WEBVTT - HOLY SH*T HE MOVED IN... 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:02.680 I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming. 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:06.040 She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of 0:00:06.080 --> 0:00:07.880 my kissing style with. 0:00:08.240 --> 0:00:10.680 The boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:11.760 He's in a trash bin. 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:13.840 He's non recyclable. Catching member. 0:00:15.280 --> 0:00:19.000 I love being love, I love love. On today's episode, 0:00:19.079 --> 0:00:21.400 we are talking about when and if you should move 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:23.119 in with your partner and. 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:26.520 When we took the plunge in our current and previous relationships. 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:27.960 Stay tuned. 0:00:32.560 --> 0:00:35.000 Where's Your Head At is a podcast that talks all 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:40.440 things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between. 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:43.440 This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip, 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:45.800 intimate details, advice, and much more. 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:52.400 Matt, welcome back to season three. 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:55.560 It's very exciting, good to be back here. We get 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:57.800 straight into it. We had an amazing season two, so 0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:00.120 let's have an even better season three. 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:04.160 Yeah. We just hit half a million listens and we 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:08.959 are so proud, so shocked, so grateful for every single 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:12.200 person listening, and we are gonna make season three an 0:01:12.240 --> 0:01:14.959 absolute killer. I mean, I'm sure, thank you to everyone 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:17.920 who has given us a five star rating. As you know, 0:01:17.920 --> 0:01:20.920 we're a small podcast, but we are growing every single day, 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:22.160 and we appreciate all of you. 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:23.840 Let's jump in, all right. 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:28.520 So I was having my morning coffee this morning. Yeah, 0:01:28.800 --> 0:01:33.440 like always, soy latte. I was scrolling through the Daily Mail. 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:35.640 I love doing that, see what the gossips, see what's 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:39.000 going on. And I come across an article that reads 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:44.600 oh no, that reads Love Island star suffers a major 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:50.000 wardrobe malfunction at Melbourne Fashion Festival, Wait as her boobs 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:53.320 pop out in quotations of her dress in the front row. 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:56.640 Well, look as you know, because you were there. 0:01:56.840 --> 0:01:59.440 I was definitely there. I saw it. 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:04.080 That happened me, and that went to fashion week. It 0:02:04.160 --> 0:02:05.800 was a big week of fashion week. 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:09.639 This week, and my dress was not. 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:16.840 Structured well enough to hold the girls and front row. 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:21.080 My boobs did pop out. It was super embarrassing. I 0:02:21.120 --> 0:02:22.480 honestly couldn't believe it. 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:25.840 I mean, the whole show, and is saying to me, oh, 0:02:25.880 --> 0:02:27.600 I think it's gonna pop, It's gonna pop. I'm like, no, no, 0:02:27.720 --> 0:02:30.119 it's fine, No stress, Like, the girls look like they're 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:32.840 in there. Okay, you're fine, You're fine. She said it's 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:35.280 gonna it's gonna pop. It's gonna pop. Pretty sure when 0:02:35.320 --> 0:02:37.440 we were walking as well. You said, imagine for my 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:40.200 top bursts, and I was like, oh, yeah, no. 0:02:40.120 --> 0:02:41.760 My stylist Daniel said that. 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:44.240 Somebody said he said it. 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:45.040 He jinks to me. 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:48.239 So then she's like it's gonna happen. I'm like, no, no, 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:51.480 it's fine. I'm enjoying the fashion parade. I'm enjoying it, 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:54.960 loving it. And then I hear oh fuck. I'm like 0:02:55.120 --> 0:02:57.120 what And then I look across and it looks like 0:02:57.160 --> 0:02:59.519 she's seen a ghost. The guy across from me looks 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:03.640 like I seen and a maca voice hits the holies. 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:07.080 It's all going down. People are still walking, We're trying 0:03:07.080 --> 0:03:09.320 to find people are offering us bobby pins. You're trying 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:12.760 to look for a pin and make Jamie grabs a strap. 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:14.600 I don't even know what it was. He leaps to 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:17.800 the rescue, straps you in like a life vest. It 0:03:17.840 --> 0:03:20.000 was all happening in the front row while the fashion 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:20.840 show was still walking. 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:24.120 The thing is is like at the start, only me 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:26.480 and Natt knew what was going on because I was like, 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:30.960 oh fuck, and then Matt was like, oh my god. 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:33.160 And Matt's reaction was so big. 0:03:32.960 --> 0:03:37.920 Like oh that then everyone around us slowly started realizing 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:39.560 what had happened, and I feel like it was like 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:43.839 Chinese whispers, and people were asking for pins and how 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:45.640 to help out the situation. 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:47.600 Everyone was trying to help and lend to hang. 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:49.960 Girls that'd have to love a bobby pin across the catwalk. 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:53.240 Probably not, but. 0:03:53.280 --> 0:03:57.520 Look, I only think like maybe five people saw. 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:00.720 So you fully flashed the front row across from us my. 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.520 Left boom flash. Yeah. 0:04:03.560 --> 0:04:07.880 Anyway, fashion Week was amazing. We both brought Jen, Matt's girlfriend, 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:10.440 and Michael, my boyfriend. They came to fashion Week for 0:04:10.480 --> 0:04:12.280 the first time. How did Jen find it? 0:04:12.680 --> 0:04:14.880 Jen loved it. She loves fashion. She obviously works in 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:16.960 the industry at the head office for a fashion brand, 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:19.040 so she was loving it. She loved getting dressed up 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:21.360 for it. I do laugh because when we got there, 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:23.279 obviously with media walls and like they have to do 0:04:23.279 --> 0:04:26.560 all their content, Jen was a bit taken back by that. 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:28.680 She's not used to that sort of like that sort 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:30.560 of attention. I guess, so that's sort of like in 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:33.520 your face, so it's full on, full on, like the 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:36.560 five cameras taking photos. But look, she looked great in 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:37.800 the photos when they came out. 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:38.320 She did. 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:40.559 Yeah, so it was a good time. She really enjoyed 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:43.360 the night we saw the GQ one, so that was yeah, 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.440 that was really cool. Every time like a like an 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:49.159 attractive guy walked past, I was, well, you know this 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:52.080 was me I used to be on that cat or she. 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:55.400 Might be a bit attracted. Yeah, say yeah. 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:57.440 No, I definitely know she enjoyed it. I enjoyed it. 0:04:57.480 --> 0:04:58.200 How did Michael go? 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:01.000 Yeah, I think he kind I felt the same way, 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:04.479 like he loved it. But it was again, very overwhelming 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:06.880 when there's lots and lots of cameras. 0:05:06.920 --> 0:05:08.640 Like the thing for me and you was we were 0:05:08.680 --> 0:05:10.320 already models before all of this. 0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:13.279 We used to lots of photos being taken and I 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:17.719 think it's a very unique world to bring someone into. 0:05:18.279 --> 0:05:20.839 And yeah, I think he was overwhelmed it. As you said, 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:23.599 like Jen did amazing, Michael did amazing. 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:26.120 I was so proud to have him by my side. 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:26.919 So it was great. 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:28.280 He was a good handbag for you. 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:31.400 He's not a hand bag. Does that mean? 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:35.360 I don't know, he's a Chanel handbag. Let's put it 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:35.680 that way. 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:38.239 He's a boy bag, boy bag, Chanel boy bag. 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:41.240 On the topic of Michael, I hear that you and 0:05:41.279 --> 0:05:42.440 Michael have moved in. 0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:44.960 We're going to talk about that, Nat, let's. 0:05:44.800 --> 0:05:50.839 Get into it. So Anna, you posted on your Instagram 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:54.920 recently that you've decided to move in with Michael. Yeah, 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:56.800 why did you think that now it was the perfect 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:57.480 time to move in? 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.840 It's hard because I feel like me and Michael are 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:05.719 just so compatible. So literally, from like date one, we 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:09.320 were spending such an enormous amount of time together, and 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:12.920 then I think, like even two months into seeing him, 0:06:12.920 --> 0:06:15.840 we were spending four to five days a week, and 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:19.400 then he started sleeping over like six nights a week, 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:21.800 and so kind of got to the point where it 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:25.480 was like, well, he's basically living at my house. 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:26.520 Stop squatting and pay. 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:32.279 Rent, exactly what I was thinking. Yeah, So, I mean 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:35.000 we had kind of spoken about it. He was actually 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:37.160 the first one to bring it up. He just said, like, 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:41.240 would you like to live together? Because obviously, when you're 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:43.800 spending six days a week together, you kind of know 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:47.320 if it's working, if it's not, if it's. 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:49.360 Gonna last, or if there's some red flags there. 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:53.480 And I think because we meshed so well together and 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:55.680 because we lived so well together and things just. 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:57.559 Worked, it kind of made sense. 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:01.520 So I think it was four months into the relationship, 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:03.120 which some people would say is. 0:07:03.200 --> 0:07:05.479 Kind of soon. What do you think do you think 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:06.159 that's too soon? 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:07.600 No? I think that's fine. I didn't realize it was 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:09.520 four months. I thought you'd recently moved in. 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:14.400 Okay, So I posted on Instagram recently that he moved in, 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:14.960 But he. 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:17.240 Actually moved in after four months? 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:20.880 Okay, cool, I told Instagram after it was six months. 0:07:20.960 --> 0:07:23.080 So he'd already been living with me for two months 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:24.040 at that point. 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:28.040 Just you know, so you're not dropping that you've moved 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:32.200 in and then a couple of months later moving out. Backtrack, Okay, 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:33.800 that's what I was. I didn't even know he'd moved 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:36.520 in four months ago. I guess maybe I did. Yeah. 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:39.120 I don't know if I told you, because actually I 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:41.520 think I remember you being like congrats, and I was like, oh, really, 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:43.920 we've already been living yeah. 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:47.080 Yeah. So if you've spent then four months pretty much 0:07:47.120 --> 0:07:49.640 living together, you did have a clear understanding of what 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:52.360 it would be like to live together. Was there any 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:54.440 thing that you were a bit iffy on? Or he 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:57.680 has any quirks that he has to live with? He 0:07:57.680 --> 0:08:01.000 would have some say some stuff about your living style. 0:08:01.080 --> 0:08:03.600 But he's not here, so go ahead and row under 0:08:03.600 --> 0:08:03.960 the bus. 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:08.880 Look, me and Michael are very similar, so I think 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:11.840 any sort of like maybe issues that I might have 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.400 with him, he probably has them with me. Like we're 0:08:14.440 --> 0:08:18.400 not super proactive at cleaning the house, and I guess 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:21.960 now that there's double the amount of belongings and clothing 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:25.920 and stuff. Recently, we had like a small argument because 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:27.840 we were like, the house is too messy, and he's like, 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:29.560 I agree, the house is too messy. 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:31.560 And I was like, so we should clean it, and 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:32.320 he's like, I know. 0:08:33.080 --> 0:08:34.480 So neither of you are neat freak. 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:37.560 No, Like we're both not OCD in the cleaning department. 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:40.880 But I also like have a cleaner who comes in 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:43.280 once a month to just give the house like a 0:08:43.320 --> 0:08:45.120 deep clean to get rid of the dust. 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:49.559 And though don't get wrong, yeah, of course messy. 0:08:50.040 --> 0:08:53.360 I would prefer instead of hanging things up in the 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:55.880 wrong spot, I'd prefer to leave them in a bundle 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:59.760 or like in a mountain or pile or whatever you want. 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:00.199 To call it. 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:02.240 But yeah, I'd prefer to leave it until I have 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:04.760 time to properly organize things. And like, you know, my 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:08.000 wardrobe is color coordinated. I'm not messy, but like at 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:10.439 the same time, like we all have those things. 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:13.640 Now that he's moved in, has it changed anything about 0:09:13.679 --> 0:09:17.679 the dynamics of the house, Like obviously before it's your house, 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:20.560 he's coming to your house. Yeah, has anything changed now 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:22.240 is he? Like? No? 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:26.400 I think we just genuinely love spending time together. It 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:29.800 makes sense. It's kind of nice knowing that I get 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:32.280 to go to sleep with him every night. Like, it's 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:35.880 so funny because when I first moved in to my 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:40.160 apartment by myself, I never ever thought I would live alone. 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:43.199 And I got so used to that lifestyle and living 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:45.640 alone and I actually loved it. I never thought I 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:48.880 would love it, But I just genuinely loved having my 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:52.120 own space, being in my own company, and I really 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:54.440 learned to appreciate that. But I think when he moved 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.199 in it was the right time. I was ready to 0:09:56.240 --> 0:09:58.480 share my space again. And I love it. 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:01.400 Like, there's so much fun in our apartment. We have 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:02.200 so much fun. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:05.960 We're constantly laughing and singing, and yeah, I'm so happy. 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:07.800 What do you love most then about living together? 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:11.560 I think I just love the companionship and the fact 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.400 that we have such similar interests, so you know, we're 0:10:14.440 --> 0:10:18.720 both quite active people, so we're constantly going for walks, 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:20.600 we're going to the gym or do you. 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:22.000 Have any regrets sofar. 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:25.520 No, I'm like beyond happy. I think it was a 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:28.640 right move for sure. You know, we've talked about the 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.760 fact that we'll probably live there for a year and 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:34.080 then we might buy a house together, so I mean, yeah, 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:37.280 we're looking into the future. There's no red flags. 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:38.640 When he first moved in. Did you lay down the 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:43.359 law the rules of the house apparent to Michael. 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:45.320 No, I don't think I need it to like, I 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:49.080 think it was just normal. It's not like he had 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:53.560 just been coming over every so often, Like essentially, he 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:57.240 was already basically living with me. So he takes out 0:10:57.240 --> 0:11:00.480 the bins, he cleans the work surfaces, the things that 0:11:00.520 --> 0:11:03.080 I don't like to do, and I love to cook. 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:06.400 So you know, it works really well, it's really harmonious. 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:08.560 So you split the chores fifty to fifty. Do you 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:10.079 split the bills fifty to fifty? 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:11.640 Yeah, everything's fifty to fifty. 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:13.720 Nice. It sounds like you guys have a really good 0:11:13.760 --> 0:11:14.480 setup there. 0:11:14.720 --> 0:11:15.800 You got it all. 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:19.480 It's exciting to see. All right, So I'm so happy 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:21.199 for you and Michael. It looks like you guys are 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:24.679 enjoying each other's company and living together. It's really hard 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:27.160 when to decide to move in with your partner. So 0:11:27.200 --> 0:11:28.280 let's dive into that now. 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:35.360 Okay, Matt, let's talk about when the right time to 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:38.520 move in with your partner is. This is highly debated. 0:11:39.240 --> 0:11:41.000 I know that a lot of people will be sitting 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:44.800 at home thinking Anna moved in with her boyfriend way 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:45.320 too soon. 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:47.240 When is the right time to move in? 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:50.160 All right? So I think it really depends on the 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:52.760 couple at some points, Like it could be too earlier, 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:56.160 It couldn't be in your situation or my situation. Like 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:58.520 who wants he paying two rents exactly? 0:11:58.640 --> 0:11:59.800 That is such a good point. 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:03.000 I mean, like I stay at Gen's literally pretty much 0:12:03.040 --> 0:12:05.040 every night, to the point where I didn't go home 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:07.800 for two months. I didn't stay in my bed for 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:10.560 two months, and I paid rent for literally just to 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:12.360 store my clothes and have a shower every now and 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:13.040 then at my house. 0:12:13.200 --> 0:12:14.520 Yeah, how annoying is that? 0:12:14.600 --> 0:12:16.320 I know I was paying the bills, and I was 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:18.839 just like, fuck, I haven't even contributed to. 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:21.120 These yeah, someone else could be saying that bed. 0:12:21.240 --> 0:12:24.880 Yeah, I know exactly. So people recommend a year, but 0:12:25.400 --> 0:12:27.280 that's a long time at this age to be going 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:28.040 back and forth. 0:12:28.160 --> 0:12:31.320 Yeah, And I think that's so true, Like it's age dependent. 0:12:31.480 --> 0:12:33.800 I think if you're in your early twenties and you 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:36.080 have a partner and things are going really well and 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:39.360 you both really want to you also have to remember 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:42.720 that personal growth is still going on, like you're still 0:12:42.720 --> 0:12:46.840 coming in to yourself, you're still becoming the best version 0:12:46.880 --> 0:12:49.640 of you. There's still a lot of independent growth that 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:52.160 needs to happen. But I think as you get older, 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:55.320 like twenty five plus and heading into your thirties, which 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.120 we both are, I think if you know, you just. 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.719 Know right exactly. I mean, I feel sorry for a 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:02.560 girl if she moved in with me at twenty two. 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:05.240 I had no idea what fucking spraying ripe was at 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:08.400 that point, I would mean an asleep pig. 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.680 But it's true like sometimes maybe like you needed to 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:14.160 live with the boys so you could see how much 0:13:14.160 --> 0:13:16.800 of a big side the house can get, and. 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:18.880 Then you're like, actually, I don't want to live in 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:19.480 a shit had. 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.280 I don't want to live like this anymore. I don't 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:22.840 want to live with dirty plates. 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.560 And then when you have a girlfriend that you move 0:13:24.600 --> 0:13:26.160 in with, you're like you are a. 0:13:26.240 --> 0:13:29.360 Saft Wait, hang on, you can have a plate that 0:13:29.400 --> 0:13:33.160 doesn't have last night's dinner. Wait what you're like? 0:13:33.240 --> 0:13:34.280 What a blessed life? 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:34.880 I lead? 0:13:35.720 --> 0:13:37.520 All right, Well, the signs that you're ready to move 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:39.880 in with your partner, I think are that you can 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:43.000 agree on a house and a budget. Yeah, Like, there's 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:45.600 no point going to like and you guys can't agree 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:48.160 on what suburb even or what like budget of where 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:48.520 you want to be. 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:51.440 You have to be on the same page, right, yeah. 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:54.120 Exactly, or else from the start you're not even like 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:56.079 you should not worth moving in together because one person 0:13:56.120 --> 0:13:57.200 is going to be angry. Yeah. 0:13:57.280 --> 0:14:00.480 I think also, like you have to really talk about 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:03.360 finances before you move in, Like, are we going to 0:14:03.360 --> 0:14:05.440 be splitting this fifty to fifty? Is someone going to 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:07.079 be paying a bit more? Is someone going to be 0:14:07.120 --> 0:14:10.160 paying more for bills or whatever it might be. I 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:13.920 guess every couple has their own kind of grooven way 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:17.280 of doing things and that definitely needs to be discussed 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:18.440 before taking that leap. 0:14:18.600 --> 0:14:20.560 I reckon they should have a trial run with each other, 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:23.280 if it beans staying at one's person's house a little 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:26.720 bit longer, for a couple more nights to adapt to. 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:29.320 Like we said before, the red flags like if they're messy, 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:33.000 if they're on hygienias, if they just they don't want 0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:34.360 to do the same things at night as you do. 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:36.480 You know that can even be a rift in living 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:36.960 with someone. 0:14:37.120 --> 0:14:40.800 Yeah, I mean, speaking of trial run, I reckon the 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:44.160 best trial run to know for sure if you want 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:44.880 to live with your. 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:48.520 Partner is going on a holiday. 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:50.840 When you're on a holiday, like there is no getting 0:14:50.920 --> 0:14:53.960 rid of them, like you are together twenty four to seven. 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:56.240 You do see the best and worst of your partners 0:14:56.240 --> 0:14:57.640 on a holiday. 0:14:57.880 --> 0:15:01.840 That Yeah, I think a holiday for sure. 0:15:02.040 --> 0:15:05.240 Like I definitely would never ever ever move in with 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:08.760 someone unless I'd been on a holiday for at least 0:15:08.800 --> 0:15:09.240 a week. 0:15:09.520 --> 0:15:12.480 Here's a wild one. Actually, what happens when your sort 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:15.520 of person in an argument wants to get away from 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:17.280 their partner, like doesn't want to be around, so they 0:15:17.280 --> 0:15:19.520 have their own house to go back to and like 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:22.560 reflect and then come good again. Imagine if that's your 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:24.920 style and you're living with someone, There's nowhere to hide. 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:26.520 There's nowhere to go, so you'd have to get used 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:27.280 to that as well. 0:15:27.480 --> 0:15:31.000 Yeah, I mean that's the thing is, unless your communication 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:35.160 is hitting a ten out of ten, there's just no 0:15:35.240 --> 0:15:38.000 reason to be moving in with someone. And I think, yeah, 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:41.160 just learning your partners communication style is always superma. 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:44.400 That means like setting boundaries and expectations in that relationship 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:46.360 and then hopefully they're meant when you live together. 0:15:46.560 --> 0:15:47.520 Yeah for sure. 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:51.680 Also, this is this sounds a bit grim, but I think, God, 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:55.360 I think I think you should have an exit strategy 0:15:55.440 --> 0:15:57.840 out of the house, so there's no out of the house. 0:15:58.200 --> 0:15:59.960 Not out of the house in a rush. But I mean, 0:16:00.200 --> 0:16:03.160 if things do turn belly up, you know where you're 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:05.120 going to go next. You have somewhere to fall back on, 0:16:05.320 --> 0:16:07.760 or someone takes over the lease, one of them goes 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:10.560 back to their parents, to the mate's house. Because look, 0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:13.360 there's nothing worse than those stories you hear when people 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:17.480 break up and they're still living they have to try 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:19.680 and sneak their next partner or their booty calls or 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:21.280 their sneaky link into the house. 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:22.880 No one actually does that. 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:27.840 And I've heard it before. I'd stories yeah for your friends. Yeah, 0:16:28.280 --> 0:16:30.360 I'm not going to name anything, but I've definitely heard 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:33.880 it before and it's it makes for a trials. Yeah. 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:34.800 Oh yeah. 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:37.920 Like the thing is is, like I personally and I 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:41.560 know that some people aren't as lucky to have this option. 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:44.800 But if I was, you know, breaking up with a boyfriend, 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:47.000 I just head straight back to my parents' house. Like 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:49.560 I wouldn't even look like living with someone who I 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:50.360 was broken up with. 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:53.440 No, I think that'd be the most awkward, uncomfortable thing ever. 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:55.440 I mean, you know me, I like to hang out 0:16:55.440 --> 0:16:58.440 friends with them afterwards, but I don't think I could 0:16:58.480 --> 0:17:01.200 actually live with them. That would be a bit much. Yeah. 0:17:01.320 --> 0:17:03.760 That actually is giving me a lot of anxiety. 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:06.880 All right, So I've taken all these tips on board. Yeah, 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:08.800 and I have something to actually share with you next. 0:17:08.960 --> 0:17:09.399 Oh wow. 0:17:13.119 --> 0:17:14.520 All right, Well I don't know if this is a 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:18.720 coincidence or what, but Jen actually is moving into. 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:22.000 Mine, into your house with your flatmate. 0:17:22.240 --> 0:17:24.880 Yeah this weekend start. 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:28.320 Yeah, so you guys are hold on, hold on. 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:33.280 So yeah, So at the moment, I have me three 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:34.719 mates and one of their girlfriends. 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.920 And just to preface this, like this is a party 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:42.919 household like Natt and his friends love to have a 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:43.840 great time. 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:44.560 Love fun. 0:17:45.000 --> 0:17:47.160 I've had a lot of great times there, Like, don't 0:17:47.160 --> 0:17:48.600 get me wrong, we love fun. 0:17:48.920 --> 0:17:50.880 Jen, your girlfriend is moving in there. 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:55.560 Yeah, so look, I think she's not really overly excited. 0:17:55.040 --> 0:17:59.000 About Okay, good, the truth is coming out. 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:00.040 I like it. 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:03.879 Just that her lease ends in a couple of I 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:06.840 think next week, So we don't want to move into 0:18:06.880 --> 0:18:08.960 another house, but we want to move in together. So 0:18:09.119 --> 0:18:13.199