Speaker 1: Hi, Chrissy Casters. Are you ready? I asked you to
Speaker 1: ask me anything, and you did in droves. I have
Speaker 1: been swamped by amazing questions, both deep and funny and
Speaker 1: superficial and saucy, and I am going to be working
Speaker 1: through them one by one with the help of my
Speaker 1: new best friend forever. You're going to get to know
Speaker 1: where she's going to be an integral part of the
Speaker 1: Christy Cast. Her name is Rachel. So Hello, Rachel Hello.
Speaker 1: So we're gonna do this similar to the last one.
Speaker 1: You're just going to throw some questions at me. I'm
Speaker 1: going to see where it goes. What do you reckon?
Speaker 2: Already? Set go girlfriend? Well, lug fifteen wants to know
Speaker 2: what is your take on it's better to have loved
Speaker 2: and lost than to never have loved at all.
Speaker 1: Again, this question has vexed me, Looge fifteen. I am
Speaker 1: not sure. Here's a bombshell. I am not one hundred
Speaker 1: percent sure that there is such a thing as romantic love.
Speaker 2: Oh all right?
Speaker 1: Why? I think romantic love, the definition of is different
Speaker 1: for everybody, and I think it actually goes by different adjectives.
Speaker 1: For example, so I've got someone in my mind and
Speaker 1: I know what he I think. I know what he
Speaker 1: thinks love is, and if I needed to define that
Speaker 1: in words, not using the word love, I would say
Speaker 1: that his definition of love is control, and not in
Speaker 1: a bad way, but just.
Speaker 2: Like traditional values control, like you're meant to do.
Speaker 1: X, y Z, yeah, because it's whatever makes that person
Speaker 1: feel good about themselves. So for me, love is total
Speaker 1: acceptance of who I am. That is hard to find
Speaker 1: because that includes finding somebody that understands that I need
Speaker 1: to be alone sometimes not to take that personally. They
Speaker 1: need to know that sometimes I pull an all nighter
Speaker 1: just to change my beds, my kid's bed linen, and
Speaker 1: not to judge me on that. It's like, just leave
Speaker 1: me alone. So what love is to me is acceptance,
Speaker 1: acknowledgment of my independence, acknowledgment also of my physical affection
Speaker 1: for other people. Whereas for somebody else, their definition of
Speaker 1: love might be the feeling they get from being needed,
Speaker 1: the feeling that they get from being relied upon, the
Speaker 1: feeling they get from someone exclusively sharing details of their
Speaker 1: personal lives with them. And I can't offer that either
Speaker 1: because I feel deeply that I belong to everybody, and
Speaker 1: that's hard for some people. To cope with, because, as
Speaker 1: I said, you know, one of my great loves is
Speaker 1: my audience, and I feel very comfortable sharing everything with them,
Speaker 1: and that's hard for some people to deal with.
Speaker 2: Well, I think that love goes hand in hand with
Speaker 2: this next question.
Speaker 1: Yea.
Speaker 2: This is from JFN seventy four and they said, do
Speaker 2: you think that your morals and values have ever changed?
Speaker 2: And what are your top three that help the most?
Speaker 2: And I think that's something that can really change your relationship,
Speaker 2: change life, the way you love.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you're right. See, having children has been
Speaker 1: my greatest adventure and my greatest surprise. And because I'm
Speaker 1: a curious person, I find it deeply fascinating to get
Speaker 1: to know these people that weirdly came out of my body.
Speaker 1: It's so weird, isn't it It is. It's so weird
Speaker 1: that they come from you, but they are not you.
Speaker 1: And I think that was the biggest thing that I learned.
Speaker 1: I always thought I think that children would be somehow
Speaker 1: versions of me, and they most certainly are not. And
Speaker 1: I think that the more I get to know them,
Speaker 1: and the more I get to know myself, I believe
Speaker 1: that we are born with our morals and values. I
Speaker 1: feel like it's like a hard wired set, because otherwise,
Speaker 1: how can I explain how my two year old dealt
Speaker 1: with a situation so differently to another two year old.
Speaker 1: I really feel like you are born with what is
Speaker 1: it called factory settings? Wow, yep, I do. And I
Speaker 1: think that I was born with factory settings, absolutely, and
Speaker 1: that explains why certain situations have always made me uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: Certain personalities have made me uncomfortable right from birth, and
Speaker 1: I can see it in my children as well. So
Speaker 1: I think my values are be kind, Just be kind,
Speaker 1: always go for kindness. Whenever you can accept people for
Speaker 1: who they are. Don't try and change anybody ever. And
Speaker 1: if you can't accept somebody, and this is going to
Speaker 1: sound brutal, cut the matter of your life. Cut them
Speaker 1: out of your life, because otherwise they'll drive you crazy.
Speaker 1: You'll drive each other crazy if there is something about
Speaker 1: somebody that you cannot accept. This is what I do anyway,
Speaker 1: which sounds brutal, But I'm a I'm just a joy seeker,
Speaker 1: you know, and I like the easy road.
Speaker 2: Well D Wallace in nineteen seventy five, This goes well
Speaker 2: with that, because have you ever been religious or spiritual
Speaker 2: in any way, or do you think it's all just
Speaker 2: who you are.
Speaker 1: Well, I don't believe in organized religion, that's for sure.
Speaker 1: I grew up as a Catholic and my kids go
Speaker 1: to Catholic school, so that probably sounds like a crazy irony.
Speaker 1: But what I like about a religious school is that
Speaker 1: you are often made to justify your moral decisions, and
Speaker 1: I liked that about my education. The whole Christian premise
Speaker 1: of do unto others as you would have done to yourself,
Speaker 1: I think is magic and powerful, and regardless of you know,
Speaker 1: Jesus and you whoever said it or whatever you know, God,
Speaker 1: do they exist. But I think that that is a
Speaker 1: really powerful way to live your life. And it makes
Speaker 1: sense to me because it kind of mitigates any sort
Speaker 1: of assholeery, and a Christian education and a Christian ethos
Speaker 1: will give you that. But in terms of mass and
Speaker 1: all of that stuff, no, it's not for me. I
Speaker 1: went to the Vatican City in Rome and it was
Speaker 1: so interesting because it just it just like I was
Speaker 1: angry the whole time I was there, because it was
Speaker 1: the exact kind of opposite of what that specific religion
Speaker 1: kind of purports to be. It was all about showing
Speaker 1: off and greed and money and who has the most staff,
Speaker 1: and yeah, I didn't love it. I did love the concept, though.
Speaker 1: There was this thing called, I don't know, I call
Speaker 1: it the magic Door, and apparently the Pope. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: the Pope decrees at a certain time of a certain year,
Speaker 1: when the moon is round or whatever, this door opens
Speaker 1: and you can walk through this door. And I think
Speaker 1: it's opening this year or next year, and it's going
Speaker 1: to be massive, and pilgrims from all over the world
Speaker 1: are coming. Millions and millions of people are going to
Speaker 1: converge on Vatican City just to walk through this magic
Speaker 1: door that they have to crack open. And the whole
Speaker 1: point of the magic door is that once you walk through,
Speaker 1: all your sins are absolved. Oh so, I know, how
Speaker 1: convenient it's like. It reminds me of those magic car washers.
Speaker 1: You know, your cargoes in dirty and then bang, bang,
Speaker 1: bang comes out the other side clean. How convenient. Nineteen
Speaker 1: dollars bank And I sort of took that and I thought,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna have a magic door at home. So
Speaker 1: I came home and explained it to the kids, and
Speaker 1: then I turned the door from the hallway into the
Speaker 1: living room, into the magic door, and I said, Friday night,
Speaker 1: eight pm, You're going to walk through that and everything
Speaker 1: that you ever feel bad about your whole life so
Speaker 1: far is going to magically go.
Speaker 2: Did it work?
Speaker 1: Yes, it does work, Oh my god, because it's all
Speaker 1: augerdy boogherdy, right, it's all about did you.
Speaker 2: Have to splash water at the door first?
Speaker 1: No, you just had to go. I've done this thing
Speaker 1: and I still don't feel good about it. I'm going
Speaker 1: to walk through the door and it's going to magically go.
Speaker 1: It's going to rub out like those magic erases that
Speaker 1: you know you take the pen off the wall that
Speaker 1: your kids have done. And that's what we did, and
Speaker 1: you can do it at home just instead. Any door
Speaker 1: is a magic door. You don't have to wait for
Speaker 1: the pope to tell you to use it. You can
Speaker 1: do it. Amen. Amen.
Speaker 2: Amen. Well, we are in spooky season, so let's get
Speaker 2: somend spooky religion happening.
Speaker 1: Be sure.
Speaker 2: Kim Furlow wants to know who would win in an
Speaker 2: argument between a ghost and an angel.
Speaker 1: That is very, very tricky. A ghost or an angel.
Speaker 1: I'm going to say a ghost is going to win
Speaker 1: a fight because angels are one type. They're very fairy kind, good,
Speaker 1: probably don't have weapons. What's to say the ghost isn't
Speaker 1: Jeffrey Darmer's ghost and therefore knows his way around creepy shit.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. So I feel like the ghost has more
Speaker 1: opportunity than the angel.
Speaker 2: What if? But like it just him out. Lucifer was
Speaker 2: an angel, So the devil it's an angel technically, like
Speaker 2: what if the Devil and Jeffrey Dharma got in a fight? Ghost?
Speaker 1: I think you've got me on a technicality there, maybe
Speaker 1: depending on what sort of angel it is. Now, I'm
Speaker 1: still going with the serial killer. Now, I'm still going
Speaker 1: with serial killer. But by the way, do you believe
Speaker 1: in ghosts? Oh? One? Why?
Speaker 2: I feel like I've absolutely experienced ghosts.
Speaker 1: I really want to I really want to believe. I
Speaker 1: feel like I have actually experienced a few things that
Speaker 1: don't make sense.
Speaker 2: You need to meet Ange love Apoerre. She's from the
Speaker 2: ABC and she did a whole comedy festival show on
Speaker 2: supernatural ghosts, horror movies, that sort of stuff. And we
Speaker 2: got in a room once and we talked for like
Speaker 2: three hours about spiritual encounters. So encounters with the other side.
Speaker 2: I'm telling you I have had literal things move in
Speaker 2: front of me when there is no way that that
Speaker 2: could have happened any other way. Wow, hang out with
Speaker 2: me more, you'll experience.
Speaker 1: That you'll rub off on me. My question I always
Speaker 1: come back to logic, right, and I feel like, how
Speaker 1: many people have died? Gazillions? Surely if gazillions of ghosts
Speaker 1: are around, there would be way more ghosts than living
Speaker 1: human beings right now on Earth. Surely there would be
Speaker 1: more supernatural happenings.
Speaker 2: But maybe everything that we experience is supernatural, Like when
Speaker 2: a bird flies out of a tree. Why where are
Speaker 2: you going? You've got nowhere to go? What are you
Speaker 2: gonna do with your life? Maybe it's because the ghosts
Speaker 2: went boot know hed my hair down? Ha ha alrighty,
Speaker 2: this one fun at personal question. M Sme and Leanne
Speaker 2: Mcaliffe want to know why do you wear a bum bag?
Speaker 1: Chrissy, great question and as an aside, get on board.
Speaker 1: I wear a bum bag because A I like to
Speaker 1: keep my hands free. I like to keep my hands free,
Speaker 1: and when I have a handbag on, it's irritating on
Speaker 1: my shoulder and it slips off, blah blah blah. Secondly,
Speaker 1: I like to see things from above, and the bum
Speaker 1: bag allows this a bird's eye view, if you will,
Speaker 1: So right now I can see everything.
Speaker 2: What's in there, what's in the bum bags in there.
Speaker 1: I've got my little you know, credit card thing with
Speaker 1: my rewards cards from Woolies and coals and stuff, my
Speaker 1: price lam vouchers because you never know when you need them.
Speaker 1: I've got my car keys, I've got a I've got
Speaker 1: this great lip oil that I'm loving, kind collective. Look,
Speaker 1: I'm going to put it on. Lipoils are great. By
Speaker 1: the way, O looks gorgeous.
Speaker 2: A bit of a tint to it.
Speaker 1: It's a bit of a tint. It looks darker in
Speaker 1: the bottle than it is on your lips. But it
Speaker 1: feels nourishing and it's sort of bury. It reminds me
Speaker 1: of a strawberry shortcake when I was growing up. And
Speaker 1: you know, I've got my car keys. I've got you know,
Speaker 1: a footy card. I've got to remember to post because
Speaker 1: my daughter's got a little eBay store where she sells things.
Speaker 1: I've got my security pass for work. I've got all
Speaker 1: my essentials that I don't have to dig around in
Speaker 1: the bottom of a handbag to find and it works
Speaker 1: for me. I love it and I never ever have
Speaker 1: it off. I never have it all. I never have
Speaker 1: it off. But I also I never have my bum
Speaker 1: bag off. And I'm talking. When it's cold and I'm
Speaker 1: at home and I wear an udi, I have it
Speaker 1: around my udi. I feel like Santa. It's nipped in
Speaker 1: at the waist. I always have it on me. It's
Speaker 1: the first thing I put on. I have it on
Speaker 1: me when I'm doing housework. I have it on me
Speaker 1: when I'm walking, I have it on me at work.
Speaker 1: I have it on me all the time. And I
Speaker 1: feel like it is a game changer. And I have
Speaker 1: started giving people. Look, I'll give you an exclusive, Rachel,
Speaker 1: give you an exclusive. I have designed my own range,
Speaker 1: I know, and they are at my house. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: and I'm about to launch them. And they have everything
Speaker 1: that you would ever want. I have worn the proto
Speaker 1: type every day for two years, so I can vouch
Speaker 1: for these, okay, and they are going to change your life.
Speaker 1: End of story. There's even a little clip inside it
Speaker 1: to put your trolley key on. I'll get out.
Speaker 2: That's amazing.
Speaker 1: So you never have to, like, you know, be a
Speaker 1: pack horse at Aldi or Coals or Woolies or the
Speaker 1: Ida or wherever you choose to shop. I mean, I've
Speaker 1: just thought of everything, all right, So stay tuned. I've
Speaker 1: got to work out how to do this, how to
Speaker 1: launch it, you know, I've got a lot on my plate.
Speaker 1: And that's it for another episode of the Chrissy Cast
Speaker 1: Live from the Compound, that very special Ask Me Anything series.
Speaker 1: There is another one coming at you, but I'm going
Speaker 1: to need a little lie down in a cup of
Speaker 1: tea first