WEBVTT - #1989 Mirror Neurons, Ninja Cats & Psychopaths - David Gillespie

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<v Speaker 1>I got a team.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Stiff and David, It's me, Craig, Anthony, Harper's you project,

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<v Speaker 2>it's you, It's us, It's the whole bloody vibe.

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<v Speaker 3>Tiv Hi, Why Harps?

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<v Speaker 4>How are you?

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<v Speaker 1>Well?

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<v Speaker 2>We've had quite the production before the actual production. And

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<v Speaker 2>you were out there just punching on with your cat

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<v Speaker 2>and nothing but love coming from your gob Who won?

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<v Speaker 1>You were the cat?

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<v Speaker 3>It was a draw? It was a draw.

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<v Speaker 1>What was that little fucker doing?

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<v Speaker 4>So?

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<v Speaker 5>I've got a box of about a dog toilet paper,

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<v Speaker 5>which is like, who gives a crap? But this one

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<v Speaker 5>helps dogs, right, And so it's rolls of toilet paper

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<v Speaker 5>in a big box behind my door. And she got

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<v Speaker 5>inside that box and was rummaging around. She does that

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<v Speaker 5>because she knows.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm on a podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>So does she literally just do that for attention? Do

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<v Speaker 2>you think yes?

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<v Speaker 5>Because she literally will start this stuff when she knows.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know whether she sees me put the headphones

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<v Speaker 5>around my ears, but mischief always happens when a podcast

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<v Speaker 5>is happening.

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<v Speaker 2>We're talking a good afternoon, mister Gillespie.

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<v Speaker 4>How's it going good?

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you? We're talking before we went live.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd like to just revisit this a little bit, because

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<v Speaker 2>we're talking about how cats can basically eat a can

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<v Speaker 2>of cat food a day and line the sun and

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<v Speaker 2>just be fat and lazy. But then when there's some

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<v Speaker 2>kind of you know, enemy, real or pretend like, they'll

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<v Speaker 2>kill that shit in zero point three of a second,

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<v Speaker 2>like the.

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<v Speaker 4>Extremely fast reflexestremely fast, much faster than anything that's likely

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<v Speaker 4>to kill them in the wild, like a snake. So,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, Tip was saying that all those videos on

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<v Speaker 4>YouTube of cats punching cobras in the head before the

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<v Speaker 4>copper even knows what's happened, it's because in real life,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, in the wild, evolution has equpped these animals

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<v Speaker 4>to survive contact with things like snakes. And the way

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<v Speaker 4>it's done it is given wiightening reflexes.

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<v Speaker 1>It's incredible.

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<v Speaker 2>And when you see these, I don't know what an

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<v Speaker 2>anxious cat looks like, but these motherfuckers look so laid back,

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<v Speaker 2>like when the snake strikes, you know, and you just

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<v Speaker 2>see the cat hit it four times before the snake's

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<v Speaker 2>halfway across the range that he wants to be. That

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<v Speaker 2>is imagine if you had those reflex you nine times

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<v Speaker 2>world championship.

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<v Speaker 5>It feels like how I was the snake and my

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<v Speaker 5>boxing trainer Bryce he was the cat right because I

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<v Speaker 5>would just be staring. I would just be I'd be

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<v Speaker 5>so ready, and next minute there'd be a fist through

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<v Speaker 5>my face and I'd just still be standing there, like.

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<v Speaker 3>Ah, I didn't see that coming.

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<v Speaker 1>To what level do you reckon?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you're a fitness coach and you're also an athlete.

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<v Speaker 2>To what extent do you think you can increase that

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<v Speaker 2>kind of reaction time or reduce that kind of reaction

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<v Speaker 2>time and increase your speed and your kind of situational

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<v Speaker 2>awareness in that Because it seems like it's pretty genetic.

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<v Speaker 3>I reckon hugely.

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<v Speaker 5>But it comes down to systems in your brain that

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<v Speaker 5>are beyond the conscious mind because I remember learning it,

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<v Speaker 5>I remember observing myself in training, and you react. You

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<v Speaker 5>begin to react to things, to movements that happened before

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<v Speaker 5>the movements you're watching. So would I would start to

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<v Speaker 5>weave a punch and throw back and go oh oh,

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<v Speaker 5>I weave that I didn't even know it was coming.

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<v Speaker 5>Because in your peripheral vision, you see someone's shoulder move

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<v Speaker 5>or something happen with their with their hip or their

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<v Speaker 5>foot that tells your brain it's coming. And when that

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<v Speaker 5>first started happening, I was like, oh, how did I know?

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<v Speaker 2>That's like that's like yeah, pattern recognition, right, and these

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<v Speaker 2>kind of physical cues where you know, every time he

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<v Speaker 2>punches me on, then he does this before the thing

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<v Speaker 2>hits hits my nose, so and you might not even

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<v Speaker 2>you probably can't even process that in real time.

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<v Speaker 4>So it's just you'll be glad to know. There's really

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<v Speaker 4>interesting studies about this, so.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course you know about them.

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<v Speaker 4>It uses mirror mirror on your own networks. Yeah, and

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<v Speaker 4>the study of being done in baseball players because there's

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<v Speaker 4>a lot of money in baseball, I guess, And what

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<v Speaker 4>they're trying to figure out is can you make someone

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<v Speaker 4>a better hitter? So you've got about three hundred milliseconds

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<v Speaker 4>between when a baseball leaves the pitcher's hand, a fastball

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<v Speaker 4>leaves their hand and it's across the plate. So in

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<v Speaker 4>that three hundred milliseconds, the hitter has got to decide

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<v Speaker 4>what to do, and they can't. They don't have enough

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<v Speaker 4>time to make a decision that there's just not enough

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<v Speaker 4>decision time three hundred second, so you can't make a

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<v Speaker 4>conscious decision.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's the point. That's points three of.

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<v Speaker 4>A second right, only three of a second right. So

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<v Speaker 4>so in order to do it, what they did is

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<v Speaker 4>they studied if we just take people who have no

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<v Speaker 4>training ortoever, you know, just college kids in a room

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<v Speaker 4>and give them a fast ball, how how often will

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<v Speaker 4>they hit it out of you know, however many tries,

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<v Speaker 4>and then do the same thing with a professional ballplayer,

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<v Speaker 4>and you'd expect the professional ballplayer it has much high percentage.

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<v Speaker 4>They connect with the ball approximately twice as often as

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<v Speaker 4>the untrained person.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 4>But the interesting thing is they could get the untrained

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<v Speaker 4>person there very very quickly, like a very very small

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<v Speaker 4>number of sessions exposed to that high speed ball with

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<v Speaker 4>the same pitcher, and they were getting very very close

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<v Speaker 4>to the level that the professional pitcher would get there.

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<v Speaker 4>And they surmised that what was actually going on was

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<v Speaker 4>that there's a set of neurons in the brain call

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<v Speaker 4>but mirror neur owns where which don't do anythinking at all.

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<v Speaker 4>It's an electric response to the environment. So it's just

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<v Speaker 4>whatever is happening in the environment, it just mirrors that

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<v Speaker 4>back into the brain and takes it as an input.

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<v Speaker 4>And we use that. Interestingly, the reason I know about

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<v Speaker 4>this is not because I'm a baseball fan, but because

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<v Speaker 4>we use it in assessing whether or not someone is

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<v Speaker 4>a psychopath when we first meet them. So a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of people report, particularly women who are much more attuned

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<v Speaker 4>to this than men, that meeting a certain person gives

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<v Speaker 4>them an uneasy feeling, and they put it down to

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<v Speaker 4>women's intuition just to hunch whatever, whatever, And they're saying

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<v Speaker 4>that what's actually going on there is that that mirror

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<v Speaker 4>neuron circuit is firing so that they're seeing things that

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<v Speaker 4>they don't see, things where if you ask them to

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<v Speaker 4>sit down and describe what are they seeing, just like

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<v Speaker 4>at the baseball player, or just like with what Tiff described,

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<v Speaker 4>describe exactly what told you what was about to happen,

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<v Speaker 4>they would not be able to tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes.

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<v Speaker 4>But the mirror network is picking up these little micro

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<v Speaker 4>movements or expressions or whatever it is that tells them

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<v Speaker 4>what is about to happen and makes them react without thinking.

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<v Speaker 4>And that's what's going on in the studies that they've

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<v Speaker 4>done on similar things with introductions to psychopaths, is you

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<v Speaker 4>can tell within the first second or two that the

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<v Speaker 4>person is giving you the yck. Now, a lot of

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<v Speaker 4>people dismiss that and say, ah, you know, I just

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<v Speaker 4>you know, I must be you know, maybe didn't like

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<v Speaker 4>his color, his tie or whatever, but you know, or

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<v Speaker 4>just you know, maybe he just said the wrong thing

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<v Speaker 4>or annoyed me, or I wasn't feeling good, whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 4>But what the science seems to say is you should

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<v Speaker 4>trust that, you should go with that if the person

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<v Speaker 4>is giving you the yick straight away. I tried always

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<v Speaker 4>be prepared to yeah, go ahead, no, go on, tiff.

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<v Speaker 5>Because my first reaction was to date them. After a

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<v Speaker 5>bit of pattern recognition in my own life, I adjusted

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<v Speaker 5>that reaction.

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<v Speaker 1>Why do you reckon? Why do you reckon? You did that?

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<v Speaker 4>Like?

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<v Speaker 3>What do you in therapy trying to learn harts?

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<v Speaker 2>But what do you think if you just had to

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<v Speaker 2>have your best guess? Like why did you pick maniacs?

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<v Speaker 4>I think there was a few.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 5>Here's the theory that I first came up with. I

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<v Speaker 5>think because of my terror of emotional depth. My something

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<v Speaker 5>in me recognized that there was no real depth or

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<v Speaker 5>emotional vulnerability, so it felt safe. So that wasn't real.

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<v Speaker 5>So the pretend like they're very charismatic and that's an

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<v Speaker 5>easy story to believe.

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<v Speaker 3>Does that make sense?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so maybe some tings like that out of psychobabble

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<v Speaker 4>and into what's really going on.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, here we go.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, So psychopaths are extremely confident people because they don't

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<v Speaker 4>believe that they're ever wrong about anything ever in their lives.

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<v Speaker 4>So you imagine if you went through your entire life

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<v Speaker 4>believing you could not be wrong about anything at any time.

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<v Speaker 4>So that's the way they operate all the time, and

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<v Speaker 4>that projects as extreme confidence. And as a general rule,

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<v Speaker 4>people find confidence attractive much more attractive than their physical appearance,

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<v Speaker 4>like the average looking people, But if they're confident and

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<v Speaker 4>average looking, they're more attractive.

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<v Speaker 2>I just think that works both ways, as in both genders.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like, perhaps biologically, dudes are more interested in appearance,

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<v Speaker 2>at least for a period of their lifespan than you know,

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<v Speaker 2>whether or not a.

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<v Speaker 1>Woman is confident.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like some guys would actually be attracted to

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<v Speaker 2>the opposite of that.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know that you probably there's probably hundreds of

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<v Speaker 4>psychopovel textbooks about that, I'd imagine, But the biochemistry is

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<v Speaker 4>it works both ways. Yeah, right, So, and I don't know. Look,

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<v Speaker 4>there are times when when testosterone is doing the thinking

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<v Speaker 4>for you, I guess, and as you as you get older.

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<v Speaker 4>I remember one of the primary functions of testosterone is

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<v Speaker 4>sex drive, So and your image. Remember that a boy

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<v Speaker 4>that's just ended puberty has approximately, you know, four hundred

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<v Speaker 4>times the testosterone they had before they entered puberty, and

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<v Speaker 4>twice as much as they'll have when they're in their thirties.

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<v Speaker 4>So you know, that could be doing the thing for

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<v Speaker 4>you at that stage.

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<v Speaker 2>It's definitely not doing the thinking for me. I haven't

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<v Speaker 2>seen any since the late nineties. Okay, every morning I

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<v Speaker 2>look out the window, I'm like, fuck, not a drop

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<v Speaker 2>to be seen, hoping.

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<v Speaker 1>For a delivery any day. Now where you can get.

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<v Speaker 4>To you probably fine, You'll probably find confidence very appealing

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<v Speaker 4>then by now.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm very attracted to you. Let's say that I

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<v Speaker 2>have you heard of that book? He probably read that book.

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<v Speaker 2>We may have spoken about once or twice, I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Malcolm Gladwell's blink.

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<v Speaker 4>Blink, yeah, absolutely, yes, what a great book.

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<v Speaker 2>He kind of speaks to this a little bit, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just going to have to change my earphones because

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<v Speaker 2>it keeps telling me to change my earphones.

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<v Speaker 1>Because my batteries can't flat. So you too, carry on,

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<v Speaker 1>you to carry on.

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<v Speaker 4>We were just say Harps.

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<v Speaker 1>Has gone to change his dying headphones.

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<v Speaker 3>Well you've just said it, so we don't need to.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we'll just talk amongst ourselves. How's the cat going?

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<v Speaker 4>Is it a lie?

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<v Speaker 6>Which she shot?

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<v Speaker 3>Shout out?

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<v Speaker 4>Now all right here? Oh he's finally back. God knows

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<v Speaker 4>where he had to get those earphones from. But you

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<v Speaker 4>have to go into the next county to get them

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<v Speaker 4>or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Did I just ran some bloody target. I'll tell you

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<v Speaker 2>what's a good thing. I'm very swift.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right there.

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<v Speaker 2>Tiff thought them for me because she was mad at

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<v Speaker 2>me because I never wore headphones. Then I thought I'd

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<v Speaker 2>get fancy and where my bloody sony whatever they are,

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<v Speaker 2>and they.

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<v Speaker 1>Just ran out of juice. They just they just ran

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<v Speaker 1>out of juice.

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<v Speaker 2>So we were talking about Malcolm Gladwell and that book

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<v Speaker 2>and that that capacity that we seem to have to

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<v Speaker 2>be able to know something before we could seemingly logically

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<v Speaker 2>figure it out.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, we're very very finely tuned with it when it

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<v Speaker 4>comes to other humans. So because other humans can potentially

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<v Speaker 4>kill us, and so we have to learn very very quickly,

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<v Speaker 4>within seconds, is this someone I can trust or is

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<v Speaker 4>this someone I can't trust? And so we have a

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<v Speaker 4>very finely attuned capacity to do that. Our entire growing

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<v Speaker 4>up lives from the very first second we see our

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<v Speaker 4>mother's face. The mirror network is firing the entire time

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<v Speaker 4>to assess what are the signs that another human is dangerous?

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<v Speaker 6>I've got a question.

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<v Speaker 5>Then I would like for the non psychologist to evaluate

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<v Speaker 5>why I'm so dumb at it?

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<v Speaker 4>Then it's not that you're dumb at it, it's that

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<v Speaker 4>you don't trust it.

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<v Speaker 6>Choose it?

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<v Speaker 5>Then I don't choose anything. Now why did I walk

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<v Speaker 5>towards it instead of away from it?

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<v Speaker 4>All because you found the confidence attractive? Wow?

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<v Speaker 1>How old were you when this was happening? What age

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<v Speaker 1>range was this?

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<v Speaker 5>Twenty twenties, twenties and thirties? And then I packed up

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<v Speaker 5>my bat and ball and came home and didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Go And when I'm going to buy two hundred animals

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<v Speaker 2>over the next thirty years.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's me done? Yeah, pretty much, that's done. Yeah. Yeah. Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>We were talking before we came on about you probably

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to talk about this but I'm interested in handball.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're very heavily invested in handball. Your did you

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<v Speaker 2>say two or three of your girls played at recently

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<v Speaker 2>high level and you just came back or they just

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<v Speaker 2>came back and you're from New Zealand give us a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of an insight into this. I know this

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<v Speaker 2>is very random everyone, but I'm interested in it. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>interested in it.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it European handball?

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<v Speaker 4>Is that the European handball? Yeah, it's the stuff that's

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<v Speaker 4>played at the Olympics. So it's like water polo, but

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<v Speaker 4>without the water, you know, so very very high speed

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<v Speaker 4>indoor sport or another way to describe as like futsal,

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<v Speaker 4>but play with your hands not your feet, and it's

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<v Speaker 4>full contact, so you know, you can be full body, hard,

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<v Speaker 4>hit contacted. And I think we talked about this last

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<v Speaker 4>time when I was saying about that. Why I liked

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<v Speaker 4>what Tiff posted it about women boxing. It's the same

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<v Speaker 4>in handball because they're playing a full contact sport on

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<v Speaker 4>an indoor court at very high speed. And I love

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<v Speaker 4>the effect that has on girls assert of and confidence.

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<v Speaker 4>They have to be pretty confident to run at the

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<v Speaker 4>line where they know someone's going to hit them, and

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<v Speaker 4>it's it's a very highly skill sport. It's easy to

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<v Speaker 4>get to a sort of conversational level with you know,

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<v Speaker 4>you pick a ball, you can shoot. People like it

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<v Speaker 4>because unlike netball, for example, where only a couple of

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<v Speaker 4>people ever get to score, anyone can score from anywhere.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's all about, you know, tactics to move the

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<v Speaker 4>defenses quickly as possible, move the ball, get it in

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<v Speaker 4>the goal. Very very physical to sixty minute game and

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<v Speaker 4>you're running from end to end on a forty meter

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<v Speaker 4>court and in an average game there's going to be

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<v Speaker 4>fifty to sixty goals scored, so you're running end to

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<v Speaker 4>end a lot. So yeah, I think it's a terrific sport. Obviously.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm the manager of the Australian women's team and also

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<v Speaker 4>the president of the biggest club in Australia, Brisbane Handball,

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<v Speaker 4>and we just took two teams over to New Zealand

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<v Speaker 4>to the club championships there they're once a year thing,

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<v Speaker 4>and our women's team won and our men's team came second.

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<v Speaker 4>And the thing I really loved about our women's team

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<v Speaker 4>winning is that five of the players and there are

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<v Speaker 4>seven one court at any time, but there's usally about

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<v Speaker 4>fourteen in a team because of all the running, you

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<v Speaker 4>get exhausted, had to be all the time, so it's

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<v Speaker 4>got rolling subs. And what I loved is that five

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<v Speaker 4>of the players on that or from our under fifteen

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<v Speaker 4>girls team, So damn yeah. Getting them to go out

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<v Speaker 4>there and play against women and beat them I think

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<v Speaker 4>was an incredible experience for them.

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<v Speaker 2>Do they I'm just interested as an xio scientist. Do

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<v Speaker 2>they have you know, how structured is their training? Do

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<v Speaker 2>they have strength and conditioning kind of coaches, Do they

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<v Speaker 2>have rehab people, do they have physios?

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<v Speaker 1>I guess they have all of that at that level

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<v Speaker 1>they have.

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<v Speaker 4>So a week of training in Australia at our club

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<v Speaker 4>is to to our on court sessions which are pretty

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<v Speaker 4>full on, full of lots of heavy duty cardio type stuff,

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<v Speaker 4>plus of course skills and drills for ballwork, and then

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<v Speaker 4>they have one session which is an hour in the

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<v Speaker 4>gym and then an hour on court with specialist small

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<v Speaker 4>groups strength and conditioning coaches. So and they're easily training

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<v Speaker 4>more than any other is because here it's a micro sport.

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<v Speaker 4>No one is no one does it here in Europe

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<v Speaker 4>it's a massive sport. Thirty million people play it. It's

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<v Speaker 4>second only to soccer in terms of its audience, and

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<v Speaker 4>even the level that we're out here would be mostly

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<v Speaker 4>pathetic against European teams that that are training five or

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<v Speaker 4>six times a week.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you be I mean, are you? I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't mean you personally, But is is the sport

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<v Speaker 2>interested in growing and expanding or just having fun and

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<v Speaker 2>just doing what you do?

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<v Speaker 4>We know we want it massively to expand. I look,

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's a terrific sport. My girls have played

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<v Speaker 4>netball or lives softball, whatever you name it. They've they've

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<v Speaker 4>pried everything. They got to a pretty high level with netball,

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<v Speaker 4>but they're continuing on with this because I think the

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<v Speaker 4>value particularly for girls. It's terrific sport for boys as well,

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<v Speaker 4>but it's as with most sports with boys, it's all

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<v Speaker 4>about how ard you can hit.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know, it's it, you know.

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<v Speaker 4>I find the women's version of the sport more pleasant

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<v Speaker 4>to watch because the skills are more important rather than

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<v Speaker 4>you know, you know, it's the same size call for

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<v Speaker 4>boys and girls, and boys can just leap in the

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<v Speaker 4>air nine meters out from the goal and shoot over

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<v Speaker 4>the defense. And you know, that's that's power sport as

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<v Speaker 4>opposed to women have to find a way through without

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<v Speaker 4>being able to do that. So and these balls are

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<v Speaker 4>being thrown, you know, shot at one hundred and forty

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<v Speaker 4>kilometers an hour. You know, to volunteer to be a

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<v Speaker 4>goalie in that situation, it is a work of courage

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<v Speaker 4>in itself.

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<v Speaker 1>What's the size of the ball compared.

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<v Speaker 4>To the size So the men play with a size

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<v Speaker 4>three soccer ball and the women play with size two

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<v Speaker 4>soccer ball.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what is that like?

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<v Speaker 4>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Is a ladies one like the size of a softball?

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<v Speaker 1>Like a softball?

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, no, no, it's bigger than that. So the

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<v Speaker 4>men's size are probably about a half size imagine about

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<v Speaker 4>half the size of a soccer ball, so imagine a

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<v Speaker 4>small soccer ball, and the women's one is a little

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<v Speaker 4>bit smaller on that, but not massively smaller.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you got that goofy smile on your face?

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<v Speaker 4>For?

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<v Speaker 1>What are you looking at?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm trying to look up a video so I can

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<v Speaker 6>see it.

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<v Speaker 4>Can you chend you some videos?

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know what size a size three soccer ball?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, all balls you would know if because you're an

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<v Speaker 4>expert in ball sports, all all ball sports work on

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<v Speaker 4>a standard sizing system.

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<v Speaker 1>So yes, yep, yeah, yeah, she's that. She's wow.

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<v Speaker 4>And so.

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<v Speaker 2>What's your responsibility as kind of the president for Australia

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<v Speaker 2>so to speak.

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<v Speaker 4>A manager? So yeah, they do the logistics of getting

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<v Speaker 4>them all together and all that sort of thing, basically

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<v Speaker 4>the same thing I do at the club, which is

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<v Speaker 4>organizing logistics making it all happen.

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<v Speaker 2>And I guess you'd need a sponsorship. Be hard to

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<v Speaker 2>get low profile sport. But if you're interested, if you're interested, anyone,

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<v Speaker 2>hit David up. He'll at the very least have a

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<v Speaker 2>chat to you and probably tell you about the frame

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<v Speaker 2>rate that birds see at per minute or second, which

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<v Speaker 2>she told me before the show.

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<v Speaker 4>Twelve hundred, twelve hundred per second, humans see at sixty

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<v Speaker 4>How is.

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<v Speaker 1>That even possible? Twelve hundred per second?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, So if you imagine flying at sixty kilometers an

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<v Speaker 4>hour between the branches of trees and leaves and so on,

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<v Speaker 4>and not hitting any of it, you have to see

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<v Speaker 4>things nice and slow. You have to say so to them.

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<v Speaker 4>The experience is seeing the world in twenty times slow motion.

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<v Speaker 4>So for them, it's easy. Hey, I'm just you know,

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<v Speaker 4>it's like taking a walk flying at sixty kilo meters

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<v Speaker 4>an hour through the foliage. And that's why birds, when

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<v Speaker 4>they're sitting on the road in front of you and

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<v Speaker 4>you're approaching one hundred kilometers an hour, it takes forever

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<v Speaker 4>to get off the road because to them, they've got

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<v Speaker 4>forever they can see you. You're a long way away.

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<v Speaker 2>Well they see it twenty times quo wicked than Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but perceptually slower, yes, yes, yes, it's like.

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<v Speaker 1>Moving in slow mode for them.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. Yeah, and they've got plenty of reaction time. And

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<v Speaker 4>you know, lots of species have these, Like dogs, I

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<v Speaker 4>think have a sense of smell that's approximately a thousand

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<v Speaker 4>times more sensitive than humans. And it's just a matter

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<v Speaker 4>of where evolution has redirected the brain's resources. What do

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<v Speaker 4>you think human superpower is? Because we have.

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<v Speaker 1>One, well, mine's dancing.

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<v Speaker 4>I can't obviously, yes, the rest of humanity.

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<v Speaker 1>What is our superpower? Critical?

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<v Speaker 4>Is one thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Problem solving? Critical thing?

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<v Speaker 6>No?

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, it's no, no, it's a sense thing. What

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<v Speaker 4>is the thing that humans do better than any other

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<v Speaker 4>species on the planet?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow? Uh, drink beer to guess.

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<v Speaker 5>Something around like empathy with other other people's.

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<v Speaker 4>Going to she'sail. She's nailed it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's we've had this conversation TIF said dogs have empathy.

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<v Speaker 4>We've had this, well, look, I can't help her not

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<v Speaker 4>understanding that her dog's are psychopaths. But in humans, I

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<v Speaker 4>love them.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why I love my dog.

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<v Speaker 4>Our superpower is we've redirected and they think from our

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<v Speaker 4>sense of smell, so we know some pass in our

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<v Speaker 4>dim dark evolutionary history. We redirected from from we had

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<v Speaker 4>a better sense of smell, and we've redirected some of

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<v Speaker 4>the neuronal wiring there to to this business that we

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<v Speaker 4>were talking about before, which is reading other humans. Our

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<v Speaker 4>ability to sense the emotions and intentions of other humans

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<v Speaker 4>is greater than any other animal. No other animal has

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<v Speaker 4>what we describe as empathy. But empathy is in fact

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<v Speaker 4>tuning into the brain of another animal. It's being able

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<v Speaker 4>to predict what that animal is thinking in real time

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<v Speaker 4>is our superpower. No other animal can do that. So

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<v Speaker 4>that's how we've used that sensory network that birds have

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<v Speaker 4>got in their eyes, cats have got in their reflexes,

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<v Speaker 4>we've got in our ability to judge the intentions of others.

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<v Speaker 1>I reckon there's a lot of people who are not

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<v Speaker 1>very good at that. I think a lot of we're all.

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<v Speaker 4>Very good at it, but we have to learn to

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<v Speaker 4>trust it.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, and I think a lot of people don't

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<v Speaker 2>do it though, like a lot of people really don't

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<v Speaker 2>think about how anyone else thinks.

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<v Speaker 4>There's an interesting set of studies on there's a suggestion

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<v Speaker 4>that one way to tell that someone is a psychopath

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<v Speaker 4>is that they are either tone deaf, color blind, or

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<v Speaker 4>I don't mind bitter drinks, And all of those things

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<v Speaker 4>have in common and InIB to finally differentiate. So, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>tone deaf means you can't properly differentiate the tones in music,

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<v Speaker 4>colorblind means you can't properly differentiate the colors, and preferring

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<v Speaker 4>bitter things means you can't properly differentiate whether something is

0:25:37.040 --> 0:25:42.520
<v Speaker 4>bitter or sweet. So those are all differentiation things that

0:25:42.640 --> 0:25:46.879
<v Speaker 4>require a lot of neuronal processing power. And there's a

0:25:46.920 --> 0:25:51.440
<v Speaker 4>theory that says because psychopaths have no empathy and they

0:25:51.480 --> 0:25:56.400
<v Speaker 4>don't have any empathy, that part of that network that

0:25:56.560 --> 0:26:00.600
<v Speaker 4>would have been secondered to producing empathy also doesn't work

0:26:00.640 --> 0:26:04.159
<v Speaker 4>for the other things in their lives. So we've secondered

0:26:04.280 --> 0:26:07.800
<v Speaker 4>our sense of taste, our sense of smell, our eyesight,

0:26:07.840 --> 0:26:12.719
<v Speaker 4>et cetera into the empathy network, and the suggestion is

0:26:12.760 --> 0:26:16.920
<v Speaker 4>that it's impaired all throughout. So the same network is

0:26:16.960 --> 0:26:19.080
<v Speaker 4>doing all of those things. And that's why you'll see

0:26:19.080 --> 0:26:22.520
<v Speaker 4>studies if you go looking for it, where they'll say

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<v Speaker 4>the way to tell a psychopath is they like black coffee,

0:26:25.320 --> 0:26:30.119
<v Speaker 4>or they drink straight spirits or things like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, that's I think you'd want to dive deep into

0:26:33.560 --> 0:26:36.520
<v Speaker 2>that before you start thinking everyone who drinks black coffee

0:26:36.520 --> 0:26:39.920
<v Speaker 2>that you're a sociopath or a psychopath. It's like there's

0:26:39.960 --> 0:26:43.359
<v Speaker 2>all these color blind people now running around the house.

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<v Speaker 4>I wouldn't recognize. Recommend this is a diagnostic tool that

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<v Speaker 4>you will find studies, and there is buy a chemistry

0:26:51.600 --> 0:26:56.439
<v Speaker 4>to back it up. But it's so let's fage it

0:26:56.480 --> 0:26:58.800
<v Speaker 4>as one of the things to pay attention to.

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<v Speaker 1>My God, TIF, do you like bitter drinks?

0:27:02.400 --> 0:27:03.040
<v Speaker 3>I just can't.

0:27:03.520 --> 0:27:04.240
<v Speaker 6>I just can't.

0:27:04.280 --> 0:27:08.719
<v Speaker 5>But how does David know all of this stuff about

0:27:08.760 --> 0:27:10.080
<v Speaker 5>everything in the world.

0:27:11.440 --> 0:27:14.760
<v Speaker 2>That's why he's our he's our resident savant. He's a

0:27:14.840 --> 0:27:17.640
<v Speaker 2>rain man. He's rain man in a bad suit. I mean,

0:27:18.440 --> 0:27:20.560
<v Speaker 2>how can I say that's why we.

0:27:20.520 --> 0:27:20.960
<v Speaker 1>Get him on?

0:27:23.400 --> 0:27:26.600
<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean that like there, yeah, I don't know,

0:27:26.720 --> 0:27:29.880
<v Speaker 2>I opened the door, but like understanding how other people think.

0:27:29.960 --> 0:27:32.439
<v Speaker 2>In psychology it's called theory of mind. And you and

0:27:32.480 --> 0:27:34.919
<v Speaker 2>I have both spoken about this, but yeah, there are

0:27:34.960 --> 0:27:37.360
<v Speaker 2>a lot of people who are fucking terrible at understanding

0:27:37.400 --> 0:27:38.320
<v Speaker 2>how other people think.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, and it's not it's not that so it's

0:27:42.200 --> 0:27:45.000
<v Speaker 1>not listen to you, Yes it is, Yes, it is.

0:27:45.480 --> 0:27:48.879
<v Speaker 4>That's that it is. That's a conscious level decision about

0:27:49.800 --> 0:27:54.239
<v Speaker 4>So if we put it into a more everyday term, right,

0:27:54.400 --> 0:27:56.400
<v Speaker 4>if you're walking out into the street and the car

0:27:56.480 --> 0:27:59.119
<v Speaker 4>is about to hit you, there's a there's an automated

0:27:59.160 --> 0:28:02.200
<v Speaker 4>system that recognizes the signs that a car's are about

0:28:02.200 --> 0:28:05.240
<v Speaker 4>to hit you and get your adrenaline pumping quickly gets

0:28:05.280 --> 0:28:07.880
<v Speaker 4>you out of the way, quickly, before you've even had

0:28:07.880 --> 0:28:09.680
<v Speaker 4>time to have a think about, oh, there's a car

0:28:09.760 --> 0:28:12.280
<v Speaker 4>about to hit me. What you're talking about is that

0:28:12.320 --> 0:28:16.160
<v Speaker 4>second system, the bit that's a second or two down

0:28:16.240 --> 0:28:20.639
<v Speaker 4>the line, that is consciously trying to make decisions on

0:28:20.880 --> 0:28:24.480
<v Speaker 4>manual I'm talking about the fully automated system that happens

0:28:24.920 --> 0:28:28.000
<v Speaker 4>within the first second. And I know you talked about

0:28:28.000 --> 0:28:31.920
<v Speaker 4>Malcolm's book there blink, he talks about the first ten seconds.

0:28:32.080 --> 0:28:34.160
<v Speaker 4>I think that's way too long. The first ten seconds.

0:28:34.320 --> 0:28:37.000
<v Speaker 4>You know, we've thought an essay about it. It's not

0:28:37.040 --> 0:28:40.080
<v Speaker 4>the first one second. It's one it's under a second.

0:28:40.560 --> 0:28:43.800
<v Speaker 4>It's the base four players having to make decisions about

0:28:43.880 --> 0:28:47.560
<v Speaker 4>what to do with their bodies before the ball even

0:28:47.720 --> 0:28:51.320
<v Speaker 4>leaves the pitcher's hand. Yeah, do you remember that Tiff

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:55.680
<v Speaker 4>said she knew what to do before the punch even began.

0:28:57.920 --> 0:29:01.280
<v Speaker 2>It's interesting because there's another idea or concept or construct

0:29:01.360 --> 0:29:03.400
<v Speaker 2>or whatever you want to call it in psychology called

0:29:03.400 --> 0:29:06.760
<v Speaker 2>the false consensus effect, and that is quite a well

0:29:06.800 --> 0:29:10.280
<v Speaker 2>known thing that talks about the fact that most people

0:29:10.360 --> 0:29:14.920
<v Speaker 2>think that other people think like them. Like they assume that,

0:29:15.000 --> 0:29:18.240
<v Speaker 2>you know, so they assume that their intention will be

0:29:18.280 --> 0:29:21.640
<v Speaker 2>the other person's experience, you know what I mean. It's like, well,

0:29:21.680 --> 0:29:24.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm being very clear? Am I not being clear with

0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:26.960
<v Speaker 2>my words? I'm saying, you know, and so therefore they

0:29:26.960 --> 0:29:27.880
<v Speaker 2>should understand me.

0:29:28.720 --> 0:29:32.240
<v Speaker 4>But there's a great model of this called tit for tat,

0:29:32.280 --> 0:29:34.640
<v Speaker 4>and I think we've talked about it before, which is

0:29:35.440 --> 0:29:40.400
<v Speaker 4>most humans operate most empathetic humans operate on the assumption

0:29:40.960 --> 0:29:46.680
<v Speaker 4>that everybody else has good intentions. So and we operate

0:29:46.680 --> 0:29:49.000
<v Speaker 4>on a model called tit for tat, which is we

0:29:49.080 --> 0:29:52.960
<v Speaker 4>will default to doing the right thing and being trustworthy

0:29:53.240 --> 0:29:55.680
<v Speaker 4>and being honest with another person. If we meet a

0:29:55.720 --> 0:29:58.600
<v Speaker 4>stranger and the stranger says, can I borrow a dollar,

0:29:58.960 --> 0:30:02.920
<v Speaker 4>will lend them a dollar and will assume that they

0:30:02.920 --> 0:30:05.160
<v Speaker 4>will give it back to us, you know, when they

0:30:05.200 --> 0:30:08.680
<v Speaker 4>no longer need it, and so we operate on that

0:30:08.720 --> 0:30:12.040
<v Speaker 4>as a default. So most of humanity, the part of

0:30:12.120 --> 0:30:16.200
<v Speaker 4>humanity that are not psychopaths, most of humanity work on

0:30:16.240 --> 0:30:19.080
<v Speaker 4>that basis, which is, we start from honest, we start

0:30:19.080 --> 0:30:23.600
<v Speaker 4>from trust, and the only time we change from that

0:30:24.360 --> 0:30:27.560
<v Speaker 4>is if the person proves themselves to be untrustworthy. So

0:30:27.600 --> 0:30:31.120
<v Speaker 4>we start trusting them, and then they don't give the

0:30:31.200 --> 0:30:34.440
<v Speaker 4>dollar back and we say, oh, okay, so you can't

0:30:34.480 --> 0:30:38.840
<v Speaker 4>be trusted, and from then on we'll be dishonest with

0:30:38.880 --> 0:30:42.000
<v Speaker 4>them too, So we'll believe that if they're dishonest, we

0:30:42.040 --> 0:30:45.960
<v Speaker 4>have carte blanche to be dishonest as well. Until they

0:30:45.960 --> 0:30:49.320
<v Speaker 4>are honest again, we immediately switch back. So if they

0:30:50.080 --> 0:30:53.000
<v Speaker 4>suddenly prove themselves to be honest, we'll switch back to

0:30:53.040 --> 0:30:56.280
<v Speaker 4>being honest. And humans operate on this tit for tat model,

0:30:56.320 --> 0:30:59.800
<v Speaker 4>and it's been proven study after study after study after study,

0:30:59.800 --> 0:31:03.760
<v Speaker 4>being replicated ad nauseum. All of us work on tit

0:31:03.800 --> 0:31:09.040
<v Speaker 4>for tat. Psychopaths don't. Psychopaths have the reverse model, so

0:31:09.280 --> 0:31:13.800
<v Speaker 4>they default to the proposition that you are untrustworthy, that

0:31:14.160 --> 0:31:17.440
<v Speaker 4>you will lie to them, and they work on that

0:31:17.520 --> 0:31:20.320
<v Speaker 4>presumption in their dealings with you right from the get go.

0:31:21.040 --> 0:31:21.600
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:31:22.000 --> 0:31:25.400
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think there's a space in the middle where you.

0:31:26.160 --> 0:31:28.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't necessarily trust everyone up front.

0:31:28.760 --> 0:31:31.120
<v Speaker 1>But that is because I've been burned a hundred times.

0:31:31.160 --> 0:31:34.480
<v Speaker 2>So neither do I automatically think they're going to steal

0:31:34.520 --> 0:31:36.520
<v Speaker 2>a lye or cheap I don't think that either. I

0:31:36.600 --> 0:31:39.320
<v Speaker 2>just think they have the potential for that. So for me,

0:31:40.560 --> 0:31:43.880
<v Speaker 2>I tend to just pay attention for a while, you know,

0:31:44.080 --> 0:31:46.520
<v Speaker 2>not mistrust them, not trust them somewhere in the middle.

0:31:47.560 --> 0:31:50.800
<v Speaker 4>The interesting thing is there's been some quite interesting models

0:31:50.880 --> 0:31:56.400
<v Speaker 4>done of things that we do that give us guidance

0:31:56.440 --> 0:31:59.680
<v Speaker 4>about whether to trust someone or not, because we don't

0:31:59.680 --> 0:32:04.240
<v Speaker 4>automically trust unless the person we're dealing with is like us.

0:32:05.840 --> 0:32:09.040
<v Speaker 4>So the more like us they are, the more likely

0:32:09.120 --> 0:32:12.080
<v Speaker 4>we are to automatically trust them. And if there are

0:32:12.120 --> 0:32:15.840
<v Speaker 4>any differences, so now they're not the same race as us,

0:32:15.920 --> 0:32:18.920
<v Speaker 4>they speak a different language from us, they're a different

0:32:18.960 --> 0:32:22.880
<v Speaker 4>religion from us. If there are any obvious differences between

0:32:22.920 --> 0:32:27.280
<v Speaker 4>them and us, then our likelihood of trust decreases and

0:32:27.400 --> 0:32:30.160
<v Speaker 4>we start to behave like you described great, which is

0:32:30.840 --> 0:32:32.800
<v Speaker 4>I'm just going to give this a few cycles first

0:32:32.920 --> 0:32:36.920
<v Speaker 4>before I completely trust this person. But the more like

0:32:36.960 --> 0:32:39.440
<v Speaker 4>you they are, the more likely you are to trust

0:32:39.480 --> 0:32:40.520
<v Speaker 4>them straight out of the gate.

0:32:40.640 --> 0:32:41.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that makes total sense.

0:32:42.240 --> 0:32:47.280
<v Speaker 2>I used to be overwhelmingly to my own detriment trust

0:32:47.520 --> 0:32:52.680
<v Speaker 2>trusting with everybody and then running businesses, owning businesses, employing

0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:54.760
<v Speaker 2>people and all that stuff that comes with that. Not

0:32:54.840 --> 0:32:58.000
<v Speaker 2>with everybody, very small percentage of people, but people that

0:32:58.080 --> 0:33:02.680
<v Speaker 2>I really loved, really loved, really trusted, really valued, just

0:33:03.160 --> 0:33:07.840
<v Speaker 2>stole money from me, like repeatedly and took every opportunity,

0:33:08.280 --> 0:33:08.720
<v Speaker 2>not not.

0:33:08.800 --> 0:33:12.080
<v Speaker 1>Most, of course, but some and you.

0:33:12.040 --> 0:33:15.040
<v Speaker 2>Know, like people that were very high on my list

0:33:15.040 --> 0:33:17.720
<v Speaker 2>of people that I cared about. And it didn't happen

0:33:17.760 --> 0:33:21.040
<v Speaker 2>one time, it happened, you know, way more than a

0:33:21.080 --> 0:33:23.520
<v Speaker 2>dozen times. And yeah, so you get to the point

0:33:23.600 --> 0:33:27.560
<v Speaker 2>you think, well, actually trusting people automatically, which I have

0:33:27.680 --> 0:33:31.360
<v Speaker 2>always done, has not served me at all. It's actually

0:33:31.520 --> 0:33:36.040
<v Speaker 2>caused significant problems, so, you know, rather than and also

0:33:36.080 --> 0:33:38.240
<v Speaker 2>I don't hate them. I don't want any ill to

0:33:38.280 --> 0:33:38.800
<v Speaker 2>come to them.

0:33:38.840 --> 0:33:41.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't, you know. And but for me.

0:33:41.520 --> 0:33:43.440
<v Speaker 2>It just takes a while where I go, oh, let's

0:33:43.440 --> 0:33:46.840
<v Speaker 2>just see, let me just let me just pay attention

0:33:46.920 --> 0:33:48.960
<v Speaker 2>for a while, and I'll see what happens and whether

0:33:49.040 --> 0:33:49.800
<v Speaker 2>or not I trust you.

0:33:50.080 --> 0:33:52.440
<v Speaker 4>But although the other thing to remember is the first

0:33:52.480 --> 0:33:55.640
<v Speaker 4>thing we talked about, which is there is that first second.

0:33:56.280 --> 0:33:59.040
<v Speaker 4>Then if your gut, if you want to describe it

0:33:59.080 --> 0:34:02.800
<v Speaker 4>any other way, if you get that feeling in the

0:34:02.840 --> 0:34:04.880
<v Speaker 4>first second that and you might you won't be able

0:34:04.920 --> 0:34:08.600
<v Speaker 4>to pin it. It'll just be there's something off with

0:34:08.719 --> 0:34:09.320
<v Speaker 4>this person.

0:34:09.840 --> 0:34:10.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, trust that.

0:34:11.280 --> 0:34:14.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Yeah, I think that's a kind of almost an

0:34:14.680 --> 0:34:16.000
<v Speaker 2>interpersonal superpower.

0:34:16.360 --> 0:34:18.200
<v Speaker 1>Hey, I wanted to ask you something before we go.

0:34:18.360 --> 0:34:19.000
<v Speaker 1>I read that.

0:34:21.080 --> 0:34:25.600
<v Speaker 2>Your book Toxic at Work has just been translated into

0:34:25.680 --> 0:34:28.720
<v Speaker 2>Japanese and it's just hitting the shells in Japan.

0:34:28.920 --> 0:34:32.120
<v Speaker 1>Firstly, congratulations. Secondly, I wanted.

0:34:31.880 --> 0:34:34.880
<v Speaker 2>To ask you, how do you know that what they've

0:34:34.920 --> 0:34:37.200
<v Speaker 2>translated is what.

0:34:37.120 --> 0:34:39.280
<v Speaker 1>You fucking do? You know what I mean?

0:34:39.880 --> 0:34:43.640
<v Speaker 4>It's not like people, you know, it's I trust people

0:34:43.680 --> 0:34:47.200
<v Speaker 4>and I have an AI to check things. So I

0:34:47.440 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 4>actually uploaded it to an AI.

0:34:49.840 --> 0:34:52.680
<v Speaker 1>You just contradicted yourself with that second sence.

0:34:52.760 --> 0:34:55.960
<v Speaker 2>I trust people also I double check on aigo.

0:34:56.080 --> 0:34:59.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't trust people. That's funny.

0:34:59.239 --> 0:35:01.320
<v Speaker 2>How did tell me a little bit about the process

0:35:01.360 --> 0:35:02.880
<v Speaker 2>of that, Like, how does that work?

0:35:04.760 --> 0:35:08.040
<v Speaker 4>It sounds a lot more impressive than it is from

0:35:08.040 --> 0:35:10.759
<v Speaker 4>my perspective, in the sense that I don't do much.

0:35:12.440 --> 0:35:16.200
<v Speaker 4>My publisher in Australia gets out there at book fairs

0:35:16.200 --> 0:35:19.200
<v Speaker 4>and so on and sells translations of various books. A

0:35:19.200 --> 0:35:23.239
<v Speaker 4>lot of my books are like there's Korean versions, Portuguese version,

0:35:23.320 --> 0:35:26.520
<v Speaker 4>Spanish versions, you name it. This is the first Japanese

0:35:26.560 --> 0:35:28.759
<v Speaker 4>one I think I've had. But it doesn't have a

0:35:28.760 --> 0:35:30.799
<v Speaker 4>lot to do with me other than saying, yeah, I'm

0:35:30.800 --> 0:35:34.520
<v Speaker 4>okay with that publisher publishing that book in that language.

0:35:34.920 --> 0:35:37.359
<v Speaker 2>Have you ever had something where they've had to bring

0:35:37.400 --> 0:35:40.120
<v Speaker 2>this to you and say, this idea or this story

0:35:40.360 --> 0:35:44.480
<v Speaker 2>or this concept culturally is not a great fit. Can

0:35:44.560 --> 0:35:47.160
<v Speaker 2>you give us another example or another story, or can

0:35:47.200 --> 0:35:48.919
<v Speaker 2>you say this a different way.

0:35:49.520 --> 0:35:52.400
<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, absolutely. I can't off the top of my

0:35:52.400 --> 0:35:54.640
<v Speaker 4>head think of examples, but it has come up. It

0:35:54.680 --> 0:35:56.400
<v Speaker 4>came up a couple of times, I think in some

0:35:56.440 --> 0:36:03.840
<v Speaker 4>translations around teen brain maybe brain reset. It was, yeah,

0:36:03.880 --> 0:36:08.040
<v Speaker 4>particularly the stuff about anarex here. Sometimes they're a little

0:36:08.080 --> 0:36:13.560
<v Speaker 4>cautious about that in some cultures. And yeah, they usually

0:36:13.560 --> 0:36:16.400
<v Speaker 4>don't ask to do a different version. They usually just

0:36:16.440 --> 0:36:19.160
<v Speaker 4>ask is it okay if we leave this out right?

0:36:19.760 --> 0:36:25.480
<v Speaker 1>Usually say sure, yeah, yeah, well perfect. Well make congratulations

0:36:25.480 --> 0:36:30.400
<v Speaker 1>on the handball, congratulations on the new book. I'll send you.

0:36:30.520 --> 0:36:32.480
<v Speaker 4>I'll send you a video of some handball TIFs so

0:36:32.520 --> 0:36:34.040
<v Speaker 4>you can see what I'm talking about.

0:36:34.960 --> 0:36:36.799
<v Speaker 6>I'm intrigued. I'm going to go look it up.

0:36:37.280 --> 0:36:39.000
<v Speaker 1>You could. Maybe you'd probably be.

0:36:38.960 --> 0:36:40.279
<v Speaker 3>Good people in the face.

0:36:40.360 --> 0:36:44.239
<v Speaker 4>I might, I might, she'd be she'd be very very

0:36:44.280 --> 0:36:48.080
<v Speaker 4>good at it. I suspect rules about it. If you

0:36:48.120 --> 0:36:50.359
<v Speaker 4>can't just go up and start punching people, it's not

0:36:50.400 --> 0:36:51.000
<v Speaker 4>like boxing.

0:36:52.280 --> 0:36:54.560
<v Speaker 2>You can then you do the hands in the air emogens.

0:36:54.760 --> 0:36:59.600
<v Speaker 2>I did not know. I did not know. She would

0:36:59.640 --> 0:37:03.720
<v Speaker 2>be quite good because she's pretty fast and powerful, and she's.

0:37:03.600 --> 0:37:05.680
<v Speaker 1>A bit of a brute. She's a bit of a weapon.

0:37:06.239 --> 0:37:09.080
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, well, when you next come up to Brisbane, Tiff,

0:37:09.360 --> 0:37:11.520
<v Speaker 4>you need to give me a yell. I'll get you

0:37:11.560 --> 0:37:12.719
<v Speaker 4>onto a handwalk, Cord.

0:37:13.360 --> 0:37:14.759
<v Speaker 3>Right eight October. I'm there.

0:37:14.920 --> 0:37:18.320
<v Speaker 1>Yeah done, Wow, that's next month. Yeah yeah, are you

0:37:18.400 --> 0:37:19.440
<v Speaker 1>going to actually do it?

0:37:19.960 --> 0:37:22.000
<v Speaker 4>We'll get video of it. You'll see proof, Craig.

0:37:22.400 --> 0:37:25.719
<v Speaker 2>That'd be great, say only if only that bloke would

0:37:25.760 --> 0:37:28.280
<v Speaker 2>drop off the testosterone. I'd be on like a shot,

0:37:29.360 --> 0:37:30.960
<v Speaker 2>you know how I keep looking out the window in

0:37:31.000 --> 0:37:31.400
<v Speaker 2>the morning.

0:37:32.360 --> 0:37:36.200
<v Speaker 1>All right, David, we'll say goodbye fair but as always,

0:37:36.200 --> 0:37:36.799
<v Speaker 1>thank you sir.

0:37:37.480 --> 0:37:40.160
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, pleasure to see you later. Thanks TIV, thank you,