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Speaker 1: Is the City with Kate podcast, just keeping up with

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Speaker 1: the dating terms that are going around at the moment.

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Speaker 1: Whe You did one the other day. That was the

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Speaker 1: bird theory. That's when you're in a new relationship, you

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Speaker 1: gauge the interest in your partner by pointing out a

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Speaker 1: bird even though there isn't one, and seeing if your

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Speaker 1: partner looks around is interested.

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Speaker 2: Like I saw an amazing bird today, and then your

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Speaker 2: partners want to go really tell me more about it.

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Speaker 3: Or they go where is it?

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Speaker 1: Where?

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Speaker 3: Where?

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Speaker 1: And then you know they're interested if they don't give

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Speaker 1: a stuff, which I wouldn't.

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Speaker 3: I mean, as we go, that's nice stuff.

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Speaker 4: I'm into birds, me too.

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Speaker 1: Headline on The Daily Mark.

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Speaker 3: Was going to reveal that after eight Aicore thrown to

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Speaker 3: another one.

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Speaker 1: So throwning is dating someone who boosts your reputation by

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Speaker 1: being associated with them. Basically, someone who can drag you

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Speaker 1: to feeling like you're a higher status and prey parade

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Speaker 1: you around on social media.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, that's what Inger does to Tom shows Off.

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Speaker 3: And the women. That's more thirst trapping.

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Speaker 5: You're first, I apologize.

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Speaker 3: So's that gas lighting. The other one is stacking. Stacking

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Speaker 3: is the new one. Okay.

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Speaker 1: Men's Health says it's it's a dating trend where men

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Speaker 1: will schedule lots of dates in one day, but it's

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Speaker 1: not your traditional date, so they'll do it in rapid succession.

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Speaker 1: So it might be, hey, do you want to go

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Speaker 1: for a quick coffee at lunch? Bang back to work,

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Speaker 1: cutle of.

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Speaker 3: Errands to run?

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Speaker 1: Then why it would just meet you for one drink

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Speaker 1: after work, another girl, a different girl bang. Stacking done

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Speaker 1: just for an hour doesn't have to be a long day,

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Speaker 1: see you later.

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Speaker 3: I've got to stack another date.

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Speaker 5: I agree with it, and then it should never be stacked.

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Speaker 5: For the record, well, I'm the storage way.

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Speaker 4: Stacking is better than asking the like at least you

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Speaker 4: get a vibe for that person instantly, and so does

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Speaker 4: the woman or whoever it is that's meeting each other.

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Speaker 4: Because then, like when you get when people go on

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Speaker 4: these dates, they can sometimes spend three hours and a

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Speaker 3: And you know straight away because you've always said kate

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Speaker 3: leads to it doesn't It doesn't know, and.

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Speaker 2: You should be respectful of yourself and also whoever you're

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Speaker 2: meeting for coffee.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I rather, I would rather drink coffee on my own,

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Speaker 4: would you quietly? Yea?

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Speaker 3: The guy brought up nagging today and what was the

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Speaker 3: other one he just did before as well?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, no, I wasn't my I didn't write the

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Speaker 2: article that most relationships break up because women nag.

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Speaker 5: I didn't write that.

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Speaker 4: Please go to the podcast if you didn't hear us

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Speaker 4: talk about that, because he sounds like a pig, and

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Speaker 4: maybe he is, and you'd be the judge.

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Speaker 3: This is the fits In with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 5: Have you guys heard about the three second rule? It's

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Speaker 5: about how to steal the pout?

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Speaker 3: No, mate, that's what I was thinking, needing chips off

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Speaker 5: No, this is relationship stuff and it should be more than.

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Speaker 2: Three, especially for chips. Chips sit there forever, be fine.

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Speaker 2: This is an interesting one. It's when you meet somebody

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Speaker 2: for the first time. You're trying to have that right

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Speaker 2: instant attraction and that feel of showing your presence and

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Speaker 5: Nervous and over talking.

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Speaker 2: They say, when you enter the room and you meet

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Speaker 2: that person, that's that was a blind date and you

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Speaker 2: turn up when you meet them for the first time.

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Speaker 5: Ahi, great to meet you, Kate. I'm Michael. That's when

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Speaker 5: you lock in the three second rule and you don't.

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Speaker 3: It's a three year rule for Lisa, wasn't it okay?

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Speaker 2: And then does she ignore you three?

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Speaker 3: No, that's not what it was.

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Speaker 5: She wasn't silent for three?

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Speaker 3: Did you have a boyfriend for three?

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Speaker 5: It doesn't matter what when on, it's where we are now.

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Speaker 3: Oh, okay, okay, sorry, we can talk about this. A

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Speaker 2: To be some sort of inquest into my relationship and

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Speaker 3: I was getting in the most and the thing's gone

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Speaker 3: wrong brown speed.

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Speaker 5: So the three second rule.

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Speaker 4: It's three seconds is a long time, Yes it is.

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Speaker 2: But they're saying you can take a moment to have

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Speaker 2: your best first impression if you take three seconds. So

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Speaker 2: on meeting somebody, Hi, nice to meet you, Kate. I

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Speaker 2: look into your eyes and I count to three. You'll

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Speaker 2: want to think I've lost the plot after three seconds

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Speaker 2: of me meeting you, and then we don't. I don't

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Speaker 2: say anything else and just stare into your eyes for

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Speaker 2: three something you've.

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Speaker 4: Said it's nice to meet you. I think what's weirder

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Speaker 4: is that if you've said nice to meet you, and

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Speaker 4: the person you've said that to waits three seconds.

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Speaker 3: Well, I knew straight away.

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Speaker 1: As soon as I laid eyes on Bej, I knew

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Speaker 1: I was going to marry that lady. Unfortunately I had

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Speaker 1: to wait for the binoculars to focus first.

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Speaker 2: You were looking into her eyes for three seconds, and

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Speaker 2: she didn't know you were there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she had no idea. For three years, I followed

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Speaker 4: O funny not funny.

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Speaker 2: Most people will never use this because it feels uncomfortable.

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Speaker 3: Well, people like to fill the space.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But the moment you learn to own it, it'll

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Speaker 2: change the way people see you forever.

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Speaker 4: I think. I think it's a very good tip, But

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Speaker 4: I think that there are some people who are very

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Speaker 4: bits of information, they go, right, I'm just going to

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Speaker 4: I'm going to create the silence. She's going to fall

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Speaker 4: in love with me. I'm going to seem like I'm,

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Speaker 4: you know, so suave and serious and deep, and all

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Speaker 5: Tommy, can I tell the story about you? When your

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Speaker 5: pickup technic look at him, he's just mowed those two

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Speaker 3: Again.

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Speaker 5: One starts with the other, one.

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Speaker 2: Starts with Tommy, are you wearing both?

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Speaker 3: He did tell you to do the break.

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Speaker 5: Quickly, but I'm just Tommy, give me your strike rate.

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Speaker 2: Tommy used to say that when you get to the

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Speaker 2: this could be the first kiss, you wait, you look

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Speaker 2: into their eyes for three seconds and then say I

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Speaker 2: think we should kiss.

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Speaker 1: I think that's nice after three seconds three seconds, So.

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Speaker 5: Tom you played out with Kate.

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Speaker 2: Here we go and action one three?

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Speaker 5: I think we should kiss? You put a question mark

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Speaker 5: on it.

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Speaker 3: I'm what about this? Three?

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Speaker 5: Is it okay?

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Speaker 4: If I kiss you too?

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Speaker 3: Forward?

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Speaker 5: Consent?

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Speaker 4: And and and you know intense?

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Speaker 5: What about this? One?

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Speaker 1: Three?

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Speaker 5: Your breath smells a little bit.

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Speaker 4: This is the Fitz with Cape Ritchie podcast.

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Speaker 1: Do women change their voice when they're flirting with men? Oh?

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Speaker 5: God, you hear do it to me? A little bit? Off?

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Speaker 3: It high?

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Speaker 4: That's not flirting.

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Speaker 3: That is incredible frustration.

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Speaker 5: Lisa changes her voice when she lies.

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Speaker 3: I know that much.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, that's a great idea.

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Speaker 3: Actually, you're so gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: I've got like this is this Actually you will hear

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Speaker 1: your name in this But there's an actor over in

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Speaker 1: the States and names Lawrence Skervin. She calls herself the

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Speaker 1: millennial Carrie Bradshaw, and she says that women do change

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Speaker 1: their voice when they're flirting with men, and they like

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Speaker 1: to emphasize, particularly their names. Okay, now this might be

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Speaker 1: a certain area that you're from in America, but okay,

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Speaker 1: for example, here she talks about a girl who has

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Speaker 1: a crush on a guy whose names Steve.

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Speaker 3: Have a listen. It's my impression of a girl who

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Speaker 3: has a crush on a goy named Steve. Steven, Steve, Steve, Steve.

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Speaker 4: I agree, it's quite like it's plate becomes playful, doesn't it.

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Speaker 4: And you can see her face and she's also kind

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Speaker 4: becomes very tact Oh my god, Stephen, Can I just

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Speaker 4: say something? Stephen's my dad's name, So can we pick

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Speaker 4: another name?

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Speaker 5: Could you hear saying that?

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Speaker 3: Could you absolutely not Steve Steve? What about this one?

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Speaker 2: This is Andrew's my impression of a girl who has

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Speaker 2: a crush on a guy named Andrew.

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Speaker 1: Really Andrew, Andy, I love, She's so right. Well, do

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Speaker 1: you want to hear your name? Do you want to

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Speaker 1: hear Mike. Yeah, okay, this is my impression of a

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Speaker 4: Mike, Mike, Yeah, I could hear it.

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Speaker 1: I would never say it like could you could do

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Speaker 1: could you do like an Australian?

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Speaker 3: I mean, could you do an Australian name for us cake?

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Speaker 3: Could you do like a Gregory or at Warren?

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Speaker 4: Earlier than Warren, I had a little dalliance with a Warren.

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Speaker 3: He was from Tara Mara.

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Speaker 4: I don't even know where Warren is in prison.

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Speaker 1: So when you first when you first record, when you

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Speaker 1: first met Warren, what was the flirting that was going on?

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Speaker 5: Cap it would have been late?

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Speaker 3: You do it? O?

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Speaker 4: Hi Hi, It's Kate.

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Speaker 2: Hi Hi Warren.

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Speaker 3: Warren.

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Speaker 4: How you don't Warren? Oh my god, Warren, you are funny.

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