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Speaker 1: And he was in the middle of kind of showing

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Speaker 2: Anyway, the titles, we're talking about these deaths.

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Speaker 1: And I was like, Sam, you heard what I said.

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Speaker 3: Hello and welcome to separate bathrooms. We would like to

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Speaker 3: acknowledge the Gadigal people of the Eur nation, the traditional

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Speaker 3: both passed and present.

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Speaker 4: I'm Cam Daddo.

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Speaker 5: I'm his wife Ali.

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Speaker 3: Yes, and we were late to a phenomenon. The hit

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Speaker 3: TV series began March seven. That's a fine date, fine date,

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Speaker 3: twenty thirteen.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I was.

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Speaker 3: Well, let's not say how old I turned on that

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Speaker 5: You were in your forties, I was, yes, in my forties.

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Speaker 4: Anyway, the show started in the UK. Australia waited a

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Speaker 1: Goggle Box goggle Box goggle Box.

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Speaker 4: One of our favorite shows.

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Speaker 6: It has become one of our favorite shows, and of

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Speaker 4: I remember hearing about goggle Box while we were living

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Speaker 3: Who's going to care about watching people watching TV when

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Speaker 5: They choose the people well though, don't.

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Speaker 4: Say the casting of it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, who's watching?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you've got the family of four, You've got a

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Speaker 5: You've got the Indigenous Indigenous.

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Speaker 3: Crew, the Indian family, Yes in family, different cultures, the

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Speaker 4: Don't go.

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Speaker 6: Of course, you've got the Levanese fellas with the humping dog, Maddie.

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Speaker 6: Now, Sarah is not on the show currently. She's of

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Speaker 6: got Malik and Leon Leon. Yeah, beautiful names. Look let's

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Speaker 6: Please welcome Maddie and Sarah into the bathroom.

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Speaker 4: Welcome Maddie and Sarah to the bathroom. We're really excited

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having us.

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Speaker 2: We're very excited to be here.

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Speaker 4: And we're missing you.

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Speaker 2: and fourth enough to sit down?

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Speaker 4: Would you go back?

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Speaker 2: Could be on. It's so great. It just hasn't quite

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Speaker 1: When Sarah and I started the show, we were living

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Speaker 6: It's one of our shows that we don't get a

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Speaker 5: Yeah, let's go on the TV.

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Speaker 2: For even a picture being in that situation an emotion.

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Speaker 2: Where the intent is right.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we're just so glad that those bits get left

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Speaker 5: Man, We've got it.

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Speaker 6: We've got to slight connection with you, Maddie, because our

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Speaker 6: here and her favorite teaching with your sister favorite, and

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Speaker 2: I love you, plan like this whole thing to say,

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Speaker 4: Were you guys on TV at that point.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's in your culture, And forgive me for

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Speaker 1: I love it.

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Speaker 4: Did you did you have to get approval?

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Speaker 5: Get hilarious?

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Speaker 2: This is the best question you could have asked.

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Speaker 1: I think it is a cultural thing to yes, get

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Speaker 1: So we'd gone to her dad's house for dinner and are.

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Speaker 4: You already you don't clearly already popped the ground?

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Speaker 2: Finally hold on, let me look. And he's got like

442
00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:12,639
Speaker 2: a jar, like you have a.

443
00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:16,920
Speaker 4: Jar, that's true. So he sucked stuff away.

444
00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:18,800
Speaker 1: So he's built these whole thing so I've said, Sam,

445
00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:20,679
Speaker 1: why don't you take me out and show me what

446
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:23,000
Speaker 1: you've done. So we went out there and Sarah was

447
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 1: in the main house while and so as soon as

448
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:26,919
Speaker 1: we got in there, I said, Sam, before he showed me,

449
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,119
Speaker 1: I need to tell you I'm going to ask Sarah

450
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:31,159
Speaker 1: to marry me. And he was in the middle of

451
00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 1: kind of showing me his stuff, and he just went, you, Okay,

452
00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:36,439
Speaker 1: have baby while you're there. And I said, I'm going

453
00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:38,800
Speaker 1: to ask her to marry me, and Bali he goes, yeah, okay,

454
00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:41,639
Speaker 1: may have a baby while you're there. Anyway, the tiles,

455
00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:46,160
Speaker 1: we're talking about this death and I was like, Sam,

456
00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,000
Speaker 1: you heard what I said. He's like yeah, yeah, yeah,

457
00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:49,080
Speaker 1: good or good that was it.

458
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,480
Speaker 2: I remember he walked into Scharene's house and it's like

459
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:57,000
Speaker 2: all this beautifully architecture home, right, two artists, a sculptor

460
00:21:57,040 --> 00:22:01,119
Speaker 2: and an artist, and it's concreted flaw AND's like hard on,

461
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,520
Speaker 2: you're not if they want they should tire.

462
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 1: He asked my sister if she needed some tiles to

463
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:20,439
Speaker 1: finish off her renovation. Means poor thing, like they ran

464
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,280
Speaker 1: out of money. They couldn't finish the renovation.

465
00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:25,200
Speaker 2: So like he's happy to help.

466
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:29,960
Speaker 3: So was your you think your dad then, Sarah, is

467
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 3: he not a talkative fella?

468
00:22:31,359 --> 00:22:34,000
Speaker 4: Are you like, you know, sort of like men Traditionally

469
00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:35,400
Speaker 4: in Australia, we don't.

470
00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 3: Do a lot of talking to each other about matters

471
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 3: of the heart, you know, so it's difficult to connect

472
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:40,440
Speaker 3: that way.

473
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 4: So do you think it was easier for him just

474
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:42,280
Speaker 4: to go.

475
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, they don't. They don't, especially that generation.

476
00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 2: They don't talk about like feelings and stuff. They just

477
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 2: either get angry or get quiet. It's just like, you know, like, yeah,

478
00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 2: they don't talk. So I think he didn't know what

479
00:22:57,640 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 2: to say to Matt.

480
00:22:58,560 --> 00:22:58,720
Speaker 6: Yeah.

481
00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,439
Speaker 1: And I also think her, like especially now and my

482
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 1: dad's the same. As they get older, they get more emotional,

483
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:06,239
Speaker 1: and I think he just wanted to not get emotional, right,

484
00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 1: so he was like okay, yeah, good change the subjects.

485
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, and first one to be married in your family.

486
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like unintentionally stereotypical, like what Arab kind of

487
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 2: wants is like the first born daughter marrying a Lebanese boy,

488
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 2: and it's not even like intentionally, it's just just by chance,

489
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 2: you know. And then had two boys, and they had

490
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:30,719
Speaker 2: two boys. My dad cried when he found out I

491
00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:34,440
Speaker 2: was having boys. He's got like girls. Yeah, and even

492
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 2: the dogs are female, he says. So he remember him

493
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,879
Speaker 2: saying to me, I hope you have sons. And I

494
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 2: was like, why I was wrong with the girls. He's

495
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:44,640
Speaker 2: like everyone in this house is a female, even the dog.

496
00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 2: Like I felt, he just needs some male energy. Yeah,

497
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,520
Speaker 2: so yeah, like he just like they hold it in.

498
00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:54,960
Speaker 1: We realized we both went through life thinking that we're

499
00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,400
Speaker 1: going to have two girls because of just you know,

500
00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:02,640
Speaker 1: Sarah's one of two girls. My older brother had two girls.

501
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 1: My parents had two girls before they had two boys.

502
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:07,640
Speaker 1: All my uncles had two girls.

503
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:10,800
Speaker 2: So yeah, my mom's like five girls one boy.

504
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 4: Wow, so we just the prince.

505
00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:14,400
Speaker 7: Yeah.

506
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:17,119
Speaker 1: He was her dad the whole time, is like and

507
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 1: my dad as well, you having a boy. You're having

508
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 1: a boy. Yeah, And then we did and then we

509
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:22,919
Speaker 1: had two boys. Were like, what is going on with

510
00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:25,080
Speaker 1: we weren't expecting that.

511
00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:27,439
Speaker 2: My dad was well wishes, but you were talking to

512
00:24:27,560 --> 00:24:31,439
Speaker 2: your dad about contraception conception. I was like, what are

513
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 2: you talking about? My dad was just hoping we have

514
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 2: sons because he needs boys. Your dad's like, oh, you know,

515
00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:38,800
Speaker 2: by that, I'm praying I reckon it's boys.

516
00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:39,199
Speaker 3: So, my.

517
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 1: Have have you ever heard of doctor Chettle's method?

518
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 5: No?

519
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:47,040
Speaker 1: I haven't, Okay, So okay, this.

520
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:47,360
Speaker 4: Is a stir.

521
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 1: My parents had two girls. They wanted to have a boy.

522
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 1: So at that time, whenever it was, it would have

523
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 1: been I don't know what years were we talking now

524
00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:01,159
Speaker 1: long time. I was eighty seven, but my brother was eighty.

525
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 1: So nineteen eighty there was a thing in the Woman's

526
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 1: Weekly or whatever it was it was called, and it

527
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:12,119
Speaker 1: was Doctor Cheddele's Dolly magazine, Doll Maybe Maybe, and it

528
00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:16,160
Speaker 1: was how to choose the gender that you want through

529
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 1: the way you conceive your child, and it's meant to

530
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: be ninety something percent effective. So my parents decided to

531
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 1: give it a go. They had a boy. Then they

532
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 1: did it again for the second they had a boy,

533
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:30,480
Speaker 1: which is what they wanted. So they got two girls

534
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,720
Speaker 1: and two boys. So that after my parents experience, my

535
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:36,879
Speaker 1: dad would then impart his knowledge onto all his friends

536
00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:39,640
Speaker 1: who were in the same boat. The most recent one

537
00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 1: is his barber. This was only five years ago. He's

538
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 1: barber who had had five five girl, five girls. Yeah,

539
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,159
Speaker 1: and he was going and his wife had said to him,

540
00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,040
Speaker 1: if you don't get your boy on this one, then

541
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 1: that's it. We're done. My dad said, I'll tell you

542
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 1: what google doctor Scheddle's method, and finally enough he had

543
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:02,240
Speaker 1: a boy on the six. Dad got three haircuts for

544
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 1: three months. So Dad, you come home days with just

545
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:12,159
Speaker 1: My dad doesn't drink, but he will come home in

546
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 1: days with just bottles of alcohols. Like you told someone

547
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:16,400
Speaker 1: about that scotch.

548
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 2: Someone will give him And yeah, he doesn't drink, so

549
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:21,680
Speaker 2: it's just collect. They've just got a beautiful cabinet tree

550
00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 2: and it's just just alcohol.

551
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 5: You guys, did.

552
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 2: I have it?

553
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,919
Speaker 1: I don't know the size behind him. But there's a

554
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:35,719
Speaker 1: part of like sexual position, the time of month that

555
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 1: you can see. The big one is the temperature of

556
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 1: the women's parts before you have sex and I think after.

557
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 1: And then the difference between girl and boy I believe

558
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: is baking soda or two different hemicals that.

559
00:26:55,440 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 2: You need to bathe in, right, like your dad guess

560
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 2: because for me, I can't. You know, people will use

561
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,200
Speaker 2: the app and stuff. I can never say when I'm

562
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 2: ovulating nuts hats we had to use like ovulation tests

563
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 2: and stuff, and so your chances of a boy, I

564
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:16,080
Speaker 2: would say using that more high because it's always really

565
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:17,880
Speaker 2: close to your relations whereas with a girl it has

566
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:19,120
Speaker 2: to be like further before.

567
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,680
Speaker 1: That's that's a theory though that's not basically that's.

568
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 2: Part of doctor Shurtles.

569
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:23,360
Speaker 1: Yeah.

570
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 2: From what I've been told by Gilder and George Bart,

571
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 2: that's part.

572
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:30,159
Speaker 1: Of doctor Why why don't you use it for the

573
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:33,520
Speaker 1: second to get a girl? And we're like, I'm going

574
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 1: to take the fun out of it when we're trying

575
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 1: to do a science experiment. While whatever I have.

576
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 3: I mean, if you mix baking soda and apple, I

577
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 3: don't think it's what they.

578
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 5: Used to get stains out of carpet.

579
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:55,360
Speaker 4: And that stuffs amazing.

580
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 1: That the biggest explosion we've ever had in the bedroom.

581
00:27:58,280 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 4: Serah.

582
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: So there's a really funny scene because my brother, I

583
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,360
Speaker 1: don't know, if you know, Chris, he's on radio over

584
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 1: in Dubai. Yeah, and he's on he's on a TV show,

585
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 1: was on a TV show on Netflix over there called

586
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 1: The Bio Bling, of which my parents were also on

587
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 1: because they were over there staying with him for a

588
00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:20,439
Speaker 1: few months while they filmed.

589
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 4: Is this a reality show?

590
00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: Reality show? And there's this great scene from Tobai Bling

591
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 1: where my mom is telling a doctor how to conceive

592
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,440
Speaker 1: for a boy or a girl, and it just crosses

593
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 1: to the doctor's face just like, I don't quite medically

594
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:39,720
Speaker 1: recommend this. I'll look into it.

595
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 4: Thank you you Australian.

596
00:28:46,280 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm like, how.

597
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:51,840
Speaker 5: Did they find you too?

598
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 1: For goggle Box? Yeah? So it was funny. It was

599
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 1: kind of through a friend of a friend who was

600
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:59,680
Speaker 1: casting for the show, and we just I just got

601
00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 1: a call from a friend one day saying, hey, do

602
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 1: you want to do this thing? And I was like,

603
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: what is it. She's like, don't worry, I'll take care

604
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,600
Speaker 1: of everything. You just you just need an audition and

605
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 1: the audition's happening next week, and so okay, why not.

606
00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 1: But we had no preconceived idea around what the show

607
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 1: should be, or what we should say or how we

608
00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:20,239
Speaker 1: should act. And I think that probably helped with, you know,

609
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 1: getting on the show in the end, because we just

610
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 1: were ourselves.

611
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:26,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, And was entertainment part of what you guys were

612
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 3: doing prior to it, or were you what we what

613
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 3: we're both doing before goggle Bosh?

614
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 2: Not necessarily like entertainment in that area, Like I was

615
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 2: a freelance makeup artist and then I also had a

616
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:37,959
Speaker 2: hair and makeup agency, and I did a lot of

617
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 2: like social media stuff anyway, like videos and stuff, and

618
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 2: so naturally I'm around a lot of that, you know,

619
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 2: with filming and things like that. So it's not necessarily

620
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 2: like I was in front of the camera for that stuff.

621
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 2: It was usually behind the camera. And you know a

622
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 2: lot of you know, there's companies going to hire you

623
00:29:54,920 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 2: for different you know, talent and stuff like that.

624
00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: So Sarah had had a follow I didn't at all doing.

625
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:04,240
Speaker 1: I love social media and I was quite active on

626
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 1: social media. I love photography, would post. But I always

627
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 1: worked in the media industry and I worked in corporate

628
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 1: in both Yeah media agency and media publisher lens and

629
00:30:14,160 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: I still do Yeah we Yeah, still do our day jobs.

630
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 2: I also do a podcast for Mama Mea This Glorious Mess.

631
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 2: Hard launched it yesterday. Yes, I've got a segment there

632
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 2: where like if someone has a question or like a situation,

633
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 2: basically they're you know, doing a voice message, give me

634
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 2: the situation and I can give them my thoughts, share

635
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 2: my thoughts and see if I can help them out,

636
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 2: whether it helps or not. I don't know, but I try.

637
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:40,000
Speaker 5: Oh good for you.

638
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's really really fun. It's been really fun.

639
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,360
Speaker 1: So that's all you right, and matter you're still doing

640
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 1: your still in my corporate role. Yeah, so I've had

641
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 1: a fifteen year career and yeah, something I still enjoy And.

642
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 3: What is that like then going into corporate land, because

643
00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 3: it's a hugely popular show, goggle Box, and so they've

644
00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 3: got to be people in there that walk past you

645
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 3: in the in the office and go double take you

646
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 3: on TV.

647
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: It's really funny and you know it's I don't assume

648
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 1: anyone watches it, but then you know, I'll interview someone

649
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 1: for a job and then you hear through other channels

650
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 1: that the person got off the interview, and it was like,

651
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 1: I was the guy from goggle Box just interviewed me.

652
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 1: And I think most people assume we are on TV

653
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: full time, and maybe that's right for some people, but yeah,

654
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:27,479
Speaker 1: I'm reluctant to give up my my long career and

655
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 1: I love what I do, so I stuck to it.

656
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 1: And so people were like, wait a minute, what's the

657
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 1: guy from goggle Box to it?

658
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 2: You've got to work event, and they think you're the

659
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 2: talent that's been booked for the Yeah.

660
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, you don't know. You're not eating with those people.

661
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 4: You're special.

662
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, you get for all the keynotes and all the

663
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 1: public speaking, and it's like, yeah, it's it's funny. Oh

664
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 1: you got your the key speaker today. It's like, no, actually,

665
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: just work for the company and I'm not getting paid

666
00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 1: to be here. This is part of my day job.

667
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 6: Has it changed the way you watch TV being on

668
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 6: the show, Like can you just watch it normally and

669
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 6: not feel like you have to be watching it intensely

670
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 6: to comment?

671
00:32:04,520 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 2: I have to like try not to talk. Yeah, I

672
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 2: got into this like, oh, you know, they love your opinion,

673
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 2: so you talk, and you get doing it for so

674
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 2: many years. Yeah, you're like so opinionated. So I'm talking still,

675
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 2: like I'm on the show when we're watching stuff, and

676
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 2: Matt's just like I'm trying to listen. Stop talking. Yes,

677
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 2: I've gotta rewind it now.

678
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:26,600
Speaker 1: I can't like, yeah, I don't mind when someone's talking

679
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 1: over mats because it's like there's no plot line and

680
00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 1: I can just jump in at any moment. But often

681
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 1: for our personal watching, we'll be watching like a drama

682
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,360
Speaker 1: of subsort or Game of Thrones last night at our

683
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 1: launch and Seriens in the background. Oh my god, oh,

684
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: oh my god. Can we just watch this singing out?

685
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 1: I'm trying to listen.

686
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 2: So yeah, like, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry.

687
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 5: Has been on the show strengthened your relationship?

688
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 1: Do you feel a relationship with a strong prior? And

689
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 1: I don't think it's changed.

690
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 2: Ye, yeah, yeah, I don't see any change. If anything,

691
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 2: is just.

692
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 5: Like just part of your life.

693
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 1: Yeah.

694
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 2: They're literally just part of the furniture for us now

695
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 2: doing that.

696
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 1: And it's like, I think our life circumstance changes your

697
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 1: relationship more than anything. I think when we think about

698
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 1: the last few years, it's been a whirl wind. We

699
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 1: have hardly any time of when it's just her and

700
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,760
Speaker 1: I and we used to be me staring at Sarah

701
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 1: and Sarah staring at me. And now we've got a

702
00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 1: five way kind of pentagon happening at home with the

703
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:34,800
Speaker 1: dog and the two kids and working multiple jobs and

704
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 1: doing so many things. I come home from work and

705
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 1: we film the show, and our life is at a

706
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,440
Speaker 1: different pace, and I think that makes it harder for

707
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 1: us to make sure we find time for one another,

708
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 1: what do you do?

709
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 2: We do what works right now. It's like survival mode

710
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 2: because you've got like two young kids. I'm looking after

711
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 2: the kids and trying to work a bit while I'm

712
00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:00,800
Speaker 2: doing that, like juggling that, and then his work is

713
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 2: so full on that sometimes he doesn't finish until the

714
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 2: kids going to bed, or he might be away or

715
00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 2: something like that. So like we're really just rather than

716
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,279
Speaker 2: thinking too much into things, sometimes we just go, this

717
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:14,080
Speaker 2: is what we need to do to survive right now.

718
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 2: And then when we find each other like sitting down

719
00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:19,680
Speaker 2: and it's just us like, oh my gosh, just ask

720
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:21,359
Speaker 2: for a bit. We just give each other a hug

721
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 2: and we're like, oh, this is nice, and then like

722
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 2: the baby will crab, but like that was lovely. I'll

723
00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 2: see you later, you know. It's really just survived. Yeah,

724
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 2: we don't we don't think too much into it. So

725
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 2: for us, it's like if we're not spending quality time

726
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:36,880
Speaker 2: with each other too much. For me, a big thing

727
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 2: is family time. I like, even if it's just coffee

728
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:41,759
Speaker 2: in the morning on a Sunday, like shall we walk

729
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 2: to the cafe? Like that's enough for me? Like I'm

730
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:47,319
Speaker 2: like I just need that just that family time once

731
00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 2: in a while when we can fit it in, like

732
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 2: that's all it is, because I know, look that's temporary.

733
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 7: You know.

734
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 2: Eventually he keeps getting bit older and you can then.

735
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 3: And then you'll be going, oh, remember when we used

736
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 3: we're in that phase now off I was going, oh

737
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 3: there was so little. Yeah, look, hey, you know what

738
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 3: I've been going through our bucket of photographs and literally

739
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:11,359
Speaker 3: there's two buckets just full of pictures. And of course

740
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,800
Speaker 3: the first one there's a million photographs. Of the second

741
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,399
Speaker 3: one there's maybe two hundred thousand. The third one there's

742
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 3: about a thousand pictures, which I hear that a lot.

743
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, you also don't have as much time you're juggling.

744
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 3: Part of what happened with us was when Lotus was born,

745
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,680
Speaker 3: I was twenty eight years ago, we were using film cameras,

746
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 3: so all the film got developed, so there's hard copies

747
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 3: of that. For Bodes who came in two thousand and six,

748
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,919
Speaker 3: it's all digital, and so if that phone is gone,

749
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 3: then often we don't know where those pictures are, you know,

750
00:35:43,480 --> 00:35:46,440
Speaker 3: but in looking back at those pictures, it goes so.

751
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:49,919
Speaker 4: Fast, and there are moments where you want to go God.

752
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 3: You know, when you're in the trenches like you're talking about,

753
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:54,319
Speaker 3: and you're changing diper at three am or or doing

754
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 3: stuff like that.

755
00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:57,920
Speaker 4: And you go, oh my god, how's this going to get?

756
00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:00,719
Speaker 4: You know, it goes so quick and then blink of

757
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 4: an eye, and it literally feels like a blink of

758
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 4: an eye.

759
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:10,360
Speaker 2: I remember people trying to tell me about sleep training

760
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:13,919
Speaker 2: the kids in the beginning first time parent. I'm trying

761
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 2: to do the right thing and like trying to listen

762
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:18,480
Speaker 2: and try and do this, and they go, should time,

763
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:19,840
Speaker 2: this is your time? That And I was like, I

764
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 2: do bloody want to do any of this? Why am

765
00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:24,680
Speaker 2: I doing this? It's not in my instinct to want

766
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:27,480
Speaker 2: to be separated from my child. And they go, but

767
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 2: what about you and your husband? You're going to sleep

768
00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 2: in the same bed. I'm like, I don't care when

769
00:36:31,160 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 2: my husband's sleeping, are you kid? I don't care right now?

770
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 2: Are you joking? I'm going to care about a fully

771
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 2: grown adult. I have barely slept, whereas I can get

772
00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:46,040
Speaker 2: extra sleep. If the baby's next to me, like my

773
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 2: toddlers sleeping next to me, it's fine, I'll see him

774
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 2: in the morning. I'm just gonna like I stopped listening

775
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 2: to people and like up to now, you know, I've

776
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:57,799
Speaker 2: got my kids in the bed with me and put

777
00:36:57,840 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 2: Maddie in the other room. Sometimes he doesn't even have

778
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 2: the heater. I'm going off to the tundra.

779
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 1: The rental we're in right now is just freezing.

780
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:10,720
Speaker 2: Like this works, you know, and you know what's amazing

781
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:12,880
Speaker 2: is like when people ask him like, wow, but like

782
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 2: what does my husband think of it? I'm like, he's

783
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:18,400
Speaker 2: happy because he sleeps as well, he works exactly right.

784
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 2: I don't have a husband that's against that. It's working

785
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,400
Speaker 2: for both of us right. Also, like we're just like

786
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 2: on par I think we're we're equally on par with

787
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:27,439
Speaker 2: what we want.

788
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 3: Guess it's the main thing too in a relationship. If

789
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 3: you're on the same page, yes, it's it works and

790
00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 3: whatever the page is, whatever you guys want to write

791
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:37,520
Speaker 3: on that page.

792
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 2: You have to be comfortable with your page, right, every

793
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 2: one's page is different. As long as you're on par

794
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 2: you're on the same page with each other, you both

795
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 2: understand it, you both trust each other. Is such a

796
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 2: big thing. Like I don't think I'm not sleeping in

797
00:37:48,719 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 2: the same bed as my husband is going to go Elsewhere?

798
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:51,239
Speaker 2: Where's he going to go?

799
00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:52,960
Speaker 1: He's so.

800
00:37:55,760 --> 00:38:05,840
Speaker 8: Places electric, she barely has time, he can barely shower

801
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 8: up by around.

802
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 2: Where's he going to go anywhere?

803
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:17,240
Speaker 1: I think the if I think about what's helped throughout

804
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: this period has been a that neither of us hold

805
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:23,359
Speaker 1: a grudge. I think we have times where we get

806
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:26,120
Speaker 1: angry at one another or whatever, but within an hour

807
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 1: we've both calm down and we're completely over it. We

808
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:30,800
Speaker 1: never really go to bed angry with each other or

809
00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: calld this long term grudge, which I think helps. And

810
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:36,399
Speaker 1: then the other thing, particularly in our life, we've felt

811
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 1: that's really helped us is having a partnership where we're

812
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:43,840
Speaker 1: both really comfortable with your primary responsible over here and

813
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 1: I'm primary responsible over here, and then we're secondary responsible

814
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,439
Speaker 1: to both those things for each other and being really

815
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:51,880
Speaker 1: clear and not trying to put too much guilt on

816
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:56,279
Speaker 1: one another about the other part. So because otherwise it

817
00:38:56,400 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 1: becomes a you know, you're doing this and you're doing that,

818
00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:00,360
Speaker 1: and I'm not doing this and I'm not doing that,

819
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 1: and we could spend all that time fighting about all

820
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 1: the things. So we've got, you know, the roles that

821
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 1: we set for each other that we both know. I'm

822
00:39:08,200 --> 00:39:10,960
Speaker 1: leading this and you're leading that. You know, and they're

823
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 1: not necessarily always the traditional things that you think of

824
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 1: between husband and wife and the primary mother and the

825
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 1: and the secondary.

826
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:19,759
Speaker 2: But Sarah's a woman, he's a man. It's literally just

827
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:22,399
Speaker 2: how this works. Like Sarah and we know someone who's

828
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 2: switched around.

829
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sarah does all the di y. You will not

830
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 1: see me putting anything together. Sarah rocked walls and partied.

831
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 2: Up asking something. I'm like, I'll take over. It's fine.

832
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:36,759
Speaker 1: We had one of our neighbors come knock on the

833
00:39:36,840 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: door and Sarah answered and they were like, is your

834
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 1: husband home? We need help with like the plumbing, and

835
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 1: I was like, she was like, he's home, but I'm

836
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 1: not sure he's the one you want to.

837
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 2: I wanted to say he's home, but you're asking for

838
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 2: the wrong person.

839
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 1: Whereas I planned our wedding, I help. I desired her wedding.

840
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 2: You know, did you really so?

841
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 8: Yeah?

842
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 1: Did I say designer? We had a designer.

843
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:05,440
Speaker 4: Designer.

844
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:08,240
Speaker 1: I had to say how it was designed and helped get.

845
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 5: Did you design the wedding ring or did you go

846
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 5: out and buy them together?

847
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:12,279
Speaker 7: No?

848
00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 1: I did the wedding ring. So like, you know, Sarah

849
00:40:15,719 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 1: is the primary care and I'm the secondary care for sure,

850
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:20,759
Speaker 1: sometimes away for work for three days four days at

851
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: a time, and you know, Sarah's has the primary emotional

852
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 1: responsibility of taking care of our children.

853
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:29,399
Speaker 3: And yeah, yeah, I think that's I think that's great

854
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 3: because sometimes you need to know when to follow, you know,

855
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 3: you need when to pick it up and when you're

856
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 3: the leader. We're in the home the other day and

857
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:39,880
Speaker 3: Ali and Boats were having a conversation.

858
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:41,960
Speaker 4: I was like, this is I do not need to

859
00:40:42,040 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 4: be in that conversation.

860
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:46,360
Speaker 3: I can sit back and kind of listen, but not

861
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 3: but in ski Yeah, but you know, two other kids

862
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:51,839
Speaker 3: to figure that out.

863
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:54,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, well this is the thing. People think you know

864
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:56,560
Speaker 2: that and oh you have this conversation and you know

865
00:40:56,680 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 2: that straight away, right, But that's not the case. That

866
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:02,160
Speaker 2: takes arguments. Sometimes we've had blowouts, Like we've had like

867
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 2: arguments where we both in some level thought that one

868
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 2: wasn't appreciating the other, but it wasn't the case. And

869
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:14,840
Speaker 2: then that argument allowed us to communicate and then we

870
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 2: were able to like, oh okay, and we've got into

871
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 2: a really good place after that argument. Yeah, like everyone

872
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:20,920
Speaker 2: thinks it's like, oh, you have this chart and you

873
00:41:20,960 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 2: communicate and that's how it works. It's like no, no,

874
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 2: Sometimes you argue because you might be overtired and like

875
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:28,359
Speaker 2: stretched out thin, and then that leads to a nice

876
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 2: conversation and you're in a good place.

877
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:30,439
Speaker 5: Yeah.

878
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:35,840
Speaker 6: Absolutely, What values or lessons from your Lebanese upbringing do

879
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 6: you really prioritize in your life?

880
00:41:38,160 --> 00:41:42,239
Speaker 1: For me, you know, my dad was the primary bread

881
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 1: winner growing up. My mom worked as well, but my

882
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 1: dad was the primary bread winner, so you know, my

883
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:51,360
Speaker 1: mom played a more vital role in terms of, you know,

884
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 1: our upbringing and how we were at home. And I

885
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:57,279
Speaker 1: think what I've learnt from my mom, I've probably learnt

886
00:41:57,320 --> 00:42:01,240
Speaker 1: my dad's work ethic, and from my mom, I've learnt

887
00:42:01,920 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 1: to instill confidence in your kids. I think, if if

888
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 1: there's any one thing I want Malik to learn from me,

889
00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 1: is that that he's good and he's got he's full

890
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 1: of confidence and he goes into the world knowing his worth.

891
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:16,400
Speaker 1: Getting emotional thinking about that.

892
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 4: It's really important for boys and for girls and for

893
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:23,319
Speaker 4: boys to be kind.

894
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, yeah, when I think of, you know,

895
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:28,839
Speaker 1: the world in which kids are growing up in now,

896
00:42:28,920 --> 00:42:31,399
Speaker 1: especially young boys. So I heard about that story about

897
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:33,759
Speaker 1: this kid recently with the I think he might have

898
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 1: seen it. But you know, just a suicide rate in

899
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:38,839
Speaker 1: general for young kids. It's just I think the most

900
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,320
Speaker 1: important thing. And I think when I think of my

901
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 1: upbringing with my mom, she she gave me a lot

902
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 1: of confidence. Yeah, yeah, well done.

903
00:42:46,840 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 2: Yeah she did an amaze She does an amazing job

904
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 2: with her even with my kids, she's amazing when it

905
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:53,920
Speaker 2: comes to stuff like that. See, my mom's Asian and

906
00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 2: my mom's Filipino, and then my dad's a many so

907
00:42:57,120 --> 00:43:00,360
Speaker 2: like dad's well, growing up, I didn't know it was

908
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:02,880
Speaker 2: an Asian thing because you know, you have fellow friends

909
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 2: and it's like, you know, you don't really hear like

910
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:08,200
Speaker 2: I love Yeah, you know, it's very like a stereotypic,

911
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 2: like you laugh on it later kind of stuff. But

912
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:15,520
Speaker 2: they're tough, it's tough, it's tough luck. It's tough luck

913
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 2: with Asians, but they they get stuff done. So what

914
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 2: I got from my mum, which I think is really good,

915
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:25,319
Speaker 2: was it was never like complaining about stuff she had

916
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 2: to do.

917
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:26,080
Speaker 5: She just did it.

918
00:43:26,880 --> 00:43:29,560
Speaker 2: So for me, even as an adult, I don't get

919
00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 2: when people have to complain about things and I'm like

920
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 2: they're having a full conversation before something gets done, like

921
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:38,400
Speaker 2: just do it, Like, just do it man, Like stop us, Maddie,

922
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 2: I get so impatient with it. I'm like, just pick

923
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 2: it up and go. Like I got that from my mum,

924
00:43:42,719 --> 00:43:44,879
Speaker 2: so we work. It was really good because my get

925
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:47,279
Speaker 2: it done. If the kids are crying at nighttime and

926
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 2: they need an abby change, in my head, I'm like,

927
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 2: get it done. Like it's just get it done. My

928
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:52,800
Speaker 2: mum was like that as a parent with us. I

929
00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:57,279
Speaker 2: never remember her complaining about all the stuff, the hardships

930
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:59,320
Speaker 2: she had to do. And only as an adult and

931
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 2: I had kids did I realized she had no family

932
00:44:02,640 --> 00:44:05,239
Speaker 2: here and it was literally her with kids who were

933
00:44:05,239 --> 00:44:08,240
Speaker 2: like twelve months apart, and she did so much stuff

934
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:11,360
Speaker 2: with just that mentality that like, you know, that go

935
00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:14,359
Speaker 2: get it thing. And my dad, obviously is my dad

936
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:16,279
Speaker 2: was like a panel beater growing up and stuff, and

937
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 2: so like I became really handy and thrifty. I got

938
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:23,440
Speaker 2: that work ethic from my dad and like that's what

939
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,480
Speaker 2: I got. And I feel like culturally around me, I

940
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 2: feel like a lot of the girls who are close

941
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:30,960
Speaker 2: with their dad tend to do the same thing. And

942
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 2: a lot of like the Asians who grew up with

943
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:34,480
Speaker 2: like you know, they fillow moms. It's the same thing.

944
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:37,520
Speaker 2: We're all like, just good work, ethic, just get it done,

945
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 2: Let's do this, let's do that. It's not really like

946
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 2: excuses not to do it. It's more an excuse to

947
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:42,839
Speaker 2: do it sort of thing.

948
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:45,759
Speaker 4: You guys are amazing.

949
00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 2: I feel like I was meant to have two boys.

950
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 4: Oh clearly you did. Yeah.

951
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 2: I have friends who are like, I can't see you

952
00:44:57,680 --> 00:44:59,359
Speaker 2: with girls. I'm like, I feel like I was meant

953
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,719
Speaker 2: to be a boy mum, because like I was talking

954
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 2: to my friend's daughter and he goes, you talk to

955
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:06,360
Speaker 2: her like she's an adult, Like come on, like all right,

956
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,320
Speaker 2: yeah right, let's do it. Come on, let's go like

957
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 2: I can't meet me like, oh, princess, Like it's really nice,

958
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 2: but it's just like the way I am, the way

959
00:45:14,520 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 2: I was brought up, Like I think it suits boys.

960
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 4: So unclogged his first toilet, Yeah on the door.

961
00:45:24,040 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 1: He's peeing on the floor a lot at the moment,

962
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 1: which is the problem. So you walk into the bathroom

963
00:45:29,120 --> 00:45:30,360
Speaker 1: and it stinks.

964
00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 2: Tissue on the floor because Matt's like, when you go

965
00:45:33,880 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 2: to the toilet, if it gets on the floor, you

966
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 2: got to clean it. So he puts a tissue there

967
00:45:37,200 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 2: because he's tired, and it's like it's absorbed it. I'll

968
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:40,160
Speaker 2: come back from.

969
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:42,000
Speaker 4: Smart.

970
00:45:42,480 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 2: Yeah he's a cookie. Yeah yeah, he scooter broke. I

971
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:50,440
Speaker 2: taught him how to fix his scooterpplies in my handbag.

972
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:52,640
Speaker 2: I should do the whole. You know what's in your bag?

973
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:57,640
Speaker 4: And people now now we're talking like a gerber tool or.

974
00:45:58,360 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 2: Like it's a proper you know, it's like pointed. It's

975
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:04,360
Speaker 2: probably like this long right pointed so I can get in.

976
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 4: You got the needle was one of those you know,

977
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:11,399
Speaker 4: like a Swiss Army Knight sort of thing with all.

978
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:14,360
Speaker 2: No, no, no, it's needlenose pier alone. I need to

979
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:15,120
Speaker 2: get a Swiss.

980
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:16,520
Speaker 4: Take him on the airplane.

981
00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 2: But in my head, I'm like, you've got kids, you're

982
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 2: always at the park. What if something breaks? You need

983
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 2: a flyer.

984
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 3: Well, we were talking about the bathroom with Malleck ping

985
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 3: on a tissue. Let's stay in there and hop in

986
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 3: the shower.

987
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:34,440
Speaker 5: Quick answers to minute shower.

988
00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 7: Here we go.

989
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 4: Question, what about your relationship makes you feel the most.

990
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:42,879
Speaker 2: Grateful that he takes over all the stuff he does.

991
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 2: He has an extra spreadsheet for our life, like I

992
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 2: don't have to worry about what bills are you, I

993
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 2: don't have to worry about organizing anything. I don't have

994
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:53,799
Speaker 2: to worry about being on top of anything. I can

995
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 2: just focus on what I need to do because he

996
00:46:55,440 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 2: literally takes whatever he takes over he does it perfectly, beautifully,

997
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:05,239
Speaker 2: like beautifully. That is a full appreciation, like I love it.

998
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 2: One less thing for me to think about.

999
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:09,840
Speaker 1: I've got an organized husband, which apparently isn't too common

1000
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: at all.

1001
00:47:11,680 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 2: Every time someone's like, oh, I needed to put my

1002
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:15,759
Speaker 2: friend's clothes out, my husband's clothes out, I was like,

1003
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:16,880
Speaker 2: I don't need to do anything.

1004
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 1: You know, when I met Sarah per Warmth, and you know,

1005
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 1: the love she gave me was very evident, and I

1006
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:29,240
Speaker 1: think seeing her do that with our children is probably

1007
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 1: the best. She's relentless in her care for our kids.

1008
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:36,359
Speaker 1: And yeah, she's often completely I'll be gone for three

1009
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 1: four days as no complaints. She's up in the middle

1010
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:41,720
Speaker 1: of the night changing diary and appies and all the stuff,

1011
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:44,480
Speaker 1: and yeah, she does that day in day out.

1012
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:48,440
Speaker 5: If you could relive one day with each other. What

1013
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 5: would that be?

1014
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:50,920
Speaker 2: Oh, what a good question.

1015
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 1: Relive one day with each other? It would probably for

1016
00:47:55,239 --> 00:47:58,480
Speaker 1: me be a day on our honeymoon somewhere in Europe.

1017
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 2: Oh answer. I'm in the Amalfi Coast with you right

1018
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 2: now as we.

1019
00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:07,800
Speaker 1: Speak, sitting by a beach or eating some French bread somewhere.

1020
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:12,319
Speaker 2: I know the day which the watermelon place, Yes, yeah,

1021
00:48:12,960 --> 00:48:15,399
Speaker 2: where I sacrificed you in the water because the wave

1022
00:48:15,520 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 2: knocked me off the rock. But but that place where

1023
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:21,720
Speaker 2: they have this watermelon time and like bring this watermelon

1024
00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:22,800
Speaker 2: out and you're like laying.

1025
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:30,160
Speaker 1: There one fire beach in in Prayana on the Mouth coast,

1026
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:34,920
Speaker 1: having a cocktail with watermelon being served on the ocean,

1027
00:48:35,160 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 1: just jumping off my god, the little.

1028
00:48:37,320 --> 00:48:41,080
Speaker 2: Cliff side, just laying next to each other. There we

1029
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:43,759
Speaker 2: were both just like can you can you believe we're here?

1030
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 2: This is just and to be together doing that, I

1031
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 2: could relive that, say.

1032
00:48:51,480 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 4: We'll aside from watermelon beach, what the world needs more of.

1033
00:48:55,480 --> 00:49:01,200
Speaker 2: Is passion, Yeah, love and compassion.

1034
00:49:01,520 --> 00:49:05,480
Speaker 5: Last question, can you choose one word to describe each other?

1035
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 2: Harry, No, I'm joking, joking, that's fair. I'm joking. I'm joking.

1036
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:16,360
Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, the clippering is a situation, but

1037
00:49:16,520 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 2: like that wasn't my way. I'm sure I've got a

1038
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 2: nice one to.

1039
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:22,320
Speaker 8: You.

1040
00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:28,360
Speaker 2: Motivated. His motivation is next to none, Like it motivates

1041
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:31,000
Speaker 2: me seeing him. I thought I was a motivated and

1042
00:49:31,120 --> 00:49:34,120
Speaker 2: driven person. I'm not compared to him. Like I'll see

1043
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 2: him do things and he's so like, uh focused. He

1044
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 2: can me quite focused. Roll I'm just like the butterfly.

1045
00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:42,839
Speaker 2: Like I can be trying to do something and then

1046
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,600
Speaker 2: like just stop, and he's like he even tells me,

1047
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:48,759
Speaker 2: he's like, you have done like five six things, but

1048
00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 2: you need to just focus on one. I'm like, you're right,

1049
00:49:50,800 --> 00:49:53,839
Speaker 2: can't even argue that. Like, he's just so focused and driven.

1050
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 1: We always say if there was two of me in

1051
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 1: the relationship would be divorced, if those two of Sarah

1052
00:49:57,840 --> 00:49:58,720
Speaker 1: would be homeless.

1053
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:02,279
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's maybe something coconuts.

1054
00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:06,240
Speaker 1: We balance each other out because I'm one hundred miles

1055
00:50:06,239 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 1: an hour and she's really relaxed, and I think that

1056
00:50:08,719 --> 00:50:11,680
Speaker 1: helps in our household. My one word for Sarah would

1057
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:14,600
Speaker 1: probably be and I've probably mentioned in our wedding speech,

1058
00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:17,359
Speaker 1: would be light. I think like the light of my life.

1059
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:18,359
Speaker 1: I always think of Sarah.

1060
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 2: Just that's nice.

1061
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 4: Well we've ever had either of those?

1062
00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 5: Have it motivated the number of.

1063
00:50:27,560 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 4: Everyone's unique Maddie and Sarah, thanks so much for being

1064
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 4: with us today.

1065
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:34,399
Speaker 3: We can't wait to see you back on Google Box

1066
00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 3: in the future, and we'll look forward to seeing the next.

1067
00:50:38,160 --> 00:50:41,799
Speaker 2: Thank you for having so much, So much for having

1068
00:50:41,920 --> 00:50:44,560
Speaker 2: usked and such a lovely chat. It really has and

1069
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:47,200
Speaker 2: it's nice hearing some things that Maddy thinks about.

1070
00:50:48,920 --> 00:50:49,799
Speaker 5: Nice to reiterate with.

1071
00:50:50,640 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 2: Love at the bar.

1072
00:50:53,640 --> 00:51:00,840
Speaker 4: Thank you guys, see you on the Telly. We'll be

1073
00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:05,279
Speaker 4: watching you, watching us, watching you. And off they go, Ah,

1074
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:11,879
Speaker 4: my gosh, so great. That's such a fun chocks, such

1075
00:51:11,880 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 4: a fun couple.

1076
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:15,920
Speaker 6: Talk about balancing each other out. I mean, they already

1077
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:20,319
Speaker 6: know that about themselves anyway, though. They really balance each

1078
00:51:20,320 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 6: other out, and they really appreciate each other's strengths as well.

1079
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:26,520
Speaker 6: And I think that's super key in relationship to know

1080
00:51:27,160 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 6: you've got this, thank you for taking that, I've got this,

1081
00:51:31,360 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 6: I'm in control of that, and then we're good, go forward.

1082
00:51:34,880 --> 00:51:39,319
Speaker 3: It's a really good recipe for a strong, respectful, fun

1083
00:51:39,880 --> 00:51:41,600
Speaker 3: yes time together.

1084
00:51:41,880 --> 00:51:43,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, That's why I love it when you take the

1085
00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:45,880
Speaker 5: rubbish out, you are so good at that.

1086
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 4: And I love it when you buy the bags. Yeah,

1087
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 4: you do the shop.

1088
00:51:52,920 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 6: I'll well, thanks so much for listening everyone. We hope

1089
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 6: you enjoyed that. And of course you can catch up

1090
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 6: with Maddie anyway on goggle Box when it's on your

1091
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 6: Telly Maddie and Jade and Bane the Dog.

1092
00:52:10,280 --> 00:52:13,560
Speaker 5: Bane the dog who's become a star in his own right.

1093
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 3: He's a hell of a humper, that dog. He's got

1094
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 3: some big long du claws as well scripping the legs. Hey,

1095
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 3: we'll catch up with you next time on separate bathrooms.

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Speaker 5: See yeah,