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Speaker 1: Apogae Production. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast. I'm Ashy

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Speaker 1: and I'm Siana.

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Speaker 2: This podcast is about female empowerment and encouraging you to

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Speaker 2: be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic version of yourself.

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Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh and cry and talk about the topics

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Speaker 1: everyone else is too afraid to talk about.

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Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level of self.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, Welcome back to she Rises. Back in your

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Speaker 1: ear on a fresh Monday morning, if you're on your

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Speaker 1: way to work or you going for a walk, bucklin,

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Speaker 1: We've got a full life update everything that's been going down,

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Speaker 1: because let me tell you, twenty twenty five, you've been

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Speaker 1: a lot. I almost want like a restart button, honestly, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: can I go back? Yeah? Seriously, Like you know, at

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Speaker 1: the start of the year, New Year, fresh meat, it's

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Speaker 1: gonna be amazing. It's my year. Holy shit, A lot's

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Speaker 1: been happening. So today we're gonna be talking all about it.

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Speaker 1: But Monday always Share of the week. What have you

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Speaker 1: got for us this week? Tea?

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Speaker 2: My Share of the Week this week is honestly like

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Speaker 2: a shameless plug hideaway Vanilla Delight perfume. It is my

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Speaker 2: favorite scent. And I was telling Ashley this earlier today.

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Speaker 2: I could never wear perfumes, like I haven't worn proper

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Speaker 2: perfumes in maybe like five years or something like that,

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Speaker 2: because they're so strong that they give me a headache,

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Speaker 2: and whether it's the chemic or whatever it is, it

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Speaker 2: just gives me a raging headache. And so I stopped

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Speaker 2: wearing perfumes for a few years, and then you introduced

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Speaker 2: me to Hideaways ones and I was just like, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, I'm obsessed because they don't give me a

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Speaker 2: headache and it's the best.

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Speaker 1: I remember when I actually gave you something like oh

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Speaker 1: I can't wear perfume and give me a headache. It

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Speaker 1: was like fair enough, and then you started to worry,

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Speaker 1: like I don't have a headache. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I was like, that's so good. I'm so excited because

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Speaker 2: I loved wearing perfume. But Vanilla Delight is my favorite

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Speaker 1: It's crazy because Black Essence has been the number one

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Speaker 1: sellar for over a year now since launch, which is

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Speaker 1: the dupe of the why I cell black Opium and

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Speaker 1: Vanilla Delight is now the number one. It's probably one

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Speaker 1: of my favorites. That and then Pedal Dreams, which is

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Speaker 1: a duup of birbery for her yeap whatever. Magsie wears

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Speaker 1: that she's so sexy, and every time she wears and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, I just want to like

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Speaker 1: hold you and smell you.

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Speaker 2: You actually prayed that yesterday and I was like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I forget that I have that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really nice. And you've got that at home,

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Speaker 1: that backera roofe. I do. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So it just sits and collects dust on my bench.

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Speaker 2: It's really cute esthetically, it's cute. Gives me a raging headache.

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Speaker 2: I know when I first bought it, it's about six

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Speaker 2: hundred dollars. Bottle of perfect clows my mind kicks hundred dollars, right.

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Speaker 2: I've sprayed it maybe three or four times. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: I know going into dinner or something like that, I'm

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Speaker 1: Six hundred dollars. No one wants to buy six hundred

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Speaker 1: dollars for a perfect okay, gosh, no, not when you

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Speaker 1: it smells pretty much an end too. It's crazy, It's insane.

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Speaker 1: Mine is something that we were just talking to our

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Speaker 1: she was saying she heard this from someone else, she

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Speaker 1: was basically talking about how we talked to ourselves. And

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Speaker 1: she said, imagine if you were in a room with

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Speaker 1: your biggest bully. So for me, be like my biggest troll,

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Speaker 1: shaming myself, telling myself I looked ugly. You know, the

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Speaker 1: troll does that to me. But if you're constantly putting

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Speaker 1: yourself down and doing that, you literally have to be

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Speaker 1: with yourself all the time. You're in a room with

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Speaker 1: a bully. But if you do that to yourself, you're

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Speaker 1: with your bully all the time. But imagine doing it

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Speaker 1: and how much they lift you up and they compliment

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Speaker 1: kind of person that you want to be for yourself.

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Speaker 1: Stop being a fucking bully to yourself for telling yourself

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Speaker 1: You would not do that to your best friend. You like,

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Speaker 1: there are you doing that to yourself? Yeah? And do

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Speaker 1: think that makes you feel better? Does it create change? No?

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Speaker 1: It does nothing but make you feel like a piece

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't need to punish yourself, not like you

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Speaker 2: don't for whatever reason. Even if you think that you do,

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Speaker 2: you don't, and it doesn't benefit you. But what will

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Speaker 2: benefit you is treating yourself like you would treat your

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Speaker 2: best friend. Yeah, I re respect Yeah, highness compassioneldred percent.

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Speaker 2: So that's my little share of the week because and

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Speaker 2: she said that, I was like, Wow, I've never pictured

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Speaker 2: myself being in a room with my troll for the

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Speaker 2: rest of my life. Oh but if I speak to

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Speaker 2: myself like shit, that's exactly what I'm doing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I would never want to go and hang out

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Speaker 1: me and bring me down. Never yet, if you would

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Speaker 1: do that to yourself, you're trolling yourself. Thank you, No way,

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Speaker 1: not up in here. Love yourself sick you're amazing. Alrighty,

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Speaker 1: So today, yeah, we're just gonna have a big life

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Speaker 1: catch up update. We just had our second in person

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Speaker 1: live event, which was honestly insane. However, it was a

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Speaker 1: really difficult day for you as well. Yeah, I already

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Speaker 1: feel emotional. Yeah, it was. It was a big date.

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Speaker 1: It was such a conflicting day, you know.

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Speaker 2: It was so beautiful, but like, as you know, like

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Speaker 2: one of my high school best friends, Lucy, because she

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Speaker 2: was going through brain surgery and her heartner was updating

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Speaker 2: us on her social media basically just keeping us updated

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Speaker 2: around what's happening. And I remember looking at my phone

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Speaker 1: To you, like, he posted that she had passed.

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Speaker 2: And it's just one of those things where like you

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Speaker 2: just don't ever expect it to be someone that you

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Speaker 2: know or like, you know, you hear of death all

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Speaker 2: of it unless it's someone that you really know and love.

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Speaker 2: we were in that time of my life, and then

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Speaker 2: Through that day, I really just had to like hold strong,

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Speaker 2: need to show up for myself, for you, for all

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Speaker 2: the things that they say that they're going to do,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And we're actually very capable of holding multiple emotions,

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Speaker 1: crazy from moment to moment. That's great. It can hear

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Speaker 1: that more trigging that I was there in that beautiful

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like you and I both have been

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Speaker 2: it's like we're both holding each other in it all.

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Speaker 2: to come up, because that's how you actually process through

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Speaker 2: it exactly. Whatever exists in the moment. If you're happy,

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Speaker 2: be fucking happy. If you're sad, be fucking sad for

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Speaker 2: and you will help you process through it so much quicker.

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Speaker 1: If you try and push aside and block and not

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Speaker 1: allow all of those emotions to come through. It will

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Speaker 1: come through, and it'll explode one day. It'll just build

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Speaker 1: up and build up and build up. You're like a

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Speaker 1: you'll explode. And it could come out in anxiousness, like anxiety.

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Speaker 1: It could come out in anger, could come out in resentment.

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Speaker 1: not being able to concentrate, just feeling on edge all

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Speaker 1: body that it's okay, and it is okay all the

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Speaker 1: emotions are. But also Lucy passing it made me really

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Speaker 1: grateful for my surgeries being okay because she died of

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Speaker 1: a brain aneurysm and it's the exact brain aneurysm that

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Speaker 1: my husband Steve had, and is so lucky that he Oh, sorry,

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Speaker 1: babe's take a moment.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, Like I don't even think I really shared this

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Speaker 2: a lot with you, but like from an aneurism just

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Speaker 2: brought up a lot of stuff around, like like holding

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Speaker 2: you through your surgeries and like being fearful that something

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Speaker 2: that your surgeries went well and then I was able

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Speaker 2: to be there for you. But fuck, Babey, I honestly

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Speaker 1: So I know, it's like my body is like.

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Speaker 2: Just adjusting to maybe stress or just changes in the

428
00:18:46,521 --> 00:18:48,600
Speaker 2: environment or food or things like that.

429
00:18:48,681 --> 00:18:50,801
Speaker 1: Even I was trying to sink up. Maybe Yeah, you

430
00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:52,801
Speaker 1: hang around someone quite a lot, your bodies sync up.

431
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Speaker 1: We haven't sined Yet'm suppright, it hasn't happened, So I

432
00:18:56,120 --> 00:18:58,080
Speaker 1: don't know what's happening there. I think we're both adapting

433
00:18:58,120 --> 00:19:00,961
Speaker 1: to stress, and we definitely are not getting enough sleep.

434
00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:03,160
Speaker 1: And yeah, look we're a little bit guilty of this.

435
00:19:03,281 --> 00:19:06,281
Speaker 1: We're working at night time, getting a start, having little

436
00:19:06,281 --> 00:19:09,961
Speaker 1: scroll saving sounds, editing content, planning OUVS. Planning what we've

437
00:19:10,001 --> 00:19:12,161
Speaker 1: got coming up for she rises. There's just not enough

438
00:19:12,160 --> 00:19:13,681
Speaker 1: hours in the day for what we want to do.

439
00:19:14,080 --> 00:19:15,960
Speaker 1: So it's like now before bed we have like this

440
00:19:16,001 --> 00:19:19,360
Speaker 1: little period where we're both doing stuff or whatever we're doing.

441
00:19:19,521 --> 00:19:22,281
Speaker 1: And the other night we like were voice messaging and

442
00:19:22,321 --> 00:19:23,601
Speaker 1: then I was like, fuck it, I'll just call you.

443
00:19:24,120 --> 00:19:27,721
Speaker 1: And we're like on FaceTime, sometimes not even talking, but

444
00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:30,561
Speaker 1: both searching things. And then we'ld take a screenshot something

445
00:19:30,561 --> 00:19:33,201
Speaker 1: in our faces. It's just like the worst angle, so funny.

446
00:19:33,241 --> 00:19:34,920
Speaker 1: It's like double chins and we're not gonna be in

447
00:19:34,921 --> 00:19:35,321
Speaker 1: bed together.

448
00:19:35,360 --> 00:19:37,921
Speaker 2: We just have to call it yeah honestly, And sometimes

449
00:19:37,921 --> 00:19:40,441
Speaker 2: we're lying there on phone together and we're like, why

450
00:19:40,441 --> 00:19:43,281
Speaker 2: don't I just come over? I just sleep over? Fuck it, Like,

451
00:19:43,360 --> 00:19:46,561
Speaker 2: let's just do this together. So funny, it is so fun.

452
00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:48,561
Speaker 2: But we're off to Bali, which is very exciting.

453
00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:51,120
Speaker 1: We can't wait. It's us too and make and we've

454
00:19:51,120 --> 00:19:54,600
Speaker 1: just got a whole itinery of massages and eating at

455
00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:58,001
Speaker 1: cafes and going to beach clubs and riding on the scooters.

456
00:19:58,160 --> 00:19:59,281
Speaker 1: Should see our itinery.

457
00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:01,880
Speaker 2: It is next levelor hang out all the gym and

458
00:20:01,921 --> 00:20:04,081
Speaker 2: the cool thing is like Ash and I've both been

459
00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:07,241
Speaker 2: many times before. We love Bali, but Meg has never

460
00:20:07,281 --> 00:20:09,241
Speaker 2: been before, so it's going to be your first time

461
00:20:09,321 --> 00:20:12,041
Speaker 2: experience for her and I know we are both so

462
00:20:12,201 --> 00:20:14,521
Speaker 2: excited to show her the ropes because it's a whole

463
00:20:14,561 --> 00:20:16,841
Speaker 2: different experience when you go somewhere for the first time.

464
00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:17,960
Speaker 1: Oh, you got to figure it all out.

465
00:20:18,041 --> 00:20:20,401
Speaker 2: You've got to figure it all out. You don't know anyone,

466
00:20:20,441 --> 00:20:21,921
Speaker 2: you don't know where to go. You don't know where

467
00:20:21,921 --> 00:20:25,281
Speaker 2: the locals go, whereas with us we've kind of seasoned in. Yes,

468
00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,041
Speaker 2: so we can show her all the ropes, and her

469
00:20:27,120 --> 00:20:29,761
Speaker 2: first experience is going to the next level.

470
00:20:29,801 --> 00:20:33,041
Speaker 1: It's going to be so good. I am packing that traveland,

471
00:20:33,041 --> 00:20:35,481
Speaker 1: which is like a tablet you can take before you eat. Yeah,

472
00:20:35,521 --> 00:20:37,640
Speaker 1: just a line of stomach because we're on probotics at

473
00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:39,801
Speaker 1: the moment. I know if she is, but like gut

474
00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 1: health powders, but I think you can really prevent bali belly.

475
00:20:43,001 --> 00:20:44,400
Speaker 1: I think so. She's really worried about it, but I

476
00:20:44,441 --> 00:20:45,161
Speaker 1: think she'd be good.

477
00:20:45,321 --> 00:20:47,761
Speaker 2: And also so just being mindful of where you're eating, eat,

478
00:20:48,041 --> 00:20:49,681
Speaker 2: the water, even swimming.

479
00:20:49,321 --> 00:20:52,641
Speaker 1: With your head underwater. Yes, so true. Just don't do that.

480
00:20:52,961 --> 00:20:55,640
Speaker 1: Just don't do that. I would love for you to

481
00:20:55,640 --> 00:20:59,161
Speaker 1: give us a little rundown of your psychic that you saw,

482
00:20:59,561 --> 00:21:01,280
Speaker 1: which I looked in for the end of month with

483
00:21:01,360 --> 00:21:03,521
Speaker 1: the same girl. Oh my god, Yes, it's about her.

484
00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:06,760
Speaker 1: She is incredible, such a cool experience. So why did

485
00:21:06,801 --> 00:21:08,640
Speaker 1: you go to the psychic? Is that a better question

486
00:21:08,681 --> 00:21:09,001
Speaker 1: to ask?

487
00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:11,441
Speaker 2: Danny for asking that question, because you know I'm gonna

488
00:21:11,721 --> 00:21:14,360
Speaker 2: I'm gonna beat around the bushy up. All right, you

489
00:21:14,360 --> 00:21:18,041
Speaker 2: guys ready for a truth bumb So, I feel like

490
00:21:18,120 --> 00:21:20,561
Speaker 2: I wasn't fully over my ex before I had my

491
00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:24,321
Speaker 2: recent partner, and I really struggled letting go of that

492
00:21:24,360 --> 00:21:26,561
Speaker 2: relationship because I was just so in love and I

493
00:21:26,681 --> 00:21:29,280
Speaker 2: just the future vision that I projected for us and

494
00:21:29,281 --> 00:21:30,640
Speaker 2: what I thought that we were going to have was

495
00:21:30,681 --> 00:21:32,921
Speaker 2: so strong in my mind that even now I even

496
00:21:33,001 --> 00:21:35,761
Speaker 2: question and struggle with that, you know, as you do

497
00:21:35,801 --> 00:21:39,160
Speaker 2: when you really love someone. And I was feeling confused,

498
00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:41,241
Speaker 2: and I was just like, fuck, like, please just give

499
00:21:41,241 --> 00:21:44,401
Speaker 2: me a sign, like these feelings are coming up. I'm

500
00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 2: no longer in a relationship now, so I'm not distracted anymore,

501
00:21:47,120 --> 00:21:49,921
Speaker 2: and all of this like sadness and grief and also

502
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 2: love is coming forward. I'm like, what do I do?

503
00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:54,761
Speaker 1: Do I act on it? Do I leave it? Does

504
00:21:54,761 --> 00:21:55,761
Speaker 1: this mean something?

505
00:21:56,001 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 2: Or is this just me processing the grief that I

506
00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:01,080
Speaker 2: didn't give myself time to grief before. And so I

507
00:22:01,120 --> 00:22:02,400
Speaker 2: was like, fuck it, I'm going to book with a

508
00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:04,481
Speaker 2: psychic it.

509
00:22:05,041 --> 00:22:08,001
Speaker 1: I well recommend one too from like your family. Oh, Like, my.

510
00:22:08,041 --> 00:22:10,801
Speaker 2: Sisters been going to her for years and she's just

511
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:14,001
Speaker 2: an incredible humor. She's very honest, very direct, doesn't beat

512
00:22:14,001 --> 00:22:16,521
Speaker 2: around the bush, no fluff, like she will tell you straight.

513
00:22:17,241 --> 00:22:19,880
Speaker 2: She basically just said to me, like, leave what's in

514
00:22:19,921 --> 00:22:22,200
Speaker 2: the past in the past, like this isn't meant to

515
00:22:22,201 --> 00:22:26,240
Speaker 2: come with you, and trust that to remind myself that,

516
00:22:26,321 --> 00:22:28,161
Speaker 2: like when I feel like something is off, it's off

517
00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:30,361
Speaker 2: for a reason and I can trust like my intuition

518
00:22:30,481 --> 00:22:32,920
Speaker 2: is telling me correctly and anyway.

519
00:22:33,001 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 1: So that all aside.

520
00:22:34,281 --> 00:22:36,360
Speaker 2: Got clarity on that, got clarity on a couple of

521
00:22:36,360 --> 00:22:37,681
Speaker 2: other people in my life.

522
00:22:37,961 --> 00:22:41,641
Speaker 1: What does she say about the boys though? That's kind

523
00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,081
Speaker 1: of brutal if you want to say it funny, yeah,

524
00:22:44,241 --> 00:22:48,281
Speaker 1: she would, which I was like, this is exactly what

525
00:22:48,321 --> 00:22:50,360
Speaker 1: you need to know. Yeah, other in advance, basically what

526
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:50,761
Speaker 1: she said.

527
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Speaker 2: But she was like, you know, they might have been

528
00:22:52,921 --> 00:22:55,241
Speaker 2: a good route, but you know, there's no substance. You

529
00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:57,241
Speaker 2: end up being in a relationship for the next seven

530
00:22:57,321 --> 00:22:59,881
Speaker 2: years and wondering, holy fuck, like why did I make

531
00:22:59,961 --> 00:23:00,640
Speaker 2: this decision?

532
00:23:01,041 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 1: You know?

533
00:23:01,281 --> 00:23:03,761
Speaker 2: And she's like, it's not about that, Like, yes, sex

534
00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,281
Speaker 2: is all great and well, but you're not just in

535
00:23:06,321 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 2: it for a good root And those were her words,

536
00:23:08,201 --> 00:23:09,680
Speaker 2: like she's like, you're not just in it for that.

537
00:23:09,721 --> 00:23:11,400
Speaker 1: You want substance. You need depth.

538
00:23:11,441 --> 00:23:13,640
Speaker 2: There's so much depth to you, and you're going to

539
00:23:13,721 --> 00:23:15,400
Speaker 2: need someone who's gonna be able to hold you in that.

540
00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:18,241
Speaker 2: So leave what's like in the past in the past

541
00:23:18,360 --> 00:23:20,561
Speaker 2: because they're meant to be there for a reason. You're

542
00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:23,920
Speaker 2: grateful that you had the experience with them. Now let

543
00:23:24,001 --> 00:23:27,161
Speaker 2: them go, like you won't be able to move forward

544
00:23:27,201 --> 00:23:29,120
Speaker 2: in your life until you're willing to let go of

545
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:31,120
Speaker 2: what's holding you in this exact place.

546
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Speaker 1: And I thought that was really cool. It was exactly

547
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,761
Speaker 1: what you needed to hear, because I think incruitively, you know,

548
00:23:36,120 --> 00:23:38,041
Speaker 1: I do. It's just what you needed to hear at

549
00:23:38,041 --> 00:23:40,961
Speaker 1: the right time from the right person. Yes, And I

550
00:23:41,001 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 1: think it's just like what we talk about. It's like

551
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 1: we can feel something, but it doesn't have to mean something.

552
00:23:45,561 --> 00:23:46,120
Speaker 1: Best sentence.

553
00:23:46,561 --> 00:23:48,321
Speaker 2: We say this to each other all the time when

554
00:23:48,321 --> 00:23:51,921
Speaker 2: we're going through shit, and it really is significant because

555
00:23:52,041 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 2: sometimes we feel, oh shit, I feel this now I

556
00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:56,281
Speaker 2: better act on it, or I need to make a

557
00:23:56,321 --> 00:23:59,681
Speaker 2: decision on this quick fast. But you're making decisions out

558
00:23:59,721 --> 00:24:05,041
Speaker 2: of like an irrational angie reaction actionary place. So it's like, Okay,

559
00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:06,640
Speaker 2: I can feel this but I don't have to do

560
00:24:06,681 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 2: anything with it. And that's been a huge part of

561
00:24:09,120 --> 00:24:09,521
Speaker 2: all this.

562
00:24:09,721 --> 00:24:11,921
Speaker 1: It's such a good sentence. I remember you first said

563
00:24:11,961 --> 00:24:13,400
Speaker 1: it to me when I was having an argument with

564
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:15,680
Speaker 1: Steve and I was just so annoyed. I was like, ah,

565
00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:17,440
Speaker 1: and I didn't want to say how I felt, but

566
00:24:17,441 --> 00:24:20,121
Speaker 1: I felt really angry and just like annoyed at him.

567
00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:21,521
Speaker 1: And you were like, you can feel all this and

568
00:24:21,521 --> 00:24:23,481
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to mean anything. Yeah, Like doesn't mean

569
00:24:23,481 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 1: you hate him, doesn't mean you want to leave him,

570
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:26,561
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you're off him or anything. You just

571
00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 1: feel really annoyed right now. And the next I was like,

572
00:24:28,921 --> 00:24:32,441
Speaker 1: I'm good, Yeah, I can love him. Yeah, thinking yeah,

573
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:36,160
Speaker 1: he's it was the best. But just once again, when

574
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,441
Speaker 1: you allow those emotions to be there, it then dissolves

575
00:24:38,441 --> 00:24:41,200
Speaker 1: a lot faster. Yeah, because if you shame how you're feeling,

576
00:24:41,321 --> 00:24:43,561
Speaker 1: or you try to lie to yourself that you don't

577
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:46,200
Speaker 1: feel like that, it just like stays there. Yeah I

578
00:24:46,201 --> 00:24:48,920
Speaker 1: can Ling's like a bad smell. Let it be there.

579
00:24:48,961 --> 00:24:51,161
Speaker 1: The next day you're like, oh, good, Especially.

580
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:52,761
Speaker 2: In the moments when you feel something and then you

581
00:24:52,801 --> 00:24:55,120
Speaker 2: act on the feeling. When you've calmed down, you're like,

582
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:56,441
Speaker 2: holy shit, what have I done?

583
00:24:57,681 --> 00:24:59,160
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I didn't mean to say that. Yeah, like,

584
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 1: how many times have you gone back to that? X?

585
00:25:00,721 --> 00:25:00,881
Speaker 2: Oh?

586
00:25:00,961 --> 00:25:05,681
Speaker 1: Fuck? I definitely act on emotion? And what else did

587
00:25:05,681 --> 00:25:08,321
Speaker 1: she say about career about life? Yeah?

588
00:25:08,360 --> 00:25:10,481
Speaker 2: So I asked her about direction in like what I'm

589
00:25:10,481 --> 00:25:12,440
Speaker 2: currently doing now, and I told her a little bit

590
00:25:12,481 --> 00:25:14,440
Speaker 2: about like the podcast and what we're doing and like

591
00:25:14,521 --> 00:25:16,200
Speaker 2: certain things that we're wanting to do like retreats and

592
00:25:16,201 --> 00:25:17,481
Speaker 2: things like that in the future, and she.

593
00:25:17,441 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 1: Was like, do that.

594
00:25:18,321 --> 00:25:20,641
Speaker 2: You need to do that. That is one hundred percent

595
00:25:20,721 --> 00:25:22,201
Speaker 2: one of the avenues that you're going to go down.

596
00:25:22,241 --> 00:25:24,640
Speaker 2: You need to follow that. And she even connected me

597
00:25:24,681 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 2: with somebody who can help run retreats and things like

598
00:25:26,640 --> 00:25:29,481
Speaker 2: that in Bali. So we're gonna that's all fun. And

599
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:31,641
Speaker 2: she also said that she doesn't see me doing coaching

600
00:25:31,761 --> 00:25:33,840
Speaker 2: for a long period of time. She's like, I know

601
00:25:33,921 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 2: you love it, and I know you'll be doing it

602
00:25:35,481 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 2: for a little while longer. It'll be the thing that

603
00:25:37,241 --> 00:25:39,161
Speaker 2: gets you through, but this isn't where you end up.

604
00:25:39,521 --> 00:25:41,681
Speaker 2: And I thought that was really cool because I genuinely

605
00:25:41,681 --> 00:25:44,521
Speaker 2: feel that I love my coaching, but I know it's

606
00:25:44,561 --> 00:25:46,321
Speaker 2: not the end all and be all for me. I

607
00:25:46,360 --> 00:25:48,401
Speaker 2: think there are bigger things that I want to pull

608
00:25:48,441 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 2: my time and energy into, like she rises, Yeah, and

609
00:25:51,001 --> 00:25:52,920
Speaker 2: the plan that we've got for she rises, I'm like,

610
00:25:53,041 --> 00:25:54,841
Speaker 2: this is something that I want to give my all too.

611
00:25:55,441 --> 00:25:58,001
Speaker 1: But I also love it and it's a big energy exchange,

612
00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:00,080
Speaker 1: Like I can only compare it to personal training. I

613
00:26:00,120 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 1: was like, Yeah, I loved personal training, but it was

614
00:26:02,921 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 1: so much energy out it is you're working with people

615
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:09,441
Speaker 1: hearing all of their life. You're holding so much space.

616
00:26:10,001 --> 00:26:12,481
Speaker 1: It's a lot, and you're exchanging your energy for time

617
00:26:12,521 --> 00:26:14,001
Speaker 1: the whole time. So if you don't show up, you

618
00:26:14,001 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 1: don't get paid on it. It's like most jobs, but

619
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:20,121
Speaker 1: entrepreneurial mindset, it's just kind of not how your brain works. No,

620
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:22,681
Speaker 1: it's not viable long Yeah, as well, there's a lot

621
00:26:22,681 --> 00:26:24,761
Speaker 1: of opportunity in different pillars we want to lean into.

622
00:26:24,961 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 1: And she also did say to you, which is a

623
00:26:26,481 --> 00:26:29,201
Speaker 1: really interesting conversation. We're going to have another podcast, we'll

624
00:26:29,241 --> 00:26:30,961
Speaker 1: save it, but she did say to you that you're

625
00:26:31,001 --> 00:26:32,801
Speaker 1: going to manage a team and there's someone that you're

626
00:26:32,801 --> 00:26:34,041
Speaker 1: going to have to really be soft with.

627
00:26:34,241 --> 00:26:36,561
Speaker 2: Yeah, basically what she said to me. She goes, Tiana,

628
00:26:36,921 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 2: she just kept doing this thing with her hands and

629
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:42,001
Speaker 2: she kept like mimicking pushing her hair away from her face,

630
00:26:42,360 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 2: and she looked at me and she goes, Tiana, you

631
00:26:44,281 --> 00:26:45,441
Speaker 2: need to pull your hair back.

632
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: You need to get your hair.

633
00:26:46,721 --> 00:26:48,281
Speaker 2: Out of your face, and you need to roll up

634
00:26:48,281 --> 00:26:50,081
Speaker 2: your sleeves because you're about to come into so much

635
00:26:50,120 --> 00:26:51,881
Speaker 2: work that you're not going to be mentally prepared for.

636
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 2: She's like, you need to get ready because this is

637
00:26:54,201 --> 00:26:56,481
Speaker 2: going to be the biggest work season of your life.

638
00:26:56,681 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 2: And she said, it's going to feel like the price

639
00:26:59,761 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 2: is high, but I promise you that the gold at

640
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:03,561
Speaker 2: the end of the tunnel is going to be worth it,

641
00:27:03,681 --> 00:27:05,561
Speaker 2: or the pot of gold at the end, Yeah, it's

642
00:27:05,561 --> 00:27:06,321
Speaker 2: going to be worth it.

643
00:27:06,441 --> 00:27:07,801
Speaker 1: And you're in your full hustle season.

644
00:27:07,961 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 2: I feel that I feel like this new found drive

645
00:27:11,360 --> 00:27:15,161
Speaker 2: and spark and like just like fucking fire, like hunger

646
00:27:15,521 --> 00:27:17,641
Speaker 2: for what we're creating with. She rises, and I just

647
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 2: I see it doing really beautiful, big impactful things, and

648
00:27:21,441 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I'm fucking ready for it.

649
00:27:22,921 --> 00:27:25,440
Speaker 1: So cool, you know, Yeah, do a whole episode on

650
00:27:25,481 --> 00:27:27,481
Speaker 1: that coming up in a couple of weeks. Yes, we're

651
00:27:27,481 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 1: going to take you guys more along the journey and

652
00:27:29,201 --> 00:27:31,521
Speaker 1: what's actually happening behind the scenes, So staying tuned for

653
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:33,961
Speaker 1: that because it all looks great from the outside, but

654
00:27:33,961 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: there's actually a lot of fucking work to the line

655
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:37,721
Speaker 1: of network. I'm going to talk about the things that's

656
00:27:37,761 --> 00:27:39,880
Speaker 1: like it's costing us and yeah, sacrifices we make, So

657
00:27:39,961 --> 00:27:42,761
Speaker 1: we'll leave that for another episode. But yeah, it's a

658
00:27:42,801 --> 00:27:45,361
Speaker 1: really cool I love seeing psychics. I just feel take

659
00:27:45,360 --> 00:27:46,880
Speaker 1: it with a grain of salt. You really don't know,

660
00:27:47,120 --> 00:27:48,920
Speaker 1: but sometimes it's just what you need to hear, or

661
00:27:48,961 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 1: it just helps you have more trust and faith that

662
00:27:50,961 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 1: you're on the right path, or opens up your eyes like,

663
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,041
Speaker 1: oh maybe I could dake that direction, maybe that is possible.

664
00:27:56,201 --> 00:27:58,321
Speaker 2: Yeah, so what you were saying as well, She did

665
00:27:58,321 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 2: say that I was going to be like leading a

666
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:02,521
Speaker 2: team and she was teaching me how to like navigate

667
00:28:02,521 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 2: with these really soft, gentle souls that I'm going to

668
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,281
Speaker 2: have on the team or something like that, that I've

669
00:28:07,281 --> 00:28:09,041
Speaker 2: got to learn how to manage them correctly so that

670
00:28:09,041 --> 00:28:10,120
Speaker 2: i can keep them on the team.

671
00:28:10,321 --> 00:28:11,881
Speaker 1: She also said that I'm going to be a boy mom.

672
00:28:12,120 --> 00:28:12,961
Speaker 1: Yeah that's right.

673
00:28:13,120 --> 00:28:14,761
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you guys are gonna hear it here first,

674
00:28:14,801 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 2: because if this happens, you can come back and be like,

675
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:17,121
Speaker 2: oh my god.

676
00:28:17,120 --> 00:28:19,120
Speaker 1: I listened to the episode. It's oh my gosh. She

677
00:28:19,120 --> 00:28:21,041
Speaker 1: did say you'll be a boy. Yeah, she said I'd

678
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:22,720
Speaker 1: be a boy. I'm only going to have boys.

679
00:28:22,961 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 2: And she said I'm going to have obviously, I'm going

680
00:28:24,801 --> 00:28:26,281
Speaker 2: to find a man, and this is the man I'm

681
00:28:26,281 --> 00:28:27,241
Speaker 2: going to have children with.

682
00:28:27,441 --> 00:28:31,120
Speaker 1: And she even described what he looked like. Babe, yeah, me,

683
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:32,440
Speaker 1: that didn't I.

684
00:28:33,721 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 2: He told me, do you know the Salt Bay guy?

685
00:28:36,360 --> 00:28:38,601
Speaker 1: No, no, the chef. You have to show me your phone.

686
00:28:38,641 --> 00:28:39,641
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I have to show you.

687
00:28:39,681 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 2: So she basically said he looks like olive skin. He

688
00:28:43,281 --> 00:28:45,521
Speaker 2: looks like he matches me. So he's got dark haired,

689
00:28:45,681 --> 00:28:49,081
Speaker 2: dark skin. She said he's very beautiful. But she said

690
00:28:49,201 --> 00:28:52,001
Speaker 2: he looks like the Salt based chef guy, but more masculine.

691
00:28:52,041 --> 00:28:55,921
Speaker 1: She's like, not a groom. Okay, yeah, my gosh. Yeah,

692
00:28:55,961 --> 00:28:56,761
Speaker 1: so that's interesting.

693
00:28:56,801 --> 00:28:58,361
Speaker 2: And she also asked me if I had had an

694
00:28:58,401 --> 00:29:02,841
Speaker 2: abortion or a miscarriage, like at all, and I've had

695
00:29:02,881 --> 00:29:04,641
Speaker 2: one once when I was eighteen. But she said, there's

696
00:29:04,641 --> 00:29:07,201
Speaker 2: a little around you. She's like there's this little boy

697
00:29:07,281 --> 00:29:09,601
Speaker 2: energy that is around you all the time, and he's

698
00:29:09,641 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 2: about four years old and he's a part of like

699
00:29:11,801 --> 00:29:14,121
Speaker 2: your sole team and your soul contract. And I was like,

700
00:29:14,321 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 2: oh my god, that's crazy, isn't it. She's like, he

701
00:29:17,521 --> 00:29:19,401
Speaker 2: just wasn't meant to be here side because he has

702
00:29:19,441 --> 00:29:22,041
Speaker 2: other roles to do, and woh cool.

703
00:29:22,041 --> 00:29:25,561
Speaker 1: Isn't it? Oh my gosh, boy, mom, that's so cute.

704
00:29:26,161 --> 00:29:28,761
Speaker 2: What a few couple of months it's been. Yeah, it's

705
00:29:28,801 --> 00:29:31,201
Speaker 2: been like this whole twenty twenty five has been such

706
00:29:31,201 --> 00:29:34,801
Speaker 2: a roller coaster, but like with such beautiful challenges and

707
00:29:34,801 --> 00:29:38,601
Speaker 2: then so much gratitude, beauty, expansion, all of it.

708
00:29:38,881 --> 00:29:40,961
Speaker 1: Yeah, all of it. The duality. Oh my goodness.

709
00:29:41,041 --> 00:29:42,881
Speaker 2: That's really been our theme for twenty twenty five.

710
00:29:42,961 --> 00:29:45,601
Speaker 1: It's duality. Like we started talking about.

711
00:29:45,361 --> 00:29:47,641
Speaker 2: It at the end of last year and then it

712
00:29:47,761 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 2: really cemented in this year of like, holy shit, the

713
00:29:50,561 --> 00:29:53,881
Speaker 2: things that are happening in our lives and high highs

714
00:29:53,921 --> 00:29:56,841
Speaker 2: and low lows and like really holding both at the

715
00:29:56,881 --> 00:29:57,401
Speaker 2: same time.

716
00:29:57,641 --> 00:30:01,441
Speaker 1: And every single person that I'm close with is going

717
00:30:01,481 --> 00:30:09,201
Speaker 1: through something really tragic, transformational, unexpected, hard stuff. Yeah, every

718
00:30:09,281 --> 00:30:12,641
Speaker 1: person that I speak to, it's like really different, but

719
00:30:12,801 --> 00:30:14,841
Speaker 1: equally like, holy fuck, you're holding that.

720
00:30:14,841 --> 00:30:18,401
Speaker 2: That's a lot everyone in their own way, right, everyone.

721
00:30:18,001 --> 00:30:21,761
Speaker 1: Whether it's huge financial loss or big changes in their work,

722
00:30:22,001 --> 00:30:27,161
Speaker 1: or brief grief, So much grief, so much grief, breakups,

723
00:30:27,401 --> 00:30:33,641
Speaker 1: sick kids, miscarriage, Yeah, miscarriages, court battles, so much stuff. Yeah, honestly,

724
00:30:33,881 --> 00:30:37,481
Speaker 1: everyone's going through lots of very heavy energy. We had

725
00:30:38,001 --> 00:30:41,721
Speaker 1: Chaney on the podcast last year, and she's a psychic

726
00:30:41,881 --> 00:30:44,361
Speaker 1: energy healer and she was talking about on the Stories

727
00:30:44,361 --> 00:30:46,121
Speaker 1: the other day, just saying this is a collective thing.

728
00:30:46,201 --> 00:30:48,641
Speaker 1: She's like, you're not alone. She's going through. Everyone she

729
00:30:48,681 --> 00:30:50,281
Speaker 1: knows going through it. And she's like, this has to

730
00:30:50,321 --> 00:30:52,361
Speaker 1: be all stirred up and broken down so that we

731
00:30:52,361 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 1: can like level up into the new era. But you

732
00:30:55,041 --> 00:30:56,681
Speaker 1: have to go through the shit first to clear it

733
00:30:56,721 --> 00:30:58,321
Speaker 1: all out. It's like a clean slate.

734
00:30:58,521 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I've been seeing people say it

735
00:31:00,841 --> 00:31:03,881
Speaker 2: is online. I've been seeing people call it a quantum crumble.

736
00:31:04,121 --> 00:31:07,161
Speaker 2: Oh I love it happen that's so cool, like or

737
00:31:07,241 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 2: quantum crumble. It's like when everything in your life that

738
00:31:10,201 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 2: could possibly go wrong goes right because you're in this

739
00:31:13,841 --> 00:31:15,841
Speaker 2: transformation period of like rebuilding.

740
00:31:16,081 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 1: That's cool. Yeah, I feel that. Yeah, I feel that

741
00:31:18,961 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 1: right whilst holding grief and like Greece is a tricky

742
00:31:21,441 --> 00:31:23,440
Speaker 1: one because we're talking about this last night, I'm like,

743
00:31:23,441 --> 00:31:26,321
Speaker 1: when is it not going to not feel so painful? Yeah, Like,

744
00:31:26,361 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 1: I don't know if that ever goes away, Like I'm

745
00:31:28,321 --> 00:31:33,041
Speaker 1: sure time heals it slightly, but it never goes away.

746
00:31:33,201 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: Like I feel like I have more good days than

747
00:31:34,761 --> 00:31:36,681
Speaker 1: what I did at the start of Rambo's death, of course,

748
00:31:36,681 --> 00:31:40,041
Speaker 1: And so there is megsy yeah, but it's just always there. Yeah,

749
00:31:40,081 --> 00:31:44,721
Speaker 1: Like it's always there the moment there's stillness, slowness or silence,

750
00:31:44,881 --> 00:31:49,401
Speaker 1: it's there and it takes over. Yeah. So yeah, it's interesting.

751
00:31:49,721 --> 00:31:52,841
Speaker 2: It's not a linear process, is it. No, looks differently

752
00:31:52,881 --> 00:31:53,481
Speaker 2: for everyone.

753
00:31:53,681 --> 00:31:56,721
Speaker 1: I've never really experienced grief. I'm very very lucky touch

754
00:31:56,761 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: with that. I haven't had a lot of people. I

755
00:32:01,441 --> 00:32:03,121
Speaker 1: haven't had a lot of people pass Like I've had

756
00:32:03,561 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 1: grandparents that I wasn't super close with. And then I

757
00:32:06,001 --> 00:32:08,801
Speaker 1: had a beautiful girl called Maddie who did my twelve

758
00:32:08,841 --> 00:32:11,601
Speaker 1: week Bikini Body Challenge. She passed. I went to her

759
00:32:11,641 --> 00:32:14,361
Speaker 1: funeral and that was just so devastating. And then I

760
00:32:14,401 --> 00:32:16,721
Speaker 1: had a guy that I dated who ended his own

761
00:32:16,761 --> 00:32:19,481
Speaker 1: life that was really sad, but I obviously wasn't super

762
00:32:19,521 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 1: close with him at that point in time. But I

763
00:32:21,961 --> 00:32:24,001
Speaker 1: haven't lost a lot of people that I've been really

764
00:32:24,001 --> 00:32:26,921
Speaker 1: plugged into. So Rambos is the first that I feel

765
00:32:26,961 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 1: like I've really felt the depth of it.

766
00:32:28,721 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, the bucket's a lot. It's really heavy because you're

767
00:32:31,561 --> 00:32:35,521
Speaker 2: so plugged in too. Make sas it is so plugged in, Yeah,

768
00:32:35,681 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 2: it is. You feel her pain with her, Yeah, just sympathize,

769
00:32:40,001 --> 00:32:42,041
Speaker 2: you don't just empathize like you're feeling it your l

770
00:32:42,161 --> 00:32:45,440
Speaker 2: sh see her every single day with her, all the

771
00:32:45,481 --> 00:32:47,521
Speaker 2: time that you've spent with her over the last like

772
00:32:47,641 --> 00:32:49,081
Speaker 2: two months, three.

773
00:32:48,881 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 1: Months now, three months, sitting gone for three months. Then

774
00:32:52,321 --> 00:32:55,161
Speaker 1: I feel guilt because I'm like, I feel so fucking sad.

775
00:32:55,281 --> 00:32:58,001
Speaker 1: I can't imagine how she's feeling, you know, like, if

776
00:32:58,041 --> 00:33:00,561
Speaker 1: I feel like this, I'm just imagining what it'd be

777
00:33:00,601 --> 00:33:03,161
Speaker 1: like for me to lose a child. But she is just,

778
00:33:03,561 --> 00:33:06,641
Speaker 1: oh man, she is one incredible human. I really is

779
00:33:07,241 --> 00:33:11,321
Speaker 1: so much. All of her her strength, her perspective, even

780
00:33:11,361 --> 00:33:16,921
Speaker 1: her willingness and commitment to growth and understanding the brain,

781
00:33:17,121 --> 00:33:21,241
Speaker 1: understanding grief, taking care of herself, taking care of her

782
00:33:21,241 --> 00:33:24,721
Speaker 1: nervous system, her partner, her daughter. The way she does

783
00:33:24,761 --> 00:33:28,121
Speaker 1: this is like, Wow, most normal people don't take care

784
00:33:28,121 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 1: of their bodies and their health and their mindset day

785
00:33:30,321 --> 00:33:33,561
Speaker 1: to day. For someone going through that and making time

786
00:33:33,681 --> 00:33:37,601
Speaker 1: and space for that every single day, Wow, it's incredible

787
00:33:37,641 --> 00:33:38,041
Speaker 1: to watch.

788
00:33:38,281 --> 00:33:42,241
Speaker 2: She's been committed to her healing, committed but also allowing

789
00:33:42,281 --> 00:33:43,041
Speaker 2: the grief to come.

790
00:33:43,041 --> 00:33:46,200
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, if there were to be a book written

791
00:33:46,201 --> 00:33:48,801
Speaker 1: on how to handle grief, like she should write it. Yeah.

792
00:33:48,921 --> 00:33:52,041
Speaker 1: She's so incredible. So yeah, I'm so proud of her,

793
00:33:52,201 --> 00:33:54,081
Speaker 1: I really am. I just know she's going to do

794
00:33:54,161 --> 00:33:56,601
Speaker 1: something really beautiful to keep his spirit alive. She'll do

795
00:33:56,681 --> 00:33:58,200
Speaker 1: something in memory of his name. I don't know what

796
00:33:58,241 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 1: it is. I don't think she knows what it is,

797
00:34:00,881 --> 00:34:05,321
Speaker 1: but I just know she'll do something. So anyways, that's

798
00:34:05,321 --> 00:34:08,321
Speaker 1: our bit of life. Update. On a flip note, lots

799
00:34:08,401 --> 00:34:10,681
Speaker 1: of happening behind the scenes where she rises once again.

800
00:34:10,681 --> 00:34:12,361
Speaker 1: We are going to do the behind the scenes episode,

801
00:34:12,361 --> 00:34:14,521
Speaker 1: but in a nutshell, we've ben our second event. It

802
00:34:14,641 --> 00:34:16,921
Speaker 1: was so greod, but we just booked our next event.

803
00:34:17,121 --> 00:34:20,161
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, god, So this is going to be

804
00:34:20,561 --> 00:34:23,161
Speaker 1: our biggest event yet. So there's a couple of hundred

805
00:34:23,201 --> 00:34:26,641
Speaker 1: tickets available. We launched it to the girls who came

806
00:34:26,721 --> 00:34:29,681
Speaker 1: to the Masquerade event first, and over half the VIP

807
00:34:29,761 --> 00:34:33,241
Speaker 1: tickets have sold already. Yes, so there's only twenty VIP tickets. Yeah,

808
00:34:33,241 --> 00:34:36,081
Speaker 1: but it's called She Rises Live. Oh my god.

809
00:34:36,161 --> 00:34:38,601
Speaker 2: We're so excited. This is going to be such a

810
00:34:38,601 --> 00:34:40,601
Speaker 2: pivotal thing as well. And you know, if you guys

811
00:34:40,641 --> 00:34:43,121
Speaker 2: have watched along or you've come to our events, you'll

812
00:34:43,161 --> 00:34:44,961
Speaker 2: know if you've been to the first one and the

813
00:34:45,001 --> 00:34:47,401
Speaker 2: second one now, you'll know that they're vastly different from

814
00:34:47,481 --> 00:34:50,321
Speaker 2: each other. Right, so this next one is also going

815
00:34:50,361 --> 00:34:52,641
Speaker 2: to be that we want no experience to be the same,

816
00:34:52,681 --> 00:34:54,281
Speaker 2: and that you're always going to learn new things when

817
00:34:54,281 --> 00:34:56,601
Speaker 2: you come and you come to an event of ours,

818
00:34:56,601 --> 00:35:00,161
Speaker 2: and I think this is just a really fun experience

819
00:35:00,201 --> 00:35:01,961
Speaker 2: for us and for you guys to come along and

820
00:35:02,001 --> 00:35:05,361
Speaker 2: also to network. We could not believe how many women

821
00:35:05,801 --> 00:35:09,081
Speaker 2: connected with each other after got each other's social media's numbers,

822
00:35:09,121 --> 00:35:11,441
Speaker 2: went for drinks, went out for drinks, went out for dinners,

823
00:35:11,521 --> 00:35:14,881
Speaker 2: or planning girls time outside of the event. It's such

824
00:35:14,881 --> 00:35:16,681
Speaker 2: a good way for you to be able to connect

825
00:35:16,761 --> 00:35:20,161
Speaker 2: with others and other like minded women, especially if you

826
00:35:20,201 --> 00:35:22,281
Speaker 2: are like really craving community right now.

827
00:35:22,361 --> 00:35:24,921
Speaker 1: Yeah, if you're feeling lonely, stark, like you don't have

828
00:35:24,961 --> 00:35:27,761
Speaker 1: your people to turn to, talk to, lean on, ask

829
00:35:27,801 --> 00:35:30,401
Speaker 1: for advice, people that hold you accountable, then inspire you.

830
00:35:31,041 --> 00:35:32,961
Speaker 1: This is the community. Like these women that come to

831
00:35:33,001 --> 00:35:34,361
Speaker 1: these events, they want the same thing.

832
00:35:34,441 --> 00:35:36,841
Speaker 2: Yeah, and especially if right now you're in this phase

833
00:35:36,841 --> 00:35:38,841
Speaker 2: where you're kind of feeling a little bit stagnant, and

834
00:35:38,841 --> 00:35:40,801
Speaker 2: you're feeling a bit stuck, and you're feeling a bit

835
00:35:40,841 --> 00:35:43,041
Speaker 2: like a mare and everything feels a little bit dull,

836
00:35:43,721 --> 00:35:47,121
Speaker 2: come to our event. It will encourage you and bark

837
00:35:47,161 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 2: something within you that you've been searching for this whole time,

838
00:35:50,561 --> 00:35:52,281
Speaker 2: and it will help you fast track.

839
00:35:52,081 --> 00:35:53,521
Speaker 1: Where you're at right now. You know what it does.

840
00:35:53,641 --> 00:35:55,921
Speaker 1: It's going to do. It's going to activate you. It's

841
00:35:56,121 --> 00:35:58,561
Speaker 1: going to weigh you the fuck up. It really isn't

842
00:35:58,561 --> 00:36:02,081
Speaker 1: the best possible way and in a really fun way. Yeah.

843
00:36:02,121 --> 00:36:04,721
Speaker 1: So the event's going to go for approximately three hours

844
00:36:05,041 --> 00:36:07,801
Speaker 1: and it she Rises Lives. It's basically a live podcast.

845
00:36:07,921 --> 00:36:10,881
Speaker 1: You're going to do all the features, really empowering section,

846
00:36:11,321 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 1: the best of you advice. The Freaky Friday, We're gonna

847
00:36:13,481 --> 00:36:17,401
Speaker 1: have a guest panel. We're gonna have an entertainer, Duna's,

848
00:36:17,641 --> 00:36:20,281
Speaker 1: Oh my God, VIPs get meat and greet, VIPs get

849
00:36:20,281 --> 00:36:22,761
Speaker 1: a goodie bag. VIP's get front row. Our friends and

850
00:36:22,801 --> 00:36:24,681
Speaker 1: family are coming. I just can't wait to be there

851
00:36:24,721 --> 00:36:26,361
Speaker 1: with you all. It's going to be a whole show.

852
00:36:26,401 --> 00:36:27,801
Speaker 2: It's going to be incredible, and you know what, like

853
00:36:27,881 --> 00:36:29,361
Speaker 2: don't expect to come and it just be one of

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Speaker 1: So fun. So if you're listening to this and you've

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Speaker 1: and we'll catch up. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Let us know if any of this resonated with you

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Speaker 1: and we'll add you in there. Sounds good. See you

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Speaker 1: tomorrow for our best in fie. Oh my god, can't wait.

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