Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming.
Speaker 2: She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of
Speaker 2: my kissing style with.
Speaker 1: The boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours.
Speaker 2: He's in a trash bin.
Speaker 1: He's non recyclable. Catching member.
Speaker 2: I love being love, I love love. On today's episode,
Speaker 2: we are talking about when and if you should move
Speaker 2: in with your partner and.
Speaker 3: When we took the plunge in our current and previous relationships.
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Speaker 1: Matt, welcome back to season three.
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Speaker 1: Let's jump in, all right.
Speaker 2: So I was having my morning coffee this morning. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like always, soy latte. I was scrolling through the Daily Mail.
Speaker 2: I love doing that, see what the gossips, see what's
Speaker 2: going on. And I come across an article that reads
Speaker 2: oh no, that reads Love Island star suffers a major
Speaker 2: wardrobe malfunction at Melbourne Fashion Festival, Wait as her boobs
Speaker 2: pop out in quotations of her dress in the front row.
Speaker 1: Well, look as you know, because you were there.
Speaker 2: I was definitely there. I saw it.
Speaker 3: That happened me, and that went to fashion week. It
Speaker 3: was a big week of fashion week.
Speaker 1: This week, and my dress was not.
Speaker 3: Structured well enough to hold the girls and front row.
Speaker 3: My boobs did pop out. It was super embarrassing. I
Speaker 3: honestly couldn't believe it.
Speaker 2: I mean, the whole show, and is saying to me, oh,
Speaker 2: I think it's gonna pop, It's gonna pop. I'm like, no, no,
Speaker 2: it's fine, No stress, Like, the girls look like they're
Speaker 2: in there. Okay, you're fine, You're fine. She said it's
Speaker 2: gonna it's gonna pop. It's gonna pop. Pretty sure when
Speaker 2: we were walking as well. You said, imagine for my
Speaker 2: top bursts, and I was like, oh, yeah, no.
Speaker 1: My stylist Daniel said that.
Speaker 2: Somebody said he said it.
Speaker 1: He jinks to me.
Speaker 2: So then she's like it's gonna happen. I'm like, no, no,
Speaker 2: it's fine. I'm enjoying the fashion parade. I'm enjoying it,
Speaker 2: loving it. And then I hear oh fuck. I'm like
Speaker 2: what And then I look across and it looks like
Speaker 2: she's seen a ghost. The guy across from me looks
Speaker 2: like I seen and a maca voice hits the holies.
Speaker 2: It's all going down. People are still walking, We're trying
Speaker 2: to find people are offering us bobby pins. You're trying
Speaker 2: to look for a pin and make Jamie grabs a strap.
Speaker 2: I don't even know what it was. He leaps to
Speaker 2: the rescue, straps you in like a life vest. It
Speaker 2: was all happening in the front row while the fashion
Speaker 2: show was still walking.
Speaker 3: The thing is is like at the start, only me
Speaker 3: and Natt knew what was going on because I was like,
Speaker 3: oh fuck, and then Matt was like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: And Matt's reaction was so big.
Speaker 3: Like oh that then everyone around us slowly started realizing
Speaker 3: what had happened, and I feel like it was like
Speaker 3: Chinese whispers, and people were asking for pins and how
Speaker 3: to help out the situation.
Speaker 1: Everyone was trying to help and lend to hang.
Speaker 2: Girls that'd have to love a bobby pin across the catwalk.
Speaker 2: Probably not, but.
Speaker 3: Look, I only think like maybe five people saw.
Speaker 2: So you fully flashed the front row across from us my.
Speaker 1: Left boom flash. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Anyway, fashion Week was amazing. We both brought Jen, Matt's girlfriend,
Speaker 3: and Michael, my boyfriend. They came to fashion Week for
Speaker 3: the first time. How did Jen find it?
Speaker 2: Jen loved it. She loves fashion. She obviously works in
Speaker 2: the industry at the head office for a fashion brand,
Speaker 2: so she was loving it. She loved getting dressed up
Speaker 2: for it. I do laugh because when we got there,
Speaker 2: obviously with media walls and like they have to do
Speaker 2: all their content, Jen was a bit taken back by that.
Speaker 2: She's not used to that sort of like that sort
Speaker 2: of attention. I guess, so that's sort of like in
Speaker 2: your face, so it's full on, full on, like the
Speaker 2: five cameras taking photos. But look, she looked great in
Speaker 2: the photos when they came out.
Speaker 1: She did.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so it was a good time. She really enjoyed
Speaker 2: the night we saw the GQ one, so that was yeah,
Speaker 2: that was really cool. Every time like a like an
Speaker 2: attractive guy walked past, I was, well, you know this
Speaker 2: was me I used to be on that cat or she.
Speaker 1: Might be a bit attracted. Yeah, say yeah.
Speaker 2: No, I definitely know she enjoyed it. I enjoyed it.
Speaker 2: How did Michael go?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think he kind I felt the same way,
Speaker 3: like he loved it. But it was again, very overwhelming
Speaker 3: when there's lots and lots of cameras.
Speaker 1: Like the thing for me and you was we were
Speaker 1: already models before all of this.
Speaker 3: We used to lots of photos being taken and I
Speaker 3: think it's a very unique world to bring someone into.
Speaker 3: And yeah, I think he was overwhelmed it. As you said,
Speaker 3: like Jen did amazing, Michael did amazing.
Speaker 1: I was so proud to have him by my side.
Speaker 1: So it was great.
Speaker 2: He was a good handbag for you.
Speaker 1: He's not a hand bag. Does that mean?
Speaker 2: I don't know, he's a Chanel handbag. Let's put it
Speaker 2: that way.
Speaker 1: He's a boy bag, boy bag, Chanel boy bag.
Speaker 2: On the topic of Michael, I hear that you and
Speaker 2: Michael have moved in.
Speaker 1: We're going to talk about that, Nat, let's.
Speaker 2: Get into it. So Anna, you posted on your Instagram
Speaker 2: recently that you've decided to move in with Michael. Yeah,
Speaker 2: why did you think that now it was the perfect
Speaker 2: time to move in?
Speaker 3: It's hard because I feel like me and Michael are
Speaker 3: just so compatible. So literally, from like date one, we
Speaker 3: were spending such an enormous amount of time together, and
Speaker 3: then I think, like even two months into seeing him,
Speaker 3: we were spending four to five days a week, and
Speaker 3: then he started sleeping over like six nights a week,
Speaker 3: and so kind of got to the point where it
Speaker 3: was like, well, he's basically living at my house.
Speaker 2: Stop squatting and pay.
Speaker 3: Rent, exactly what I was thinking. Yeah, So, I mean
Speaker 3: we had kind of spoken about it. He was actually
Speaker 3: the first one to bring it up. He just said, like,
Speaker 3: would you like to live together? Because obviously, when you're
Speaker 3: spending six days a week together, you kind of know
Speaker 3: if it's working, if it's not, if it's.
Speaker 1: Gonna last, or if there's some red flags there.
Speaker 3: And I think because we meshed so well together and
Speaker 3: because we lived so well together and things just.
Speaker 1: Worked, it kind of made sense.
Speaker 3: So I think it was four months into the relationship,
Speaker 3: which some people would say is.
Speaker 1: Kind of soon. What do you think do you think
Speaker 1: that's too soon?
Speaker 2: No? I think that's fine. I didn't realize it was
Speaker 2: four months. I thought you'd recently moved in.
Speaker 3: Okay, So I posted on Instagram recently that he moved in,
Speaker 3: But he.
Speaker 1: Actually moved in after four months?
Speaker 3: Okay, cool, I told Instagram after it was six months.
Speaker 3: So he'd already been living with me for two months
Speaker 3: at that point.
Speaker 2: Just you know, so you're not dropping that you've moved
Speaker 2: in and then a couple of months later moving out. Backtrack, Okay,
Speaker 2: that's what I was. I didn't even know he'd moved
Speaker 2: in four months ago. I guess maybe I did. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I don't know if I told you, because actually I
Speaker 3: think I remember you being like congrats, and I was like, oh, really,
Speaker 3: we've already been living yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So if you've spent then four months pretty much
Speaker 2: living together, you did have a clear understanding of what
Speaker 2: it would be like to live together. Was there any
Speaker 2: thing that you were a bit iffy on? Or he
Speaker 2: has any quirks that he has to live with? He
Speaker 2: would have some say some stuff about your living style.
Speaker 1: But he's not here, so go ahead and row under
Speaker 1: the bus.
Speaker 3: Look, me and Michael are very similar, so I think
Speaker 3: any sort of like maybe issues that I might have
Speaker 3: with him, he probably has them with me. Like we're
Speaker 3: not super proactive at cleaning the house, and I guess
Speaker 3: now that there's double the amount of belongings and clothing
Speaker 3: and stuff. Recently, we had like a small argument because
Speaker 3: we were like, the house is too messy, and he's like,
Speaker 3: I agree, the house is too messy.
Speaker 1: And I was like, so we should clean it, and
Speaker 1: he's like, I know.
Speaker 2: So neither of you are neat freak.
Speaker 1: No, Like we're both not OCD in the cleaning department.
Speaker 3: But I also like have a cleaner who comes in
Speaker 3: once a month to just give the house like a
Speaker 3: deep clean to get rid of the dust.
Speaker 2: And though don't get wrong, yeah, of course messy.
Speaker 3: I would prefer instead of hanging things up in the
Speaker 3: wrong spot, I'd prefer to leave them in a bundle
Speaker 3: or like in a mountain or pile or whatever you want.
Speaker 1: To call it.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I'd prefer to leave it until I have
Speaker 3: time to properly organize things. And like, you know, my
Speaker 3: wardrobe is color coordinated. I'm not messy, but like at
Speaker 3: the same time, like we all have those things.
Speaker 2: Now that he's moved in, has it changed anything about
Speaker 2: the dynamics of the house, Like obviously before it's your house,
Speaker 2: he's coming to your house. Yeah, has anything changed now
Speaker 2: is he? Like? No?
Speaker 3: I think we just genuinely love spending time together. It
Speaker 3: makes sense. It's kind of nice knowing that I get
Speaker 3: to go to sleep with him every night. Like, it's
Speaker 3: so funny because when I first moved in to my
Speaker 3: apartment by myself, I never ever thought I would live alone.
Speaker 3: And I got so used to that lifestyle and living
Speaker 3: alone and I actually loved it. I never thought I
Speaker 3: would love it, But I just genuinely loved having my
Speaker 3: own space, being in my own company, and I really
Speaker 3: learned to appreciate that. But I think when he moved
Speaker 3: in it was the right time. I was ready to
Speaker 3: share my space again. And I love it.
Speaker 1: Like, there's so much fun in our apartment. We have
Speaker 1: so much fun.
Speaker 3: We're constantly laughing and singing, and yeah, I'm so happy.
Speaker 2: What do you love most then about living together?
Speaker 3: I think I just love the companionship and the fact
Speaker 3: that we have such similar interests, so you know, we're
Speaker 3: both quite active people, so we're constantly going for walks,
Speaker 3: we're going to the gym or do you.
Speaker 2: Have any regrets sofar.
Speaker 3: No, I'm like beyond happy. I think it was a
Speaker 3: right move for sure. You know, we've talked about the
Speaker 3: fact that we'll probably live there for a year and
Speaker 3: then we might buy a house together, so I mean, yeah,
Speaker 3: we're looking into the future. There's no red flags.
Speaker 2: When he first moved in. Did you lay down the
Speaker 2: law the rules of the house apparent to Michael.
Speaker 3: No, I don't think I need it to like, I
Speaker 3: think it was just normal. It's not like he had
Speaker 3: just been coming over every so often, Like essentially, he
Speaker 3: was already basically living with me. So he takes out
Speaker 3: the bins, he cleans the work surfaces, the things that
Speaker 3: I don't like to do, and I love to cook.
Speaker 3: So you know, it works really well, it's really harmonious.
Speaker 2: So you split the chores fifty to fifty. Do you
Speaker 2: split the bills fifty to fifty?
Speaker 1: Yeah, everything's fifty to fifty.
Speaker 2: Nice. It sounds like you guys have a really good
Speaker 2: setup there.
Speaker 1: You got it all.
Speaker 2: It's exciting to see. All right, So I'm so happy
Speaker 2: for you and Michael. It looks like you guys are
Speaker 2: enjoying each other's company and living together. It's really hard
Speaker 2: when to decide to move in with your partner. So
Speaker 2: let's dive into that now.
Speaker 3: Okay, Matt, let's talk about when the right time to
Speaker 3: move in with your partner is. This is highly debated.
Speaker 3: I know that a lot of people will be sitting
Speaker 3: at home thinking Anna moved in with her boyfriend way
Speaker 3: too soon.
Speaker 1: When is the right time to move in?
Speaker 2: All right? So I think it really depends on the
Speaker 2: couple at some points, Like it could be too earlier,
Speaker 2: It couldn't be in your situation or my situation. Like
Speaker 2: who wants he paying two rents exactly?
Speaker 1: That is such a good point.
Speaker 2: I mean, like I stay at Gen's literally pretty much
Speaker 2: every night, to the point where I didn't go home
Speaker 2: for two months. I didn't stay in my bed for
Speaker 2: two months, and I paid rent for literally just to
Speaker 2: store my clothes and have a shower every now and
Speaker 2: then at my house.
Speaker 1: Yeah, how annoying is that?
Speaker 2: I know I was paying the bills, and I was
Speaker 2: just like, fuck, I haven't even contributed to.
Speaker 1: These yeah, someone else could be saying that bed.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know exactly. So people recommend a year, but
Speaker 2: that's a long time at this age to be going
Speaker 2: back and forth.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think that's so true, Like it's age dependent.
Speaker 3: I think if you're in your early twenties and you
Speaker 3: have a partner and things are going really well and
Speaker 3: you both really want to you also have to remember
Speaker 3: that personal growth is still going on, like you're still
Speaker 3: coming in to yourself, you're still becoming the best version
Speaker 3: of you. There's still a lot of independent growth that
Speaker 3: needs to happen. But I think as you get older,
Speaker 3: like twenty five plus and heading into your thirties, which
Speaker 3: we both are, I think if you know, you just.
Speaker 2: Know right exactly. I mean, I feel sorry for a
Speaker 2: girl if she moved in with me at twenty two.
Speaker 2: I had no idea what fucking spraying ripe was at
Speaker 2: that point, I would mean an asleep pig.
Speaker 3: But it's true like sometimes maybe like you needed to
Speaker 3: live with the boys so you could see how much
Speaker 3: of a big side the house can get, and.
Speaker 1: Then you're like, actually, I don't want to live in
Speaker 1: a shit had.
Speaker 2: I don't want to live like this anymore. I don't
Speaker 2: want to live with dirty plates.
Speaker 1: And then when you have a girlfriend that you move
Speaker 1: in with, you're like you are a.
Speaker 2: Saft Wait, hang on, you can have a plate that
Speaker 2: doesn't have last night's dinner. Wait what you're like?
Speaker 1: What a blessed life?
Speaker 3: I lead?
Speaker 2: All right, Well, the signs that you're ready to move
Speaker 2: in with your partner, I think are that you can
Speaker 2: agree on a house and a budget. Yeah, Like, there's
Speaker 2: no point going to like and you guys can't agree
Speaker 2: on what suburb even or what like budget of where
Speaker 2: you want to be.
Speaker 1: You have to be on the same page, right, yeah.
Speaker 2: Exactly, or else from the start you're not even like
Speaker 2: you should not worth moving in together because one person
Speaker 2: is going to be angry. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I think also, like you have to really talk about
Speaker 3: finances before you move in, Like, are we going to
Speaker 3: be splitting this fifty to fifty? Is someone going to
Speaker 3: be paying a bit more? Is someone going to be
Speaker 3: paying more for bills or whatever it might be. I
Speaker 3: guess every couple has their own kind of grooven way
Speaker 3: of doing things and that definitely needs to be discussed
Speaker 3: before taking that leap.
Speaker 2: I reckon they should have a trial run with each other,
Speaker 2: if it beans staying at one's person's house a little
Speaker 2: bit longer, for a couple more nights to adapt to.
Speaker 2: Like we said before, the red flags like if they're messy,
Speaker 2: if they're on hygienias, if they just they don't want
Speaker 2: to do the same things at night as you do.
Speaker 2: You know that can even be a rift in living
Speaker 2: with someone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, speaking of trial run, I reckon the
Speaker 3: best trial run to know for sure if you want
Speaker 3: to live with your.
Speaker 1: Partner is going on a holiday.
Speaker 3: When you're on a holiday, like there is no getting
Speaker 3: rid of them, like you are together twenty four to seven.
Speaker 2: You do see the best and worst of your partners
Speaker 2: on a holiday.
Speaker 1: That Yeah, I think a holiday for sure.
Speaker 3: Like I definitely would never ever ever move in with
Speaker 3: someone unless I'd been on a holiday for at least
Speaker 3: a week.
Speaker 2: Here's a wild one. Actually, what happens when your sort
Speaker 2: of person in an argument wants to get away from
Speaker 2: their partner, like doesn't want to be around, so they
Speaker 2: have their own house to go back to and like
Speaker 2: reflect and then come good again. Imagine if that's your
Speaker 2: style and you're living with someone, There's nowhere to hide.
Speaker 2: There's nowhere to go, so you'd have to get used
Speaker 2: to that as well.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that's the thing is, unless your communication
Speaker 3: is hitting a ten out of ten, there's just no
Speaker 3: reason to be moving in with someone. And I think, yeah,
Speaker 3: just learning your partners communication style is always superma.
Speaker 2: That means like setting boundaries and expectations in that relationship
Speaker 2: and then hopefully they're meant when you live together.
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure.
Speaker 2: Also, this is this sounds a bit grim, but I think, God,
Speaker 2: I think I think you should have an exit strategy
Speaker 2: out of the house, so there's no out of the house.
Speaker 2: Not out of the house in a rush. But I mean,
Speaker 2: if things do turn belly up, you know where you're
Speaker 2: going to go next. You have somewhere to fall back on,
Speaker 2: or someone takes over the lease, one of them goes
Speaker 2: back to their parents, to the mate's house. Because look,
Speaker 2: there's nothing worse than those stories you hear when people
Speaker 2: break up and they're still living they have to try
Speaker 2: and sneak their next partner or their booty calls or
Speaker 2: their sneaky link into the house.
Speaker 1: No one actually does that.
Speaker 2: And I've heard it before. I'd stories yeah for your friends. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm not going to name anything, but I've definitely heard
Speaker 2: it before and it's it makes for a trials. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah.
Speaker 3: Like the thing is is, like I personally and I
Speaker 3: know that some people aren't as lucky to have this option.
Speaker 3: But if I was, you know, breaking up with a boyfriend,
Speaker 3: I just head straight back to my parents' house. Like
Speaker 3: I wouldn't even look like living with someone who I
Speaker 3: was broken up with.
Speaker 2: No, I think that'd be the most awkward, uncomfortable thing ever.
Speaker 2: I mean, you know me, I like to hang out
Speaker 2: friends with them afterwards, but I don't think I could
Speaker 2: actually live with them. That would be a bit much. Yeah.
Speaker 1: That actually is giving me a lot of anxiety.
Speaker 2: All right, So I've taken all these tips on board. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and I have something to actually share with you next.
Speaker 1: Oh wow.
Speaker 2: All right, Well I don't know if this is a
Speaker 2: coincidence or what, but Jen actually is moving into.
Speaker 1: Mine, into your house with your flatmate.
Speaker 2: Yeah this weekend start.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you guys are hold on, hold on.
Speaker 2: So yeah, So at the moment, I have me three
Speaker 2: mates and one of their girlfriends.
Speaker 3: And just to preface this, like this is a party
Speaker 3: household like Natt and his friends love to have a
Speaker 3: great time.
Speaker 2: Love fun.
Speaker 3: I've had a lot of great times there, Like, don't
Speaker 3: get me wrong, we love fun.
Speaker 1: Jen, your girlfriend is moving in there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so look, I think she's not really overly excited.
Speaker 3: About Okay, good, the truth is coming out.
Speaker 1: I like it.
Speaker 2: Just that her lease ends in a couple of I
Speaker 2: think next week, So we don't want to move into
Speaker 2: another house, but we want to move in together. So
Speaker 2: I have two months left of my lease. So I said, well,
Speaker 2: whyren't you just moving here for two months while we
Speaker 2: look for something. There's no rush that way, we can
Speaker 2: just ease in.
Speaker 3: And then you guys are going to start looking for
Speaker 3: your own play just you and her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just two of us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm so excited, just two of us.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy for you guys.
Speaker 2: It's exciting. And look, after all those tips, I think, yeah,
Speaker 2: it's the right thing to do. Move in with Jen.
Speaker 2: She's very clean, very hygienic.
Speaker 1: Like just kicking all the boxes, the.
Speaker 2: Perfect person to move into.
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I'm going to be really honest.
Speaker 3: I think this is going to be a huge relationship test.
Speaker 1: Her moving in with all the boys.
Speaker 2: Look, well, she works from home a lot as well.
Speaker 2: So right, she doesn't even have an office to set up.
Speaker 2: She's gonna have to like have her laptop at the
Speaker 2: end of my desk like my bed sort of thing.
Speaker 2: It's going to be very testing for Yeah, we'll see
Speaker 2: what happens.
Speaker 1: I mean, you guys are so in love.
Speaker 3: I don't doubt that you guys will make it through,
Speaker 3: but it will be.
Speaker 2: It's going to be. Like one of my concerns straight
Speaker 2: off the bat is she's not too crash hot on
Speaker 2: the level of.
Speaker 1: Cleaning cleanliness of the house.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that the boys and I do. For instance, one
Speaker 2: of them is our shared bathroom between me and my
Speaker 2: two mates.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So she asked me the other day, She's like, what's
Speaker 2: going on here? And I'm like, just hang it off?
Speaker 2: And she's like, Matt, hang what off? That tower cannot
Speaker 2: be hung off? And I literally peel it off the ground.
Speaker 2: It looks like this whole water starts gushing from it,
Speaker 2: ring it out in the shower and all this brown water.
Speaker 3: Go.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's safe to say that, Like, I think that
Speaker 2: there's gonna have to be some some.
Speaker 1: There's gonna have to be some big adjust it's a
Speaker 1: full boy's house.
Speaker 2: What can I say, it is.
Speaker 3: A full always house and like, you guys have to
Speaker 3: really step up your game in the name of Jen.
Speaker 1: You can't live like that.
Speaker 2: I've been sending some subtle text messages in the group
Speaker 2: convo saying, hey, boys, like I reckon, we could do this.
Speaker 2: You reckon, you ask or do this? You know, just
Speaker 2: ease into it before she moves in. Yeah, I reckon.
Speaker 2: They know what's going on as well.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, they'll be on their best behavior hopefully, and
Speaker 3: then you guys, hopefully will get through that time with
Speaker 3: flying colors. It'd be really great memories with lots of
Speaker 3: fun stories to tell.
Speaker 2: Yes, a lot.
Speaker 3: We'll recap it and then no more living with the boys, Matt,
Speaker 3: this is a big deal.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's been a fun year with the boys.
Speaker 2: I mean they got me through Lockdown with them. It
Speaker 2: was good fun every weekend. But Jen and I are
Speaker 2: looking at getting a two bedroom because we want to
Speaker 2: spare room for our sisters to stay in oh C
Speaker 2: as well as one wardrope won't fit both our clothes,
Speaker 2: so we need a second wardrope for all our clothes.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, lucky enough, Jen fully has furniture to deck out house,
Speaker 2: so that's good.
Speaker 1: Awesome.
Speaker 2: All I have to bring really is myself and a
Speaker 2: mattress for the spare room. Yeah, she's got everything that
Speaker 2: we need. We're looking in Oltwood, so hopefully we find
Speaker 2: somewhere nice in two months to move into nice.
Speaker 1: Are you guys looking to rent or by.
Speaker 2: We're definitely looking to rent at the moment. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: then hopefully we can break the lease in six months
Speaker 2: and buy. If everything's on plan.
Speaker 1: That's very exciting. I'm very happy for you.
Speaker 2: Hopefully. Saying it out loud on this platform is a
Speaker 2: bit like, Wow, that's serious. It's real serious. Now you
Speaker 2: know the talks are over.
Speaker 3: Okay, so Jen has all the green flags to move
Speaker 3: in with you guys are heading down that road. I'm
Speaker 3: very excited for you. Let's talk next about the red
Speaker 3: flags and.
Speaker 1: When not to move in with someone.
Speaker 3: There's actually a lot of times that it's a bad idea.
Speaker 3: Like I feel like, unless you're one hundred percent yes.
Speaker 1: It should be a no.
Speaker 2: If there's any bit of out in your brain, then
Speaker 2: it's a note, then it's a no. I reckon because
Speaker 2: that doubt can grow really quickly once you start to
Speaker 2: live with them and you see pet peeves or stuff
Speaker 2: that give you that can grow really quick.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and once something annoys you, and if you can't
Speaker 3: get over it, it just builds up and builds up
Speaker 3: and it becomes this huge problem.
Speaker 1: Then you don't want.
Speaker 2: That, all right, So I know for me, which at hindsight,
Speaker 2: I should have listened to him. My friends and family said,
Speaker 2: when I moved in with my ex, it was a bad.
Speaker 1: Idea, right, and you just didn't listen.
Speaker 2: I just didn't listen. Well, we were going into lockdown,
Speaker 2: and my mum sort of said, like, it's against the
Speaker 2: law to be going back and forth. You've got to
Speaker 2: pick one or the other. And I was like, well,
Speaker 2: look mom, at the end of the day, I'm not
Speaker 2: getting sex here. I'm gonna live. I'm going to live there,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. So I packed my girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Reason girl friend so packed a bag. I moved in
Speaker 2: with my ex.
Speaker 1: Ad time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, one of the worst ideas ever. I looked. I
Speaker 2: have a funny story. She said, Okay, there was a room.
Speaker 2: She goes, this room can be yours because she was
Speaker 2: actually moving into that apartment as well at the same time,
Speaker 2: so it just linked up perfectly. She said, Okay, you
Speaker 2: can have this room. This room can be yours. You
Speaker 2: can make it feel like your own.
Speaker 1: So it was a two bedroom apartment, bedroom apartment.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I was like, oh okay, So I just
Speaker 2: got this painting like completely me. It was like a wrestler.
Speaker 2: I was like, awesome, Like I love this painting, one
Speaker 2: of my favorite wrestlers. I put it up. I went
Speaker 2: out to do the grocery shop. I can't remember what
Speaker 2: I did. I came through the car park, drove past
Speaker 2: our storage compartment, and there it was. It was sitting
Speaker 2: there and I was just like interesting. When I asked,
Speaker 2: she's flat out, I said, doesn't match the aesthetics of
Speaker 2: my house and my room. And I was like your house.
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, we were living together, Okay. Apart
Speaker 2: from that, she literally moved everything out of that room
Speaker 2: that even was remotely mine. All I had was the wardrobe.
Speaker 2: That was the only space I had in that apartment
Speaker 2: that was my own.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I remember this story.
Speaker 2: It's all come back to me. So we had a
Speaker 2: massive one of our massive arguments, and I went and
Speaker 2: sat in that room and I was like, I was
Speaker 2: like this just I can't like, this doesn't feel like
Speaker 2: I don't feel well here, Like I couldn't leave because
Speaker 2: there was a curfew. I was like, I can't leave,
Speaker 2: Like I don't feel like anything's mine here. I feel
Speaker 2: really out of place. I literally opened the cupboard and
Speaker 2: I sat in that cupboard and cried, Oh.
Speaker 1: Man, that actually makes me really sad.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I had a real, like really grim time
Speaker 2: in that apartment. Now I should have listened to my
Speaker 2: friends and family and realized that it was not the
Speaker 2: right person to move in with. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean, sometimes your friends and family see things that
Speaker 3: you're not willing to see yet that even if they
Speaker 3: were to say it to you, you're just like, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: rose colored glasses only I can't see what you're saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can, Like, it's just to me, it seemed
Speaker 2: like a good idea, Like I'd never moved in with
Speaker 2: a partner. She was older, she was convincing, she was like,
Speaker 2: come my, having like a nice time work together during
Speaker 2: like this lockdown period.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, and there was some good times. Yeah, but
Speaker 3: obviously like that was the worst time.
Speaker 2: That was rock bottom. That was the worst.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: Another red flag I would say is when it's one sided.
Speaker 3: So when one person is pushing to move in and
Speaker 3: the other person's a bit like iffy.
Speaker 1: For instance, if I was.
Speaker 3: Like, hey, like let's move in together, and someone was unsure,
Speaker 3: I'd be like, I don't think this is a good idea.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, so I said I wanted to move
Speaker 2: in as well with someone and they were unsure, I'd
Speaker 2: be well, fuck, let's not move in. Then I don't
Speaker 2: want to move in with someone that's not a hundred
Speaker 2: committed to it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly right.
Speaker 3: I think if both parties aren't fully in, it's a
Speaker 3: bad idea.
Speaker 2: I agree, I agree a hundred percent. Another massive point
Speaker 2: is and I wish i'd I wish I'd learned this
Speaker 2: before I moved into my current living situation is if
Speaker 2: people's level of cleanliness is different.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so true.
Speaker 2: I mean there's different levels of cleanliness. I mean I
Speaker 2: usually get in trouble by my ex Kira for leaving,
Speaker 2: and I know you used to get in trouble as
Speaker 2: well when you stayed over.
Speaker 1: Is this the line glass?
Speaker 2: Yeah? If not leaving a bit of water in the
Speaker 2: bottom of even my monks, my tea munks, I would
Speaker 2: have to at night if we weren't putting them in the
Speaker 2: dishwasher yet to leave it a little bit of water
Speaker 2: in there.
Speaker 1: So it didn't stay in the.
Speaker 2: If I didn't do that, it was like the end
Speaker 2: of the world. I was like, these are from my
Speaker 2: key of these mugs.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and look, it's a good point if you're not
Speaker 3: on the same level, Like you have one person who's
Speaker 3: OCD about cleaning and one person who's super chill, you
Speaker 3: guys are going to get on each other's nerves.
Speaker 2: If you're the more clean one, I think maybe you
Speaker 2: need to realize that your partner isn't and maybe give
Speaker 2: them a bit of leeway and a bit of like compromise,
Speaker 2: be like, Okay, well I'm going to have to pick
Speaker 2: up that level of cleaning because that's not in their nature.
Speaker 2: Maybe discuss it and you see where it goes.
Speaker 1: But then does that build resentment?
Speaker 3: Like if I'm the person who's OCD and I'm here
Speaker 3: cleaning the whole house and picking up the slag, am
Speaker 3: I going to be like fuck this guy?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Maybe? And then I think that just comes down
Speaker 2: to communication. Yeah, say like, look, can you lift your weight?
Speaker 2: I've mopped and back him for the last four weeks. Yeah,
Speaker 2: you haven't even done this.
Speaker 3: And that brings us to our next red flag, which
Speaker 3: is compromise. If you can't compromise with your partner, do
Speaker 3: not move in.
Speaker 2: Look, compromise in a relationship is a fundamental to a
Speaker 2: healthy relationship. So if you can't compromise about the living situation,
Speaker 2: I don't think you're going to compromise about anything.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because like when you live with someone, it's not
Speaker 3: just living with them. There's like bills, and there's a
Speaker 3: million other things and schedule working out and the whole shebang.
Speaker 3: So if you can't do that, it's a no deal
Speaker 3: from us. Okay, Matt, that's all we have time for.
Speaker 3: I hope the guys are going to be on their
Speaker 3: best behavior when Jen moves in.
Speaker 1: Good luck for that one.
Speaker 2: I mean, if they're not, Jen is definitely going to
Speaker 2: pull them back into line. We all know that, and
Speaker 2: I think the boys know it as well. We'll see
Speaker 2: what happens there. Look, I hope everyone listens to these
Speaker 2: tips and they don't move in too quickly, because we've
Speaker 2: given you some really good points there.
Speaker 3: Or on the opposite end of the spectrum, if things
Speaker 3: are going really well, you're both on the same page,
Speaker 3: pull the band aid.
Speaker 1: Off and just sue it.
Speaker 3: Yes, okay, guys, until next time, Bye bye,