Speaker 1: Matt, you are looking absolutely glowing today. What's your secret?
Speaker 2: Well, Anna, I've been using this new hydrating tanning myss
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Speaker 3: I have to check it out. I've never heard of it.
Speaker 2: Go to their instagram.
Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale, I want the prince charming
Speaker 1: she how.
Speaker 2: Do I put?
Speaker 1: This?
Speaker 2: Isn't a fan of my kissing.
Speaker 3: Style boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours.
Speaker 2: He's in a trash bit.
Speaker 1: He's non recyclable. Catching her laugh.
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Speaker 1: Hello, I'm that we are in a new studio today.
Speaker 2: We are too. How do you think of the traffic
Speaker 2: coming here? Though?
Speaker 1: It was an absolute nightmare. I'm very worried for the future.
Speaker 2: Yeah, not good at all. And then I got stuck
Speaker 2: behind these people doing roadworks and they had like I reckon,
Speaker 2: I was the f like ten minutes. I was getting
Speaker 2: so frustrated and then took a wrong turn and I
Speaker 2: was just yeah, it's not good. What do you think
Speaker 2: of your coffee? Though?
Speaker 1: I got, well, we're coming to you live from North Melbourn.
Speaker 1: We have a new coffee shop. I don't know what
Speaker 1: this brewster has done, but this is the warmest coffee ever.
Speaker 1: Did you ask for this extra hot?
Speaker 2: No, I didn't know. It was like a you know,
Speaker 2: those like tuck shops that like trades go to. It
Speaker 2: was that sort of set up in the coffee machine
Speaker 2: doesn't look like a coffee machine.
Speaker 1: I do miss the old coffee. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2: It's not as bad as I thought it would be.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's jump straight into the episode. What is your
Speaker 1: turn on of the week?
Speaker 2: Well, and I guess what. I finally bought tickets to
Speaker 2: your wedding in Greece.
Speaker 1: Literally two months out. I sure you weren't going to come.
Speaker 1: I'm very happy to the wedding finally you and Tammy.
Speaker 1: Yeah you did leave it really last minute, like down
Speaker 1: to the line. How are those prices looking that late?
Speaker 2: Grand? Each three grand one week in Greece?
Speaker 1: I literally looked to night like last night, and there
Speaker 1: was flights for two thousand, three hundred.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but then they out of the tax or something
Speaker 2: when you get to the thing.
Speaker 1: What yeah, seven hundred dollars worth.
Speaker 2: Of it was like two seven who? What flight?
Speaker 1: Who was Qatar? Oh?
Speaker 2: Really? Maybe not the same dates as I wanted. We're
Speaker 2: going guitar.
Speaker 1: Because three grand is a lot. But then again, like
Speaker 1: it's kind of your own problem. But I'm glad at
Speaker 1: your coming. So you're going to make it to the
Speaker 1: welcome dinner.
Speaker 2: Yes, We'll get to the welcome dinner recovery, yes, and
Speaker 2: then we fly out after that that day, no, the
Speaker 2: day after day after let's talk about are we going
Speaker 2: to go organized to go to that cave?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So I was telling Matt about this place in Corfu
Speaker 1: where I'm getting married.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's listening, turn off, it turned off.
Speaker 1: Okay. It's called the Corfu Canal de Moor, and the
Speaker 1: legend goes that if you and your partner swim in
Speaker 1: there together, you will be together for life.
Speaker 2: Is it kissing there as well?
Speaker 1: And I think kissing there?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Anyway, I was actually telling Michael's mum this and she's
Speaker 1: like is that a good thing or a bad thing?
Speaker 1: You're going to be together for life? Like, what if
Speaker 1: you're not happy?
Speaker 2: No, I reckon, it's a good thing. I was going
Speaker 2: to surprise Timmy and take her there and make it
Speaker 2: out and there and so then we stay together for life.
Speaker 2: But I don't think we need a canal for that.
Speaker 1: Really, it's a very cute sentiment, though I definitely want
Speaker 1: to do it. It's right up the north of the island,
Speaker 1: so we need to organize a day to go there.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, my ek for the week just on that
Speaker 2: is the price of the tickets.
Speaker 1: To be honest, I would mind. Matt's favorite thing to
Speaker 1: do when something costs like too much money, he like
Speaker 1: gets his fist and he bites it and he's.
Speaker 2: Like, we'll post the photo of it on the Facebook page.
Speaker 2: Is quite funny, isn't it Amber's thing when she calls me,
Speaker 2: When I call her.
Speaker 1: She has a photo of you.
Speaker 2: Like time started to do it as well, actually for
Speaker 2: things as well.
Speaker 1: It's actually like my favorite thing that you do. I
Speaker 1: think it's hilarious. I'm like, wow, Well, my turn on
Speaker 1: of the week is that Michael just had his Bucks party.
Speaker 2: That's your turn on.
Speaker 1: It's literally my turn on, Like I'm so turned on
Speaker 1: by his Bucks party. Yeah, he was so well behaved.
Speaker 3: No strippers, no strippers.
Speaker 1: They went down to Sorrento for the weekend, like it
Speaker 1: was a long weekend and they all just had the
Speaker 1: best time.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: They drunk expensive wine, they went out for food, they
Speaker 1: played some like fun drinking games, but overall it was
Speaker 1: so tame. I was like, I am so glad and
Speaker 1: marrying this man, Like this is so attractive to me.
Speaker 1: And I don't think that a lot of people are
Speaker 1: in my position. Like I feel like people are a
Speaker 1: bit like after their partner or fiance goes on their
Speaker 1: Bucks weekend, they're a bit like off them, or they're
Speaker 1: not happy about things that have happened. I literally got
Speaker 1: none of that. I wasn't even anxious he was there,
Speaker 1: Like I was like so happy that he was having
Speaker 1: It's so good to have.
Speaker 2: A partner that when they go out you don't feel anxious,
Speaker 2: Like they stay in communication with you the whole time,
Speaker 2: and like did he do that?
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, he stayed in communication the whole time. But
Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to crowd him, but he was like, hey, babe,
Speaker 1: just got home like he was really good. So yeah,
Speaker 1: it's seriously a turn on for me because I'm just like,
Speaker 1: fuck yes, like finally.
Speaker 2: My bucks will be the same, like a good.
Speaker 1: Guy good boys, not my child, good guy who's like actually,
Speaker 1: you know, like not doing the right thing by me,
Speaker 1: but like he's just not creepy and wanting that type
Speaker 1: of Yeah that vibe. So anyway, I'm very turned on.
Speaker 2: That's what you're seeing. Or and then when he's there,
Speaker 2: he's throwing dollar bills down.
Speaker 1: No, no, I were literally playing like board games, like
Speaker 1: getting drunk together. I was like, that's so cute.
Speaker 3: I kind of love that.
Speaker 2: That's where I'm at in my life as well. Though yes,
Speaker 2: literally where I'm at.
Speaker 1: Nothing got too lit as well, Like I think they
Speaker 1: were all in bed at like eleven o'clock, like they
Speaker 1: were like they carried on drinking like the next day
Speaker 1: and stuff, but it didn't get too like they weren't
Speaker 1: per bendering until six in the morning, like we're done.
Speaker 1: Pass not a vibe for me. Your hens is coming soon.
Speaker 2: I may or may not have copped an invite. I did.
Speaker 1: It's actually just my bridesmaids that we do have an
Speaker 1: extra ticket.
Speaker 2: And you don't want it to go to waste.
Speaker 1: And I don't want it to go to waste.
Speaker 2: I'm in the Gold Coast. I think I'll come along
Speaker 2: for one night.
Speaker 1: It's like a cabaret kind of on the first night
Speaker 1: we're going to This.
Speaker 2: Year's a dress up theme. It is, what do I
Speaker 2: have to dress up?
Speaker 1: I'll tell you later. It's a secret for now, but
Speaker 1: I will tell you later. I actually you in this
Speaker 1: dress up theme. Like it's literally making me laugh just
Speaker 1: thinking about it. Oh no, no, it's good, it's good.
Speaker 1: We'll talk about this once. My hands. My Hands is
Speaker 1: on the twelfth of April.
Speaker 2: Yes, I'll be up there that week kend. So this
Speaker 2: is actually my first weekend in Melbourne in a long time.
Speaker 3: It is.
Speaker 1: How are you feeling getting to see all your friends
Speaker 1: and family this weekend?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I love to and that I miss Tammy the
Speaker 2: whole time. But it was good to have seen my family.
Speaker 2: I went to the foot of my family. You know,
Speaker 2: I've never just this sounds very prude and very like obnoxious,
Speaker 2: but I've never just done general admission at the footy.
Speaker 1: This sounds very prude, well, you know, like very like
Speaker 1: what's the word for it entitled like I've never done
Speaker 1: general admission? How did you find it?
Speaker 2: It's cool? You know you got to find your seats.
Speaker 2: That was a bit like daunting walking right up to
Speaker 2: the mcg oh my, you know we fair seats. Normally
Speaker 2: I get my allocated seats. But it was fun.
Speaker 3: Normally gets his allocated seats. Everyone medallion club.
Speaker 1: That's so good for everyone around.
Speaker 2: Free tickets by the players. I none of that. I
Speaker 2: had to, yeah, walk up and find your own seat.
Speaker 2: It was good though. So we go for Recident and
Speaker 2: my sister's boyfriends go for Hawthorm. Only one of them came. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Still a good game though Hawthorne. Yeah, well you said
Speaker 2: Hawthorne just long day, long driving.
Speaker 1: That's not really articulating his words. It's got a bit lazy.
Speaker 1: Do you know what was very cute though? What I
Speaker 1: will say is I did see you after the footage
Speaker 1: go for a wine with your mum, and it just
Speaker 1: like warms my heart. Like the relationship you and your
Speaker 1: mum have is actually very cute. Like it's a cute
Speaker 1: that you would go for a wine with her and
Speaker 1: like like choosing with your mates and her, Like I
Speaker 1: was like, bless it's so nice.
Speaker 2: I mean, I wasn't as slack cute about it. I
Speaker 2: was like, this is my chaperone home.
Speaker 1: Okay, well my ech for the week. This is a
Speaker 1: big inch and I don't even know if I've spoken
Speaker 1: to you about this. So I went to the dentist
Speaker 1: and I got a little bit of bonding because my
Speaker 1: tooth had chipped, and because obviously, like weddings coming up,
Speaker 1: I want to have, like, you know, the perfect smile.
Speaker 1: Didn't want to have chip teeth. And the dentist was like,
Speaker 1: are you really stressed out? And I was like not really.
Speaker 1: He was like you are.
Speaker 3: I was like what do you mean I am?
Speaker 1: And he's like you're grinding your teeth and it's like
Speaker 1: that's why your tooth is chipped. And I was like oh,
Speaker 1: and he's like yeah, like your master muscle is really strong.
Speaker 1: Apparently the dentist they can give you massive botox for
Speaker 1: eight hundred dollars to relax your jaw. Yeah, so you
Speaker 1: don't like cle so you don't clench and destroy your teeth. Anyway,
Speaker 1: ended up going to my local injector because it was
Speaker 1: a lot cheaper than eight hundred dollars, and I was like, hey,
Speaker 1: can you put like botox in my massive muscle so
Speaker 1: that it relaxes my muscle because I don't want to
Speaker 1: chip any more teeth?
Speaker 2: A story and a tile?
Speaker 3: What's that?
Speaker 2: Was it just the cost of a story?
Speaker 1: No, it wasn't like a clap. I paid for it anyway.
Speaker 1: I before I had it done, she was like, by
Speaker 1: the way, like there's like a one in one hundred
Speaker 1: thousand chance that it will hit this specific muscle in
Speaker 1: your jaw and your smile. You won't be able to
Speaker 1: smile essentially, And I was like, fuck, do I want
Speaker 1: to not smile my wedding? Do I want chip teeth
Speaker 1: at my wedding? And I was like weighing up the options,
Speaker 1: and then I'm like, come on, Anna, just do it.
Speaker 1: Like it's literally like not that lucky, unlucky, like one
Speaker 1: in one hundred thousand chance whatever. I'm like, surely this
Speaker 1: is not gonna happen to me anyway. I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what, like I think this is like I
Speaker 1: know I'm not diagnosed with ADHD, but I think this
Speaker 1: is an ADHD thing. When I want something like ticked off,
Speaker 1: I'm like, do it, don't think about it, don't think
Speaker 1: about the repercussions, and I was like, fuck it, let's
Speaker 1: just do it like it's not a big deal. For
Speaker 1: the next week. Up until this day, I have never
Speaker 1: looked in the mirror at myself more and like literally
Speaker 1: so embarrassingly, I'm just smiling in the mirror like a
Speaker 1: full blown serial killer stalker. Honestly, I've never been more
Speaker 1: fucking stressed out of my life.
Speaker 2: So I didn't hit the spot. You're okay, I.
Speaker 1: Don't think so. Like I've got like two more days
Speaker 1: where it could potentially fuck up my smile. I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure I'm good. Like, look at myself now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're still smiling.
Speaker 1: Fine, I'm still smiling. Fine, But imagine if this side
Speaker 1: was just like down, Like imagine for your wedding, the
Speaker 1: one day where you need to be smiling. Like if
Speaker 1: this was any other time, I don't think I would
Speaker 1: have taken it seriously. But I've had mental breakdowns in
Speaker 1: the past week over this shit. Like I haven't been
Speaker 1: this stressed down a long time since some toxic excess. Okay, man,
Speaker 1: I came across this TikTok the other day, and this
Speaker 1: little theory is going very viral at the moment. And
Speaker 1: basically it is the black cat and Golden Retriever theory.
Speaker 2: Yes, my fiance sent this to me, really said that it's.
Speaker 1: Us Okay, well, yeah, you are very golden retriever energy.
Speaker 1: So basically, the theory says that women are never happy
Speaker 1: in their relationships or marriages if they end up chasing
Speaker 1: their man. So I think that's why a lot of
Speaker 1: women end up being the black cat and the boyfriend
Speaker 1: or fiance. Your husband ends up being the golden retriever.
Speaker 1: So you think you're the golden retriever. Tammy's the black cat.
Speaker 2: I do in a way because when I'm happy in
Speaker 2: a relationship, I just I'm you know, you'll do anything, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: I do anything. I just want them to be happy.
Speaker 2: I'm happy as a happy wife, happy life. Like I'm
Speaker 2: just chill, Like, yes, I have my boundaries. Don't cross
Speaker 2: my boundaries or that golden retriever turns into a pitbull,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. Like, and as long as
Speaker 2: they're as long as they're respected, I'm a golden retriever.
Speaker 1: Like, if you're feeling good in the relationship, you're golden
Speaker 1: Retriever energy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, energy, and then and I don't mind that power
Speaker 2: or power. I hate that word, but that dynamic in
Speaker 2: a relationship, I'm totally I'm chill with that, Like, that's
Speaker 2: fine with me. I don't need the power. I just
Speaker 2: want to feel respected.
Speaker 1: I would say that me and Michael are very black
Speaker 1: cat Golden Retriever, which yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Say the same. Yeah, yeah, me and Michael.
Speaker 1: Have the same Michael is the same though, Like I
Speaker 1: know not to cross his boundaries, and I think that's
Speaker 1: because if I do, he's like, he's not the Golden Retriever.
Speaker 1: And I love the Golden Retriever. I'm like, I want
Speaker 1: to see the Golden Retriever. Okay, So I'm going to
Speaker 1: tell you how to be the black cat. So the
Speaker 1: black cat is independent, rational, slow and controlled, comes and
Speaker 1: goes as you please, won't do favors, won't run after
Speaker 1: anyone puts herself first. And a Golden Retriever, on the
Speaker 1: other hand, jumps when you say jump and waits for
Speaker 1: the approval and validation and love from the black Cat.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's definitely a power dynamic.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds a little bit toxic when you explain
Speaker 2: it like that, but it's not to that length. I
Speaker 2: wouldn't think like it doesn't have to be so like
Speaker 2: jumping for approval in that it's more just like easy going,
Speaker 2: loving and like do you know what I mean? Yeah,
Speaker 2: And like I don't think the power should be fully
Speaker 2: like that, Like I said, I don't mind if the
Speaker 2: girl has the power, like I've always been in relationships
Speaker 2: like that, like I don't you don't want it, I
Speaker 2: don't want Like yeah, I'm easy going, like if you
Speaker 2: want to, like you know, I mean, like I'll do
Speaker 2: the masculine stuff, like make decisions on that sort of stuff,
Speaker 2: but like not like just everyday sort of stuff like
Speaker 2: you can. I'm happy to chase, do you know what
Speaker 2: I mean?
Speaker 1: I totally think happy wife, happy life, Like I live
Speaker 1: by that, but with a level of respect. I think
Speaker 1: you can't just be like my way or the highway and.
Speaker 2: You can't take it. And I've always said, don't take
Speaker 2: my nicest for weakness, your kindness for weakness, kindness for weakness,
Speaker 2: because it's not it's just me being me. I'm a
Speaker 2: nice person.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's talk about celebrity couples, and let's dub them
Speaker 1: the black cat or the Golden Retriever. So let's start
Speaker 1: with your favorite celebrity couple, Matt, Let's go Taylor Swift
Speaker 1: and Travis Kelsey. Who do we think?
Speaker 2: So? I think Kelsey's definitely the golden Retriever, But I
Speaker 2: think Taylor Swift isn't a full black cat.
Speaker 3: I think she is, do you I don't think she is.
Speaker 1: I think she definitely is.
Speaker 2: Okay, I feel like she's got a bit of Golden
Speaker 2: Retriever about her, like her song lyrics and that. I
Speaker 2: don't know, I feel like that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think Taylor Swift is very black cat, and
Speaker 1: I think Travis Kelce is definitely the golden retriever of
Speaker 1: that relationship. Let's move on Haley Bieber and Justin Bieber.
Speaker 2: I don't know enough about him, but I feel like
Speaker 2: Biber would be a bit of a golden Retriever.
Speaker 1: Do you think he's a I see her as a
Speaker 1: black cat, But then I don't know if I necessarily
Speaker 1: see him as a golden retriever. He knows he's worth yeah,
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Like, I feel like
Speaker 1: he would hold a lot of the power in that relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know enough about him. Like I said,
Speaker 2: I don't know, but the way you see him in
Speaker 2: like photos, and that looks like he's following her and
Speaker 2: she's leading. Yeah, do you know what I mean? Yeah,
Speaker 2: I love this couple's dynamics. Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively
Speaker 2: love the dynamics.
Speaker 1: They just dote on each other.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so nice. And I've seen him, like I
Speaker 2: saw a tiktop of him walking in like New York,
Speaker 2: like a path one, and they just look they look
Speaker 2: perfect for each other.
Speaker 1: Ye.
Speaker 2: Love, they're in love. They look like so good together.
Speaker 1: I think you can tell when a couple are just
Speaker 1: two best friends. Yeah, you know what I mean, Like
Speaker 1: when they just both respect each other, they both love
Speaker 1: each other, and they both.
Speaker 2: Care for each other, and they just want the best
Speaker 2: for each other.
Speaker 1: Like the speeches they give about each other, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: so funny. It's even like about like him talking about
Speaker 1: her as a mother, I'm just like, oh, that's so lovely.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I would definitely say she's the black cat.
Speaker 1: He's the golden retriever. Yeah, let's go to couples who
Speaker 1: have broken up. Let's go Kanye West and Kim Kardashian.
Speaker 2: What do you even explain Kanye, He's.
Speaker 1: He's no golden Retriever.
Speaker 2: He's just all over the place.
Speaker 1: True of a black cat, you reckon one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: But then I think Kim Kardashians a bit of a
Speaker 1: black Cat's I think they're both black cats. Maybe that
Speaker 1: site didn't work out.
Speaker 2: Maybe I think he doesn't even know what he is
Speaker 2: half the time, because I've seen him on like keeping
Speaker 2: up with the Kardashians, and he seems a bit Golden Retrievery.
Speaker 1: But then when they first started dating, he was literally
Speaker 1: like doing the most extravagant things for her, and that's
Speaker 1: very good and retrievers.
Speaker 2: I saw the episode when he brings the hard drive
Speaker 2: with the video on it, remember that, And he took
Speaker 2: the coach flight. That's real Golden Retriever sort of vibes.
Speaker 1: And even the proposal, like the surprise proposal, and he
Speaker 1: used to like literally send thousands of flowers to her house.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think he is, but I think he's just
Speaker 2: really confused in his own head.
Speaker 1: Fair enough, Okay, last one, Amber Heard and Johnny Day.
Speaker 2: Well, you spoke about this last night on the phone
Speaker 2: because I was watching a movie with Amber Heard with
Speaker 2: my mom and I said to Anna, I said it
Speaker 2: on the phone. I was like, I can't look at
Speaker 2: her the same without thinking of her squatting over a pillow.
Speaker 3: Literally, I was like, I can't.
Speaker 1: Look at either of them the same. After that trial,
Speaker 1: Well that's it. Yeah, I lost Johnny Depp lost his
Speaker 1: sparkle for me after that trial because I just saw
Speaker 1: I think they just both brought out the worst in
Speaker 1: each other. Yeah, definitely two black cats there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like there.
Speaker 1: Doesn't seem to be a lot of fun, golden treever
Speaker 1: type of energy between both of them.
Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, I don't think he's I don't think
Speaker 2: he's fully innocent in the full thing.
Speaker 1: I think that I think they both were toxic.
Speaker 2: They both were toxic, and they brought the full toxic
Speaker 2: out of each other.
Speaker 1: And I actually, you can bring the toxic out of
Speaker 1: anyone me and no, not the wrong relationship can really
Speaker 1: like anyone like no one is, Like.
Speaker 2: I agree, if you're not with your person, you bring
Speaker 2: the toxic out.
Speaker 1: But like I'm saying, like, two really toxic people can
Speaker 1: literally bring the absolute worst versions of each other out,
Speaker 1: And I think that is an exact example of that,
Speaker 1: and I think it's very black hat ess. I came out,
Speaker 1: I came across an article the other day. Yeah, honestly, literally,
Speaker 1: I can't get over this. So a woman was arrested
Speaker 1: after sending a guy, wait for it, one hundred and
Speaker 1: fifty nine thousand, thousand texts after one singular date.
Speaker 2: She liked him.
Speaker 1: You think I think she was key?
Speaker 2: She was keen? Is that romantic?
Speaker 1: Is there a romantic?
Speaker 2: Is that too far? That's too far? Like that is
Speaker 2: that's nuts?
Speaker 1: So this woman was thirty one years old. She's from Phoenix, Arizona.
Speaker 1: So she went on a date with a CEO and
Speaker 1: then ended up sending him around five hundred texts a
Speaker 1: day over a ten month period. One of the messages,
Speaker 1: wait for this because I think this is wild reads.
Speaker 1: I'd make sushi out of your kidneys and chopsticks out
Speaker 1: of your handbones.
Speaker 2: Well, here I was thinking that the one hundred thousand
Speaker 2: and one hundred thousand messages were romantic.
Speaker 1: I think they probably started as romantic, Like this is
Speaker 1: how it would have gone. It'd been like, hey, babe,
Speaker 1: really enjoyed our day, was like so great to meet
Speaker 1: you would love to catch up? No reply? Hey just
Speaker 1: following up? No reply? Hey did you get my message?
Speaker 2: No reply?
Speaker 1: Question mark? No rely? Then it would have been like,
Speaker 1: i'd next she out of your kidneys.
Speaker 2: Well, it says that she was not only sending him
Speaker 2: creepy messages, she was stalking his home as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think once you're sending like to me,
Speaker 1: even to send three messages in a row is like
Speaker 1: getting a bit red hot.
Speaker 2: To someone that you've been on one date.
Speaker 1: With to one day. Like, if you're not getting a
Speaker 1: response after the first message, take the hint second message,
Speaker 1: you're like thinking, oh, maybe they've not had time, which
Speaker 1: they did have time, but let's just say for instance,
Speaker 1: you're just like really obsessed. Two messages and no reply,
Speaker 1: tap the fuck out. Three messages for me is like
Speaker 1: you're a stalker.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're getting desperate.
Speaker 1: You're getting like I mean, even after two messages, it's desperate,
Speaker 1: giving desperate.
Speaker 2: I mean as a man like I don't like firing
Speaker 2: a second message. I don't think is any hard.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: I think I think as like just to be like hey,
Speaker 2: like follow up could show that you're like, yeah, interested,
Speaker 2: But if they're not interested, then it's icky. But if
Speaker 2: they're just like arming and a ring and actually busy.
Speaker 1: But after two messages, you're out right yeah, crazy also
Speaker 1: it doesn't end here. So she was, like you said,
Speaker 1: stalking is home and one day he remotely checked his
Speaker 1: home security systems and she was taking a bath in
Speaker 1: his house and when the police came to arrest her,
Speaker 1: she had a knife in her car. That's getting scary,
Speaker 1: su Actually that's how OB says she is. She's like,
Speaker 1: I reckon in that moment, she's like pretending to be
Speaker 1: his wife, like taking a bath in the house, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like it's it's getting like really sorry.
Speaker 1: I mean, if you're a stalker, you very quickly find
Speaker 1: people's movements where they're leaving the spare key. You know,
Speaker 1: it's scary stuff, really really scary stuff Like it's funny,
Speaker 1: it's scary scary, it's more scary, like it's concerning, very concerned.
Speaker 2: Have you had any men do this to you, stalk
Speaker 2: you in any way?
Speaker 1: I would say stalking is maybe a strong word. I
Speaker 1: think I've definitely had people continuously throughout years send me messages,
Speaker 1: like people who I never had any sort of relationship with,
Speaker 1: but who I was like maybe friends with, and I
Speaker 1: had just like literally sending me messages about nothing, knowing
Speaker 1: I'm not going to reply and just keeping.
Speaker 2: The messages, shut them down. You just leaveing on scene.
Speaker 1: I just literally leaved it, left it. Yeah, I've had that.
Speaker 1: And then, like I think in regards to like romantic partners,
Speaker 1: I've had, like I just mouthed to mat the guy
Speaker 1: who it was.
Speaker 2: I was thought about this.
Speaker 1: Like literally blowing up my phone to the point where
Speaker 1: I was kind of like, there's only so many times
Speaker 1: you can call someone before it's like crossing a boundary,
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: He was probably a narcissist anyway, So like so you're
Speaker 2: like cutting him off was probably making him. Cutting the supply,
Speaker 2: cutting the spl is probably making him spiral, and that's
Speaker 2: why he was doing that wigging out on his end.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think he was.
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Speaker 2: this in starts with what would you do? In quotation marks.
Speaker 2: From the very beginning of my relationship with my ex boyfriend,
Speaker 2: he told me he had a license, but that he
Speaker 2: couldn't afford a car. I chose to believe him, because
Speaker 2: why wouldn't I? True? True? Fast forward a year and
Speaker 2: a half of being the designated driver, I found out
Speaker 2: that he had lost his license and lied about it
Speaker 2: the whole time. Brackets, he sometimes drove my car and
Speaker 2: his friend's car without knowing he didn't have a license.
Speaker 2: His friends knew, but he asked them not to tell me.
Speaker 2: It came up a lot, and he stuck to the
Speaker 2: story the whole time. I found out through his roommate's
Speaker 2: X when they broke up. First of all, what would
Speaker 2: you do? First of all, what would you do? Well,
Speaker 2: they've broken up now, so it's not really her problem.
Speaker 2: But why would he lie lack about it? Like why?
Speaker 2: I know it's embarrassing, but like, if you're in a
Speaker 2: relationship with someone and you shouldn't have to lie about that,
Speaker 2: it should be a safe spacing.
Speaker 1: So hey, well, I mean, why did he lose a license?
Speaker 1: Maybe it was a really sinister event and maybe he
Speaker 1: just didn't want to have have to explain that story.
Speaker 2: Maybe yeah, I mean, how do you.
Speaker 1: Lose a license drink driving?
Speaker 2: We're losing run, losing twelve point run.
Speaker 3: I'm going to the darks.
Speaker 2: Jesus, Well, it's like, you have twelve points and you
Speaker 2: lose them, But if.
Speaker 1: They're together for a year, you're not losing your license
Speaker 1: for a year. If you lose twelve points, right, No,
Speaker 1: three months? Three months?
Speaker 2: Three months?
Speaker 1: What did you lose your license?
Speaker 2: Looked into it? Or you get a golden point three? Right,
Speaker 2: so you lose it for three months or you get
Speaker 2: golden point for a year.
Speaker 1: I mean, the thing is is I feel like in
Speaker 1: a relationship, losing your license is not a deal breaker.
Speaker 1: So it makes me think that there was something more
Speaker 1: since it was hiding. Yeah, like a potential like bad story,
Speaker 1: like I accidentally knocked over a cyclist?
Speaker 3: What's with you saying?
Speaker 1: I think?
Speaker 2: Do you lose your license for that?
Speaker 1: Though? Surely I don't think you're like keeping it?
Speaker 3: Are you?
Speaker 2: But what happens if they just took out from you?
Speaker 1: Would lose it because of dangerous driving?
Speaker 2: Interesting? Yeah, a year and a half is a long
Speaker 2: time to not have your license lost for you've done
Speaker 2: something seriously. I don't know the TAC rules, but I'm pretty.
Speaker 1: Sure that's so what would we do? Okay, they're broken up.
Speaker 1: If it was me and I was in that situation,
Speaker 1: I would probably send my ex message and say I
Speaker 1: just found out you lost your license. I don't know
Speaker 1: why you didn't tell me that piece of information. Very strange,
Speaker 1: full stop. I would just say it because.
Speaker 2: I probably would never message my ex.
Speaker 1: Okay, I would because I'm I'm a bit salty like that,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I'd like why.
Speaker 2: I feel like it's new, it's a new partner's problem.
Speaker 1: Surely you could do some digging with the girl who
Speaker 1: told her and find out and find out.
Speaker 2: That's probably what I would do more. I'd try and
Speaker 2: find out more.
Speaker 1: You're a digger, yeah, I try and.
Speaker 2: Find out why why he lost it.
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