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Speaker 1: Hi everyone, it's Callie Taylor here and welcome to you.

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Speaker 1: This week's My Joe Monday. So this week I want

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Speaker 1: to take a deeper dive into how our attention can

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Speaker 1: influence our mental well being, and we'll do this through

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Speaker 1: the lens of Marita Therapy. So one of Marita's key

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Speaker 1: insights was around something called peripheral consciousness. So stick with

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Speaker 1: me on this one because it's actually really fascinating and

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Speaker 1: it is quite a unique way of looking at consciousness.

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Speaker 1: So let me explain it. Peripheral consciousness is this idea

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Speaker 1: that while we focus on one thing, we still hold

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Speaker 1: an awareness of other things in the background. So, for example,

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Speaker 1: you might be absorbed in a book but still be

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Speaker 1: vaguely kind of aware of the sound of the birds outside,

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Speaker 1: or the hum of the fridge, or maybe the smell

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Speaker 1: of your fear. And these background impressions sit on the

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Speaker 1: periphery of our consciousness, so they're not front and center,

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Speaker 1: but they're still there, and although we may not be

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Speaker 1: thinking about them, we're kind of still aware of them.

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Speaker 1: So here's where it gets really interesting, because we can

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Speaker 1: talk about this in the context of our emotions and

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Speaker 1: our feelings and our thoughts. So let's take anxiety as

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Speaker 1: an example. So in the West, it is very common

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Speaker 1: that we see anxiety as a problem to fix. So

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Speaker 1: before I can get on with my life, before I

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Speaker 1: can do the things that are important to me, I

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Speaker 1: must fix this. So the dominant approach is symptom reduction.

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Speaker 1: So we try to calm the body and control our thoughts,

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Speaker 1: control our breath, and when we feel better then we

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Speaker 1: can get back to life. But Marita's view was radically different,

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Speaker 1: so he didn't see emotions like anxiety as anything to

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Speaker 1: be fixed or controlled or tampered with. He saw the

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Speaker 1: problem as what he described as misdirected attention. So he

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Speaker 1: teaches us that feelings and emotions and thoughts are all

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Speaker 1: natural occurrences, so a natural part of being human. And

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Speaker 1: if we just left them as they are, so if

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Speaker 1: we stopped kind of control them and allowed them to

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Speaker 1: take their natural course, so when they arrive, they may

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Speaker 1: peak and then they kind of taper off a bit

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Speaker 1: like a wave, but that's only if they are left alone.

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Speaker 1: So let's get back to anxiety. The issue wasn't the

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Speaker 1: anxiety itself, but the way we narrow our focus onto it.

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Speaker 1: So we bring our attention onto it, and by doing that,

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Speaker 1: we're bringing the anxiety into the foreground of our lives,

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Speaker 1: and then we're pushing everything else, so our could be

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Speaker 1: our relationships, our hobbies, the things that are important to us,

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Speaker 1: like our values, our goals, we're pushing it into the background,

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Speaker 1: so the anxiety becomes the conscious focus. And for those

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Speaker 1: of us who are emotionally sensitive, because we are all

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Speaker 1: different the way we respond to our emotions, and some

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Speaker 1: of us, especially if you're more introverted, are more sensitive

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Speaker 1: to emotions than others, and this what can happen is

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Speaker 1: this narrowing can happen really really quickly, so you might

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Speaker 1: notice your the physical effects of anxiety, so racing hard,

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Speaker 1: at tight chest, shaky hands, and then suddenly your entire

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Speaker 1: world it's like it collapses into these sensations, and the

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Speaker 1: peripheral awareness can shut down, so all the things that

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Speaker 1: are happening around you, you're actually not aware of them,

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Speaker 1: because all you're focused on is this internal discomfort that

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Speaker 1: you have. And of course, naturally it's very normal that

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Speaker 1: you want this feeling to go. But the paradox of

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Speaker 1: that is the more we fixate on trying to control

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Speaker 1: the anxiety, the more power it gains, and so Marita

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Speaker 1: teaches us that or he explains that this is what

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Speaker 1: he calls obsessive inward attention and it traps us into

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Speaker 1: what he calls shiss or normal. Jon, I hope I

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Speaker 1: pronounced that right. I have talked about this in previous episodes.

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Speaker 1: But what it is is the contradiction between how we

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Speaker 1: want to feel and what we actually feel. So you

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Speaker 1: think about it. When you feel an emotion, that is

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Speaker 1: the truth on how you feel. But when it's really

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Speaker 1: uncomfortable and it's painful, we don't want to feel like that.

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Speaker 1: We want to feel something different. So you can see

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Speaker 1: there's this gap there between the truth of how I

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Speaker 1: feel and how I want to feel, and then we

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Speaker 1: start resisting it. And that's when the the more we resist,

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Speaker 1: the more we analyze our symptoms, it's like why am

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Speaker 1: I feeling like this? The more we can get stuck.

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Speaker 1: And the neuroscience now backs this up. So what it's

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Speaker 1: telling us is that what we repeatedly pay attention to

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Speaker 1: becomes reinforced in our brain. So when we give anxiety

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Speaker 1: or other emotions constant airtime by talking about it, trying

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Speaker 1: to control it, we're literally wiring it in. And of

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Speaker 1: course there are avoidance strategies like scrolling through social media

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Speaker 1: or episodes of Netflix, or a couple of glasses of wine,

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Speaker 1: which give us temporary relief, but often the anxiety comes

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Speaker 1: back with vengeance. So what's the alternative. Well, because Marita

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Speaker 1: teaches us that feelings are natural. He wants us to

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Speaker 1: feel how we feel, not fight how we feel, and

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Speaker 1: allow ourselves to feel these emotions without resisting them and

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Speaker 1: allow them to take our net that to take their

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Speaker 1: natural course. And this completely goes against the grain. But

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Speaker 1: the goal is not to get rid of our emotions,

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Speaker 1: which is what we kind of divert to you, because

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Speaker 1: that's what everything's uncomfortable, so we want to get rid

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Speaker 1: of them. But what Marita Therapy teaches us is to

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Speaker 1: allow them to exist in the background, allow them to

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Speaker 1: be as they are while we move forward with purposeful action.

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Speaker 1: So that means allowing the anxiety to be a part

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Speaker 1: of your experience, not just the whole story. So you

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Speaker 1: can still feel your heart racing and put your shoes

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Speaker 1: on and go out for that walk, and you can

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Speaker 1: still feel the nerves and hit send on that email,

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Speaker 1: or just like the bird song outside your window. The

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Speaker 1: anxiety doesn't have to disappear, but it just doesn't need

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Speaker 1: to be the thing that you're staring out, the thing

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Speaker 1: that all your attention is on. And when we expand

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Speaker 1: our awareness to include both the discomfort and the world

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Speaker 1: around us, it's kind of like we're reclaiming our freedom.

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Speaker 1: And that to me is a really powerful thing, because

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Speaker 1: we don't need to feel good to do good. We

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Speaker 1: just need to stop making emotions. The main character of

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Speaker 1: the story, and what I find fascinating is Marito. He

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Speaker 1: was a Japanese psychiatrist in the nineteen twenties, very prominent

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Speaker 1: psychiatrist and scholar. And just imagine that a psychiatrist who

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Speaker 1: doesn't focus on the symptoms of his patients. His patients

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Speaker 1: suffered from what he called shinkitsu, which now can be

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Speaker 1: kind of aligned with anxiety disorders like generalized anxiety disorder,

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Speaker 1: obsessive compulsive disorder, and a range of other disorders. But

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Speaker 1: he didn't focus on symptoms. Through his therapy, he allowed

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Speaker 1: his patients to feel how they feel, and to almost

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Speaker 1: through experience, they started to become aware of the nature

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Speaker 1: of their emotions, their relationship with their emotions, changed. So

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Speaker 1: these strong emotions that were showing up were no longer

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Speaker 1: the enemy to try and get rid of, but they

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Speaker 1: were able to allow them to be, and they then

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Speaker 1: turn their attention to purposeful action of what needed to

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Speaker 1: be done. And Marita described this as pure mind, and

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Speaker 1: we know it also as Arrogamama is making room for

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Speaker 1: our emotions, allowing them to be, and then shifting our

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Speaker 1: attention to what needs to be done. So I hope

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Speaker 1: this has been helpful. I hope it's been interesting. It

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Speaker 1: certainly food for thought. It is a bit of a

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Speaker 1: shift in adue towards our emotions. It's something that I

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Speaker 1: practice every day. It's been incredibly helpful for me, and

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Speaker 1: of course you are more than welcome to reach out

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Speaker 1: to me. If you have any questions at all about

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Speaker 1: Marino therapy or anything else, you can go to my

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Speaker 1: website at Culi Taylor Coaching dot com dot au. I'd

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Speaker 1: love to hear from you, and thanks for listening. I'll

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Speaker 1: catch you next week. See ya,