WEBVTT - HOW TO SPICE THINGS UP WHEN DISTANCE GETS IN THE WAY 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.000 I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming. 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:05.960 She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of 0:00:06.000 --> 0:00:08.240 my kissing style with a. 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:10.559 Boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:11.639 He's in a trash bin. 0:00:11.720 --> 0:00:13.840 He's non recyclable. Catching them up. 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:17.200 I love being love. I love love. 0:00:17.880 --> 0:00:20.280 On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we are 0:00:20.280 --> 0:00:24.200 discussing all things long distance relationships. After Matt and I 0:00:24.239 --> 0:00:26.080 have been apart for the past three weeks. 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:28.880 We'll take a look at how long distance relationships work 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:31.920 and where the absence really does make the heart grow fonder. 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:39.319 Where's Your Head At is a podcast that talks all 0:00:39.400 --> 0:00:44.720 things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between. 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:47.680 This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip, 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:50.000 intimate details, advice, and much more. 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:57.520 Hello, Matt, I've just spilt my coffee all over our 0:00:57.600 --> 0:00:58.640 podcasting table. 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:01.440 Sorry about that smell like coffee, though, I do like 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:05.240 that smell. How you going. I'm good. We're back in 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.720 the studio and we've listened to you guys, and we're 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:09.200 doing a topic episode. 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:12.960 I know. So we put a poll on our Facebook 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:17.959 page and we thought for sure that the hotlines we're 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:20.560 gonna win, Like everyone loves the hot lines because we've 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:23.640 had so much good feedback. But actually the winner was 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:27.559 a topic episode followed closely behind by a hot line 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:29.240 and then an interview. 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:31.520 Well, let's not take away from our guests. We've had 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:34.000 some beautiful guests over the time. But you guys just 0:01:34.000 --> 0:01:35.600 want to hear us talk about topics, don't you. 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:38.919 I guess the thing about guests is maybe some people 0:01:39.040 --> 0:01:40.880 might not know some of the guests or they might 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:44.240 have less interest, whereas like a topic is always interesting. 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:48.760 So anyway, we have been separated for about three weeks, 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:53.600 which is a long time for our platonic friendship to 0:01:53.840 --> 0:01:57.520 endure us. Not long enough, no, because we're on the 0:01:57.600 --> 0:02:01.320 phone like every single day, like certantly talking about the podcast. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:03.920 We're constantly like in communication, and we kind of had 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:05.840 a bit of a break, to. 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:07.559 Be fair, I didn't think it was that long because 0:02:07.560 --> 0:02:09.360 we're always in touch, and then it was brought to 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:09.959 our at tension. 0:02:10.240 --> 0:02:12.640 Yeah, So I was in Hamilton Island and then I 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:15.280 came back and then it was the Easter break and 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:20.519 I went to Mildura. Michael is going to Sydney coming 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:24.320 up for a work conference which he missed last year 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:26.480 because we were in Bali, but this year he'll be 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:29.240 going anyway. I looked at the dates because Matt and 0:02:29.240 --> 0:02:32.200 I are actually planning another Sydney trip but during Sydney 0:02:32.200 --> 0:02:32.840 Fashion Week. 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:33.640 Excited for that. 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:37.640 Yeah, and then I realized that Michael's conference is the 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:39.920 week before, which means that he'll go to Sydney for 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:43.320 the week, come home, and then on the Monday, I'll 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:44.760 go to Sydney with you for the week. 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:46.960 When you sent me the dates, I thought they were 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:51.760 crossing over. No, okay, they crossed over, So I was 0:02:51.800 --> 0:02:52.840 like that will work then. 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.440 Yeah, and so we were like, oh, that's so annoying. 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:57.239 We're going to be separated for a couple of weeks. 0:02:57.400 --> 0:02:59.720 I mean we have been separated before. We got separated 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:03.239 where and I got separated and like so like dramatic. 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:06.239 People who actually have been in a long distance relationships 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:10.079 are probably like shut up, shut up, But we did. 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:14.080 I went to the UK last year and then Dubai. 0:03:14.760 --> 0:03:15.440 How long was that? 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:19.239 It was about three weeks. I'm pretty sure what felt 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:20.000 like a long time. 0:03:20.120 --> 0:03:22.760 Would you guys do to like keep it going, like 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:24.760 keep you know, staying touch in that because the time 0:03:24.760 --> 0:03:28.000 difference is pretty difficult. I remember you go to trouble 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:28.320 with it. 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:31.600 Yeah, the time difference is really hard. I think it's 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:34.280 kind of funny because Michael, he just ended up like 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:36.720 when I would wake up, I would call him, and 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:39.240 then he'd end up like staying awake during the middle 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:42.440 of the night. So like when I actually came home 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:46.000 from being overseas, I was like, I'm so jet lagged, 0:03:46.000 --> 0:03:48.080 and He's like, yeah, me too, because he'd been like 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:50.480 half in the middle of the night, like because he 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:52.480 just wanted to talk to me, which was very sweet 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:55.160 and very cute. But obviously that was only for a 0:03:55.280 --> 0:03:59.280 very small three week period. So I guess we kind 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:03.000 of wanted to chat today about what it really is 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:05.960 like to be in a long distance relationship. Have either 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:08.840 of us been in a long distance relationship and everything 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:15.680 in between? Let's jump in, okay, Matt, So have you 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:18.520 ever been in a long distance relationship? 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:23.600 Look at that? Yes I have. So I actually was 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:27.760 in a long distance relationship. This is actually you remember this, 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:30.160 don't you. It was what it's two years ago exactly 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:32.240 to the point, because I remember I was chatting with 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:35.520 her watching the Anzac day game. It was actually two 0:04:35.640 --> 0:04:38.960 years to the day. So do you know McKenzie Ditman 0:04:39.080 --> 0:04:42.080 from Love Island, US, Well, I mean I. 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:45.080 Do know her because you told me about it. For 0:04:45.200 --> 0:04:48.840 everyone listening, you can probably so find her online. 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:52.839 I slid into her DMS around that time, and we 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:56.360 chatted and like we were very chatting, Like I remember 0:04:57.000 --> 0:04:59.760 you were very chatting, well, like pretty intensely. Yeah, like 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:02.120 so I was. Remember it was during like still borders 0:05:02.120 --> 0:05:04.200 were closed, so like I was trying to get her 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:09.080 like a through my dad's work, a visa two. Yeah, 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:10.640 she didn't know that. I didn't know that. 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:11.440 I don't know that. 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:13.720 I was getting my dad to try like figure out 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:15.839 a visa like as so she could work and you know, 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:17.560 still be yeah. 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:18.799 At the full company. 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:20.880 Yeah, so she'd be like in the office, I guess, 0:05:20.880 --> 0:05:22.720 taking like payroll, working and then she could come into 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:23.200 the country. 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:26.560 So hold on, let's just rewind because Matt jumps like 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:28.640 a thousand miles ahead because I didn't even know this 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:33.359 was happening. So you slid into her DMS and what 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:34.000 did you say. 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.200 I'm notinety nine percent sure it was a flame reaction, right, So. 0:05:39.160 --> 0:05:43.240 You flame reacted, and then the conversation obviously unraveled. From then, 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:46.560 how did it become just like chatting in the DMS 0:05:46.600 --> 0:05:48.880 to something more serious very quickly. 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:52.640 I think that it was maybe like a day or 0:05:52.680 --> 0:05:56.800 two that we moved from the DMS to I said, 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:58.880 I was just like, I'll call you, yeah, and then 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:01.279 she was like chatted on the phone. Yeah. I was like, 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:03.479 I'll call you, and I was driving. I remember I 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:06.880 was driving and I called her, and I remember she 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:08.640 said it didn't go through because I didn't know how 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:11.240 to call an international number at the time, so like 0:06:11.279 --> 0:06:13.320 we did, do you call an international Well, I thought 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:16.880 it was just normally you do it on FaceTime, fame 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:18.280 audio or whatever. So I just called it and it 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:19.840 wasn't going through, and I was sort of driving, so 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:23.200 I'm conscious of not being on my phone, and I 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:25.120 remember she said that, like she told her family I 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:27.039 was calling her and they were like, oh, yeah, like 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:29.200 this is exciting. And then I just didn't call it 0:06:29.200 --> 0:06:30.760 because it didn't go through because I was driving. I 0:06:30.760 --> 0:06:32.440 didn't send a message anything much of it, you know 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:35.039 what I mean, Like it's early days. But then I 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:39.280 finally forgur playing it from the other side. 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:40.960 Of the world's calling. 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:45.080 Du Yeah, So then I got through we started chatting. 0:06:45.160 --> 0:06:48.440 What we found that we could chat on was American football, 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:51.960 So my love for American football. You do love American Yeah, 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:54.479 she lived in Arizona, so like we talked about them, 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:57.200 the Cardinals and all that sort of stuff. And then 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.320 I talked to her about AFL, try teacher about that. 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:00.800 I remember that was really earlier. I sent her a 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:03.440 video about AFL and then. 0:07:03.360 --> 0:07:05.800 Yeah, we just connected on your love of sport. 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:08.640 A love of sport. Yeah, do you you like we 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:11.280 were chatting pretty intensely for a long time, Like I 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:13.760 reckon it was two months, like we were even like 0:07:13.880 --> 0:07:15.600 this is how wild. We hadn't even met, and we 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:19.800 were like exclusive, like weren't like sleeping getting with other people, 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:21.400 talking to other people. It was pretty intense. 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:25.320 Yeah, I do remember that it's wild that needed to 0:07:25.320 --> 0:07:27.840 be exclusive with someone who you've never met. I mean, 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:31.080 I guess you see it on the not that this 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.760 was a catfish situation, but I mean on catfish people 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:35.600 in relationships for like six years. 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:37.680 Do you remind me of like catfish sort of thing? 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:40.680 Because you guys video chatted, video chatted a lot. I 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:43.880 mean I remember once I got into your car, I 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:45.800 don't know where we were going, probably the podcast. 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:48.560 No podcast wasn't around them, wasn't it. 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:52.800 Okay, I got into your car and she was on 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:55.080 the phone, and she had like she was like, hey 0:07:55.200 --> 0:07:57.800 Anna in her American accent, and I was like, hey 0:07:58.320 --> 0:07:59.720 what an American accent? 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:02.560 Yeah. So, like we do different things to like, you know, 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:05.080 make the relationship work. I would still go on dates. 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:07.280 Well, how would you go on a date if you're 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:11.280 in a long distance relationship for America to Australia. 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:14.120 So we would obviously because of the time difference, it 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:17.679 was pretty brutal, and I didn't me being meetn't give much. 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:19.000 So like I was like, all right, well, when I'm 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:20.880 having dinner, you have dinner. So it would probably be 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:22.680 like two o'clock in the morning, four o'clock in the 0:08:22.680 --> 0:08:23.440 morning there. 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:25.880 So she was having dinner at four o'clock in the. 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:27.120 Morning something like that. 0:08:27.200 --> 0:08:29.040 Yeah, I don't do you want to do the fucking 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:29.840 late shift. 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:32.960 I'd work and stuff like I had to get up 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:34.880 for work. So it all worked out. 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:37.120 But she'd make a fake dinner or she'd eat actually 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:37.560 eat dinner. 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:39.280 I think she'd eat dinner and then so like we 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:42.040 do stuff that we could both order. So we did 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:44.960 Domino's on time, we did like KFC or market. Yeah, 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:47.400 so stuff that we could both have the same thing 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:49.560 and we'd FaceTime and eat together and just chat. 0:08:50.160 --> 0:08:53.719 That's quite cute, Matt. Yeah. See I loved the imagination, 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:54.480 did you? 0:08:54.880 --> 0:08:57.600 And yeah, handle it dinner. 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:04.120 He's a man to get hot, So you obviously really 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:04.439 liked it. 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:07.040 Yeah, I did you in your. 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:13.000 Mind obviously when you entered into this exclusive long distance relationship, 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:16.600 were you thinking, look, the borders are going to open soon. 0:09:16.960 --> 0:09:19.600 Were you planning on going there? Was she planning on 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:22.600 going coming to Australia? What was the deal? 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:25.280 It was a bit of both, like neither of us. 0:09:25.400 --> 0:09:27.080 I sort of didn't say I was going to go 0:09:27.120 --> 0:09:28.800 over there because I had work and other stuff, this 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:31.360 podcast in the pipeline and all that sort of stuff. 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.679 So I wasn't so And I'd already been to America, 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:37.880 so I wasn't so like just going there. But I 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:40.120 said I'll go and like go over there. If the 0:09:40.160 --> 0:09:42.280 borders were open, it would have been a completely different story. 0:09:42.280 --> 0:09:43.599 I would have flown over the next I would have 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:46.080 flown over that week. Yeah, I would have flown over 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:48.800 the next day, but the borders weren't open, so it 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:50.720 was like I would if I flew over, I had 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:52.520 to be there for three months or something. I can't 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:54.880 remember the regulations at the time, so it was something 0:09:54.920 --> 0:09:56.240 like that. I was like, well, I can't really go 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:58.280 there for three months, like you can come here for 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:01.240 an extending amount of time. She was more gonna come here. 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:03.960 But then like there was so strict on the borders 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:05.360 that we were looking into it. You needed like a 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:08.440 working visa and all this sort of stuff. So and 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:10.200 we were always saying the borders will open soon, They're 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:11.800 open soon, and it turns out that you're open for 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:15.920 another year. Wow, So lucky, Yeah, lucky. It's sort of 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.760 we fizzled. We fizzled out eventually, Like it just sort. 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:20.760 Of like I made it fizzle out. 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:24.360 To be fair, I'm pretty sure she ghosted me. It 0:10:24.440 --> 0:10:26.560 was just like it just wasn't working like the whole 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:29.600 like we couldn't see anything like that. 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:33.920 You were being slack and that's why, Yeah, that's not 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:36.480 let's not paying yourself as a victim. 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:39.680 Yeah, I was being shitty like I was. I could 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:42.520 see that there was no like it was there was 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:45.080 no end in sight. So I sort of, yeah, got shitty, 0:10:45.160 --> 0:10:47.040 like not shitty towards it, but like I was getting 0:10:47.080 --> 0:10:48.120 her toward the situation. 0:10:48.720 --> 0:10:51.240 Yeah, so she didn't go into that a bit more 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:52.679 like what kind of happened? 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:55.280 To be fair, I don't really remember, do you remember? 0:10:55.720 --> 0:11:02.920 Not really? I just remember that she was annoyed at you, 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:06.319 and I think you were kind of taking a step back. Yeah, memory, 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:09.079 but I can't like specifically remember details. 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.880 Well, I've got a message that says, fuck, she's going 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:14.600 to Crispin if she ever hears this. I said, what's wrong? 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:16.719 Said nothing? All good talk later. Don't tell me you're 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:19.360 clearly not happy. I'm not happy. We just didn't talk 0:11:19.400 --> 0:11:21.320 today because you blew me off, which is fine because 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:23.840 we're casual now. But I'm busy tomorrow so we may 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:24.480 not talk then. 0:11:25.160 --> 0:11:27.240 So obviously the long distance kind of got in the 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:32.880 way the way I guess what happened? Question when the 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:38.720 borders did open? What was your kind of relationship status? 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:43.600 Well, I was with Jen right, got you? Yeah, so 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:46.760 I remember that the borders opened. I did think to 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:49.440 myself about it. She actually sent me a photo that 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:50.400 the borders had opened. 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:50.880 Wow. 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:53.160 I ignored it, obviously because I was in a relationship 0:11:53.240 --> 0:11:56.480 with Jen yep, but I acknowledged it in my mind 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:58.839 and I was like, oh yeah, and then nothing. I 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:00.600 think she no, she was going to come out to 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:02.360 Australia and was going to catch up with my family 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:05.679 because she actually had met my family over FaceTime, so 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:06.680 she was friendly with them. 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:08.120 That is so weird. 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:12.400 I don't find weird. Yeah, I don't find that weird 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:12.720 at all. 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:15.199 Well, meeting someone face some one time and they're going 0:12:15.200 --> 0:12:16.760 to catch up with them, Yeah. 0:12:16.600 --> 0:12:18.360 I don't think it's weird. I think it's like they 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:24.320 got along. I would you're in a foreign country, you know, 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:25.120 like some. 0:12:24.960 --> 0:12:27.319 People they're like, yeah, I get that, Like I definitely 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:29.480 get the fact that, like you're trying to bit I 0:12:29.559 --> 0:12:31.120 mean you're in a relationship. 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:33.400 Yeah, I mean yeah. So that sort of happened and 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:36.679 then we and then we just think, yeah, it was 0:12:36.720 --> 0:12:37.760 pretty shame that that was just. 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:40.680 The timing was off. Timing is off. 0:12:40.960 --> 0:12:41.960 The timing is everything. 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:45.240 Timing is everything. We've spoken about that a lot, and 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:48.440 I mean, what can you do if the borders are 0:12:48.480 --> 0:12:49.920 close and there's nowhere to go? 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:51.640 Well, like I said, if the borders were open, I 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:54.400 would have flown over there. Literally, this is like imagine right, 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:56.600 like if I was in that situation, I'd just fly 0:12:56.720 --> 0:13:00.520 straight over. Like I've got no qualms jumping on a plane. 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:02.120 I actually enjoy jumping on planes. 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:06.480 I'm saving my penny and how should I want to 0:13:06.520 --> 0:13:10.120 go to LA at the moment? Yeah, you like, we 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:12.280 do other things as well, Like I remember we would 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:15.120 start movies at the same time, at the exact same time, 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:17.400 press play and watch them at the same time. 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:19.439 And TV shows. 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:23.720 Didn't you have a bath together ones? I'm sure you 0:13:23.760 --> 0:13:25.200 like put rose petals. 0:13:24.880 --> 0:13:27.640 In your I think that sounds familiar. 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:33.040 Yeah, I'm yeah, that's so mad of mat. 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:38.800 We'd also do like romantic things, like right before we finished, 0:13:39.280 --> 0:13:42.240 she sent me a box and it had like her 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:45.120 favorite snacks in there. It had like a nice cool 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:49.080 T shirt. I don't think I've worn that yet get 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:51.760 it out, had like her favorite snacks. It had she 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:54.120 was just in a magazine, so she sent me the magazine, 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:56.839 which was really sweet. She also sent me a pair 0:13:56.840 --> 0:14:03.480 of her underwear. It's pretty sweet. Carry else was in there, 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:05.040 some sweet stuff and they're like it was really cute, 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:07.320 and I was actually putting together one for her I 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:11.280 had tim Tams VEGGIEMI like the equivalent of the snacks 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:12.559 that we have of hers in there. 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:15.000 Hold on, I'm still in the underwear thing. I have 0:14:15.120 --> 0:14:18.320 not heard anything that you said. I think I heard 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:20.800 tim tawn at one point. Were they used under it? 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:24.280 No, they weren't. They weren't used, and they were sprayed 0:14:24.320 --> 0:14:27.720 in her perfume. So so you did smell, well, it 0:14:27.760 --> 0:14:30.320 was when you opened them you could smell it, and 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:34.640 it was coming from them. It was nice, so sweet, romantic, romantic, 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:36.359 Like I said, putting. 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:38.000 A good pair of my underwrown a box and sending 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:39.520 it to the other side of the world, I'd be 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:42.360 wearing them. It's true, this is true, but I mean, 0:14:42.400 --> 0:14:45.720 look it is yeah, like since they're not worn and used, 0:14:45.760 --> 0:14:46.680 it is quite sweet. 0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:48.680 And then I was packing on for her, so I 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:51.080 put the equivalent of the version of her snack that 0:14:51.120 --> 0:14:54.440 she liked in there with watching the Mandalorian at the 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:57.280 time together, So I had like a baby Yoda that 0:14:57.360 --> 0:14:59.840 probably doesn't mean anything to you, but like it's like 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:02.240 the things I had a soft plush toy of that. 0:15:02.960 --> 0:15:05.480 She collects Starbucks mugs from every city she went to. 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:07.800 So I brought her a Melbourne one cue. I that 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:10.360 in there, but we stopped talking before I could send 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:10.800 that off. 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:12.080 She still got it. 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:14.000 I had it in my room for a while because 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:17.520 I moved out within the week with my mates at 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:18.920 the time, because I moved out, so it was sitting 0:15:18.920 --> 0:15:21.160 in my bedroom at my mum's for a while because 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:24.640 obviously wasn't there right. And then eventually, I think like 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.400 Christmas time, so like nearly a year later, I was 0:15:27.440 --> 0:15:29.800 just eventually these things to go, like it's like it's 0:15:30.360 --> 0:15:33.440 with gen now this is clearly not and it ain't 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:34.760 going anywhere. Wow. 0:15:35.040 --> 0:15:40.520 We that's so interesting. Yeah, So when obviously it started 0:15:40.560 --> 0:15:44.480 to fizzle out, was there a talk of the fact 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:47.440 that you guys were no longer exclusive or did it just. 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:49.760 I think it just fizzled. I think there was talk 0:15:49.840 --> 0:15:50.160 of it. 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:53.280 I don't remember the in that message before she did 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:55.960 say I know we're casual now. Maybe it was kind 0:15:55.960 --> 0:15:56.640 of spoken about. 0:15:57.280 --> 0:15:59.600 I don't remember things. I remember getting really jealous though. 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:00.520 Really. 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:04.400 Yeah, it's well, my love language is obviously quality time 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:10.120 and intimate touch. So intimacy, yeah, touching like intimacy. Yeah, 0:16:10.160 --> 0:16:12.760 it's just funny, it's fun Yeah, So like none of 0:16:12.760 --> 0:16:16.120 that really like hurt like that. So I struggled with 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:18.160 and then to know that she was going out and 0:16:18.280 --> 0:16:20.560 at the time, I wasn't really going out. I was 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:23.240 like sort of standing, you're in COVID lockdown, COVID lockdown, 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:25.080 So I was like knuckling down saving all that sort 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.440 of stuff as well. So she was like going out 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:29.360 like flying. I remember to New York when we came 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:31.360 to Miami, and I was sort of just like this sucks, 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:32.440 Like I'm just sitting here. 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:35.600 Who you're meeting and who with the people you're with? 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:37.880 Yeah, and I'm jealous of the best. 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:42.080 Of times speaking to the choiet preaching. Yeah no, but 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:45.240 like it's kind of true. It's like even if you're 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:48.960 it's not like an attractive male that she's hanging out with, 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:51.720 it you're jealous, it's still like you're jealous of the 0:16:51.800 --> 0:16:54.480 time she's spending with other people because you don't get 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:55.160 to spend that time. 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:57.600 It's exactly what I said. I was like, I'd love 0:16:57.640 --> 0:16:59.520 to be spending this time, and it just hurts it 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:01.360 like other people get to do you know what I mean? 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:03.720 Yeah, And I think that's one of the most challenging 0:17:03.760 --> 0:17:08.200 things about long distance relationships is the jealousy. That's the 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:11.000 There was a study done where people spoke about the 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:14.280 feeling that they feel the most in long distance relationships, 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:18.200 and the number one thing that keeps popping up is jealousy. 0:17:18.320 --> 0:17:21.720 Is the jealousy of the other people around you and 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:23.880 the time that people are spending with you and they're 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:25.760 not getting to see you and spend that time with 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:28.040 you not feeling like a priority. Yeah. 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:29.840 And then they've obviously got other things going on in 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:32.240 their life over there which you can't be involved in. 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:35.119 So like at the time she was well share, she 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:37.119 had her she was doing all her stuff over there, 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:38.359 and I wanted to be a part of it obviously, 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:42.840 you know when you like someone, Yeah, like stuff and 0:17:42.880 --> 0:17:46.520 what they're doing absolutely okay. So there's seven stages to 0:17:46.720 --> 0:17:50.080 a long distance relationship when you first initiate it. So 0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:52.280 we're now talking from the side of when you're in 0:17:52.320 --> 0:17:55.800 a relationship, and then you are going to be long distance, 0:17:55.880 --> 0:17:58.320 so you're living together or you're in the same town 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:03.320 the same area. So the first step is decision. You're 0:18:03.280 --> 0:18:06.000