WEBVTT - Zoe Marshall is proof manifesting actually works 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.400 Oh hello, Welcome to healthy Thanks for joining us on 0:00:02.480 --> 0:00:04.880 the podcast and Body and Soul. I am your host 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:08.080 for listening, Harley. I'm joined today by the effervescent and 0:00:08.160 --> 0:00:11.960 delightful Zoe Marshall. She, of course is a podcaster and 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:14.680 now author. She has a book coming out in April, 0:00:14.720 --> 0:00:18.640 cord Arise, and today she delves into the concept of manifestation. 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:23.599 Now before the red flags come up, you got to 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:26.119 hear her out. She actually reframes it as co creation 0:00:26.280 --> 0:00:30.800 and she's going to share today how she well implements 0:00:30.920 --> 0:00:33.120 it in her life and how it's actually worked for her. 0:00:33.200 --> 0:00:38.080 She's manifested some significant things in her life, including her husband, 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:41.559 and she's going to provide tools and practices so you 0:00:41.640 --> 0:00:59.840 can manifest great things in your life too. 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:02.160 Welcome to healthy Ish. How are you? 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:05.560 I'm feeling healthy ish. It's a great name for a podcast. 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:07.679 Are you living the ish today? How do you stay 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:12.280 healthy ish? I am feeling so tired. I think that's 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:15.160 my ish Like. Look, I've kind of gone a little 0:01:15.200 --> 0:01:17.520 bit too far from the healthy spectrum, Like I've got 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.800 no more vices other than a little bit of gluten 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:23.160 and sugar occasionally. 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:25.520 Don't think that's a vice. Is it gluten? Gluten? 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:28.319 Well, it feels like a vice, Like I feel like 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:30.960 that's big warm hub, you know, like a soft tortilla 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:36.399 is like dreamy for me. I've stopped drinking. I don't 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:38.320 drink coffee. Oh my god, everyone's going to turn off. 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:41.600 I promise some fun at parties. I'm really funny, really 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:42.199 super fun. 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.680 I was like, wow, you are like next level healthy. 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:48.840 E Well, you know what the aura ring changed everything 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:49.960 for me? Do you know what that is? 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:54.600 I do. I'm a woop girl, Yes, yes. 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:57.559 And I think just like being a sleep is such 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:00.960 a priority for me that even seeing one drink impacted 0:02:01.080 --> 0:02:03.360 I was like, what is this for? You know? And 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:05.200 then all these stats came out in the States a 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:09.040 couple months ago around this really deep correlation between breast 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:12.760 cancer and alcohol, and because I have that history, it 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:16.320 was kind of the final straw for me. I heard 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:19.000 that we're actually going to be putting you know, those 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:22.040 those warnings on cigarette boxes, We're going to be putting 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:24.800 those warnings on alcohol bombs. In the next two years. 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:28.520 Every country will start in Ireland. I was like, that 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:32.280 seems very that seems wild, that seems crazy because we've 0:02:32.360 --> 0:02:34.119 kind of been fed this thing that you know, red 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:37.600 wine and antioxidants, and I was drinking the kool aid. 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:40.640 I was like, well, I think that studies have proven 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:42.680 a little bit of red wine. 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:46.240 I mean, I think it's changing though. I think the 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:49.680 old studies did, and then there's all of these new studies. Look, 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:52.960 I am no doctor, but I think for me it 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:55.800 was like the breast cancer thing. Yeah, I've already had 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:59.239 a lump removed. I'm already highly anxious about that. For 0:02:59.360 --> 0:03:01.959 me personally, I was like, you know what affecting sleep? 0:03:01.960 --> 0:03:03.320 Blah blah blah. I'm just going to cut it out. 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:07.400 And I haven't felt any loss. I went to my 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:11.520 husband's fortieth. We had a small dinner and everyone was cheersing, 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:13.560 and I got a glass red wine and I cheersed 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:16.200 and I kind of put it to my lips put 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:20.160 it down, And Yeah, I think that this kind of sober, 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:24.120 curious way is being a lot more accepted now than 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:27.799 this kind of like why are you drinking? That's so weird. Yeah, 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:31.040 everyone's a lot more open. So other than that, what 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:33.800 I so, sugar is your vice? What's your is ish? 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:37.560 What's my ish? Every single night? This just sounds very 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:41.560 odd because we're going into March. But you know those 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:45.160 peppermint after dinner mints that you get in the little 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:46.480 sleeves around. 0:03:46.200 --> 0:03:50.280 Christmas, I feel like they're so nineties. They're so you 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:53.120 get those on your cup of tea. Yeah, Hotels or 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:54.160 something in the nineties. 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:57.080 But it's cream in the middle. It's not dense, right, 0:03:57.440 --> 0:03:59.520 So I have Oh my god, I'm gonna sound like 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:03.480 such a I have one of those at night with 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:07.480 my hot chocolate, with my sugar free Avalanche hot chocolate. 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:10.440 And that's me in my happy light during my period. 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:12.360 Look at the party a eight two pieces of cake 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:15.520 when Yeah, when I've got my bleed, I'm a little 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:17.720 bit more intense. 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:20.520 I like it. Yeah, but I don't know. 0:04:20.560 --> 0:04:22.760 It's just only because I've become so aware of how 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:25.440 it makes me feel. Like when I have my snack 0:04:25.480 --> 0:04:27.919 attack at night and I'm eating cheesels at ten o'clock, 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:31.359 I wake up so parched. My ara ring is not happy. 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.800 I have not slept well. So there's too much data. 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:38.000 I think it would have been. I was peacefully ignorant before, 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:40.560 and now I am too aware. 0:04:40.920 --> 0:04:43.279 Yeah, I know it's about finding that even balance, isn't 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:45.760 it because my woot band. If I have had a 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:48.400 few drinks, it definitely shows up on my sleep. But 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.760 then I have this internal battle in my head when 0:04:50.760 --> 0:04:53.320 I'm actually out for dinner because I really enjoy a 0:04:53.440 --> 0:04:55.640 glass of wine. I mean, I'm not a I wouldn't 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:57.920 drink a bottle, but I'm going out tonight for one 0:04:57.920 --> 0:04:59.560 of my son's birthdays and I'm thinking, yeah, I'm going 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:00.880 to have a glass, the one. 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:03.240 That's so nice. And you know what, let me tell you. 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:07.480 I had a retreat at the Hunter Valley last weekend 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:10.200 and I was driving home and I pulled into Macas 0:05:10.720 --> 0:05:14.320 and I got my chicken nuggets extra fresh, happy to weight, 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:19.880 and my junior burger. And I have no shame or 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:22.680 bad energy around that choice. Like if you're having the wine, 0:05:22.880 --> 0:05:26.880 don't attach any stress thanks to it, Like you've got 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:31.280 to be in it, Like I love a nugget. I thoroughly, 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:36.040 thoroughly enjoyed every single bite. It was like, you're never 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:37.880 going to take that's my ish. Yeah, you know you're 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:39.360 never gonna I'm not going to get rid of that. 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:42.560 And they did this spicy Korean sauce for a second, 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:47.000 because of what was that not the hunger Games. It's 0:05:47.040 --> 0:05:49.240 quid games, quid game, and then they got rid of 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:51.080 it and it was the best sauce I've ever had 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.080 in my life. And I've driven around to all the 0:05:53.120 --> 0:05:56.000 maccas in Sydney looking for the sauce. No more. 0:05:56.560 --> 0:06:00.080 I'm gonna have to write to headquarters. But yeah, do it. 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:01.159 You might have to manifest it. 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:03.240 Zoe, Oh my gosh, should you like that? 0:06:03.320 --> 0:06:03.520 Sing? 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:07.960 I loved it? Talk to us about manifesting. What does this? 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:09.440 How does this look like for you? 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:14.279 Yeah, so I want to preface this conversation with manifesting generally, 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:17.520 I feel has this icky undertone of being really privileged. 0:06:18.040 --> 0:06:26.400 I think it's usually being taught by very This sounds ironic, 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:31.560 but white privilege presenting pretty women, right. And then what 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.080 some of the older teachings are saying that you know, 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.720 like attracts like and law of attraction, and if you 0:06:36.760 --> 0:06:38.200 think about it, you'll get it, but if you think 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:40.680 negative things, you'll get it. And if you have cancer 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:42.520 you can cure it. Like all of that is like 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:46.440 major red flags to me. And so I've kind of 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:48.640 reframed it and the way that I use it. It's 0:06:48.680 --> 0:06:51.680 called co creating. So it feels a lot more empowered 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:55.400 than wishful thinking. Just doing an affirmation or looking at 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:59.760 a vision board. Those things are shut like helpful tools, 0:06:59.839 --> 0:07:03.080 but they are not going to get you what you want. 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:08.400 I think being really curious about who you are, what 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:12.200 you want, why you want it, where you're limiting beliefs 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:15.560 keep you stuck, and how you can start to kind 0:07:15.560 --> 0:07:19.560 of push up against those use all of this incredible 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:23.360 researchence and neuroscience. We've got to shift the way that 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:27.840 we think. Using your mind for good rather than letting 0:07:27.840 --> 0:07:31.080 your mind take advantage and use you is my kind 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:34.320 of version of co creation. So it's a lot different 0:07:34.360 --> 0:07:37.160 to I think the ways in which we have thought 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:41.600 manifestation was in the world. And the only reason I 0:07:41.640 --> 0:07:46.040 have felt like finally not attached to the shame of 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:48.880 talking about it is because I've got twenty years of 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:49.920 evidence of it working. 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:53.520 Now, Yeah, give us some examples of how it has 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:54.640 worked for you. 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:57.720 I mean, you could literally pick a theme out of 0:07:57.760 --> 0:08:00.280 my life and I can tell you so I believe. Well, 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:04.400 I know I manifested my husband, Okay, and so when 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:08.080 I say this, so, when I say I manifested him, 0:08:08.720 --> 0:08:13.760 I was post a very very destructive relationship. It was 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:19.600 a very violent relationship, but I knew that something inside 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:22.080 of me. There was kind of two parts. One side 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:25.040 of me felt I deserved that toxic relationship, you know, 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:30.360 it had been such a destructive, traumatic experience that your 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:33.800 nervous system starts to believe that that's for you. And 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:35.600 then there was another part of me that was like, 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.320 life is better than this, You are worth more than this. 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.800 But I really had to explore that. And when I 0:08:40.880 --> 0:08:45.280 made my list, a list literally of who I wanted 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:50.400 my life partner to be, it was Benji on a sheet. 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:52.959 Like maybe it didn't say Benji, maybe it didn't say 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:55.720 professional athlete, because that was a bit of a red flag. 0:08:56.120 --> 0:09:01.840 But it had all of those qualities around the kindness 0:09:01.880 --> 0:09:07.800 and the openness and the generosity and the love and 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:13.280 a true family man and a supporter and a you know, 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:19.400 non judgmental, not over protective, not controlling human. And then 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:23.080 I meet this person and obviously we're very young at 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:25.760 the time and we had a lot of work to do, 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:30.240 but he was so willing to work with me. You know, 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:34.200 I knew that we had this. Yeah, we both had trauma, 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:37.920 and we knew that that could either carry on with 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:41.160 how we had been taught and raised or we would, 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:43.360 you know, pave our own way. And he allowed me 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:46.240 to do that with him, and we had therapy for 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:49.000 the first time within the first gosh, it would have 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:52.160 been nine months of our relationship, because we had issues 0:09:52.200 --> 0:09:56.880 with how we communicated, as most people do, and he 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:58.840 just had this willingness and I. 0:09:58.720 --> 0:10:02.160 Was like, that's the on thel list, do you know? 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:06.920 And I remember we moved in together, and I remember 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:10.440 sitting at the traffic lights at this house we were 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:13.360 renting for about six months in Neutral Bay. It was 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:17.480 a first house we moved in together, and I felt 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:20.959 in my body. I was like, I want to marry him. 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:23.880 I'm going to marry that man. And I didn't know, 0:10:24.320 --> 0:10:27.440 but he was going to propose two weeks later, Oh wow, 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:31.200 in Kualia. But I had landed in this like he 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:33.640 had obviously been preparing in the background. But I had 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:36.400 landed in this like it's going to happen, And then 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:39.040 it happened really quick. Sometimes these things don't happen, and 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:41.040 other people could be like, it's just chance, that's just 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:44.160 how relationships work. But this, I've done this with work 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:47.080 I've done this with career. I've done this with working career, 0:10:47.160 --> 0:10:49.960 the same I've done this with buying a house. You know, 0:10:50.120 --> 0:10:53.320 I get into the bed at the open home like 0:10:53.679 --> 0:10:58.720 very actually physically crawl in, pull yes sheets up. Okay, 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:01.439 but obviously I wait for everyone else to leave, yes, 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:04.960 because that would be weird. I mean it's obviously weird anyway. 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:08.280 But there's this thing we do. We call it priming. 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:14.280 Athletes and entrepreneurs and musicians call it mental rehearsal. But 0:11:14.520 --> 0:11:19.160 it's the ability to put yourself in a situation where 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:22.960 your mind doesn't know the difference between fantasy and reality, right, 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:27.320 so you start to kind of cultivate this sense of 0:11:27.360 --> 0:11:30.840 it really being true. Your body doesn't feel like that's 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:33.200 a lie. And so getting into the bed at the 0:11:33.280 --> 0:11:37.080 open home, I took the feeling of getting out of 0:11:37.080 --> 0:11:40.520 that bed, opening the blinds, looking around me back into 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:44.520 my old house. I know. It's so wild that every 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:47.200 day I woke up but my eyes were shut, and 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:50.560 I would get like, take off the covers, walk around, 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:53.920 not blind, not eyes closed, but I would be like 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:56.520 in my bed, looking around this room as if it 0:11:56.600 --> 0:12:00.920 was the new room, just like priming my mind body 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:05.640 nervous system that this thing is for me. Now, long 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:07.800 story short, and this is where the wu Wu comes in, 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:13.800 because I believe manifestation is the co creation is your 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:18.160 higher power, whether you call that energy source, God, mother, nature, 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:21.440 whatever it is. And you you're taking the aligned action, 0:12:21.559 --> 0:12:26.160 you're doing something, you're putting something, you're putting energy into that. 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:28.760 So whether you're calling up employers, or you're going to 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:30.959 open homes or getting into the house, or you're checking 0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:35.400 your finances, all of this momentum is energetically matched. And 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:40.200 then from there we do something called we don't do it. 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:43.560 We land in the abyss, right, which is when nothing happens. 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:44.720 There's no. 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:49.640 Calls from the new employer, there's no house on the market, 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:52.560 there's no anything happening. You're just in this kind of 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:58.280 waiting room of uncertainty. And the biggest lesson of life 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:02.520 is that it is uncertain. And the easier you are 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:06.560 with the discomfort of that, life is going to be 0:13:06.559 --> 0:13:08.800 a hell of a lot more simple. So when you 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:11.920 find yourself in the abyss, we go back into trust 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:14.600 that what is for us will find us. That if 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:17.160 there is a divine redirection, which is maybe it's not 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:19.240 that house. Maybe it's the next house, and you won't 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:21.840 know two years later that that house was had all 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:27.080 the ghosts in it, or someone falling in or whatever. Right, 0:13:27.160 --> 0:13:30.679 I'm going spiritual, you're going practical. But you do all 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:32.800 of these things and these practices, and so this is 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:36.120 my version of co creation versus I'm looking at a 0:13:36.200 --> 0:13:36.680 vision board. 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:40.040 We'll be back after this short break with more from Zoe. 0:13:40.840 --> 0:13:43.240 Talk to us a bit about well, the tangible things 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:46.280 that you do to create. Yes, the vision board, and 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:48.720 I mean is it and perhaps you know you can 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:50.240 talk in terms of your career, I mean, is it 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:52.400 a do you sit down, do you write it down? 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:55.160 How does it actually show up? And how does it 0:13:55.440 --> 0:13:57.239 and then how do you roll it out? 0:13:57.520 --> 0:14:00.440 So I think everyone feels like so I'll give you 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:03.960 all of the tools in the book, but you will 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:06.200 pick what works right because some things don't feel right. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:11.880 Meditation feels good for others, journaling doesn't whatever. My personal practice. 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:14.600 First thing in the morning alpha state, when your brain 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:18.080 is kind of in that unconscious place, is setting a 0:14:18.080 --> 0:14:21.000 declaration for my day. And that could just be I'm 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:23.440 going to have a really fun day or the day 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:27.040 is full of easeflow, joy or opportunities find me or 0:14:27.080 --> 0:14:29.680 whatever it is right declaration. What that does is it 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:33.840 taps into my RAS system, my reticular activation system, which 0:14:34.480 --> 0:14:38.240 really works heavily on confirmation bias. Right, we see what 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:41.360 we want to see. We want evidence to be right correct, 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:45.520 And so if I set myself up that everything works 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:48.720 out for me, I am just naturally as a human 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:53.920 looking for evidence that makes me right. It's the same 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:55.840 thing if you trip over getting out of bed, then 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:59.520 you step in some dogshit and you drop your toothbrush 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:01.920 in the toilet. It's like, this is just a shit day. Okay, 0:15:02.200 --> 0:15:04.880 it's a shit day. Your RAS system is looking out 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:07.080 for things to make you write about it being shit. 0:15:07.520 --> 0:15:11.160 So even if you get a flat tire and someone 0:15:11.160 --> 0:15:13.560 pulls over to help you, you're focused on the flat tie. 0:15:13.640 --> 0:15:15.840 I'm not the person coming to help you, right, So 0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:19.720 it's all in your perspective. So I do the OUPHA state. 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:23.640 I make sure my reticular activation system is working for me. 0:15:23.840 --> 0:15:26.920 I will meditate, So I do transcendental meditation twice a 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:30.920 day for twenty minutes, sometimes with kids. I do it 0:15:30.960 --> 0:15:32.280 no times for no minutes. 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:35.600 So right, no, you don't do it with the kids around. 0:15:35.800 --> 0:15:39.000 No, but I mean because they're always around, it's very 0:15:39.040 --> 0:15:42.200 hard to get your transcendental in. Sometimes sometimes you do 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:44.360 it in the car. I don't like doing that. I 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:47.200 feel vulnerable doing that, but some people do that in 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:50.720 the car. I love to journal. Sometimes that will be 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:54.440 my meditation, and that's just you can use a prompt. 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:57.000 We've got heaps of them, or you can literally just 0:15:57.320 --> 0:16:01.960 like unconsciously flow, which I find fascinating because you'll get 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.040 to a point where you're like, oh my god, I'm 0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:06.640 really holding onto a grudge with Sally, and that is 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:09.720 does she even know? And you're kind of doing this 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:14.920 self reflective process that's coming from your subconscious. I also 0:16:15.080 --> 0:16:18.680 love doing priming walks, so that's like what we were 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:21.200 doing with getting in the bed. But what you're doing 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:24.240 is now you've got that sense of what it is. 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:27.200 Say you want to fall in love and meet someone, 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:30.120 you go out on this walk, You've done the journaling 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:33.920 maybe around who this person is, who you're going to 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:37.320 be for this person. We sometimes focus so desperately on 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:40.760 being selfish. What could I get? How do I get it? 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:42.080 It's like, how are you going to turn up for 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.560 someone else? Are you in the right state to be loved? 0:16:44.840 --> 0:16:48.840 Could you love someone? What do you have to offer them? So, 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:51.640 once you've done all of this exploration, whether that's your meditation, 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:55.480 your journal, putting that in your body and going into 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:57.360 the do Lulu for a little bit. Right, So, if 0:16:57.360 --> 0:17:01.440 we're priming, we're doing mental rehearsal, are acting, walking, talking, 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.840 moving as if this thing is already ours. Right, So 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:07.960 you're walking and waving and saying hi to people on 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:09.840 the walk because you are bursting with love, because you 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:12.720 have just met the love of your life, your life partner. 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:16.520 You're deeply connected. Energetically, things are going to feel so 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:21.760 different for you when you're walking around feeling full of love, 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.399 like you're going to see the world differently. There's going 0:17:24.440 --> 0:17:25.720 to be a feather on the ground. You're going to 0:17:25.760 --> 0:17:28.040 be like, oh my god, my angels are here talking 0:17:28.080 --> 0:17:30.560 to me, or there's a really cute guy over there. 0:17:30.560 --> 0:17:32.600 I'm feeling good. I'm feeling like I'm going to swave hello, 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:36.760 you might spark up a conversation. Things just shift. So 0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:38.960 that's kind of where I bring in the spiritual part 0:17:39.160 --> 0:17:44.000 is like, energetically, I do believe you match what you're 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:48.240 putting out. I don't believe that if you don't understand 0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:51.360 this practice and you are living in default of how 0:17:51.400 --> 0:17:54.439 life is happening to you, and you're finding yourself stuck 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:57.960 in trauma or finding yourself stuck in the negative mind frame, 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:00.639 that you are at fault for that you don't know 0:18:00.680 --> 0:18:03.160 what you don't know. You have to have learnt something 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:07.000 that teaches you how to support yourself before you can go, 0:18:07.520 --> 0:18:10.440 oh my god, I'm so negative. I just attract negative things. Well, no, 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:13.240 you wouldn't do that if you knew how not to 0:18:13.280 --> 0:18:13.520 do that. 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:16.120 Does that makes sense? Absolutely? Yeah? 0:18:16.160 --> 0:18:17.840 So does that help you with some of the tools. 0:18:18.160 --> 0:18:18.360 Yeah? 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:20.479 Absolutely, I mean there's different ways you can do it. 0:18:20.640 --> 0:18:23.720 You just mean, I mean in any ways, it's just 0:18:23.800 --> 0:18:27.240 being about clear. It's been very clear on what you want, 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:32.280 being also clear about you know, you blocking your mental blockages, 0:18:32.320 --> 0:18:33.879 your blind spots as. 0:18:33.800 --> 0:18:37.760 Well, and that's confronting. Absolutely, that's the hardest part of 0:18:37.800 --> 0:18:39.800 it all is you want. 0:18:39.640 --> 0:18:41.760 Love, but do you deserve it? 0:18:42.119 --> 0:18:46.880 Do you believe you deserve it? And lots of us 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:50.639 have these very subconscious worms from zero to seven that 0:18:50.720 --> 0:18:55.160 we don't even know why we can't keep a partner, 0:18:55.240 --> 0:18:57.600 why we sabotage every good thing in our lives. Why 0:18:57.640 --> 0:18:59.720 we don't think that we're worth the raise or the 0:18:59.760 --> 0:19:04.480 prom and we do in a child work and we do, 0:19:05.119 --> 0:19:08.639 you know, a really explorative work on yourself. Some people 0:19:08.720 --> 0:19:11.080 like different methods. Right in a child will work for some, 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:14.640 eft tapping will work for others. I think it's important 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:18.959 to give lots of options so people resonate and they commit, 0:19:19.320 --> 0:19:24.120 because this whole thing is it's essentially knowing yourself well 0:19:24.240 --> 0:19:27.680 enough that you know and realistically, Like if you're living 0:19:27.800 --> 0:19:30.199 in a where I was when I was twenty in 0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:34.560 a moldy you know, studio apartment, that was like pure 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:37.520 freedom to me. Right, I loved this moldy apartment and 0:19:37.560 --> 0:19:43.480 I wanted to get this billion dollar mansion in four weeks. 0:19:44.119 --> 0:19:47.120 We have to kind of you have to go, okay, 0:19:47.200 --> 0:19:50.240 unless I'm going to marry a billionaire tomorrow, and like 0:19:50.320 --> 0:19:52.280 would that be really healthy for my soul? Would I 0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:54.879 feel really connected and happy and joyful if I just 0:19:54.920 --> 0:19:57.760 married for money? And you've got to question all these things, right, 0:19:58.320 --> 0:20:01.120 how would I do that? How would I get this 0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:04.080 billion dollar manchion from living in this moldy apartment? Making 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:07.760 five hundred bucks a week. And so I think this 0:20:08.040 --> 0:20:12.800 realistic element is important because as you level up to 0:20:13.000 --> 0:20:16.320 the one bedroom apartment that has no bold, right, that 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:19.520 feels like the billion dollar mansion. It does because I've 0:20:19.520 --> 0:20:22.120 done it, and so we're coming back to the feeling. 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:27.520 It's not actually ever about the car or the mansion, right, 0:20:27.760 --> 0:20:31.600 It's about this freedom of flow and joy and ease 0:20:32.280 --> 0:20:34.879 that is always in us, but we block it because 0:20:34.880 --> 0:20:38.679 we are constantly distracted. We are lonely, were comparing ourselves, 0:20:38.760 --> 0:20:40.640 We're addicted to all of the things that we can't 0:20:40.640 --> 0:20:44.160 even access what is blocking us because we're constantly putting 0:20:44.200 --> 0:20:46.920 other things in front of us to be distracted. So, yeah, 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:51.520 it's I guess I'm lying when I say it's manifestation 0:20:52.520 --> 0:20:55.280 because it's a whole lot more. 0:20:55.520 --> 0:20:57.000 Well, I think, I mean, I think you're right. 0:20:57.000 --> 0:20:58.800 Going back to what you say in the beginning, Manifestation 0:20:59.040 --> 0:21:00.560 has got a bit of a bad. 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:01.320 Run over the years. 0:21:01.359 --> 0:21:04.520 I mean, it's been sold as a little bit of 0:21:04.560 --> 0:21:07.439 a joke. But if you really look stuff up, the 0:21:07.480 --> 0:21:10.720 definition of manifestation, it's just being clear on what you 0:21:10.760 --> 0:21:13.400 what you want, yes in. 0:21:13.359 --> 0:21:16.760 Surmilling in what you want and allowing it to arrive yea. 0:21:16.720 --> 0:21:19.200 And being open to new experiences. And I think that's 0:21:19.240 --> 0:21:21.560 the other thing, you know, is being open, Like you 0:21:21.600 --> 0:21:23.760 can be very clear on what you want and have 0:21:23.800 --> 0:21:25.560 that list, but you're. 0:21:26.200 --> 0:21:28.440 Out all of like you know you have. You'll meet 0:21:28.560 --> 0:21:30.560 people that are like, oh my god, I've met the 0:21:30.600 --> 0:21:32.639 man of my dreams, but he has red hair, and 0:21:32.680 --> 0:21:37.520 you're like, you're going to let go of the partner, 0:21:37.840 --> 0:21:40.760 your life partner because of his hair color. Like that 0:21:40.840 --> 0:21:42.800