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Speaker 1: This is the Fitting In with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: Can we talk about the subject of listening.

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Speaker 3: I would love to talk about this.

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Speaker 2: The secret is that men don't listen. So this is

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Speaker 2: Saturday night. My wife and I went down to the

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Speaker 2: local club and we helped out behind the bar and

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Speaker 2: in the kitchen.

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 1: We're there down there for a few hours and were

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Speaker 1: you in.

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Speaker 3: The community lifting?

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Speaker 2: We were pretty buggered by the end of it, so

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Speaker 2: we just we did a bit of a ghost He

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Speaker 2: actually got out of there, didn't say goodbye any I

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Speaker 2: do love doing a runner. You know, you don't want

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Speaker 2: to say goodbye to everyone, so you get out of there.

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Speaker 2: We got home and in the car, my wife she

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Speaker 2: was telling me a story of what's happening in our life, Kate,

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Speaker 2: and it was about an organization of an event that

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Speaker 2: was coming up. And I made the mistake Kate, of

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Speaker 2: rubbing my eyes, which then led to the assumption that

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Speaker 2: I don't listen.

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Speaker 4: Well, it would have looked like you, well, you were

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Speaker 4: completely disinterested what she was saying.

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Speaker 2: You know that one Yeah, when you're really rubbing your

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Speaker 2: eyes because you're tired.

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Speaker 3: You do that a lot in the office.

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Speaker 1: Usually when you do that to me.

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Speaker 3: All I can hear in your mind is here we go. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I can hear, Oh will they just hurry up?

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Speaker 2: So she was pretty upset at that time, and then I,

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Speaker 2: you know, we went to bed. Everything was fine, like

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Speaker 2: we spoke about it was okay. But on Sunday there

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Speaker 2: was an intervention and I was involved with the intervention.

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Speaker 1: Some Belinda J.

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Speaker 2: Fitzgerald pulled me aside, and I'm not joking. These were

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Speaker 2: her exact words. She said, I just don't think you're interested,

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Speaker 2: and she goes, what I want you to do is

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Speaker 2: I want you to ask Kate for acting lessons in

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Speaker 2: regards to listening. So it looks like you're more interested

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Speaker 2: when I'm detailing what we're doing for Donna's fiftieth.

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Speaker 4: What do you think it takes more effort to get

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Speaker 4: acting tips than actually listening nice listening?

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Speaker 2: She actually said, look, if I know sometimes these things

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Speaker 2: are boring, but she said, you just need to act

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Speaker 2: better as if you are listening better.

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Speaker 3: It's good that.

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Speaker 4: She's admitted she's not expecting you to listen, so she's

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Speaker 4: given up on that. I'm loving this kind of conflict

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Speaker 4: resolution or at least working it out. Good on you, Bjay,

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Speaker 4: this is what I need.

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Speaker 3: I also want to hear more about Donnad's fiftieth.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well do you know what, You can sit down

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Speaker 2: for half an hour and find out what they're doing.

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Speaker 2: I've had to change I've had to change the name

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Speaker 2: there because it's a surprise fiftieth as well.

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Speaker 1: So this is the.

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Speaker 2: Deal I had to promise to her on Monday morning

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Speaker 2: on the show, I am going to get Kate Richie's

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Speaker 2: top three tips of going into a scene when your

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Speaker 2: character has to listen.

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Speaker 1: Let's start with number three.

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Speaker 4: Number Well, I suggest you put everything down. So, I mean,

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Speaker 4: it's very hard when you're in the car beside her.

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Speaker 2: Were you driving, Yeah, no, no, yeah, I was driving correct.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we're in the garage. We were in the garage.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well maybe stay stationary, put take your hands off

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Speaker 4: the wheel and look kind of at attention.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? No, just no distractions.

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Speaker 1: Nothing in your hands.

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Speaker 3: Put your phone down.

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Speaker 2: Actually number two, number two.

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Speaker 3: I would nod a little not not on.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well, you think about it in all those scenes

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Speaker 4: working on Home and Away and in Australian drama in general,

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Speaker 4: that you've got.

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Speaker 3: The talking head and then they cut to the person.

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Speaker 1: Okay on the nod, No, not on the nod.

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Speaker 3: And not sleeping.

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Speaker 4: You're just nodding in interest and understand standing.

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Speaker 2: Number a few few people who worked in Summer Bay

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Speaker 2: on the not Unfortunately, I'm.

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Speaker 4: Going to suggest a very simple piece of dialogue to

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Speaker 4: close the transaction.

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Speaker 2: What are you doing? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Can you give me some examples please?

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Speaker 3: I would say that a bit of.

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Speaker 4: That's not going to cut it at the end of

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Speaker 4: it if it's about a party. I mean, I'm just

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Speaker 4: adding this now as information is coming to light, the

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Speaker 4: bit of a bit of a backstory.

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Speaker 3: I would say, I hear you, because.

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Speaker 4: That's very I mean, it might be no, no, no,

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Speaker 4: I hear It's not generic.

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Speaker 3: It's acknowledging that you hear.

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Speaker 4: And in this case, if she's talking about a party,

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Speaker 4: you say I hear you, and then incorporate into your

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Speaker 4: response the fact that you've heard what she said. So

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Speaker 4: I'd say, I hear Darlin. Is there anything I can

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Speaker 4: do to help with Donna's fifty?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What did she hands him her list? After that? Feml

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Speaker 1: in trouble Kate Ritchie Well weldcu.

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