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Speaker 1: Apodje Production.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to the Sheep Risers Podcast. I'm Ashy and I'm Tiana.

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Speaker 3: This podcast is about female empowerment and encouraging you to

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Speaker 3: be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic version of yourself.

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Speaker 2: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone

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Speaker 2: else is too afraid to talk about. Get ready for

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Speaker 2: your next level of self.

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Speaker 4: Let's talk about sex, baby, Let's talk about you and me.

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Speaker 3: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. From wherever it is

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Speaker 3: you're plugging into this episode from back with your hosts

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Speaker 3: Ashley and Tiana for another episode, we want to talk

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Speaker 3: about sex today.

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Speaker 2: We love talking about sex. You guys love hearing about

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Speaker 2: it because it's always our most downloaded episode.

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Speaker 3: But you know also why we love it because it

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Speaker 3: is so taboo that everyone is so scared of touching

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Speaker 3: this topic. And it's just not something that we are

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Speaker 3: scared of touching this topic or rubbing, okay, so penetrating today.

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Speaker 3: So we want to talk about what happens when desire

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Speaker 3: goes out in your intimate relationship with yourself and when

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Speaker 3: you feel like you're really struggling to connect with emotion,

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Speaker 3: sex and intimacy as a whole. So we're going to

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Speaker 3: give you our top ten tips of how we both

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Speaker 3: in our own ways connect to our selves sex and

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Speaker 3: intimacy as a whole, and what you can do to

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Speaker 3: kind of like get that flowback.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because I think of all the time we were like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I've just got a really low libido, and I'm like,

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Speaker 2: do you or are there some things missing with yourself

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Speaker 2: with your partner, communication, resentment, like talking about your desires, kids,

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Speaker 2: justsregulated nervous system. Like I don't like that blanket statement

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Speaker 2: of like I just have a low libido, Like there's

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Speaker 2: reasons why you're not desiring sex and you're not enjoying it.

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Speaker 2: And I believe there's so many different things you can

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Speaker 2: do to get back in touch with your body, desire it,

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Speaker 2: and actually really enjoy it. Yeah, I'm a mom of two.

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Speaker 2: I get it. There's different phases you go through where

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Speaker 2: your kids are up all night, they're sick, you both work,

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Speaker 2: and you come home you've got nothing left at the

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Speaker 2: end of the day. I totally get that feeling. I've

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Speaker 2: been those spaces before as well. But I also know

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Speaker 2: that you've actively got to put energy into it, otherwise

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Speaker 2: it does die off. Yeah, and you make up stories

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Speaker 2: as to why you're not connected. But it's so important

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Speaker 2: for your intimate relationship. Otherwise you're just passing ships or

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Speaker 2: It doesn't feel good for anyone. Yeah, having sexual sensual

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Speaker 2: energy is a life force.

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Speaker 2: It makes you feel so good, it makes you feel

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Speaker 2: super connected. It's good for your health, it's good for

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Speaker 2: stress relief, good for sleep's skin and glow everything. It's pleasure. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but all of us really enjoy doing Yet we make

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Speaker 2: up so many stories as to why we can't explore that,

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Speaker 2: why we can't deepen that, how many times we should

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Speaker 2: be doing it each week, and get so much in

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Speaker 3: Yes, and I think it's sometimes really sad when you know,

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Speaker 3: with your partner impacts everything.

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Speaker 3: But when you're connected to sex, intimacy and your partner,

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Speaker 2: So the number one thing we've got down is if

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Speaker 2: then I've got more to overpour into my relationship. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But if I don't communicate that, I just suffer in

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Speaker 3: Oh and it's so different when you're emotionally present, just

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Speaker 3: if I've been dysregulated, that day or that afternoon, and

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Speaker 2: So what would you do if you were in that stage?

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Speaker 3: I talk about it, Yeah, because as soon as I

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Speaker 1: And then immediately I soften, it dissolves.

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Speaker 2: It dissolves because I'm like, Okay, cool, now we've worked

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Speaker 1: So just letting them into how you're letting them in.

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Speaker 3: And before like obviously we were like lying down on

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Speaker 3: in that moment. But it was like, there's no way

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Speaker 2: I love that. That's really beautiful, something that really helps

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Speaker 2: me get out of my head. Is obviously running a business.

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's quite masculine. You've got a to

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Speaker 2: do lists, there's deadlines, there's stress. You're in your head

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Speaker 2: a lot, you're figuring out, you're solving problems, putting out

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Speaker 2: like it'll be having a warm shower, putting on a silking,

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Speaker 2: lighting a candle, rubbing my favorite body oil, in, taking

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Speaker 2: to shower and do all that and then putting some

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Speaker 2: music on just changes my mood, changes the energy, and

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Speaker 2: it just makes me feel more ready and present. To

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Speaker 2: but I actually want to really be there and really

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Speaker 2: and He's like, lay down, I gut youa you know. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, the communication.

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Speaker 2: Communicate exactly what you need or if like one's really tired,

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Speaker 2: exactly where you're at and what you need and each

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Speaker 2: given moment and not carrying any shame for that. But

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Speaker 2: openly communicating is so important.

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Speaker 3: You feel like that's been a big factor into you

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Speaker 3: guys learning each other definitely, let being able to navigate

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Speaker 3: the transitions between different moods.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and we're very, very open. I feel very lucky.

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Speaker 2: There's never ever been any pressure on Steve's side, Like,

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Speaker 2: no matter how I'm feeling, He'll never ever pressure me

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Speaker 2: make feel bad yeah, around sex, which makes me soften

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Speaker 2: so much anyway, because there isn't ever that pressure and

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Speaker 2: he's such a pleaser. He always just wants to make

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Speaker 2: sure that I'm feeling really good and that I'm in

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Speaker 2: full pleasure. So just so beautiful and quite lucky in

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Speaker 2: that sense. But that's just for me. I know that

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Speaker 2: I just do a couple of things for myself to

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Speaker 2: connect with me that over pause into him. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: If a man's pressuring you make you feel guilty, like

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Speaker 3: what my previous oh someone good day did Fox don't recommend?

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Speaker 2: Do you not recommend?

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Speaker 3: Like literally made me feel guilty and like caused fights

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Speaker 3: because I wouldn't want to Yeah, no, thank you anyway.

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Speaker 3: Side No, So something that really helps me is like

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Speaker 3: touch without an agenda. So I find it kind of

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Speaker 3: similar to what you were saying about a transition period.

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Speaker 3: I find for me, I operate a lot in my

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Speaker 3: all the things I have to actively soften into my

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Speaker 3: think like touch without an agenda, And what I mean

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Speaker 3: by that is like a quick little message on the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it is. It should be an experience,

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Speaker 2: No, you know, I think a lot of men need

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Speaker 3: be intimate.

432
00:18:17,681 --> 00:18:19,721
Speaker 1: Like they just they just do you know what I mean,

433
00:18:19,761 --> 00:18:20,961
Speaker 1: Like they just knew like.

434
00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:23,160
Speaker 3: If there was a certain type of like tone or

435
00:18:23,241 --> 00:18:25,281
Speaker 3: like this, it was like they were craving closeness, but

436
00:18:25,281 --> 00:18:26,761
Speaker 3: they didn't know how to ask for it in the moment.

437
00:18:26,801 --> 00:18:28,521
Speaker 3: So they just kind of had this like rule where

438
00:18:28,521 --> 00:18:31,041
Speaker 3: it was like, you know, obviously life happens and all

439
00:18:31,041 --> 00:18:31,961
Speaker 3: the things, but it was like, no.

440
00:18:31,921 --> 00:18:32,761
Speaker 1: Longer than four days.

441
00:18:32,801 --> 00:18:35,121
Speaker 3: Yeah, because if they're no longer than four days, they're

442
00:18:35,120 --> 00:18:40,120
Speaker 3: getting disconnected. They're creating separation and space between them. They're

443
00:18:40,441 --> 00:18:43,120
Speaker 3: more snappy, they're not as respectful to each other because

444
00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:45,920
Speaker 3: they'd like need and desire that level of closeness and

445
00:18:45,921 --> 00:18:48,840
Speaker 3: being emotionally plugged in that way. And I was just like,

446
00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:50,440
Speaker 3: I thought it was so funny because it was like

447
00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:52,881
Speaker 3: this unspoken rule that they had, but it was also

448
00:18:52,961 --> 00:18:55,440
Speaker 3: a conversation and the like, cool, I know you're just

449
00:18:55,561 --> 00:18:57,801
Speaker 3: being rude and snappy because.

450
00:18:57,600 --> 00:18:59,241
Speaker 2: You're better after you need to have sex.

451
00:18:59,400 --> 00:18:59,600
Speaker 3: Yep.

452
00:18:59,721 --> 00:19:01,761
Speaker 2: You know that Jake Woodward that I really like on

453
00:19:01,761 --> 00:19:03,480
Speaker 2: social media. A lot of people don't like him, and

454
00:19:03,521 --> 00:19:05,041
Speaker 2: I understand why. He's very triggering.

455
00:19:05,080 --> 00:19:05,801
Speaker 1: I'm controversial.

456
00:19:05,921 --> 00:19:06,401
Speaker 2: I love him.

457
00:19:06,481 --> 00:19:07,000
Speaker 1: It's so good.

458
00:19:07,041 --> 00:19:09,321
Speaker 2: They have a seventy two hour rule. They ever not

459
00:19:09,360 --> 00:19:12,161
Speaker 2: have sex longer than seventy two hours. So I think

460
00:19:12,201 --> 00:19:13,680
Speaker 2: Steve and I would probably be like a week. I

461
00:19:13,681 --> 00:19:16,081
Speaker 2: don't think many times where we go longer than a week,

462
00:19:16,521 --> 00:19:19,281
Speaker 2: as is seventy two hours, but yeah, longer than a week,

463
00:19:19,281 --> 00:19:20,201
Speaker 2: and then there's a conversation.

464
00:19:20,321 --> 00:19:22,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, how we're both feeling. Yeah, it's within a healthy

465
00:19:22,441 --> 00:19:23,001
Speaker 3: life time frame.

466
00:19:23,120 --> 00:19:25,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's good to talk about what is your timeline

467
00:19:25,481 --> 00:19:26,721
Speaker 2: because I don't think it needs to be a rule

468
00:19:26,721 --> 00:19:29,160
Speaker 2: the same for every relationship because everyone's different. Yeah, but

469
00:19:29,281 --> 00:19:31,321
Speaker 2: it's good to know each other and when goes too.

470
00:19:31,201 --> 00:19:34,961
Speaker 3: Far, also regimented, either what's our range, yes, what's our range?

471
00:19:34,961 --> 00:19:36,961
Speaker 3: And what works for us, like what works for Jake

472
00:19:37,001 --> 00:19:39,120
Speaker 3: and his wife exactly, doesn't work maybe not work for

473
00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:41,201
Speaker 3: you guys, and like it's just depending on the unique

474
00:19:41,241 --> 00:19:42,400
Speaker 3: situation for sure.

475
00:19:43,041 --> 00:19:44,281
Speaker 1: So on top of that, I.

476
00:19:44,241 --> 00:19:46,840
Speaker 3: Think another really beautiful thing is, like in the moment

477
00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:49,561
Speaker 3: when you're being intimate, is to like name what you need,

478
00:19:49,681 --> 00:19:52,920
Speaker 3: want or desire. I think communication when you're in the

479
00:19:52,921 --> 00:19:55,321
Speaker 3: bedroom is so important and like something that I've had

480
00:19:55,360 --> 00:19:58,200
Speaker 3: to learn how to do because, like the previous people,

481
00:19:58,201 --> 00:20:00,120
Speaker 3: please it in me never wanted to speak up in

482
00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:02,761
Speaker 3: the bedroom, and I always felt like bad because I

483
00:20:02,801 --> 00:20:04,761
Speaker 3: didn't want to critique somebody or be like oh this

484
00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:06,121
Speaker 3: does feel good or like.

485
00:20:06,281 --> 00:20:10,481
Speaker 4: Given the left yeah literally not a little higher yeah,

486
00:20:10,681 --> 00:20:13,440
Speaker 4: you know, or to not make somebody feel bad, or

487
00:20:13,721 --> 00:20:15,881
Speaker 4: even to be judged for my own desires and hey,

488
00:20:15,921 --> 00:20:16,521
Speaker 4: can you do this?

489
00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:19,761
Speaker 3: Can you like do it like this or whatever? So

490
00:20:19,801 --> 00:20:22,281
Speaker 3: I think like learning how to speak freely in the

491
00:20:22,321 --> 00:20:26,360
Speaker 3: bedroom is very important, true, because you create not only

492
00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:29,041
Speaker 3: safety for yourself that you can ask for what you need,

493
00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,801
Speaker 3: especially if something doesn't feel good, but you also create

494
00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:35,001
Speaker 3: safety for your partner to feel safe to bring things

495
00:20:35,041 --> 00:20:38,720
Speaker 3: into to learn how to make micro changes, yes, to

496
00:20:38,961 --> 00:20:41,680
Speaker 3: lean into each other more to create more pleasure, or

497
00:20:41,681 --> 00:20:44,041
Speaker 3: to even explore things outside of the realm of what's

498
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:47,160
Speaker 3: comfortable for you too. I just think communication is very important.

499
00:20:47,201 --> 00:20:49,761
Speaker 2: Oh I love that. Another one I've kind of briefly

500
00:20:49,801 --> 00:20:52,200
Speaker 2: spoken about, but I think resentment is probably one of

501
00:20:52,241 --> 00:20:55,401
Speaker 2: the biggest bedroom killers. If there's something that you're annoyty,

502
00:20:55,441 --> 00:20:57,200
Speaker 2: and it could be the most minor thing, but like

503
00:20:57,321 --> 00:20:59,281
Speaker 2: you ask them to take the garbage out and they

504
00:20:59,281 --> 00:21:01,160
Speaker 2: haven't yet, and it gets a nighttime when you're both

505
00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:02,521
Speaker 2: go into bed and you look at the garbage and

506
00:21:02,561 --> 00:21:04,640
Speaker 2: you hop in bed and you're just like, no, you're

507
00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:06,521
Speaker 2: annoying that they didn't follow through and what they said

508
00:21:06,561 --> 00:21:08,281
Speaker 2: they're gonna do, and you know it's full and overflowing,

509
00:21:08,281 --> 00:21:09,880
Speaker 2: and it's just pissed you off because you've done everything

510
00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:12,481
Speaker 2: else for the day and taking care of whatever the situation. Yeah,

511
00:21:12,481 --> 00:21:15,200
Speaker 2: you had one job. Had one job. Like, if you

512
00:21:15,281 --> 00:21:17,521
Speaker 2: are not communicating that and then they try and be

513
00:21:17,521 --> 00:21:21,681
Speaker 2: intimate with you, it's absolutely absolutely not happening. They're also

514
00:21:21,721 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 2: not a mind reader, so if you don't communicate that

515
00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:25,241
Speaker 2: with them, they're like, well, what's wrong with you? Why

516
00:21:25,281 --> 00:21:27,600
Speaker 2: you're such a foul mood. And it's like, well, it

517
00:21:27,681 --> 00:21:30,400
Speaker 2: really helps me feel heard when you follow through what

518
00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:31,520
Speaker 2: you said you're gonna do. And I know it's only

519
00:21:31,561 --> 00:21:33,641
Speaker 2: the garbage, doesn't sound like a big deal, but now

520
00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,680
Speaker 2: it's just like sitting there that you didn't say you're

521
00:21:35,721 --> 00:21:36,801
Speaker 2: gonna do what you gonna do, and now I have

522
00:21:36,801 --> 00:21:37,720
Speaker 2: to get up and do it in the morning, when

523
00:21:37,721 --> 00:21:40,201
Speaker 2: if already got enough on my plate, my mental load's huge,

524
00:21:40,241 --> 00:21:42,281
Speaker 2: I'm tired, I'm exhausted, and now I'm like I've got

525
00:21:42,281 --> 00:21:42,521
Speaker 2: the ick.

526
00:21:42,761 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, it's almost like what is what would

527
00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:46,161
Speaker 3: that fall under? It would that be like a full

528
00:21:46,201 --> 00:21:50,001
Speaker 3: under acts of service? But then it not being done yes, yeah.

529
00:21:49,761 --> 00:21:51,241
Speaker 2: And I think just any men not following through and

530
00:21:51,281 --> 00:21:52,801
Speaker 2: what they say they're going to do, it's not great

531
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:54,921
Speaker 2: for a lemon trust yeah, and you resent them. Yeah,

532
00:21:54,921 --> 00:21:55,681
Speaker 2: they're like annoyed at.

533
00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:57,361
Speaker 3: Them, Like now I don't trust you. No, I don't

534
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,400
Speaker 3: feel like sucking you off right now. Yeah, that's the

535
00:21:59,441 --> 00:22:01,281
Speaker 3: last thing you for like doing because my garbage is full.

536
00:22:02,921 --> 00:22:04,801
Speaker 2: But if you've done that and wipe down the benches

537
00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:10,960
Speaker 2: and like dishrusher, maybe I'm on all yeah wow, say see, spicy,

538
00:22:11,041 --> 00:22:13,080
Speaker 2: we love this. It's like you can laugh about it.

539
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:14,680
Speaker 2: But I feel like every female listening is gonna be like,

540
00:22:14,721 --> 00:22:15,161
Speaker 2: oh my gosh.

541
00:22:15,241 --> 00:22:17,761
Speaker 3: I felt like because when a man is in service

542
00:22:17,801 --> 00:22:19,201
Speaker 3: of you, you want to be in service of him,

543
00:22:19,441 --> 00:22:21,561
Speaker 3: and it makes you got like the more that your

544
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:23,480
Speaker 3: man does for you, the more you want to do

545
00:22:23,521 --> 00:22:27,321
Speaker 3: for them. And you're like into a real life porn stuff.

546
00:22:27,441 --> 00:22:30,600
Speaker 3: Literally if you want, babe, but just like buy me

547
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:32,081
Speaker 3: dinner and bring it home and a snack on the way.

548
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:35,120
Speaker 2: Literally, it is so true. And it's like you can

549
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,521
Speaker 2: get a negative cycle of like resentment and blame and

550
00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:41,120
Speaker 2: picking on each other and it can be reversed. Yeah

551
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:42,801
Speaker 2: he does that, few you want to do something for him.

552
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,241
Speaker 2: It's like this game of like who can top each other,

553
00:22:45,681 --> 00:22:48,281
Speaker 2: and it's this beautiful flow of constant love languages back

554
00:22:48,321 --> 00:22:51,321
Speaker 2: and forth, just love being received and heaven and it's

555
00:22:51,360 --> 00:22:53,761
Speaker 2: just beautiful. There's so much effort that you're putting into

556
00:22:53,761 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 2: each other and you're really, like you said, listening for

557
00:22:55,561 --> 00:22:57,681
Speaker 2: those cues and those hints as to what makes them

558
00:22:57,681 --> 00:23:00,281
Speaker 2: feel good. Yeah. And then if your man knows that

559
00:23:00,321 --> 00:23:01,720
Speaker 2: and hears that from the start that you've be in

560
00:23:01,721 --> 00:23:04,200
Speaker 2: the garbage fool brings you stress, hopefully it's going to

561
00:23:04,201 --> 00:23:06,080
Speaker 2: take that on board and make sure this has happened. Steve,

562
00:23:06,120 --> 00:23:08,001
Speaker 2: and I, wow, I just realized. Yeah, years ago, I

563
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,281
Speaker 2: used to fucking hate taking out the bins and I

564
00:23:10,360 --> 00:23:12,641
Speaker 2: just thought that was a man's job. And it wasn't

565
00:23:12,721 --> 00:23:14,921
Speaker 2: till I cracked it one day. He was like, WHOA,

566
00:23:15,441 --> 00:23:17,921
Speaker 2: didn't realize you hated it so much. I can take

567
00:23:17,921 --> 00:23:20,161
Speaker 2: the bins out, And now it doesn't. I barely take

568
00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:21,721
Speaker 2: the bins out. It's just what he does all the time.

569
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:22,120
Speaker 1: Yup.

570
00:23:22,281 --> 00:23:23,880
Speaker 2: And he's got his things that he hates, like he

571
00:23:23,921 --> 00:23:25,801
Speaker 2: hates making his bed. I love making a bed, and

572
00:23:25,801 --> 00:23:27,201
Speaker 2: they're like, I'll go and a fucking make the bed

573
00:23:27,321 --> 00:23:31,001
Speaker 2: easy to lily. So it's just like communicating again, isn't it.

574
00:23:31,001 --> 00:23:33,000
Speaker 2: Absolutely it feels good in what doesn't and then you

575
00:23:33,041 --> 00:23:35,161
Speaker 2: prevent the resentment. But if you're resenting them and you're

576
00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:38,481
Speaker 2: looking at them with like dagger eyes, it's going to impact.

577
00:23:38,201 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 1: Your sex life absolutely sure.

578
00:23:40,120 --> 00:23:42,241
Speaker 3: Something that you said highlighted something to me, and it

579
00:23:42,281 --> 00:23:44,880
Speaker 3: was like, when you can do the unspoken things for

580
00:23:44,921 --> 00:23:47,801
Speaker 3: your punt. Yeah, when you do the unspoken things, it's

581
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:49,360
Speaker 3: things that they don't have to ask for, but you

582
00:23:49,360 --> 00:23:51,721
Speaker 3: pay attention to, like the in between moments when they

583
00:23:51,721 --> 00:23:53,680
Speaker 3: say something and they say that they like something and

584
00:23:53,681 --> 00:23:57,041
Speaker 3: then you implement that. I think that is appreciated more

585
00:23:57,080 --> 00:23:59,041
Speaker 3: than anything. I think so because I know how it

586
00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:01,081
Speaker 3: feels when somebody does that for me. I'm like, oh

587
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,281
Speaker 3: my gosh, thank you so much. I feels so appreciated

588
00:24:03,321 --> 00:24:05,400
Speaker 3: and taken care of right now. And then when you

589
00:24:05,441 --> 00:24:07,281
Speaker 3: do that for somebody else, they then want.

590
00:24:07,120 --> 00:24:09,441
Speaker 2: To pull back. It's just this beautiful side. It really is.

591
00:24:10,120 --> 00:24:13,640
Speaker 2: So something that has been like a huge hack for me.

592
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:18,440
Speaker 3: It yeah, is like talking each other through it in

593
00:24:18,481 --> 00:24:21,681
Speaker 3: the bedroom, like just talking to each other throughout. And

594
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 3: I think if you can go and do this in

595
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,120
Speaker 3: your own experience, like it'll be a game changer. But

596
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 3: for me, the way that it looks is like the

597
00:24:28,321 --> 00:24:31,281
Speaker 3: thing that I really desire and crave from a partner.

598
00:24:31,721 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 3: I get my partner to say to me during sex

599
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:37,681
Speaker 3: because for me, that's like my ultimate desire.

600
00:24:37,801 --> 00:24:40,160
Speaker 1: Plus say, for example, like a.

601
00:24:40,481 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 3: You know, like a previous experience of a previous partner,

602
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:45,041
Speaker 3: he would say to me like while we would be intimate,

603
00:24:45,201 --> 00:24:47,440
Speaker 3: like I'll take care of you. I promise you're safe

604
00:24:47,481 --> 00:24:49,321
Speaker 3: with me. I promise you it's safe to let go,

605
00:24:49,481 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 3: like I promise you that, like you can trust me,

606
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,041
Speaker 3: and that like I've got you and that you don't

607
00:24:54,041 --> 00:24:54,880
Speaker 3: have to worry here.

608
00:24:55,001 --> 00:24:58,041
Speaker 2: So being brought in Yes, yeah, that's cool.

609
00:24:58,681 --> 00:25:00,681
Speaker 1: It's really like strange, betiful.

610
00:25:01,001 --> 00:25:03,160
Speaker 3: I realized as somebody who has had a lot of

611
00:25:03,201 --> 00:25:06,241
Speaker 3: sexual shame and a lot of struggles opening up sexually

612
00:25:06,281 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 3: and get go after everything to really allow myself to

613
00:25:09,921 --> 00:25:12,680
Speaker 3: soften in that moment, I almost need encouragement and guide

614
00:25:12,681 --> 00:25:13,921
Speaker 3: them and guidance.

615
00:25:13,801 --> 00:25:15,120
Speaker 1: So to get out of my head.

616
00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:18,401
Speaker 3: That pulls me into the present moment like no fucking tomorrow,

617
00:25:18,441 --> 00:25:21,521
Speaker 3: And I'm telling you like the level of connection, intimacy

618
00:25:21,561 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 3: and then also orgasm that I have from being able

619
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,880
Speaker 3: to let go because I was guided into it. That's

620
00:25:26,921 --> 00:25:29,561
Speaker 3: cool and it was so powerful to realize that I

621
00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:31,801
Speaker 3: would bring my wounds into it. And then what I noticed,

622
00:25:32,120 --> 00:25:34,240
Speaker 3: because I realized that that was really beneficial for me,

623
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:36,880
Speaker 3: I started doing that back to my partner, and then

624
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:38,440
Speaker 3: I would say the things that he would need, like

625
00:25:38,441 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 3: you know, I know that you take care of everyone else.

626
00:25:40,001 --> 00:25:41,281
Speaker 3: I want to take care of you right now, and

627
00:25:41,321 --> 00:25:45,160
Speaker 3: he's like fuck. Like that, it goes such a long way.

628
00:25:45,201 --> 00:25:46,400
Speaker 3: I highly recommend trying it.

629
00:25:46,481 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 2: That's beautiful. The last one I've got, which I was

630
00:25:48,921 --> 00:25:50,961
Speaker 2: spoken about before, but music is just such a game

631
00:25:51,041 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 2: change of for me, depending on what mood I'm in

632
00:25:53,321 --> 00:25:55,640
Speaker 2: or where we're at now life. I've got like a

633
00:25:55,681 --> 00:25:58,441
Speaker 2: really slow one. I've got one that called Surrender, which

634
00:25:58,481 --> 00:26:00,561
Speaker 2: is a bit more like dark mysterious. Then I've got

635
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 2: my spicy playlist, which is the most played. Just songs

636
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 2: that like really just turn us off and get us

637
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 2: in the mood. And I feel like music just creates

638
00:26:07,921 --> 00:26:11,201
Speaker 2: the environment and the energy that you want. It really does.

639
00:26:11,481 --> 00:26:14,121
Speaker 2: Like find songs that turn you on, find songs that

640
00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:17,120
Speaker 2: soften you, find songs that connect you guys. Find songs

641
00:26:17,120 --> 00:26:20,321
Speaker 2: that bring excitement or mystery to whatever it is that

642
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:23,201
Speaker 2: you're craving, like create a playlist to represent that mood

643
00:26:23,761 --> 00:26:25,481
Speaker 2: and then communicate the start, like which playlist will be

644
00:26:25,481 --> 00:26:27,801
Speaker 2: putting on tonight? Yeah, and it's just fun. It is

645
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:28,761
Speaker 2: fun love music.

646
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:31,161
Speaker 3: And you can have like different playlists for different moods too,

647
00:26:31,561 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 3: Like I definitely have those two. And it's like, sometimes

648
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:36,681
Speaker 3: I want to listen to words that help me soften,

649
00:26:37,001 --> 00:26:39,561
Speaker 3: or sometimes I want to hear like just the background

650
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:42,360
Speaker 3: noise and like more instrumental, so like more like tribal

651
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:43,360
Speaker 3: kind of like do you know what I mean? Like

652
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:45,401
Speaker 3: change is based on my mood and like you can

653
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,001
Speaker 3: find what works for you, and I just feel like

654
00:26:47,041 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 3: it's such a good way to get out of your

655
00:26:48,241 --> 00:26:49,160
Speaker 3: head and into your body.

656
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:51,761
Speaker 2: Definitely, Yeah, thanks so much for joining us. We hope

657
00:26:51,761 --> 00:26:54,281
Speaker 2: you guys enjoyed this sexy episode and hopefully if you

658
00:26:54,321 --> 00:26:55,640
Speaker 2: take on just one or two of the things to

659
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:59,201
Speaker 2: implement and try and hopefully it helps you have more pleasure,

660
00:26:59,321 --> 00:27:02,880
Speaker 2: more experiences, more connection, more love, more we always want.

661
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,841
Speaker 3: I think it's a really cool conversation to have because

662
00:27:06,360 --> 00:27:08,921
Speaker 3: like sex will really highlight to you where you limit yourself,

663
00:27:09,481 --> 00:27:12,360
Speaker 3: whether you struggle to receive and you like overgive in

664
00:27:12,360 --> 00:27:14,721
Speaker 3: the bedroom. That's also how you shop in everyday life. Yeah,

665
00:27:14,801 --> 00:27:17,120
Speaker 3: or like if you really struggle to receive, it's like, okay,

666
00:27:17,120 --> 00:27:19,561
Speaker 3: where else does that shop in your lieho? Or you know,

667
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:21,880
Speaker 3: if you have limits on how much pleasure you'll allow

668
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:24,200
Speaker 3: yourself to feel like, it's really going to highlight to

669
00:27:24,201 --> 00:27:26,801
Speaker 3: you in the bedroom. So it's actually a really cool

670
00:27:26,801 --> 00:27:29,920
Speaker 3: place for you to one connect but also like overcome

671
00:27:30,001 --> 00:27:33,120
Speaker 3: all of those limitations and like push beyond your threshold

672
00:27:33,120 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 3: of pleasure, but like psychological limits as well.

673
00:27:37,321 --> 00:27:37,721
Speaker 2: Love that.

674
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:39,761
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, it would be a fun episode on

675
00:27:40,521 --> 00:27:41,041
Speaker 1: what is it?

676
00:27:41,041 --> 00:27:44,640
Speaker 2: It's like educating the men out there does and don't

677
00:27:44,801 --> 00:27:46,801
Speaker 2: with a woman's body. It would be so cool if

678
00:27:46,801 --> 00:27:48,961
Speaker 2: women would like to send that to men. I don't

679
00:27:49,001 --> 00:27:50,841
Speaker 2: have to send it to the partners or previous partners

680
00:27:50,921 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 2: or just would somehow just hear about it. Because I

681
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,321
Speaker 2: just after our friend's story, I'm like, how has he

682
00:27:57,400 --> 00:28:01,041
Speaker 2: not gotten any feedback from women? But that is absolutely

683
00:28:01,120 --> 00:28:03,640
Speaker 2: not I don't know any girl that wants to be

684
00:28:03,681 --> 00:28:06,361
Speaker 2: fingered up like that, that wants to bleed from your

685
00:28:06,360 --> 00:28:09,360
Speaker 2: fingers moving so fast and hard. I mean, correct me

686
00:28:09,360 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 2: if I'm wrong, ladies, But is there anyone out that

687
00:28:11,521 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 2: actually enjoys bleeding from someone's finger jabbing you so hard.

688
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:16,880
Speaker 2: We have to do this episode. That'd be cool.

689
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:21,400
Speaker 3: Even education, education, and there's no shame either. This is

690
00:28:21,441 --> 00:28:25,160
Speaker 3: like genuine from us to them. Yeah, here's how to

691
00:28:25,201 --> 00:28:26,321
Speaker 3: like pleasure your lady.

692
00:28:26,400 --> 00:28:29,281
Speaker 2: Men, if you want to increase your pleasure in the bedroom,

693
00:28:29,321 --> 00:28:31,321
Speaker 2: if you want to make your woman happy. These are

694
00:28:31,321 --> 00:28:32,001
Speaker 2: the dos and don'ts.

695
00:28:32,041 --> 00:28:32,880
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

696
00:28:33,041 --> 00:28:34,281
Speaker 2: Number one, don't think a jab.

697
00:28:35,120 --> 00:28:38,121
Speaker 1: Stop watching pawn and using that as education.

698
00:28:38,321 --> 00:28:41,921
Speaker 3: Brush your teeth feeling triggered, brush your.

699
00:28:44,961 --> 00:28:45,681
Speaker 1: Negotiable.

700
00:28:46,001 --> 00:28:47,601
Speaker 2: Let us know if you guys think that would be

701
00:28:47,601 --> 00:28:48,801
Speaker 2: a really informative episode.

702
00:28:48,921 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 1: Shower after sex. This no hideaway's natural loob. Please do that.

703
00:28:56,081 --> 00:28:56,921
Speaker 1: It is the best of it.

704
00:28:57,041 --> 00:28:58,761
Speaker 2: I just think that'd be a really good education to

705
00:28:58,761 --> 00:29:01,241
Speaker 2: be out there, because after our friend's experience, I'm like, Wow,

706
00:29:01,681 --> 00:29:03,881
Speaker 2: someone really don't know how to work a woman's body.

707
00:29:03,921 --> 00:29:06,480
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, literally said Steve. I'm like, can you

708
00:29:06,681 --> 00:29:08,641
Speaker 2: run a class or something for men like this because

709
00:29:08,841 --> 00:29:10,561
Speaker 2: men need to learn, oh my god, how to treat

710
00:29:10,561 --> 00:29:11,121
Speaker 2: women's body.

711
00:29:11,161 --> 00:29:13,921
Speaker 3: I think we definitely need to do this episode, and

712
00:29:13,961 --> 00:29:16,041
Speaker 3: there is a genuine like we want you to have

713
00:29:16,081 --> 00:29:17,001
Speaker 3: a better experience.

714
00:29:17,041 --> 00:29:18,641
Speaker 1: And also, if your girlfriend's not going to tell you,

715
00:29:18,721 --> 00:29:19,361
Speaker 1: we will tell you.

716
00:29:19,401 --> 00:29:21,761
Speaker 2: And I also don't want our friend to ever experience

717
00:29:21,761 --> 00:29:24,601
Speaker 2: that again, let alone any woman. Yeah, to have that experience.

718
00:29:24,761 --> 00:29:28,881
Speaker 3: It's definitely something that's lacking, is like education, education on

719
00:29:28,921 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 3: the female body from female.

720
00:29:30,561 --> 00:29:32,321
Speaker 2: I don't think men should be teaching men. I think

721
00:29:32,361 --> 00:29:34,761
Speaker 2: women women should be teaching men. Oh my god, we

722
00:29:34,881 --> 00:29:37,601
Speaker 2: know our bodies absolutely. We can speak for the majority

723
00:29:37,601 --> 00:29:38,441
Speaker 2: of females.

724
00:29:38,281 --> 00:29:40,521
Speaker 3: Because then you don't have to have women going, oh yeah,

725
00:29:40,721 --> 00:29:44,161
Speaker 3: like pretending there, what it's it called, like faking their orgasms?

726
00:29:44,761 --> 00:29:45,761
Speaker 2: Yes, that's the house.

727
00:29:45,841 --> 00:29:47,961
Speaker 1: But yep, do you feel so good?

728
00:29:48,521 --> 00:29:49,841
Speaker 2: Just mind the ploot on the sheep.

729
00:29:49,921 --> 00:29:52,081
Speaker 1: Oh my god, don't even have my period?

730
00:29:52,281 --> 00:29:56,921
Speaker 2: No, stop, cuils.

731
00:29:56,841 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 1: My god, this is going to be a really funny

732
00:29:58,601 --> 00:29:59,601
Speaker 1: I think so cool.

733
00:29:59,601 --> 00:30:00,921
Speaker 2: We'll do it all right, guys.

734
00:30:00,681 --> 00:30:07,641
Speaker 1: I see the next one. Goodbye bye,