Speaker 1: A good a team. It's me. Hope you're bloody great,
Speaker 1: Hope you're enjoying your day. So just a brief you today,
Speaker 1: kind of brief. It's been an interesting day for me.
Speaker 1: I wanted to share some thoughts and ideas with you
Speaker 1: about or around the propensity that we humans have to wait,
Speaker 1: to avoid, to procrastinate, to deny, to delay, to not
Speaker 1: address things that we should, to not take ownership of
Speaker 1: things that we should, despite the fact that if we
Speaker 1: really open our eyes, I mean literally and also metaphorically
Speaker 1: open our eyes toward our life and our situation and
Speaker 1: our environment. Now outcomes are telling us there's a lot
Speaker 1: of insight. There's a lot of information to be gleaned,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of wisdom. There's a lot of insight
Speaker 1: that we can pay attention to and do something within
Speaker 1: a very practical sense, strategic sense, to make us better,
Speaker 1: to make our life better, to make our relationship or
Speaker 1: environment or outcomes better. But nonetheless, quite often we wait
Speaker 1: for the catastrophe, We wait for the wheels, the metaphoric wheels,
Speaker 1: to fall off. And I'm being mildly reflective today because
Speaker 1: I just got off the phone about twenty minutes ago
Speaker 1: with the doctor who you may or may not have seen.
Speaker 1: I've had some stuff cut off my face in the
Speaker 1: last week. As I record this, it's Thursday, and exactly
Speaker 1: one week ago, I had two things cut off my face.
Speaker 1: Three things were one big, which was an actual little
Speaker 1: surgical procedure to cut some shit out and make sure
Speaker 1: they cleared all the margins and all of that because
Speaker 1: they were quite sure it was skin cancer, and also
Speaker 1: to buy up see two other things, one on my
Speaker 1: forehead and one on my forearm. And they've also identified
Speaker 1: about another eight things which I need to go back
Speaker 1: and get checked and not checked, but I OPSID and
Speaker 1: then probably a procedure or three anyway, So they chopped
Speaker 1: away at my chin last week, and the pathology came
Speaker 1: back today the chin and also for the biopsy from
Speaker 1: the forehead, and the forum turns out that all three
Speaker 1: were forms of skin cancer basil cell carcinoma, which is
Speaker 1: not obviously as bad as melanoma, of course, but nonetheless
Speaker 1: not something that you want in your body, and can
Speaker 1: eventually turn into something quite nasty down the track if
Speaker 1: left unattended. And what's interesting for me is I'm generally
Speaker 1: the guy who likes to think anyway, I was going
Speaker 1: to pump up my tiyes who likes to think that
Speaker 1: he is all over everything and switched on and paying attention.
Speaker 1: Why is he talking in the third person? But I
Speaker 1: like to think I'm the guy that looks after my
Speaker 1: health and my body and pays attention and pays attention
Speaker 1: to my business and my friends and my relationship. And
Speaker 1: I think that for the most part, I do. But
Speaker 1: there's clearly times when I'm not paying enough attention. There's
Speaker 1: times where I'm not really in tune with all of
Speaker 1: the data. I'm not really in tune with all of
Speaker 1: the information. I'm not really in tune with what I'm
Speaker 1: being told, not told verbally by somebody else. But my results,
Speaker 1: what my world, what my environment, What my interactions and
Speaker 1: encounters and outcomes are telling me. And you and I
Speaker 1: are always getting signs. We're always getting signals. We're always
Speaker 1: getting messages and data and information and downloads. There's always
Speaker 1: something to be gleaned from our environment, from our relationships,
Speaker 1: personal relationships, intimate, super personal relationships, professional, and those relationships
Speaker 1: that we know to be typically toxic. We're getting download
Speaker 1: from our body, from our emotions, our emotional system from
Speaker 1: our subconscious mind, that knowing that we have that deep
Speaker 1: underlying awareness, that knowledge, and sometimes it's more like an
Speaker 1: instinctive or an intuitive thing like our internal sat nav,
Speaker 1: to which I often refer that deep knowing that we
Speaker 1: have that internal whether or not it's emotional or psychological,
Speaker 1: or some kind of subconscious guidance system or some kind
Speaker 1: of spiritual sat nav, I don't know what it is,
Speaker 1: but I do know that for me anyway, and most
Speaker 1: people that I talk to, there is an awareness, There
Speaker 1: is a knowing, There is an urging from something or
Speaker 1: somewhere deep down pointing us in a direction or opening
Speaker 1: a door of awareness about a thing that we should
Speaker 1: pay attention to and potentially address. You know, we're always
Speaker 1: getting We're always getting feedback from our peers, and information
Speaker 1: and data from our social interactions and experiences, and from
Speaker 1: even the things that we can measure and quantify. I
Speaker 1: can measure my body composition, I can look at my
Speaker 1: bank account. I can see how many people are listening
Speaker 1: to my episodes. I can see how many people are
Speaker 1: connecting with an idea or a message that I share
Speaker 1: through my whiteboard like I can get quantifiable data and
Speaker 1: measurable results. The challenge with that for me is not
Speaker 1: to get sidetracked with how much to people like me
Speaker 1: and how popular I am, but rather to have an
Speaker 1: awareness around what's the data telling me, who is resonating with,
Speaker 1: what kind of themes, ideas and messages, What should I
Speaker 1: do more of? What should I do less of? So
Speaker 1: we're always getting this information that we can do something
Speaker 1: with your financial situation, and even even the day to
Speaker 1: day stuff that seems somewhat incidental a look a glance.
Speaker 1: We don't want to overthink everything. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: I feel that many of us have this real propensity
Speaker 1: and capacity to be able to wait, to be able
Speaker 1: to to unwittingly maybe maybe to wait until the wheels
Speaker 1: fall off, the metaphoric wheels fall off, till till the
Speaker 1: shit hits the metaphoric fan, till things get either out
Speaker 1: of control or almost out of control. And it dawned
Speaker 1: on me that I've really waited for too long. I
Speaker 1: used to get my skin checked all the time I
Speaker 1: used to get it. I've had a bunch of things
Speaker 1: cut off, and there's no excuse, but I literally have
Speaker 1: not been back to the skin cancer clinic where I
Speaker 1: used to go twice a year. I haven't been back
Speaker 1: for four and a half or maybe five years, and
Speaker 1: fair to say, it's good that I went when I went,
Speaker 1: stupid that I didn't go for that long, And the
Speaker 1: same can be said for lots of other health checks
Speaker 1: and updates and kind of that we can make. You know,
Speaker 1: our body is always talking to us. Our body is
Speaker 1: its own form of wisdom. You know. The subconscious mind
Speaker 1: is wise. The subconscious mind is I believe, always knowing
Speaker 1: and prompting and urging us in a direction or a
Speaker 1: way towards something or away from something. I know when
Speaker 1: I try and rationalize dumb shit with my prefrontal cortex,
Speaker 1: I try and be illogically logical by rationalizing shit that
Speaker 1: I shouldn't and I can make a case for it,
Speaker 1: and I can, I can turn it into a reason
Speaker 1: when deep down I really know it's not a reason,
Speaker 1: it's an excuse. Deep down I really know, I know
Speaker 1: that there is something that I'm doing that I shouldn't
Speaker 1: or not doing that I should. You know, for me,
Speaker 1: for example, I spend a lot of years working in
Speaker 1: the fitness industry, a lot and a lot of years
Speaker 1: owning my own gyms, a lot of years working on
Speaker 1: the gym floor, having thousands of conversations, managing leading hundreds
Speaker 1: of trainers and fitness professionals. And it was great. It
Speaker 1: was really good, and I loved it, and the fitness
Speaker 1: industry was great for me, and my staff and my
Speaker 1: clients were great. And I learned and I evolved and
Speaker 1: I grew and I really benefited and I became. I
Speaker 1: think through those experiences and that time and those encounters
Speaker 1: and relationships and peaks and troughs and challenges, I became
Speaker 1: a much better, more capable, adaptable version of me. But
Speaker 1: it got to a point where I wasn't learning and
Speaker 1: I wasn't growing as much, if at all. It got
Speaker 1: to a point where for me, that particular thing, that
Speaker 1: particular time, in that particular industry, doing that particular job
Speaker 1: that way wasn't that it was bad at all. It
Speaker 1: wasn't that I hated it. I didn't hate it, But
Speaker 1: I just got to the point where I felt like
Speaker 1: my time was up. I felt like with that particular
Speaker 1: life style and job and career and that particular operating
Speaker 1: system for me, I'd reached my use by date. But stupidly,
Speaker 1: for me, I think I waited. I think I waited
Speaker 1: about a year or two too long, maybe even three,
Speaker 1: And it didn't end up catastrophically, but it could have
Speaker 1: because I knew. I knew a year or two or
Speaker 1: three before I got out, or before I kind of
Speaker 1: stepped away from got out. Means it sounds like I
Speaker 1: was escaping something terrible. I was I definitely wasn't. But
Speaker 1: you know when you start working in an industry at eighteen,
Speaker 1: and you're working on a gym floor literally and helping
Speaker 1: people and teaching people how to squat and deadlift and
Speaker 1: talking about bums and legs and micros and macros and
Speaker 1: mindset and motivate and structure and blah blah blah blah
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Autopilot. Right, you can hear me, And
Speaker 1: then thirty years later you're still doing a version of that.
Speaker 1: Of course, I was doing other things at the same time.
Speaker 1: I was doing a bit of talking and writing, and
Speaker 1: I'd spread my metaphoric wings a bit, but I knew
Speaker 1: the signs were there. If I think if I had
Speaker 1: have done it too much longer, I might have hated it.
Speaker 1: But I didn't pay attention. I didn't pay attention to
Speaker 1: my feelings. I didn't pay attention to my subconscious mind.
Speaker 1: I didn't pay enough attention to the kind of results
Speaker 1: that I was producing, which weren't as great or as
Speaker 1: good as they once were. You've been around people, or
Speaker 1: you might even be the people who has comma, has
Speaker 1: waited too long with health, where your body's screaming at
Speaker 1: you to do something. Your body is telling you. You
Speaker 1: know it, not even like you need to guess. You
Speaker 1: know that something is wrong. You know that something is
Speaker 1: going to break. If you don't pay attention, if you
Speaker 1: don't make a decision, if you don't acknowledge what is,
Speaker 1: if you keep putting your head in the sand, if
Speaker 1: you don't take action, if you don't be brave, if
Speaker 1: you don't be accountable, shit is going to break. And
Speaker 1: then once something breaks, then once something that, once the
Speaker 1: catastrophe happens, you are forced to act. You are now
Speaker 1: in a reactive state without a choice, because if you
Speaker 1: don't do something, you're going to die, or if you
Speaker 1: don't do something, you're going to metaphorically die. I've seen
Speaker 1: people do that in relationships where they're in a toxic, destructive,
Speaker 1: horrible relationship and they just stay there because I guess
Speaker 1: they think on a level, or they believe on a
Speaker 1: level that it's easier to stay in then get out,
Speaker 1: and they might be right. And yes, this is a
Speaker 1: very complicated, multi variable kind of issue relationships, of course,
Speaker 1: and I'm not in this case. I'm not talking about
Speaker 1: domestic violence and all those horrible things. That is for
Speaker 1: another time, but just people who happen to be in
Speaker 1: relationships that they might be friendships, they might be business partnerships,
Speaker 1: they might be people who work side by side, but
Speaker 1: it's just like the nature of the relationship for the
Speaker 1: most part, is destructive and toxic and unhealthy. Yet people
Speaker 1: either one don't do anything truly to fix it or
Speaker 1: address it or get out of it. And then we
Speaker 1: wake up and it's five years down the track, and
Speaker 1: now my anxiety is through the roof and I'm still
Speaker 1: not addressing those problems and I'm still not having that
Speaker 1: hard conversation and I'm still pretending it will fix itself
Speaker 1: and it won't. You know, one of my better friends,
Speaker 1: I don't want to disclose who, and it doesn't matter why,
Speaker 1: but one of my better friends in the last couple
Speaker 1: of years passed away and I saw this person not
Speaker 1: long like within days of when they passed away. And
Speaker 1: every time I saw this person, for probably the last
Speaker 1: ten to fifteen times that we got together, I was worried.
Speaker 1: There was a bunch of alarm bells going off for
Speaker 1: me about a bunch of things that I won't open
Speaker 1: the door too wide. But even from the outside looking in,
Speaker 1: I could tell that this highly gifted, talented, intelligent person
Speaker 1: was not addressing things that they should and for that person,
Speaker 1: time ran out, you know. And I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: be melodramatic, but I've had that experience with a bunch
Speaker 1: of people. Maybe that's because I'm old, so I've been
Speaker 1: around for decades. But people that I've lost that I
Speaker 1: don't think needed, I know, didn't need it, didn't need
Speaker 1: to be lost. And I can't undo that. But I
Speaker 1: don't want to lose any more friends. I don't want
Speaker 1: to lose any of you. I don't I don't want
Speaker 1: to hear, you know, I don't want to hear about
Speaker 1: somebody who passed away because they wouldn't make a decision,
Speaker 1: because they wouldn't go and get a check, because they
Speaker 1: wouldn't step up or own up or be honest or
Speaker 1: be brave. And of course it's not about what I want,
Speaker 1: it's about what's great for you. But but it's just,
Speaker 1: you know, when I see people who are unnecessarily in
Speaker 1: a holding pattern of destruction and anxiety and toxicity and
Speaker 1: overthinking and rumination and mental and emotional and physical despair,
Speaker 1: when there's an answer, not a quick, easy or painless answer,
Speaker 1: but there's an answer, there's definitely a path to take,
Speaker 1: There's definitely there's definitely something or things that can be done.
Speaker 1: You know, When I see that, it makes me sad,
Speaker 1: you know, And on this show we do our best
Speaker 1: to you know, enlighten and inspire and educate and all
Speaker 1: those things. But at the end of the day, what
Speaker 1: really matters, what really matters, is yet becoming the best
Speaker 1: version of you and optimal you and living your purpose
Speaker 1: and all of those things that I am passionate about,
Speaker 1: lifelong learner and supporting. All of that stuff matters. But
Speaker 1: almost the most basic of requirements, the most fundamental of
Speaker 1: human needs, is for you, is for you to pay
Speaker 1: attention to what your life is telling you. Your body
Speaker 1: is telling you, your emotional system, your internal sat nav
Speaker 1: is telling you. So this is a brief one, but
Speaker 1: I'm going to leave you with this. What is the
Speaker 1: catastrophe that is imminent for you if you don't take action,
Speaker 1: if you don't pay attention, if you don't acknowledge, if
Speaker 1: you don't open your eyes, if you don't be brave.
Speaker 1: What is the thing you need to stop avoiding and
Speaker 1: own up to or address and when will you do it?
Speaker 1: See you next time.