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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: Do you know what I'm not allowed to do? And

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Speaker 2: I want to hear from you this morning. If you're

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Speaker 2: a parent, and maybe it's it's when your kids reach

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Speaker 2: a certain age. My daughter is eleven years old and

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Speaker 2: so she adores her mummy. Right, I'm just going to

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Speaker 2: say that we're very connected. Cuddles and you know, she

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Speaker 2: tells me lots of things what I think she does,

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Speaker 2: but I can tell now she's growing into an age

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Speaker 2: bracket west Sometimes she just wants her own space a

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Speaker 2: little bit.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it makes sense.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Does she shut the door when she showers and toilets? Oh?

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Speaker 2: I think that's a bit much for the radio, do

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Speaker 2: you think? Not really?

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Speaker 1: Because Ted's only just started doing it. So he'll go

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Speaker 1: into the bathroom and he'll shut the door she's a

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Speaker 1: toiler or if he's having a shower.

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Speaker 2: Oh, it depends.

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Speaker 1: Ok, you can do that.

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Speaker 2: No, No, we're very open. I mean it's just the

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Speaker 2: two girls. Yeah, the two of us come and get

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Speaker 2: in the shower. Here's your tow are you talking to me?

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Speaker 2: Don't daughters push mums away sort of around the teenage years.

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Speaker 2: So you look Are you worried about that cane? No,

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Speaker 2: not at all. I'm really solid about that stuffer. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm a fool human without my daughter. I have purpose

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Speaker 2: without parenting. Yes you do anyway, So give us a

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Speaker 2: call if your kids have done this to you, because

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Speaker 2: I was worried about telling this story on here, because

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Speaker 2: I this is what happened when I started talking about

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Speaker 2: them the soccer and then I ended up playing for

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Speaker 2: men Ihawks.

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Speaker 1: Sure, what's happened.

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Speaker 2: I'm sidelined the other day and we have a begun.

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Speaker 2: And when I say we, I mean my daughter has

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Speaker 2: started playing os Tag for summer and it's so oh

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Speaker 2: it's so great.

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Speaker 1: Walk me through it.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of lies in us tagg. You know

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Speaker 2: you actually makes a great tag. Oh yeah, you do.

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Speaker 2: You've got to grab the tag and it has to

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Speaker 2: be thrown on the ground and then that's where the

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Speaker 2: player has to come back to. I mean, the confusion

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Speaker 2: I'm noticing is that sometimes you think the tag's been

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Speaker 2: ripped off because the bel Crows knew first game and all,

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Speaker 2: and you think that and you stop. But I mean,

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Speaker 2: the biggest advice I can give to kids just starting

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Speaker 2: oz tag out there is just keep running until the

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Speaker 2: ref blows the whistle because maybe the tag hasn't been taken.

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Speaker 2: So I'm standing sidelines secretly wanting to be I actually

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Speaker 2: think I want to play ostag, but don't worry, I'll

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Speaker 2: find my own team. I'd be very good think rugby league.

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Speaker 2: What I'm a bit disappointed about is that there's not

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Speaker 2: a lot of contact. So I'm like, how do you

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Speaker 2: stop the player running over the try line without body

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Speaker 2: contact if you can't reach the tag anyway, That's what's

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Speaker 2: going on in my head. It was only one of

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Speaker 2: the dads is the coach shout out to Ramsey.

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Speaker 1: I would say straight.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no no, And he needed a bit of

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Speaker 2: help with the I just said, oh, would you like

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Speaker 2: me to Is there anything I can do? He was

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Speaker 2: training the girls, and so I put my coach and

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Speaker 2: I was like, if he's listening, he's probably thinking, well,

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Speaker 2: you weren't coaching. You were just like standing there. But

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Speaker 2: I kind of felt coaching because he said just watch

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Speaker 2: the girls, like watch that team and if there's things

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Speaker 2: that they can improve, or if you've got any thoughts

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Speaker 2: like then you can say, and thought I did. I

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Speaker 2: really had to get start talking to myself like, Kate,

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Speaker 2: this is okay. What I'm trying to say is there

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Speaker 2: must be something missing in my life when a grown

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Speaker 2: man just says that I can offer some help within

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Speaker 2: coaching and you get a little bit excited.

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Speaker 1: Is it the fact that it's a man asking for

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Speaker 1: your help?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, because if a woman, it would be less important.

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Speaker 1: Reship.

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Speaker 2: No, I would get it. Let me finish. If I

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Speaker 2: would get it, because if a man was asking for

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Speaker 2: my help, I would know that he didn't really need

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Speaker 2: my help, he was just asking me. So I felt.

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Speaker 1: Included, you need to make it a sec.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, what I'm saying is and no one's going

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Speaker 2: to call because I haven't set this up properly. But

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Speaker 2: my daughter I was so excited. I was like, yeah, good,

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Speaker 2: that is good. Good communication. All of this, like stay back,

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Speaker 2: stay back because it's like rugby league. You can't get

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Speaker 2: past four. You can't, you can't the dummy, it's people

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Speaker 2: throwing around the woods. Dummy. Half I'm like, I understand

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Speaker 2: all of it. What was your best motivational quite like,

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Speaker 2: how did you get everyone up and going? Like?

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Speaker 1: Could you say anything special?

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Speaker 2: Or I don't think I said anything special. I think

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Speaker 2: I was just just me being there.

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Speaker 1: Do you think if if Rumsey couldn't do couldn't coach

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Speaker 1: at the next session, do you think you'd be ready

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Speaker 1: to step up?

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Speaker 2: I could do the session. I could do the session,

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Speaker 2: but I could I couldn't be on the sideline as

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Speaker 2: the coach because I don't understand the rules yet. But

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Speaker 2: I think, and do you know what can I say?

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Speaker 2: He's a brilliant coach in that his coaching style is

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Speaker 2: not telling the kids what they're not doing. He opens

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Speaker 2: it up to the group. And this is a real

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Speaker 2: credit to him, is and asks them all, what do

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Speaker 2: you think you were doing? Great? And they all go

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Speaker 2: around and say I was really good with this, and

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Speaker 2: then at the end of the game they then nominate

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Speaker 2: someone else, like Lilah was really good with communication or whatever.

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Speaker 2: I haven't got what actually happened, but my daughter, after

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Speaker 2: all this excitement, I know I've got to finish. Tommy,

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Speaker 2: take your time, Codd, It's okay, May said to me.

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Speaker 2: My daughter said to me, I was like, yeah, really good,

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Speaker 2: Like in the car or whatever, she's just taking his

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Speaker 2: shoes off and stuff. I was like, that was so great.

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Speaker 2: I can't wait for the game and everything. She said, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it was really great mom. You know that, you know, Mum,

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Speaker 2: like it was really great that you were doing that.

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Speaker 2: But you don't have to do that every times, so

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Speaker 2: I think she And when we turned up to the

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Speaker 2: game the other day, she actually said to me, as

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Speaker 2: we were approaching the ground, she took my hand, so

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Speaker 2: she obviously knows I'm fragile, and she said, just like,

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Speaker 2: we don't need to like, not a lot of noise.

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Speaker 2: Not a lot of noise from you. Mom. Don't get

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Speaker 2: used to it, mate, really get used to it.

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Speaker 1: This is Yeah, when they turn around and they go

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Speaker 1: from the field to the sideline, that's when you know

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Speaker 1: you've failed as a parent.

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Speaker 2: But I'm encouraging. I'm not saying still a bit loud.

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Speaker 2: Wait till you go out there and you tackle the

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Speaker 2: kid yourself.

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