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Speaker 2: Right. It's all about the thought, isn't it.
Speaker 3: It is today we're talking about dating apps. We were
Speaker 3: talking the other day and we realized that every single
Speaker 3: guest we've had on in the relationship kind of area.
Speaker 3: So whether realms should we say everyone in the relationship realm,
Speaker 3: whether they be confidence coaches, whether they be dating experts,
Speaker 3: whether they be sex coaches. They've all said the same thing,
Speaker 3: and that is that dating apps are so important when
Speaker 3: dating at the moment in this day and age, because
Speaker 3: anyone who's single, usually at some point in their single time,
Speaker 3: is going on dating apps and it's just a really
Speaker 3: great way to meet people. Map.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So, I mean there's a bunch of what I reckon.
Speaker 2: Every single person, at some point, like you said, a
Speaker 2: pass in their single realm of being single, get jumped
Speaker 2: on one of these apps to see what's out there
Speaker 2: in their local area, or sometimes I might even download
Speaker 2: it and put their location where they're traveling.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I was about to say some of my best
Speaker 3: dating app experiences have been when I've gone on holiday
Speaker 3: and I've been like, let's see who's in the area
Speaker 3: whilst I'm on holiday.
Speaker 1: Like I remember when Josh and I first broke up.
Speaker 3: I went to Hamilton Island with my family and I
Speaker 3: actually put my location there like.
Speaker 1: A week before arriving.
Speaker 2: You get any matches or Yeah?
Speaker 1: I actually ended up seeing a guy from Queensland. You'll
Speaker 1: probably remember him.
Speaker 3: But yeah, great way to meet people, especially if you
Speaker 3: know you're on an international holiday.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're in Bali. I know Bali dating apps go off.
Speaker 3: I know that on TikTok people go on about how
Speaker 3: the guys inner on dating apps are like to die for.
Speaker 3: They're all like ten out of ten models, and they're
Speaker 3: like on their dating apps being like, am I like
Speaker 3: looking through like a model catalog? Apparrently they're just that
Speaker 3: good looking. I wouldn't know, but that's what I've heard.
Speaker 2: Do you still have to pay to get the experience
Speaker 2: of traveling and moving your thing to different while you're
Speaker 2: in a different suburb.
Speaker 1: I've never paid anything on a dating app, have you?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I pay for a premium, coming from someone that
Speaker 2: has never actually met up with someone off a dating.
Speaker 1: Apps, So what does a premium give you?
Speaker 2: This is going years back. Unlimited swipes, unlimited super likes, maybe.
Speaker 1: Oh, okay, how many super likes are you handing out?
Speaker 3: I have a question, actually, go on fireway okay, if
Speaker 3: you're giving a super like to someone, is that coming
Speaker 3: across too keen?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like you want to kind
Speaker 1: of play it cool initially when you.
Speaker 2: First meet you want do you want it?
Speaker 1: But if you really want to stand out because you're
Speaker 1: in a dating.
Speaker 2: App, I don't know. I think I guess it could
Speaker 2: come down to a lot of things, and I reckon
Speaker 2: it would come down to the other person's personality. If
Speaker 2: I saw a super like, I'd go, oh, they're keen.
Speaker 3: Yes, I would I I'd go When I was on
Speaker 3: dating apps and a guy would like super like me,
Speaker 3: I was like too much?
Speaker 2: Yeah, is that bad? No, I'm the same. But then
Speaker 2: if I was giving out a super like, I'd be like, oh,
Speaker 2: well this is I'm not keen, this is like they'll understand,
Speaker 2: but they're probably like, fuck, this guy's key.
Speaker 3: So dating apps is so much to talk about. So
Speaker 3: let's just jump straight in, shall we.
Speaker 2: Let's do it? Don't Well, we know you've been on
Speaker 2: dating apps. You go a band from Bumble.
Speaker 1: That was banned from Bumble.
Speaker 2: You met Michael on Hinge. Yep, what's your opinion on
Speaker 2: dating apps?
Speaker 3: I mean, I think they're so positive. I have a
Speaker 3: couple of single friends, and I am the biggest advocate
Speaker 3: for dating apps because I just feel like they're so
Speaker 3: valued in what way, Well, it's highlighting the people who
Speaker 3: were single and who were like looking to meet someone. Obviously,
Speaker 3: every dating app, in my opinion, is for something different,
Speaker 3: Like I.
Speaker 1: Feel like Tinder is more about sex. But I could
Speaker 1: be wrong.
Speaker 3: This is just like obviously I haven't been on dating
Speaker 3: apps for a couple of years now because I've been
Speaker 3: in a relationship. But in my opinion, Hinde is kind
Speaker 3: of like the app that you go on, I guess
Speaker 3: to meet a boyfriend. I would say Tinder is more
Speaker 3: of a sex app. There's obviously Raya if you're looking
Speaker 3: to meet a celebrity.
Speaker 1: Have you heard of Raya?
Speaker 2: Yes, I have three different avenues of Raya. Join an
Speaker 2: Express a little bit before we go on to Raya.
Speaker 2: Though I actually think the opposite. I think Tinder's more
Speaker 2: for a relationship and no Way Yea. I found when
Speaker 2: I was really hindres more for a hookup.
Speaker 1: No Way.
Speaker 2: That's my experiences with them.
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, tell us what you think on our Facebook page.
Speaker 3: You need to get to the bottom of that. I
Speaker 3: definitely think Tinder is more of like a hookup type
Speaker 3: of app. Bumblers like more relationship again, because like the
Speaker 3: Girls in Control.
Speaker 2: Never used well you know, never used it. I just
Speaker 2: I just yeah. But then again, like I've always said,
Speaker 2: I never met up with anyone off a dating app.
Speaker 2: I just used it like a hungover.
Speaker 1: Swipe, a serotonin, a couple of likes the next day.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Well back to Raya. Yes, Raya.
Speaker 3: Firstly, for anyone who doesn't know what it is, it
Speaker 3: is a dating app. It's a private membership based social
Speaker 3: network and basically you have to be invited onto Raya
Speaker 3: by a current member of Raya. Then if it's a membership,
Speaker 3: I'm not sure because I've never been on Raya. I
Speaker 3: did apply ones and I didn't get accepted.
Speaker 2: Why's that so?
Speaker 3: Ray is like a very exclusive club. It's kind of
Speaker 3: like the VIP lounge that no one can get into.
Speaker 3: In fact, only.
Speaker 2: You've been in VIP Lounge just a lot different.
Speaker 3: Well, I look, eight percent of applicants get accepted to Raya.
Speaker 3: It's kind of like a celebrity app. So I went
Speaker 3: on directly after breaking up with Josh, or at least
Speaker 3: I tried to. I applied to be on RAYA, and
Speaker 3: I got the kind of like message of like, well,
Speaker 3: we'll let you know, you know that, like whole thanks,
Speaker 3: we'll call you, don't call us hyper VISs, it's us,
Speaker 3: not you.
Speaker 1: That's kind of what Raya gave me.
Speaker 3: But then I found out some like secret little intel,
Speaker 3: which is that there's a Melbourne influencer who is kind
Speaker 3: of employed by Raya and she kind of gives people
Speaker 3: the green light or the red light. And this specific
Speaker 3: Melbourne influencer and me do not get along.
Speaker 1: And so.
Speaker 3: This is not me saying that I feel like I
Speaker 3: should be allowed onto the app, but I.
Speaker 2: Thought you would have had a better chance if they
Speaker 2: weren't doing the the selection. The selection interesting, Well, I
Speaker 2: don't know if I applied. I am that you definitely
Speaker 2: if I applied, but I don't actually remember applying, if
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, I feel like I have,
Speaker 2: and that would and that would explain why I wasn't
Speaker 2: allowed on as well. Just realized because yeah, so that's
Speaker 2: troubably what she used probably well know.
Speaker 3: Because I know this because Michael, my now fiance, Michael,
Speaker 3: who works at Channel nine, was accepted onto RAYA.
Speaker 1: So my fiance Michael was on RAYA and we both
Speaker 1: couldn't get on RAYA.
Speaker 3: Now I'm not saying that we deserve to be on
Speaker 3: more than Michael, but we were on a national TV.
Speaker 2: Show, international, technically, whatever you want.
Speaker 1: To call it.
Speaker 3: We were on pretty popular TV show and I kind
Speaker 3: of felt like, no offense to Michael, but since this
Speaker 3: is like this super exclusive kind of well dating app essentially,
Speaker 3: I felt like maybe me and you.
Speaker 1: Potentially had a better chance than Michael.
Speaker 3: But Michael knew this person, so she gave him the
Speaker 3: green light. So that means that I know how I
Speaker 3: did start this conversation by saying that I think, but
Speaker 3: I'm pretty pretty ninety nine percent sure that she didn't
Speaker 3: allow both of us onto the dating app, So not
Speaker 3: very nice.
Speaker 2: What are the actual credentials to get onto this app?
Speaker 2: What do you need?
Speaker 3: So basically you need to be invited by someone who's
Speaker 3: already on there. So I had two friends who were
Speaker 3: on there. One was my friend Carris who was Miss
Speaker 3: Universe Australia. She invited me on there. My friend Kylie
Speaker 3: who's big in media. She is also on there. She
Speaker 3: also invited me and a third person by to me,
Speaker 3: so it's three different people in me onto this app.
Speaker 1: Still couldn't get on, So you need an invite.
Speaker 3: You need to have at least five thousand Instagram followers
Speaker 3: and an account that looks real. So I mean, you know,
Speaker 3: I think both of our accounts would I would I
Speaker 3: personally no bias here, but I would both of our
Speaker 3: accounts are real because is before you could buy verification
Speaker 3: as well. So yeah, there's lots of different I don't
Speaker 3: want to sound salty about this, like I think my
Speaker 3: life has unfolded exactly the way it needed to.
Speaker 1: I'm happily engaged.
Speaker 2: But you could have met Michael, and I.
Speaker 1: Could have met Michael on RAA.
Speaker 3: But nonetheless, Michael and I did match on Hinge yea,
Speaker 3: and we never spoke on Hinge, but we did match
Speaker 3: on Hinge and then we ended up meeting out, which
Speaker 3: I guess is a great excuse to have dating apps,
Speaker 3: even if you have no desire to actually meet a
Speaker 3: random person off a dating app, just to even be
Speaker 3: able to match with people and to kind of be
Speaker 3: able to pick them out in a room because you
Speaker 3: know that they're single. I mean, that's a great reason
Speaker 3: to have a dating app, even if you don't want
Speaker 3: to match.
Speaker 2: Well. I always said, I've never met up with someone
Speaker 2: off a dating app where we've been messaging on the
Speaker 2: app and said, hey, let's get to dinner or hey
Speaker 2: come around that. I've had a couple of times where
Speaker 2: a girl and me have matched and then followed each
Speaker 2: other on Instagram through that, so that's sort of like
Speaker 2: the same thing, and then meet each other out a
Speaker 2: couple of times, and then you know one thing that's
Speaker 2: another move, going on a date or so on. But
Speaker 2: I've never used the app as a dating platform of
Speaker 2: talking to people in that way.
Speaker 1: But people use it in different ways.
Speaker 3: Maybe you're just not using it in like the quintessential
Speaker 3: way of like match chat, meet up, but you're still
Speaker 3: using it and it's still a tool in your toolkit
Speaker 3: to potentially meet someone. And I think, and that's exactly
Speaker 3: what happened with me and Michael. I went up to
Speaker 3: him that night when we were being guest.
Speaker 1: Judges on Beating the Geek, and I knew.
Speaker 3: That he was single because we had matched on Hinge,
Speaker 3: and it kind of gave me the confidence to go
Speaker 3: up to him and say Hi, I'm anna, because you know,
Speaker 3: when you're single, you never want to walk up to
Speaker 3: someone who could potentially be in a relationship and introduce
Speaker 3: yourself and they're like, oh, sorry, like I'm in a relationship.
Speaker 1: Like that's a bit awkward. Rights, that's bad, and you
Speaker 1: feel bad. You're like, oh, whoops, see never mind, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Do you know what you mean? I looked for a
Speaker 2: bunch of other celebrities if that had been knocked back
Speaker 2: from Raya as well, and the person I could find
Speaker 2: with Jackie.
Speaker 1: O Kyle and JACKIEO she didn't get.
Speaker 3: She got knocked back as well, and she's got some
Speaker 3: beef with this Melbourne influencer.
Speaker 2: It probably stitched her off on an interview, which sounds
Speaker 2: out right.
Speaker 3: Thing, But yeah, I mean there's lots of different dating.
Speaker 3: I think Hinge is my favorite only because I feel like, well,
Speaker 3: I mean, let's just let's talk about it.
Speaker 1: So after breaking up with Josh, I probably saw like
Speaker 1: four maybe five guys.
Speaker 3: Off Hinge of all off Hinge, every single one of
Speaker 3: them off Hinge and every like. So basically how I
Speaker 3: would do it is I'd match so I mean, I
Speaker 3: was like a bit I don't know, it's a bit mean,
Speaker 3: but I'm just gonna be honest.
Speaker 1: I would set my height to like six.
Speaker 3: Three and above, so they had to for them to
Speaker 3: show up, they would be six three and above, because
Speaker 3: I'm obviously you can dictate like the guy's high that
Speaker 3: you see, so obviously.
Speaker 2: Poor short kings.
Speaker 1: It's nothing against so short kings.
Speaker 3: But I'm five eleven and a half naturally standing on
Speaker 3: the ground and with heels, I'm six two to six three.
Speaker 3: So I just wanted someone who was kind of in
Speaker 3: my height range. I don't think that's too much to ask.
Speaker 3: If you want to judge me for that, then feel free.
Speaker 3: I'm going to own it because I didn't want to
Speaker 3: end up with someone who I was towering above.
Speaker 2: You could dictate the height, so you condict.
Speaker 3: When I was on Hinge, you could dictate the height,
Speaker 3: so I would set my height. And then obviously there
Speaker 3: wasn't a huge pool of men right for me to
Speaker 3: choose from, so pretty much like the people who I
Speaker 3: matched with, I would probably remember them or recognize them
Speaker 3: if I saw them in public, and so like, I
Speaker 3: went on a few dates from Hinge and I think
Speaker 3: there was only one that was shit, and it was
Speaker 3: when you saved me and I made Matt come and
Speaker 3: pick me up. But all of the other dates were amazing,
Speaker 3: like we got along. I remember initially I once I
Speaker 3: met this guy, Initially, I was like, oh no, I
Speaker 3: don't know if this is a good idea, and I was.
Speaker 1: Getting all freaked out and I was getting in my head.
Speaker 1: And then I was like, I just he was tall.
Speaker 1: He was like six two.
Speaker 3: Maybe yeah, maybe my height was six too then, but anyway,
Speaker 3: I was in my head and I was like, shit, chit, shit,
Speaker 3: I don't want to be here freaking out, freaking out.
Speaker 3: And then I was like, Anna, relax, it's one date.
Speaker 3: You're having a drink with this guy. Just be open minded,
Speaker 3: get to know him as a friend, and just see
Speaker 3: how it goes.
Speaker 1: And I did and it was great. Like it's fun as.
Speaker 3: Long as you're being safe and like putting measures in
Speaker 3: place in case, like you know, someone's not who they
Speaker 3: say they are or whatever it might be. As long
Speaker 3: as you're doing everything safe. The worst thing that can
Speaker 3: happen is you have a date, have a shit date,
Speaker 3: but a great story.
Speaker 2: And you could maybe get possibly a drink or a
Speaker 2: feedbaught for you.
Speaker 3: But you know what I mean, Like, I feel like
Speaker 3: dating apps are such like a great way to meet
Speaker 3: new people who you never would have met before.
Speaker 2: I agree they're a good tool if used correctly or
Speaker 2: used they you can use them in different ways. But yeah,
Speaker 2: who's to say what ways right to use the dating app?
Speaker 2: You could have someone that's using it non stop to
Speaker 2: try and find someone, or someone that was like a
Speaker 2: someone like me that was just cruising in and out
Speaker 2: and just.
Speaker 3: Were just a Sunday I know a lot of my
Speaker 3: mates that are Sunday swipers. Okay, So as a guy,
Speaker 3: I have a question for you. When you're swiping left
Speaker 3: and right? What stands out to you? Is it like photos?
Speaker 3: Is it what they're saying and they're written content?
Speaker 1: Is it a mixture of both?
Speaker 2: Like honestly, okay, call me shallow, but I think that
Speaker 2: personally it goes off photos in the way they look.
Speaker 2: That's what you're going off. The written content. What's the
Speaker 2: buy one hundred and sixty words?
Speaker 1: I have no idea it's not.
Speaker 2: And then there's a couple of stupid questions you have
Speaker 2: to answer on him. If I remember correctly, this and like,
Speaker 2: how clever can you be in those questions? Like, there's
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, there's nothing that stood out
Speaker 2: to me that I was like, huh.
Speaker 3: So basically you're saying, as a guy, the only thing
Speaker 3: you look out on dating apps realistically personally for you.
Speaker 1: Is the photos.
Speaker 2: Photos.
Speaker 3: Yeah, which is fine. Yeah, it's you know, that's kind
Speaker 3: of what it's there for. It's kind of like window
Speaker 3: shopping but people. But then again, I said I was
Speaker 3: a swiper. I was a swiper, so I wasn't. But
Speaker 3: when you say you're a swiper, are you swiping yes everybody?
Speaker 3: Are you swiping no to everyone? Or are you just
Speaker 3: kind of mindlessly, you know, state of being very hungover,
Speaker 3: just going left right, left, right, left.
Speaker 2: Right, left right, whatever, off the looks. I'll swipe through
Speaker 2: their photos, see what see what they look like, see
Speaker 2: what actually but they enjoy doing, See what they're you know,
Speaker 2: see what their photos have to offer.
Speaker 3: If you if you see someone who you really really like,
Speaker 3: are you going to be like seeing their instagrammer if.
Speaker 2: Their Instagram handle was there, I'd copy and paste and
Speaker 2: see what they're doing in there. Maybe move it to
Speaker 2: that conversation.
Speaker 1: To Instagram rather than the dating.
Speaker 2: Yeah, more than the dating app.
Speaker 1: So you're not even really reading those bios.
Speaker 2: I personally wasn't. I mean you look at them obviously,
Speaker 2: you'd have a look at them and see what they
Speaker 2: had to offer. So there was no like standout red flags.
Speaker 2: Yeah you know what I mean. But everyone's putting their
Speaker 2: everyone's putting their best foot forward on these apps, sort
Speaker 2: of like well, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like I can't lie either. I very much was looking
Speaker 3: at mainly photos. But if someone was like a maybe
Speaker 3: and then they said something funny, I was like, yes,
Speaker 3: what can you say funny? There's a lot you can
Speaker 3: say funny. I mean people can have like a funny
Speaker 3: photo and then they can have a witty caption underneath it,
Speaker 3: Like there's a.
Speaker 2: Lot that you can say photos.
Speaker 3: I thought it was like underneath it, that's right, yeah, true. Yeah,
Speaker 3: So there's things that people can do to get them
Speaker 3: over the line where they're like a maybe, but then
Speaker 3: they say something hilarious.
Speaker 1: Because I don't know if.
Speaker 3: You know this, but most girls are looking for a funny, witty,
Speaker 3: interesting guy, someone who's going to be fun, who's going
Speaker 3: to bring a lot to the table. So if someone's
Speaker 3: like mediumly my type. And when I say that, like,
Speaker 3: I'm not picky in regards to like, you know, like
Speaker 3: if they if they're hitting the high range, I'm pretty happy.
Speaker 2: As long as they're at tall.
Speaker 3: No no, no, no, no no no, not Doull's dish order.
Speaker 3: I'm saying, they have to have an amazing personality.
Speaker 1: I mean, I would.
Speaker 3: Personally always say that with all of my boyfriends. Personality
Speaker 3: has always come above looks, as in it would be
Speaker 3: personality followed by high followed by looks.
Speaker 1: That's just my algorithm to make myself happy.
Speaker 2: Doesn't go into looks. It doesn't go into looks. No.
Speaker 3: When I'm talking about looks, I'm talking about like more
Speaker 3: like face, what's your algorithm to make you happy?
Speaker 2: Well, like straight off, you don't you look at somebody,
Speaker 2: it'd be looks like before you like like face. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Or you're talking about everything physically.
Speaker 2: Yeah, physically like not in a shallow way or anything,
Speaker 2: but like you don't you go up? This is you
Speaker 2: just mean?
Speaker 3: You just mean like someone who you're attracted Yeah, And
Speaker 3: we're not saying like you know, a supermodel, We're saying
Speaker 3: someone who.
Speaker 2: Is attracting you. Yes, personally putting it. Yeah, I have
Speaker 2: a unique attraction as well, was a style of girls
Speaker 2: like a lot of people like you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: I'm not going for like a supermodel all the time,
Speaker 2: like all the time. If they're attractive to me, I
Speaker 2: then like go off and pursue because like I said,
Speaker 2: you're not going to Yeah, they could have an awesome personality,
Speaker 2: but like if you're not attracted to him.
Speaker 3: Totally, but there needs to be a happy medium because
Speaker 3: and look, I remember that there was this guy when
Speaker 3: I was seventeen. He was a model who I used
Speaker 3: to model with. I'd met him through modeling, and I
Speaker 3: just like visually he was like the hottest guy ever.
Speaker 3: Like I just remember thinking, you are so fucking hot.
Speaker 3: We kissed one time, number one, terrible kisser.
Speaker 1: Number two.
Speaker 3: I was just like, there's just no spark and if anything,
Speaker 3: after kissing him, I got the egg and he was
Speaker 3: beautiful to look out, like the hottest guy ever. And
Speaker 3: it was just like I just I could never look
Speaker 3: at him the same because I was so turned off.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, but you weren't. But like I'm saying,
Speaker 2: you wouldn't go up to me if you didn't think
Speaker 2: he was attractive, you weren't attracted to his little Yeah,
Speaker 2: of course that's for me first thing that I look
Speaker 2: at if I'm attracted to.
Speaker 3: Him, and I think everyone everyone does that. There's specific
Speaker 3: things that we all might look for. For instance, I
Speaker 3: always talk about how I love a guy with long hair,
Speaker 3: So if a guy has long.
Speaker 1: Hair, it might extra catch my attention.
Speaker 3: For you, you always say that you fucking I don't know,
Speaker 3: I hate to say it all the time, but you
Speaker 3: always talk about how you love boobs. Maybe for girl
Speaker 3: has some cleavage on show, maybe you might take a
Speaker 3: second glance. And like, we all have specific things that
Speaker 3: were like that will extra draws into someone. And those
Speaker 3: things can be personality traits like funny. Funny is such
Speaker 3: a big one. Like I remember and I always I'll
Speaker 3: never forget this. The first night that Michael slept over
Speaker 3: at my house, we literally laughed in bed for like
Speaker 3: four hours straight. We literally could not stop laughing, and
Speaker 3: I remember thinking, holy fuck, I didn't I remember saying
Speaker 3: this one of my girlfriends. I remember saying, I never
Speaker 3: knew I wanted a funny guy until I just laughed
Speaker 3: for four hours straight and just had so much fun. Now,
Speaker 3: it's like at the top of my list.
Speaker 2: I've got one for you. Is confidence a look thing
Speaker 2: or is it personality?
Speaker 1: It's a personality.
Speaker 2: I can see someone with confidence.
Speaker 1: What does that mean?
Speaker 2: Like you, I feel like I'm drawn and can see
Speaker 2: someone that's confident. I think you can. Confidence can fall
Speaker 2: into looks in a way because it's an air.
Speaker 3: Like people have an air about them when they're confident.
Speaker 3: They hold themselves differently, they walk with intentions. Yeah, you
Speaker 3: can definitely see confidence, but you can also feels.
Speaker 2: That's something as well that I'm attracted to.
Speaker 3: Confidence is a feeling that people give you as well,
Speaker 3: like yeah, and yeah, one hundred percent. There's nothing more
Speaker 3: sexy than someone who's confident. There's nothing more sexy than
Speaker 3: someone who knows who they are, who are like who
Speaker 3: kind of like walk about and they're kind of like,
Speaker 3: this is who I am and take it.
Speaker 1: You can leave it, but I'm going to do me.
Speaker 3: And you're like, I want some of what you have,
Speaker 3: Like that can take almost all.
Speaker 2: Right, So how would you be confident on a dating app? Then?
Speaker 2: How would you So if you're a confident person, how
Speaker 2: do you implement that into your dating profile?
Speaker 3: I guess The thing is is you kind of have
Speaker 3: to set your own boundaries. I guess so for me personally,
Speaker 3: I would not really want to talk.
Speaker 1: Too much with someone on a dating app.
Speaker 3: I would more just want to transition from meeting them
Speaker 3: into like, let's catch up. I don't want to get
Speaker 3: to know you too much. I kind of want to
Speaker 3: get to know you, you know, when we meet in person. Yes,
Speaker 3: of course, I want to like get us a brief understanding.
Speaker 2: Of who you are. So imagine a guy just a
Speaker 2: little chitchat with ya, you know, how's your day, what
Speaker 2: do you do for work? Are you working? Blah blah
Speaker 2: blah all that, and then they go, all right, when
Speaker 2: are you free this week? I think you should catch
Speaker 2: up for a walk or a drink.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd say, cool, let's do it.
Speaker 3: I think that's hot, and I think, like, as a guy,
Speaker 3: it's it's nice when you kind of, you know, do
Speaker 3: transition it into like a date, because that is essentially what.
Speaker 1: Dating apps are for.
Speaker 3: They're kind of like a medium ground where you can
Speaker 3: meet people, but then you need to move it into
Speaker 3: your life to see if you like them. Because I
Speaker 3: don't want to spend you know, a week straight talking
Speaker 3: to you every single day and meet you in person
Speaker 3: and then go not for me. And look, I'm saying
Speaker 3: that because I have done that before. I have talked
Speaker 3: to a guy all day every day.
Speaker 1: He was hilarious via text message, met him in real life.
Speaker 1: He was chat game, wasn't there?
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh no, no, no, no, Why
Speaker 3: have I done this? Why have I invested so much
Speaker 3: energy and time into someone who I don't know? And
Speaker 3: I think you know, it's it's something to be cautious
Speaker 3: of when being on dating apps. It's to not give
Speaker 3: someone so much energy that like it feels like you're
Speaker 3: almost dating before you've even met them, and like, it
Speaker 3: is sometimes tricky to not fall into that trap because
Speaker 3: you can click with someone via message and.
Speaker 2: Then imagine if like you're run out of chats on
Speaker 2: over text and then you're sort of just like hadding
Speaker 2: to in person and it's not much has happened since
Speaker 2: you've chatted last. It's pretty boring.
Speaker 3: Oh, Matt, you can always think of something.
Speaker 1: You can talk.
Speaker 3: Matt talks people's ear off like you could talk for life,
Speaker 3: which is why we have a podcast that makes sense exactly.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, what photos do you think are most
Speaker 2: interesting to you? If you're scrolling or if you were
Speaker 2: putting forward photos, what would you do? What ones?
Speaker 3: Okay, well, first first thing for me is that I
Speaker 3: don't want to see photos of like your dog or
Speaker 3: your cat and not you.
Speaker 1: So like if you're with the dog or.
Speaker 3: Cat, like fine, but like you kind of want the
Speaker 3: pictures to tell a story. I think it's a red
Speaker 3: flag if a guy on a dating app has like
Speaker 3: four selfies of themselves and they're like awkward selfies, Like
Speaker 3: I hate that, Like that's.
Speaker 2: No hunting photos for men.
Speaker 3: Hunting photos is a fucking strong no fishing hoodding up
Speaker 3: the fish, No, you know, any sort of like animals
Speaker 3: in pictures, like you know, a lion at a zoo
Speaker 3: and they're a bit.
Speaker 2: Like that's canceled.
Speaker 1: Now, that's canceled.
Speaker 3: But like I have, I mean I remember when I
Speaker 3: was last on dating apps and I did see some
Speaker 3: photos like that, and I was like, I don't know
Speaker 3: if that's a thing anymore, not that it ever was
Speaker 3: a thing, but I think, yeah, holding.
Speaker 2: Guns me with a beautiful dashound.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but like that to me isn't like that hot
Speaker 3: because I'm not into dashound.
Speaker 1: So like you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: If you're only specifically looking for a woman who's into dashounds,
Speaker 3: you're really making that pool very small. And I think
Speaker 3: that's something that should be noted with dating apps, Like
Speaker 3: people do have different interests and you don't need to
Speaker 3: have all the same interest to be compatible.
Speaker 2: Okay, modeling pictures, would you or would you not? Upload them?
Speaker 1: Absolutely not?
Speaker 3: And I've seen you because I've come across Matt's hinge
Speaker 3: before once upon a time, and I saw him with
Speaker 3: his modeling picks up and I was like, it's a
Speaker 3: strong no from me, Matt, And he's like, oh, I
Speaker 3: didn't put any editored photos up. I'm like, are the
Speaker 3: most highly edited modeling photos you've had?
Speaker 1: Like professionals photoshop the ship out of these.
Speaker 3: And he somehow goes around saying, oh, I don't put
Speaker 3: up editing photos.
Speaker 2: Well yeah, okay, so you never did?
Speaker 1: No, no, never, okay, no way no.
Speaker 3: My type of style would be like, you know, me
Speaker 3: at the beach, but like not necessarily in a bikini.
Speaker 3: I think my like go to dating profile pick was
Speaker 3: like me on holiday type of vibe, like me with
Speaker 3: a margarita and hands, like me kind of living my
Speaker 3: best life.
Speaker 2: Having fun doing selling.
Speaker 3: The story that I was telling is that I'm a fun, exciting,
Speaker 3: adventurous girl who loves to go on holiday.
Speaker 2: Point of honest, in your.
Speaker 1: Have you ever met anyone who loves a holiday more
Speaker 1: than me?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: But you know what I mean, Like, obviously we don't
Speaker 3: want to do like something that's overly edited, nothing staged,
Speaker 3: like nothing like you know what I mean, Let's not.
Speaker 1: Do a stage photo shoot for him?
Speaker 3: And I think as well, another key points to really
Speaker 3: know is not having too many other people in your photos.
Speaker 2: I was about to say that, yeah, you're scrolling and
Speaker 2: you saw a bunch of dudes in a photo like
Speaker 2: he's with the boys.
Speaker 3: It's okay for one, but like it's a dating profile,
Speaker 3: Like I don't want to be spending like more than
Speaker 3: three seconds trying to figure out which one is you.
Speaker 3: And I think if I am, maybe I'll just be
Speaker 3: like I'm over this and I'll just say no to
Speaker 3: you because I'll just be like.
Speaker 2: Next with girls. It's pretty much the same thing as well,
Speaker 2: that you don't want to see groups.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, even two's like it's it's kind of feels
Speaker 3: a little unnecessary.
Speaker 1: I get it. If there's like a photo where you're like,
Speaker 1: I really like love this photo of me. Yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: looking unreal. I'm not going to not post this.
Speaker 3: But then you've got singles, then fine, it's pretty easy
Speaker 3: to tell who you are. They're not going to spend
Speaker 3: like more than two seconds of brain time figuring it out.
Speaker 2: And no, no catfishing ones like's not catfish anyone with
Speaker 2: high edits and back photos and walking away photos photos field.
Speaker 1: Photos in a field.
Speaker 2: Just no cat fishing, all right, let's.
Speaker 1: Be bit okay.
Speaker 3: Also something that I've realized as I've gotten older as well,
Speaker 3: Like I've just turned I've just turned thirty one, and
Speaker 3: I guess no photos like more than two to three
Speaker 3: years ago. I think is now an important one.
Speaker 2: Like I thought of that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like we're getting older, we're not looking the same
Speaker 3: as we did when we're eighteen, and I think it
Speaker 3: would be wrong to put up photos of you and
Speaker 3: your younger years, Like I could put up a photo
Speaker 3: of me at my you know, when I was looking.
Speaker 2: Twenty fourth birthday.
Speaker 1: Or whatever it is, like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like keep keep the photos.
Speaker 2: Up to date, relevant to what you're doing near like.
Speaker 1: You know, if you've died your hair blonde in the
Speaker 1: past two years.
Speaker 3: You should probably only put blond photos off, Like, we
Speaker 3: don't want to see photos of you with brunette hair
Speaker 3: because it's a bit confusing to the person who's swiping.
Speaker 2: Always have a link to the Instagram, do you reckon? Yeah,
Speaker 2: makes you look more real, makes you look authentic. Give
Speaker 2: someone if they're interested, that option of seeing more of
Speaker 2: you or having a direct line to you. Yeah, if
Speaker 2: they message you, it will go into the requests and
Speaker 2: then you decide if you want to entertain it or not.
Speaker 2: But I think having it there's a good option. What
Speaker 2: do you think?
Speaker 3: I think so, I mean, I get what you're saying, definitely,
Speaker 3: but also, like I think for me personally, I would
Speaker 3: just say that I don't want everyone who sees my
Speaker 3: profile on a dating app to have access to me,
Speaker 3: which sounds silly because we have like, you know, followings, But.
Speaker 2: I'm sure they will get it in saying.
Speaker 1: That, Like, you know, when you're dating, you don't want
Speaker 1: like creepy guys who like.
Speaker 2: Is your last name on your dating app?
Speaker 1: I remember just first name, that name and age.
Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, you just don't want to give like access
Speaker 3: to everyone who potentially wants to date you. And that's
Speaker 3: just from a safety perspective. That's just like me being
Speaker 3: overly cautious on.
Speaker 2: That dope in your DMS. If someone really the way
Speaker 2: to message you, no.
Speaker 3: Like you know, and look, that's not to say that
Speaker 3: hasn't happened. I've I've had people who have found me
Speaker 3: on Instagram and being like, hey, I've seen you on
Speaker 3: hinge and then they just will blow up my.
Speaker 2: Old tinderbio was like, if you're interested, here's my Instagram.
Speaker 1: You're trying to get more followed with that, there's a difference.
Speaker 2: It's a direct line because I would only Sunday scary scroll.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't have scrolled unless it was a Sunday morning. Yeah,
Speaker 2: that's maybe a week, two weeks.
Speaker 3: I remember I was in Byron and I had set
Speaker 3: my hinge to Byron and this guy who owned a
Speaker 3: restaurant up there.
Speaker 1: Literally, I think he would have sent me like at.
Speaker 3: Least fifty messages in forty eight hours of me being
Speaker 3: up there.
Speaker 2: I wanted you to come in and do some contradeal.
Speaker 3: No, he was just like, I want to see you,
Speaker 3: Let's go surfing, Let's see this. He literally I wasn't replying,
Speaker 3: and I think in his mind this is how I
Speaker 3: think it happened. I think he thought I wasn't seeing
Speaker 3: the messages because they were in my requests.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I was definitely seeing.
Speaker 3: The messages and he just kept going like he just
Speaker 3: wasn't stopping, and I was liked And do you know
Speaker 3: what the thing is is this guy was my type
Speaker 3: to a t like tall, long hair. He was everything
Speaker 3: that I was looking for at the time. Yeah, but
Speaker 3: the fact that he was so intense and full on,
Speaker 3: I was just like, nol we maybe we should talk
Speaker 3: about this actually is like not coming off too desperate
Speaker 3: on dating apps. I think that's such a big one
Speaker 3: that people time and time again when I hear people
Speaker 3: talking about this, fails to mention like, don't come across
Speaker 3: to full on.
Speaker 2: How many double text should you send?
Speaker 1: Never? Never do it? Never double text?
Speaker 3: I disagree, But what with a random person who don't
Speaker 3: know what would you send a double text over?
Speaker 2: Well, this is my mentality of a dating app, is
Speaker 2: it's not I would never have had notifications on for
Speaker 2: a dating app. Like the last thing I feel that
Speaker 2: some people want in their job and their office coming up,
Speaker 2: coming up, or Tinder coming up, so they might have
Speaker 2: forgotten about it. They might have a busy day at
Speaker 2: like in their lives and I've heard a couple of
Speaker 2: busy days and they've forgotten about it. So I don't
Speaker 2: see any harm and just going like, let's not say
Speaker 2: a passive aggressive question mark or an emoji, just be like, hey,
Speaker 2: how's the last couple of days been or something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fine.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like that's desperate.
Speaker 3: What we're trying to say right now is like when
Speaker 3: you are in that really like early talking phase, I personally, yeah,
Speaker 3: number one read the room. Number two, like, don't be
Speaker 3: overly double texting or anything like that, because it can
Speaker 3: come off just too desperate.
Speaker 1: You want them to come to you, essentially.
Speaker 2: And if they then if they don't come to you,
Speaker 2: then it's not meant to be. Yeah, yeah, I agree,
Speaker 2: I think so if you have nothing to lose, just
Speaker 2: shoot a double message. And I'm not saying pass progressive
Speaker 2: on I said before, just hey, long time no chat,
Speaker 2: or hey just got this or maybe it's something that
Speaker 2: you guys have been talking about. Yeah, then like they
Speaker 2: said try this, and then you try it.
Speaker 3: Okay, what's the best pickup line you use on dating apps.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't use the date pickup. No, I've already said
Speaker 2: on this podcast, and it's just a this back in
Speaker 2: the day, guys. This isn't the reflection on me now.
Speaker 2: This is a reflection of how I've grown to be fair.
Speaker 2: I used toy s hey, I'm on here for one reason,
Speaker 2: like i'm here, I'm I can't how I worded it
Speaker 2: was a bit more polite, but it was I saying
Speaker 2: I'm not on here.
Speaker 3: So you would basically tell people that you were looking
Speaker 3: for a one night stand pretty much.
Speaker 2: Looking for that. No, not a partner, I'd word it.
Speaker 2: I can't remember how I word it.
Speaker 1: So you wouldn't do that now.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't do that now. No, But that was back
Speaker 2: in the day, like I'm talking twenty twenty one, So
Speaker 2: you were young, well, sitting there like what I would
Speaker 2: look well, and then people are probably listening to home
Speaker 2: No wonder he didn't see any girls. They probably read
Speaker 2: that and we're like, fuck this.
Speaker 1: I would have blocked you flat out. I would have
Speaker 1: just said, nah, done, what a fucking sicko.
Speaker 3: And then I would have told my friends if I
Speaker 3: recognize you out I've been like, you believe this guy,
Speaker 3: this is what he did.
Speaker 2: A lot of girls would say, thank you for your honesty,
Speaker 2: So am I that's okay?
Speaker 3: Well I guess then me and those girls might not
Speaker 3: be looking for the same thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And a lot of girls would say, oh, I
Speaker 2: respect your honesty, but I'm not like I was a
Speaker 2: polite of it. I'm always being a gentleman, So I was.
Speaker 2: It was a polite way of saying. It wasn't like
Speaker 2: I'm here to fuck. Don't swipe for me if you're
Speaker 2: not like sort of like it was like it was
Speaker 2: just like I'm I mean, I don't have a lot
Speaker 2: to say. I'm just shell shocked. I was twenty come on, okay,
Speaker 2: And how many guys or girls should you be talking
Speaker 2: to it one time? On a dating app?
Speaker 3: It's a hard one obviously when you're single, or at
Speaker 3: least when I'm single, I'm always talking to at least one.
Speaker 1: Person at once. But yeah, you can match with a
Speaker 1: couple of people and have a couple of people on
Speaker 1: stand by.
Speaker 3: I reckon that everyone's talking to at least three to
Speaker 3: four people when they're single. I agree, but that actually
Speaker 3: I don't think is as big of a deal as
Speaker 3: people sometimes make it out to be, because I reckon
Speaker 3: that subconsciously, we kind of rate those people. So we
Speaker 3: have like the person who we actually want to date,
Speaker 3: and then we have someone who potentially could be.
Speaker 2: The tier one Tier two.
Speaker 3: Yeah. We literally like, yeah, we put them kind of
Speaker 3: into their different category tiers.
Speaker 2: Yes, year one when I want to date the moment
Speaker 2: most interested in Second, they're good, I could see myself.
Speaker 1: I don't know what they're going to be like in
Speaker 1: real life, so I need to meet them first.
Speaker 2: Number three, have a cool, interesting job or have an interesting.
Speaker 1: You know, they're like star wars, have something to.
Speaker 2: Chat to about. Tier four they're just persistent. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: so I keep them there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And so like, I think it's not a bad
Speaker 3: thing having a couple of people maybe on the go
Speaker 3: or like kind of ready to talk to if something
Speaker 3: doesn't work out. But yeah, I always had at least
Speaker 3: one person on the go whilst dating and whilst using
Speaker 3: dating apps.
Speaker 2: What about you, Yeah, I would like I said, I wouldn't.
Speaker 2: None of the conversations on a dating ap would be
Speaker 2: anything black, not serious for anything that was like a
Speaker 2: serious chat that I would go back to and be
Speaker 2: like interested, interested in keep pursuing. I'd more go through
Speaker 2: other chats. But yeah, I don't think there's any foul
Speaker 2: in having multiple people on the go. If you if
Speaker 2: you guys, haven't express that you're exclusive, I'm just dating around.
Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 3: Okay, well look, let's talk about some top tips for
Speaker 3: a stellar dating profile next. Okay, Matt, how do you
Speaker 3: show off your personality on a dating profile? If you
Speaker 3: have a killer personality, how do you make it shine through?
Speaker 2: What are those voice prompters that they used to have?
Speaker 2: Do you reckon you do like a voice?
Speaker 1: I've never been on a dating app with a voice prompter?
Speaker 2: Is that a new thing I've seen? There's like Instagram
Speaker 2: pages and stuff like that, or reels that I've seen
Speaker 2: that like.
Speaker 1: People's things like what they voice.
Speaker 2: Not yea, their voice notes on the apps and they
Speaker 2: have like guy, if anyone and that goes, If anyone's
Speaker 2: listening and they have a good, good one, please send
Speaker 2: it into a hotmail because we'd love to hear it.
Speaker 2: We'd love to hear it hilarious.
Speaker 3: Firstly, probably don't take it without people's permission though, Yeah,
Speaker 3: but like tell us about.
Speaker 1: Tell us about it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I personally don't know if i'd use a voice
Speaker 3: note to attract someone on a dating profile. I just
Speaker 3: think that's like a bit of a it's a bit awkward,
Speaker 3: it's a bit cringe.
Speaker 2: Imagine a knock knock.
Speaker 1: Trying to get your attention.
Speaker 3: But if it's funny, I mean, I guess it is
Speaker 3: a great conversation starter. I don't know when I first
Speaker 3: met Michael, when we moved things from well, we never
Speaker 3: really talked on hinge, but we you know, he followed
Speaker 3: me on Instagram the night after we met, and then
Speaker 3: we were voice noting from there and it's actually a
Speaker 3: really great way to get to know someone. And it's
Speaker 3: also like very exciting voice noting and like receiving voice
Speaker 3: notes And now we actually looked back on them recently.
Speaker 3: We have all the voice notes from when we first met.
Speaker 3: How sweet is that?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and should put them all together and do like
Speaker 2: something with them. But yeah, the voice note thing, I
Speaker 2: think can make you stand out if you have a
Speaker 2: funny story maybe or just something that attracts people to you.
Speaker 2: What would attract.
Speaker 1: You then, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think something that's not super original kind of gets overlooked.
Speaker 3: So you want to kind of do something that's a
Speaker 3: little bit like, you know, out of the box.
Speaker 1: Like I think a lot of people I think, I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 3: I remember when I was on dating apps, people would
Speaker 3: be like I love ava and toast for brunch, or
Speaker 3: people would be like I love a spicy mug, or like,
Speaker 3: you know, there's like typical, you know, our type of
Speaker 3: generation thing where people are saying them like you know
Speaker 3: what I mean.
Speaker 2: I just remembered by answers to the hinge questions where
Speaker 2: I'm not answering this and I don't have time to
Speaker 2: answer this, but girls would then reply with like you
Speaker 2: think you're too cool for this, and I'd be like nah.
Speaker 2: And it was a conversation starter. I think there was.
Speaker 3: I mean, anything can be a conversation star at it right,
Speaker 3: this is true, Yeah.
Speaker 2: But I remember. I remember that now.
Speaker 3: I think mine was like take me out for Oysters
Speaker 3: and Pino Noir.
Speaker 1: Because it's just like an easy date starter.
Speaker 3: People kind of get a bit of a glimpse into
Speaker 3: who you are, what you like, and you know it's
Speaker 3: not that original either, but like it was also like
Speaker 3: a really easy way to kind of show a little
Speaker 3: bit of individuality, but also.
Speaker 1: Like throw some humor in there as well.
Speaker 2: Right, yeah, but it's I reckon it's hard to tell
Speaker 2: jokes or to be humorous through writing and that. So
Speaker 2: that's why I think of voice memo.
Speaker 3: So your pro voice memo, I am on pro voice
Speaker 3: notes after you like match and then you're kind of
Speaker 3: like chatting.
Speaker 1: I like that. What about setting your intentions.
Speaker 2: Map, Well, apparently when I do it when I was younger,
Speaker 2: you didn't think it was right.
Speaker 1: No, I didn't.
Speaker 3: Don't twist this around, No, of course, I think if
Speaker 3: you're there to have a good time and have fun, yeah,
Speaker 3: like definitely like set your intentions and tell people. But
Speaker 3: there's also now what was that hotline that we had
Speaker 3: recently where someone was talking about there's a sex positive
Speaker 3: app where.
Speaker 1: If you are looking for sex then you can what
Speaker 1: was it called?
Speaker 2: I fuck?
Speaker 1: I can't remember.
Speaker 2: No one remembers. Tell us because I'm interested in remembering
Speaker 2: that as well, so tell everyone else.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, yeah, but yeah, like I mean, I guess
Speaker 3: as like as time goes on, dating is just so accessible.
Speaker 3: There's so much abundance when it comes to people, and
Speaker 3: I guess that.
Speaker 1: Works in people's favors.
Speaker 3: But also like against them because there is so much
Speaker 3: variety in choice. And you know we've said it before,
Speaker 3: Timing is everything. So if the timing is right for you,
Speaker 3: don't be afraid to tell people. I know that there
Speaker 3: was times when I was dating people, I would be
Speaker 3: afraid to say, like, yeah, I'm looking for something serious
Speaker 3: because in my mind I was like, well, like, it's
Speaker 3: a guy, They're probably not looking for anything serious, and
Speaker 3: so I didn't want to freak them out. Yeah, of
Speaker 3: course I know that now, but at the time I
Speaker 3: was insecure, and I was like, I don't want to
Speaker 3: scare them off. I don't want to I want to
Speaker 3: be the cool girl. But there's nothing cool about being
Speaker 3: the cool girl. I think it's cool when you live
Speaker 3: in your truth and kind of express to people exactly
Speaker 3: what's going on with you.
Speaker 2: I think another hot tip is to ask your friends
Speaker 2: and family for advice so they know you better than anyone,
Speaker 2: so they'll give you tips on what photos to post
Speaker 2: and what's funny, and also listen to their advice. Don't
Speaker 2: be you know, don't shrug it off like oh, they
Speaker 2: don't know what they're talking about, because they know you
Speaker 2: better than anyone. And they'll know which is the best
Speaker 2: version of you to put out there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 3: I think lean on your friends and family for lots
Speaker 3: of things like that. Get a bit of help as well,
Speaker 3: Like I got help with my dating profile. I'm pretty
Speaker 3: sure oobye. I think me and Laura, my friend Laura,
Speaker 3: did it together. She was kind of like, I was like,
Speaker 3: what should I say for this, and we were kind
Speaker 3: of like having a veno and like you know, talking
Speaker 3: about like what to kind of put down. Like it's
Speaker 3: it's fun, especially when you have friends in a relationship
Speaker 3: like they they'd love to be a part of it that.
Speaker 1: Live vicariously through one hundred percent.
Speaker 3: Also, I think it's important going into dating and using
Speaker 3: dating apps is just to kind of remember that, like
Speaker 3: someone does sometimes get hurt.
Speaker 1: You know, you meet.
Speaker 3: People and sometimes you might meet someone on the app
Speaker 3: who you're like, they're amazing, Oh my god, I'm obsessed,
Speaker 3: and then they could give you kind of like the
Speaker 3: cold shoulder, and then you might feel a lot of rejection.
Speaker 3: You might feel a little bit heartbroken, and vice versa.
Speaker 3: You could make someone else feel that way, Like just
Speaker 3: don't waste people's time as well, like.
Speaker 2: Because it could hurt them more if you waste their time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, And I think, yeah.
Speaker 3: Just just try and remain as honest as possible.
Speaker 1: I know it sucks, it fucking it's.
Speaker 3: What The worst thing I reckon and I used to
Speaker 3: say is all the time about being single and going
Speaker 3: on dates, because I would go a few hinge dates,
Speaker 3: maybe like one a week or one every two weeks.
Speaker 3: Is like if you're not keen after the date, having
Speaker 3: to like let them know that you're not keen, And
Speaker 3: like I'm I was saying, I ghosted a couple of
Speaker 3: people because I just was like, it does get to
Speaker 3: a point, and we've talked about this on our ghosting episode,
Speaker 3: where like you don't have an emotional attachment to this,
Speaker 3: you don't know them anything, You've been on one date
Speaker 3: with them, and like you don't want to get like
Speaker 3: ewey gowey feeling, like talk about feelings with them because
Speaker 3: you're like it's giving me the ick, Like I wasn't
Speaker 3: interested in them to begin with.
Speaker 2: You could probably just say then, like you.
Speaker 3: Could just have a message ready to go that's pre made.
Speaker 3: It's not actually for them, but it's just like they
Speaker 3: had a great time with you. I think we'd be
Speaker 3: better as friends, wish you all the.
Speaker 2: Best, don't do any further were single friends.
Speaker 3: But you know what I mean, Like I think, because yeah,
Speaker 3: you don't want to get like emotional with people who,
Speaker 3: like you, have no emotion to So just having sending
Speaker 3: them that gene message to just kind of wrap up
Speaker 3: this scenario, I think is a great suggestion.
Speaker 2: Well, speaking of wrapping up, Anna, how would you like
Speaker 2: to wrap up this episode? Then he's your generic message
Speaker 2: that you've got ready to go.
Speaker 1: No, this is not a generic message.
Speaker 3: We just obviously know that we get so many messages
Speaker 3: from you guys for all of our single whears your
Speaker 3: head out listeners. So if you have any other topics
Speaker 3: that you would love for us to cover, we have
Speaker 3: our us open and we would love to hear your suggestions.
Speaker 3: Good Luck in the world of dating, good luck on
Speaker 3: the dating apps.
Speaker 1: We want to know how it goes.
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Speaker 3: And until next time, Siyah, Happy dating,