WEBVTT - 👄 CHICK CHAT | A Married Man Keeps Sliding Into Abbey's DMs 0:00:00.840 --> 0:00:08.320 Go get morning every Dayay, every lady, gentlemen, Adelaides, goody friends, 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:10.680 Welcome to some of the best bits of Jodey and 0:00:10.680 --> 0:00:13.680 Hazy from across And I'll tell you this much for free. 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:16.680 We've all aged terribly. Yeah the last ten months. 0:00:16.760 --> 0:00:18.959 Yeah, that's what happens when you get up for a 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:24.240 year at four am. You look seventy Oh my gosh. Yeah, 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:25.440 those crows feet. 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:26.680 A few more grays coming through. 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:27.200 Gross feet. 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:29.880 What do you ma forgot? Grows feet's around your eyes? 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:33.200 Smile line ses. It means you've smiled in your life. 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:35.040 Okay, I just like that. You'll just go on, you know, 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:37.360 bugger it. I'm just gonna let myself go. 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:51.239 My really shot. It is so time for it. Let's go, girl. 0:00:53.920 --> 0:00:57.080 Symbol do like. 0:00:57.040 --> 0:00:59.800 A little page. All the ladies to Studio one please 0:00:59.920 --> 0:01:02.920 or ladies. Okay, this is how this works. We have 0:01:03.960 --> 0:01:06.160 all the girls assembled here and we're going to talk 0:01:06.160 --> 0:01:08.640 about stuff that we've maybe spoken about off air that 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:11.720 probably deserves an on air conversation. So we've got. 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:13.919 Producer Zoe here. Good morning. 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:18.800 Zoey's in her twenties, in a new relationship, relatively happy 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:23.959 but ALWAYO a bit of a career girl as well, 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:27.839 absolutely smashing goals at work. And we've got newsreader Abby 0:01:28.520 --> 0:01:29.480 RBF face. 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:33.960 In the thirties, happily single. 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:38.480 However, something has happened to you this week that probably 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:39.880 needs to hit the air. 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:40.480 Waves, I reckon. 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.319 So this has been happening to me since twenty twenty. 0:01:44.040 --> 0:01:46.280 A guy over in I think he lives it. Well, 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:48.160 I've done some digging. I'm going to be transparent. I 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:50.160 did a bit of digging and he lives in Melbourne. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:54.520 He has been messaging me on Facebook Messenger since twenty twenty, 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:58.600 random messages every three, six eight months. One time it 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:01.120 went a year until I I'd heard from him, and 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:03.320 it's just like, hey, hey, hey, you going, Hey, how 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:03.600 are you? 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:04.320 Hey? How are you? 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:07.160 And it got to the point where I eventually just went, oh, hi, sorry, 0:02:07.200 --> 0:02:08.680 do I know you? And he goes, oh, your dog's 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:11.440 really cute, and I didn't reply, and then it just 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:15.080 continuously kept going and it got to them the point 0:02:15.120 --> 0:02:17.800 that he said, you can reply, I'm not weird or anything. 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:22.800 Oh no, now you're sounding weirdd He definitely weird. But 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:25.200 in this time as well, I did a bit of digging. 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:28.000 As I said, he met a woman, he got engaged, 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:32.119 he's married. This guy's married, right, and I've spoken. 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:32.480 To other people. 0:02:32.680 --> 0:02:34.880 Just before I walked in here, Maddie Rowe stopped me 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:38.000 and said, I've been getting messages on Instagram from a 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:40.320 guy since twenty eighteen, just like random videos that he 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:45.440 sends me. Number one, it makes me feel I'm like, 0:02:45.520 --> 0:02:49.840 it really pisses me off because as a woman, we 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:53.480 feel not safe a lot of the time. So when 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:55.359 you're walking out in the street, you get your keys out, 0:02:55.400 --> 0:02:57.760 all that sort of stuff. And I've got a social 0:02:57.760 --> 0:02:59.959 media account, and I understand that, yes, I'm on social 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:02.320 I get that, and I've also in a position where 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:04.399 I am have a bit of a public profile. 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:05.799 But the fact that. 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:09.480 People just continuously think it's okay after not getting a 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:12.240 reply to message you is just wrong. So number one 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:14.919 actually gets me, like, I get a bit teary over 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:18.080 this because I just feel like it's just not okay. 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:21.119 Not Also, do you know what people are going to say? 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:22.120 Just block it? Oh, well, that's it. 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:24.680 And so that's my thing is I've turned notifications off 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:26.520 on my phone, so all randomly, all of a sudden, 0:03:26.520 --> 0:03:28.280 I've got six messages and I'm like, oh my god, 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:30.400 and I'm so I don't know this is an excuse, 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:32.240 but I'm so busy and I forget to do it. 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:34.359 So yes, number one, I should just block in, but 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:37.000 I guess I want to know un wanted attention and 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:39.200 how to deal with it. Has anyone out there had 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:42.240 the same thing? How does it make you feel? And 0:03:42.280 --> 0:03:45.320 also who's behind it? Like have you had a friend's 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:48.080 boyfriend messaging you? Or have you had your boss messaging 0:03:48.080 --> 0:03:50.720 you stuff? And what have you done about it? 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:51.040 Yeah? 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:52.920 Okay, but's azoi we ever had it? 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:53.560 Oh? 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:57.080 Yeah, I'm lucky. Not so much when I was a 0:03:57.120 --> 0:03:59.000 bit younger, maybe like in high school and things like that. 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:01.800 Boys just not getting the message. I did see someone 0:04:02.120 --> 0:04:03.960 for a bit and after telling them I wasn't interested, 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:06.040 would still rock up to my house with coffees and 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:09.000 stuff trying to win me over them. Yeah, but you know, 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:12.080 like different he was. He was just really trying, like 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:13.040 he wasn't giving off creep. 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:17.279 Even still he still needs to have brown Yeah, yeah, 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:19.040 just rock up to someone's house. 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:24.520 Something I told you enough? 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:28.640 Give me? 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:31.840 Did you deal with this much? 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:32.120 Jokes? 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:32.360 Yeah? 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:33.919 I've had it well, even since being married. 0:04:34.000 --> 0:04:35.800 Yeah, yeah, I've had it a bit, and I think 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.359 I think it comes with the territory. Do I shouldn't 0:04:38.360 --> 0:04:41.039 say that it shouldn't come with the territory, but I 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:44.960 guess doing this job, Oh, I have messages from the 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:47.920 same men constantly that I never reply to, and the 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:48.240 same thing. 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:49.120 I've never felt. 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.839 Threatened enough to block them, you know it. And also 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.280 I think is why do we feel bad for blocking 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:58.320 someone even when it's not our fault. Why do you 0:04:58.360 --> 0:05:01.039 feel like you're in the wrong because you got that's enough. 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:03.400 Yeah, it's the same premise of I'll give us a smile, 0:05:03.520 --> 0:05:05.360 was like we're supposed to be yeah, big smiling. 0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:06.800 Yeah, I had. I had. 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:08.480 I went through a stage there where someone had my 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:10.599 phone number and every time they would call, it would 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.600 be a FaceTime as a certain part of their genitally 0:05:13.960 --> 0:05:16.039 to the point where I went to the police and said, 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:19.400 what's going on here? That was extreme and they were like, oh, 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.040 there's nothing we can do. I'm like, you can't track 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:23.600 this the guy down and say stop stop doing calling 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:23.840 with you. 0:05:25.480 --> 0:05:28.040 Let's go to Leah. Good morning, Leah, good morning, how 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:30.760 are you good? Good? I'm so sorry if this has 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:31.280 happened to you. 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:35.400 Yes, So about five years ago, there was a guy 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:39.840 who was messaging me. I was only about seventeen, so 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:42.200 at the time I thought he was being nice, so 0:05:42.240 --> 0:05:43.920 I gave him my address. He came over one time. 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:46.760 He was really really creepy, and then I told him 0:05:46.760 --> 0:05:48.559 I didn't want to see him again. And he would 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:51.360 always message me. I wouldn't reply, and then he would 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.040 just drop off, like food stopping at my door because 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.760 he told me that I didn't eat well, so he 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:58.919 would just drop food at my door even though I 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:01.279 hadn't replied. I hadn't replied four weeks and he would 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:04.159 just always drop food to my door. Also my side, 0:06:04.279 --> 0:06:07.560 my bedroom window didn't lock, but he would put flowers 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:09.560 and things. He opened my window and just like throw 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:09.880 them in. 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:10.760 Oh my god. 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:14.719 And I had not responded to him. And then I 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:16.640 found out that he had a wife and a son 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:19.640 for context as well, where he was about thirty seven 0:06:19.640 --> 0:06:20.640 and I was seventeen. 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:23.159 Did you know he was thirty seven? Sorry when he 0:06:23.200 --> 0:06:24.320 was messaging you at the start? 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:28.479 No, no, no, And so how. 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:30.680 Did you How did it all end up? Leah? 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:34.159 So I told his wife. His wife left him and 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:38.039 divorced him. And then the weird so I was getting 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:40.359 really creepy messages from him, like he would write poems 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:44.560 about me, he would make memes about me, like lovely things. 0:06:44.800 --> 0:06:47.160 It was really really strange. And then when I told 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:49.920 his wife, he turned into just straight abuse. He said 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:52.200 it was my fault that they divorced, it was my 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:55.279 fault that he'd left it that she left him. And 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:56.880 that went on for a couple of months as well. 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.120 I blocked him. He would still make little accounts just 0:06:59.160 --> 0:06:59.760 to message me. 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:02.200 Oh my god, what I was about five. 0:07:02.120 --> 0:07:04.960 Years ago now, and I think he's probably a lonely 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:05.800 man now. 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:08.359 Yeah, And it's definitely not your fault. 0:07:08.520 --> 0:07:10.520 It's his fault for doing the wrong thing and chasing 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:13.000 someone twenty years younger than him, a teenager. 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:15.440 Yeah, I was, Actually I was still a minor at 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:15.840 that point. 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:16.640 Yeah, exactly. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:19.680 Yeah, bar rout Ley, thank you so much for your 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:21.000 call this morning. Let's go to Ali. 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:21.360 Ali. 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:23.880 I'll jump in here and say you were one of 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:25.920 the victims of this guy out of Elizabeth. Let's not 0:07:25.920 --> 0:07:27.720 mention his names because I'm not sure if it's still 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:29.960 before the court, but this happened to you with him. 0:07:31.080 --> 0:07:34.800 Yeah, actually I was he mentioned me over the past 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:38.240 or five years. I never responded to any of them, 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:40.000 but yeah, he just kept going. He found there a 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:43.120 dating side about five or six years ago and then 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:46.680 searched my Facebook for me and just kept nextaging me constantly. 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:49.600 I had a guy recently who I matched with him 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:51.080 and then I sort of looked his profile went oh, 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:53.040 probably not for me. I unmatched him, and he found 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:54.760 me on Facebook and said why do you want to 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:55.040 match me? 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:55.240 Four? 0:07:55.480 --> 0:07:58.400 Like I wanted to talk to you. So, Ali, have 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:00.880 you heard from him recently? Has it all stopped? 0:08:01.040 --> 0:08:01.240 No? 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:03.760 Not since the whole court case thing, thankfully. 0:08:03.960 --> 0:08:05.440 And was it a case where you saw him on 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.000 the news and went, oh my god. 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:07.840 Yeah. 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.120 My sister in law actually tagged me and she was like, 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:11.800 oh my god, is this the guy that has been 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:13.520 messaging you? And I was like, yes, that's hum. 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:14.040 Yeah. 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:16.920 Well we well, thank you so much for your call. 0:08:16.960 --> 0:08:19.960 To Neil. Oh gosh, these calls never end. They to Neil. 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:20.720 What happened? 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:21.720 So? 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:24.080 I used to work in a store as a cashier 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:25.960 and I had a customer come through and I made 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:28.720 small talk, was really friendly as you are with customers, 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:32.400 and then he started coming back frequently and never purchasing things. 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:35.959 And on Valentine's Day he brought me flowers and he'd 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:39.000 bring me cups of coffee and stuff like that, always 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:40.000 just sort of checking in on me. 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:40.280 It was. 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:41.120 It was really weird. 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:44.080 And then one day I went to work, had lunch break, 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:45.760 came back and he was like he was there and 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:47.800 he said, oh, you've just been at home having some lunch, 0:08:47.880 --> 0:08:51.960 sitting out in the suns. Basically, yeah, it was very 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:52.760 very storckery. 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:57.480 Yeah it was well, and how's how's it all ended up? 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:57.920 Neil? 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:01.680 So he kind of we'll just keep coming in, and 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:04.840 you know, me being it was a big power dynamic. 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:06.560 I guess he's the custom to me having to be 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:09.480 kind to him. So I basically just said, look, I've 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:11.320 got a partner, and I did. My partner worked in 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:13.320 the store as well, and I said, my boyfriend's just 0:09:13.360 --> 0:09:15.840 over there like, yeah, you know, we probably don't appreciate 0:09:15.840 --> 0:09:17.880 you coming in anymore. And I just thought I had 0:09:17.920 --> 0:09:20.120 to leave it at that without offending him too much. 0:09:20.160 --> 0:09:21.480 And that's the thing we women do. 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:24.160 We don't want to offend me, I know, even though 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:28.199 you've been mortified and offended to Neil, you did absolutely 0:09:28.240 --> 0:09:29.839 the right thing and you didn't do anything wrong, and 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:31.160 I would say that to all the women out there 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:33.400 who were feeling that way. Thank you for sharing your 0:09:33.440 --> 0:09:35.160 stories this morning. I think we should give everyone an 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:39.200 Earth Clay voucher. Yeah, that we've spoken to You're welcome. 0:09:39.360 --> 0:09:40.080 Oh my god. 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:41.560 I think the last thing I want to say is 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:43.640 that if you're and look, I get that it happens. 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:45.839 It's men and women, but especially men. 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:48.320 If you're out there and you're messaging someone repeatedly on 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:50.679 social media, or they've told you that they're not interested, 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:54.480 please stop because you don't understand how it makes us feel. 0:09:55.000 --> 0:09:58.080 It's unsafe and they're obviously not interested. To just move on. 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:01.959 That's really now is so much gain involved conversation. It's 0:10:02.040 --> 0:10:02.840 very very brave story. 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:11.880 Yeah yeah, absolutely, my really picture it is so time 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:12.200 for it. 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:16.480 Let's go girl, Okay, let's do this. 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:20.240 So we have producer Zoe in your twenties in a 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:27.559 lovely relationship with Hazy's boyfriend. That's right. Yeah, We've got 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:30.319 a newsreader Abby who is in her. 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:34.280 Thirties, happily single, aggressively single, aggressively single and loving it. 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:37.640 After my dating disaster this week. Yes, we might talk 0:10:37.679 --> 0:10:39.760 about that at some point. We probably have to. 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:43.800 Talk about that, because that is definitely noteworthy what you've 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:46.800 been through in the last week. However, today we're talking 0:10:46.800 --> 0:10:51.560 about friendships. Female friendships. They're interesting, aren't they? And I 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:54.800 would very much argue that female friendships can be more 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:58.640 intense and more complicated than actual relationships in your life sometimes. 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.120 But we're talking deal this morning. 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:04.960 What is it about a female friend in particular that 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:08.160 would make you go, that's enough, I'm done here, I 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:09.880 no longer want to be friends with you? 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:16.280 Wait? 0:11:16.360 --> 0:11:17.320 A deal breaker, though. 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:21.760 Sometimes you still go back for a second day. 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:22.480 Am I right? 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:24.440 For me? 0:11:24.640 --> 0:11:29.000 A friendship deal breaker is when you and I felt this, 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:31.280 when you walk out of a room and you're not 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:33.400 quite sure what that person's going to say about you 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:36.840 behind your back. If that, like, I'm right or die? 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:40.760 I am an aggressively loyal person. If I've got you back, 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:43.679 I've got it hard for life. But if I get 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:46.560 the feeling with a female friend that I don't quite 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:49.000 know what they're going to talk about when I'm not there. 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:53.000 Out, do you wait? That is it? Straight up? 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:54.840 As soon as you've got the feeling that's it done? 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:56.400 Or do you wait to confirm this said? 0:11:56.600 --> 0:11:58.560 Not too much the feeling. I think it's more when 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:01.560 it actually happens. The confor what about for you? 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:04.120 I've had this conversation with my girlfriends a lot. Actually 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:07.080 I've got there's three of us. We're best friends, Tallulacation 0:12:07.160 --> 0:12:08.240 and I and. 0:12:08.200 --> 0:12:09.720 We that's not what tullus. 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:15.480 We should hear the conversations I've had. 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:17.400 And we've talked about it because we've been so close 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:20.080 to so long. What is the only thing that could 0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:22.040 get in the way of our friendship? We've decided is 0:12:22.960 --> 0:12:25.400 looking up with audating one of each other's exes. 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:25.840 Yeah. 0:12:25.960 --> 0:12:27.960 I think that's the only thing, because it just feels 0:12:27.960 --> 0:12:31.040 like the ultimate betrayal, right right, when your feelings are 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:31.640 that involved? 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:34.240 Can I play Devil's advocate here an extra reason? 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:34.960 Yeah? 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:38.440 Can I say, like, just a little bit down the track, 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:42.720 there are some things that arise arise in friendships that 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:45.719 you don't foresee and can also be deal breakers. So 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:47.400 you might think, I think, at your age, in your 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:49.320 twenty seo, oh my god, we're going to be friends 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:50.319 for long y. 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:52.880 No, I'm not ignorant to the fact that things will change. 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:56.480 But right now, like we've arguments whatever, the only thing 0:12:56.559 --> 0:12:58.000 right now that could tear us apart is if one 0:12:58.000 --> 0:12:59.520 of the girls dated my ex or vice versa. 0:12:59.600 --> 0:13:01.800 Yeah right, there's a few things to that. 0:13:01.840 --> 0:13:04.640 I could play double other kids there too, anyway for me, 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:10.440 lying and big lies. I cannot stand people who are 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:14.160 feeding you one story but not taking you know, in 0:13:14.200 --> 0:13:16.360 any situation. And I talk about this a lot, like 0:13:16.360 --> 0:13:18.400 with ex boyfriends and stuff. Now as I get older, 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.640 I'm I take four responsibility for my part in that story. 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:25.520 But for people who lie and constantly lie and then 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:27.240 you find out that what they're telling you is. 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:30.000 Not actually actually the truth, I can't stand that there. 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:31.720 Is something like that, someone who can't put their hand 0:13:31.800 --> 0:13:34.040 up and go, oh you know, I messed up? 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:38.520 Yeah yeah, wow, Okay, so much different for bikes, What 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:41.520 do you mean, well, in terms of just how complicated 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:44.960 female relationships and friendships can be, like for blokes. 0:13:44.960 --> 0:13:46.839 For example, a couple of days ago, I've got a 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:49.040 text from one bloke in particular, I haven't spoken to 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:51.959 I Reckon for about five or six years. Three way text, 0:13:52.000 --> 0:13:54.360 and he said, boys, I hope this is the right numbers, 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.479 but should we catch up for a beer and we're like, absolutely, 0:13:57.520 --> 0:13:57.960 let's lock. 0:13:57.920 --> 0:13:58.320 Up a time. 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:00.640 So you were actually just not for five or six 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:02.200 years and then go bang and pick it up. 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:04.280 You weren't annoyed that you hadn't heard from him in 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:06.559 all that time, not to say congratulations, hazy. 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:07.760 You've had seventeen kids like. 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:09.320 He had kids as well. 0:14:09.400 --> 0:14:09.600 Yeah. 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:11.959 Right, so just slave going in different directions, but we'll 0:14:12.000 --> 0:14:13.720 be able to immediately pick it up. 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:18.199 I've got friends like that though, that you don't speak 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:20.120 for a few months or whatever, and then there's a 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:21.040 text or whatever. 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:21.960 I think that's okay. 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:24.520 Absolutely, They're the best sort of friendships, the ones that 0:14:24.560 --> 0:14:27.280 are unconditional. It's like, okay, I get life scotten in 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:29.360 the way I haven't heard from you, but that's okay. 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:31.160 It's fine. When I see you, I'm going to pick 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:32.000 up where I left off. 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:35.960 Yeah, Chelsey, good morning. What's the friendship deal breaker? Hi? 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:39.360 So I had this friend and when we were younger, 0:14:39.440 --> 0:14:42.120 we used to meet up in the most honest places. 0:14:42.200 --> 0:14:44.760 And so the one place that she's organized to meet 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:47.120 up was the top of like a five story krper 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:50.120 and a few nights before she'd asked me whether we 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.640 could meet up there at like the middle of night. 0:14:52.680 --> 0:14:55.400 It was by eight o'clock, and I said, sure that 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:57.760 I was on the way home from work, and when 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.960 I left, I rang her if she was on her way, 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:04.240 because I wasn't not far away. She said, I'm five 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:07.560 minutes away. So I rocked up and I rang her 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:11.000 again and she said that she was on her way again, 0:15:11.680 --> 0:15:15.000 and then she didn't turn up for an hour and 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:17.080 left me in the dark at the top of a 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:22.200 random car park. So I went home and then when 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:25.760 I literally the minute I had gotten home, she rang 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:29.240 me and she was like, where are you and started 0:15:29.400 --> 0:15:32.880 for abusing me because I'd left and left her at 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:35.440 the top of the car park. And I said, if 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.680 you're not going to turn up at the right time, 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:41.080 then don't meet me. It's that simple. And she's done 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:44.080 that a few times, said she'd be there, and then 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.880 wasn't okay, And then Sherry on Tops. 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:48.480 Was later that night. 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:52.160 I was obviously asleep because she messaged me at four 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:55.800 am in the morning. She'd had a bit of an 0:15:55.840 --> 0:16:00.640 accident with her boyfriend and she went on about me 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:04.600 going out to get her planned bah and I said, 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:06.080 no way, yeah. 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:08.520 Okay, okay, So first red Flag was meeting in top 0:16:08.680 --> 0:16:09.280 car push. 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:10.360 Last story was. 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:11.040 Your friend Drake? 0:16:11.120 --> 0:16:13.000 We shared video right. 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:18.200 Anyway, was there a helipad? Good morning, Luke? 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:19.280 Are you going? 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:21.160 What's the friendship deal breaker? 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:25.720 So me and the partner were having a bit of 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.680 a tough time, so I reached out to a childhood 0:16:28.680 --> 0:16:32.400 friend who's been there for many years. Yes, he then 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:36.200 decided to say, oh, you have no problems. We've got 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:37.960 I've got no plans this week and I'm just going 0:16:37.960 --> 0:16:40.080 to be at home if you need anything. I went, yeah, 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:44.240 no problems literally, you know. I was still talking to 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:46.760 my partner at that time and found out he invited 0:16:46.800 --> 0:16:50.080 her around here for a bit of a get together, 0:16:50.120 --> 0:16:54.840 a bit of an adult party birthday. Then to find 0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:57.200 out I think it was about two days later from 0:16:57.240 --> 0:17:01.160 one of his friends we both socialized, is saying that 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:04.560 he had a female friend coming around that was going 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:14.120 through a breakup and it was going to be an easy. 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:13.400 What a sleazy, dirty bags, dirty birds deservation. 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:16.439 Yeah right, See that's kind of the same vibes as 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:17.000 hooking up with the. 0:17:16.920 --> 0:17:20.520 Next Yeah, eggs, they were just going through a rough 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:23.159