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Speaker 1: Appolgie Production, very special guest here, one of my bestest

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Speaker 1: friends in the whole wide world. Got makes you here?

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Speaker 1: I love there's a particular topic that I feel you're

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Speaker 1: very passionate about and you help so many women through

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Speaker 1: and that's connecting with that inner child. This work. It

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Speaker 1: doesn't ever stop right because more things come up and

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Speaker 1: you're like, oh, let's unpack that. Oh that might have

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Speaker 1: happened because when this happened when I was younger, And

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Speaker 1: it never gets to a point where you're like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I've done that, I'm all good now.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely. I always say that if you're dealing with something

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Speaker 2: from your past, I don't feel that it's ever just

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Speaker 2: wrapped up into a box. You put a bowl in it,

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Speaker 2: put it away in a shelf, yay, Like it is

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Speaker 2: a part of you and it gets to be something

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Speaker 2: that you learn how to live with, maybe more ease

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Speaker 2: and grace, or maybe it doesn't affect you as big

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Speaker 2: as it used to. You know you kind of it

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Speaker 2: can ease off. But we have memories. Our body has memories.

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Speaker 2: It stored somatic. There are some modalities that do say

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Speaker 2: they can rearrange the way that you remember things, and

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Speaker 2: so Therefore how you react to those things now might

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Speaker 2: not affect you. But yeah, I think that some of

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Speaker 2: these things are always going to be there, even if

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Speaker 2: a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Something that you said to me, which I've done two

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Speaker 1: in a Child healings with you now and they were amazing.

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Speaker 1: I've spoken about in the podcast before, but something that

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Speaker 1: you said in one of them really stuck with me

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Speaker 1: because I kind of had separated like my younger self

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Speaker 1: as like my past self, like almost like she's gone,

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Speaker 1: but you were like, she's always a part of you.

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Speaker 1: So now when I try to connect with my inner child,

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Speaker 1: it's like she's right next to me or she's within me,

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Speaker 1: but I visualize her right there and she's never going anywhere.

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Speaker 1: And my job now is to always make sure that

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Speaker 1: I'm there for her and giving her what she needs.

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Speaker 1: And that's been really helpful because it's just in a way,

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Speaker 1: it's just another way to support myself because she's a

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Speaker 1: part of me. She's not separate to me. But I

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Speaker 1: have thought that it's separate because that part of my

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Speaker 1: life's done, but it's never really done. Yeah, that was

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Speaker 1: a cool realization for me. It's helped me continue to

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Speaker 1: be able to from those healings, not disconnect with her.

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Speaker 1: I stayed connect with her because that first one it

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Speaker 1: was in your lounge room, second was in your bedroom.

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Speaker 1: In the first one, I was telling you, it was

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Speaker 1: like so quickly I could drop in and see her,

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Speaker 1: and I cried so much because I was like, I

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Speaker 1: felt like this real human that I got to cuddle

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Speaker 1: and like actually fully see her pain and see her tears.

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Speaker 1: And it was so easy to connect with her because

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Speaker 1: I'm like, it's this, yeah, like a daughter or like

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Speaker 1: a friend, like you want to be there for them.

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Speaker 1: It was just such a beautiful experience that I wish

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Speaker 1: everyone could tap into that, but I do find it

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Speaker 1: it was harder to do by myself. Like, it is

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Speaker 1: nice to have a woman's coach like yourself who can

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Speaker 1: guide you through that. So could you talk us through

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Speaker 1: a little bit about your healings and how you learn

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Speaker 1: how to do that and just how powerful that work is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's so cool that you had that experience and

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Speaker 2: that can just now shifted things for you moving forward,

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Speaker 2: because You're so right, it's absolutely this little girl she

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Speaker 2: experienced whatever she experienced back then, or even your younger self,

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Speaker 2: whatever age it was, they had this experience, and we

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Speaker 2: grow up and we think, oh, that shouldn't bother me now,

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Speaker 2: Like I was so little there it was all of

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Speaker 2: within ourselves which our body tries to protect us. Right,

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Speaker 2: it's doing its job. But that little gushi is you,

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Speaker 2: this body that was her. So those thoughts, those feelings,

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Speaker 2: any traumas, any joys, and good memories too, like they

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Speaker 2: reside in your body, in your mind and your self

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Speaker 2: conscious they're there. So to just discount her and what

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Speaker 2: she experienced is yeah, a big part of the disconnection

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Speaker 2: that ws her and feel And a lot of people

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Speaker 2: think with different healing modalities, and let's say in a

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Speaker 2: are actually processing what happened afterwards, most people feel really

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Speaker 2: light and they actually feel like wow, like they might

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Speaker 2: of downloads or you know, things are shifting. But generally

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Speaker 2: it's not as heavy as people think it might be,

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Speaker 1: Because you're clearing it, you're clearing stuff that is blocked,

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Speaker 1: or you've been carrying the weight of it for thirty

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Speaker 2: The pain that people feel of like that's going to

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Speaker 2: that they're feeling from suppressing and from carrying the way

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Speaker 2: So they're like, oh no, that's painful, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: let it flow. I personally think a lot of these

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Speaker 2: things that you talk about, like confidence and feelings of anxiousness,

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Speaker 2: a lot of these things started somewhere and they've rooted

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Speaker 2: some where, So obviously going back and trying to find

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Speaker 2: it is so powerful in your healing journey. Instead of

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Speaker 2: doing these affirmations or reading these books or trying to

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Speaker 2: take steps forward, instead of clearing and shifting the past.

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Speaker 2: It just propels you forward a lot more. Not to

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Speaker 2: say that doing affirmations and these other things are bad

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Speaker 2: or you shouldn't do them, it's just the changing your

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Speaker 2: neural pathways in your brain. It's a lot harder. It's

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Speaker 2: like I always use this analogy that if you were

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Speaker 2: make this deep ridge, and now what you want to do.

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Speaker 2: You want to go somewhere else. So when you're trying

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Speaker 2: wanting change and you're wanting to do something different. So

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Speaker 2: it can be really hard if you're just like I'm

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Speaker 2: for you to make that decision to choose differently, to

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Speaker 2: one on one, their entire lives change. Like they are

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Speaker 2: I've had a beautiful client find her purpose and her

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Speaker 2: calling and start a beautiful business helping and healing other people.

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Speaker 2: I've had a beautiful client who was able to let

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Speaker 2: aligned to her values. And yeah, just so many stories

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Speaker 1: Sounds like it helps them thrive, not just survive through

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Speaker 1: each Shay. A lot of people get so caught up

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Speaker 1: how it's always been, Like I've always thought like that,

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Speaker 1: you see things even though your childhood might have looked

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Speaker 1: of our life is the most impressionable and that's where

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what they say. That's the most delicate time

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Speaker 2: So that's hard wiring your system telling it this is

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So for anyone listening and they've never done any

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Speaker 2: And you know, this work is so nuanced. People can

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Speaker 2: setting up a beautiful little environment. You can also find

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Speaker 2: So that's the first thing that I would say. The

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Speaker 2: imagine whoever it might be, and say, in a moment

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Speaker 2: how you would look at her, And then you can

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Speaker 1: Yeah, once you start to surround yourself with people doing

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