WEBVTT - The Weird Ritual That Involves a Loved One's Ashes!

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<v Speaker 1>This is the Fitzy, Whipper and Kate podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to talk about actresses, guys, and the weird

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<v Speaker 2>things that actresses do.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you're the one that can speak on this topic.

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<v Speaker 3>Fitzy and I, we've been terrible actresses over the years,

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<v Speaker 3>but you've had some success.

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<v Speaker 2>Quite dramatic, though, I would have said.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep. Who's the best actress? Sorry?

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<v Speaker 3>Who do you reckon the best actress getting around at

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<v Speaker 3>the moment is? I don't like using the word actress.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you mean Hollywood actresses?

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<v Speaker 3>Australian.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah. I would say our two best are probably

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<v Speaker 1>close to the two best actresses in the world in

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<v Speaker 1>Blanchett and Kidman.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Kate, what's your thoughts? Sorry, I just jumped in there.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's okay. I'm happy to throw it over to

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<v Speaker 2>the room. I have had a mental blank.

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<v Speaker 3>Rebecca Gibney.

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<v Speaker 2>But the beautiful, the actress who is in My Brilliant Career,

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<v Speaker 2>which has just started.

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<v Speaker 3>Margot Robbie.

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<v Speaker 2>Who was actually on Home and Away. I didn't ever

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<v Speaker 2>work with her. Her name is Philippa. Philippa North East,

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<v Speaker 2>I think. North East.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know who I really love?

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<v Speaker 2>She's a beautiful actress. And the woman I saw in

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<v Speaker 2>the play that I went, this is how great I

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<v Speaker 2>am at acting stuff. What was the play I went

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<v Speaker 2>to see in Sydney? How do you say it? Prima facie.

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<v Speaker 2>Prima facie, yeah. The lead actress in that was incredible.

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<v Speaker 3>Sarah Snow could have to be up there too.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I just say, if someone takes your breath away,

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<v Speaker 1>you at least remember the name of the performance and

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<v Speaker 1>the actor.

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<v Speaker 2>No, not really because I don't see them as the actor.

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<v Speaker 2>I see them as the character.

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<v Speaker 3>Elizabeth Debecky.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that how I say her name?

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<v Speaker 1>She's extraordinary.

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<v Speaker 3>Extraordinary. She's brilliant.

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<v Speaker 2>Who played Princess Di.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, she did.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and she was in The Night Manager. That was a– oh,

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<v Speaker 2>my goodness, I love that. Anyway, I just– Sorry. Where

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<v Speaker 2>are we going? We could be here all day, guys,

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<v Speaker 2>throwing names around the room. I want to talk about

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<v Speaker 2>an actress called Rachel Sterling. She lives in the UK.

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<v Speaker 1>Any relation to Peter? No?

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<v Speaker 2>No, not Peter. Not Sterlo? Not Peter Sterling. She is

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<v Speaker 2>the daughter of another– her mother was an actress as well,

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<v Speaker 2>Dame Diana Rigg. Now, you would have seen Diana Rigg in, well,

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<v Speaker 2>she was in her 80s when she passed away in 2020.

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<v Speaker 2>She was in the Game of Thrones.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>But she was actually in the 60s in the TV

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<v Speaker 2>show The Avengers that was on the telly. So in

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<v Speaker 2>black and white.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>I just think this is the most bizarre ritual to

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<v Speaker 2>do before you go on stage. And, I mean, give

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<v Speaker 2>us a call, 132410, if there's something that you do

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<v Speaker 2>before you go on stage or before you run out

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<v Speaker 2>onto the field, like a bit of a superstition. This woman, Rachel,

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<v Speaker 2>when her mother died, she was obviously cremated.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And before she– she's written a book all about my

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<v Speaker 2>mother or something like that. And before she goes on–

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<v Speaker 2>stage for an opening night now, she eats a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of her mother's ashes.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you do that? Is that like, does she

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<v Speaker 1>spread that onto some toast with butter?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I think when it talks about it, the quote

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<v Speaker 2>is that they are grains of the ashes.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, just a quick ashes and orange juice before you

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<v Speaker 3>go out.

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<v Speaker 2>Just a couple of, so I suppose her mother is

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<v Speaker 2>with her if her mother isn't with her already, really.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I don't think you need to eat the ashes,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's not up to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, boy.

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<v Speaker 2>Do what you feel is best for you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to work out what would ashes go with best,

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<v Speaker 3>do you think, Fitz, if you rolled it into sort

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<v Speaker 3>of a meat patty for a sausage roll or something?

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<v Speaker 1>Or you could put it into a line and snort

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<v Speaker 1>it like Keith Richards did with his old man, I heard.

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<v Speaker 3>I think, yeah, there was talk of that. There was

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<v Speaker 3>talk of somebody else rolling the ashes up in tobacco and...

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<v Speaker 3>Smoking ashes?

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<v Speaker 1>No, there's also a company now that takes some of

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<v Speaker 1>your loved one's ashes and puts them into kitchen appliances.

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<v Speaker 1>So they make the kitchen appliance with your grandpa's ashes

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<v Speaker 1>in there. What, like the fridge or a fork? No,

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<v Speaker 1>like a kettle or a toaster. Oh, there's Pop in

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<v Speaker 1>the toaster.

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<v Speaker 2>Look at that. He's bloody burning. Yeah, going off in

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<v Speaker 2>the corner.

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<v Speaker 3>Why don't you put a couple of slices of toast

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<v Speaker 3>or slices of bread into Pop? Do you know, people

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<v Speaker 3>do some strange things. And I think we had someone

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<v Speaker 3>on the show recently who his business is putting ashes

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<v Speaker 3>inside fireworks and sending them up to be closer to heaven.

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<v Speaker 3>And then they explode.

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<v Speaker 2>Over the ocean and then there they are.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and he said business had been on the rapid incline.

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<v Speaker 3>People are thinking this is the best idea possible.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, isn't that a better idea than taking the ashes?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, we've seen the videos, haven't we, where if

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<v Speaker 2>you get a windy day and you're putting your beloved

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<v Speaker 2>over the side of the boat because that's where they

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<v Speaker 2>used to go fishing every weekend and you get the

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<v Speaker 2>wrong day for it.

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<v Speaker 1>You're in all sorts.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, maybe fireworks are a better option.

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<v Speaker 3>You've got gran in your mouth.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that's what happened with Hazel Fitzgerald, my grandmother, because

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<v Speaker 1>she grew up at the top of the sand dune

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<v Speaker 1>at Port Nalunga, and so we spread her ashes there.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was just, Dad was very emotional, which doesn't help.

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<v Speaker 1>When you are crying and the ashes just fly straight

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<v Speaker 1>up into your face, they stay there. Yeah. It looked

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<v Speaker 1>like Dad had a black eye. I said, what's going

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<v Speaker 1>on there?

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<v Speaker 3>Ready for Halloween.

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<v Speaker 1>That's Nan. They make it.

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<v Speaker 2>Look great in the movies, but in real time, there

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<v Speaker 2>are a lot of things that can mess it up.

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<v Speaker 3>There's the footage of someone tipping ashes off a small

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<v Speaker 3>little decking area into the water, and there's quite a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of ashes coming out of it. It's one of

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<v Speaker 3>those videos you go straight to the comments. Like, Nan

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<v Speaker 3>must have been. There must have been a whole lot

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<v Speaker 3>of Nan. Because it just keeps coming out.

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<v Speaker 2>There was a lot of ashes.

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<v Speaker 1>There was a lot of ashes. Where would yours be spread, Whip?

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<v Speaker 1>Like Nobu?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, where do you want to? Or where would it be?

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<v Speaker 3>What, you're egging over a buffet somewhere, do you?

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<v Speaker 1>The Fat Duck or something? Heston Blumenthal's. Where would you,

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<v Speaker 1>where would it be?

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<v Speaker 3>Would it be? That's a great question.

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<v Speaker 1>Or over some dumplings?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, let's talk to Wayne instead of answer that question.

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<v Speaker 3>Where were the ashes spread, Waino?

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<v Speaker 1>Country New South Wales. Oh, yeah? Yeah, just a little.

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<v Speaker 2>Town not far away from Coffs Harbor.

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<v Speaker 1>And, yeah, it's spread. my other half's grandma and grandpa and, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>went downstream and there was a whole heap of people

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<v Speaker 1>turned up to go swimming.

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<v Speaker 2>In the creek.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, no, they swam straight into it. Oh, Wayne.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have looked at that positively, though, Wayne, and said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, there was a piece of Nan or whatever

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<v Speaker 1>in those people going for a swim later on, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, they wiped Nan from their eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we've all swum in worse.

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<v Speaker 3>Haven't we? Oh, my God. Thank you, Waino.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, the other one is that you can plant them.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that idea. So when you are planting a tree, Kate,

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<v Speaker 1>or something in the backyard, you spread a bit of

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<v Speaker 1>the ashes as fertiliser there. Yeah. That grows up. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>there's Nan's tree.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>It hasn't grown any fruit for years, but there she is.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw a story where someone did that on the

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<v Speaker 2>pot plant that was on the veranda and somebody came

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<v Speaker 2>and stole the pot plant because they liked the pot.

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<v Speaker 2>And there goes Nan.

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<v Speaker 3>And Nan's gone.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Straight into the back of a van.

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<v Speaker 1>That can bounce back on you.

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<v Speaker 3>Off she goes.

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