WEBVTT - How to Stop Letting Small Things Steal Your Peace // Maritza Barone

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the Things you Can't Unhear podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm your host, Maritza Barone. Get ready to hear moments

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<v Speaker 2>that will help you.

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<v Speaker 1>To see the world differently and inspire you to become

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<v Speaker 1>the happiest, healthiest, and kindest version of you.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to Things you Can't Unhear Now. On this show,

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<v Speaker 2>I talk a lot about zooming out on life because

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<v Speaker 2>I really feel like it helps you gain perspective on

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<v Speaker 2>things that feel really big and important, especially if they're

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<v Speaker 2>causing you hurt or pain or stress. Zooming out can

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<v Speaker 2>help us to see that the situation is temporary and

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<v Speaker 2>in the scheme of things, show us how important it is.

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<v Speaker 2>This actually reminds me of something that I thought was

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<v Speaker 2>so funny at the time, but was funny but also

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<v Speaker 2>not funny. I think I was around nineteen or twenty

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<v Speaker 2>years old, and I was visiting my older female cousin

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<v Speaker 2>at her beach house, and she was having a weekend

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<v Speaker 2>away with her family, and that included her two sons

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<v Speaker 2>who were around five and seven at the time, and

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<v Speaker 2>us adults. Well, I'm just become an adult. I was

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<v Speaker 2>like nineteen or twenty. We were sitting around the deck

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<v Speaker 2>drinking coffee and chatting, and her boys were riding their

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<v Speaker 2>bikes around the street and she kept going to check

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<v Speaker 2>on them. It was a super quiet caught. They seemed

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<v Speaker 2>safe and they were just circling around the street. But

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<v Speaker 2>a few minutes in we hear this blood curdling scream

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<v Speaker 2>from her eldest son, and we all looked at each other,

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<v Speaker 2>thinking the absolute worst, that maybe one of her boys

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<v Speaker 2>had been hit by car or someone had been seriously hurt,

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<v Speaker 2>and all these horrible things ran through our heads and

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<v Speaker 2>we ran over to them to see what was going on.

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<v Speaker 2>All the while the screaming was continuing from him. We

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<v Speaker 2>got over to where they were, we saw that the

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<v Speaker 2>eldest son had fallen off his bike and had scraped

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<v Speaker 2>his knee, and he had a medium size cut and

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<v Speaker 2>some blood running down his leg. And we were like,

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<v Speaker 2>but we felt so confused by all the screaming. We

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<v Speaker 2>were a lead that nothing serious had happened like we

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<v Speaker 2>had assumed based off the level of blood curdling screams

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<v Speaker 2>he was giving. And his poor parents felt like they

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<v Speaker 2>had lost five years off their lives from the fright

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<v Speaker 2>he had given them. Thinking the worst, and as a

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<v Speaker 2>nineteen year old. I thought this was absolutely hilarious and

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit ridiculous. He'd screamed so loud. But I

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<v Speaker 2>suppose the poor kid was just in shock from the

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<v Speaker 2>fall and the blood, and it felt very serious to

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<v Speaker 2>him at the time. But I'll never forget what his

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<v Speaker 2>mum said to him. She knelt down and she looked

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<v Speaker 2>at him face to face, and she said, Andree, you

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<v Speaker 2>have to cry relevant to your injuries. She said, you

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<v Speaker 2>scared us so much. We thought something really terrible happened,

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<v Speaker 2>and it made me give it. I remembered it for years, Andre,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to cry relevant to your injuries. But she

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<v Speaker 2>was so right. Sometimes even us adults can react far

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<v Speaker 2>too much to things that are small and not that

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<v Speaker 2>important in the scheme of things. And we can let

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<v Speaker 2>small arguments with friends linger for years based off something

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<v Speaker 2>silly that was said. We can blow up at our

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<v Speaker 2>children for leaving their moldy lunch box in their bag

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<v Speaker 2>for two weeks over the school holidays, or we can

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<v Speaker 2>detach from family because someone owes us fifty bucks and

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<v Speaker 2>never paid us back. How significant really are these things

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<v Speaker 2>that occur in our lives? Are they really that important?

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<v Speaker 2>Are they really worth reacting in the way that we react,

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<v Speaker 2>and do we need to harbor on them for so long?

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<v Speaker 2>Probably not do. Just like Little Andre, we react in

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<v Speaker 2>a way that is not relevant to our experiences or

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<v Speaker 2>our injuries. And if we and Little Andre just zoomed

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<v Speaker 2>the heck out, we would see that this experience, this situation,

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<v Speaker 2>this drama that we're in, is not that serious at all,

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<v Speaker 2>and it too shall pass once we heal, or importantly,

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<v Speaker 2>once we learn from it. Now, you may have listened

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<v Speaker 2>to my latest episode with Sean Collins. If you haven't,

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<v Speaker 2>make sure you're tuning in. He's a psychic medium, but

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<v Speaker 2>I really think we should call him a spiritual teacher

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<v Speaker 2>after reading his beautiful new book, Your Soul Is the

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<v Speaker 2>Source of Your Power. It is such a powerful, insightful

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<v Speaker 2>book that gives you such an interesting outlook on life

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<v Speaker 2>and what the human experience is all about. And I

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<v Speaker 2>want you just to imagine for a moment what Sean

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<v Speaker 2>is saying about the human experience is true. What he

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<v Speaker 2>says is, before we came into this world as the

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<v Speaker 2>human we are right now, our soul chose what life

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<v Speaker 2>we were going to have, choosing the experiences we would

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<v Speaker 2>have choosing the opportunities, choosing it all, the good, the bad,

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<v Speaker 2>the ugly. Now, this is hard to grasp for a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people because they would wonder why on earth

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<v Speaker 2>they would choose the life they experiencing. But let's just

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<v Speaker 2>for the sake of this exercise, think that if you

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<v Speaker 2>knew and believed that that was true, how would you

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<v Speaker 2>live your life differently? How would you live life if

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<v Speaker 2>you your soul was looking down at your body doing

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<v Speaker 2>the things you do and also, just as importantly, the

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<v Speaker 2>things you don't do. What is your soul body looking

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<v Speaker 2>down at you, thinking and screaming at you to do?

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<v Speaker 2>What lessons or experiences did your soul sign up for

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<v Speaker 2>that your physical body is not learning? What would you

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<v Speaker 2>do differently if you were being watched like a video

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<v Speaker 2>game by your higher self? It makes you pose the question,

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<v Speaker 2>even in the hardest times, what would my highest self

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<v Speaker 2>choose to do right now? Why would I have chosen

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<v Speaker 2>this experience? In Shawn's book, he talks about as a

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<v Speaker 2>person in a physical body, we feel so serious about

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<v Speaker 2>what is going on when we are in it as

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<v Speaker 2>a human, but as a soul, these serious experiences we

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<v Speaker 2>are having are a moment in time, almost like the

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<v Speaker 2>video game analogy, so that we can experience things in

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<v Speaker 2>the human world as a body and do the things

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<v Speaker 2>and have the feelings the soul cannot have. As a soul,

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<v Speaker 2>we can only experience love, happiness, and positive experiences. But

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<v Speaker 2>to fully have the immercive experience, we need to come

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<v Speaker 2>here with a physical body and experience the darkness and

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<v Speaker 2>the lightness of life, so that we know how good

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<v Speaker 2>the light is without the dark. I'm not asking you

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<v Speaker 2>to believe in this if it doesn't feel aligned to

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<v Speaker 2>your view of life, but I'm asking you to just

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<v Speaker 2>consider how you would behave differently if for a moment

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<v Speaker 2>this could be true. And isn't that really what zooming

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<v Speaker 2>out is. It's stepping outside of the tiny, little moment

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<v Speaker 2>we're in and looking at it from a higher perspective.

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<v Speaker 2>Because when we're right in the middle of something, it

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<v Speaker 2>can feel enormous. When we're standing inside it, it feels

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<v Speaker 2>like the whole world. But what if we're zoomed out?

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<v Speaker 2>Would this thing still feel as big? Would it still

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<v Speaker 2>deserve the amount of energy, attention, and suffering we're giving it,

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<v Speaker 2>or would we realize that maybe, just maybe we're crying

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<v Speaker 2>a little louder than our injuries require. Now, before you

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<v Speaker 2>say it, I'm not dismissing pain, I'm not dismissing grief.

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<v Speaker 2>There are absolutely experiences in life that are deeply painful, traumatic,

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<v Speaker 2>and life changing. These are things that happen to us

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<v Speaker 2>that deserve our grief, our tears, and our healing. But

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<v Speaker 2>there are also a lot of things that steal our

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<v Speaker 2>peace because we allow them to. The little things, the

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<v Speaker 2>ego things, the control things, the things that when we

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<v Speaker 2>zoom out, won't matter in a year from now, or

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<v Speaker 2>let alone in ten minutes from now. And that's the

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<v Speaker 2>question I want to leave you with today. What are

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<v Speaker 2>you currently giving so much power to that doesn't actually

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<v Speaker 2>deserve it? And what situation are you treating like a

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<v Speaker 2>catastrophe when it might simply be a scraped knee? And

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<v Speaker 2>what lesson is trying to find you through this experience?

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<v Speaker 2>And if your soul really did choose this life, this challenge,

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<v Speaker 2>this moment, what is it hoping you'll know? Maybe the

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<v Speaker 2>invitation today is not to react less Maybe it's simply

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<v Speaker 2>to zoom out more, to create a little space between

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<v Speaker 2>you and the situation, to remember that this moment is

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<v Speaker 2>not your whole life, that this chapter is not the

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<v Speaker 2>whole book, that this experience is temporary, and just like

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<v Speaker 2>the cut on Andre's knee, it will heal. One day,

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<v Speaker 2>you'll look back and realize the thing that felt so

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<v Speaker 2>big was actually helping you become who you needed to be.

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<v Speaker 2>So this week, whenever something frustrates you, hurts you, disappoints you,

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<v Speaker 2>or throws you off course, I want you to ask

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<v Speaker 2>yourself one simple question, am I crying relevant to my injuries?

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<v Speaker 2>And then zoom the heck out because perspective has a

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<v Speaker 2>funny way of bringing us back to what really matters,

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<v Speaker 2>and sometimes that's exactly what we need. Thanks listening to

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