have what we call a warm audience. So for example, 122 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 1: if I go to do a workshop and it's a 123 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: Craig Harper event, people have bought a ticket to come 124 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:37,680 Speaker 1: to see me, like I did on the weekend last 125 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: weekend in Bendigo, and everyone except about three reluctant husbands, 126 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: which was fucking hilarious. By the way, sidetrack let me sidetrack. 127 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 1: So one of the things I do whenever there is 128 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:52,800 Speaker 1: a workshop. I don't know why this is. I'm not 129 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: suggesting anything by it. It's just how it is. But 130 00:07:56,760 --> 00:07:58,920 Speaker 1: most of the workshops that I run, and most of 131 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: the camps that I run, which are two day living 132 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: things by half day workshops, my full day workshops that 133 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: are open to the public, generally those audiences are somewhere 134 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:13,680 Speaker 1: around eighty to ninety five percent women, And last weekend 135 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: in Bendigo it was probably it's probably eighty percent women. 136 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 1: I guess that's a conversation for the why as a 137 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,680 Speaker 1: conversation for another day. There's always men who have been 138 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,840 Speaker 1: dragged along, who don't want to be there, who think 139 00:08:28,880 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 1: I'm probably a fuckword, who don't want to listen to me, 140 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:34,480 Speaker 1: but their wife or their partner thinks that they need 141 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 1: to hear me, which is that idea is fraught with danger. 142 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 1: And it was funny because on the weekend I said, 143 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:43,960 Speaker 1: I said exactly that what I just said to you. 144 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:46,040 Speaker 1: I said that to the group before we got underway, 145 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:49,280 Speaker 1: and so I said, so I'm interested, who are who 146 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:51,920 Speaker 1: are you? You men who didn't choose to be here, 147 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 1: who didn't want to be here, who probably still don't 148 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:56,560 Speaker 1: want to be here in this moment, but you were 149 00:08:56,640 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 1: dragged along? Who are you? And by the way, I'm sorry, 150 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: and I hope it's not shit for you. And a 151 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: whole bunch of hands went up, all these blokes who 152 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:08,560 Speaker 1: didn't want to be there. And so you know, for me, 153 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: I know that there will be people even in what 154 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: we call a warm audience like that, people who for 155 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:16,839 Speaker 1: the most part bought a ticket and decided to come 156 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: along and invest some time and energy and a few 157 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: dollars into the Craig experience whatever that looks like. That's 158 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:26,680 Speaker 1: a mostly warm audience. But there will still be people 159 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 1: there with their arms crossed and their minds crossed. And 160 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:31,560 Speaker 1: there will be still people there that walk away from 161 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: a day like that, who go, they'h not great value. 162 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: I don't agree with him, maybe even I don't like him. 163 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:39,200 Speaker 1: There will be other people who go, that was the 164 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:41,839 Speaker 1: best day of my life. There will be somebody put 165 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:44,280 Speaker 1: up the thing yesterday that I saw, which was lovely, 166 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 1: and said, he's the best best speaker I've ever heard 167 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:48,400 Speaker 1: in my life. And that was beautiful. But I can 168 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: almost guarantee you there'd be someone within a stone's throw 169 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 1: of that lady who didn't think it was good at all. Right, 170 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: And this is not good or bad, And this is 171 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 1: not me looking for support or sympathy. This is me 172 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:02,320 Speaker 1: just talking about the inevitab ability of people who will 173 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 1: connect with you, people who will not connect with you, 174 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: people who will find your good intentions a negative experience. 175 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 1: And so there is no fix in inverted comments for this. 176 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:18,280 Speaker 1: It's just an opportunity for us to open this door 177 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 1: of awareness so that we're not constantly being hurt or offended, 178 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 1: and also at the same time, we're not constantly in 179 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:30,080 Speaker 1: conflict with people who don't agree with us, or who 180 00:10:30,120 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 1: don't like our message or our You know, my job 181 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: is not to evangelize people. I don't want people to 182 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: join the Crag cult. I don't want people to think 183 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: like me or agree with me. I want to share 184 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:47,560 Speaker 1: thoughts and ideas and messages and strategies and information and 185 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: inspiration and education. Hopefully that's what I want to do, 186 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 1: and then whoever will resonate with that, or whoever will 187 00:10:56,520 --> 00:11:00,440 Speaker 1: find some value in it, they might then earned that 188 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:03,560 Speaker 1: theory that I share, that idea, that message, they might 189 00:11:03,640 --> 00:11:07,679 Speaker 1: turn that into a decision and then some behavior, and 190 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: then potentially they might turn that thing into a positive 191 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 1: results in their world. And if I was a small 192 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 1: part of that something I said on a podcast like 193 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 1: this was a genesis for that one, I'm really happy 194 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: because that's the outcome that I love. But also at 195 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:29,439 Speaker 1: the same time, I didn't do it. I didn't do it. 196 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:33,280 Speaker 1: I just had a very small, perhaps influence in the 197 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: person's thinking. And then they did the work, they made 198 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 1: the choice, they took the action, they created the outcomes. So, 199 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 1: as I've said many times before, I'm not the answer. Also, 200 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 1: I'm not the problem. I can't. I can't make anyone 201 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: feel a certain way. But people will feel a certain way. 202 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:54,920 Speaker 1: But I will say one thing, and ten people will 203 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:58,160 Speaker 1: have a different experience of that one thing that I say, 204 00:11:58,559 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 1: because I don't deter and individual experiences. If I could, 205 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:08,599 Speaker 1: I would, I would go, all right, well everyone is 206 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 1: going to love this, and everyone would love it. But 207 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:15,920 Speaker 1: I can't, and that isn't how it works. So as 208 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:18,840 Speaker 1: a teacher, as a coach, as a presenter, and whatever 209 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: your role is, I'm sure that part of your life, 210 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:23,199 Speaker 1: if not a lot of your life is about connection, 211 00:12:23,960 --> 00:12:27,080 Speaker 1: is about working with or communicating or connecting with other people, 212 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 1: is about solving problems. And maybe you're sharing messages or 213 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:36,839 Speaker 1: ideas or inspiration or coaching online like I do. Maybe 214 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 1: you're a slightly different version of me. The truth is 215 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:46,080 Speaker 1: that we're going to We're going to not align with people, 216 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:50,079 Speaker 1: and we will align with other people from the exact 217 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: same stimulus. So you know, what will make one person 218 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:59,680 Speaker 1: laugh will make somebody else offended. You know, statistically, they 219 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:02,720 Speaker 1: will always be a percentage of people who don't like 220 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 1: maybe don't like you and not even for a good reason, 221 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:14,600 Speaker 1: or don't like what you say. So my my intention, 222 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:19,320 Speaker 1: as I've said before, is always something positive. Here. It's 223 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 1: to share ideas, thoughts, messages which might inspire, which might inform, 224 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: which might alight enlighten people. But I'm also cognizant that 225 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: my intention will often not be someone else's experience, and 226 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:38,680 Speaker 1: I can't avoid that. That's okay. I do my very 227 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:43,760 Speaker 1: best to understand the minds of and this is which 228 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:47,360 Speaker 1: I've spoken about many times. It's in my my PhD 229 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:50,839 Speaker 1: wheelhouse is to understand how I think, to understand how 230 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 1: others think, to understand the micro of this person in 231 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:58,960 Speaker 1: front of me, to understand the macro of this podcast audience. 232 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 1: And you know, I'm very fortunate that I meet lots 233 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,200 Speaker 1: of people who listen to the show. I have friends 234 00:14:04,240 --> 00:14:07,400 Speaker 1: who listen to the show, and we have a Facebook 235 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:09,800 Speaker 1: page which I would love you to be involved, and 236 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:13,280 Speaker 1: if you're not, just called the U Project Facebook group, 237 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 1: I think it's called you'll find it, and in there 238 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:19,600 Speaker 1: people jump online and share thoughts, ideas, feedback messages, and 239 00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:23,040 Speaker 1: that gives me the insight, gives me an insight into 240 00:14:23,120 --> 00:14:27,920 Speaker 1: the mind of our listeners because I want to understand 241 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 1: the Craig experience. I want to understand the typ experience. 242 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:35,000 Speaker 1: I want to understand whether or not what I am 243 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 1: saying and how I am saying it, my thoughts, ideas, messages, information, inspiration, education, 244 00:14:40,600 --> 00:14:42,960 Speaker 1: all of that stuff. I know I say that shit 245 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 1: a lot. I apologize. I just had a moment of awareness. 246 00:14:47,080 --> 00:14:51,240 Speaker 1: But whether or not that stuff resonates with most, I 247 00:14:51,320 --> 00:14:54,800 Speaker 1: know it won't with all. But I'm not trying to 248 00:14:54,920 --> 00:14:57,960 Speaker 1: be everything for everyone, and I'm not trying to create 249 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:02,600 Speaker 1: universal connection, though I would love it, but I'm not 250 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: trying to create universal connection. I'm trying to create the 251 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:12,040 Speaker 1: best level of connection that I can. And so back 252 00:15:12,080 --> 00:15:17,680 Speaker 1: to what Jeff posted on LinkedIn. You know when I 253 00:15:17,680 --> 00:15:20,520 Speaker 1: write something like I'll say it again, shit happens, has 254 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:24,440 Speaker 1: happened and will continue to happen. But you, the reactor 255 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 1: to the shit, get to decide what it means and 256 00:15:26,600 --> 00:15:30,000 Speaker 1: what impact it will have, if any, in your world. 257 00:15:30,000 --> 00:15:33,880 Speaker 1: Because shit doesn't determine you. You determine shit. In other words, 258 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 1: it's saying, you know, stuff's going to happen. There will 259 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:40,360 Speaker 1: always be stuff that happens good and bad to you, 260 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:43,480 Speaker 1: around you, because of you, in spite of you, stuff 261 00:15:43,480 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: that's out of your control. But what is in your 262 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: control In the middle of the good and the bad, 263 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: the scene and the unseen, the predicted and the uncpredicted, 264 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 1: the beautiful and the chaotic. In the middle of all 265 00:15:56,480 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 1: of that, you and I get to try, at the 266 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: very least to determine us to create our own experience. 267 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 1: So that was the post. Now I want to I 268 00:16:09,640 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 1: want to share with you some of the individual responses. 269 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:16,400 Speaker 1: And this is what I love, you know. So this 270 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:20,040 Speaker 1: lady called Sandra wrote I need that on a t shirt. 271 00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:24,560 Speaker 1: Shit doesn't determine you. You determined shit. So clearly resonated 272 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 1: with her. She wants to put on a T shirt. 273 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 1: Great this next lady Anette. Anette wrote, No, it's not 274 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: that simple. Your choices are governed by beliefs and patterns 275 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: Arda da and goes on and on and it's good 276 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:41,600 Speaker 1: and what she says is valid, and I kind of agree, 277 00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:44,760 Speaker 1: but also at the same time, I didn't say it 278 00:16:44,800 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 1: was simple, but I understand. So one positive, one yeah, 279 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:53,760 Speaker 1: maybe not negative, but heading towards negative. Then another lady 280 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 1: called Anita goes on and says, in my humble opinion, 281 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:04,040 Speaker 1: I think it's important to con the biopsychological, bio biopsychological 282 00:17:04,080 --> 00:17:08,399 Speaker 1: and physiological aspects of emotion, emotions, storage of emotions in 283 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 1: the body, and involuntary trauma and responses and ans. I 284 00:17:12,000 --> 00:17:15,199 Speaker 1: find that hyper positivity mind of a matter approach removes 285 00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:18,160 Speaker 1: these and goes on and on again. I'm not saying 286 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,800 Speaker 1: that's good or bout. I'm going, oh wow, you know, 287 00:17:20,880 --> 00:17:25,520 Speaker 1: out of a kind of a pretty straightforward whiteboard message, 288 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,320 Speaker 1: there's and again, not good or bad, just different. And 289 00:17:28,359 --> 00:17:30,880 Speaker 1: I read it and I'm its some of it really 290 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:35,920 Speaker 1: resonated with me, and then Pam wrote this is pretty stupid. 291 00:17:36,640 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 1: It sounds like a fourth grader wrote that. And can 292 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:45,520 Speaker 1: I say, Pam, bless your little socks. I don't disagree 293 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:48,879 Speaker 1: with you. I don't. I don't share your sentiment. But 294 00:17:48,920 --> 00:17:53,399 Speaker 1: it's stupid. But I'm very happy for you to think that. 295 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:57,679 Speaker 1: And I'm not being disingenuous here. And the bit that 296 00:17:57,720 --> 00:17:59,719 Speaker 1: you wrote it sounds like a fourth grader wrote that. 297 00:18:00,720 --> 00:18:04,879 Speaker 1: I kind of agree. It's like, yeah, I am, I am. 298 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 1: I think. One of the things that I do is 299 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:10,560 Speaker 1: sometimes I don't do it well, by the way, but 300 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 1: one of the things that I try and do is 301 00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 1: I try to share what can be heavy or complicated messages, 302 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:27,120 Speaker 1: sometimes in a fundamental, simplistic way so that we get it. 303 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:31,359 Speaker 1: And it's not like that simple message about shit doesn't 304 00:18:31,400 --> 00:18:34,480 Speaker 1: determine you. You determined shit and the rest. It's not like, oh, wow, 305 00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:36,879 Speaker 1: this is going to change someone's life. But for me, 306 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:41,760 Speaker 1: it's not that this is some profound insight into research 307 00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 1: and science and psychology and philosophy. For me, it's more, 308 00:18:46,240 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 1: how about I just chuck this up there and get 309 00:18:48,560 --> 00:18:52,399 Speaker 1: people thinking, and what if this little simple post is 310 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:56,400 Speaker 1: the beginning of somebody opening a door or pulling back 311 00:18:56,440 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: a curtain and going on their own journey of oh wow, 312 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 1: well maybe I can maybe despite the mayhem and the 313 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:07,359 Speaker 1: craziness and the good and bad of my life, maybe 314 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:10,800 Speaker 1: I can self regulate. Maybe I can self manage. Maybe 315 00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:14,359 Speaker 1: I can write my own story instead of having one 316 00:19:14,480 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 1: written for me. And then so dude, a dude called Rock, 317 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:24,360 Speaker 1: shout out to Rock goes It is that simple, okay, 318 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:28,639 Speaker 1: gid up. Mental toughness is a character trait developed as 319 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 1: a reaction to failure. You determine your fate if you 320 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:35,440 Speaker 1: so choose. Some things are just outside your control. Your 321 00:19:35,480 --> 00:19:38,479 Speaker 1: reaction to that is the measure of your character. So 322 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:43,400 Speaker 1: Rock's on board again. I think it's a bit more 323 00:19:43,400 --> 00:19:45,440 Speaker 1: than what he said. But he's kind of on team Craig, 324 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:50,879 Speaker 1: I think. But also, eh, it's okay, Tammy right, I 325 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 1: love this, Thanks Tammy. Ah Muss who's a doctor, a 326 00:19:59,040 --> 00:20:03,080 Speaker 1: heart doctor. Apparently, I think we can change our perspective 327 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:07,879 Speaker 1: by not calling things happening as shit. That approach leads 328 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: to victim and loser mentality. Well in your opinion, Muss, 329 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:18,080 Speaker 1: And that's cool. That's cool. So not a fan all right. 330 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:24,320 Speaker 1: Dave McDonald, Yep. Love that. It's never the situation, it's 331 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:26,719 Speaker 1: one hundred percent how you choose to react to it. 332 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:32,639 Speaker 1: Thanks for the support, Dave. I think it's I like 333 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:36,040 Speaker 1: that we're on the same page. I think it's not 334 00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:38,520 Speaker 1: only one hundred percent how you choose. I think there 335 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:40,399 Speaker 1: are other variables, but I think the way that you 336 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:44,360 Speaker 1: respond is a big parts of it. Joey wrote, nice one, 337 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:47,840 Speaker 1: thank you for bringing a smile to my day. M 338 00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:52,639 Speaker 1: mo hit wrote, this looks like something that is taken 339 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:55,399 Speaker 1: straight out of a Mark Manson blog. Now, Mark Manson 340 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,240 Speaker 1: is the guy that wrote the subtle art of not 341 00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:02,560 Speaker 1: giving a fuck, and people have compared me to him 342 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:04,600 Speaker 1: and gone, oh you, And I just want to point 343 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:07,560 Speaker 1: out that he wrote his book. So my fuck book, 344 00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:10,880 Speaker 1: which was Stopped Fucking Around, was written in twenty ten, 345 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 1: and I think his was written some six or seven 346 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:16,479 Speaker 1: years later, Which is not to say anyone copied anyone. 347 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:20,960 Speaker 1: They didn't. And his is a great book. But I 348 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:25,359 Speaker 1: definitely didn't model myself on Mark Manson. This looks like 349 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,679 Speaker 1: something that has taken straight out of a Mark Manson 350 00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 1: blog blog post with a little stoicism mixed with it. 351 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:36,439 Speaker 1: The subtle art of not giving a shit, and Garth 352 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:43,440 Speaker 1: wrote such basic language and a powerful impact. Karen wrote, 353 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:46,040 Speaker 1: love this straight to the point and true and on 354 00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:48,119 Speaker 1: and on and so there was. I won't bang on 355 00:21:48,160 --> 00:21:50,720 Speaker 1: about it, but there was a lot of comments. Some 356 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:54,119 Speaker 1: of them really insightful, and some of them said things 357 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 1: that I hadn't thought about. Some of them made really 358 00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:59,880 Speaker 1: valid points. Some of them disagreed with what I said, 359 00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:02,680 Speaker 1: some of them agreed with what I said, and all 360 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:04,800 Speaker 1: of that I am fine with. And as I mentioned 361 00:22:04,880 --> 00:22:08,399 Speaker 1: recently on a podcast, one of my favorite people in 362 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 1: the world was a guy who taught me at UNI 363 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 1: first time round with my first degree professor Paul Callory, 364 00:22:14,320 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 1: who said to me, mister Harper, if you don't want 365 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,600 Speaker 1: to offend anyone, then say nothing, do nothing, be nothing, 366 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,440 Speaker 1: and stand for nothing. And I probably mentioned that ten 367 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,760 Speaker 1: times over six years, and it just nobody had ever 368 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:29,399 Speaker 1: told me anything like that. And I guess, at my heart, 369 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 1: at my core, for a long time anyway, I was 370 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:37,359 Speaker 1: very much a people pleaser. But the only problem with 371 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:40,359 Speaker 1: being a people pleaser, or I guess there's a couple 372 00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 1: one is they're never going to be pleased permanently. It 373 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:45,720 Speaker 1: doesn't matter what you do, someone's going to find a 374 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:49,760 Speaker 1: reason to get fucked off at you. Two. If you're 375 00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:54,040 Speaker 1: just trying to keep them happy, then eventually you're going 376 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,240 Speaker 1: to say, or do or be something that is not 377 00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:59,560 Speaker 1: real for you. It's not authentic. It's not really you 378 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:03,720 Speaker 1: be or sharing or owning who you really are. It's 379 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 1: you trying to create a positive outcome with a person, 380 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:11,080 Speaker 1: which means you're now being disingenuous. Right, it is okay 381 00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:13,879 Speaker 1: for us to say no. It is okay for us 382 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:18,280 Speaker 1: to not agree. It is okay for us. It's okay 383 00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:20,600 Speaker 1: for that lady to say this sounds like it was 384 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:24,160 Speaker 1: written by a fourth grader, it's okay. Like, not only 385 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:28,080 Speaker 1: is it okay, it's better than okay. And I'm going 386 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 1: to say, not only is it okay for people to 387 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,120 Speaker 1: be critical? And of course I'm normal, Like sometimes if 388 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:38,160 Speaker 1: people are scathing and horrible, it hurts a little bit, 389 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:42,199 Speaker 1: but I'm a big boy. But quite often the criticisms 390 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:49,480 Speaker 1: that people have, or the contrary ideas or perspectives that 391 00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:54,680 Speaker 1: people have for me enlightening. And there have been many 392 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:58,639 Speaker 1: times where somebody has written something that I thought, Wow, 393 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:00,800 Speaker 1: I didn't think of that or I didn't look at 394 00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:03,320 Speaker 1: it through that window. And There've been more than a 395 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 1: few times where over time I've realized either one I 396 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:10,399 Speaker 1: was wrong or two I didn't express that idea or 397 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 1: thought a message in a way which was optimal or ideal. 398 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:19,040 Speaker 1: And also, you know, for me, and I would hope 399 00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:24,640 Speaker 1: for you. You know, I'm more intent. I'm more interested 400 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:29,280 Speaker 1: in creating connection and rapport and trust and helping people 401 00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:31,760 Speaker 1: in a real and powerful way over the long term 402 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:36,280 Speaker 1: than I am interested in popularity in the short term. 403 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:42,360 Speaker 1: I know that I could write stuff, I could say stuff, 404 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 1: I could share stuff that will probably make me more popular. 405 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,480 Speaker 1: But if that was what I was after, and by 406 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:54,200 Speaker 1: the way, of course, I have no desire to be unpopular, 407 00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:59,359 Speaker 1: But I'm not driven by that need for approval and 408 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 1: universal you know, love or endorsement. I'm not driven by 409 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:06,120 Speaker 1: that because I know when I'm driven by that, I'm 410 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:12,440 Speaker 1: being inauthentic. But my point is, and if I'm sound 411 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:15,199 Speaker 1: like I'm driveling today, I apologize because clearly this is 412 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:19,480 Speaker 1: a very freestyle affair. But people are going to hate 413 00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,480 Speaker 1: my stuff, people are going to love my stuff, and 414 00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 1: the stuff that people hate and love will often be 415 00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:29,359 Speaker 1: the same stuff, and that is okay. So my goal 416 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,919 Speaker 1: when I'm doing a podcast, my goal when I'm writing 417 00:25:31,920 --> 00:25:34,679 Speaker 1: a book, my goal when I'm doing a presentation, my 418 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,399 Speaker 1: goal when I'm putting up a post on social media, 419 00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:43,720 Speaker 1: it is not to get universal endorsement or approval or love, 420 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:50,959 Speaker 1: but rather to share something which has as much as 421 00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:55,040 Speaker 1: I can optimal effect in a positive way, optimal impact 422 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:59,119 Speaker 1: in a positive way. But I need to be prepared 423 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:03,840 Speaker 1: to keep doing what I'm doing and dealing with the 424 00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:07,800 Speaker 1: what feels like hate. I don't think it's hate. I 425 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:10,800 Speaker 1: do get I do get some overt hate every now 426 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:13,160 Speaker 1: and then, but for the most part, it's people who 427 00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,800 Speaker 1: just think. And even if someone does think I'm a dickhead, 428 00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:19,400 Speaker 1: or even if somebody does think, that's okay. I mean, 429 00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,560 Speaker 1: if I'm being honest, then I'm being aware. Of course 430 00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 1: I'm a dickhead sometimes. Of course, of course I'm unaware 431 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:30,600 Speaker 1: at times. Of course I say the wrong thing at times, 432 00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:33,720 Speaker 1: you know. But what is funny is I'm not even 433 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:35,280 Speaker 1: going to say what it is. But the other day, 434 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:39,119 Speaker 1: Tiff put up a TIF put up a video of 435 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:45,720 Speaker 1: me talking about her cat in very very very disparaging terms. 436 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,639 Speaker 1: It was a joke. It was a joke. I actually 437 00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,560 Speaker 1: don't hate cats at all. In fact, there's a cat 438 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,560 Speaker 1: that hangs out at my joint who's about twice the 439 00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:56,040 Speaker 1: size of a normal cat and black and kind of cool, 440 00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:59,040 Speaker 1: and we hang out a bit sometimes in the garden. 441 00:26:59,119 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 1: I don't hate cats. But you know, the funny thing 442 00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 1: was that that video bothered a small percentage of people, 443 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 1: one or two percent did not like it, didn't like 444 00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:14,160 Speaker 1: what I said, despite the fact that on no level 445 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:18,040 Speaker 1: was our being serious. But I understand it. But also 446 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:23,040 Speaker 1: overwhelmingly people found it funny, like the far greater percentage. 447 00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:25,720 Speaker 1: But you know, we know that the thing that will 448 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:29,119 Speaker 1: make one person laugh, will make another person confused, will 449 00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:33,280 Speaker 1: make another person offended, We'll make another person something else, 450 00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:36,560 Speaker 1: And all of that is that's the nature of communication. 451 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:42,480 Speaker 1: That's the nature of interacting with others, and intersecting with 452 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 1: others beyond the self, that is you. If there's an 453 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,600 Speaker 1: audience of one or one hundred or one thousand or 454 00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:52,040 Speaker 1: one million, there's a chance that somebody is going to 455 00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:54,000 Speaker 1: be fucked off by you. There's a chance that someone 456 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,920 Speaker 1: else is going to connect with you. Some chances someone 457 00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:58,960 Speaker 1: else is going to think you're brilliant and so on. 458 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:05,400 Speaker 1: So rather than trying to stave off the negativity or 459 00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:10,080 Speaker 1: foster the love, I think I think the mission for 460 00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,560 Speaker 1: me anyway, and maybe the mission for you, is to 461 00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:18,680 Speaker 1: just be real and authentic while still exercising discernment and wisdom. 462 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:21,240 Speaker 1: There are things that I think that I won't say 463 00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 1: publicly because I don't think it would create a good outcome. 464 00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 1: Not because I'm scared, but because I don't think it's 465 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,119 Speaker 1: going to help people. I don't think it's going to 466 00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:34,200 Speaker 1: lead to anything positive, nothing amazing. By the way, so 467 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:36,919 Speaker 1: there's that too. I'm not going to say something just 468 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:41,360 Speaker 1: because I think it to be true if I realize 469 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:44,000 Speaker 1: that that thing that I'm going to say out loud 470 00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: will not help people, or will not be of value 471 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,280 Speaker 1: to people, or I believe it won't be of value 472 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:55,280 Speaker 1: or of service or help to the majority anyway. Team 473 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 1: hope you got something from that. And Jeff, thanks for 474 00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,960 Speaker 1: posting my stuff on LinkedIn. And if you're not a 475 00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:06,560 Speaker 1: member of the or you're not following us or linked 476 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:12,280 Speaker 1: up on the Facebook group the You Project podcast facebook group, 477 00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:15,280 Speaker 1: I would really love to I'm going to be honest. 478 00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,000 Speaker 1: I'm still going no, no, I haven't stopped yet. In the 479 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:19,680 Speaker 1: old days, I used to have a thing called a blog. 480 00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:22,600 Speaker 1: Some of you remember what a blog a weblog. Blog 481 00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:25,520 Speaker 1: is an abbreviation of web log. Did you know that? 482 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,280 Speaker 1: Just like what I'm doing right now, it's not a podcast, 483 00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,680 Speaker 1: it's an episode. It's an episode of the podcast is 484 00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:35,880 Speaker 1: called the You Experience. This is an episode. People go, 485 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:39,680 Speaker 1: you did another podcast? I get it, but technically not correct. 486 00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:43,520 Speaker 1: But in the old days I used to have I 487 00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:45,960 Speaker 1: used to have a blog and it was just a 488 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:49,400 Speaker 1: really nice online forum. And believe it or not, I 489 00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:56,040 Speaker 1: had eighty thousand subscribers, and so everyone who subscribed would 490 00:29:56,360 --> 00:29:58,480 Speaker 1: share their email with us. That's how they would become 491 00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:04,080 Speaker 1: a subscriber. Essentially, it was like just the daily email. 492 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:07,600 Speaker 1: But I would write a blog that is a blog post. 493 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:12,520 Speaker 1: Colin Craig, don't contradict yourself. I would write a blog post, 494 00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:16,360 Speaker 1: a daily post, and it would be anywhere between twenty 495 00:30:16,360 --> 00:30:18,600 Speaker 1: words and a few hundred words, and there'd be a 496 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:20,800 Speaker 1: topic and there'd be it was kind of like I 497 00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:25,360 Speaker 1: written this like a written podcast, really, and so that 498 00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:30,360 Speaker 1: would go out to eighty thousand emails and then then 499 00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:32,920 Speaker 1: people would hit a link. They'd hit a link to 500 00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:34,840 Speaker 1: be able to get into the blog to be able 501 00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:36,760 Speaker 1: to read what I'd written on that day, and they 502 00:30:36,800 --> 00:30:39,000 Speaker 1: could like it, and there'd be comments under it, and 503 00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:43,680 Speaker 1: there would be thousands. I mean, we had an online forum, 504 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:45,800 Speaker 1: and at any time you could go I could go 505 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:48,680 Speaker 1: into the forum, or molistically go into the forum, and 506 00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:51,040 Speaker 1: you could see how many people were in there, how 507 00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:54,360 Speaker 1: many people were in that forum and talking about different 508 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:59,240 Speaker 1: following different threads, talking about different conversations, asking questions, sharing ideas, 509 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:03,680 Speaker 1: And it was for the most part, a very positive, 510 00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:06,800 Speaker 1: supportive place, and I really liked it. It was free 511 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,600 Speaker 1: and we didn't sell anything on there. There was no 512 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:12,160 Speaker 1: hookcatch agenda. It was just a place for people to 513 00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:14,640 Speaker 1: hang out online. And it was the early days. It 514 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:16,000 Speaker 1: was the early days, so there were a lot of 515 00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:20,800 Speaker 1: early adopters, and there wasn't the level of that complete 516 00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:25,120 Speaker 1: saturation of information that we have now. So it was 517 00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:27,640 Speaker 1: a different time and a different kind of phase of 518 00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:31,160 Speaker 1: the evolution of media and social media and the like. 519 00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:36,280 Speaker 1: But anyway, what I wouldn't mind doing is like creating 520 00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,720 Speaker 1: a smaller version of that where people can hang out 521 00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:42,240 Speaker 1: and talk. And what's happened lately on the Facebook page 522 00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,960 Speaker 1: is that people have been jumping in and asking questions 523 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:49,840 Speaker 1: and saying, you know what, remember that conversation Craig had 524 00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,719 Speaker 1: about such and such? Does does anyone remember who that 525 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:55,440 Speaker 1: was with or what number episode that was? And people 526 00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:58,640 Speaker 1: are answering, and then all people are asking questions about stuff, 527 00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:01,640 Speaker 1: and people are starting to get a nice little feel 528 00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:05,840 Speaker 1: for a little bit of an online community. So if 529 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:10,320 Speaker 1: that's of interest to you, jump in and yeah, love 530 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:11,720 Speaker 1: your guts, see you next time.