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Speaker 1: Apoday Production. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast. I'm Ashy

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Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana.

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Speaker 2: This podcast is.

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Speaker 3: About female empowerment and encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest,

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Speaker 3: and most authentic version of yourself.

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Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to new level.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone

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Speaker 1: else is too afraid to talk about.

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Speaker 3: Get ready for your next level of self. Hello everybody,

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Speaker 3: and welcome back to another episode She Rises.

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Speaker 1: And welcome back to Jana.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back Ashy.

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is a behind the scenes look into the

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Speaker 1: empire that we are building She Rises, because this is

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Speaker 1: not just a podcast. There is so much happening behind

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Speaker 1: the scenes and so many exciting plans and a lot

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Speaker 1: that we have to sacrifice, risk, put time and energy into.

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Speaker 1: And we obviously post a lot on social media talking

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Speaker 1: about our highlights and show the cool events and our

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Speaker 1: funny reels and etc. But we really will take you

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Speaker 1: guys behind the scenes because as normal as it seems,

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Speaker 1: it's amazing, but it can also be really challenging. I

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Speaker 1: think not a lot of people are talking about the sacrifice,

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Speaker 1: the time, the energy, the risk that has to go

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Speaker 1: into building something like this.

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Speaker 3: And we've had many conversations recently around the podcast and

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Speaker 3: the direction that we're going to be going in with

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Speaker 3: the podcast, and we figured maybe we should bring you

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Speaker 3: guys into the hard conversations that we've been having behind bless.

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Speaker 1: And how we navigate them, because it's really beautiful and

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Speaker 1: I'm really proud of us. Yeah, but before we get

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Speaker 1: into that share of the week, it's a Monday, what

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Speaker 1: have you got for us?

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Speaker 3: The product I want to recommend is like a gut

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Speaker 3: lining product, so it's good for leaky gut if you've

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Speaker 3: got gut issues, and I've really wanted to go on

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Speaker 3: that journey recently. So it's a product called Glutagenics by

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Speaker 3: the brand Metagenics, and honestly, it's been really good. I

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Speaker 3: have it twice a day and I just I'm excited

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Speaker 3: to get on the journey of healing my gut again.

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Speaker 2: And it actually tastes really good.

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Speaker 1: I was so surprised you gave it to me the

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Speaker 1: other night. I don't know why you gave it to me.

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Speaker 3: It just could you stayed over and I pulled you out.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure. And I take our glutamine, which the

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Speaker 1: main ingredient in this is that glue to mine. I

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Speaker 1: how to look at the back, but it tastes like

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Speaker 1: lemon lime it it's so much better than playing algodon Wise.

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Speaker 1: How much was it? Do you remember?

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Speaker 3: I don't think it was more than sixty dollars. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 3: it was around that price.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. My recommendation is a sauna. And I know this

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Speaker 1: is a luxury to have a sauna at your house.

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Speaker 1: When I used to hear people say they have saunas

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Speaker 1: at the house, I was like, wow, that is a luxury.

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Speaker 2: It really is.

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Speaker 1: I know this is not something that everyone can afford. However,

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Speaker 1: it is so relaxing. I feel so calm, I feel

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Speaker 1: so good and I sleep better. It was been on

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Speaker 1: my wish list for so long. I got the brand Nook.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know which one to go because there was

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Speaker 1: so many saunas out there and so many good reviews,

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Speaker 1: gold Coroast different brands, but LEVI did all the research,

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Speaker 1: so anything he has or uses, I'm like fully trust.

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Speaker 1: So he got Anook one and he had his for

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Speaker 1: like absolutely, it's amazing. So I ended up getting one,

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Speaker 1: and I got a three person one. If make had

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Speaker 1: she said the one is quite small and the two

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Speaker 1: is more too. The three just gives me lots of space.

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Speaker 1: And Steve and I have them together sometimes and I

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Speaker 2: I work with them.

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Speaker 1: So if you guys have been looking at getting one,

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Speaker 1: you can use Ashy Bynes as a code and we'll

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Speaker 1: get use money off. And it's made here in Crumblin

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Speaker 1: get one installed. Yeah, so do our names. The other

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Speaker 1: it's just the best, so good. Yeah, I'm not pushing

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Speaker 1: But it just feels so good. I want to be

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Speaker 1: going in a minimum three times a week to really

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Speaker 3: When you said that, what's his name, Andrew Huberman? He says,

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Speaker 3: if you go in anywhere between two and four times

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Speaker 3: per week, just for thirty minutes at a time, you

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Speaker 1: Wild Pole that do Saunas live longer? Oh yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: gonna be us. I love it alrighty. So we've got

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Speaker 1: a lot going on we do. If you follow us

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Speaker 1: second live event. We've just booked our third one, which

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Speaker 1: and we're so excited. It's our first live podcast events.

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Speaker 1: So if you haven't got tickets, get them. And then

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Speaker 1: we've got a lot of other things in the plans

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Speaker 1: That's the hint and the clue. Yeah, and that's all

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Speaker 1: Also doesn't make a lot of money at the moment. Yes, like, yes,

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Speaker 1: we do is she Rises, that's our end goal. Yes, like, yes,

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Speaker 1: you love coaching, I love hideaway. Sure do we see

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Speaker 1: ourselves doing both of those forever? No, She Rises is

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Speaker 3: It is, and it's also comes with its challenges as well,

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Speaker 3: We've also been going through some seriously like personal things

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Speaker 1: we can delegate what we can delegate because I want

433
00:16:57,441 --> 00:16:58,921
Speaker 1: you to stay in the things that you love. It's

434
00:16:58,921 --> 00:17:01,201
Speaker 1: like accounting. Both of us are like fuck no, yes,

435
00:17:01,241 --> 00:17:02,481
Speaker 1: so now my mum's doing that for us.

436
00:17:02,561 --> 00:17:03,481
Speaker 2: We just thanks Wendy.

437
00:17:03,641 --> 00:17:05,441
Speaker 1: We just take a photo of our receipts at her

438
00:17:05,521 --> 00:17:07,640
Speaker 1: and she handles the rest. Like, we don't want to

439
00:17:07,681 --> 00:17:09,481
Speaker 1: do that. We want to stay in our creative flow

440
00:17:10,001 --> 00:17:11,840
Speaker 1: and be making impact because no one else can do

441
00:17:11,921 --> 00:17:14,001
Speaker 1: our role. It's like bringing Bethy on to help with

442
00:17:14,281 --> 00:17:15,001
Speaker 1: running the event.

443
00:17:15,160 --> 00:17:16,281
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's been incredible.

444
00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:18,280
Speaker 1: She was like, you girls need to just turn up

445
00:17:18,721 --> 00:17:21,240
Speaker 1: and be you because we can't do that. Let us

446
00:17:21,281 --> 00:17:23,200
Speaker 1: handle the logistics and all the stress and anything that

447
00:17:23,281 --> 00:17:26,001
Speaker 1: needs last minute running around. And it was so beautiful

448
00:17:26,041 --> 00:17:28,441
Speaker 1: to have that help power in collaboration.

449
00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:30,920
Speaker 3: Hey, oh, if the events have taught me anything is

450
00:17:30,961 --> 00:17:32,961
Speaker 3: that it really does take a village to create something

451
00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:37,680
Speaker 3: big before and also every part helps, Like you know,

452
00:17:37,961 --> 00:17:40,281
Speaker 3: Bethy has a strength in doing what she does. Yeah,

453
00:17:40,321 --> 00:17:43,080
Speaker 3: well as spreadsheets, I'm like holy and she just like

454
00:17:43,521 --> 00:17:45,360
Speaker 3: so took initiative in that role and I was like

455
00:17:45,561 --> 00:17:48,521
Speaker 3: to oh shit, okay, this is what it's about, yeah, like,

456
00:17:48,640 --> 00:17:50,561
Speaker 3: this is what it's going to require of us in

457
00:17:50,681 --> 00:17:53,761
Speaker 3: the retreats and in anything that we do in person events.

458
00:17:53,801 --> 00:17:55,281
Speaker 2: It's going to require that collaboration.

459
00:17:55,681 --> 00:17:57,761
Speaker 1: It does. I love collaboration too, and I think that's

460
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Speaker 1: where we came together as well. Like I've done apps

461
00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:03,160
Speaker 1: and subscriptions before, You've done courses before, but it's like

462
00:18:03,201 --> 00:18:04,241
Speaker 1: it's so much more fun together.

463
00:18:04,521 --> 00:18:07,121
Speaker 2: It really is. And we talk about this often. We're

464
00:18:07,120 --> 00:18:09,281
Speaker 2: both like, when did you content on our own? We're like, oh, yeah,

465
00:18:09,281 --> 00:18:09,721
Speaker 2: we can do it.

466
00:18:09,801 --> 00:18:12,400
Speaker 3: Then together, they were like we like little kids skimming around.

467
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Speaker 1: I fell in neglect my own TikTok these days because

468
00:18:15,281 --> 00:18:17,000
Speaker 1: I'm just so excited for that she rises.

469
00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:20,321
Speaker 3: And this is the conversation we've often been having. It's like, Okay,

470
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Speaker 3: eventually I came to Ashley the other day. I was like, eventually,

471
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Speaker 3: like I don't want to be doing anything.

472
00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:27,840
Speaker 2: I'm like yeah, And then it was like a oh

473
00:18:28,120 --> 00:18:29,041
Speaker 2: my god, you feel the same.

474
00:18:29,761 --> 00:18:32,281
Speaker 1: There was something else that happened. You were just having

475
00:18:32,321 --> 00:18:35,360
Speaker 1: the internal conversations around your coaching and you're like, I

476
00:18:35,441 --> 00:18:37,200
Speaker 1: never want you to feel any pressure that, like, she

477
00:18:37,441 --> 00:18:39,120
Speaker 1: rises has to be the main thing for us and

478
00:18:39,160 --> 00:18:40,761
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't feel pressure. I want that too.

479
00:18:41,201 --> 00:18:43,840
Speaker 1: Oh you do? Oh my god. Yeah, And that sparked

480
00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:46,840
Speaker 1: all these conversations we both want the same thing, because

481
00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:47,521
Speaker 1: I remember.

482
00:18:47,360 --> 00:18:51,241
Speaker 3: Feeling like I really love this and like everything about

483
00:18:51,281 --> 00:18:53,680
Speaker 3: the podcast, everything about what we're doing is just like

484
00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:57,080
Speaker 3: it lights me on fire or lights of fire underneath it.

485
00:18:57,481 --> 00:18:58,961
Speaker 3: I know what you mean, however you want to say it.

486
00:18:59,120 --> 00:19:02,201
Speaker 3: I never felt more aligned in my life. Oh me too.

487
00:19:02,360 --> 00:19:03,600
Speaker 3: And then I was just like, oh my god, am

488
00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:05,400
Speaker 3: I the only one who feels this? No? Not.

489
00:19:05,521 --> 00:19:08,041
Speaker 1: As I started this podcast, I just knew this is

490
00:19:08,041 --> 00:19:10,360
Speaker 1: what I would want to be doing. And then even

491
00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:12,640
Speaker 1: all the stuff happened and the last co host left,

492
00:19:12,721 --> 00:19:14,281
Speaker 1: and I was like, share, don't do this on my own.

493
00:19:14,360 --> 00:19:16,120
Speaker 1: Do I get someone else? And I just remember saying

494
00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:18,561
Speaker 1: to Katie and Jay, balling my eyes to them, just

495
00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:21,160
Speaker 1: being like, this is what I want to do. I

496
00:19:21,360 --> 00:19:23,360
Speaker 1: need to keep doing this, and they were like, you will,

497
00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:25,400
Speaker 1: We'll figure out a way. Don't stress, You've got this.

498
00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:27,761
Speaker 1: But I was just in panic of like, I don't

499
00:19:27,801 --> 00:19:30,281
Speaker 1: want to do anything else. Yeah, And even with the

500
00:19:30,321 --> 00:19:33,041
Speaker 1: whole brain surgery thing and closing down baseline, it just

501
00:19:33,120 --> 00:19:34,920
Speaker 1: felt so right because I would have more time for this.

502
00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:38,001
Speaker 1: It lights me up so much, even like you girls

503
00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:39,761
Speaker 1: may not realize that when you send it in a

504
00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:42,920
Speaker 1: DM to say how an episode impacted you, helped you

505
00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:45,440
Speaker 1: made you not feel alone, you learn something like you

506
00:19:45,521 --> 00:19:47,561
Speaker 1: have no idea how much that makes our day. It

507
00:19:47,721 --> 00:19:50,681
Speaker 1: literally makes us so emotional and gets us so excited.

508
00:19:50,801 --> 00:19:52,481
Speaker 3: We like send screenshots to each other and we're like,

509
00:19:52,561 --> 00:19:54,801
Speaker 3: look at me, yes, And then the event is that

510
00:19:55,041 --> 00:19:59,001
Speaker 3: time's tenfold, face to face, being able to hug you,

511
00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:01,920
Speaker 3: connect with you, see you cry, see you open up,

512
00:20:02,001 --> 00:20:04,160
Speaker 3: see your hold hands from another woman. It's just so

513
00:20:04,441 --> 00:20:08,321
Speaker 3: so powerf to bring women together. And that in person

514
00:20:08,441 --> 00:20:13,080
Speaker 3: feeling and how willing everyone was to grow was something

515
00:20:13,241 --> 00:20:13,961
Speaker 3: out of this world.

516
00:20:14,041 --> 00:20:14,721
Speaker 2: It really was.

517
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Speaker 1: I just wish everyone could find a career or a

518
00:20:18,521 --> 00:20:20,801
Speaker 1: job where they feel how we feel, because I haven't

519
00:20:20,801 --> 00:20:22,640
Speaker 1: always felt like this. There's definitely been periods like I

520
00:20:22,721 --> 00:20:25,241
Speaker 1: loved Fitness, and I did love Baseline for a certain

521
00:20:25,281 --> 00:20:27,521
Speaker 1: amount of time, and I love Hideaway, don't get me wrong,

522
00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:29,921
Speaker 1: but it doesn't set my heart on firelight This does.

523
00:20:30,441 --> 00:20:32,200
Speaker 1: I feel so lit up. I could literally do this

524
00:20:32,321 --> 00:20:33,721
Speaker 1: all day, every day. It's all I think about is

525
00:20:33,761 --> 00:20:35,400
Speaker 1: all I want to work on. I wouldn't even know

526
00:20:35,441 --> 00:20:36,921
Speaker 1: how many hours we do a week on it, oh,

527
00:20:37,281 --> 00:20:39,761
Speaker 1: away from the office, but it doesn't feel like work.

528
00:20:39,801 --> 00:20:40,561
Speaker 1: It feels like a hobby.

529
00:20:40,761 --> 00:20:43,321
Speaker 2: Yeah, it does. Like this, it's so much fun. And yeah,

530
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Speaker 2: you know what I love.

531
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Speaker 3: I love hearing as well people from the outside looking in.

532
00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:49,680
Speaker 3: When I get people talk about the podcast to me,

533
00:20:49,801 --> 00:20:51,920
Speaker 3: they're like, you guys just look like you're having so

534
00:20:52,120 --> 00:20:52,720
Speaker 3: much fun. Oh.

535
00:20:52,921 --> 00:20:54,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, are like, yeah, we are.

536
00:20:54,840 --> 00:20:56,001
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like it's just so much fun.

537
00:20:56,041 --> 00:20:58,801
Speaker 3: And that makes it more enjoyable for people to witness us,

538
00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:00,801
Speaker 3: but then also more enjoyable for us because we're like,

539
00:21:00,801 --> 00:21:02,720
Speaker 3: we're genuinely having a good time, because it lights us

540
00:21:02,761 --> 00:21:05,801
Speaker 3: both up. Yes, And I think for really long time,

541
00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:08,600
Speaker 3: I've really tried to make certain ways of doing business

542
00:21:08,721 --> 00:21:12,440
Speaker 3: fit that weren't my style, you know, like putting like

543
00:21:12,521 --> 00:21:15,201
Speaker 3: we've spoken about this in past episodes, how I would

544
00:21:15,241 --> 00:21:19,001
Speaker 3: take on past partners, you know, lens of business of

545
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,401
Speaker 3: how I should do things where deep down I knew

546
00:21:21,441 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 3: it wasn't right for me, but I was listening anyway,

547
00:21:24,201 --> 00:21:26,200
Speaker 3: And then I would feel resentful. I would burn out

548
00:21:26,241 --> 00:21:27,761
Speaker 3: every three weeks and I'd be like, why the fuck

549
00:21:27,801 --> 00:21:28,481
Speaker 3: am I even doing this?

550
00:21:28,801 --> 00:21:29,041
Speaker 1: Yeah?

551
00:21:29,521 --> 00:21:31,240
Speaker 2: You know, but where is this? I'm like that other

552
00:21:31,360 --> 00:21:32,801
Speaker 2: thing I haven't had that.

553
00:21:33,041 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 1: No, I'm not at all.

554
00:21:33,681 --> 00:21:34,561
Speaker 2: I don't feel that at all.

555
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:37,920
Speaker 1: I hope anyone listening, I hope it inspires you. It

556
00:21:37,961 --> 00:21:40,881
Speaker 1: doesn't matter what age you're at, twenty six, thirty six,

557
00:21:41,321 --> 00:21:42,840
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter where you're at in your life. You

558
00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:46,001
Speaker 1: can always change change your mind trying something new. And

559
00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:49,640
Speaker 1: if you're not feeling lit up, alive, excited for your

560
00:21:49,721 --> 00:21:52,400
Speaker 1: work and for your purpose, yeah it's time to fucking

561
00:21:52,441 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 1: look at that change. I'm not saying quit your job

562
00:21:54,561 --> 00:21:57,400
Speaker 1: straight away, but don't settle for the story that I have.

563
00:21:57,481 --> 00:21:59,441
Speaker 1: When I was a little girl, that I was sold

564
00:21:59,481 --> 00:22:01,360
Speaker 1: that you just had to work to live. Yeah, you

565
00:22:01,481 --> 00:22:03,161
Speaker 1: just had to work to pay the bills, Get a job,

566
00:22:03,241 --> 00:22:05,440
Speaker 1: be grateful you've got a roof over your Like, it

567
00:22:05,481 --> 00:22:08,400
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be like that for you. And trust me,

568
00:22:08,481 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 1: I came from nothing. You can build a life that

569
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:12,920
Speaker 1: you're really proud of and that you're really excited for.

570
00:22:13,360 --> 00:22:16,561
Speaker 1: I really hope my kids find something like this, not podcasting,

571
00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:18,360
Speaker 1: whatever they want to do, but where they just feel

572
00:22:18,441 --> 00:22:20,520
Speaker 1: so lit up and excited for it, and if they

573
00:22:20,561 --> 00:22:22,360
Speaker 1: get over it, want to change their mind. Amazing. I

574
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:23,601
Speaker 1: will encourage and push that too.

575
00:22:23,801 --> 00:22:26,521
Speaker 3: And even the conversation we're having the other day around

576
00:22:27,281 --> 00:22:30,481
Speaker 3: how I felt like I was hiding behind my coach identity. Yeah,

577
00:22:30,561 --> 00:22:33,041
Speaker 3: you know, We've had this conversation for months now as

578
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:35,721
Speaker 3: she's been encouraging me to just add variety into my

579
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:37,960
Speaker 3: content and just based on things that I've told her

580
00:22:38,001 --> 00:22:40,721
Speaker 3: that I've wanted, and I've just held on to it

581
00:22:40,761 --> 00:22:42,600
Speaker 3: so much because it's been such a safety net for me,

582
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:45,321
Speaker 3: and I've just been like, Okay, I've noticed that I've

583
00:22:45,360 --> 00:22:49,121
Speaker 3: been evolving, but my content hasn't reflected it, and I've

584
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:52,041
Speaker 3: been terrified of changing that and adjusting that to do

585
00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:54,321
Speaker 3: what I actually want to do because of these fucking

586
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:56,321
Speaker 3: ideals that have been put on me from what I

587
00:22:56,561 --> 00:22:58,920
Speaker 3: think others want me to do. Yeah, And I just

588
00:22:59,041 --> 00:23:01,761
Speaker 3: have been like this whole last couple of weeks especially,

589
00:23:02,241 --> 00:23:04,961
Speaker 3: has really been about letting go of that and come

590
00:23:05,281 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 3: into this like unknown space of discomfort and fear and

591
00:23:09,721 --> 00:23:14,481
Speaker 3: change and gross and it's fucking uncomfortable, really is, and

592
00:23:14,561 --> 00:23:17,561
Speaker 3: it's scary, but it's also like the drive and the

593
00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:20,001
Speaker 3: desire and the pool to go this way so much

594
00:23:20,041 --> 00:23:22,281
Speaker 3: stronger than the fear that's trying to pull me backwards.

595
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Speaker 1: I love that and I could relate because I said,

596
00:23:24,681 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 1: when I gave up in the fitness industry and decided

597
00:23:26,521 --> 00:23:29,241
Speaker 1: to move in this direction, that was hard. I was like, Wow,

598
00:23:29,360 --> 00:23:31,921
Speaker 1: people have always loved me for fitness. I've always posted

599
00:23:32,001 --> 00:23:34,440
Speaker 1: fitness content. Will I still be relevant people? Will they

600
00:23:34,441 --> 00:23:36,120
Speaker 1: still be interested? Would they still want to watch me?

601
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:38,441
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, if they don't, then they're

602
00:23:38,481 --> 00:23:40,160
Speaker 1: not my people. And I'll attract the right people that

603
00:23:40,481 --> 00:23:42,761
Speaker 1: are on the same journey to me, you know, But

604
00:23:43,041 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 1: you forget that your audience also grows with you.

605
00:23:45,360 --> 00:23:45,561
Speaker 3: Yeah.

606
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Speaker 1: Even at the event, there were so many women that

607
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,201
Speaker 1: came up for a photo. I've followed you for fifteen years.

608
00:23:50,321 --> 00:23:52,481
Speaker 1: Oh that was so cool to hear, so cool to

609
00:23:52,481 --> 00:23:54,321
Speaker 1: see all your evolutions and I just love watching the

610
00:23:54,400 --> 00:23:54,880
Speaker 1: journey of you.

611
00:23:54,961 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 3: And I was like, ohmu, you've grown and yeah, it

612
00:23:57,321 --> 00:24:00,360
Speaker 3: was really beautiful, so special, really cool.

613
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Speaker 1: So yeah, we're going to be bringing out a course

614
00:24:03,360 --> 00:24:08,440
Speaker 1: which is really cool product hopefully by October and Barley Retreat.

615
00:24:09,120 --> 00:24:10,121
Speaker 1: That's really exciting.

616
00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:11,041
Speaker 2: It's so exciting.

617
00:24:11,360 --> 00:24:13,120
Speaker 1: I know, there's a lot of Barley retreats around, but

618
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 1: it won't be black House, no bias.

619
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:18,721
Speaker 3: So yeah, I think we just wanted to just document

620
00:24:18,801 --> 00:24:20,361
Speaker 3: a little bit of the journey and kind of where

621
00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:22,120
Speaker 3: we're both at and what we're planning and what we

622
00:24:22,321 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 3: want and just the reality of it all because you

623
00:24:25,241 --> 00:24:27,201
Speaker 3: see things on the forefront and you might just see

624
00:24:27,281 --> 00:24:30,321
Speaker 3: us posting podcast snippets and also really fun reels that

625
00:24:30,360 --> 00:24:31,521
Speaker 3: you guys get to come along on.

626
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:34,321
Speaker 1: But it's not just that this more behind the scenes.

627
00:24:34,481 --> 00:24:36,881
Speaker 3: How much more happening and big plans that we've got.

628
00:24:37,001 --> 00:24:39,160
Speaker 1: So I was saying to Tea the other day, this

629
00:24:39,321 --> 00:24:40,920
Speaker 1: time next year, we're going to look back and be like,

630
00:24:41,001 --> 00:24:42,041
Speaker 1: holy shit, we've done a lot.

631
00:24:42,201 --> 00:24:42,361
Speaker 3: Yeah.

632
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:43,920
Speaker 1: It's crazy what you can do in a short amount

633
00:24:43,921 --> 00:24:45,880
Speaker 1: of time when things feel so aligned, they just flow.

634
00:24:46,241 --> 00:24:48,481
Speaker 1: Even our events, it's like, whoa, how do we just

635
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,000
Speaker 1: say we're going to do this? And now we've got

636
00:24:50,001 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 1: all planned and it's done now. And it's interesting too.

637
00:24:52,441 --> 00:24:55,321
Speaker 1: We were driving back from Brisbane Get the Rule behind

638
00:24:55,321 --> 00:24:57,761
Speaker 1: the Scenes today, driving back from Brisbane last month and

639
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,761
Speaker 1: we were trying to book in the powerhouse. Yeah, and

640
00:25:01,441 --> 00:25:02,880
Speaker 1: it was getting a bit much for me. It was

641
00:25:02,921 --> 00:25:05,920
Speaker 1: really overwhelming. What they were requiring, what they needed from

642
00:25:06,041 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 1: usk questions. I was trying to get a hold of them.

643
00:25:09,001 --> 00:25:10,761
Speaker 1: Oh my god. It was a nightmare. And I've done

644
00:25:10,801 --> 00:25:12,241
Speaker 1: a lot of events over the years, and I was like,

645
00:25:12,481 --> 00:25:15,360
Speaker 1: this is not normal. And I started saying. I was like, look,

646
00:25:15,521 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 1: it's just not meant to be. We'll find a new location.

647
00:25:18,120 --> 00:25:20,761
Speaker 1: Let's park this one. I remember this like, look, I

648
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:22,680
Speaker 1: was driving. I remember this look in her eye that

649
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:27,241
Speaker 1: was like no. And Tatiana came out, got out her phone,

650
00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:31,120
Speaker 1: called them and in a very polite, respectful, yet stern

651
00:25:31,201 --> 00:25:33,680
Speaker 1: way of just like, we are going to make this happen.

652
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:36,681
Speaker 1: What do I need to do right now to lock

653
00:25:36,801 --> 00:25:40,721
Speaker 1: this in? Like I'm here. You need and she's like,

654
00:25:40,761 --> 00:25:43,401
Speaker 1: I need the insurance, I need cool done dune dune.

655
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:45,161
Speaker 1: We pulled over it grilled, got out and meet Patties

656
00:25:46,041 --> 00:25:48,440
Speaker 1: and she's just hustling away. But my fear came up

657
00:25:48,561 --> 00:25:50,681
Speaker 1: and I doubted it. And I was telling Steve Boddy goes, yeah,

658
00:25:50,681 --> 00:25:51,961
Speaker 1: you do that when you go overwhelmed. Do you think

659
00:25:51,961 --> 00:25:53,920
Speaker 1: you're not capable? In your old story of I'm too

660
00:25:54,001 --> 00:25:57,041
Speaker 1: dumb pops up and then you park it and you

661
00:25:57,441 --> 00:25:59,521
Speaker 1: just let it go. I was like, yeah, I don't do.

662
00:25:59,561 --> 00:26:01,561
Speaker 2: That, don't. I thank you for sharing that.

663
00:26:01,761 --> 00:26:03,521
Speaker 3: It was such a cool moment though, it was for

664
00:26:03,761 --> 00:26:06,321
Speaker 3: us to have that conversation and just noticing that in

665
00:26:06,360 --> 00:26:07,041
Speaker 3: the moment.

666
00:26:07,001 --> 00:26:09,241
Speaker 1: Yeah, and noticing the energy shift of like, no, I

667
00:26:09,321 --> 00:26:11,960
Speaker 1: fucking got this, Yeah we want this, We're gonna make

668
00:26:12,001 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 1: this happen at determination. Yeah, it's like, oh, go got fire.

669
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:18,360
Speaker 3: I love it, And like not allowing someone saying no

670
00:26:18,681 --> 00:26:20,281
Speaker 3: to yeah, like, oh that's the end of it, because

671
00:26:20,281 --> 00:26:21,681
Speaker 3: they didn't really say no, but they would.

672
00:26:21,721 --> 00:26:22,640
Speaker 1: They were hurtle.

673
00:26:22,801 --> 00:26:25,680
Speaker 3: It was so difficult, it's so neat. I was like,

674
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 3: don't fuck with me today. All right, has just been

675
00:26:28,761 --> 00:26:32,121
Speaker 3: filming for eight motherfucking hours. All right, we're doing this shit.

676
00:26:32,521 --> 00:26:32,761
Speaker 1: Yeah.

677
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:35,241
Speaker 3: It was just we've got the vision for so long.

678
00:26:35,321 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 3: We did well, we really wanted that location, and.

679
00:26:37,441 --> 00:26:39,321
Speaker 1: We just on our vision board had exactly what it

680
00:26:39,360 --> 00:26:42,360
Speaker 1: looked like. This venue was in nothing else compared. Yeah,

681
00:26:42,561 --> 00:26:44,321
Speaker 1: if you guys love this episode and you like more

682
00:26:44,360 --> 00:26:46,240
Speaker 1: behind the scenes of what it takes to run an

683
00:26:46,241 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 1: event or yeah, different hard conversations that we have, would

684
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 1: you like us a share more of that because I

685
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,241
Speaker 1: don't even like saying hard because they're not hard.

686
00:26:53,321 --> 00:26:54,761
Speaker 3: They don't feel hard together, So.

687
00:26:54,801 --> 00:26:56,521
Speaker 1: It's it just conversations that they've got to be had,

688
00:26:57,360 --> 00:27:01,041
Speaker 1: but like uncomfortable conversations. Maybe, yeah, we did have one

689
00:27:01,120 --> 00:27:03,120
Speaker 1: the other day. Actually that was a bit harder on

690
00:27:03,201 --> 00:27:09,441
Speaker 1: the treadmill. That was about about yes. So look, we're

691
00:27:09,681 --> 00:27:12,401
Speaker 1: not in different opinions about this. I'm obviously a little

692
00:27:12,441 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 1: bit more sensitive to it. But I didn't want to

693
00:27:15,921 --> 00:27:17,400
Speaker 1: talk about this because I didn't want to draw more

694
00:27:17,441 --> 00:27:20,400
Speaker 1: attention because you can see that they're actively waiting to

695
00:27:20,521 --> 00:27:23,681
Speaker 1: pounds and they're actively trying to bring us down. They're

696
00:27:23,721 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 1: actively going to our reviews and leaving shit us fate comment.

697
00:27:28,201 --> 00:27:30,160
Speaker 1: Either they're not listening and they're just writing it to

698
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,721
Speaker 1: bring us down, or they are listening, which if you

699
00:27:32,761 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 1: don't like us, motherfucker, you're listening. Anyways, you can see

700
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 1: that they're trolling. And Tiana's idea was to ask our

701
00:27:39,521 --> 00:27:42,481
Speaker 1: audience to jump on and the ones who are loving

702
00:27:42,521 --> 00:27:43,961
Speaker 1: and you girls that are listening, to go over and

703
00:27:44,001 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 1: support us and to leave some positive feedback and reviews

704
00:27:46,241 --> 00:27:49,081
Speaker 1: to try and squash them away. And I was like, oh,

705
00:27:49,281 --> 00:27:51,001
Speaker 1: that's just going to make the trolls want to win,

706
00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:52,961
Speaker 1: and they're going to come back tenfold. They're going to

707
00:27:53,001 --> 00:27:54,920
Speaker 1: post it in some gossip forum and then five hundred

708
00:27:54,921 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 1: it'll come over and do it.

709
00:27:56,120 --> 00:27:56,680
Speaker 3: And I know this.

710
00:27:57,120 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 1: I don't know they'll do it, but I have had

711
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: experience this, I've got evidence. I know how bitious they are.

712
00:28:02,481 --> 00:28:07,400
Speaker 1: They are actively waiting to pound on anything. And we

713
00:28:07,521 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 1: were back and forth too, and I was like, look,

714
00:28:10,321 --> 00:28:14,201
Speaker 1: we can try it. I'm just protective of your mental health.

715
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:17,521
Speaker 1: You're now grieving a friend. I'm still grieving Rambo, and

716
00:28:17,761 --> 00:28:19,801
Speaker 1: We've both got a lot going on right now. Even

717
00:28:19,801 --> 00:28:22,761
Speaker 1: though it doesn't ruin our day, it is still energy.

718
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:24,521
Speaker 1: When you read something about yourself.

719
00:28:24,281 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 2: There's energy out. Yeah it is yea.

720
00:28:26,001 --> 00:28:28,481
Speaker 1: Even if it just like flicks you, it's still a

721
00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:30,640
Speaker 1: little bit. It might not knock you over, but you

722
00:28:30,721 --> 00:28:32,561
Speaker 1: can still feel that little flick and twinge of like,

723
00:28:32,721 --> 00:28:35,561
Speaker 1: oh God, why did they say that? Yeah it's there.

724
00:28:35,721 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 1: You know you're human, you can feel it. You're not superpower, superwoman,

725
00:28:41,881 --> 00:28:43,641
Speaker 1: not super human. I'd be lying if I said it

726
00:28:43,721 --> 00:28:47,161
Speaker 1: never affected me. And I think you coming into this,

727
00:28:47,801 --> 00:28:49,841
Speaker 1: I know it's not, but I feel a sense of

728
00:28:49,921 --> 00:28:53,801
Speaker 1: responsibility to protect and shield you from that, and I

729
00:28:53,921 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 1: know that I can't, but if there's something that I

730
00:28:56,561 --> 00:28:59,841
Speaker 1: feel will minimize it, yeah, I would do. So the

731
00:29:00,001 --> 00:29:03,241
Speaker 1: thought of encouraging people to go over there, I'm like, Oh,

732
00:29:04,081 --> 00:29:05,721
Speaker 1: I freak out and I want to like, what do

733
00:29:05,761 --> 00:29:07,721
Speaker 1: the reviews do anyway? Like I was saying, I don't

734
00:29:07,721 --> 00:29:09,681
Speaker 1: feel like they're going to help us grow, which you're like,

735
00:29:09,761 --> 00:29:12,041
Speaker 1: I think it will. There's hundreds of thousands of people

736
00:29:12,041 --> 00:29:14,041
Speaker 1: that listen to us. Imagine if they went over and

737
00:29:14,081 --> 00:29:17,361
Speaker 1: they're loving it. We were just having a discussion about it, Yeah,

738
00:29:17,441 --> 00:29:19,521
Speaker 1: but it felt uncomfortable because.

739
00:29:19,441 --> 00:29:21,401
Speaker 2: We had different opinions almost.

740
00:29:21,161 --> 00:29:23,921
Speaker 1: Like different opinions, and I'm trying to protect you and

741
00:29:24,001 --> 00:29:26,921
Speaker 1: I'm more triggered and sensitive to it because i've experienced it.

742
00:29:27,601 --> 00:29:29,161
Speaker 1: And then you're like, but I'm not going to live

743
00:29:29,201 --> 00:29:31,321
Speaker 1: in fear and I'm not going to let them stop

744
00:29:31,401 --> 00:29:33,481
Speaker 1: me from crying. And this is a part of it.

745
00:29:33,921 --> 00:29:35,321
Speaker 1: The more we grow, the more people are going to

746
00:29:35,361 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: hate us, Like we've got to get used to this.

747
00:29:37,361 --> 00:29:41,681
Speaker 3: And I'm like, you're right, but scared, but yeah, that's

748
00:29:41,721 --> 00:29:44,761
Speaker 3: the right. We had like different context, right, Yeah, you've

749
00:29:44,841 --> 00:29:47,801
Speaker 3: got the context of previous evidence where I haven't had

750
00:29:47,841 --> 00:29:51,681
Speaker 3: to experience that, that initial backlash, and you know, psychologically,

751
00:29:51,881 --> 00:29:54,361
Speaker 3: I haven't had to experience that whereas you have. And

752
00:29:54,481 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 3: then I think for me, I'm like thinking bigger picture.

753
00:29:57,041 --> 00:29:59,641
Speaker 2: And the conversation we did have I said to Ashley

754
00:29:59,761 --> 00:30:01,401
Speaker 2: was like, you know, if we are.

755
00:30:01,401 --> 00:30:03,521
Speaker 3: Going to grow as big as we're going to grow,

756
00:30:04,001 --> 00:30:06,041
Speaker 3: those people are going to become so irrelevant that we

757
00:30:06,161 --> 00:30:09,441
Speaker 3: can't even hear them, right. But then it's the process

758
00:30:09,481 --> 00:30:11,761
Speaker 3: of doing that, you know, And it's a choice for

759
00:30:11,841 --> 00:30:13,321
Speaker 3: me to be here and to do this with you.

760
00:30:13,441 --> 00:30:16,081
Speaker 3: And I'm also willing to put myself in the firing lines,

761
00:30:16,161 --> 00:30:16,601
Speaker 3: like I.

762
00:30:16,601 --> 00:30:17,721
Speaker 1: Would be a firing life.

763
00:30:17,881 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 3: So like that It's so true though, right anybody who

764
00:30:20,321 --> 00:30:23,761
Speaker 3: puts themselves on social media is risking being criticized. It

765
00:30:23,841 --> 00:30:25,961
Speaker 3: doesn't matter who the fuck you are, what avenue you're in,

766
00:30:26,081 --> 00:30:27,961
Speaker 3: It does not matter. You could be selling baby clothes

767
00:30:27,961 --> 00:30:29,761
Speaker 3: and someone will criticize you for that's sake, do you

768
00:30:29,841 --> 00:30:32,401
Speaker 3: know what I mean? So like, it comes with the territory,

769
00:30:32,561 --> 00:30:35,321
Speaker 3: And like I would be ignorant if I thought that

770
00:30:35,561 --> 00:30:37,601
Speaker 3: one hundred percent of people are gonna like me. It's

771
00:30:37,681 --> 00:30:39,561
Speaker 3: just one of those things where I'm like Okay, what

772
00:30:39,721 --> 00:30:40,521
Speaker 3: do we focus on?

773
00:30:40,681 --> 00:30:41,440
Speaker 2: Do we focus on?

774
00:30:42,001 --> 00:30:44,161
Speaker 3: You know, because again, like what you said, there's hundreds

775
00:30:44,201 --> 00:30:46,481
Speaker 3: of thousands of women who were listening into this podcast.

776
00:30:46,561 --> 00:30:49,161
Speaker 3: I'm like, I saw Leila Homosy and Alex Homosy do

777
00:30:49,241 --> 00:30:50,361
Speaker 3: it every single episode.

778
00:30:50,441 --> 00:30:50,841
Speaker 2: They do it.

779
00:30:50,921 --> 00:30:52,841
Speaker 3: They you know, say, you know, guys, like if you

780
00:30:52,921 --> 00:30:54,921
Speaker 3: want to leave a review, it might just help somebody.

781
00:30:55,241 --> 00:30:57,561
Speaker 3: You know, the reviews are whatever, and you say, leave

782
00:30:57,601 --> 00:30:57,961
Speaker 3: a comment.

783
00:30:58,081 --> 00:30:59,841
Speaker 2: Hey, this really was pivotal for me.

784
00:30:59,921 --> 00:31:02,561
Speaker 3: This really gave me a light bulb moment. Maybe the

785
00:31:02,601 --> 00:31:04,401
Speaker 3: next person who reads that will go, shit, I'm going

786
00:31:04,481 --> 00:31:06,921
Speaker 3: to listen to that. So that's what I'm trying to

787
00:31:06,961 --> 00:31:09,521
Speaker 3: focus on. But then also that the fear is so

788
00:31:09,801 --> 00:31:13,201
Speaker 3: valid as well, and you have the context of that fear. Yeah.

789
00:31:13,601 --> 00:31:16,081
Speaker 1: And I was saying to Tea too, like it's a

790
00:31:16,241 --> 00:31:19,241
Speaker 1: rough stat but I would think because I've been doing

791
00:31:19,281 --> 00:31:20,841
Speaker 1: this for so much longer, and I'm old, and I've

792
00:31:20,881 --> 00:31:22,921
Speaker 1: been online for double the amount of time you have,

793
00:31:23,521 --> 00:31:25,241
Speaker 1: I feel like most of the hate is going to

794
00:31:25,281 --> 00:31:27,521
Speaker 1: be on me, so it's a lot for me to carry. Yeah,

795
00:31:27,801 --> 00:31:31,000
Speaker 1: And I just feel I think lately holding what I'm

796
00:31:31,081 --> 00:31:34,241
Speaker 1: holding the grief being a good mum showing up and

797
00:31:34,321 --> 00:31:36,521
Speaker 1: doing all the things I've just felt. It's like extra heavy.

798
00:31:36,841 --> 00:31:38,201
Speaker 2: Of course it's extra hard.

799
00:31:39,041 --> 00:31:42,361
Speaker 1: And now you're entering a grieving period which I can't

800
00:31:42,401 --> 00:31:46,041
Speaker 1: say it ends soon because it doesn't still thick in it.

801
00:31:46,441 --> 00:31:48,761
Speaker 1: I didn't want anything extra on top of what you're

802
00:31:48,761 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 1: going to be holding now. Yeah, and we both were like,

803
00:31:51,641 --> 00:31:53,961
Speaker 1: I hear you, you hear me. I see your points,

804
00:31:54,001 --> 00:31:57,441
Speaker 1: I see mine. They're both all real, they're all valid. Yeah.

805
00:31:57,681 --> 00:32:00,681
Speaker 1: It wasn't uncomfortable, but it I think just because I

806
00:32:00,801 --> 00:32:02,281
Speaker 1: am protective and I'm scared.

807
00:32:02,561 --> 00:32:05,601
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, there's so many layers to it, with a lot.

808
00:32:05,841 --> 00:32:08,281
Speaker 3: And when you started to say, like the mental health

809
00:32:08,361 --> 00:32:11,081
Speaker 3: side of things, yeah, breathing and how it automatically feels

810
00:32:11,081 --> 00:32:12,641
Speaker 3: so much heavier, I was like, oh, you know what,

811
00:32:13,481 --> 00:32:15,841
Speaker 3: like maybe it's not fucking worth it, Like maybe it's

812
00:32:15,881 --> 00:32:17,281
Speaker 3: not worth it. But then I was also like, I

813
00:32:17,481 --> 00:32:19,801
Speaker 3: just want to make sure that we're you're never making

814
00:32:19,841 --> 00:32:22,121
Speaker 3: a decision out of fear. Yeah, but out of so

815
00:32:22,281 --> 00:32:24,321
Speaker 3: much fear there yeah yeah, but you know what I mean,

816
00:32:24,401 --> 00:32:25,641
Speaker 3: like out of a place of all I need to

817
00:32:25,681 --> 00:32:27,761
Speaker 3: keep myself small in this box just so that people

818
00:32:27,841 --> 00:32:30,521
Speaker 3: don't pounce because it's like, well, then we're doing a

819
00:32:30,561 --> 00:32:33,521
Speaker 3: disservice for all the people who do listen to this podcast.

820
00:32:33,201 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 1: And I'm letting them win. It's not your life. If

821
00:32:35,481 --> 00:32:37,401
Speaker 1: you're always worried about what other people are thinking, they're

822
00:32:37,401 --> 00:32:40,401
Speaker 1: controlling it. And I totally see that. I'm even scared

823
00:32:40,481 --> 00:32:42,801
Speaker 1: talking about this now because I know that it's like

824
00:32:42,841 --> 00:32:45,401
Speaker 1: in the past, every time I've spoken about being depressed

825
00:32:45,481 --> 00:32:48,281
Speaker 1: or being suicidal or being upset, it's like some people

826
00:32:48,441 --> 00:32:51,081
Speaker 1: fucking love a babe. Yeah, They're like, whoa, she's down,

827
00:32:51,401 --> 00:32:53,881
Speaker 1: We're winning. So fuck it's so fuck so Like, I

828
00:32:53,881 --> 00:32:56,321
Speaker 1: don't even like talking about this vulnerable stuff because it's

829
00:32:56,401 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 1: just I don't know. I don't think I'll understand why

830
00:32:59,521 --> 00:33:01,241
Speaker 1: people enjoy that. Yeah, I really don't.

831
00:33:01,321 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 2: This wasn't in our notes by that.

832
00:33:02,601 --> 00:33:05,681
Speaker 1: No, how you can enjoy one trying to bring down

833
00:33:05,681 --> 00:33:08,521
Speaker 1: another woman, but to enjoy seeing her go down in

834
00:33:08,601 --> 00:33:10,601
Speaker 1: that process. Yeah, you don't think I'll ever understand that.

835
00:33:10,841 --> 00:33:12,401
Speaker 2: No, and you won't because you're not like that.

836
00:33:12,561 --> 00:33:13,761
Speaker 1: I the last thing I'd ever want to do is

837
00:33:13,801 --> 00:33:16,041
Speaker 1: see a women go down, even someone that's hurt me,

838
00:33:16,081 --> 00:33:18,361
Speaker 1: like even a troller. I would never wish bad upon them. Yeah,

839
00:33:18,441 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: even if they said the most disgusting thing about me.

840
00:33:20,601 --> 00:33:22,561
Speaker 1: All I hope is that they heal. Yeah, and they

841
00:33:22,601 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 1: get to see what's coming up for them and they

842
00:33:24,441 --> 00:33:26,081
Speaker 1: don't do it someone else. Yeah, you know.

843
00:33:27,281 --> 00:33:31,801
Speaker 3: So yeah, we're still figuring. We're still figuring that part out.

844
00:33:31,881 --> 00:33:33,961
Speaker 1: So if you love our episodes, go live a nice review.

845
00:33:34,681 --> 00:33:37,921
Speaker 2: Yeah, please, And you know what's wrong wrong there?

846
00:33:37,961 --> 00:33:39,601
Speaker 1: It'd be more that there's more love than hate. I

847
00:33:39,601 --> 00:33:40,921
Speaker 1: would love to be proven, yes, and.

848
00:33:40,921 --> 00:33:41,921
Speaker 2: That's what I keep trying to say.

849
00:33:41,961 --> 00:33:43,041
Speaker 3: But you know what, at the end of the day,

850
00:33:43,241 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 3: the people who are in there writing bad reviews are

851
00:33:45,521 --> 00:33:48,361
Speaker 3: also attacking your character. So they're not even talking about

852
00:33:48,361 --> 00:33:51,161
Speaker 3: the podcast. It just shows that they're just trolling and

853
00:33:51,201 --> 00:33:53,561
Speaker 3: they can say all they want, but the numbers don't lie.

854
00:33:53,761 --> 00:33:56,041
Speaker 3: And all of you beautiful humans who are listening and

855
00:33:56,121 --> 00:33:58,961
Speaker 3: who do value the podcast and value you know, what

856
00:33:59,081 --> 00:34:00,881
Speaker 3: we have to say and what we share and that

857
00:34:01,001 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 3: impact that it makes on you, Like, that's what it's about.

858
00:34:03,321 --> 00:34:06,041
Speaker 3: And we just do it willing to drown out the

859
00:34:06,121 --> 00:34:08,321
Speaker 3: five percent or the one percent of people who do

860
00:34:08,521 --> 00:34:10,881
Speaker 3: have something to say, because again, we're not going to

861
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Speaker 3: be everyone's cup of tea and we're not here to

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Speaker 3: fucking people please, Like at the end of the day.

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Speaker 3: That's a commitment ashly I made when we start achieve rises.

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Speaker 3: We said we are going to ruffle feathers. We are

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Speaker 3: going to talk about things that are going to make

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Speaker 3: people uncomfortable. And the fact that we're going to talk

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Speaker 3: about things that people shy away from.

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Speaker 1: I want to activate point you activate something within you

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Speaker 1: that hasn't been activated before. Yeah, it's really cool.

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Speaker 2: Activate. That's the word word.

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Speaker 3: It's the word they've word of twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, if you do love our podcast, it does

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Speaker 1: mean a lot to us. It does support us a lot,

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Speaker 1: and we love seeing it.

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Speaker 3: We really appreciate We do appreciate a lot to us. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: if you have any feedback or if you do like

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Speaker 3: us talking more business behind the scenes, like, let us know,

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Speaker 3: because we would really you know, we'd like to share

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Speaker 3: more of this and we'd like to document more of

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Speaker 3: the journey as well. So if you do like it,

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Speaker 3: let us know, send us a DM or jump in form.

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Speaker 1: Or wouldn't say we're a business podcast, However, this is

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Speaker 1: a business and we were doing it, so we're happy

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Speaker 1: to you're long the journey, behind the scenes and all

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Speaker 1: the ups and downs.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're not going to claim they we're professional.

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Speaker 1: They're learning as we go.

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Speaker 3: You know what.

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Speaker 2: There's a huge pillar of our lives.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know so and passion.

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Speaker 2: Yeah alright right, thanks for joining us.

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Speaker 1: Bye bye,