Speaker 1: Go get morning every Dayay, every lady, gentlemen, Adelaides, goody friends,
Speaker 1: Welcome to some of the best bits of Jodey and
Speaker 1: Hazy from across And I'll tell you this much for free.
Speaker 2: We've all aged terribly. Yeah the last ten months.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what happens when you get up for a
Speaker 3: year at four am. You look seventy Oh my gosh. Yeah,
Speaker 3: those crows feet.
Speaker 2: A few more grays coming through.
Speaker 4: Gross feet.
Speaker 3: What do you ma forgot? Grows feet's around your eyes?
Speaker 3: Smile line ses. It means you've smiled in your life.
Speaker 2: Okay, I just like that. You'll just go on, you know,
Speaker 2: bugger it. I'm just gonna let myself go.
Speaker 3: My really shot. It is so time for it. Let's go, girl.
Speaker 2: Symbol do like.
Speaker 5: A little page. All the ladies to Studio one please
Speaker 5: or ladies. Okay, this is how this works. We have
Speaker 5: all the girls assembled here and we're going to talk
Speaker 5: about stuff that we've maybe spoken about off air that
Speaker 5: probably deserves an on air conversation. So we've got.
Speaker 3: Producer Zoe here. Good morning.
Speaker 5: Zoey's in her twenties, in a new relationship, relatively happy
Speaker 5: but ALWAYO a bit of a career girl as well,
Speaker 5: absolutely smashing goals at work. And we've got newsreader Abby
Speaker 5: RBF face.
Speaker 3: In the thirties, happily single.
Speaker 5: However, something has happened to you this week that probably
Speaker 5: needs to hit the air.
Speaker 3: Waves, I reckon.
Speaker 6: So this has been happening to me since twenty twenty.
Speaker 6: A guy over in I think he lives it. Well,
Speaker 6: I've done some digging. I'm going to be transparent. I
Speaker 6: did a bit of digging and he lives in Melbourne.
Speaker 6: He has been messaging me on Facebook Messenger since twenty twenty,
Speaker 6: random messages every three, six eight months. One time it
Speaker 6: went a year until I I'd heard from him, and
Speaker 6: it's just like, hey, hey, hey, you going, Hey, how
Speaker 6: are you?
Speaker 3: Hey? How are you?
Speaker 6: And it got to the point where I eventually just went, oh, hi, sorry,
Speaker 6: do I know you? And he goes, oh, your dog's
Speaker 6: really cute, and I didn't reply, and then it just
Speaker 6: continuously kept going and it got to them the point
Speaker 6: that he said, you can reply, I'm not weird or anything.
Speaker 3: Oh no, now you're sounding weirdd He definitely weird. But
Speaker 3: in this time as well, I did a bit of digging.
Speaker 6: As I said, he met a woman, he got engaged,
Speaker 6: he's married. This guy's married, right, and I've spoken.
Speaker 3: To other people.
Speaker 6: Just before I walked in here, Maddie Rowe stopped me
Speaker 6: and said, I've been getting messages on Instagram from a
Speaker 6: guy since twenty eighteen, just like random videos that he
Speaker 6: sends me. Number one, it makes me feel I'm like,
Speaker 6: it really pisses me off because as a woman, we
Speaker 6: feel not safe a lot of the time. So when
Speaker 6: you're walking out in the street, you get your keys out,
Speaker 6: all that sort of stuff. And I've got a social
Speaker 6: media account, and I understand that, yes, I'm on social
Speaker 6: I get that, and I've also in a position where
Speaker 6: I am have a bit of a public profile.
Speaker 3: But the fact that.
Speaker 6: People just continuously think it's okay after not getting a
Speaker 6: reply to message you is just wrong. So number one
Speaker 6: actually gets me, like, I get a bit teary over
Speaker 6: this because I just feel like it's just not okay.
Speaker 3: Not Also, do you know what people are going to say?
Speaker 3: Just block it? Oh, well, that's it.
Speaker 6: And so that's my thing is I've turned notifications off
Speaker 6: on my phone, so all randomly, all of a sudden,
Speaker 6: I've got six messages and I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 6: and I'm so I don't know this is an excuse,
Speaker 6: but I'm so busy and I forget to do it.
Speaker 6: So yes, number one, I should just block in, but
Speaker 6: I guess I want to know un wanted attention and
Speaker 6: how to deal with it. Has anyone out there had
Speaker 6: the same thing? How does it make you feel? And
Speaker 6: also who's behind it? Like have you had a friend's
Speaker 6: boyfriend messaging you? Or have you had your boss messaging
Speaker 6: you stuff? And what have you done about it?
Speaker 7: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Okay, but's azoi we ever had it?
Speaker 8: Oh?
Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm lucky. Not so much when I was a
Speaker 9: bit younger, maybe like in high school and things like that.
Speaker 9: Boys just not getting the message. I did see someone
Speaker 9: for a bit and after telling them I wasn't interested,
Speaker 9: would still rock up to my house with coffees and
Speaker 9: stuff trying to win me over them. Yeah, but you know,
Speaker 9: like different he was. He was just really trying, like
Speaker 9: he wasn't giving off creep.
Speaker 3: Even still he still needs to have brown Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: just rock up to someone's house.
Speaker 2: Something I told you enough?
Speaker 5: Give me?
Speaker 3: Did you deal with this much?
Speaker 6: Jokes?
Speaker 10: Yeah?
Speaker 9: I've had it well, even since being married.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I've had it a bit, and I think
Speaker 5: I think it comes with the territory. Do I shouldn't
Speaker 5: say that it shouldn't come with the territory, but I
Speaker 5: guess doing this job, Oh, I have messages from the
Speaker 5: same men constantly that I never reply to, and the
Speaker 5: same thing.
Speaker 3: I've never felt.
Speaker 5: Threatened enough to block them, you know it. And also
Speaker 5: I think is why do we feel bad for blocking
Speaker 5: someone even when it's not our fault. Why do you
Speaker 5: feel like you're in the wrong because you got that's enough.
Speaker 9: Yeah, it's the same premise of I'll give us a smile,
Speaker 9: was like we're supposed to be yeah, big smiling.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I had. I had.
Speaker 5: I went through a stage there where someone had my
Speaker 5: phone number and every time they would call, it would
Speaker 5: be a FaceTime as a certain part of their genitally
Speaker 5: to the point where I went to the police and said,
Speaker 5: what's going on here? That was extreme and they were like, oh,
Speaker 5: there's nothing we can do. I'm like, you can't track
Speaker 5: this the guy down and say stop stop doing calling
Speaker 5: with you.
Speaker 3: Let's go to Leah. Good morning, Leah, good morning, how
Speaker 3: are you good? Good? I'm so sorry if this has
Speaker 3: happened to you.
Speaker 4: Yes, So about five years ago, there was a guy
Speaker 4: who was messaging me. I was only about seventeen, so
Speaker 4: at the time I thought he was being nice, so
Speaker 4: I gave him my address. He came over one time.
Speaker 4: He was really really creepy, and then I told him
Speaker 4: I didn't want to see him again. And he would
Speaker 4: always message me. I wouldn't reply, and then he would
Speaker 4: just drop off, like food stopping at my door because
Speaker 4: he told me that I didn't eat well, so he
Speaker 4: would just drop food at my door even though I
Speaker 4: hadn't replied. I hadn't replied four weeks and he would
Speaker 4: just always drop food to my door. Also my side,
Speaker 4: my bedroom window didn't lock, but he would put flowers
Speaker 4: and things. He opened my window and just like throw
Speaker 4: them in.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 4: And I had not responded to him. And then I
Speaker 4: found out that he had a wife and a son
Speaker 4: for context as well, where he was about thirty seven
Speaker 4: and I was seventeen.
Speaker 6: Did you know he was thirty seven? Sorry when he
Speaker 6: was messaging you at the start?
Speaker 4: No, no, no, And so how.
Speaker 3: Did you How did it all end up? Leah?
Speaker 4: So I told his wife. His wife left him and
Speaker 4: divorced him. And then the weird so I was getting
Speaker 4: really creepy messages from him, like he would write poems
Speaker 4: about me, he would make memes about me, like lovely things.
Speaker 4: It was really really strange. And then when I told
Speaker 4: his wife, he turned into just straight abuse. He said
Speaker 4: it was my fault that they divorced, it was my
Speaker 4: fault that he'd left it that she left him. And
Speaker 4: that went on for a couple of months as well.
Speaker 4: I blocked him. He would still make little accounts just
Speaker 4: to message me.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what I was about five.
Speaker 4: Years ago now, and I think he's probably a lonely
Speaker 4: man now.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's definitely not your fault.
Speaker 6: It's his fault for doing the wrong thing and chasing
Speaker 6: someone twenty years younger than him, a teenager.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was, Actually I was still a minor at
Speaker 4: that point.
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 5: Yeah, bar rout Ley, thank you so much for your
Speaker 5: call this morning. Let's go to Ali.
Speaker 3: Ali.
Speaker 5: I'll jump in here and say you were one of
Speaker 5: the victims of this guy out of Elizabeth. Let's not
Speaker 5: mention his names because I'm not sure if it's still
Speaker 5: before the court, but this happened to you with him.
Speaker 11: Yeah, actually I was he mentioned me over the past
Speaker 11: or five years. I never responded to any of them,
Speaker 11: but yeah, he just kept going. He found there a
Speaker 11: dating side about five or six years ago and then
Speaker 11: searched my Facebook for me and just kept nextaging me constantly.
Speaker 6: I had a guy recently who I matched with him
Speaker 6: and then I sort of looked his profile went oh,
Speaker 6: probably not for me. I unmatched him, and he found
Speaker 6: me on Facebook and said why do you want to
Speaker 6: match me?
Speaker 5: Four?
Speaker 3: Like I wanted to talk to you. So, Ali, have
Speaker 3: you heard from him recently? Has it all stopped?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 11: Not since the whole court case thing, thankfully.
Speaker 5: And was it a case where you saw him on
Speaker 5: the news and went, oh my god.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 11: My sister in law actually tagged me and she was like,
Speaker 11: oh my god, is this the guy that has been
Speaker 11: messaging you? And I was like, yes, that's hum.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well we well, thank you so much for your call.
Speaker 3: To Neil. Oh gosh, these calls never end. They to Neil.
Speaker 3: What happened?
Speaker 5: So?
Speaker 10: I used to work in a store as a cashier
Speaker 10: and I had a customer come through and I made
Speaker 10: small talk, was really friendly as you are with customers,
Speaker 10: and then he started coming back frequently and never purchasing things.
Speaker 10: And on Valentine's Day he brought me flowers and he'd
Speaker 10: bring me cups of coffee and stuff like that, always
Speaker 10: just sort of checking in on me.
Speaker 7: It was.
Speaker 11: It was really weird.
Speaker 10: And then one day I went to work, had lunch break,
Speaker 10: came back and he was like he was there and
Speaker 10: he said, oh, you've just been at home having some lunch,
Speaker 10: sitting out in the suns. Basically, yeah, it was very
Speaker 10: very storckery.
Speaker 3: Yeah it was well, and how's how's it all ended up?
Speaker 2: Neil?
Speaker 10: So he kind of we'll just keep coming in, and
Speaker 10: you know, me being it was a big power dynamic.
Speaker 10: I guess he's the custom to me having to be
Speaker 10: kind to him. So I basically just said, look, I've
Speaker 10: got a partner, and I did. My partner worked in
Speaker 10: the store as well, and I said, my boyfriend's just
Speaker 10: over there like, yeah, you know, we probably don't appreciate
Speaker 10: you coming in anymore. And I just thought I had
Speaker 10: to leave it at that without offending him too much.
Speaker 10: And that's the thing we women do.
Speaker 5: We don't want to offend me, I know, even though
Speaker 5: you've been mortified and offended to Neil, you did absolutely
Speaker 5: the right thing and you didn't do anything wrong, and
Speaker 5: I would say that to all the women out there
Speaker 5: who were feeling that way. Thank you for sharing your
Speaker 5: stories this morning. I think we should give everyone an
Speaker 5: Earth Clay voucher. Yeah, that we've spoken to You're welcome.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 6: I think the last thing I want to say is
Speaker 6: that if you're and look, I get that it happens.
Speaker 3: It's men and women, but especially men.
Speaker 6: If you're out there and you're messaging someone repeatedly on
Speaker 6: social media, or they've told you that they're not interested,
Speaker 6: please stop because you don't understand how it makes us feel.
Speaker 6: It's unsafe and they're obviously not interested. To just move on.
Speaker 2: That's really now is so much gain involved conversation. It's
Speaker 2: very very brave story.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, absolutely, my really picture it is so time
Speaker 5: for it.
Speaker 3: Let's go girl, Okay, let's do this.
Speaker 5: So we have producer Zoe in your twenties in a
Speaker 5: lovely relationship with Hazy's boyfriend. That's right. Yeah, We've got
Speaker 5: a newsreader Abby who is in her.
Speaker 6: Thirties, happily single, aggressively single, aggressively single and loving it.
Speaker 3: After my dating disaster this week. Yes, we might talk
Speaker 3: about that at some point. We probably have to.
Speaker 5: Talk about that, because that is definitely noteworthy what you've
Speaker 5: been through in the last week. However, today we're talking
Speaker 5: about friendships. Female friendships. They're interesting, aren't they? And I
Speaker 5: would very much argue that female friendships can be more
Speaker 5: intense and more complicated than actual relationships in your life sometimes.
Speaker 3: But we're talking deal this morning.
Speaker 5: What is it about a female friend in particular that
Speaker 5: would make you go, that's enough, I'm done here, I
Speaker 5: no longer want to be friends with you?
Speaker 7: Wait?
Speaker 3: A deal breaker, though.
Speaker 5: Sometimes you still go back for a second day.
Speaker 3: Am I right?
Speaker 7: For me?
Speaker 5: A friendship deal breaker is when you and I felt this,
Speaker 5: when you walk out of a room and you're not
Speaker 5: quite sure what that person's going to say about you
Speaker 5: behind your back. If that, like, I'm right or die?
Speaker 5: I am an aggressively loyal person. If I've got you back,
Speaker 5: I've got it hard for life. But if I get
Speaker 5: the feeling with a female friend that I don't quite
Speaker 5: know what they're going to talk about when I'm not there.
Speaker 3: Out, do you wait? That is it? Straight up?
Speaker 9: As soon as you've got the feeling that's it done?
Speaker 9: Or do you wait to confirm this said?
Speaker 3: Not too much the feeling. I think it's more when
Speaker 3: it actually happens. The confor what about for you?
Speaker 9: I've had this conversation with my girlfriends a lot. Actually
Speaker 9: I've got there's three of us. We're best friends, Tallulacation
Speaker 9: and I and.
Speaker 3: We that's not what tullus.
Speaker 5: We should hear the conversations I've had.
Speaker 9: And we've talked about it because we've been so close
Speaker 9: to so long. What is the only thing that could
Speaker 9: get in the way of our friendship? We've decided is
Speaker 9: looking up with audating one of each other's exes.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 9: I think that's the only thing, because it just feels
Speaker 9: like the ultimate betrayal, right right, when your feelings are
Speaker 9: that involved?
Speaker 3: Can I play Devil's advocate here an extra reason?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Can I say, like, just a little bit down the track,
Speaker 5: there are some things that arise arise in friendships that
Speaker 5: you don't foresee and can also be deal breakers. So
Speaker 5: you might think, I think, at your age, in your
Speaker 5: twenty seo, oh my god, we're going to be friends
Speaker 5: for long y.
Speaker 9: No, I'm not ignorant to the fact that things will change.
Speaker 9: But right now, like we've arguments whatever, the only thing
Speaker 9: right now that could tear us apart is if one
Speaker 9: of the girls dated my ex or vice versa.
Speaker 3: Yeah right, there's a few things to that.
Speaker 6: I could play double other kids there too, anyway for me,
Speaker 6: lying and big lies. I cannot stand people who are
Speaker 6: feeding you one story but not taking you know, in
Speaker 6: any situation. And I talk about this a lot, like
Speaker 6: with ex boyfriends and stuff. Now as I get older,
Speaker 6: I'm I take four responsibility for my part in that story.
Speaker 6: But for people who lie and constantly lie and then
Speaker 6: you find out that what they're telling you is.
Speaker 3: Not actually actually the truth, I can't stand that there.
Speaker 5: Is something like that, someone who can't put their hand
Speaker 5: up and go, oh you know, I messed up?
Speaker 12: Yeah yeah, wow, Okay, so much different for bikes, What
Speaker 12: do you mean, well, in terms of just how complicated
Speaker 12: female relationships and friendships can be, like for blokes.
Speaker 2: For example, a couple of days ago, I've got a
Speaker 2: text from one bloke in particular, I haven't spoken to
Speaker 2: I Reckon for about five or six years. Three way text,
Speaker 2: and he said, boys, I hope this is the right numbers,
Speaker 2: but should we catch up for a beer and we're like, absolutely,
Speaker 2: let's lock.
Speaker 7: Up a time.
Speaker 2: So you were actually just not for five or six
Speaker 2: years and then go bang and pick it up.
Speaker 5: You weren't annoyed that you hadn't heard from him in
Speaker 5: all that time, not to say congratulations, hazy.
Speaker 3: You've had seventeen kids like.
Speaker 2: He had kids as well.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Right, so just slave going in different directions, but we'll
Speaker 2: be able to immediately pick it up.
Speaker 6: I've got friends like that though, that you don't speak
Speaker 6: for a few months or whatever, and then there's a
Speaker 6: text or whatever.
Speaker 3: I think that's okay.
Speaker 5: Absolutely, They're the best sort of friendships, the ones that
Speaker 5: are unconditional. It's like, okay, I get life scotten in
Speaker 5: the way I haven't heard from you, but that's okay.
Speaker 3: It's fine. When I see you, I'm going to pick
Speaker 3: up where I left off.
Speaker 5: Yeah, Chelsey, good morning. What's the friendship deal breaker? Hi?
Speaker 7: So I had this friend and when we were younger,
Speaker 7: we used to meet up in the most honest places.
Speaker 7: And so the one place that she's organized to meet
Speaker 7: up was the top of like a five story krper
Speaker 7: and a few nights before she'd asked me whether we
Speaker 7: could meet up there at like the middle of night.
Speaker 7: It was by eight o'clock, and I said, sure that
Speaker 7: I was on the way home from work, and when
Speaker 7: I left, I rang her if she was on her way,
Speaker 7: because I wasn't not far away. She said, I'm five
Speaker 7: minutes away. So I rocked up and I rang her
Speaker 7: again and she said that she was on her way again,
Speaker 7: and then she didn't turn up for an hour and
Speaker 7: left me in the dark at the top of a
Speaker 7: random car park. So I went home and then when
Speaker 7: I literally the minute I had gotten home, she rang
Speaker 7: me and she was like, where are you and started
Speaker 7: for abusing me because I'd left and left her at
Speaker 7: the top of the car park. And I said, if
Speaker 7: you're not going to turn up at the right time,
Speaker 7: then don't meet me. It's that simple. And she's done
Speaker 7: that a few times, said she'd be there, and then
Speaker 7: wasn't okay, And then Sherry on Tops.
Speaker 4: Was later that night.
Speaker 8: I was obviously asleep because she messaged me at four
Speaker 8: am in the morning. She'd had a bit of an
Speaker 8: accident with her boyfriend and she went on about me
Speaker 8: going out to get her planned bah and I said,
Speaker 8: no way, yeah.
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, So first red Flag was meeting in top
Speaker 6: car push.
Speaker 3: Last story was.
Speaker 2: Your friend Drake?
Speaker 13: We shared video right.
Speaker 3: Anyway, was there a helipad? Good morning, Luke?
Speaker 13: Are you going?
Speaker 3: What's the friendship deal breaker?
Speaker 13: So me and the partner were having a bit of
Speaker 13: a tough time, so I reached out to a childhood
Speaker 13: friend who's been there for many years. Yes, he then
Speaker 13: decided to say, oh, you have no problems. We've got
Speaker 13: I've got no plans this week and I'm just going
Speaker 13: to be at home if you need anything. I went, yeah,
Speaker 13: no problems literally, you know. I was still talking to
Speaker 13: my partner at that time and found out he invited
Speaker 13: her around here for a bit of a get together,
Speaker 13: a bit of an adult party birthday. Then to find
Speaker 13: out I think it was about two days later from
Speaker 13: one of his friends we both socialized, is saying that
Speaker 13: he had a female friend coming around that was going
Speaker 13: through a breakup and it was going to be an easy.
Speaker 2: What a sleazy, dirty bags, dirty birds deservation.
Speaker 9: Yeah right, See that's kind of the same vibes as
Speaker 9: hooking up with the.
Speaker 6: Next Yeah, eggs, they were just going through a rough
Speaker 6: pat that's horrible.
Speaker 5: And that's there's a lesson in that too, to never
Speaker 5: bag someone who's going through a breakup. Never bag the
Speaker 5: partner because if they do get yeah yeah, awkward, Shannon
Speaker 5: friendship deal breaker for you.
Speaker 4: Hey, So I had a birthday drinks and celebration and
Speaker 4: it was like an engagement celebration as well, because I'd
Speaker 4: recently got engaged, and it was so like my fiancee
Speaker 4: to me, all all of my friends and family in
Speaker 4: like a group's.
Speaker 13: Social setting yep.
Speaker 4: And one of my really good friends was like, oh,
Speaker 4: I'm really sorry, I can't come. I can't get a babysitter.
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, that's okay, like totally understand,
Speaker 4: you know, but we'll organize something else, which was like,
Speaker 4: I'm really sorry, but yep. Anyways, later in the night,
Speaker 4: I go on Snap and she is at the showdown
Speaker 4: with her.
Speaker 3: Sorry to laugh, we get it.
Speaker 5: To your friends, I'm so sorry I can't come to
Speaker 5: your engagement party. Go how.
Speaker 3: Should we take abby? Good morning?
Speaker 14: Hello?
Speaker 4: Mine? Is that my best friend told me to essentially
Speaker 4: break up with my partner?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, okay, and what was your.
Speaker 4: Well, I'm all for like being there for your friend
Speaker 4: and you know, talking them through the option. You can not.
Speaker 4: You do not have the ride to say your partners's
Speaker 4: good enough for you break up, and ever since then
Speaker 4: they've just never been the same friends.
Speaker 9: Yeah, yeah, what's so tough about that? I would really
Speaker 9: hope that if my girlfriends didn't like Alex, then tell me.
Speaker 9: But then if it actually happened, how do you deal with?
Speaker 3: What about if one of your friends likes Alex too much?
Speaker 2: What about if I told you to break up with.
Speaker 3: That's a tough one old friend boyfriend thing. And I
Speaker 3: think the key takeaway in all of this is we
Speaker 3: all love Alex. My really chat chat. It is so
Speaker 3: time for it.
Speaker 6: Let's go girl, yeah the girls, Yeah, excuse me, I'm
Speaker 6: just going to kick a door down.
Speaker 5: It's so time for a chick chat and this is
Speaker 5: where us girls get together.
Speaker 3: Hazy, you can vaguely be involved.
Speaker 5: Zoe, you're in your twenties in a newish relationship with
Speaker 5: a much younger man. Abby you're in your thirties, very
Speaker 5: much single, but slaying life. I'd have to say, laughing,
Speaker 5: yeah you are. I think there was a pringle though,
Speaker 5: you slay girl. So this week's chick chat will revolve
Speaker 5: around age gaps.
Speaker 9: And then we were just saying I cop a lot
Speaker 9: of flak from all of you for dating it much
Speaker 9: younger man.
Speaker 3: He's two years.
Speaker 12: Younger than mentally.
Speaker 3: Actually it's criminal.
Speaker 9: I know that it's pretty jarring when I say out
Speaker 9: loud that he's born in the year two thousand.
Speaker 2: Do you know what's outrageous?
Speaker 7: Is it?
Speaker 2: I spent a long time with Alex on the weekend
Speaker 2: and I was born in nineteen eighty five, But somehow
Speaker 2: it feels like we're almost the same.
Speaker 3: Ah, it was outrageous.
Speaker 2: You really goes sort of scary connection.
Speaker 9: But despite how much fun you'll make of me, it
Speaker 9: got us talking of about real age gap relationships and
Speaker 9: if we've ever been in them, what we think of them,
Speaker 9: and abs that came up that you have been in
Speaker 9: quite a big age gap relationship.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was pretty big.
Speaker 6: So there was eighteen years between myself and this gentleman,
Speaker 6: my boss's best friend at one point.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was twenty two, he was forty. So I
Speaker 3: look back.
Speaker 6: Now and just, yeah, way too big. I was way
Speaker 6: too young. Maybe now it might be different, but yeah,
Speaker 6: I was way too young to be with someone.
Speaker 3: Hitty treat you well.
Speaker 6: No, no, I put my hand up though, as I
Speaker 6: get older and go, I caused a lot of dramas.
Speaker 6: But also, you know, him being older, you would have
Speaker 6: thought that he would have, you know, taught me how
Speaker 6: to be in an adult relationship, and that wasn't the case.
Speaker 2: Also, what you do abbe and that he is for
Speaker 2: some reason, probably blame yourself when you're eighteen, and of
Speaker 2: course there's a lot going on for anyone who's eighteen.
Speaker 6: Yeah, but I just look at twenty two, you're just
Speaker 6: such a baby. I was working in hospitality. I was
Speaker 6: a terror of a person living my best life and
Speaker 6: he copped a lot of it. But also he did
Speaker 6: some pretty shady things as well.
Speaker 5: Can I ask you this, having lived through that experience,
Speaker 5: do you think that an age gap, nearly twenty year
Speaker 5: age gap can work.
Speaker 6: I've actually got friends who there's twenty years between them
Speaker 6: and they're now together. They've got twins living their best
Speaker 6: life up on the Gold Coast. So I do believe
Speaker 6: that it can work. But interestingly, we went I did
Speaker 6: some volunteering last week and I met a lovely lady.
Speaker 6: She's eighty three, her husband's ninety four. And I made
Speaker 6: a comment, I said, oh, a bit controversial. You know
Speaker 6: how long you've been together, and they've been together for
Speaker 6: like sixty five years or something, and she said, there's
Speaker 6: been no issue with the age gap until now because
Speaker 6: she's eighty three, she's volunteering still, she wants to go
Speaker 6: and have fun with the gals. And her husband's ninety four.
Speaker 6: He's going through some health issues and she you know,
Speaker 6: he can't drive, so she's doing all of that for him.
Speaker 5: So it's funny, isn't it, Because you think you think
Speaker 5: the age gap becomes less and less relevant the older
Speaker 5: you get. But I have never thought about that that
Speaker 5: when you get to that age. Yeah, one's mobile, the
Speaker 5: other one isn't.
Speaker 2: That yet because physically she was at a harvest rock
Speaker 2: on the weekend on his shoulders, but he's got some issues.
Speaker 3: I heard that she was on your shoulders at one point.
Speaker 6: It wouldn't surprise, but yeah, I'm looking back now not okay.
Speaker 3: But also, you know, you go through what you go
Speaker 3: through for a reason, So.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I will say I think I feel like there's
Speaker 5: a little bit of a double standard with this, Like
Speaker 5: so if an older bloke gets with a younger woman,
Speaker 5: then it's like all the mates, like, whereas if an older, say,
Speaker 5: cougar gets together with a younger man and it's kind
Speaker 5: of a little bit frowned upon it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not sure how well representing the male species.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure how well supported is if you're going
Speaker 2: out with someone who's vastly younger. For I don't think
Speaker 2: we're all sent around.
Speaker 5: Going yeah, okay, don't even make that noise.
Speaker 2: Again, made to forty and they're going out with twenty
Speaker 2: two year olds. Don't think we're all getting together.
Speaker 3: My head is that Yeah.
Speaker 6: Yeah, my boss said to him, you leave her alone
Speaker 6: and do not go near her, and he obviously didn't listen.
Speaker 3: I just couldn't resist, you, abs.
Speaker 9: It can work, these relationships, So yeah, I mean dependent.
Speaker 9: I think every situation is different, but it'd be nice
Speaker 9: to hear yes it would.
Speaker 5: Let's go to Lisa, good morning, Good morning. What's the gap, Lise?
Speaker 14: So we're eleven years apart. So I'm forty and he's fifty.
Speaker 3: One, right, okay, and does it work?
Speaker 4: It does?
Speaker 14: We've been together. I first met him when I was
Speaker 14: twenty nine, so yeah, we've both been married before, had
Speaker 14: children with other partners, and now we've got a beautiful
Speaker 14: little two year old daughter of our own.
Speaker 4: Wow.
Speaker 3: So it is a blended family, now, is it.
Speaker 14: It's a blended family. So his son lives with us,
Speaker 14: my daughter.
Speaker 4: Lives with us.
Speaker 14: They're both fifteen. Yeah, and then our little two year
Speaker 14: old Daisy.
Speaker 3: Okay, Lisa, you happy?
Speaker 14: Yeah, so so happy. So like I'm a vet nurse now,
Speaker 14: I feel like my career is he supported me in
Speaker 14: doing everything that I've wanted to do. I haven't found
Speaker 14: the age gap a problem at all because in fact,
Speaker 14: his maturity, it probably yeah, has helped me along the way.
Speaker 5: Yeah. I guess there is a bit to be said
Speaker 5: by the fact that they do say that men mature
Speaker 5: a little slower than women.
Speaker 14: So I think we're definitely have met in the middle
Speaker 14: there because I feel like I'm obviously very mature and
Speaker 14: he's quite immature.
Speaker 2: Right. Isn't that incredible? Lisa? My wife is younger than me,
Speaker 2: but I mean mentally, she's so much older. She is
Speaker 2: so much older.
Speaker 3: Indeed, thanks so much, Lisa, thanks for you called