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Speaker 1: I'm Anna and I'm Matt. Let's jump in. Hello and
Speaker 1: good morning. How are you?
Speaker 2: Good morning? And I'm all right. I'm actually surprised I
Speaker 2: came in today. I woke up. I've woken up the
Speaker 2: last two days with the absolute most pounding migraine, So
Speaker 2: sorry if I'm a little bit. What's the word of
Speaker 2: we're in the dumps? Yeah, well I'm not in the dumps,
Speaker 2: but like geez, driving in was hard. Getting out of bed,
Speaker 2: I get the usual bed fog like when I brain
Speaker 2: fog when I get out of bed, but this was
Speaker 2: like next level. It feels like I've had like last night,
Speaker 2: I drank four bottles or spent a night on the prosecco.
Speaker 1: Does your vision go blurry with migraines?
Speaker 2: Not blurry? But I tend to like if you watch me.
Speaker 2: I was walking up the stairs, and I was like
Speaker 2: it came like even it starts like throbbing really hard,
Speaker 2: and like I've closed my eyes, like.
Speaker 1: You know, behind the pain.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I like sort of closed my eyes and
Speaker 2: clinch to try get rid of it. Clinch or clench, clench, yeah,
Speaker 2: just to just try to get rid of that pain
Speaker 2: because it just fucking like, yeah, it sucks.
Speaker 1: Well, we appreciated that you've come into this very bright studio.
Speaker 2: This morning, I was picturing myself in bed because I
Speaker 2: woke up like a little bit earlier than normal because
Speaker 2: this headache. Yeah, migrain So I'm not even gonna underplay
Speaker 2: it with the headache migraine. And I was like thinking
Speaker 2: of myself in here literally with a pair of sunglasses.
Speaker 2: I'm just doing the podcast.
Speaker 1: You should have. I would not have complained.
Speaker 2: If I thought, though the vibe would probably be on
Speaker 2: the videos that I'm hungover because I'm sitting there like
Speaker 2: this like some sunning is on.
Speaker 1: So I was like, nah, well, look, as someone who
Speaker 1: suffers from migraines, I really empathize with you. It sucks.
Speaker 1: I actually saw this thing recently saying that apparently having
Speaker 1: one apple a day keeps the migraines away. Really, so
Speaker 1: maybe go home and have an apple after this. Definitely
Speaker 1: apparently it's supposed to help. I mean, once you've got
Speaker 1: a migraine, there's really like it's hard to get rid of.
Speaker 2: It's sort of like saying, like I said that apple
Speaker 2: a day keeps the doctor away. Because I was laying
Speaker 2: in bed and I was like, there's no way I'm
Speaker 2: doing a podcast. I'm going to the doctors. I'm like,
Speaker 2: this is fucked.
Speaker 1: When I get a migraine, I literally have to go
Speaker 1: into a dark room my vision, like my vision is gone,
Speaker 1: and then I'm like I vomit. Like that's how severe
Speaker 1: it is. And I was saying to Michael because I
Speaker 1: had a migraine a couple of months ago, and I
Speaker 1: was like, imagine if on my wedding day and I
Speaker 1: mean touched.
Speaker 2: Don't even say it, don't even put out no, but.
Speaker 1: Like it's actually because my migraines are so severe and
Speaker 1: like if I woke up on my wedding day with one,
Speaker 1: I would have to cancel the wedding. Like there's nothing
Speaker 1: that I can do other than spend half the day
Speaker 1: in bed. Once one starts coming on, it's that scary.
Speaker 1: So I'm just like I say, to be healthy, drink
Speaker 1: lots of water, all of the things, all of the things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Maybe have an apple in your
Speaker 2: wedding day.
Speaker 1: Then haven't got one hundred apples?
Speaker 2: What do you need? You're like apples, just apples, apples
Speaker 2: in the morning.
Speaker 1: Four degrees this morning, very very cold morning in Melbourne.
Speaker 2: I had this conversation with my mum the other day. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I believe that this winter's warmer than last year. Though.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there has been a couple of like sunny days, but.
Speaker 2: It's beautiful now.
Speaker 1: Been icy, really been icy. I know in Mildura it's
Speaker 1: like zero degrees as well. I'm expecting half to see
Speaker 1: snow in the coming week.
Speaker 2: Well I haven't yet. When I get up. I've always
Speaker 2: got up at the same time to go to my
Speaker 2: car at this time last year and this time this year,
Speaker 2: I haven't poured water on the windscreen for ice. Well,
Speaker 2: so that makes me think it's warmer.
Speaker 1: Get ready for the next couple of weeks.
Speaker 2: Reckon, it's coming in August.
Speaker 1: It's coming. I mean, when it gets to this, it's
Speaker 1: almost like you prefer it just to be like, you know,
Speaker 1: minus ten, so you get a bit of snow. You know,
Speaker 1: you could go sledging, make a snowman, do all the
Speaker 1: wintery fun stuff.
Speaker 2: Unpopular opinion. Yeah I like colder weather.
Speaker 1: Really, but think about yourself, like on a beach with a.
Speaker 2: Cocktail, But think about you working in the hot and
Speaker 2: going about your everyday life in warm weather. I reckon
Speaker 2: it's better in the cold.
Speaker 1: Yeah, nah, I don't think so.
Speaker 2: You don't think so.
Speaker 1: I mean my ideal temperature in life is like twenty
Speaker 1: three degrees yeah, heaven, it's like not too hot, not
Speaker 1: too cold, can still be like not wearing a jumper.
Speaker 2: But oh I hate the discomfort of being hot though,
Speaker 2: while you're doing your everyday stuff and you're in your
Speaker 2: shorts and T shirt and you're still sweating, Like that's
Speaker 2: that makes you feel gross? I hate that. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well, look I have a confession to make.
Speaker 2: Yes, my child, Welcome to the confession. Boot.
Speaker 1: I broke my dry July. On Saturday. I had two events.
Speaker 1: So I had a long lunch with Michael's friends that
Speaker 1: was booked in for like three months, even before drive
Speaker 1: July was a thing. This was booked in. And then
Speaker 1: on top of that, we had Michael's best friend's birthday
Speaker 1: at the espie and anyway, I was like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna have a couple of drinks. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna go ott. I'm just gonna like have a couple.
Speaker 1: I'm in a break drive ul, I'm gonna buy a token.
Speaker 1: It's okay. Anyway. One of the wars your Head at
Speaker 1: a fam.
Speaker 2: No Way was at the ESBI. I knew this would
Speaker 2: happen if I want to us, but I'm gone out
Speaker 2: and drunk. So it's like, I'm happier to you.
Speaker 1: And she came up to me and she was like,
Speaker 1: are you doing dry July tonight? Are you in the mocktails?
Speaker 3: And I was like, I'm sorry, I fail, And then
Speaker 3: I felt really guilty and then like yesterday I was
Speaker 3: just in the dump, so I was like, why did
Speaker 3: I drink?
Speaker 1: Like I wasn't even that upset about it. I was like,
Speaker 1: it's okay, like, you know, we have splendid this week
Speaker 1: and probably going to drink potentially there, but then again
Speaker 1: we'll I don't.
Speaker 2: Know did they did. The girl that came up to you,
Speaker 2: was she doing drive your Life?
Speaker 1: I don't think so. If she was like I'm doing
Speaker 1: because of you, and now you're out here drinking and
Speaker 1: now you're breaking it. I know it was you know what,
Speaker 1: if one of those events were on Saturday, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: have broke it. But because it was a double event,
Speaker 1: I was like, I feel like I'm.
Speaker 2: Allowed trying to rationalize it.
Speaker 1: Trying to rationalize it in my head.
Speaker 2: Rain, Yeah, No, I haven't. I haven't broken it since
Speaker 2: the first day. I have seen no need to. Like
Speaker 2: my family was around last night for you know, they
Speaker 2: were all having like wine years and I was just like,
Speaker 2: nam or, I'll stick to my diet lemonade, sugar free,
Speaker 2: but now.
Speaker 1: Where's your head out? Fam? Up in arms about you
Speaker 1: and your diet lemonade.
Speaker 2: I have laid off a little bit like this week
Speaker 2: because of the feedback I got, so I wasn't as
Speaker 2: strong on it. But it's there. It's definitely there.
Speaker 1: Do you think that you can cut it out? There
Speaker 1: could be someone sitting at home who's like a you know,
Speaker 1: dit coke feene and they're like, well, if Matt will
Speaker 1: do it, I'll do it. You just it's unnecessary.
Speaker 2: I know. I could replace it for sparkling water.
Speaker 1: Or water water or lemon water. Or tea. You're British.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: I love it.
Speaker 2: I literally hairble tea. Yeah, yesterday, I just bought a
Speaker 2: bunch of more teas. They're on special at coals. There's
Speaker 2: my recommendation. And I got like a digestive one as well,
Speaker 2: some more Kama male. I love it with honey and vanilla.
Speaker 1: I got this tea I think it's from Twinings and
Speaker 1: it has probiotics in it, and it's like a cleanse.
Speaker 1: It has like ginger turmeric. It's like maybe also what
Speaker 1: I got plus probiotics, and I was like, wow, probiotics
Speaker 1: in your tea. I mean talk about hitting a double wam. No,
Speaker 1: I don't think I don't whammy. What did I say?
Speaker 1: Double whammy?
Speaker 2: Whammy?
Speaker 1: Isn't that It's not about whammy, double whammy.
Speaker 2: That's from a COVENI is that guy? Yeah? I love
Speaker 2: my tea. So I have a I have like a
Speaker 2: cameo mile every night. If I have a normal ty
Speaker 2: in English breakfast before bed, I'm waking up like twice
Speaker 2: to take a pierce. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Nice, Oh no, not nice.
Speaker 2: Sorry, I was listening, don't cut that out.
Speaker 1: I got really distructed.
Speaker 2: I was like, if I was like, if you if
Speaker 2: you want to get up and go for two pieces
Speaker 2: a night, well that's up to you.
Speaker 1: Even one p night is too much for me. Like
Speaker 1: that is just like, yeah, no.
Speaker 2: It's brutal. I will sleep through. I've mastered the art
Speaker 2: of like sleeping through in my old house since I'm.
Speaker 1: Killed up, so they work bladder yeat.
Speaker 2: The bathroom was on the other end of the house.
Speaker 2: I was like, there is in that haunted house I
Speaker 2: used to live. I was like, there's no chance I'm
Speaker 2: getting up and walking down there, like zero chance.
Speaker 1: Well, speaking of houses, Michael and I have gone from
Speaker 1: having two bathrooms so one each to one. And let
Speaker 1: me tell you the adjustment period has been real.
Speaker 2: Do you like a match every time? After this? Do
Speaker 2: you say keep clear from no?
Speaker 1: We have we have vipoo. Have you ever tried vipoo?
Speaker 2: I used it this morning actually because I want tom.
Speaker 1: It's so good. Really yeah. Do you have like a
Speaker 1: little like pink purple one? We have the pink one
Speaker 1: and it is justified. I love the smell of vipoo.
Speaker 2: Pink one. I'll look into that one and then the
Speaker 2: yellow ones downstairs at mums. I know that I can't
Speaker 2: smell Glen twenty. So Glen twenty triggers me from when
Speaker 2: we were renovating the bathroom. Yeah, and there was we
Speaker 2: left well, the builder left a hole in where the
Speaker 2: water comes out from the bath and birds nested under
Speaker 2: the bath and they like that. The eggs hatched and
Speaker 2: they didn't. The eggs died, like the baby birds died
Speaker 2: and it was the worst.
Speaker 1: That's so sad.
Speaker 2: But could you imagine like rotting dead birds covered by
Speaker 2: Glenn twenty. It was like the in the bathroom you
Speaker 2: were showering and getting ready, and it was the worst
Speaker 2: smell I have ever smelled. Whenever I smelled Glen twenty.
Speaker 2: Anyone in my family that's listening to this will say
Speaker 2: the same thing. They'll be like it just triggers me
Speaker 2: straight away and trigger them.
Speaker 1: I'm just like still more upset about like the little
Speaker 1: ducklings that died or not ducklings birds.
Speaker 2: Who knows what they were, what breed of bird. But
Speaker 2: you know that's nature.
Speaker 1: It's not nature getting stuck onto a fucking bar. That's
Speaker 1: such a shame. But anyway, one toilet. It's like in
Speaker 1: the morning we wake up and it's like a race
Speaker 1: to the toilet, like who's at first? Because I like
Speaker 1: to relax in the toilet.
Speaker 2: Take my tongue, So you're more worried about like timing wise,
Speaker 2: who's on the toilet, not the smell of the aftermath.
Speaker 1: No, no vipooh covers in masks at all.
Speaker 2: But like, you know, would you go to the toilet
Speaker 2: in front of.
Speaker 1: Michael to do a number two?
Speaker 2: Fuck?
Speaker 1: No? Would you?
Speaker 2: No? No, I wouldn't. I'm just asking you.
Speaker 1: I can't imagine, like I ever, ever, ever, ever going
Speaker 1: for a number two in front of anyone on the planet,
Speaker 1: Like no one will ever be close enough to me.
Speaker 1: Maybe my future child, but even then I wouldn't really
Speaker 1: want to like subject anyone to that, Like it's like
Speaker 1: alone time. It's a mean time.
Speaker 2: I love. I love going to the shitter, like just
Speaker 2: spending my time in there. I love it. It's the best.
Speaker 1: I'll sit on tiktokpat all over the mic.
Speaker 2: I love it. But I was I know couples that
Speaker 2: will go to the toilet in front of themselves. It's
Speaker 2: pretty common.
Speaker 1: It's not that common. There's no way.
Speaker 2: Let's take it to the Facebook, because guys, let us know.
Speaker 2: I I remember I had an X that there was
Speaker 2: two bathrooms, so I'd go in mine and go to
Speaker 2: the toilet at her house and she would just kick
Speaker 2: the door open, and I'd be sitting there and I'd
Speaker 2: be like, seriously, like I need this is my alone time,
Speaker 2: Like give me some space.
Speaker 1: I would be so mad about that, Like I wouldn't
Speaker 1: even like pretend to be cool about it. I'd be like,
Speaker 1: get the fuck out right now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my shit doesn't stink, So I'm not worried about that, Matte,
Speaker 2: Yes it does.
Speaker 1: Like I don't know why you have this ongoing dialogue
Speaker 1: with yourself about that.
Speaker 2: It's so wid you just convinced.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: When you decided to make that alf and just roll
Speaker 1: with it for about three years and no one's question
Speaker 1: to accept me. I absolutely just can't believe that unless
Speaker 1: you're eating water and cardboard. I'm sure your ship has
Speaker 1: stunk before, very rare. Don't smell okay, okay, we have
Speaker 1: no one cares.
Speaker 2: You wouldn't even know that, free.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, Splendor. We're heading to.
Speaker 2: Byron Bay Thursday morning.
Speaker 1: This Thursday, So if you're going to Splendor, guys, four pm.
Speaker 1: Matt and I will be in the podcast tent called
Speaker 1: the Forum. We're going to be doing a forty five
Speaker 1: minute show. We're going to talk about all things how
Speaker 1: to at a festival, the good, the bad, the ugly,
Speaker 1: and all the tips. And we have some pretty wild
Speaker 1: festival stories. So if you're going to Splendor, make sure
Speaker 1: that you come and see us, Come say hi, and
Speaker 1: if not, that episode will go live next week.
Speaker 2: And also, if you guys want your voice played over
Speaker 2: the loud speakers at Splendor in the grass, could be
Speaker 2: something in achievement you want to tick off, send us in.
Speaker 2: Send us in a horror story you have from a festival.
Speaker 2: We want to hear it.
Speaker 1: We have actually a couple of fucked up festival horror stories,
Speaker 1: so if you do have one, make sure you send it.
Speaker 2: Could not be any well probably it couldn't be any
Speaker 2: worse than the ones we have, but if it is,
Speaker 2: i'll you know what could off? I want to hear it.
Speaker 1: I want to challenge except yeah.
Speaker 2: Challenge except it. So last Friday, an I went in
Speaker 2: to see a psychiatrist. That's right, So about my ADHD.
Speaker 2: My first appointment. It's one of I think I'm not
Speaker 2: sure exactly, he said, there'll be another one. I have
Speaker 2: to bring a family member or someone that knows me
Speaker 2: well in with me, and he will ask them questions.
Speaker 2: But he asked me a bunch of questions. I'm not
Speaker 2: going to go too much into detail. It's obviously personal
Speaker 2: that sort of stuff, but I'll be as open and
Speaker 2: as transparent about it as possible, just you know, the
Speaker 2: usual questions about like ADHD, like what do you like
Speaker 2: about your tension? How do you do this? You feel
Speaker 2: in a form? All that sort of stuff. At the
Speaker 2: end he said to me, he was like, look, I've
Speaker 2: done this for twenty two years. I've seen anywhere between
Speaker 2: twelve hundred and fifteen hundred patients that have ADHD. Matt,
Speaker 2: it's you. You have ADHD. So it was look, I'd
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. I knew going in that that
Speaker 2: was going to be the result. I think it was
Speaker 2: quite obvious about the way I lived my life of
Speaker 2: a lot of the stuff that I've realized over the
Speaker 2: couple of last three to four months that I've been
Speaker 2: doing research about it. So I think I still got
Speaker 2: emotional when he told me. I like teared up a bit.
Speaker 2: Obviously it's not so much validation, but it's sort of
Speaker 2: And what I said to him as well was, this
Speaker 2: isn't an excuse for my bad behavior. I don't want
Speaker 2: it to be an excuse for why I do this,
Speaker 2: why I do that, Why in certain situations I act
Speaker 2: like this, I said, I don't want it to be
Speaker 2: an excuse. I want it to be more a solution
Speaker 2: and a tool that I can use for future relationships
Speaker 2: and for people around me, so they know that this
Speaker 2: is how I'll get in these situations or for myself.
Speaker 2: So I know that when I'm reacting or like doing
Speaker 2: something that isn't so much like not frown upon but
Speaker 2: not like acceptable in that situation, that I can adapt
Speaker 2: and easily learn from it. So yeah, so's he's said
Speaker 2: he wants to try me on medication. I'm obviously open
Speaker 2: to whatever. I've you know, put a lot of my
Speaker 2: body over the years, so I'm willing to try the medication.
Speaker 2: I think a little bit of it scares me from
Speaker 2: what I've done the research on it. That like they
Speaker 2: say that, like because as someone with AHD has like
Speaker 2: orbiting thoughts and then to know that that sort of
Speaker 2: switches off and it's just one dialogue in your head.
Speaker 2: Sort of scares me because I've obviously gotten used to
Speaker 2: so many so much for like not voices. That sounds like,
Speaker 2: you know, but like an orbiting amount of thoughts going
Speaker 2: darting from thought to thought, So like that scares me,
Speaker 2: but also at the same time, I'm sort of excited.
Speaker 2: He also said to me as well, he said, he said, look,
Speaker 2: this isn't a bad thing, and he started listing the
Speaker 2: pros of having ADHD, and look, it isn't all bad.
Speaker 2: There's a lot of pros that come out of it
Speaker 2: as well.
Speaker 1: What's the prose that he said?
Speaker 2: Obviously people, they're really well around people, adapting to people
Speaker 2: and like the people. Person working memories a con of ADHD,
Speaker 2: So when you put someone on the spot like that,
Speaker 2: it's hard to list them. Obviously, in high stressful situations
Speaker 2: you're good at like adapt like not adapting, but you're
Speaker 2: good at, like in pressure situations, thinking clearly and remain
Speaker 2: and remaining calm, which it's been something my whole life,
Speaker 2: which like I just thought was me, Like, I've listed
Speaker 2: a couple of things. When he said that that, I'm
Speaker 2: like that, Fuck, I can't remember him now. My working
Speaker 2: memory obviously.
Speaker 1: Shit I've no, that's all good. I mean, it must
Speaker 1: feel pretty validating for you. I remember when you first
Speaker 1: brought it up with me and you're like, I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure I have ADHD. You know the psychologists was a psychologist,
Speaker 1: the psychologist on Love Island said that they think I
Speaker 1: have it. I've kind of put it off. It must
Speaker 1: be nice to just be like, okay, I was right, yeap,
Speaker 1: Like this is me And I think you're so accepting
Speaker 1: of yourself and it's so great to see. And I
Speaker 1: think so many people around us have it. And it's
Speaker 1: only now that people are starting to understand what ADHD
Speaker 1: is and it's I think I think back in the
Speaker 1: day it was seen as a negative, but I think
Speaker 1: people who are so much more accepting and just it's
Speaker 1: it's normal, right, like if not everyone is going to
Speaker 1: be the same, and everyone's differences are well.
Speaker 2: When I had to chat with a couple of my
Speaker 2: mates to be on I got a couple of reactions
Speaker 2: from a couple of them, Oh you as well, you
Speaker 2: think you've got it? That sort of thing. I was joking.
Speaker 2: It was banter, but like, I think it's gone so
Speaker 2: much that way now that everyone's like, oh, everyone's getting it.
Speaker 2: But I think the awareness about how much it fluctuates
Speaker 2: from person to person means that a lot more people
Speaker 2: have it. Because back in the day when we were
Speaker 2: at school, ADHD was just that troubled guy in the.
Speaker 1: Just like one kid out of the class. It wasn't
Speaker 1: like I saw a stout being like two out of
Speaker 1: three people apparently have ADHD, which is a crazy amount,
Speaker 1: like that's insane.
Speaker 2: And it was the kid that just in the corner
Speaker 2: I would be like, you know, like fight someone for
Speaker 2: no reason or punch a wall or throw a desk. Like.
Speaker 2: It wasn't the me, the class clown who was distracting everyone,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. That was sort of like, oh,
Speaker 2: he's just like, you know, not interested in school. But
Speaker 2: that was why because I had ADHD, I wasn't I
Speaker 2: couldn't concentrate, so I distract everyone with me. Hopefully now
Speaker 2: in schools they're like they're addressing it a lot earlier
Speaker 2: and getting onto it. And then because like I said,
Speaker 2: I imagine knowing like, fuck, you know twenty.
Speaker 1: Years ago, does it feel to be diagnosed at twenty eight?
Speaker 1: Are you kind of.
Speaker 2: Like fuck, I don't I don't have regrets or change anything.
Speaker 2: It just explains so much, like so much of my
Speaker 2: decisions I've made in life or situations that I've been
Speaker 2: in and the way I've reacted and stuff like that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it validates you, Yeah, it validates Yeah. Like one sample
Speaker 2: was like I don't know, like I was sinking back
Speaker 2: to love, aren't and how I was like so emotional,
Speaker 2: like crying, like it was obviously that you've got You're tired,
Speaker 2: they're not they're sleep depriving you, all that sort of stuff.
Speaker 2: I grew up in a household where like you could
Speaker 2: express your feelings, but like I felt, I feel thing
Speaker 2: so much more stronger than people that don't have it.
Speaker 2: So like when I feel something, it's fucking like it's
Speaker 2: really immense full amount of like feelings than the average person.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So just even that that, like it just explains that.
Speaker 2: And then like there's just so many things in life
Speaker 2: that's just explained. Yeah from it.
Speaker 1: Well, when you called me to tell me like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I've got the diagnosis I have ADHD, my response was
Speaker 1: like I'm so happy for you, Like, I'm so happy
Speaker 1: for you that you found out that you can now
Speaker 1: like you know, do as you please. Like you can
Speaker 1: take medication, you cannot take medication. You can do what's
Speaker 1: right for you. But yeah, like all of the things
Speaker 1: and the ways that you act which might be somewhat
Speaker 1: different to someone else, you're now like, Okay, there's a
Speaker 1: reason why.
Speaker 2: The reason why I've done like this sort of stuff
Speaker 2: why I just want to bring awareness to it as well.
Speaker 2: Like I mean, if you've got a kid out there
Speaker 2: that you think, this is someone out there that you
Speaker 2: think has it, or a kid or like your friend,
Speaker 2: maybe just encourage them to get tested. That's essentially how
Speaker 2: I went and got tested.
Speaker 1: A friend of mine, a close friend of mine, her
Speaker 1: friend just got diagnosed with ADHD. And then she said
Speaker 1: to one of my best friends, I think you have it.
Speaker 1: And she was talking me through some of the symptoms,
Speaker 1: some of them quite similar to yours actually, And I
Speaker 1: was like, it's so interesting because people think that people
Speaker 1: are all like with ADHD, people are jumping on the bandwagon,
Speaker 1: but it's actually not that. It's that the more people
Speaker 1: who bring awareness to it, and the more people start
Speaker 1: to understand the actual symptoms of it, the easier it
Speaker 1: is to pick it out in other people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And like you said, it's two and three people,
Speaker 2: so that's like over half people have it. But yeah,
Speaker 2: and that's what I think everyone's like, Oh everyone's dropping
Speaker 2: on the bandwagon, blah blah blah. But it's not. It's
Speaker 2: that there's awareness around it, and you stop on one
Speaker 2: TikTok of it. You know, your algorithm completely changes like
Speaker 2: ADHD and then you're a far I've got the same
Speaker 2: thing as that, Like, that's exactly how I am. I've
Speaker 2: got this trait. I've got that trait, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean. Yeah, and not all traits fall into everyone.
Speaker 2: Not everyone has everything. He was explaining that there's either
Speaker 2: you can more. I can't remember exactly what he said,
Speaker 2: but like it was either like you're more like you
Speaker 2: get distracted easily, or it was something else and I
Speaker 2: fall somewhere in the middle. He was saying, where I
Speaker 2: can hyper focus on things, but at the same time
Speaker 2: I get distracted.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh that was a positive actually, that you can
Speaker 2: hyper focus on things that you like and like achieve
Speaker 2: and you don't take no for an answer when you
Speaker 2: see something you don't you look at it for well,
Speaker 2: you know my opinion on that.
Speaker 1: I think that I might have it, but girls, will you.
Speaker 2: Girls show it a lot differently to how guys do. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so they're a lot better at disguising it, yeah than
Speaker 2: a guy is. Yeah. So I think you have a
Speaker 2: lot of traits of it. Yeah, you fall maybe somewhere
Speaker 2: on the spectrum of it.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Like I said, people show it differently, and it's like,
Speaker 2: have it different traits of it?
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, look, we're going to talk so much more
Speaker 1: on this podcast now about adhd adhd in relationship.
Speaker 2: I would love to get an expert on about relationships.
Speaker 2: Obviously a lot of my relationships would have run a
Speaker 2: lot smoother if I had known this. So I want
Speaker 2: to get an expert on or someone from TikTok that
Speaker 2: talks about it and interview them about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you can kind of also like tell us
Speaker 1: more about your appointments and things that go on. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I might get tested just to see if
Speaker 1: that's right. Look at him looking at me, It's like
Speaker 1: you definitely have that.
Speaker 2: You have a lot of traits. I'll say that I'm
Speaker 2: the first. Yeah, now I remember you can I can
Speaker 2: see it in people actually will not see it. Sorry,
Speaker 2: I'm not like Chia tresplaining stretch of the imagination, but
Speaker 2: like I can see traits and people remember. And then
Speaker 2: I said, that person, why I didn't tell you, but
Speaker 2: I thought that person had it. Then we went on
Speaker 2: their Instagram and they were talking about it. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: and I was like I knew at the moment I
Speaker 2: was like talking to him, I was like, they definitely
Speaker 2: have it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so interesting. It's such an interesting It's kind
Speaker 1: of like a whole new world. Like I've never even
Speaker 1: thought about ADHD in my life until you mentioned and
Speaker 1: started talking about it, and I was like, well, what
Speaker 1: are the traits? Like what is this?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: What what even is ADHD? What does it mean?
Speaker 2: Like I said before, it was always just that kid
Speaker 2: in the corner that was like running a muck and
Speaker 2: like being disruptive. If it was never like, you know,
Speaker 2: the charming, funny guy or the you know, the girl
Speaker 2: that just wouldn't say no for an answering like that.
Speaker 2: That was never what anyone thought of it.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, okay, well look back on that note, let's
Speaker 1: jump into our hot land. Hello, you've reached Anna and
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Speaker 2: Okay, so this hotline comes in from Meg, So just a.
Speaker 4: Bit of an embarrassing story for you. So for a
Speaker 4: bit of context, I've had pretty bad bow problems in
Speaker 4: the past and recently. And one day I went into work,
Speaker 4: so I worked by myself in this little retail store.
Speaker 4: So if I ever need to go to the toilet,
Speaker 4: I've got to kind of run anyway. So I'm sitting
Speaker 4: there by myself. I just started and I kind of
Speaker 4: just felt this like liquidy, schoolishy sensation in my pants.
Speaker 4: So I've stood up and all I could smell was
Speaker 4: just shit. So I ran to the toilet and pulled
Speaker 4: down my pants. It's just destroyed my jeans and my undies.
Speaker 4: So had to throw my undies in the bin, tried
Speaker 4: my best to wipe it up in my jeans as
Speaker 4: best as possible, but the toilet we have is just shit,
Speaker 4: so I still had who in my pants, and I
Speaker 4: ran back into the shop, hopefully, like you know, for
Speaker 4: no one to be in there, no customers, I had
Speaker 4: to serve anything, so I could just quickly get some
Speaker 4: wet wipes and just wipe my jeans clean and then
Speaker 4: I'd be good to go. But then when I've run
Speaker 4: back into the store, there's just customers everywhere. So I'm
Speaker 4: serving all of these customers with still shit in my pants,
Speaker 4: Like all you can smell from me is just shit.
Speaker 4: And I've served these customers whatever did that, it was fine.
Speaker 4: And then when they were all gone, I didn clean
Speaker 4: myself up. It was good to go, and then I
Speaker 4: just worked the rest of the day. I had wet
Speaker 4: pants from the wet wipes, still smelled like shit, and
Speaker 4: I couldn't even wear my undies. So yeah, anyways, thanks.
Speaker 2: Thank you for sharing that with us. Meg.
Speaker 1: There's a very vulnerable moment share fucking.
Speaker 2: Irritual bow syndrome. I know someone I know used to
Speaker 2: well still I guess has it, And they were telling
Speaker 2: me a story about how they couldn't make it home
Speaker 2: and they did it in the car like they like
Speaker 2: stood up trying to hold onto it, like sat up
Speaker 2: like that, and it would all over the seat, all
Speaker 2: over them.
Speaker 1: Oh that's so that sucks because it's kind of like
Speaker 1: it's out of your control. But then you have to
Speaker 1: deal with like the ramifications of being like this shitty,
Speaker 1: stinky person. Wouldn't you wear like maybe a nappy? Well,
Speaker 1: I was gonna say more like a padd.
Speaker 2: Would hold on too. I don't know any pads, but
Speaker 2: I don't think it's I think it's.
Speaker 1: Like an actual hard ship. I think it's like water.
Speaker 1: So wouldn't it just like soak it up? Maybe?
Speaker 2: Jeez, you'd know more about a pad than I do.
Speaker 2: I've never personally used one.
Speaker 1: Maybe a n fuck. I would wear a nappy like
Speaker 1: just because I would be like a little worried. Okay,
Speaker 1: and un less you can bin the nappy.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean. I'm gonna tell your story
Speaker 2: so you don't feel alone. This might not make it
Speaker 2: to the actual final cart. Let's just tell it and
Speaker 2: we'll see what happens.
Speaker 1: Oh god man.
Speaker 2: So it's Australia Day with all my mates sitting around
Speaker 2: drinking at a friend's house.
Speaker 1: I'm so worried.
Speaker 2: It's not that bad. It had everyone shut had a
Speaker 2: fart that's followed through, or shot themselves. I haven't, you haven't. No,
Speaker 2: let's just see how this goes. And we're all sitting
Speaker 2: there drinking over I was sitting around talking to people
Speaker 2: and I was like that one, I need a fart.
Speaker 2: One followed through?
Speaker 1: What followed through became a ship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a little bit like came out. Should I tell this? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean you're already telling it.
Speaker 2: It's not that bad. It's not that bad.
Speaker 1: Shout yourself.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And I was like fuck. Like it was like
Speaker 2: a house party. Everyone was there in the middle of
Speaker 2: the afternoon. I was like, fuck, what do I do?
Speaker 2: I quickly ran to the bathroom. There was girls all
Speaker 2: in the bathroom. I was like, fuck, I can't go here,
Speaker 2: you know. And I was like, you know what, Fuck,
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna go home. It was around the corner
Speaker 2: from my house. I was like, fuck it, I'm just
Speaker 2: gonna go home. So I booked Uber. I remember that
Speaker 2: I was out the front. People were arriving and they're
Speaker 2: trying to talk to me, and I was like nope, nope.
Speaker 2: I like scurried, scurried away, hopped in the Uber and
Speaker 2: it just fucking stunk. And I remember like winding down
Speaker 2: the window and I was like, sorry, mate, I keep dropping. Fuss.
Speaker 2: It's nothing I could do. Got a sore stomach.
Speaker 1: You were dressed it with the Uber driver. He's probably like,
Speaker 1: this is the worst fucking job.
Speaker 2: Rating has never gotten ratings ever recovered from that. You
Speaker 2: were out of five, got yeah, got home through the
Speaker 2: unders out. But yeah, so it happens to the best
Speaker 2: of us. So Meg, you're not alone there.
Speaker 1: Well, Matt, thank you for making Meg not feel alone therefore,
Speaker 1: whilst also outing yourself.
Speaker 2: Look and I feel like like it's happened, you don't
Speaker 2: hasn't happened to you.
Speaker 1: I mean, no one that I know has ever talked
Speaker 1: about it happening. But I mean maybe it's happened and
Speaker 1: people don't admit to it. It.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I've kept that I reckon that was probably
Speaker 2: one of my da that was vaulted. Yeah, that was
Speaker 2: I'm telling my ex and she was like, probably don't
Speaker 2: tell anyone that story. Here I am on a podcast
Speaker 2: telling everyone, not a podcast, our podcast. Yeah true, on
Speaker 2: my podcast telling everyone about it. Geez what look yeah, no,
Speaker 2: I don't judge me. It was I was young. I
Speaker 2: was twenty one. I just you know, had had a
Speaker 2: couple too many beers and no judgment.
Speaker 1: But at least Meg had irritable bounce. She had an
Speaker 1: excuse that does suck for her, like fuck, yeah, well.
Speaker 2: How do you like, you said, how do you get
Speaker 2: around it? What do you do?
Speaker 1: Like? You just have to shower? You just need to change,
Speaker 1: like you need to go home, hey, sap like you did.
Speaker 2: But what do you reckon that? Like if she's had
Speaker 2: a workplace, how do you get around that? Like a
Speaker 2: retail thing? Slap the back in ten minutes, go the
Speaker 2: little shower, Yeah, put the.
Speaker 1: Little put the little side back in thirty minutes and
Speaker 1: then they literally don't come back, and you're like.
Speaker 2: Where I go have a shower, change, Maybe have a
Speaker 2: spare pair of underwear in your.
Speaker 1: In your car pair of underwear and pad. I think
Speaker 1: from now on, Meg.
Speaker 2: Nappy is as black what's the word as it sounds.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be like a nappy. It could
Speaker 1: just be like an oversized like nightpad maybe.
Speaker 2: With Grandma rundies on. Yeah, and then if that happens,
Speaker 2: just throw it out. You could never wear a g stree.
Speaker 1: I'm actually having the worst visuals in my.
Speaker 2: I decided this string this is. We've just really lowered
Speaker 2: the tone of this podcast.
Speaker 1: Move on.
Speaker 2: Okay, So that's all we've got time for on today's
Speaker 2: Hot Loane Guys, As always, we want you to send
Speaker 2: those hotlines and we love hearing. And look, Meg just
Speaker 2: outed herself for shitting herself like it could be anything
Speaker 2: we want to hear from you, guys.
Speaker 1: Okay, guys, until next time, soa bye