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Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables, Like to me, if I ever

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Speaker 1: have kids, which I probably will, the most important thing

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Speaker 1: for me is probably seeing a smile on their face. Fact, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's all I wanted. That's all I want from them, true. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And to be a pro tennis player.

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Speaker 1: The Relatables podcast is hosted by myself Whatdy Clark Akammy

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Speaker 1: and my partner in crime, mister Jake cray A k Yay. Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, daddy.

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Speaker 1: I actually have you you know how, it's like this

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Speaker 1: whole thing that sometimes girls during course we'll say like, oh, daddy,

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Speaker 1: like you know, keep say that again, Oh Daddy, like that, dude,

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Speaker 1: I like that. But it's like sexy.

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Speaker 2: I do know. That's the thing. Yeah, that's like sexy.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever once thought to say in the midst,

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Speaker 1: in the heat of the moment, like mummy.

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Speaker 3: I've never once thought that. And I've never once thought

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Speaker 3: I wish you'd call me daddy.

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Speaker 1: No. No, have you ever been called daddy? No? Trying

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Speaker 1: to think. I'm trying to think of like would it

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Speaker 1: ruin the mood if a man like if a grown

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Speaker 1: man in the midst is like kind of grunting and heavin.

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Speaker 1: He goes like, oh, yeah, mummy, I'd be lying if

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Speaker 1: I said I haven't thought about it. I've never done it,

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Speaker 1: but but I have thought, like what if I was

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Speaker 2: Be like, have you thought me about doing it during

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, I've never thought of myself like I'm going

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Speaker 1: to do it. I've always thought like, imagine if I

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Speaker 3: Oh nah, I've never thought about even like I've heard

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Speaker 3: people say like daddy and porn, and I'm always.

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Speaker 1: Like, it's one of those things that are you. It's

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Speaker 1: almost like a thing I use when I when I'm

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Speaker 1: trying not to prematurely ejaculate finish said session. Yes, maybe,

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Speaker 1: And so I'm thinking, like, imagine if I just would

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Speaker 1: while the mood's still good. The only time I think

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Speaker 1: and you can never do this is when I'm drunk,

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Speaker 1: because drunk sex is always fun, and yeah, you're having

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Speaker 1: a giggle each other around, you're having a bit of

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Speaker 1: real funny. So I'm thinking, one of the six times

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Speaker 1: I get drunk next year, mate, I'll let you know.

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Speaker 1: Six is a lot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like this year, this is a lot for you. Oh no,

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Speaker 1: well maybe for this year. Are you aiming for anymore

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Speaker 1: this year? I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I don't have anything in mind, but nothing coming up.

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Speaker 3: The New Years is coming, but I don't feel like

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Speaker 1: No, because the last time you rank would have been balley. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm still going. I think one of my New Year's

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Speaker 1: other ones I don't really remember. I probably haven't stuck

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Speaker 1: I did think, I remember saying was like, just because

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Speaker 2: On news if we're together and pin you down.

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Speaker 1: If somebody accidentally fucking gets me, I'm gonna be pissed.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna put it's not my own doing. I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: put some hand sanitizer in your mouth or something.

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Speaker 1: Fuck off that doesn't care that alcohol mate that doesn't

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Speaker 1: tell you what New Year's resolutions next year? Cool?

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Speaker 2: Your girlfriend call her mummy?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, in the midst of it, ship, what if she's

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Speaker 4: into it? Try something new may well. But I mean

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Speaker 4: I wanted to start off with another question, like last week.

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Speaker 1: I have another question for you, not really for you,

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Speaker 2: That's a silly question.

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Speaker 1: What's not really a question for you?

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Speaker 2: What's a question for any question for anyone in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because I saw I think Beath sent it to me,

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Speaker 2: Than one perfect person for everyone. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I think, oh yeah, there's more than one person for everyone.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I don't think anyone is like perfect for one,

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Speaker 3: I know, people agree or have the same outlook on

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Speaker 1: Oh, here we go.

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Speaker 2: To complain this game.

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Speaker 1: She complained this game, But I really just one in

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Speaker 1: the right pair of shoes. You fuck her.

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Speaker 2: I'm sick saiting the right pair of shoes.

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Speaker 2: This is gonna be a deep question.

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Speaker 1: Stay in them because they're so deep.

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Speaker 1: Percentage wild stabbing the dark fifty? Honestly, I just I

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Speaker 3: Stories in girls even who like plan their breakup like

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Speaker 3: Well, I think that's maybe a good trait the girls have,

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Speaker 3: I'll give you the benefit of the doubt. A couple

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Speaker 1: No, they're good, They're very good. All right, guys, we

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Speaker 3: a boyfriend who I love here. That doesn't mean when

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00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have kids. I don't know when that is.

442
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:25,280
Speaker 3: I might have to reassess my life and really value

443
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:26,200
Speaker 3: that family time more.

444
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, but right now, for my personal growth, I need

445
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 1: to be here, which surely if you've said that to

446
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:33,679
Speaker 1: your parents, like they would understand, Like I know it's surely,

447
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,480
Speaker 1: but like it's easier said than done. It's so much

448
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:38,439
Speaker 1: easier said, Like it's logical in my mind, but yeah,

449
00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 1: it's so her core values right now aren't family. They're

450
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:43,800
Speaker 1: finding herself, which is what every person has to do.

451
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:48,280
Speaker 1: I couldn't imagine living on the same street as my dad. Like,

452
00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:50,639
Speaker 1: at no point ever in my head did I have

453
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:53,399
Speaker 1: I ever thought like I want to live you know,

454
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 1: a couple of doors down from my dad. I bet

455
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:57,320
Speaker 1: you my dad wants me fucking a couple suburbs away

456
00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:01,440
Speaker 1: from him. Well, now fucking a few hours quite a

457
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 1: few hours drive.

458
00:24:02,240 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 2: You know it'll be like that guy brow them all.

459
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean to be fair, Nah, like you probably

460
00:24:08,040 --> 00:24:09,320
Speaker 1: love it if I bought their hours next door.

461
00:24:09,359 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 3: But I think like within in like an hour and

462
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:15,160
Speaker 3: a half, two hours is like perfect. When raising a kid,

463
00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 3: when you're independent and by yourself, I think you should

464
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 3: be able to be where the fuck you want to be.

465
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's different. A I just think it's I don't know,

466
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:30,840
Speaker 1: you love your mom, you love your dad.

467
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:34,160
Speaker 2: But I think it's slightly selfish what their parents are doing.

468
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, yeah, you just you can't have kids

469
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,680
Speaker 1: thinking that they're going to do what you want them

470
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 1: to do. You have to have kids thinking, like you know,

471
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 1: they're going to grow up be their own person They

472
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 1: have their own personality, they have their own set of morals.

473
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:52,680
Speaker 1: They they they have, they are their own thing. They're

474
00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:56,000
Speaker 1: not yours to boss around and until they're older.

475
00:24:56,040 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 3: You know, it's especially we see this like money thing

476
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 3: be brought into relationship, not as much in the family relationship,

477
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 3: but more in the dating relationship where people use money

478
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 3: as leverage, which is very.

479
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 2: Very unhealthy.

480
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 3: As soon as anyone does that, because we've talked about

481
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,399
Speaker 3: it before some reason it was an older fashioned thing

482
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 3: to do.

483
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 1: But men will be like, I earn the money, you've

484
00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: got to clean the house.

485
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, which is completely unhealthy. Which is sort of

486
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 3: along the same lines like that. It's just like I'm paying.

487
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 2: For your rent. You should be near me, which is weird.

488
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, maybe it's like a power trip. Maybe you

489
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 1: should say to them like, look like if you can

490
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 1: do it, if you could, if you've got a good

491
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: job lined up, or something, trying to say to them,

492
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 1: I don't need your money, I'll work it out, like

493
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:45,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know I should.

494
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:46,639
Speaker 2: But I also think it shouldn't come to that point.

495
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,840
Speaker 1: I don't think. Yeah, I don't think that they should

496
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 1: offer Like I would never like if you came to

497
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 1: me and said, like, Capley's borrow a thousand dollars and

498
00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, like a thousand bucks. I wouldn't

499
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 1: like hold it against you. I guess it's a type

500
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:08,119
Speaker 1: of person name like I wouldn't it's hard or like

501
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:11,800
Speaker 1: you think about this, Okay, you don't buy your girlfriend

502
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:17,560
Speaker 1: dinner and then later on in a relationship bring that up. No,

503
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: why would I ever bring that up. It's ridiculous. Yeah,

504
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, you bought me dinner, so now you

505
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 1: should do this for me. What.

506
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I don't get it.

507
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 1: Weird.

508
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:32,880
Speaker 3: I also think that's a very common thing for older generations. Yeah, yeah,

509
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,240
Speaker 3: where like I did this for you, now you should

510
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 3: do this for me. True, which I don't think is

511
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:40,960
Speaker 3: very healthy at all. I don't think is very help

512
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,120
Speaker 3: in a family setting, it can't be nice.

513
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,480
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no. And look, to be fair, your

514
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,679
Speaker 1: mom probably doesn't want to hurt you. Ya, there's probably

515
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,600
Speaker 1: no like i'd say, her mom doesn't want to hurt her,

516
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: but her mum's probably just thinking, like like she just

517
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: loves her and wants her where she is, and she's

518
00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 1: probably that's just like the only way she knows how

519
00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:00,119
Speaker 1: to do it. Like she's just struggling to accept the

520
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,360
Speaker 1: fact that you don't want to live near them. Yeah,

521
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 1: which is tricky and easier easier said than done. But like, yeah,

522
00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:09,640
Speaker 1: the funny thing is is like everything's like easier said

523
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:11,240
Speaker 1: than done. But I guess when you're in the situation,

524
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:13,440
Speaker 1: you kind of just have to do it exactly.

525
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think just just by having these thoughts,

526
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,439
Speaker 3: something good will come out of it and you'll live

527
00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 3: your best life. And hopefully your mom sees the light

528
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 3: of you living somewhere else.

529
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 1: Hopefully she says, so happy you are. Yeah. Like to me,

530
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 1: if I ever have kids, which I probably will, the

531
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 1: most important thing for me is probably seeing a smile

532
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:37,440
Speaker 1: on their face. Fact, yeah, that's all I wanted. That's

533
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: all I want from them. True. Yeah.

534
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:45,320
Speaker 6: And to be a pro tennis player, it wouldn't be

535
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,199
Speaker 6: a bad thing to get let me tell you. Let

536
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 6: me tell you right now, that wouldn't be a bad

537
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:49,920
Speaker 6: one to get into.

538
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:51,679
Speaker 1: They make some money stuff.

539
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 3: Those team sports made tennis, Golf day makes golf.

540
00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 2: I'm telling you.

541
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:02,320
Speaker 1: Your retirement plan. Yes, as your child becoming a professionals,

542
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 1: well they'll be coach manager. Have you watched a ship

543
00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 1: what's Serena Williams and coach Richard coach rich King Richard.

544
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:18,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and they great movie because it worked out.

545
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 2: If it didn't work out, they would have been fast.

546
00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,600
Speaker 1: Well here's the thing though, it was like they are

547
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:26,159
Speaker 1: both appreciative of it. Yeah, like if it wasn't, wouldn't

548
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 1: it worked? And look it worked out, but.

549
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 3: Like, well I made I made a video on TikTok

550
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 3: the other day, and how many people do you think

551
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:36,880
Speaker 3: thought that about their kids and it didn't work out?

552
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 3: And also side note, how I feel like I saw this. Yeah,

553
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 3: I was on TikTok, I made a TikTok about it.

554
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:44,080
Speaker 1: Keep going, I'm trying to remember you.

555
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 3: And then so looking at those like documentaries, they show

556
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 3: like highly highlights of Serena Williams and Venus whatever playing

557
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 3: tennis when they're like six in all, which is great

558
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 3: for the documentary, but how much footage direcons out there

559
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 3: of these like delusional parents thinking they got the next

560
00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 3: Serena Williams and it's just sitting like on this random

561
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 3: laund room that's what.

562
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 1: Yeah. And I remember watching that video and I was

563
00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 1: kind of like.

564
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:05,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, whar yeah, Like I bet you.

565
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 1: My mom has footage of me doing ship thinking last

566
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 1: he is gonna be the next. I go home if

567
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 1: I sorry. I go home to Canada every couple of years,

568
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 1: and every time she talks about like, yeah, if you

569
00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: stayed here, you would have gone you would have got

570
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: a university fucking like scholarship and ship like that. And

571
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,640
Speaker 1: I was like, mom, I wasn't that good. There was

572
00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 1: like seven people on my team far better than me.

573
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: Like I was like, fucking hell, I was also eleven.

574
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:35,239
Speaker 1: How can you tell if someone's good or not?

575
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:36,720
Speaker 2: That's what I mean.

576
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 3: I think it's just the delusion of being a parent,

577
00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 3: and we haven't experienced that yet.

578
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you just look at your kid through these

579
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 1: gold lenses.

580
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, literally take them off every once in a while,

581
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 3: and some parents look through money lenses.

582
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:49,640
Speaker 1: Green lenses.

583
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:58,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, okay, Jake.

584
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 3: Relatable topic that we often talk about is things that

585
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 3: you can't prepare for when growing up.

586
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 1: Oh okay.

587
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 3: I feel like that's a reoccurring theme in different ways

588
00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 3: throughout the podcast.

589
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely never thought of it like

590
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 1: worded like that.

591
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, And growing up such a weird concept because you're

592
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,240
Speaker 3: just like figuring it out day by day. No one

593
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 3: really has the answers in your brain for your individual life,

594
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 3: Like the day.

595
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 1: You realize that your parents don't know all the answers. Yeah,

596
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:26,720
Speaker 1: you're kind of like you are just living this life

597
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 1: for the first time as well. You are stupid.

598
00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 3: But there's one thing that I still really can't grasp,

599
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 3: but I really should be able to grasp, I think,

600
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 3: and it's the fact that let me play a little

601
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 3: game with and everyone listening right now can think along. Okay,

602
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 3: So when you were in primary school, think of your

603
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 3: best friend.

604
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 2: Okay, don't want to go I don't want his name

605
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 2: or anything.

606
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 3: Just think about him or think about them or her

607
00:30:58,080 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 3: and your relationship together.

608
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 2: All right.

609
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 3: Now, let's move to high school. Think about your best

610
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 3: friend relationship. Everything you knew about each other. Maybe you've

611
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 3: just finished school. Think about your best friend again. So

612
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 3: you knew everything about that person. You guys would talk

613
00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 3: every single day. Yeah, now they're strangers. Yeah, Like it

614
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:24,080
Speaker 3: makes so much sense that they are because you grow.

615
00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 3: But also like I used to know that person so well,

616
00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 3: Like I knew everything about them. We used to hang

617
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:31,480
Speaker 3: out every single day. I knew their phone number.

618
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:31,840
Speaker 2: Off by heart.

619
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: Yes, now I couldn't tell her the last time I've

620
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 1: talked to him. Fuck, man, I've never thought of it

621
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, yeah, I wonder what they're doing.

622
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 3: Make it think, But I was thinking about it, And

623
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 3: like it's funny because in high school, especially I was

624
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 3: definitely naive, and I was thinking, my mate's going to

625
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 3: be my mates for the rest of my life, and

626
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:01,480
Speaker 3: like it's probably good to have that delusion in your mind.

627
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 3: But thinking back at it now and also looking at

628
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 3: my parents and their friends definitely still have their friends.

629
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 3: But I'm thinking, like, especially now, if it like twenty

630
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:12,400
Speaker 3: two to twenty three, the trajectory of some of my friendships.

631
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 2: Are not what I expected.

632
00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm looking at them and I'm like, it's a

633
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 1: little bit sad or I mean, yeah, it is actually sad,

634
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 1: to be honest with you, but.

635
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:25,479
Speaker 3: That's just like life and accepting that it is the

636
00:32:25,480 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 3: way things are. But for me that's hard to accept.

637
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 1: Well, it sucks as well because I'm just trying to think, like,

638
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 1: so it's obvious, it's so common, so so common. But

639
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 1: I do think like the group that we had outside

640
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 1: of school after it was over, at the group we

641
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 1: got then, that was probably like the best one I'd

642
00:32:55,600 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 1: say I've been in. And I mean not that we're

643
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 1: not friends, but we all we don't see like I

644
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 1: don't even think like the group like we obviously don't

645
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 1: see them that much, but I'm pretty sure they don't

646
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 1: even see each other that much, and we've all just

647
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 1: sent me disbanded. I will say so primary school. I

648
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 1: was thinking of my best friend in Canada, and I

649
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 1: do know that the group, like so the group that

650
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 1: I was in, I guess when I was in Canada.

651
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 1: They're all still friends. Really, they're all they all still

652
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 1: live in the town they grew up in, so maybe

653
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:31,160
Speaker 1: some still there and they're all still friends and they

654
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:33,560
Speaker 1: all still hang out. They all like play fucking like

655
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,160
Speaker 1: sports together, like like beer League sports together. When I

656
00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 1: go back to Canada, they're all still friends. Like I

657
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: feel like an outcast. I'm so different to them because

658
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: of like the culture.

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Speaker 3: Shock, Hey, but I'm back. But I was also thinking, like,

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Speaker 3: so these people used to mean so much to us,

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Speaker 3: but also we don't know what they're doing right now,

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Speaker 3: so like a message really does go a long way sometimes,

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Speaker 3: like especially for friendships, because I know some friends who

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Speaker 3: weren't as lucky as us, who have like a big

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Speaker 3: group of friends you get to hang out all the time,

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Speaker 3: and they're a little bit isolated. So I was also thinking, like,

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Speaker 3: because they used to hold such a special place in

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Speaker 3: my heart, you don't necessarily have to hang out of them. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: But like just a message saying hey, how are you going?

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Speaker 3: Goes a long way the older you get. And I'm

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Speaker 3: thinking when I'm fifty or something, or some people are

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Speaker 3: fifty and they didn't get lucky and they're going through

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Speaker 3: a divorce, their kids hate them, shit like that.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I feel like a message like that, like that's obviously

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Speaker 3: the bad end of the specialt Like a message like

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Speaker 3: that could go such a long way.

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Speaker 1: And might save someone, you know what I'm thinking.

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Speaker 3: And we're saying some people like who we went to

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Speaker 3: school with the trajectory of their life, Like I'm not

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Speaker 3: being mean, doesn't.

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Speaker 2: Look that good?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe not, And like I'm not judging by any means,

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Speaker 3: but like a message goes a really long way sometimes

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Speaker 3: I think.

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Speaker 1: Fuck, I fool. I've never thought of it like that,

687
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Speaker 1: a like who are you best friends with in primary school?

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Speaker 1: Like I'm sure everyone still follows them on Instagram? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Like I'm trying to think of it, Like the guy,

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Speaker 1: the guy was like fucking best friends with from like

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Speaker 1: because I moved here in year six and so he

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Speaker 1: was like you're six.

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Speaker 2: He was like my first friend moved here from Canada.

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Speaker 1: From Canada to Australia and you're six. And so my

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Speaker 1: first friend he lived like three doors down, just just

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Speaker 1: go there every avoh, like like high school friends. Like

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Speaker 1: we weren't like and we weren't even like really in

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Speaker 1: the same group in high school, but it was still

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Speaker 1: like best mates. And yeah, like the thing that happened

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Speaker 1: with us was I've said it. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: I've told the story before, but we discovered like in

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Speaker 1: our young years, you know, like late year nine, early

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Speaker 1: year ten, like that summer we both discovered like smoke

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Speaker 1: and weed, and you know, I I did it. I

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Speaker 1: just didn't really like like I enjoyed it, like it's funny,

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Speaker 1: but I didn't get heavy into it. He got heavy

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Speaker 1: into it, and just we just stopped hanging out.

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Speaker 2: That's a great example of what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like, and I mean, I don't know what he's

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Speaker 1: doing now. I know he had a couple of rough years.

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure he's I think he's good. He's on

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Speaker 1: the end of it. Yeah, Like, I'm pretty sure's got

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Speaker 1: a good job. He's got like a missus. But how

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Speaker 1: all I have to do is fucking message him? And

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Speaker 1: I bet you you just be like, oh shit.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I mean. I reckon that would be

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Speaker 3: most of your friend's responses. Oh shit, Like my best

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Speaker 3: friend through like primary school, Like he even became like

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Speaker 3: a family great friend. We went to like Bali and

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Speaker 3: stuff together. Yeah, and we'll occasionally see each other, but

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Speaker 3: like maybe once a year. Yeah, like a message like,

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Speaker 3: oh hey, what have you been up to?

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Speaker 1: Fuck? Right? But you who got Yeah I don't think

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Speaker 1: what like if I got one?

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Speaker 3: Because they mean so much to you, or they did

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Speaker 3: mean so much to you, it's not weird to message

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Speaker 3: him either. And I think a message like that would

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Speaker 3: bring a smile to anyone's face, which is so important

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Speaker 3: and vauable the older we get in life, just because

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Speaker 3: of how hard life is.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes, yeah, fuck message your old friends, eh yeah unless

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Speaker 1: they fucking did something dirty.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but yeah, literally, you just grow apart. That's the

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Speaker 3: harsh reality of life. And that's one thing I was

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Speaker 3: thinking about the other day. It's just like hard to

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Speaker 3: accept that you do grow apart, just because you take

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Speaker 3: such different journeys in life, and that even it might be.

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Speaker 1: It might be interesting to see who they are now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, and you might rekindle some friendships, because

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Speaker 3: I don't know a period of time was like that

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Speaker 3: this and I'm sure a lot of people listening also,

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Speaker 3: their relationships chose. They chose their relationships over their friendship

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Speaker 3: and now they're over. So maybe the friendships could come back.

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Speaker 3: Yeah fuck maybe yeah, something like that. But one of

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Speaker 3: my deeper thoughts.

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Speaker 1: No I say, I I say, message your friends.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Fuck, let's end it.

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Speaker 2: Good takeaway.

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Speaker 1: Sorry I forgot to do I've got to do this.

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Speaker 1: Last episode, guys, last episode we forgot. It's how to

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Speaker 1: piss men off. The one hundred and nine things to

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Speaker 1: say to shadow the male ego we've done to shadow

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Speaker 1: shatterw some men's ego we've done too, and now we're on.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So.

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Speaker 1: You say this, you say to a man quote, oh

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Speaker 1: I saw that on Pinterest. And the explanation is, so

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Speaker 1: you say this when a man talks about anything he's

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00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 1: interested in or shows or shows you one of his tattoos.

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00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 1: This is a great way to do two things. Number one,

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Speaker 1: drive a stake into the heart of his ambitious of

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Speaker 1: his ambitions and originality. Number two, get the words of

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Speaker 1: the iconic stand up come Dion Ali Wong ringing in

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Speaker 1: his head. If a man has a pinterest, he's probably

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Speaker 1: interested in men.

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Speaker 3: Fucking hell, I was even gonna say, like it implies

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Speaker 3: that he's basic.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that's a good one. Yeah, that whoa. I like

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Speaker 1: that one.

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Speaker 2: I'm hoping that's a sign of things to come.

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Speaker 1: That's a good one. One hundred and nine ways how

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Speaker 1: to piss men off? Be no men's piece.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we love all right, you know what to do?

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Speaker 2: Five stars patreons. There Facebook group.

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Speaker 1: If you don't know what it's called, I mean there's

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Speaker 1: a link in description.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, be somewhere, Be.

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Speaker 1: Somewhere, and it's called if you're just going to go

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Speaker 1: on Facebook and look up, it was called relatables baddies,

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Speaker 1: you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And like honestly, there's a lot of things to

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Speaker 3: do with the relatables, but right now, if you like

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Speaker 3: that episode.

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Speaker 1: Maybe just yell relatables and message your friend. Yeah,