Speaker 1: Welcome to the Things you Can't Unhear podcast.
Speaker 2: I'm your host, Maritza Barone. Get ready to hear moments
Speaker 2: that will help you.
Speaker 1: To see the world differently and inspire you to become
Speaker 1: the happiest, healthiest, and kindest version of you.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to Things you Can't Unhear Now. On this show,
Speaker 2: I talk a lot about zooming out on life because
Speaker 2: I really feel like it helps you gain perspective on
Speaker 2: things that feel really big and important, especially if they're
Speaker 2: causing you hurt or pain or stress. Zooming out can
Speaker 2: help us to see that the situation is temporary and
Speaker 2: in the scheme of things, show us how important it is.
Speaker 2: This actually reminds me of something that I thought was
Speaker 2: so funny at the time, but was funny but also
Speaker 2: not funny. I think I was around nineteen or twenty
Speaker 2: years old, and I was visiting my older female cousin
Speaker 2: at her beach house, and she was having a weekend
Speaker 2: away with her family, and that included her two sons
Speaker 2: who were around five and seven at the time, and
Speaker 2: us adults. Well, I'm just become an adult. I was
Speaker 2: like nineteen or twenty. We were sitting around the deck
Speaker 2: drinking coffee and chatting, and her boys were riding their
Speaker 2: bikes around the street and she kept going to check
Speaker 2: on them. It was a super quiet caught. They seemed
Speaker 2: safe and they were just circling around the street. But
Speaker 2: a few minutes in we hear this blood curdling scream
Speaker 2: from her eldest son, and we all looked at each other,
Speaker 2: thinking the absolute worst, that maybe one of her boys
Speaker 2: had been hit by car or someone had been seriously hurt,
Speaker 2: and all these horrible things ran through our heads and
Speaker 2: we ran over to them to see what was going on.
Speaker 2: All the while the screaming was continuing from him. We
Speaker 2: got over to where they were, we saw that the
Speaker 2: eldest son had fallen off his bike and had scraped
Speaker 2: his knee, and he had a medium size cut and
Speaker 2: some blood running down his leg. And we were like,
Speaker 2: but we felt so confused by all the screaming. We
Speaker 2: were a lead that nothing serious had happened like we
Speaker 2: had assumed based off the level of blood curdling screams
Speaker 2: he was giving. And his poor parents felt like they
Speaker 2: had lost five years off their lives from the fright
Speaker 2: he had given them. Thinking the worst, and as a
Speaker 2: nineteen year old. I thought this was absolutely hilarious and
Speaker 2: a little bit ridiculous. He'd screamed so loud. But I
Speaker 2: suppose the poor kid was just in shock from the
Speaker 2: fall and the blood, and it felt very serious to
Speaker 2: him at the time. But I'll never forget what his
Speaker 2: mum said to him. She knelt down and she looked
Speaker 2: at him face to face, and she said, Andree, you
Speaker 2: have to cry relevant to your injuries. She said, you
Speaker 2: scared us so much. We thought something really terrible happened,
Speaker 2: and it made me give it. I remembered it for years, Andre,
Speaker 2: you have to cry relevant to your injuries. But she
Speaker 2: was so right. Sometimes even us adults can react far
Speaker 2: too much to things that are small and not that
Speaker 2: important in the scheme of things. And we can let
Speaker 2: small arguments with friends linger for years based off something
Speaker 2: silly that was said. We can blow up at our
Speaker 2: children for leaving their moldy lunch box in their bag
Speaker 2: for two weeks over the school holidays, or we can
Speaker 2: detach from family because someone owes us fifty bucks and
Speaker 2: never paid us back. How significant really are these things
Speaker 2: that occur in our lives? Are they really that important?
Speaker 2: Are they really worth reacting in the way that we react,
Speaker 2: and do we need to harbor on them for so long?
Speaker 2: Probably not do. Just like Little Andre, we react in
Speaker 2: a way that is not relevant to our experiences or
Speaker 2: our injuries. And if we and Little Andre just zoomed
Speaker 2: the heck out, we would see that this experience, this situation,
Speaker 2: this drama that we're in, is not that serious at all,
Speaker 2: and it too shall pass once we heal, or importantly,
Speaker 2: once we learn from it. Now, you may have listened
Speaker 2: to my latest episode with Sean Collins. If you haven't,
Speaker 2: make sure you're tuning in. He's a psychic medium, but
Speaker 2: I really think we should call him a spiritual teacher
Speaker 2: after reading his beautiful new book, Your Soul Is the
Speaker 2: Source of Your Power. It is such a powerful, insightful
Speaker 2: book that gives you such an interesting outlook on life
Speaker 2: and what the human experience is all about. And I
Speaker 2: want you just to imagine for a moment what Sean
Speaker 2: is saying about the human experience is true. What he
Speaker 2: says is, before we came into this world as the
Speaker 2: human we are right now, our soul chose what life
Speaker 2: we were going to have, choosing the experiences we would
Speaker 2: have choosing the opportunities, choosing it all, the good, the bad,
Speaker 2: the ugly. Now, this is hard to grasp for a
Speaker 2: lot of people because they would wonder why on earth
Speaker 2: they would choose the life they experiencing. But let's just
Speaker 2: for the sake of this exercise, think that if you
Speaker 2: knew and believed that that was true, how would you
Speaker 2: live your life differently? How would you live life if
Speaker 2: you your soul was looking down at your body doing
Speaker 2: the things you do and also, just as importantly, the
Speaker 2: things you don't do. What is your soul body looking
Speaker 2: down at you, thinking and screaming at you to do?
Speaker 2: What lessons or experiences did your soul sign up for
Speaker 2: that your physical body is not learning? What would you
Speaker 2: do differently if you were being watched like a video
Speaker 2: game by your higher self? It makes you pose the question,
Speaker 2: even in the hardest times, what would my highest self
Speaker 2: choose to do right now? Why would I have chosen
Speaker 2: this experience? In Shawn's book, he talks about as a
Speaker 2: person in a physical body, we feel so serious about
Speaker 2: what is going on when we are in it as
Speaker 2: a human, but as a soul, these serious experiences we
Speaker 2: are having are a moment in time, almost like the
Speaker 2: video game analogy, so that we can experience things in
Speaker 2: the human world as a body and do the things
Speaker 2: and have the feelings the soul cannot have. As a soul,
Speaker 2: we can only experience love, happiness, and positive experiences. But
Speaker 2: to fully have the immercive experience, we need to come
Speaker 2: here with a physical body and experience the darkness and
Speaker 2: the lightness of life, so that we know how good
Speaker 2: the light is without the dark. I'm not asking you
Speaker 2: to believe in this if it doesn't feel aligned to
Speaker 2: your view of life, but I'm asking you to just
Speaker 2: consider how you would behave differently if for a moment
Speaker 2: this could be true. And isn't that really what zooming
Speaker 2: out is. It's stepping outside of the tiny, little moment
Speaker 2: we're in and looking at it from a higher perspective.
Speaker 2: Because when we're right in the middle of something, it
Speaker 2: can feel enormous. When we're standing inside it, it feels
Speaker 2: like the whole world. But what if we're zoomed out?
Speaker 2: Would this thing still feel as big? Would it still
Speaker 2: deserve the amount of energy, attention, and suffering we're giving it,
Speaker 2: or would we realize that maybe, just maybe we're crying
Speaker 2: a little louder than our injuries require. Now, before you
Speaker 2: say it, I'm not dismissing pain, I'm not dismissing grief.
Speaker 2: There are absolutely experiences in life that are deeply painful, traumatic,
Speaker 2: and life changing. These are things that happen to us
Speaker 2: that deserve our grief, our tears, and our healing. But
Speaker 2: there are also a lot of things that steal our
Speaker 2: peace because we allow them to. The little things, the
Speaker 2: ego things, the control things, the things that when we
Speaker 2: zoom out, won't matter in a year from now, or
Speaker 2: let alone in ten minutes from now. And that's the
Speaker 2: question I want to leave you with today. What are
Speaker 2: you currently giving so much power to that doesn't actually
Speaker 2: deserve it? And what situation are you treating like a
Speaker 2: catastrophe when it might simply be a scraped knee? And
Speaker 2: what lesson is trying to find you through this experience?
Speaker 2: And if your soul really did choose this life, this challenge,
Speaker 2: this moment, what is it hoping you'll know? Maybe the
Speaker 2: invitation today is not to react less Maybe it's simply
Speaker 2: to zoom out more, to create a little space between
Speaker 2: you and the situation, to remember that this moment is
Speaker 2: not your whole life, that this chapter is not the
Speaker 2: whole book, that this experience is temporary, and just like
Speaker 2: the cut on Andre's knee, it will heal. One day,
Speaker 2: you'll look back and realize the thing that felt so
Speaker 2: big was actually helping you become who you needed to be.
Speaker 2: So this week, whenever something frustrates you, hurts you, disappoints you,
Speaker 2: or throws you off course, I want you to ask
Speaker 2: yourself one simple question, am I crying relevant to my injuries?
Speaker 2: And then zoom the heck out because perspective has a
Speaker 2: funny way of bringing us back to what really matters,
Speaker 2: and sometimes that's exactly what we need. Thanks listening to
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