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Speaker 1: You're listening to the FITZI and whipp A podcast.

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Speaker 2: What about this one twenty four to ten? Is it

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Speaker 2: wrong to give the in laws a set of keys

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Speaker 2: to your house?

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Speaker 1: Oh? It's great, top huge, cool. This wouldn't be your decision,

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Speaker 1: would it be your partners? Well that's the start.

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Speaker 2: That's where the first blow up happens, because in an

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Speaker 2: argument that took place, she said to him, how dare

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Speaker 2: you give your mum and dad a set of keys

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Speaker 2: without consulting me on the issue, because from there, they're

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Speaker 2: basically turning up at any time. So she got home

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Speaker 2: the other day, mom was in there. Mom had noticed

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Speaker 2: that there was some mail hanging out of the mailbox

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Speaker 2: and thought I'd better bring that inside. I was just

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Speaker 2: walking past. So she comes home with the Mum's in

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Speaker 2: the kitchen just putting the mail on the bench, So

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Speaker 2: that's kind of innocent. Then a week later comes home

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Speaker 2: and thinks, oh, there's a couple of drink glasses out.

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Speaker 2: I think someone might be here. Looks in the backyard.

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Speaker 2: Mum's sunbaking.

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Speaker 1: Oh how do I say to him?

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Speaker 2: Stop your mum and dad from coming over uninvited?

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Speaker 3: What a horrible feeling, I know, you know when you

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Speaker 3: get home from work and it's the best feeling knowing

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Speaker 3: that there's no one there. You can just sit on

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Speaker 3: your own couch and do your own thing.

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Speaker 4: Feel like Gary might have sent this to you.

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Speaker 5: Did he he sums up my life?

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Speaker 2: Did they turn up the whole time?

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Speaker 4: So my parents, all of my family members had keys

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Speaker 4: to our last place. Now we're in a rental suit

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Speaker 4: and brother. But when we were living near Mum and Dad,

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Speaker 4: Carrie would get up in the morning and come out

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Speaker 4: into the kitchen and I was obviously at work. Sometimes

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Speaker 4: Mum was there making.

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Speaker 5: The kids lunches wild all days and garage the same

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Speaker 5: morning and then just go straight back and have his

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Speaker 5: forty minute shower and every so often, mostly on the weekends,

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Speaker 5: but you just see a head in the garden pop

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Speaker 5: up and it was Dad.

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Speaker 4: God, Dad was just out there doing gardening. We had

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Speaker 4: no idea he was like he was anywhere.

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Speaker 2: Nearby, not even a heads up.

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Speaker 1: But Dave's pruning this morning.

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Speaker 4: No, nothing, he was just doing his business. And that's fine.

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Speaker 4: But in a previous relationship, I remember coming home and

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Speaker 4: not being able to find the teetoels one day in

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Speaker 4: the kitchen and calling my ex and saying where have

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Speaker 4: all the tea tawls gone? Like this is so bizarre,

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Speaker 4: and it's like, oh, mom came over and rearranged the kitchen.

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Speaker 4: She'd let herself in.

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Speaker 2: The glad Rap's not there anymore. That would be so frustrating.

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Speaker 2: And I told you we all love we all love

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Speaker 2: our in laws. But I told you about my situation

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Speaker 2: where I have the daytime hondays and the nighttime undays

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Speaker 2: that I sleep in the old nighttime ones.

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Speaker 1: Then which they run around the house.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to get away. Lisa's mum came and did

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Speaker 2: the washing and saw the old undies threw them out.

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Speaker 2: Was oh my god, how did you feel you had

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Speaker 2: permission to decide whether my undies were finished?

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Speaker 4: On public service?

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Speaker 2: You do nor ever judge my under dirps. You don't

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Speaker 2: do that. My beautiful nighttime undis that warned them to

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Speaker 2: appoint it. It takes a long time to get an

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Speaker 2: under wander into that. They think that they're doing you

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Speaker 2: a favor. It's not at all, Oh, but they are.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean how helpful?

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Speaker 4: Like someone does your garding.

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Speaker 3: A really disappoints me though, And I'm going through this

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Speaker 3: now with my kids, is you realize what you did

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Speaker 3: in your life? Okay, so you can't be hypocritical with

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Speaker 3: the kids, sometimes telling them off by doing so. But

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Speaker 3: your in laws know that when you first taste independence

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Speaker 3: and you go out in your own and you find

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Speaker 3: love and you get your own house, how good.

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Speaker 1: It is to have privacy. So don't abuse that privacy.

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Speaker 1: I love it's corrected.

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Speaker 4: I love everyone having a key.

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Speaker 1: No, what a think of it?

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Speaker 5: He's fine with it.

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Speaker 2: Why is he showering for forty minutes?

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Speaker 1: Katie?

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Speaker 2: And manly, what did your mother in law do?

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Speaker 6: So?

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Speaker 7: I married a lovely Maltese man. So along with that

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Speaker 7: comes to typical traditions where the mother, you know, dog's

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Speaker 7: on her son even after they get married. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 7: not going to iron details. I'm not going to iron sauce.

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Speaker 7: I'm not going to iron. And so of course I

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Speaker 7: would walk in after a hard day at work and

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Speaker 7: find my mother and made to talk into the house

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Speaker 7: and would iron the socks and unders. And because she

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Speaker 7: knew I wasn't going to do it, let her do.

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Speaker 4: It, Catie, she wants to.

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Speaker 2: It's still a kick in the pants to Cadie.

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Speaker 7: No, it's notice I had boundaries and rules and she

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Speaker 7: just you know, just walks all over them.

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Speaker 1: So, yes, half.

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Speaker 7: Away six years ago. So ever since then, we are

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Speaker 7: not ironing teatails. But hearing this, I just had a

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Speaker 7: food chuckle about that.

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Speaker 2: And you don't iron undies either.

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Speaker 1: There's a level, there's a level.

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Speaker 3: Of control and power that they think they have over

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Speaker 3: you as well.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but you think about think about Beja as a mum.

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Speaker 4: I think about myself. You do anything to help your kids,

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Speaker 4: it really is, you just want to help. And yep,

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Speaker 4: do you know what mother in law thought, Katie is

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Speaker 4: too busy, she works.

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Speaker 1: I will do it, but usually it's set up. I

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Speaker 1: can understand, well I'm going to work this time. Mom,

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Speaker 1: can you come and have a look around the kids.

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Speaker 1: You have it as set up, you can, you can

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Speaker 1: organize and if.

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Speaker 2: You if you want to iron the andies and the tetawels,

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Speaker 2: you know what, I'll drop them at your place.

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Speaker 4: No letter, if that what gets her going to it.

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Speaker 1: They were wearing the Rondies at the time. That's what

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Speaker 1: made it really awkward. No, what have we got?

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Speaker 2: Bernie?

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Speaker 6: Hello, I had my sister in law who did not

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Speaker 6: have a key to the house, but decided to use

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Speaker 6: our backyard and garage and garages are dumping ground when

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Speaker 6: they were moving out of the family home and without

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Speaker 6: permissing storage. I just drove up from home from work

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Speaker 6: one day into the back of the driveway to find

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Speaker 6: a random items covering my backyard.

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Speaker 1: Your shared is storage or your yard of storage? Bernie,

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Speaker 1: well it was.

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Speaker 6: The yard because she couldn't get into the shed. And

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Speaker 6: called my husband and asked if he knew what was

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Speaker 6: going on, what this was, and he had no idea.

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Speaker 6: He called his sister and she said, oh, yeah, we're

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Speaker 6: moving things out and I don't want to pay for storage,

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Speaker 6: and you have all this space, so we thought we'd

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Speaker 6: just bring it to you. Oh, you can just store it.

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Speaker 2: I would have sold it all on and Bernie, how

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Speaker 2: long did it last? They would have said, it's only

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Speaker 2: going to be there a week and then a year later.

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Speaker 6: She thought it did it lasted a while, but it

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Speaker 6: ended up just you know, we had statues and concrete

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Speaker 6: columns where the barrels of garage.

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Speaker 1: I would have said them, and.

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Speaker 6: A lot of it ended up just you just broke

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Speaker 6: a lot of it down.

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Speaker 1: Have had a garage sale. Yeah, if you want.

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Speaker 3: That cutler, he said, I'll throw in the mother in law.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna have as.

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Speaker 2: Well, statue of the cutler and the mother in law.

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Speaker 2: They're all in the backyard going for a hot price

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Speaker 2: of five dollars package deal.

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Speaker 1: You see. If you want that abdoor as well, I'll

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Speaker 1: throw that in as well. You can have the father law.

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Speaker 1: If you're on, Thanks Bernie. You're listening to the Fitz

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Speaker 1: and Whippo podcast.