1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apoday production. 2 00:00:10,121 --> 00:00:13,521 Speaker 2: We begin today by acknowledging the traditional custodians of the 3 00:00:13,601 --> 00:00:16,441 Speaker 2: land on which we gather today and pay our respects 4 00:00:16,481 --> 00:00:19,641 Speaker 2: to their elders past and present. We extend that respect 5 00:00:19,721 --> 00:00:22,921 Speaker 2: to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people's here today. 6 00:00:25,081 --> 00:00:28,641 Speaker 3: Welcome to the Grow and Glow Podcast. I'm Ashy, I'm Kiara. 7 00:00:29,001 --> 00:00:31,321 Speaker 3: This is a podcast where we learn, laugh, and level 8 00:00:31,401 --> 00:00:31,841 Speaker 3: up together. 9 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:33,201 Speaker 4: Let's go deep, let. 10 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:36,121 Speaker 3: The emotions flow, and find the lessons to grow and Glow. 11 00:00:36,521 --> 00:00:38,321 Speaker 1: Nothing is off the table with Grow and Glow, and 12 00:00:38,361 --> 00:00:43,201 Speaker 1: we're here to be your expander. 13 00:00:43,881 --> 00:00:48,001 Speaker 2: Hello, guys, welcome back to Grow and Today. 14 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 3: We have got Megsie here again and we're going to 15 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:54,161 Speaker 3: be talking about all things feminine energy, which is a 16 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:57,721 Speaker 3: topic I feel like so many women are so interested 17 00:00:57,801 --> 00:00:58,801 Speaker 3: in and wanting. 18 00:00:58,561 --> 00:01:00,681 Speaker 5: To lean more into. So I'm so excited to. 19 00:01:00,601 --> 00:01:03,201 Speaker 6: Have you here today, me too. Thank you for having me. 20 00:01:03,481 --> 00:01:05,521 Speaker 1: This is a topic I feel like you're really passionate 21 00:01:05,521 --> 00:01:07,521 Speaker 1: about talking about, Like it lights you up. 22 00:01:07,681 --> 00:01:11,801 Speaker 6: Yeah, I love it. It's just like makes me down. 23 00:01:12,801 --> 00:01:14,481 Speaker 6: Getting yummy. 24 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:18,001 Speaker 1: The word yummy or is reminded of you something's juicy 25 00:01:18,081 --> 00:01:18,521 Speaker 1: and yummy. 26 00:01:18,521 --> 00:01:19,801 Speaker 4: You know, It's like Oh. 27 00:01:21,401 --> 00:01:21,961 Speaker 6: That's it. 28 00:01:22,321 --> 00:01:23,441 Speaker 4: Let's get strained into it. 29 00:01:23,481 --> 00:01:27,481 Speaker 1: In your own words, how do you describe what feminine 30 00:01:27,601 --> 00:01:28,321 Speaker 1: energy is. 31 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:32,161 Speaker 6: It's definitely an energy, it's a vibe, it's a feeling. 32 00:01:32,441 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 6: I would describe it as slowness and softness a lot 33 00:01:38,121 --> 00:01:42,641 Speaker 6: of the time receiving well beautiful, but feminine energy can 34 00:01:42,681 --> 00:01:46,201 Speaker 6: also be that like fierce protector, mummy of her cubs, 35 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:50,641 Speaker 6: the wild woman, the warrior woman. And you know, I 36 00:01:50,681 --> 00:01:54,121 Speaker 6: think the best way that I help people understand what 37 00:01:54,161 --> 00:01:57,521 Speaker 6: feminine energy is is by helping them drop into it 38 00:01:57,561 --> 00:02:00,001 Speaker 6: and so they can feel it, which you guys like 39 00:02:00,081 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 6: a quick little oh my gosh. 40 00:02:03,561 --> 00:02:05,441 Speaker 4: Okay, yes, everyone can and join. 41 00:02:05,361 --> 00:02:07,241 Speaker 6: Us in our home, join us if it's safe for 42 00:02:07,281 --> 00:02:09,561 Speaker 6: you to do so. Andvite you to close down your eyes, 43 00:02:10,321 --> 00:02:12,761 Speaker 6: start to take a few deep breaths in through your 44 00:02:12,801 --> 00:02:17,561 Speaker 6: nose and out for your mouth, and I want you 45 00:02:17,641 --> 00:02:20,160 Speaker 6: to envision the breath going all the way into your 46 00:02:20,161 --> 00:02:25,161 Speaker 6: belly and softening your belly as it goes in. A 47 00:02:25,201 --> 00:02:27,161 Speaker 6: lot of us are holding in our care most of 48 00:02:27,201 --> 00:02:32,041 Speaker 6: the day. Hell out to soften in your belly and 49 00:02:32,121 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 6: feel the breath going deep into your reproductive organs down 50 00:02:38,481 --> 00:02:43,041 Speaker 6: to your yonie and just connecting with all of these 51 00:02:43,041 --> 00:02:48,001 Speaker 6: parts inside of you. And as you ex how allow 52 00:02:48,161 --> 00:02:52,041 Speaker 6: any tension to release. You can even sigh if you like, 53 00:03:00,921 --> 00:03:05,281 Speaker 6: and just think about all things juicy and yummy your 54 00:03:05,361 --> 00:03:15,921 Speaker 6: life and you think that brings you pleasure and enjoy, playfulness, receiving, 55 00:03:17,761 --> 00:03:28,161 Speaker 6: whether it be love or anything else. And when you're ready, 56 00:03:29,361 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 6: come back to your normal breathing and just. 57 00:03:36,321 --> 00:03:42,481 Speaker 7: Wiggle your hips a little. You can just move them slowly, 58 00:03:42,561 --> 00:03:48,001 Speaker 7: slide to side, coming back into the space that you are, 59 00:03:48,201 --> 00:03:51,001 Speaker 7: wherever it is that you are, and you can open 60 00:03:51,041 --> 00:03:51,641 Speaker 7: your eyes. 61 00:03:53,721 --> 00:03:54,561 Speaker 6: How do you feel? 62 00:03:55,121 --> 00:04:00,361 Speaker 1: That's such a nice start to this. I always think 63 00:04:00,401 --> 00:04:03,481 Speaker 1: of the word flowy when I think of feminine energy, 64 00:04:03,961 --> 00:04:09,161 Speaker 1: like she's soft, flowy, she adapts. Well, yeah, yeah. 65 00:04:08,881 --> 00:04:11,561 Speaker 6: Yeah, So I think feminine energy can be all of 66 00:04:11,601 --> 00:04:14,441 Speaker 6: these things. But when people talk about wanting to tap 67 00:04:14,441 --> 00:04:17,041 Speaker 6: more into their feminine energy or I'm running a lot 68 00:04:17,041 --> 00:04:19,561 Speaker 6: in my masculine I think this is that feeling that 69 00:04:19,561 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 6: they're wanting to tap into. When you know, spaciousness, lowness, breath, 70 00:04:25,561 --> 00:04:28,721 Speaker 6: they're the things that help us feel into that. It's 71 00:04:28,761 --> 00:04:32,681 Speaker 6: within all of us, whether you're male, female, Feminine energy, 72 00:04:32,841 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 6: it's a part of us, and yeah, we get to 73 00:04:36,081 --> 00:04:40,241 Speaker 6: allow ourselves to feel into it more So that's I guess, 74 00:04:40,401 --> 00:04:42,721 Speaker 6: in a nutshell I describe it. 75 00:04:42,921 --> 00:04:45,681 Speaker 3: Why do you think so many women this day and 76 00:04:45,761 --> 00:04:49,001 Speaker 3: age struggle to tap into their feminine energy. 77 00:04:50,121 --> 00:04:52,161 Speaker 6: I think a big part of it that just stands 78 00:04:52,161 --> 00:04:54,001 Speaker 6: out to me after what I've just said, is that 79 00:04:54,041 --> 00:04:57,481 Speaker 6: we live in such a hustle culture and our society 80 00:04:57,521 --> 00:05:02,880 Speaker 6: has We're both like society has us just wearing all 81 00:05:02,961 --> 00:05:04,841 Speaker 6: of the hats, juggling all the things. 82 00:05:05,201 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 1: Motherhood were praising it too, Like you wear a gold 83 00:05:08,121 --> 00:05:09,161 Speaker 1: medal if you're doing all of that. 84 00:05:09,401 --> 00:05:12,321 Speaker 6: It's put on a pedestal. If you're doing all these things. 85 00:05:12,361 --> 00:05:15,241 Speaker 6: And new mothers are, you know, needing to get back 86 00:05:15,281 --> 00:05:17,801 Speaker 6: to work straight away. They're not being supported by tribe 87 00:05:17,841 --> 00:05:21,681 Speaker 6: around them and other women, and we're just out there, 88 00:05:21,921 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 6: got to do it on our own. And the next 89 00:05:24,561 --> 00:05:27,361 Speaker 6: reason kind of flows into that is that I think 90 00:05:27,601 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 6: over generations, as women we've almost had to fight for 91 00:05:32,481 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 6: rights and flipped things on its head because men have 92 00:05:35,561 --> 00:05:37,681 Speaker 6: kind of held the power for so long and we're 93 00:05:37,761 --> 00:05:40,921 Speaker 6: now like, I'm an independent woman and I want to 94 00:05:40,921 --> 00:05:43,081 Speaker 6: earn the money and I want this level that in 95 00:05:43,121 --> 00:05:46,081 Speaker 6: this position, and we deserve more pay. And you know, 96 00:05:46,201 --> 00:05:48,641 Speaker 6: all of these things has kind of put us into 97 00:05:48,641 --> 00:05:51,401 Speaker 6: our masculine to fight for these rights and this power. 98 00:05:51,561 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 6: So I think that some of the main reasons. 99 00:05:54,761 --> 00:05:59,601 Speaker 1: Why we obviously carry both our masculine and our feminine 100 00:05:59,681 --> 00:06:02,320 Speaker 1: energy at all times. How do you teach women to 101 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:04,001 Speaker 1: be able to embody both because I know when I 102 00:06:04,041 --> 00:06:06,801 Speaker 1: talk about this on social media and I say in 103 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 1: a way that like, oh, i feel like I'm running 104 00:06:08,801 --> 00:06:11,481 Speaker 1: more of my masculine and I'm go, go go, and 105 00:06:11,521 --> 00:06:13,640 Speaker 1: I'm deadlines and it just doesn't. 106 00:06:13,401 --> 00:06:14,121 Speaker 4: Feel as good. 107 00:06:14,161 --> 00:06:16,041 Speaker 1: I get quite a lot of pushback that they think 108 00:06:16,081 --> 00:06:19,440 Speaker 1: I'm putting down the masculine energy. But both energies, in 109 00:06:19,481 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: my opinion, are really really important. And my masculine energy 110 00:06:23,201 --> 00:06:25,161 Speaker 1: really serves me in my work life and it's super 111 00:06:25,241 --> 00:06:28,281 Speaker 1: important and it's beautiful. I love my masculine energy, but 112 00:06:28,320 --> 00:06:31,281 Speaker 1: I also love my feminine I just know at my core, 113 00:06:31,401 --> 00:06:33,400 Speaker 1: I'm more feminine. So when I'm running more of my 114 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:36,361 Speaker 1: masculine I don't feel as good. So how do you 115 00:06:36,841 --> 00:06:40,201 Speaker 1: help encourage and teach people to embody both energies. 116 00:06:40,601 --> 00:06:43,681 Speaker 6: Yeah, that's such a good question, and it's so interesting 117 00:06:43,681 --> 00:06:46,681 Speaker 6: that you get pushback on that because you know this 118 00:06:46,761 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 6: is your experience and you're finding that in a certain moment, 119 00:06:51,641 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 6: let's say at the end of the day, you're wanting 120 00:06:53,401 --> 00:06:56,841 Speaker 6: to connect with your partner that being in more in 121 00:06:56,880 --> 00:07:00,001 Speaker 6: that masculine doing and getting things done kind of mode 122 00:07:00,401 --> 00:07:04,081 Speaker 6: isn't quite serving you here. And that's really beautiful that 123 00:07:04,161 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 6: you've got that when and so you're absolutely right, like 124 00:07:08,121 --> 00:07:10,921 Speaker 6: we've got both within us and both serve us. You know, 125 00:07:11,001 --> 00:07:14,721 Speaker 6: we want to be able to think logistically and have 126 00:07:14,841 --> 00:07:18,921 Speaker 6: structure and be givers and doers. And these are more 127 00:07:19,041 --> 00:07:22,481 Speaker 6: what I would call like masculine energy traits. So I 128 00:07:22,521 --> 00:07:25,121 Speaker 6: think the way that you get to look at this 129 00:07:25,481 --> 00:07:28,881 Speaker 6: is kind of like a sliding scale, So say, feminine 130 00:07:28,961 --> 00:07:31,801 Speaker 6: energies on one end and masculine energies on the other. 131 00:07:32,241 --> 00:07:36,441 Speaker 6: It's like a mixer on like a DJ turntable or something, 132 00:07:36,441 --> 00:07:38,521 Speaker 6: and you get to kind of play with the mix 133 00:07:38,561 --> 00:07:41,601 Speaker 6: of it, and you know, what does this situation now 134 00:07:42,041 --> 00:07:43,721 Speaker 6: need of me? Do I need to be a little 135 00:07:43,761 --> 00:07:46,761 Speaker 6: bit more here or there? And where can I recognize 136 00:07:46,761 --> 00:07:49,001 Speaker 6: the button? The slider's kind of stuck here in this 137 00:07:49,241 --> 00:07:53,161 Speaker 6: point And maybe for some people they might be finding 138 00:07:53,201 --> 00:07:56,241 Speaker 6: that I'm too much in my feminine flow. I'm too 139 00:07:56,241 --> 00:07:58,121 Speaker 6: easy going, I'm not. 140 00:07:58,001 --> 00:08:01,201 Speaker 1: Really achieving my goals, like working towards them exactly. 141 00:08:01,641 --> 00:08:04,921 Speaker 3: Yeah, I find too that the more I tap into 142 00:08:05,241 --> 00:08:08,041 Speaker 3: feminine energy, the easier I find it. I feel like 143 00:08:08,161 --> 00:08:10,521 Speaker 3: now I'm finding it a lot easier than I did, say, 144 00:08:10,561 --> 00:08:13,361 Speaker 3: like six months ago, when I first started tapping into it. 145 00:08:13,601 --> 00:08:15,161 Speaker 3: So I thought, maybe you could give a few tips 146 00:08:15,201 --> 00:08:17,241 Speaker 3: of different ways that women can try to tap more 147 00:08:17,281 --> 00:08:18,321 Speaker 3: into this energy. 148 00:08:18,641 --> 00:08:22,081 Speaker 6: Yeah. Number one that comes to mind is slowing down. 149 00:08:22,481 --> 00:08:24,521 Speaker 6: And when I say slowing down, some people are like, 150 00:08:24,521 --> 00:08:26,361 Speaker 6: oh my god, I don't have enough time in the day. 151 00:08:26,681 --> 00:08:30,201 Speaker 6: But literally, it's internally and it can be taking three 152 00:08:30,321 --> 00:08:33,041 Speaker 6: D rests like we just did. It didn't take us 153 00:08:33,081 --> 00:08:35,961 Speaker 6: much time at all, and you just get to kind 154 00:08:36,001 --> 00:08:40,241 Speaker 6: of find some inner calm and slowness within yourself that 155 00:08:40,361 --> 00:08:43,401 Speaker 6: helps you feel safe in your body. Because again, to 156 00:08:43,521 --> 00:08:45,921 Speaker 6: be able to drop more into your feminine or tap 157 00:08:45,961 --> 00:08:47,601 Speaker 6: more into it, you need to be able to feel 158 00:08:47,641 --> 00:08:50,641 Speaker 6: safe in your body. And so you know, if you 159 00:08:50,681 --> 00:08:53,561 Speaker 6: think about it, in like cave man days, the man 160 00:08:53,721 --> 00:08:56,561 Speaker 6: was the protector and he's out there hunting and the 161 00:08:56,601 --> 00:08:59,281 Speaker 6: women kind of tending to the children, and you know 162 00:08:59,401 --> 00:09:01,201 Speaker 6: she needs to be protected in that so she can 163 00:09:01,241 --> 00:09:04,521 Speaker 6: mother and she can just focus on that. So when 164 00:09:04,601 --> 00:09:07,401 Speaker 6: we're talking about the energy of that, if we are 165 00:09:07,441 --> 00:09:10,041 Speaker 6: always on high alert and we're like, oh my gosh, 166 00:09:10,281 --> 00:09:12,041 Speaker 6: I need to get this and this and this done, 167 00:09:12,521 --> 00:09:14,441 Speaker 6: it makes it harder for us to tap into it. 168 00:09:14,521 --> 00:09:18,961 Speaker 6: So finding slowness and stillness within yourself to be able 169 00:09:19,001 --> 00:09:22,481 Speaker 6: to soften and drop more into your feminine Second tip 170 00:09:22,561 --> 00:09:26,001 Speaker 6: that I often give is having a look at how 171 00:09:26,481 --> 00:09:31,001 Speaker 6: you're feeling what are you wearing now? What you're wearing 172 00:09:31,081 --> 00:09:33,521 Speaker 6: doesn't determine what energy you're going to drop into. I 173 00:09:33,561 --> 00:09:36,841 Speaker 6: could be running around in active wear and be able 174 00:09:36,841 --> 00:09:39,601 Speaker 6: to drop into my feminine energy, right, But we have 175 00:09:39,761 --> 00:09:44,001 Speaker 6: kind of associated clothing with feminine and masculine. So if 176 00:09:44,041 --> 00:09:48,721 Speaker 6: you think that pinks and reds, or like soft silky materials, 177 00:09:48,881 --> 00:09:50,921 Speaker 6: or a skirt and a dress, like if that to 178 00:09:51,041 --> 00:09:54,041 Speaker 6: you is more feminine, have a look. Are you getting 179 00:09:54,041 --> 00:09:57,441 Speaker 6: around most of your day inactive wear or suits when 180 00:09:57,481 --> 00:10:00,561 Speaker 6: you're more in a masculine world, or what are you 181 00:10:00,641 --> 00:10:03,841 Speaker 6: wearing and at the end of the night, can you 182 00:10:04,201 --> 00:10:07,161 Speaker 6: pop something on that feels more feminine and It's just 183 00:10:07,201 --> 00:10:10,961 Speaker 6: like a little marker, a little QueQue yeah, for you 184 00:10:11,041 --> 00:10:13,321 Speaker 6: to be able to drop in. It's not like wearing 185 00:10:13,361 --> 00:10:16,841 Speaker 6: this makes you more feminine or gives you feminine energy, 186 00:10:17,041 --> 00:10:19,161 Speaker 6: but it's just a little mental yeah cute. 187 00:10:19,241 --> 00:10:21,681 Speaker 4: I absolutely love that because that is so true for me. 188 00:10:21,921 --> 00:10:22,441 Speaker 4: Like I think of. 189 00:10:22,481 --> 00:10:25,961 Speaker 1: Florals, I don't wear florals often all like flowy dresses 190 00:10:25,961 --> 00:10:28,121 Speaker 1: and skirts because I live in active wear and I 191 00:10:28,161 --> 00:10:30,721 Speaker 1: love working out. It's always active wear. So that tip 192 00:10:30,721 --> 00:10:33,201 Speaker 1: that you taught me was life changing, even at nighttime. 193 00:10:33,201 --> 00:10:35,361 Speaker 1: It was like I used to wear Steve's oversized shirt 194 00:10:35,401 --> 00:10:37,241 Speaker 1: to bed, and yes, that's so comfortable and great when 195 00:10:37,241 --> 00:10:40,441 Speaker 1: I'm tanning, but swapping that to a silky lacy ninety 196 00:10:40,561 --> 00:10:42,561 Speaker 1: or I wear a lot of robes now, and robes 197 00:10:42,601 --> 00:10:45,041 Speaker 1: are so comfortable. I just feel so feminine and cozy 198 00:10:45,081 --> 00:10:47,841 Speaker 1: and soft and like nice in them. And then even 199 00:10:48,041 --> 00:10:50,081 Speaker 1: you teach a lot about this too, but just instead 200 00:10:50,081 --> 00:10:53,001 Speaker 1: of just whacking on your skincare, like actually sitting down 201 00:10:53,001 --> 00:10:55,161 Speaker 1: in front of a mirror and taking your time applying 202 00:10:55,201 --> 00:10:57,881 Speaker 1: and like touching your body with your body oils and 203 00:10:57,921 --> 00:11:00,161 Speaker 1: your skin care. That's just so nice to Once again, 204 00:11:00,201 --> 00:11:02,321 Speaker 1: it slows you down, it connects with your body and 205 00:11:02,361 --> 00:11:04,801 Speaker 1: it just helps bring more of that beautiful energy into 206 00:11:04,841 --> 00:11:05,641 Speaker 1: your day to day. 207 00:11:05,921 --> 00:11:07,521 Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be hard to do this. 208 00:11:07,601 --> 00:11:10,561 Speaker 1: It's fine in those little micro moments that add up 209 00:11:10,601 --> 00:11:13,081 Speaker 1: over time and help you feel like that more often. 210 00:11:13,361 --> 00:11:16,321 Speaker 1: Then it becomes more natural too, because anyone listening might 211 00:11:16,361 --> 00:11:18,481 Speaker 1: be thinking like, oh, I'm so busy, I can't do that, 212 00:11:18,601 --> 00:11:20,641 Speaker 1: And it might feel really uncomfortable when you first start 213 00:11:20,641 --> 00:11:22,681 Speaker 1: doing it, but it's like anything, the more that you 214 00:11:22,761 --> 00:11:24,441 Speaker 1: do it, the more practice you do, the better you 215 00:11:24,441 --> 00:11:26,361 Speaker 1: get at it, and the more natural it does feel, 216 00:11:26,601 --> 00:11:27,761 Speaker 1: and then you'll enjoy it more. 217 00:11:28,001 --> 00:11:28,481 Speaker 4: Yeah. 218 00:11:28,521 --> 00:11:31,961 Speaker 6: Absolutely, And I'm a big one for especially with mammas 219 00:11:32,001 --> 00:11:35,841 Speaker 6: and busy mammas, giving those like little five minute quick Yes, 220 00:11:35,921 --> 00:11:39,361 Speaker 6: it's like this work doesn't have to be hours long 221 00:11:39,401 --> 00:11:42,841 Speaker 6: of breath work to create shift, you know, and even 222 00:11:42,921 --> 00:11:46,161 Speaker 6: just choosing floral underwear to wear if it's not like 223 00:11:46,201 --> 00:11:48,961 Speaker 6: your full entire outfit for the day, or there's nothing 224 00:11:49,001 --> 00:11:50,561 Speaker 6: that you think is femine that you want to wear, 225 00:11:50,961 --> 00:11:54,081 Speaker 6: you know, and yeah, you're right, it starts to feel easier. 226 00:11:54,241 --> 00:11:56,561 Speaker 6: And I think that was such a cool point that 227 00:11:56,601 --> 00:11:59,761 Speaker 6: you made as well about it. Getting easier for you because, 228 00:11:59,961 --> 00:12:02,401 Speaker 6: like we said before, being in your masculine, being in 229 00:12:02,441 --> 00:12:05,601 Speaker 6: the hustle, it's been so pedestaled and so so the 230 00:12:05,641 --> 00:12:08,401 Speaker 6: good girl in us all wants to be doing these things, 231 00:12:08,441 --> 00:12:11,081 Speaker 6: so it can feel hard. And I've had clients come 232 00:12:11,121 --> 00:12:13,001 Speaker 6: to me and be like, how can I drop more 233 00:12:13,001 --> 00:12:15,681 Speaker 6: into my feminine energy? But I'm scared that I'll lose 234 00:12:15,721 --> 00:12:18,481 Speaker 6: this other part of me. I'm scared that the hustle 235 00:12:18,561 --> 00:12:20,801 Speaker 6: and the thing that gets things done, or this part 236 00:12:20,801 --> 00:12:24,841 Speaker 6: of my personality everyone loves the like tomboy girl or 237 00:12:24,881 --> 00:12:27,761 Speaker 6: you know, like this part of me, I'm frad off, Yeah, 238 00:12:28,041 --> 00:12:31,281 Speaker 6: losing her. And that's where I get to tell you 239 00:12:31,321 --> 00:12:33,081 Speaker 6: that it's all gets to be a part of you. 240 00:12:33,161 --> 00:12:36,601 Speaker 6: When it's just in this situation. What's best going to 241 00:12:36,681 --> 00:12:39,161 Speaker 6: serve me? And do I need to play with that 242 00:12:39,201 --> 00:12:41,801 Speaker 6: little mixer? How can I do it? What's a tool 243 00:12:41,841 --> 00:12:42,761 Speaker 6: to help me tap into it? 244 00:12:42,801 --> 00:12:44,721 Speaker 1: You don't have to be in a box, right, And 245 00:12:44,761 --> 00:12:47,201 Speaker 1: I think different seasons like anything like if you're just 246 00:12:47,521 --> 00:12:48,921 Speaker 1: if you just had a baby, you're in a more 247 00:12:48,961 --> 00:12:51,601 Speaker 1: feminine season and era where you are slowing down and 248 00:12:51,601 --> 00:12:54,041 Speaker 1: you've got lots of skin to skin and breastfeeding, being 249 00:12:54,041 --> 00:12:56,121 Speaker 1: with your baby the whole time, or I know you've 250 00:12:56,201 --> 00:12:57,801 Speaker 1: kind of come out of all of that and you've 251 00:12:57,801 --> 00:13:00,641 Speaker 1: been more leaning into your self development and focusing on 252 00:13:00,681 --> 00:13:03,481 Speaker 1: your business. Like there's different seasons where you might sway 253 00:13:03,521 --> 00:13:05,841 Speaker 1: more into your masculine, sway more into your feminine, and 254 00:13:06,321 --> 00:13:08,961 Speaker 1: honor those and acknowledge them and enjoy them and be 255 00:13:09,001 --> 00:13:11,161 Speaker 1: proud of that. You can take the different hats off 256 00:13:11,201 --> 00:13:13,761 Speaker 1: when you need to, but it does take practice if 257 00:13:13,801 --> 00:13:16,361 Speaker 1: you've been running more in one to be able. 258 00:13:16,081 --> 00:13:17,721 Speaker 4: To tap into the other. 259 00:13:18,081 --> 00:13:21,761 Speaker 1: Yep, I'd love to dive into relationship dynamics because I 260 00:13:21,761 --> 00:13:24,761 Speaker 1: feel like anyone who's listening who's in a relationship, and 261 00:13:24,801 --> 00:13:26,681 Speaker 1: it's something just I see a lot in a lot 262 00:13:26,721 --> 00:13:28,281 Speaker 1: of forums that I'm in and just talking to a 263 00:13:28,281 --> 00:13:32,601 Speaker 1: lot of friends. I suppose in relationships that what happens 264 00:13:32,681 --> 00:13:35,281 Speaker 1: when the dynamic is both in their masculine or both 265 00:13:35,281 --> 00:13:39,361 Speaker 1: in their feminine, or say the feminine goes into her 266 00:13:39,401 --> 00:13:42,921 Speaker 1: masculine a lot, and then the masculine drops into is feminine, 267 00:13:42,921 --> 00:13:45,401 Speaker 1: and then it's like that polarity has really shifted, and 268 00:13:45,401 --> 00:13:48,001 Speaker 1: then that can really affect the relationship. Resentment starts to 269 00:13:48,001 --> 00:13:50,121 Speaker 1: build up, especially if they don't know how to communicate 270 00:13:50,121 --> 00:13:53,001 Speaker 1: all of that, Like, could you talk more about how 271 00:13:53,041 --> 00:13:56,081 Speaker 1: to bring them together in an intimate relationship. 272 00:13:56,761 --> 00:14:01,041 Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, that's such a good question, because obviously we 273 00:14:01,121 --> 00:14:03,401 Speaker 6: want to be attracting to each other, we want those 274 00:14:03,441 --> 00:14:07,601 Speaker 6: magnets the polarity to be there. I think that one 275 00:14:07,641 --> 00:14:09,841 Speaker 6: thing I would love to add to this whole conversation 276 00:14:10,201 --> 00:14:13,121 Speaker 6: is just reminding you that to be able to drop 277 00:14:13,121 --> 00:14:15,321 Speaker 6: into your feminine, you do need to feel safe. So 278 00:14:15,361 --> 00:14:19,281 Speaker 6: if you're in a season where let's say there's financial 279 00:14:19,321 --> 00:14:21,921 Speaker 6: troubles or you're trying to move house, or like you're 280 00:14:21,921 --> 00:14:24,441 Speaker 6: trying to get a business up and running, that is 281 00:14:24,561 --> 00:14:26,801 Speaker 6: feeling like, oh my gosh, I need to make this work, 282 00:14:26,801 --> 00:14:29,641 Speaker 6: and you're dropping more into your masculine. So true, and 283 00:14:29,681 --> 00:14:31,721 Speaker 6: it's going to take a lot more work to be 284 00:14:31,721 --> 00:14:33,721 Speaker 6: able to drop into your feminine. And if this is 285 00:14:33,801 --> 00:14:35,481 Speaker 6: new to you, you're gonna be like, why can't I 286 00:14:35,521 --> 00:14:38,401 Speaker 6: do it? Like this is so hard. Nurturing your nervous 287 00:14:38,401 --> 00:14:41,441 Speaker 6: system is going to be the first step, and just 288 00:14:41,601 --> 00:14:45,801 Speaker 6: recognizing what is going on here in my entire universe, 289 00:14:45,881 --> 00:14:49,761 Speaker 6: in my entire internal world, and zooming it back out 290 00:14:49,801 --> 00:14:52,281 Speaker 6: that This isn't like a meat and you problem, you know, 291 00:14:52,361 --> 00:14:55,121 Speaker 6: like you and your partner and how are you a 292 00:14:55,241 --> 00:14:58,041 Speaker 6: team here with this? And where you guys are rat 293 00:14:58,841 --> 00:15:01,801 Speaker 6: if there's nothing major going on and you're just finding that, Yeah, 294 00:15:01,881 --> 00:15:04,561 Speaker 6: our energies are you know, he's a lot more in 295 00:15:04,561 --> 00:15:07,881 Speaker 6: his femine. I'm a lot more of my masculine. You 296 00:15:07,961 --> 00:15:10,201 Speaker 6: get to have a look at how has things been 297 00:15:10,281 --> 00:15:13,761 Speaker 6: playing out the past six months, the past six years, 298 00:15:13,761 --> 00:15:19,481 Speaker 6: whatever it might be. Have you been leaning back, dropping 299 00:15:19,521 --> 00:15:24,321 Speaker 6: into your feminine, opening your heart and allowing him to 300 00:15:24,361 --> 00:15:28,361 Speaker 6: step into his masculine and to be more receiving to 301 00:15:28,481 --> 00:15:32,201 Speaker 6: that when he tries to make plans or he is 302 00:15:32,281 --> 00:15:35,121 Speaker 6: driving the car, are you quick to give directions? Are 303 00:15:35,161 --> 00:15:38,961 Speaker 6: you quick to take control? And just there gets to 304 00:15:39,001 --> 00:15:44,281 Speaker 6: be self reflection on this and where can you maybe 305 00:15:44,321 --> 00:15:46,721 Speaker 6: start to shift and change some of these things and 306 00:15:46,761 --> 00:15:49,481 Speaker 6: how you're showing up with your energy And the reason 307 00:15:49,521 --> 00:15:52,561 Speaker 6: why I lead here is because you can't go and 308 00:15:52,641 --> 00:15:56,681 Speaker 6: change your partner. You can also have conversations and talk 309 00:15:56,721 --> 00:15:58,761 Speaker 6: about your wants and needs and where you're at and 310 00:15:58,761 --> 00:16:02,201 Speaker 6: where you think the relationship's at. But even if there's 311 00:16:02,281 --> 00:16:04,601 Speaker 6: work for him to do, you can't force him, you 312 00:16:04,641 --> 00:16:07,641 Speaker 6: can't make so it's easiest just to start with how 313 00:16:07,681 --> 00:16:09,761 Speaker 6: am I showing up? You know? And this isn't to 314 00:16:09,761 --> 00:16:12,521 Speaker 6: bring any shame or guilt to you. This is just 315 00:16:12,601 --> 00:16:16,641 Speaker 6: to have inquiry, get curious. Yeah, you know, like, how 316 00:16:16,681 --> 00:16:20,161 Speaker 6: am I playing with this polarity field between us? And 317 00:16:20,401 --> 00:16:23,921 Speaker 6: am I doing it any justice? Am I doing any disservices? 318 00:16:24,321 --> 00:16:26,681 Speaker 6: That would probably be the first tip I would give 319 00:16:27,161 --> 00:16:30,081 Speaker 6: before even diving into full on conversations. 320 00:16:30,441 --> 00:16:33,561 Speaker 1: Yes, I absolutely love that because I think all of us, 321 00:16:33,601 --> 00:16:36,041 Speaker 1: if we're being true to ourselves, there's definitely moments that 322 00:16:36,081 --> 00:16:39,841 Speaker 1: we could drop into, you know, bossing them around or 323 00:16:39,881 --> 00:16:43,041 Speaker 1: criticizing how they're doing something, and that in itself is 324 00:16:43,121 --> 00:16:45,001 Speaker 1: just not going to do any good to your relationship. 325 00:16:45,361 --> 00:16:48,241 Speaker 1: But like you said, it comes back to us regulating 326 00:16:48,281 --> 00:16:50,521 Speaker 1: our own nervous system, getting back to our own body 327 00:16:50,521 --> 00:16:52,361 Speaker 1: to be able to see clear on how we're showing 328 00:16:52,441 --> 00:16:54,401 Speaker 1: up and how we can do things better. And yeah, 329 00:16:54,401 --> 00:16:56,721 Speaker 1: there's no shame around it, because we all drop in 330 00:16:56,761 --> 00:16:59,601 Speaker 1: there and we're human and humans are messy. But having 331 00:16:59,641 --> 00:17:01,961 Speaker 1: the awareness and having conversations like this to have the 332 00:17:02,001 --> 00:17:04,120 Speaker 1: knowledge around it, when you know more, you can do 333 00:17:04,241 --> 00:17:06,561 Speaker 1: more So that's such a good step to just anyone 334 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:09,601 Speaker 1: listening to be like, oh, okay, I was just blaming 335 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:12,041 Speaker 1: him for being too feminine, not taking charge and not 336 00:17:12,120 --> 00:17:14,801 Speaker 1: doing this. It's like, okay, well, how have I contributed 337 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:17,120 Speaker 1: to that? What can I do to sit back and 338 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:18,961 Speaker 1: allow him to step into that? And how can I 339 00:17:19,041 --> 00:17:21,801 Speaker 1: be more feminine and soften and be open to receiving 340 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,761 Speaker 1: such a good tip. Yeah, I love that for too. 341 00:17:24,801 --> 00:17:27,080 Speaker 3: How you spoke about you need to feel safe to 342 00:17:27,201 --> 00:17:30,120 Speaker 3: tap into your feminine energy. Do you feel like that 343 00:17:30,201 --> 00:17:33,041 Speaker 3: kind of goes hand in hand as well with childhood trauma? 344 00:17:33,120 --> 00:17:34,801 Speaker 3: How he kind of spoke about in a child in 345 00:17:34,801 --> 00:17:38,520 Speaker 3: our previous episode. Can that affect us as well, tapping 346 00:17:38,521 --> 00:17:41,041 Speaker 3: into that energy more and kind of feel safer to 347 00:17:41,080 --> 00:17:42,001 Speaker 3: be the protector and. 348 00:17:41,961 --> 00:17:44,361 Speaker 5: Be looking after ourselves because we might not have had 349 00:17:44,360 --> 00:17:45,321 Speaker 5: that in our childhood. 350 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:49,680 Speaker 6: Yeah, absolutely definitely, And that's exactly what I'm talking about, 351 00:17:49,721 --> 00:17:52,840 Speaker 6: feeling safe and at any given time, how safe you 352 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:56,120 Speaker 6: feel in your body. Your childhood trauma or experiences in 353 00:17:56,160 --> 00:17:58,041 Speaker 6: the past is going to play such a big part 354 00:17:58,041 --> 00:18:01,521 Speaker 6: in that. So that's why this work is so layered 355 00:18:01,721 --> 00:18:05,281 Speaker 6: and so nuanced. It's like it all goes hand in hand, 356 00:18:05,041 --> 00:18:08,000 Speaker 6: and it all kind of connects to each other and 357 00:18:08,360 --> 00:18:11,640 Speaker 6: usually comes back to this inner child and past experiences 358 00:18:11,721 --> 00:18:14,960 Speaker 6: or past traumas. So getting to work and having a 359 00:18:15,001 --> 00:18:17,521 Speaker 6: look at and unpacking those things, having a look at 360 00:18:17,561 --> 00:18:21,641 Speaker 6: what the relationships were like with your father and your 361 00:18:21,681 --> 00:18:24,720 Speaker 6: first boyfriends and partners, and how you were treated and 362 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:27,160 Speaker 6: where you might have got stuck in a flight of 363 00:18:27,241 --> 00:18:31,120 Speaker 6: fight mode from somewhere else. You know, I've experienced in 364 00:18:31,201 --> 00:18:35,360 Speaker 6: my own life being in a fight or flight response 365 00:18:35,481 --> 00:18:39,761 Speaker 6: in a situation with my partner and realizing this is 366 00:18:39,801 --> 00:18:43,281 Speaker 6: actually residual from a past relationship and I'm not dealing 367 00:18:43,321 --> 00:18:45,761 Speaker 6: with that same man. This is a different man I'm 368 00:18:45,761 --> 00:18:49,201 Speaker 6: dealing with. So I'm feeling all of this whatever, I'm 369 00:18:49,201 --> 00:18:52,440 Speaker 6: feeling this heightened state, and in the moment it's directed 370 00:18:52,681 --> 00:18:55,921 Speaker 6: at my partner. When you can take two seconds and 371 00:18:55,961 --> 00:18:58,240 Speaker 6: you can breathe, and you can stop and pause, you 372 00:18:58,281 --> 00:19:00,761 Speaker 6: can realize, actually, this is a lot of what I'm 373 00:19:00,761 --> 00:19:03,681 Speaker 6: feeling how I used to feel in this past relationship. 374 00:19:03,921 --> 00:19:06,801 Speaker 6: So this is mine, This is my own stuff, and 375 00:19:07,481 --> 00:19:10,321 Speaker 6: I get to work on that and come back to 376 00:19:10,360 --> 00:19:14,281 Speaker 6: the conversation or come back to the relationship. In a softer, 377 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:18,720 Speaker 6: more open, more loving, more compassionate kind of state. 378 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: I guess I love that because it's like, in the moment, 379 00:19:22,281 --> 00:19:24,360 Speaker 1: you have a choice there to step back and take 380 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:28,160 Speaker 1: a breath and take responsibility and take your time. But 381 00:19:28,201 --> 00:19:30,400 Speaker 1: then in the biggest scheme of things, you also have 382 00:19:30,441 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: a choice to get a coach or you know, however, 383 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:35,600 Speaker 1: you choose to do the work to unpack that stuff 384 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:37,360 Speaker 1: so it doesn't have to keep showing up like that. 385 00:19:37,681 --> 00:19:39,600 Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, that's really powerful. 386 00:19:39,921 --> 00:19:43,200 Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, that is the work. It's recognizing it in 387 00:19:43,241 --> 00:19:45,480 Speaker 6: the moments and seeing if you can do different. And 388 00:19:45,521 --> 00:19:48,321 Speaker 6: then also there's the feeling part of it, the back 389 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:50,921 Speaker 6: end part of it, the heavy lifting part, so you can, 390 00:19:50,961 --> 00:19:53,001 Speaker 6: like you said, clear it and it doesn't keep repeating 391 00:19:53,041 --> 00:19:55,321 Speaker 6: with these things that we're like, oh this keeps happening, 392 00:19:55,400 --> 00:19:58,001 Speaker 6: or I keep I hold a grudgual day after we've 393 00:19:58,001 --> 00:20:00,241 Speaker 6: had an argument and why do I do that? And 394 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:03,521 Speaker 6: why can't I change that? And next time I'll try better, 395 00:20:03,681 --> 00:20:06,481 Speaker 6: And you know, we try, and we try and try, 396 00:20:06,681 --> 00:20:09,521 Speaker 6: but until we clear the why we're doing it, it 397 00:20:09,561 --> 00:20:10,321 Speaker 6: can be difficult. 398 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,281 Speaker 1: It can be hard, and you know what, I love 399 00:20:12,281 --> 00:20:13,960 Speaker 1: that to taking it step back and I feel like 400 00:20:13,961 --> 00:20:16,041 Speaker 1: you've obviously got done a lot of this work, and 401 00:20:16,041 --> 00:20:16,880 Speaker 1: you've gotten really good. 402 00:20:16,801 --> 00:20:19,200 Speaker 4: At being able to just go hang on a second. 403 00:20:19,201 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 1: I just need some breath if you're not quite at 404 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:23,801 Speaker 1: that point, because I know for me sometimes if I 405 00:20:23,801 --> 00:20:26,920 Speaker 1: get in a heated discussion with my husband, I'll need 406 00:20:26,961 --> 00:20:29,360 Speaker 1: a couple of hours. I don't like that saying it's like, oh, 407 00:20:29,360 --> 00:20:31,401 Speaker 1: I never go to bed angry, but sometimes you can 408 00:20:31,441 --> 00:20:33,521 Speaker 1: go to bed and just have the night to sleep 409 00:20:33,521 --> 00:20:35,360 Speaker 1: on it process. It takes some time out the next 410 00:20:35,441 --> 00:20:37,241 Speaker 1: day to get in the sun or journal or whatever. 411 00:20:37,681 --> 00:20:40,241 Speaker 1: Take your time to regulate yourself before you go back 412 00:20:40,241 --> 00:20:42,361 Speaker 1: to the conversation, because otherwise you're going to go back 413 00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:46,121 Speaker 1: in reacting instead of responding, and you might go back 414 00:20:46,120 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: into that old pattern of then criticizing and mothering and 415 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:50,961 Speaker 1: putting them down, rather than coming from a beautiful feminine 416 00:20:50,961 --> 00:20:55,961 Speaker 1: state which is more love and really soft energy and calm. 417 00:20:56,321 --> 00:20:58,201 Speaker 3: I saw on your Instagram the other day you even 418 00:20:58,201 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 3: talking about nervous system regulation. 419 00:21:00,360 --> 00:21:01,321 Speaker 5: So much of this. 420 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,561 Speaker 3: Work all goes hand in hand, which I'm discovering which 421 00:21:04,561 --> 00:21:06,521 Speaker 3: I didn't really think. Like you hear of inner child work, 422 00:21:06,521 --> 00:21:08,080 Speaker 3: and then you hear of feminine energy. Then you hear 423 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:10,920 Speaker 3: of regulating your nervous system. And for me personally, I 424 00:21:10,921 --> 00:21:14,961 Speaker 3: didn't actually realize in my mind that it all really 425 00:21:15,001 --> 00:21:16,081 Speaker 3: does work together. 426 00:21:16,961 --> 00:21:17,681 Speaker 4: It's so true. 427 00:21:17,721 --> 00:21:20,321 Speaker 1: Even like your physical, your mental, or emotion, your spiritual, 428 00:21:20,360 --> 00:21:23,600 Speaker 1: they're all interconnected and they all do this beautiful dance together. 429 00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:25,920 Speaker 1: But for some reason we separate them. But they actually 430 00:21:25,961 --> 00:21:27,201 Speaker 1: all work so nicely together. 431 00:21:27,561 --> 00:21:31,840 Speaker 6: Yeah, we're such complex beings and our brains can't even 432 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:35,121 Speaker 6: keep up, so it tries to compartmentalize everything and give 433 00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:37,801 Speaker 6: labels to things and box things in just to help 434 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:39,841 Speaker 6: us cope with Like, Okay, I need to look here. 435 00:21:39,840 --> 00:21:43,480 Speaker 6: I need to look there, looking at our body and 436 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:47,080 Speaker 6: our spirit and our energy and our emotions and our 437 00:21:47,120 --> 00:21:51,440 Speaker 6: being a lot of our nervous system, and the state 438 00:21:51,521 --> 00:21:54,521 Speaker 6: that we're in, whether we're in flight flight or if 439 00:21:54,521 --> 00:21:57,881 Speaker 6: we're more calm, or just however we be, how safe 440 00:21:57,921 --> 00:22:01,160 Speaker 6: we feel in our body, That is going to determine 441 00:22:01,360 --> 00:22:03,521 Speaker 6: what choices we make from there. That is going to 442 00:22:03,521 --> 00:22:06,521 Speaker 6: determine how triggered we are, going to determine how we're 443 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:09,561 Speaker 6: able to be confident or have boundaries, and that is 444 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:11,921 Speaker 6: going to be based on how we were treated as 445 00:22:11,921 --> 00:22:15,041 Speaker 6: a child, or what we're currently experiencing, what season of 446 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:17,881 Speaker 6: life we're in. So a lot of it comes back 447 00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:21,201 Speaker 6: to nervous system and our past traumas. You know, why 448 00:22:21,281 --> 00:22:23,920 Speaker 6: we show up today, why we can or can't change 449 00:22:23,961 --> 00:22:26,681 Speaker 6: things or shift things, or why we're not going after 450 00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:30,041 Speaker 6: our dreams, or why we're feeling like we're just surviving 451 00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:33,120 Speaker 6: and not thriving. I think bringing it all back to 452 00:22:33,201 --> 00:22:36,721 Speaker 6: nervous system and seeing how it's all connected from there, 453 00:22:37,120 --> 00:22:39,761 Speaker 6: it's really powerful to recognize. 454 00:22:39,281 --> 00:22:42,880 Speaker 1: That nervous system's almost like the foundation for everything though Hey, yeah, 455 00:22:43,120 --> 00:22:46,561 Speaker 1: kind of helps lead where you want to go, or 456 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,521 Speaker 1: sometimes if you're not regulated, then it takes you where 457 00:22:48,521 --> 00:22:49,120 Speaker 1: you don't want to go. 458 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,961 Speaker 6: Yeah, because then you're just you're unconscious, You're running around 459 00:22:53,041 --> 00:22:56,041 Speaker 6: and your body is making decisions based on how it feels, 460 00:22:56,441 --> 00:22:59,081 Speaker 6: rather than our cognitive mind being like actually I want 461 00:22:59,120 --> 00:23:01,481 Speaker 6: to do this, yes, Or have you ever said something 462 00:23:01,561 --> 00:23:03,041 Speaker 6: and being like, oh, I wish I didn't say that. 463 00:23:03,120 --> 00:23:04,881 Speaker 6: I was a bit heated in the moment, and it's 464 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:07,761 Speaker 6: like your body is just in this sphere or projecting 465 00:23:07,801 --> 00:23:10,640 Speaker 6: and it's just doing. So we want to start to 466 00:23:10,761 --> 00:23:13,321 Speaker 6: learn to allow our minds to run the show and 467 00:23:13,360 --> 00:23:16,521 Speaker 6: our life and take that control. And that's why we 468 00:23:16,561 --> 00:23:18,841 Speaker 6: talk so much about pause and breath before we do, 469 00:23:19,281 --> 00:23:21,921 Speaker 6: because you're giving your brain a minute to go hold on, 470 00:23:22,041 --> 00:23:24,001 Speaker 6: this is how I want to react, or this is 471 00:23:24,041 --> 00:23:28,521 Speaker 6: how I want to have a situation. You've got choice exactly? 472 00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:31,401 Speaker 1: Would you find that most women that you coach this 473 00:23:31,441 --> 00:23:33,600 Speaker 1: is something that they're struggling with. It's a pretty common 474 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 1: thing that you're dealing with. 475 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 6: Yeah, definitely, this is the root of it all. You know, 476 00:23:38,961 --> 00:23:41,720 Speaker 6: if someone is feeling stuck and they don't know what 477 00:23:41,721 --> 00:23:44,400 Speaker 6: their purpose in life is. I bring it back to 478 00:23:44,481 --> 00:23:47,481 Speaker 6: nervous system regulation because it's the more that you feel 479 00:23:47,521 --> 00:23:49,441 Speaker 6: safe in your body, the more you get to know it. 480 00:23:49,921 --> 00:23:52,281 Speaker 6: You get to know what do I like, what don't 481 00:23:52,281 --> 00:23:55,440 Speaker 6: I like before the world tells me. And because a 482 00:23:55,441 --> 00:23:57,080 Speaker 6: lot of us feel like, oh, I can't make that 483 00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,561 Speaker 6: decision because so and so will think this of me 484 00:23:59,761 --> 00:24:01,920 Speaker 6: or that of me, you're thinking so much outside of 485 00:24:01,961 --> 00:24:05,521 Speaker 6: yourself because you don't have the safety within to trust 486 00:24:05,561 --> 00:24:09,240 Speaker 6: yourself within. So, whether it's that or wanting to be 487 00:24:09,281 --> 00:24:11,801 Speaker 6: calm in parenthood and how you react to your children, 488 00:24:12,001 --> 00:24:14,001 Speaker 6: or if you want to drop into your feminine energy 489 00:24:14,041 --> 00:24:16,721 Speaker 6: with your partner, and you know, these are the common 490 00:24:16,801 --> 00:24:20,121 Speaker 6: things that women are wanting to shift and change, and 491 00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:24,360 Speaker 6: it's yeah, or comes back to that foundation of nervous system. 492 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:25,721 Speaker 5: Something I'd love to know as well. 493 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,880 Speaker 3: Have you seen any changes in people's health as well, 494 00:24:28,921 --> 00:24:30,721 Speaker 3: because we haven't really tapped into that. But I'm someone 495 00:24:30,761 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 3: who has struggled a lot with my periods and a 496 00:24:33,120 --> 00:24:36,321 Speaker 3: big thing I've been doing is delving more into nervous 497 00:24:36,321 --> 00:24:39,921 Speaker 3: system regulation. But my periods are really like changing. 498 00:24:40,721 --> 00:24:41,601 Speaker 5: It's really crazy. 499 00:24:41,761 --> 00:24:45,321 Speaker 6: Absolutely. I think that when your body is feeling more 500 00:24:45,360 --> 00:24:49,001 Speaker 6: safe and regulated, then it's operating more optimally physically. It 501 00:24:49,041 --> 00:24:53,561 Speaker 6: doesn't have as much information information cortisol, like your hormones 502 00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 6: affected massively when it comes to that side of things, 503 00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,480 Speaker 6: because when you're in fight and flight, you think about it, 504 00:24:59,521 --> 00:25:02,201 Speaker 6: your body is trying to get away from a danger. 505 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:06,481 Speaker 6: It's like adrenaline and all of the hormones a running differently, 506 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,840 Speaker 6: or your body thinks, oh, it's no time for me 507 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:10,681 Speaker 6: to have a period. Now I've got to run away 508 00:25:10,681 --> 00:25:14,401 Speaker 6: from the tiger. True, so your body is always being affected, 509 00:25:14,441 --> 00:25:18,961 Speaker 6: and I think also learning about our feminine and connecting 510 00:25:19,001 --> 00:25:22,640 Speaker 6: with ourselves in that way, loving on ourselves and loving 511 00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:25,400 Speaker 6: on our feminine and connecting more with our periods and 512 00:25:25,441 --> 00:25:28,561 Speaker 6: our cycles and our yoni and our womb and all 513 00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,401 Speaker 6: of these things, and honoring all those parts of us 514 00:25:31,681 --> 00:25:34,561 Speaker 6: instead of feeling the shame and these things that so 515 00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:37,161 Speaker 6: many women have grown up with. It allows it all 516 00:25:37,201 --> 00:25:40,400 Speaker 6: to just flow and to be and to work in harmony. 517 00:25:40,521 --> 00:25:43,921 Speaker 6: And there's that word again, flow like the feminine energy 518 00:25:43,961 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 6: and women talk about humans being complex beings, like women 519 00:25:47,961 --> 00:25:51,961 Speaker 6: just are, like we're like an entire universe within us, 520 00:25:52,001 --> 00:25:56,561 Speaker 6: like we create life, and when things are feeling stagnant 521 00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:59,680 Speaker 6: in our body, in our internal world, it's going to 522 00:25:59,721 --> 00:26:05,241 Speaker 6: show up in our body too. And physically, yeah, yeah. 523 00:26:03,801 --> 00:26:06,321 Speaker 1: I thought to wrap up the episode to be really cool, 524 00:26:06,360 --> 00:26:09,121 Speaker 1: if we can all share some things that have really 525 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,760 Speaker 1: helped us tap more back into our feminine energy. 526 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:13,041 Speaker 4: I can start if you like. 527 00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:16,401 Speaker 1: I feel like something that's really helped me is being 528 00:26:16,441 --> 00:26:19,240 Speaker 1: really mindful of who I spend my energy with. And 529 00:26:19,321 --> 00:26:21,161 Speaker 1: I felt like the last couple of years, I've been 530 00:26:21,360 --> 00:26:24,801 Speaker 1: wanting to surround myself with more feminine women and women 531 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,041 Speaker 1: who have like a really beautiful, healthy relationship with their 532 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,281 Speaker 1: energy because I think for so long, and I'm speaking 533 00:26:30,281 --> 00:26:31,880 Speaker 1: about this a lot on the podcast at the moment. 534 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:35,041 Speaker 1: Is how I have been so of my masculine and 535 00:26:35,840 --> 00:26:40,960 Speaker 1: goals and hustling and business and structure and deadlines and 536 00:26:41,001 --> 00:26:44,001 Speaker 1: managing a team, and I'd loved it, and it's worked 537 00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,200 Speaker 1: until it hasn't worked until I haven't enjoyed it, And 538 00:26:46,201 --> 00:26:48,401 Speaker 1: that's at this point in my life. So I'm definitely 539 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: wanting to lean more into my feminine energy and. 540 00:26:51,281 --> 00:26:52,400 Speaker 4: That's a process for me. 541 00:26:52,561 --> 00:26:56,041 Speaker 1: But surrounding myself and being around women that are really 542 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,880 Speaker 1: in touch with their feminine has helped not normalize it, 543 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,120 Speaker 1: but just helped it feel more flowy and easy and 544 00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:04,680 Speaker 1: feel nice and feel more natural. And that's really helped me. 545 00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 1: Another thing has been dancing. He's a dances little girl, 546 00:27:08,201 --> 00:27:10,801 Speaker 1: and Steve always says, you can tell I'm happy when 547 00:27:10,801 --> 00:27:11,720 Speaker 1: I'm dancing and singing. 548 00:27:12,001 --> 00:27:14,041 Speaker 4: But going to heels dance. 549 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:17,840 Speaker 1: Classes it's so sexy and feminine and slowy and juicy 550 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:21,721 Speaker 1: and yummy. Yeah, it's so awesome. My next step is 551 00:27:21,761 --> 00:27:24,121 Speaker 1: to like wear lingerie to a dance class. I want 552 00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:25,840 Speaker 1: to go do like a teas class. Always just on 553 00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,600 Speaker 1: the heels classes, but that's like my next out of 554 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:31,920 Speaker 1: comfort zone, but like next level dancing. But that fills 555 00:27:32,001 --> 00:27:33,840 Speaker 1: up my cup for the whole week. I feel like 556 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:35,721 Speaker 1: by the next time it comes around, I'm like ready 557 00:27:35,721 --> 00:27:38,360 Speaker 1: for more of that juiciness. But that's really helped me. 558 00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,041 Speaker 1: And another thing that really helps me day to day 559 00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:43,561 Speaker 1: is the music I listen to, like I love really 560 00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:47,521 Speaker 1: like slow, girly, like just soft music that helps me 561 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,401 Speaker 1: be in that energy for longer as well. So they're 562 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,360 Speaker 1: probably my top three main ones as well as they're 563 00:27:51,360 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 1: wearing the ninety at nine or robes and the moisturizing 564 00:27:54,281 --> 00:27:56,720 Speaker 1: creams and just taking time to be and feel and 565 00:27:56,801 --> 00:27:57,521 Speaker 1: touch my own. 566 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,400 Speaker 4: Body, so they've bit my top tips. 567 00:27:59,761 --> 00:28:04,281 Speaker 3: Mine is just really tuning in, really listening to my intuition, 568 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,281 Speaker 3: checking myself regularly throughout the day and being like. 569 00:28:07,241 --> 00:28:08,481 Speaker 5: How does this feel right now? 570 00:28:08,801 --> 00:28:11,561 Speaker 3: Even with say like deadlines and things for work, I 571 00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:13,600 Speaker 3: used to feel like I just had to get everything done, 572 00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:15,440 Speaker 3: especially on a Monday morning. I would get in and 573 00:28:15,481 --> 00:28:17,440 Speaker 3: be like, oh my gosh, there's so much here, And 574 00:28:17,481 --> 00:28:20,921 Speaker 3: now I'm like, mah, just leave it to Wednesday, leave 575 00:28:20,921 --> 00:28:23,080 Speaker 3: it till Thursday. Like create space when you feel like 576 00:28:23,120 --> 00:28:24,641 Speaker 3: you've got space, because Mondays. 577 00:28:24,360 --> 00:28:25,961 Speaker 5: Are always just a really busy day. 578 00:28:26,441 --> 00:28:28,720 Speaker 3: And another thing that I actually read about that I 579 00:28:28,721 --> 00:28:31,360 Speaker 3: feel has really helped is tapping into my senses, which 580 00:28:31,400 --> 00:28:33,440 Speaker 3: is like an easy little thing, so like before you 581 00:28:33,441 --> 00:28:35,720 Speaker 3: eat a delicious, yummy meal, taking the hover to like 582 00:28:35,921 --> 00:28:39,961 Speaker 3: breathe it all in and smell all in its full florals, 583 00:28:40,001 --> 00:28:42,561 Speaker 3: like visualizations, like different things that you know just look 584 00:28:42,601 --> 00:28:44,921 Speaker 3: really pretty for me to have more of that in 585 00:28:44,921 --> 00:28:47,201 Speaker 3: my life, putting on beautiful hideaway creams because it makes 586 00:28:47,281 --> 00:28:50,081 Speaker 3: me smell nice and I'm touching my body, So yeah, 587 00:28:50,201 --> 00:28:51,721 Speaker 3: leaning into my senses, I think. 588 00:28:52,441 --> 00:28:54,001 Speaker 1: And then you mentioned that with the clothes through like 589 00:28:54,081 --> 00:28:57,361 Speaker 1: silky different materials or nice fluffy blankets at night, or 590 00:28:57,401 --> 00:28:58,201 Speaker 1: the robes. 591 00:28:57,921 --> 00:29:00,321 Speaker 4: That feel all like cloud like, since this is a 592 00:29:00,401 --> 00:29:02,321 Speaker 4: nice one. That's cool and. 593 00:29:02,281 --> 00:29:03,641 Speaker 5: Probably last one be reading. 594 00:29:04,281 --> 00:29:07,401 Speaker 3: I think, especially when I read about this stuff, it 595 00:29:07,561 --> 00:29:10,000 Speaker 3: makes me more aware and makes you know, the more 596 00:29:10,041 --> 00:29:12,561 Speaker 3: you learn and concentrate and focus on things, the more 597 00:29:12,601 --> 00:29:15,961 Speaker 3: you tap into and following accounts that you know feminine 598 00:29:16,041 --> 00:29:19,401 Speaker 3: energy accounts. One little thing as well is I bought 599 00:29:19,441 --> 00:29:21,921 Speaker 3: these little bracelets that are rose courts and straw records 600 00:29:21,961 --> 00:29:23,641 Speaker 3: for me to wear on my wrists just to remind me. 601 00:29:23,681 --> 00:29:25,161 Speaker 3: So every time I look down or I hear them, 602 00:29:25,521 --> 00:29:28,561 Speaker 3: I'm like, okay, you know, like tap into that feminine energy. 603 00:29:28,601 --> 00:29:29,521 Speaker 5: So it just reminds me. 604 00:29:29,681 --> 00:29:31,041 Speaker 4: I love that. That's so cute. 605 00:29:31,241 --> 00:29:36,241 Speaker 6: Yeah, I love that. One of my go tos is play. 606 00:29:36,481 --> 00:29:39,801 Speaker 6: So anything that can help me tap into that playfulness, 607 00:29:39,841 --> 00:29:44,001 Speaker 6: that joy, because that's light, that's fun, that's flirty, that's 608 00:29:44,681 --> 00:29:48,841 Speaker 6: juicy and yummy. So whether it be getting silly with 609 00:29:49,001 --> 00:29:52,641 Speaker 6: sunny my daughter, or thinking of a fun date night 610 00:29:52,681 --> 00:29:55,761 Speaker 6: to do with thor or having a girl's day, or 611 00:29:55,841 --> 00:29:58,321 Speaker 6: just how can I be more played to my day? 612 00:29:58,681 --> 00:30:00,641 Speaker 4: Love that. It's such a helpful tip. 613 00:30:00,681 --> 00:30:03,481 Speaker 1: I think as adults we sometimes forget that we can play. 614 00:30:03,561 --> 00:30:04,161 Speaker 6: Get to play. 615 00:30:04,281 --> 00:30:06,121 Speaker 1: Yeah, that we get to I feel like kids are 616 00:30:06,121 --> 00:30:07,801 Speaker 1: the best of that. They really bring you back into 617 00:30:07,841 --> 00:30:10,561 Speaker 1: it because they lost all about play. For them, it's 618 00:30:10,561 --> 00:30:12,281 Speaker 1: the best thing they're having kids. They really bring it 619 00:30:12,321 --> 00:30:12,601 Speaker 1: back in. 620 00:30:13,321 --> 00:30:15,001 Speaker 4: Yeah. Oh, thank you so much. 621 00:30:14,881 --> 00:30:17,001 Speaker 5: For joining us, Thank you for having me. 622 00:30:17,601 --> 00:30:19,401 Speaker 1: We will leave all of your details in the show 623 00:30:19,401 --> 00:30:21,601 Speaker 1: notes if anyone wants to connect with you and work 624 00:30:21,641 --> 00:30:23,401 Speaker 1: with you or just learn more from you, or pop 625 00:30:23,441 --> 00:30:23,881 Speaker 1: that below. 626 00:30:24,001 --> 00:30:25,561 Speaker 5: Thank you, Thank you.