1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:04,520 Speaker 1: Did I team type? This finds you? Well, do you 2 00:00:04,600 --> 00:00:08,520 Speaker 1: ever think about why you think the way you think? 3 00:00:10,800 --> 00:00:14,600 Speaker 1: I talk about it a bit. Do you ever think 4 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:18,520 Speaker 1: about the influence that your parents and friends and family, 5 00:00:18,560 --> 00:00:23,279 Speaker 1: and school and media and social media and all of 6 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: your experiences have had on the way that you process 7 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: the world around you, the way that you see things, 8 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:39,159 Speaker 1: the way that you tell yourself stories, that kind of 9 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: data processing component of the human experience. Where something happens, 10 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: and then we consciously are not we assign a certain 11 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 1: meaning or value to that thing that is good, that 12 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 1: is bad, that is terrifying, that is hilarious, that is interesting, 13 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: that is confusing, And we assign that to that thing, 14 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:06,959 Speaker 1: to that event or that outcome or that encounter or experience, 15 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:09,559 Speaker 1: and we give it that meaning, and then we believe 16 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: that meaning, and that becomes our personal reality. So when 17 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: something happens or when someone say, for example, somebody says something, 18 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:24,120 Speaker 1: and based on my experience and my journey and my 19 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,800 Speaker 1: training and my programming and my education, that thing that 20 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: the person said is offensive, and so I go, well, 21 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: I find that offensive. That person is offensive. What they 22 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 1: said is offensive, and as a result, I'm offended. That's 23 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: not good or bad, that's just the human experience. I'm offended. 24 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:51,480 Speaker 1: They said something to me it was offensive. I believe 25 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: it's offensive. And now physically, mentally, emotionally, I'm having the 26 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: experience of complete with anger, a little bit of anger, 27 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: a little bit of adrenaline and cortisole, a little bit 28 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: of emotion, a little bit of psychology. It's all thrown 29 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: in there, and now I'm offended because for whatever reason, 30 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 1: I perceived and processed what that person did or said 31 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:17,679 Speaker 1: as offensive. Interestingly, the person standing right next to me 32 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:27,679 Speaker 1: was subjected to the exact same stimulus. But they're not offended. 33 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: They're not angry, they're not producing cortisol and adrenaline, they're 34 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:39,079 Speaker 1: not emotional. To them, for whatever reason, they responded differently, 35 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 1: they had a different self created experience. Mine was one 36 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: of stress and anxiety and elevation and anger and all 37 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: kinds of things, and theirs was one of pretty much 38 00:02:54,280 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: minimal response, somewhat inert And these responses, these personal realities, 39 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: are largely a byproduct of the way that our thinking 40 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: has been influenced, programmed, and I guess determined over time. 41 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:28,480 Speaker 1: And so the challenge of becoming a critical thinker where 42 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: we can think, truly think for ourselves, separate to what 43 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: we've been told to think and what we've been trained 44 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: to think, what we've been taught to think, to recognize 45 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 1: our programming and overcome our programming. And the question when 46 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 1: we think about becoming more critical in our assessment, more aware, 47 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: more conscious in our assessment and interpretation and subsequent storytelling 48 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: about the world around us, is where does my programming finish? 49 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: And where do I start? If I personalize that, I 50 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 1: would say where does where does my programming finish? And 51 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:13,520 Speaker 1: where do I craig? Where do I start? Where does 52 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 1: that blank slate start, that clean sheet of paper, that 53 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 1: canvas that has not been yet painted, that cognitive canvas, 54 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 1: where does that start? In fact, can I even think 55 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: for myself? Can I truly think for myself? When I 56 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: already have so many pre existing beliefs and ideas and 57 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: stories and values and biases and insights? Can I truly 58 00:04:43,920 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 1: think for myself? And the answer is kind of? The 59 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: answer is kind of because we are all looking at 60 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 1: the world through our own window, and the window through 61 00:04:57,680 --> 00:05:02,279 Speaker 1: which you and I view the world is a metaphor 62 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:06,679 Speaker 1: for all of the stuff that we already know or think, 63 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: we know, or believe, or want or are enamored with 64 00:05:14,720 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: love or want to happen. That's the window through which 65 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 1: we view the world. So all of my existing beliefs 66 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 1: and values and opinions and goals and dreams and biases 67 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 1: of which I have many I wish I didn't, but 68 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 1: I do, as we all do because we've all been 69 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 1: programmed a certain way. All of those those things that 70 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: influence the way that I perceive the world, those things 71 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: formulate or create my hypothetical window. And now the challenge 72 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 1: in this is not to eliminate the window, but rather 73 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: to be aware of the window. So when something happens 74 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: and I think, oh, wow, that's a problem, what I 75 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:11,400 Speaker 1: need to be aware of is that that's my story 76 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 1: about that thing. So more accurately, that's a problem for me, 77 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: And perhaps more intelligently, I might even go, I feel 78 00:06:24,240 --> 00:06:27,279 Speaker 1: like that's a problem for me, but doesn't need to be. 79 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:31,000 Speaker 1: Is it really a problem? Is it just a thing 80 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: that I witnessed or experienced. And now I'm telling myself 81 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 1: a story, this is a problem story. And then I'm 82 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: turning that story that that construct, that idea, that premise, 83 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:49,880 Speaker 1: I'm turning that into a real world experience for me, 84 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 1: while the bloke next to me went through the same thing. 85 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 1: But somehow isn't in the middle of a problem. That 86 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 1: dude's in the middle of a lie lesson, because that 87 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 1: dude's telling himself or herself a different story, a different story. 88 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: So I wrote something a while ago that I want 89 00:07:11,800 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 1: to share with you, just because I tend not to 90 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 1: read things too much on this show, but this is 91 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: really relevant and pertinent, and I think that the ideas 92 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: in it are quite powerful. And it's called programming. You. 93 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 1: From the moment that you were born, just like me, 94 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:37,800 Speaker 1: you were influenced, trained, directed, instructed, molded, and educated. You 95 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: were programmed by your environment, by your experiences, by situations, 96 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:50,600 Speaker 1: by circumstances, by the encounters that you had, and more broadly, 97 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 1: by the people in your world mom, dad, friends, family, colleagues, teachers. 98 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:02,119 Speaker 1: Like a comput with arms and legs, you have data 99 00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 1: punched into your cerebral hard drive on a daily basis, 100 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: consciously or not, intentionally or not. That data became your 101 00:08:12,440 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: version of reality. It became your understanding of life, of people, 102 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:25,520 Speaker 1: of truth, and it even became your understanding of you yourself. 103 00:08:27,920 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: It became your default setting, and for better or worse, 104 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 1: it became the window through which you viewed, analyzed, and 105 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:40,079 Speaker 1: interpreted the world around you. And over time you came 106 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 1: to know how things worked, or you thought you knew 107 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: how they worked. You knew there was or wasn't a god, 108 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:52,160 Speaker 1: because that's what you were taught. That's how you were programmed. 109 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 1: That's what you were told, that's what you grew up 110 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:56,880 Speaker 1: in the middle of. That was your conditioning. And you 111 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 1: also knew that your sporting team was the best sporting 112 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:03,560 Speaker 1: team and that the rest were rubbish because Dad said, 113 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:08,720 Speaker 1: Because again, that was your programming, and even if you 114 00:09:08,760 --> 00:09:11,200 Speaker 1: weren't winning at the moment, it didn't matter. Still the 115 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:15,840 Speaker 1: best team. You knew that you were meant to get married, 116 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: probably by a certain age, and have kids certain number maybe, 117 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 1: and then you would mold them. That was your job. 118 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: That was the expectation. Just like you'd been molded, you 119 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:33,480 Speaker 1: understood what rituals needed to be followed, what kind of 120 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 1: career should be pursued, like what rules should be obeyed, 121 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: and what and wasn't acceptable behavior in a broad range 122 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: of situations. Because you'd been programmed, you were taught who 123 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 1: to trust and who to respect, and also who to 124 00:09:53,200 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: distrust and not respect. On some level, you were told 125 00:09:57,679 --> 00:10:01,840 Speaker 1: what to believe, what to think, and what to do. 126 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:07,559 Speaker 1: You weren't taught how to think. In fact, you were 127 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 1: discouraged from thinking for yourself. In some ways, you didn't 128 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,320 Speaker 1: get a chance to know you or be you because 129 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: you were becoming them, or at least a version of them. 130 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:27,600 Speaker 1: And now here you are listening to this, maybe with 131 00:10:27,640 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 1: a couple of light bulbs going off, maybe some recognition, 132 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 1: maybe some awareness. It's not a bad thing, it's not 133 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: a problem. It's just part of the human experience. And 134 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 1: now here you are hearing this or grown up a 135 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:48,839 Speaker 1: product of your programming. So what to do with this awareness? 136 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:52,560 Speaker 1: What if there's a better way? What if there's a 137 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 1: better way to think? What if there's a better way 138 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:58,679 Speaker 1: to choose and create and connect and learn and grow 139 00:10:58,760 --> 00:11:04,040 Speaker 1: and evolve and be you. What if there's a better 140 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: way to do life and relationships and work and health 141 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: to understand who you are and who you might become, 142 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 1: beyond what you've been told, taught and trained to be, 143 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,800 Speaker 1: To step out of the shadow of other people's thinking. 144 00:11:22,840 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 1: Are the people's rules, are the people's belief are the 145 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: people's ideas and into the light of your own discoveries, 146 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:35,160 Speaker 1: your own thinking, your own truth, your own beliefs, and 147 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:38,840 Speaker 1: your own purpose. And if these words resonate, then maybe 148 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 1: it's time to block out the external noise and tune 149 00:11:42,720 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 1: into your internal wisdom than knowing within, to trust yourself, 150 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:50,959 Speaker 1: to listen to yourself, to turn the page and start 151 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:55,600 Speaker 1: writing a new story, your story the end. So I 152 00:11:55,640 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: wrote that quite a while ago, and it's funny when 153 00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:01,720 Speaker 1: I don't see it for a year or two or three, 154 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: and then I stumble across it, and I just like, 155 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 1: I like that, How I like how that makes me think? 156 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 1: Like we we all like the idea that we're open minded. 157 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:19,880 Speaker 1: We we You know, when I have an audience in 158 00:12:19,880 --> 00:12:21,440 Speaker 1: front of me and I say, put up your hand 159 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: if you're open minded, Nelly, or you believe you're open minded, 160 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 1: nearly every hand goes up. And that's because we like 161 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:35,160 Speaker 1: to see ourselves as being open minded because it's a 162 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:37,560 Speaker 1: good thing, or we think it's a good thing. It 163 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 1: makes us feel better about ourselves. And who wants to 164 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:43,840 Speaker 1: put up their hand in front of a bunch of 165 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:49,640 Speaker 1: other humans and say I'm not open minded because that 166 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:52,840 Speaker 1: ain't going to go down well, is it? And so, firstly, 167 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:56,760 Speaker 1: it's understandable that we want to be open minded, but 168 00:12:56,800 --> 00:13:01,680 Speaker 1: it's also important that we recognize, well, well, maybe I'm 169 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:06,439 Speaker 1: not I would like to be, and maybe I am 170 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 1: more open minded about some things. But if, for example, 171 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:16,160 Speaker 1: you are like me and you have pre existing ideas 172 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:21,079 Speaker 1: and pre existing values and pre existing thoughts and beliefs 173 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:28,240 Speaker 1: and standards and faith and expectation and morals and ethics 174 00:13:29,040 --> 00:13:34,840 Speaker 1: and all of these life shaping things, life informing things, 175 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 1: then you are definitely looking at the world through the 176 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:45,480 Speaker 1: window that those things create. And so as long as 177 00:13:45,600 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 1: I have pre existing ideas and beliefs and thinking and value, 178 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 1: I can't values. I can't be totally open minded. I 179 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:57,080 Speaker 1: would love to be. I would love to be. And 180 00:13:57,160 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 1: so the challenge for me is, and maybe the challenge 181 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:02,280 Speaker 1: for you is not to be a blank slate, because 182 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:07,320 Speaker 1: you can't be a cognitive or emotional or psychological clean slate, 183 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 1: because you've already lived however many years, and you already 184 00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:14,080 Speaker 1: see the world a certain way. But maybe we could 185 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:18,320 Speaker 1: pull back the curtain, the cognitive and psychological curtain a 186 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:23,240 Speaker 1: little bit to become more aware of our own lack 187 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 1: of awareness. Huh more, aware of our own lack of 188 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:35,760 Speaker 1: open mindedness. The beginning of consciousness is perhaps to recognize 189 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:41,480 Speaker 1: a lack of consciousness. Oh so this is not the thing. 190 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:46,840 Speaker 1: This is just my story about the thing that's conscious, 191 00:14:46,920 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 1: that's aware. There's the thing that's going on right now, 192 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: and then there's my response to the thing. There's the 193 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:57,640 Speaker 1: thing that's happening around me and the thing that's happening 194 00:14:57,760 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 1: within me, and they are not the same. And the 195 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: thing that's happening within me is just my emotional and 196 00:15:04,200 --> 00:15:09,920 Speaker 1: psychological to reaction to some event that I didn't create. 197 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 1: And while we each have pre existing ideas, beliefs, values, faith, biases, allegiances, 198 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:21,520 Speaker 1: all of that stuff. While we have that, and that 199 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 1: is all of us, all of the time, it's always 200 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 1: going to be a challenge. But that doesn't mean that 201 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 1: we can't grow, learn, evolve, and improve in this space. 202 00:15:30,320 --> 00:15:32,640 Speaker 1: All of those things that are the window through which 203 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:36,880 Speaker 1: we view, understand, and process the world. We can be 204 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:40,920 Speaker 1: mindful of that. I can be mindful that, of course 205 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:44,240 Speaker 1: I have certain biases. Of course I think a certain 206 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:47,480 Speaker 1: way about how to eat and how to exercise, and 207 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:50,400 Speaker 1: whether or not we should drink booze or use drugs 208 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 1: because I'm fucking Craig Harper, and I come full of 209 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:57,560 Speaker 1: fucking opinions. Of Course I've got opinions, and of course 210 00:15:57,600 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: I've got what I think as knowledge. Of course i 211 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:04,800 Speaker 1: think I'm right about certain things. But guess what, I've 212 00:16:04,840 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 1: been wrong many many times, and I will be wrong 213 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 1: in the future. I can simultaneously think something, I think 214 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:18,040 Speaker 1: I'm right about this, Okay, I can think that while 215 00:16:18,120 --> 00:16:23,720 Speaker 1: also knowing or holding the possibility concurrently in my mind 216 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 1: that but also I could be wrong. I think X, 217 00:16:30,920 --> 00:16:35,120 Speaker 1: but and I believe X. But also I could be 218 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:37,720 Speaker 1: wrong about X. It might not be X, it could 219 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:40,360 Speaker 1: be white, could be Z, it could be T, or 220 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:48,000 Speaker 1: it could be fucking seventy two. Who knows. But if I, 221 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 1: if I believe that my opinion or my idea or 222 00:16:52,800 --> 00:17:00,760 Speaker 1: my belief is absolutely, categorically, unequivocally true, and there is 223 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:06,120 Speaker 1: no possibility that I'm wrong at all, one that's kind 224 00:17:06,119 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: of understandable because we humans do that. And while it 225 00:17:11,119 --> 00:17:14,159 Speaker 1: serves a purpose in some ways, in other ways it 226 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 1: makes us depending on what we're talking about, depending on 227 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: what is at the center of that belief, By the 228 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:23,360 Speaker 1: way this doesn't apply in all situations, is my opinion. 229 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:29,399 Speaker 1: But being that categoric that I believe these ten things 230 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 1: and I absolutely know that I am right, Well, now 231 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:35,359 Speaker 1: I'm making myself unteachable and I'm not open mind, that 232 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:40,200 Speaker 1: I'm closed minded, so that the challenge, and it's hard. 233 00:17:40,400 --> 00:17:43,479 Speaker 1: It's easier said than done, the challenges that I think this, 234 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:46,359 Speaker 1: But I'm also aware that I could be wrong, and 235 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:53,440 Speaker 1: I'm okay with being wrong, being able to admit that 236 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 1: that we get things wrong, being able to admit that 237 00:17:56,040 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 1: some of what I have believed in the past, absolutely 238 00:17:59,320 --> 00:18:04,639 Speaker 1: categorically thought to be true was actually flawed, it was wrong. 239 00:18:05,240 --> 00:18:12,560 Speaker 1: And it becomes even harder to overcome our programming and 240 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:20,840 Speaker 1: our conditioning and our hardwired thinking and beliefs when that 241 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:26,400 Speaker 1: hardwired thinking and those beliefs are intertwined with our sense 242 00:18:26,440 --> 00:18:34,720 Speaker 1: of self, our identity, and so we find ourselves sometimes 243 00:18:35,400 --> 00:18:39,199 Speaker 1: having certain world views or ideas or beliefs. That's all 244 00:18:39,240 --> 00:18:43,280 Speaker 1: of us, me included, but sometimes we find ourselves in 245 00:18:43,280 --> 00:18:46,560 Speaker 1: the middle of a club that believes everything that we believe, 246 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:51,040 Speaker 1: or we all align on this particular idea or this 247 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:54,560 Speaker 1: ideology or theology or philosophy and now we are living 248 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 1: in a cognitive echo chamber, a psychological echo chamber, where 249 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:01,640 Speaker 1: we only listen and to people who think like us, 250 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:05,199 Speaker 1: and believe like us, and have the same values as us. 251 00:19:05,240 --> 00:19:09,919 Speaker 1: And everyone in the world who isn't like us, thinking, behaving, 252 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:13,639 Speaker 1: believing they're wrong. All the other groups are wrong. My 253 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:18,760 Speaker 1: group's the right group, and that's dangerous territory. I think 254 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:22,359 Speaker 1: having beliefs and even belonging to a group can be 255 00:19:23,480 --> 00:19:27,560 Speaker 1: a good thing, good things. But I also think it's 256 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:30,479 Speaker 1: good that we leave a little bit of space summer, 257 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:34,719 Speaker 1: and that cognitive kind of chamber up there between our 258 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:37,080 Speaker 1: is that we leave a little bit of space for 259 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:41,520 Speaker 1: the possibility that we're getting things wrong, and that my programming, 260 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:45,720 Speaker 1: my programming, is not my thinking, but rather someone else's. 261 00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:52,720 Speaker 1: And so to be able to be as vulnerable and 262 00:19:54,040 --> 00:20:00,520 Speaker 1: humble and courageous as needed to con see to the 263 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:04,320 Speaker 1: fact that this thing that I think or believe could 264 00:20:04,400 --> 00:20:09,160 Speaker 1: be flawed. It's a tough challenge. It's a tough challenge. 265 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,320 Speaker 1: But when we put up our hand in that group 266 00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:15,400 Speaker 1: and we say yes, I'm open minded, yes I can 267 00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:20,040 Speaker 1: be objective, there's got to be more to that than 268 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:25,320 Speaker 1: just words. More to that than just wishful thinking. So 269 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:31,440 Speaker 1: are you a critical thinker? Are you really thinking for yourself? 270 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:36,880 Speaker 1: Can you really be open minded? Can you recognize your 271 00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:42,480 Speaker 1: own subjective interpretation of the objective thing that's happening around 272 00:20:42,520 --> 00:20:46,360 Speaker 1: you or to you. Can you see the space between 273 00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:51,840 Speaker 1: your story and the event and my story? Can you 274 00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:55,600 Speaker 1: recognize the space between your reality and the reality of 275 00:20:55,640 --> 00:21:02,240 Speaker 1: others without judging, no judgment, just recognize, just awareness. If 276 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:03,800 Speaker 1: you can, you're on the way.