1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:25,001 Speaker 1: Apodjay Production. Welcome back to another episode about My Bad 2 00:00:25,081 --> 00:00:29,321 Speaker 1: Mum podcast. We're on Instagram too, at am I a 3 00:00:29,321 --> 00:00:32,721 Speaker 1: bad mum. We tried to do Facebook again. We don't 4 00:00:32,721 --> 00:00:35,241 Speaker 1: know the logins. It's getting very confusing. 5 00:00:35,481 --> 00:00:37,361 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know why they make it so hard. 6 00:00:37,601 --> 00:00:39,881 Speaker 2: I mean, they're very quick to take it off you. 7 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,681 Speaker 1: Yeah, remember I lost my I remember, but my own 8 00:00:44,161 --> 00:00:45,681 Speaker 1: so long, for so long. 9 00:00:45,721 --> 00:00:47,801 Speaker 2: I'm got banned for so long for something you didn't 10 00:00:47,801 --> 00:00:48,200 Speaker 2: even do. 11 00:00:48,361 --> 00:00:51,521 Speaker 1: No, my account was hacked and then apparently I was 12 00:00:51,641 --> 00:00:54,801 Speaker 1: doing they were doing something that breached guidelines. I still 13 00:00:54,801 --> 00:00:57,600 Speaker 1: don't go and then they shut it down. And then 14 00:00:57,641 --> 00:00:59,561 Speaker 1: when I tried to get it back, you literally can't 15 00:00:59,601 --> 00:01:01,721 Speaker 1: contact anyone, like they're not interested. 16 00:01:01,961 --> 00:01:05,321 Speaker 2: No, Remember your account got hacked after you brought something 17 00:01:05,321 --> 00:01:09,241 Speaker 2: on temu. Yeah, so just saying and then the other 18 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:12,881 Speaker 2: part to it, if you like, think about the whole 19 00:01:13,161 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 2: entire world of who's got Facebook, you're just one of 20 00:01:17,321 --> 00:01:21,401 Speaker 2: the Imagine how many people sayd the same email, Hi, 21 00:01:21,681 --> 00:01:26,401 Speaker 2: my account's been deactivated. I don't care. Not even AI 22 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 2: could do that and support a response to that. 23 00:01:29,601 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: And then for a while, like I was determined not 24 00:01:32,681 --> 00:01:34,481 Speaker 1: to have a Facebook, I was like, fine, if you're 25 00:01:34,481 --> 00:01:37,481 Speaker 1: gonna make it this hard, fuck you zucker Bad. I'm 26 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:40,801 Speaker 1: not doing Facebook anymore. No, And then I ended up 27 00:01:40,801 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 1: getting it back because you just have to because otherwise 28 00:01:43,241 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 1: you miss out and shit. 29 00:01:44,481 --> 00:01:48,081 Speaker 2: And when anyone's birthday, I was like, I still don't 30 00:01:48,161 --> 00:01:51,481 Speaker 2: use it. I'm horrible with Facebook, but I do use 31 00:01:51,801 --> 00:01:54,641 Speaker 2: obviously inso a fair hit, which is where most of 32 00:01:54,681 --> 00:01:58,761 Speaker 2: our lovely community comes from. I think with Instagram we 33 00:01:58,881 --> 00:02:00,521 Speaker 2: chat a lot. Did you see the post that I 34 00:02:00,561 --> 00:02:04,441 Speaker 2: actually put up? Yeah, very funny. Everyone old, even my 35 00:02:04,521 --> 00:02:06,441 Speaker 2: mum gave me the old thumbs up and said that 36 00:02:06,481 --> 00:02:07,201 Speaker 2: was pretty funny. 37 00:02:07,401 --> 00:02:12,121 Speaker 1: Mother noun coordinator of this shit show solves problems made 38 00:02:12,161 --> 00:02:16,361 Speaker 1: by other funckwits in the memily screams constantly, for fuck's sake, 39 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:21,161 Speaker 1: what now? Fueled by coffee and or alcohol. See also 40 00:02:21,601 --> 00:02:22,921 Speaker 1: mum fucking legend. 41 00:02:24,041 --> 00:02:26,201 Speaker 2: I think it was the last bit. I was like, Oh, yeah, 42 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:28,361 Speaker 2: I am a legend. Yeah, I'm a legend in my 43 00:02:28,441 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 2: own right, and I'm a legend in my own mind. 44 00:02:31,201 --> 00:02:33,641 Speaker 2: And I don't really care if people think that I'm not, 45 00:02:33,841 --> 00:02:45,001 Speaker 2: because fuck them. 46 00:02:45,081 --> 00:02:49,681 Speaker 1: Am I a bad mum for focusing on the negatives? 47 00:02:50,240 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: I realized this morning that I talk about my kids 48 00:02:57,001 --> 00:02:59,801 Speaker 1: pretty badly sometimes, and when I say that, it's because 49 00:03:00,121 --> 00:03:03,881 Speaker 1: kids of all ages are always doing something that does 50 00:03:03,881 --> 00:03:07,361 Speaker 1: your head in. Yeah, And I feel like we focus 51 00:03:07,441 --> 00:03:11,401 Speaker 1: on the bad things often and maybe don't think about 52 00:03:11,441 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: the good things as much. This comes off the conversation 53 00:03:15,041 --> 00:03:17,481 Speaker 1: I have with my husband where I was like, we're 54 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:22,121 Speaker 1: teaching them nothing. We need to get stricter, And I 55 00:03:22,161 --> 00:03:25,361 Speaker 1: went through all of these things, and it's like, you know, 56 00:03:25,641 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: we focus on what aren't they doing? Oh, don't put 57 00:03:28,721 --> 00:03:31,321 Speaker 1: their fucking clothes away? That I washed my fold and 58 00:03:31,361 --> 00:03:34,201 Speaker 1: I put out, Oh, they don't do that. We focus 59 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:37,601 Speaker 1: on what they can't do. Oh, they should really be 60 00:03:37,681 --> 00:03:39,641 Speaker 1: able to do this at this stage. And why can't 61 00:03:39,641 --> 00:03:42,321 Speaker 1: they be a bit more independent? Yea, why aren't they 62 00:03:42,401 --> 00:03:47,401 Speaker 1: doing this? We focus on what subjects they're not working at. Oh, maths, 63 00:03:47,401 --> 00:03:50,281 Speaker 1: they're not putting in the work. She left her homework 64 00:03:50,441 --> 00:03:54,281 Speaker 1: till like ten o'clock last night. What life skills they 65 00:03:54,321 --> 00:03:57,601 Speaker 1: haven't learned? How lazy they are. I literally had a 66 00:03:57,601 --> 00:04:02,001 Speaker 1: conversation with Holly this morning where she had bought tuck 67 00:04:02,041 --> 00:04:06,041 Speaker 1: shop yesterday after school, and then when I got into 68 00:04:06,081 --> 00:04:09,241 Speaker 1: the nitty gritty of what she'd bought and why she 69 00:04:09,521 --> 00:04:13,241 Speaker 1: was hungry. Are you not packing enough food for your lunchbox? Yeah? 70 00:04:13,361 --> 00:04:16,521 Speaker 1: And then I work out that she can't be bothered 71 00:04:16,521 --> 00:04:19,841 Speaker 1: to make the raps. I buy wraps, yea, cheese and whatever. 72 00:04:20,161 --> 00:04:22,161 Speaker 2: Yeah, all the things to make it. She can't be. 73 00:04:22,161 --> 00:04:24,361 Speaker 1: Bothered to make it. So the things that go in 74 00:04:24,361 --> 00:04:26,561 Speaker 1: the lunch box are the packets that they just throw 75 00:04:26,641 --> 00:04:29,921 Speaker 1: in quickly. I chuck that in and there's my lunchbox. 76 00:04:30,001 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. 77 00:04:30,561 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, I buy the food. We've got plenty of 78 00:04:33,521 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: food at home. You're just lazy. You just can't be 79 00:04:36,361 --> 00:04:39,281 Speaker 1: bothered to make it. So then I'm not paying anyway. 80 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: I'm going back to a negative like it's so easy 81 00:04:41,481 --> 00:04:47,281 Speaker 1: to do so focusing on things like that. Whereas this 82 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 1: conversation I had with Jay, he then turned it around 83 00:04:51,681 --> 00:04:55,241 Speaker 1: and when but actually, yeah, I know it's frustrating they 84 00:04:55,281 --> 00:04:58,161 Speaker 1: don't do this or they're not doing that. But they're 85 00:04:58,201 --> 00:05:02,201 Speaker 1: really lovely girls and everyone talks about how polite they are. 86 00:05:02,561 --> 00:05:06,081 Speaker 1: So we've done some things right. It like really stopped 87 00:05:06,121 --> 00:05:09,161 Speaker 1: me in my tracks because I was like, oh, that's right, 88 00:05:09,641 --> 00:05:11,601 Speaker 1: we have done a lot right, and you don't give 89 00:05:11,681 --> 00:05:15,481 Speaker 1: yourself that credit. You're not kind. We're not kind to ourselves. No, 90 00:05:15,841 --> 00:05:18,121 Speaker 1: And especially in those situations, we go, oh, I've done 91 00:05:18,161 --> 00:05:20,320 Speaker 1: this wrong, and I should have done this, and should 92 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:22,281 Speaker 1: I have done that? When they were babies, and had 93 00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:24,321 Speaker 1: a moment of driving into work this morning where I 94 00:05:24,361 --> 00:05:27,721 Speaker 1: was like, actually, I've done sixteen years of learning how 95 00:05:27,721 --> 00:05:30,241 Speaker 1: to be a parent, well I didn't know how to 96 00:05:30,281 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: do it. Would I have done things differently? Absolutely a 97 00:05:33,681 --> 00:05:37,041 Speaker 1: whole load of things. But if you take parenting out 98 00:05:37,041 --> 00:05:40,161 Speaker 1: of it, you would you as a person have done 99 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:44,081 Speaker 1: things differently in the last sixteen years. Yeah, it would 100 00:05:44,081 --> 00:05:45,241 Speaker 1: have made different decisions. 101 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:46,001 Speaker 2: Yeah. 102 00:05:46,041 --> 00:05:49,561 Speaker 1: So yeah, I was very much like, how about instead 103 00:05:49,601 --> 00:05:52,241 Speaker 1: of going you're not trying at math and you're up 104 00:05:52,241 --> 00:05:54,441 Speaker 1: at ten o'clock last night doing your assignment and you 105 00:05:54,481 --> 00:05:58,041 Speaker 1: should have done it earlier. How about going, Oh but 106 00:05:58,081 --> 00:06:00,241 Speaker 1: you got an Aian drama that was so good? Yeah, 107 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:02,241 Speaker 1: and I did do that, Like in the moment, I 108 00:06:02,361 --> 00:06:06,081 Speaker 1: just celebrate those little wins. Ye, But it's so easy 109 00:06:06,161 --> 00:06:09,281 Speaker 1: to jump to my kids are a nightmare and everything 110 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:10,641 Speaker 1: they're doing is wrong. Yeah. 111 00:06:10,721 --> 00:06:14,201 Speaker 2: I know. I think naturally, I think people's brains as 112 00:06:14,201 --> 00:06:16,401 Speaker 2: a human being. I think some people are more wired 113 00:06:16,641 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 2: to go into the negative to see that side of 114 00:06:21,001 --> 00:06:25,481 Speaker 2: it rather than the positive. Yeah, So naturally, as a response, 115 00:06:26,121 --> 00:06:30,041 Speaker 2: your brain goes into negative. It's almost like a learning 116 00:06:30,081 --> 00:06:33,281 Speaker 2: to reprogram and sort of go. You'll never skip out 117 00:06:33,281 --> 00:06:35,641 Speaker 2: on the negative, but it's like the switch of the negative, 118 00:06:35,721 --> 00:06:37,881 Speaker 2: like it's the it's sort of like you see the 119 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:40,121 Speaker 2: negative thought coming and then you flick the switch and 120 00:06:40,161 --> 00:06:41,121 Speaker 2: it goes to a positive. 121 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:42,001 Speaker 1: Yeah. 122 00:06:42,041 --> 00:06:44,601 Speaker 2: And I think we'd very rarely do that, especially when 123 00:06:44,601 --> 00:06:48,881 Speaker 2: it comes to parenting, because we are so hyper critical 124 00:06:49,001 --> 00:06:53,761 Speaker 2: of ourselves, of our children, of how they're showing up, 125 00:06:54,121 --> 00:06:56,481 Speaker 2: what we're doing, what we need to be doing. Should 126 00:06:56,481 --> 00:06:59,921 Speaker 2: we be doing more less? You know, Like my constant 127 00:07:00,001 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 2: that I get from my mother is you need to 128 00:07:03,401 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 2: do less. You guys are too busy. You need to 129 00:07:05,961 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 2: do less. And I was like, you know, sometimes I 130 00:07:08,121 --> 00:07:10,201 Speaker 2: sort of look at her and go, I love your advice, 131 00:07:10,361 --> 00:07:13,281 Speaker 2: thank you, But the reality of that right now is 132 00:07:13,401 --> 00:07:17,321 Speaker 2: it's just untrue. I appreciate that, but at the same time, 133 00:07:17,601 --> 00:07:19,321 Speaker 2: I walk away, and then in my head, I'm like, 134 00:07:19,361 --> 00:07:21,401 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I'm burning them out. I'm letting them 135 00:07:21,401 --> 00:07:23,921 Speaker 2: do too much. You know, you start to then fester 136 00:07:24,041 --> 00:07:27,521 Speaker 2: on your own thing based off somebody else's, you know, 137 00:07:27,641 --> 00:07:29,841 Speaker 2: ideals of what they think you should be doing. Does 138 00:07:29,881 --> 00:07:31,721 Speaker 2: that make sense? I don't know. I just think the 139 00:07:31,801 --> 00:07:33,681 Speaker 2: negative is so easy to go into. I think the 140 00:07:33,761 --> 00:07:38,481 Speaker 2: positive if we learn to, you absolutely can go in 141 00:07:38,881 --> 00:07:41,881 Speaker 2: and flick the spitch every time to a positive. That's 142 00:07:41,921 --> 00:07:46,201 Speaker 2: from parenting perspective, that's from your own perspectives, like on 143 00:07:46,241 --> 00:07:48,041 Speaker 2: yourself and your own but. 144 00:07:48,321 --> 00:07:50,961 Speaker 1: Something difficult, it is happening in your life, or you've 145 00:07:51,001 --> 00:07:55,161 Speaker 1: got some sort of challenge work, relationship, money, whatever it 146 00:07:55,241 --> 00:07:59,481 Speaker 1: might be. Yeah, and it's so easy to just focus on. 147 00:07:59,921 --> 00:08:01,921 Speaker 1: I don't know about you. I'm a worrier, Like I 148 00:08:01,961 --> 00:08:03,761 Speaker 1: wake up in the morning and go, oh, what do 149 00:08:03,801 --> 00:08:07,521 Speaker 1: I need to worry about? And then you think about 150 00:08:08,721 --> 00:08:12,761 Speaker 1: your particular challenge at that time. But then if you 151 00:08:12,881 --> 00:08:15,801 Speaker 1: then allow yourself to go into gratitude, and it's not 152 00:08:16,081 --> 00:08:20,081 Speaker 1: like brushing over it and you know, not thinking that 153 00:08:20,241 --> 00:08:23,921 Speaker 1: is a challenge, but allowing yourself to then be grateful 154 00:08:24,041 --> 00:08:28,281 Speaker 1: about oh yeah, this is happening right now. However, look 155 00:08:28,281 --> 00:08:31,041 Speaker 1: at what I do have, and it's that whole I 156 00:08:31,081 --> 00:08:35,160 Speaker 1: love when people talk about looking at how you were 157 00:08:35,281 --> 00:08:39,161 Speaker 1: ten years ago and what you have now, not always, 158 00:08:39,281 --> 00:08:42,641 Speaker 1: but most probably something ten years ago you would have gone, 159 00:08:42,721 --> 00:08:45,601 Speaker 1: oh wow, I'd love to have that. You forget to 160 00:08:45,801 --> 00:08:46,481 Speaker 1: appreciate that. 161 00:08:46,641 --> 00:08:49,441 Speaker 2: I appreciate it, Yeah, of it. I think sometimes the 162 00:08:49,521 --> 00:08:53,881 Speaker 2: gratitude piece is really hard to do for some people. 163 00:08:54,161 --> 00:08:58,161 Speaker 2: Some people naturally don't go into gratitude or for me, 164 00:08:58,401 --> 00:09:00,081 Speaker 2: like I look at it and go death for me 165 00:09:00,321 --> 00:09:03,321 Speaker 2: and our family has been really prominent over the last 166 00:09:03,321 --> 00:09:05,841 Speaker 2: couple of years, and for me that are served in 167 00:09:05,881 --> 00:09:10,401 Speaker 2: a way of understanding and being appreciative and grateful of 168 00:09:10,481 --> 00:09:13,481 Speaker 2: life and then not knowing how long you got, you know, 169 00:09:13,561 --> 00:09:15,841 Speaker 2: And I know that that's not a mindset that everyone 170 00:09:15,841 --> 00:09:19,481 Speaker 2: should be in, but it has rewired the way that 171 00:09:19,561 --> 00:09:22,201 Speaker 2: I sometimes look in my bad behavior as a parent, 172 00:09:22,961 --> 00:09:24,321 Speaker 2: I do look at it and go, well, I haven't 173 00:09:24,321 --> 00:09:27,521 Speaker 2: got long left of this. That doesn't mean I'm dying tomorrow. 174 00:09:27,601 --> 00:09:30,641 Speaker 2: That just means my kids are growing up. We're hitting 175 00:09:30,681 --> 00:09:33,281 Speaker 2: stages and ages at the rate of no tomorrow, Like 176 00:09:33,321 --> 00:09:36,441 Speaker 2: it really does speed through. And then I get that, 177 00:09:36,681 --> 00:09:39,721 Speaker 2: oh gosh, Like sometimes I can go into worry or 178 00:09:39,761 --> 00:09:42,481 Speaker 2: panic or like anything like that, but in the sense 179 00:09:42,521 --> 00:09:45,521 Speaker 2: of that reality of what life is and what it 180 00:09:45,561 --> 00:09:47,681 Speaker 2: holds for us. We don't know what it holds for us, 181 00:09:47,761 --> 00:09:50,041 Speaker 2: but it's being appreciative of the moment in which you're in. 182 00:09:50,481 --> 00:09:53,761 Speaker 2: So it really flipped something for me of going I've 183 00:09:53,801 --> 00:09:55,921 Speaker 2: really got long for this. So every time the kids 184 00:09:56,001 --> 00:09:58,081 Speaker 2: want to come up, like, even as busy as I 185 00:09:58,121 --> 00:10:00,441 Speaker 2: am and have been, I would normally if they want 186 00:10:00,441 --> 00:10:03,081 Speaker 2: to hard, I'm like, oh, like, I'm right in the middle. 187 00:10:03,361 --> 00:10:05,761 Speaker 2: I will literally stop now and just give them a hug. 188 00:10:05,961 --> 00:10:08,361 Speaker 2: Who says I don't get another hug tomorrow. I know 189 00:10:08,441 --> 00:10:12,201 Speaker 2: that it sounds like extreme. It has and had a 190 00:10:12,241 --> 00:10:15,681 Speaker 2: really big impact on my parenting those moments in life 191 00:10:15,761 --> 00:10:18,201 Speaker 2: which we will all come up against. But it is 192 00:10:18,241 --> 00:10:20,401 Speaker 2: a really good way of spinning, going back to what 193 00:10:20,441 --> 00:10:23,561 Speaker 2: you're sort of saying in that spinning the negative and 194 00:10:23,641 --> 00:10:26,081 Speaker 2: to a positive, whether it be about parenting, whether it 195 00:10:26,081 --> 00:10:29,241 Speaker 2: be about yourself, whether it be about your you know, 196 00:10:29,281 --> 00:10:32,321 Speaker 2: your own goals, your own habits, your own self image. 197 00:10:32,441 --> 00:10:37,041 Speaker 2: As females, we continually go down that self image path, right, Yeah, 198 00:10:37,241 --> 00:10:39,441 Speaker 2: imagine if you had the ability to flick the switch 199 00:10:39,441 --> 00:10:43,481 Speaker 2: from negative to positive. Someone was telling me about the 200 00:10:43,521 --> 00:10:46,641 Speaker 2: appreciation of yourself from a self image perspective and how 201 00:10:46,681 --> 00:10:48,241 Speaker 2: you've got to look in that mirror and you've got 202 00:10:48,241 --> 00:10:51,041 Speaker 2: to empower yourself and be really appreciative and grateful for 203 00:10:51,161 --> 00:10:54,481 Speaker 2: what you do have and what your body has done. Yeah, 204 00:10:54,521 --> 00:10:58,081 Speaker 2: and going through like pregnancy and now you're like sixteen 205 00:10:58,161 --> 00:11:00,481 Speaker 2: years on and now there. Now we're in another stage 206 00:11:00,481 --> 00:11:03,521 Speaker 2: and you're like perimenopause, menopause, Like there's always got to 207 00:11:03,521 --> 00:11:06,441 Speaker 2: be a stage, even for us stage age. But at 208 00:11:06,441 --> 00:11:08,601 Speaker 2: the same time, like going into that, I know that 209 00:11:08,601 --> 00:11:10,401 Speaker 2: that's want to be my biggest hurdle. 210 00:11:10,801 --> 00:11:12,841 Speaker 1: I listened to something the other day and this guy 211 00:11:13,041 --> 00:11:16,801 Speaker 1: was talking about females and image and stuff. Yeah, the 212 00:11:16,881 --> 00:11:19,041 Speaker 1: amount of times you look in the mirror and go, 213 00:11:19,281 --> 00:11:20,801 Speaker 1: oh god, wish I looked like I. 214 00:11:20,721 --> 00:11:23,681 Speaker 2: Was twenty again, right, Yeah, but then there's twenty. 215 00:11:23,961 --> 00:11:26,161 Speaker 1: I was listening to what he was saying, and he 216 00:11:26,321 --> 00:11:29,561 Speaker 1: was like, but do you actually want to be twenty again? 217 00:11:29,881 --> 00:11:33,721 Speaker 1: I was like, no, I absolutely don't want to be younger. 218 00:11:34,081 --> 00:11:36,761 Speaker 1: I want to look younger, don't get it wrong. Yeah, 219 00:11:36,841 --> 00:11:41,921 Speaker 1: I don't want to be younger because I appreciate the 220 00:11:42,041 --> 00:11:44,521 Speaker 1: lessons that I've learned over the years. 221 00:11:44,241 --> 00:11:44,921 Speaker 2: To get you to it. 222 00:11:45,041 --> 00:11:47,801 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I am grateful for how much I've grown. 223 00:11:47,881 --> 00:11:49,721 Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. Of course I want to look 224 00:11:49,801 --> 00:11:54,001 Speaker 2: younger like you. I still can and have moments, and 225 00:11:54,041 --> 00:11:56,601 Speaker 2: I think it's a personality thing, right, and you too, 226 00:11:56,641 --> 00:11:59,321 Speaker 2: because we've laughed about this many times. But I can 227 00:11:59,361 --> 00:12:01,441 Speaker 2: still have moments where I'll flick back to being like 228 00:12:01,521 --> 00:12:04,601 Speaker 2: that twenty five thirty year old version of myself. Absolutely, 229 00:12:05,281 --> 00:12:08,041 Speaker 2: you just don't look the same anymore. And so you 230 00:12:08,081 --> 00:12:12,161 Speaker 2: have like that moment where you go, oh, what age 231 00:12:12,201 --> 00:12:14,001 Speaker 2: do I have to pull up going to R and 232 00:12:14,041 --> 00:12:14,681 Speaker 2: B Fridays? 233 00:12:15,361 --> 00:12:15,681 Speaker 1: Right? 234 00:12:16,481 --> 00:12:20,081 Speaker 2: If Mariah's still on stage and she's her age, I 235 00:12:20,081 --> 00:12:23,041 Speaker 2: don't know how old Maros. I genuinely from my side 236 00:12:23,041 --> 00:12:24,841 Speaker 2: of things, was like, at what age, Rachel, are you 237 00:12:24,841 --> 00:12:27,161 Speaker 2: going to pull up going to these things? No? You never? 238 00:12:28,001 --> 00:12:29,081 Speaker 1: Never? Never? 239 00:12:29,241 --> 00:12:32,001 Speaker 2: You got If Mariah is still on stage doing it, 240 00:12:32,041 --> 00:12:36,561 Speaker 2: why can't I? Exactly? If Pitbull's up there, why can't 241 00:12:36,601 --> 00:12:39,161 Speaker 2: I be here? My brother gave me so much grief 242 00:12:39,201 --> 00:12:42,321 Speaker 2: about it last weekend. Would the fuck you're forty way going? 243 00:12:42,321 --> 00:12:45,321 Speaker 2: And this shit? Still this is for teenagers? I was like, 244 00:12:45,361 --> 00:12:48,681 Speaker 2: it's not for teenagers. It's an over eighteen things. Don't 245 00:12:48,721 --> 00:12:51,121 Speaker 2: even know who Mariah Carey is even, not even appreciative 246 00:12:51,201 --> 00:12:53,641 Speaker 2: and if she bangs out all I Want for Christmas, 247 00:12:53,761 --> 00:12:55,681 Speaker 2: that is going to be everything for me. 248 00:13:01,001 --> 00:13:05,521 Speaker 1: There's Mom. Look at her dancing drunk to a Christmas 249 00:13:05,521 --> 00:13:11,361 Speaker 1: song by Mariah Carey thinking she's twenty again. Woo