Speaker 1: I'll get a term. I hope you greats. This will
Speaker 1: be brief. This is a solo as you probably already know,
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about the top. This is a
Speaker 1: big topic, and I'm just opening the door. And more
Speaker 1: than anything, this is not particularly instructural or rescriptive, but
Speaker 1: it's something that I have been thinking about a lot lately.
Speaker 1: I open these doors and go down these rabbit holes
Speaker 1: where I I spent a lot of time thinking about
Speaker 1: this stuff and writing notes and talking into my phone
Speaker 1: and recording audio messages, and so this is a little
Speaker 1: bit of a culmination of today and yesterday in between
Speaker 1: other stuff. I've just been thinking broadly, I guess for
Speaker 1: a long time, I've been thinking broadly about why why
Speaker 1: people are so desperate to be right, and why we
Speaker 1: are so resistant to quite often and anyone or anything
Speaker 1: that doesn't agree with us or align with us, and
Speaker 1: why there is such a I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: more than ever, or it just seems like to me,
Speaker 1: maybe it's just because I'm thinking about it or more
Speaker 1: aware of it or more focused on it. But a
Speaker 1: prevalence of confirmation bias, you know, echo chambers where people
Speaker 1: only listen to people who agree with them or support them,
Speaker 1: or have the same or similar ideology or philosophy or
Speaker 1: lifestyle or training method or religion or culture, or they
Speaker 1: basically hang out with either literally or metaphorically or virtually online.
Speaker 1: They hang out with people who are essentially singing from
Speaker 1: the same hymn sheet because that makes them feel good
Speaker 1: about what they're doing and what they're saying, and what
Speaker 1: they're believing and what they're thinking. And we don't like
Speaker 1: to be uncomfortable. And anyone that might have evidence or
Speaker 1: even a philosophy or ideology that doesn't agree with ours
Speaker 1: or align with ours, for many reasons that I'll unpack
Speaker 1: in a moment, could be considered to be some kind
Speaker 1: of adversary that we need to conquer or at the
Speaker 1: very least disagree with or disdain or dispute. But imagine
Speaker 1: if we didn't imagine if imagine if we didn't have
Speaker 1: to be right, Imagine if we were okay with not
Speaker 1: knowing what, if we just went, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: don't know what is right, I don't know what is
Speaker 1: wrong in terms of that that topic or that conversation.
Speaker 1: And some will have very strong opinions and ideas on it.
Speaker 1: But some it's like, sometimes people ask me questions about
Speaker 1: things that I really don't have great knowledge or understanding of.
Speaker 1: I really don't have the data. I don't have the
Speaker 1: inside or the awareness or the knowledge. And there have
Speaker 1: been lots of times when I have felt on my journey,
Speaker 1: I've felt compelled to have an opinion about something I
Speaker 1: didn't fucking know about because my ego or my self
Speaker 1: esteem or I don't know, my need to please my people,
Speaker 1: pleasing default setting just kind of raised its ugly head,
Speaker 1: and so I had to appear like I knew something
Speaker 1: so I could contribute, because who wants to go, oh, geez,
Speaker 1: I don't know, especially when people look up to you
Speaker 1: or think you know stuff right. My ego definitely doesn't
Speaker 1: want that. So it's been it's been a challenge for
Speaker 1: me because I've liked being right. And then, you know,
Speaker 1: this is one of the really hard things I think about,
Speaker 1: you know, personal development, the journey. Not personal development the
Speaker 1: podcast or the book or the article or the video
Speaker 1: or the program or the course or the cliche or
Speaker 1: the poster, but personal development that is that is you developing, me, developing, improving, growing,
Speaker 1: becoming more aware, more evolved that whatever that means doing
Speaker 1: better things, creating better things, being more calm, more effective,
Speaker 1: becoming really becoming a better version of myself or yourself?
Speaker 1: What does that even mean? And I guess over the years,
Speaker 1: there's probably been more than I don't even know, but
Speaker 1: hundreds of things that I knew. When I say new,
Speaker 1: I have that in inverted commas, that I knew that
Speaker 1: I was right about. And then over time those things
Speaker 1: that I was right about turns out I was wrong.
Speaker 1: I wasn't right at all, And but I truly believed
Speaker 1: that I was right right. I was quite defiant. But
Speaker 1: what had actually happened was I had confused believing with
Speaker 1: knowing I didn't know. I actually didn't know. I just
Speaker 1: thought I knew. And I'd confused thinking I was right
Speaker 1: with actually being right. I didn't really know. I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I just thought I knew. And of course I always
Speaker 1: told myself. I always liked to believe that I was
Speaker 1: open minded, because that made me feel good about me.
Speaker 1: And we all like to feel good about ourselves. We
Speaker 1: all want us, you know, think that we are open
Speaker 1: minded and we are objective, but honestly, and this is see,
Speaker 1: this is one of the tough things about this conversation
Speaker 1: is not fucking open minded and objective, because our experience
Speaker 1: of the world as individuals is a subjective interpretation of
Speaker 1: things that are going on. Now, does that mean that
Speaker 1: we have no capacity to be open minded about some things? No,
Speaker 1: it doesn't. It doesn't. But what it does mean is
Speaker 1: when we know that, like, you know, one thing happens,
Speaker 1: and ten people are there, one thing happens in that
Speaker 1: three dimensional space, ten people witness it, or experience it,
Speaker 1: or are in the middle of it. Well, they don't
Speaker 1: all have the same interpretation. Therefore they don't all have
Speaker 1: the same individual experience. And so part of this whole
Speaker 1: you know, exploration is to think about what is real?
Speaker 1: What is real? And what is my version of real?
Speaker 1: And why? What is this compulsion that I have to
Speaker 1: be right? And what is this compulsion that I have
Speaker 1: when somebody questions what I think is right to not listen,
Speaker 1: to shut down, to shut down, to not listen, to
Speaker 1: be critical. For me, I think that in some regards
Speaker 1: I was objective and open minded to an extent with
Speaker 1: some things, but with many things I wasn't, you know,
Speaker 1: with some subjects and conversations I was unteachable because I
Speaker 1: already knew what was right, or more accurately, I believed
Speaker 1: I knew, but I didn't. And so if you were
Speaker 1: in my orbit, a potential teacher to me, and you
Speaker 1: didn't agree with my thinking, then I couldn't learn anything
Speaker 1: from you. I wouldn't let myself learn anything from you.
Speaker 1: Were my intentions good? Yes, I think, I think, But
Speaker 1: then maybe I'm trying to make myself feel good by
Speaker 1: saying that I certainly didn't have bad intentions. I think
Speaker 1: my intentions were mostly good. But were my beliefs correct, No,
Speaker 1: they weren't. And of course my ego and my self
Speaker 1: esteem were boosted by my story of how evolved and
Speaker 1: caring and aware and open and even spiritual I was.
Speaker 1: And I would even try to enlighten people that I
Speaker 1: believed were flawed in their thinking with my correct thinking,
Speaker 1: truly believing that I was going to open their eyes
Speaker 1: to the truth, which was really just my thinking. Do
Speaker 1: I get some things right? Of course? Do you get
Speaker 1: some things right? Of course? We all get things right,
Speaker 1: we all get things wrong. But we seem to live
Speaker 1: in a time and a culture where people are terrified
Speaker 1: of being wrong or owning up to the fact that
Speaker 1: they just don't fucking know something more than ever I say,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. I could give you,
Speaker 1: I could give you an opinion, but an opinions not knowledge,
Speaker 1: and opinions not truth, opinions not evidence. I could tell
Speaker 1: you my gut feeling. I could give you maybe an
Speaker 1: insight based on another thing that's in the ballpark of
Speaker 1: this thing, but none of that is absolute knowledge. So
Speaker 1: here's what I think now these days, and here's what
Speaker 1: I want you. I've got eight thoughts that I've jotted down.
Speaker 1: I don't know how this is going to go, but
Speaker 1: I'll assume that you've consented to hearing these thoughts and
Speaker 1: ideas because I've tuned in. So if you need to
Speaker 1: jump out, this will be the time. So these are
Speaker 1: my thoughts and my ideas around the topic of why
Speaker 1: we are so adverse to terrified of against being wrong.
Speaker 1: So number one is I've always and we'll all I've
Speaker 1: always gotten and we'll always get things wrong. I could
Speaker 1: be wrong with what I'm about to say next, but
Speaker 1: I think i'm wrong less often. But I'm also open
Speaker 1: to being wrong more than I was a lot more.
Speaker 1: I'm more comfortable than ever, in fact, in my being
Speaker 1: wrongness being wrongness definitely a term, by the way, And
Speaker 1: I'm also more comfortable than ever to talk about this
Speaker 1: stuff publicly because I think I think that for me,
Speaker 1: it keeps me grounded and it keeps me accountable. And
Speaker 1: while I don't think I'm the high watermark for humility
Speaker 1: because I've got an ego and I'm a fuck with
Speaker 1: sometimes I think it keeps me more humble than I
Speaker 1: would be otherwise. And I've also received feedback from some
Speaker 1: of you that tell me that you find it somewhat
Speaker 1: encouraging and reassuring that that I'm that I'm regularly fucking
Speaker 1: up and getting things wrong, and that I have good
Speaker 1: and bad days, and that I have peaks and troughs,
Speaker 1: and that you know I make mistakes, and of course
Speaker 1: I do all of that. Idea number two is that
Speaker 1: a point number two is that I think the the
Speaker 1: idea of saying I don't know, or I'm wrong or
Speaker 1: I don't un understand, for many people, not all, but
Speaker 1: for many people, that doesn't really fit within the typical
Speaker 1: social operating system of trying to appear smart, trying to
Speaker 1: seem informed and evolved, and educated and spiritual and fill
Speaker 1: in the blank. Being perceived as not knowing, being perceived
Speaker 1: as being stupid or ignorant or incompetent definitely ain't going
Speaker 1: to get us any social status points. And so in
Speaker 1: our culture we are culturally sorry for the repetition there,
Speaker 1: but culturally sociologically and psychologically incentivized to act smart, to
Speaker 1: pretend that we know, to pretend that we're right, and
Speaker 1: to have to seem to have opinions on things that
Speaker 1: we actually know fuck all about because we don't want
Speaker 1: to look dumb. We want to fit in. And part
Speaker 1: of fitting in, part of belonging, part of being accepted,
Speaker 1: part of being valued, part of being perceived in a
Speaker 1: certain way, is about presenting ourselves in a certain way.
Speaker 1: And we were always presenting ourselves, not always, but we're
Speaker 1: often presenting ourselves in a way publicly that we believe
Speaker 1: will be the most socially rewarded, culturally accepted, the most valued.
Speaker 1: And who wants to appear ignorant? Who wants to appear incompetent,
Speaker 1: who wants to appear stupid or unknowing? We don't. We don't.
Speaker 1: Idea Number three is that most of us don't choose
Speaker 1: our beliefs or didn't choose our beliefs, or most of
Speaker 1: our belief you think about the things that and I've
Speaker 1: spoken about this many times, but think about the genesis,
Speaker 1: the origin story of the things that you believe to
Speaker 1: be true. When did you make a decision about Think
Speaker 1: about some fundamental truths. And it could be something like
Speaker 1: I believe in God, or it could be something like
Speaker 1: this political party is bad, or it could be something
Speaker 1: like I'm lacking talent and I will never succeed. And
Speaker 1: they all can be life changing, life informing, life limiting,
Speaker 1: or life empowering beliefs. There are good and bad beliefs,
Speaker 1: of course, positive and negative, empowering and disempowering. But think
Speaker 1: about try to remember the time that you chose each
Speaker 1: of those individual beliefs. And for most of us, we
Speaker 1: can't remember that time because we never chose any of them.
Speaker 1: Those beliefs just kind of chose us. Those beliefs that
Speaker 1: we have, for better or worse, are really consequences of
Speaker 1: interactions with people and things in our world. People, family, friends, coaches, teachers, partners, idols,
Speaker 1: people we look up to, all things media, social media, TV, books, magazines,
Speaker 1: our church, our synagogue, our culture, our group, our company,
Speaker 1: our organization, the people that we intersect with. All of
Speaker 1: these things have influenced and informed how we think, what
Speaker 1: we think, the way we think, and the way we believe,
Speaker 1: and in many ways we are just a byproduct of that.
Speaker 1: And then we believe a way, think a certain way,
Speaker 1: and know certain things, or we think we do not
Speaker 1: because we've thought critically and we've analyzed the data and
Speaker 1: we've looked at different options and come to a conscious conclusion.
Speaker 1: But rather the way that we think, the way that
Speaker 1: we believe, and what we believe, that is merely a
Speaker 1: byproduct of where we've been, what we've seen, who we've
Speaker 1: been around. We're taught, we're taught how to think and
Speaker 1: what to think. And once we're taught how to think
Speaker 1: and what we think, we do we kind of do
Speaker 1: what we've been trained to do. And then when you
Speaker 1: have as a consequence of that training, that programming, that
Speaker 1: informing that conditioning, now you have these set ideas, these
Speaker 1: set beliefs, these set opinions, these set thoughts, and then
Speaker 1: something kind of intersex with that thought, that philosophy, that
Speaker 1: ideology that doesn't resonate you desperately want to criticize that
Speaker 1: because that is something of a threat. Well, unpack that
Speaker 1: more in a moment, and I think point number four.
Speaker 1: It's like we talk about authenticity and humility and vulnerability,
Speaker 1: like we all. I mean, it's almost over talked about,
Speaker 1: you know, this whole thing of being true to ourselves
Speaker 1: and the real you and vulnerable and authentic and humble
Speaker 1: and aware. And while we like the idea of that stuff,
Speaker 1: I want to be authentic at all costs. I want
Speaker 1: to be vulnerable. I want to be real. We like
Speaker 1: the idea, we like the theory, we like the sound
Speaker 1: of that. We want to do it. But in my
Speaker 1: experience and observation only, this is my anecdotal evidence, very
Speaker 1: people will do it. It's like when people come to my
Speaker 1: workshops and I'm talking about things like this and people
Speaker 1: nod their head, and people put up their hand, and
Speaker 1: people tell me at the end they've had a light
Speaker 1: bulb moment or multiple light bold moments, and I say,
Speaker 1: put up your hand. If this is resonating hands go up,
Speaker 1: put up your hand, if this is you, that this
Speaker 1: is me, fuck yeah, put up your hand. If you
Speaker 1: feel like this is going to be the start for
Speaker 1: you to change something big or smile on the hands
Speaker 1: go up. Then people go home and don't do anything.
Speaker 1: Because the idea of being vulnerable, authentic, willing to be wrong, humble,
Speaker 1: self aware, the idea of doing all of these things
Speaker 1: requires no efforts but to actually do them, to put
Speaker 1: them into practice, to be the person who who turns
Speaker 1: that intention, that want, that desire to be all of
Speaker 1: these things, who turns that into a process, into action,
Speaker 1: into outcomes, and then creates a new personal reality. I
Speaker 1: am this person now and I'm putting up my hand.
Speaker 1: This is hard, and I'm not there yet. I'm definitely
Speaker 1: not there yet, but I'm I'm a work in progress.
Speaker 1: Like the idea of being all of this great stuff
Speaker 1: that we talk about on this show, and this is
Speaker 1: an ever present reality. The idea is, remember this is
Speaker 1: just the new project. Is just a bloke and sometimes
Speaker 1: a bloken a guess, mostly a bloken a guess talking
Speaker 1: about stuff. We're just talking about stuff, and you're just
Speaker 1: listening to a bloke today talk about stuff. It's just
Speaker 1: theory until you say, you know what, fuck it, I'm
Speaker 1: going to make this theory. These words, these ideas, these intentions,
Speaker 1: these things that I want to do, but keep finding
Speaker 1: a reason to not actually do them. I'm going to commit.
Speaker 1: I'm going to fully commit, and I'm going to do it.
Speaker 1: And I know that it won't be painless and fun
Speaker 1: and quick and sexy, and I get all of that,
Speaker 1: But nonetheless, I am fucking in because I am so
Speaker 1: tired of having awareness and realization and information and education
Speaker 1: and inspiration that's relevant to me, that's meaningful for me,
Speaker 1: that's potentially transformational for me. That I do not operate,
Speaker 1: that I do not operate in, that I do not operationalize,
Speaker 1: that I do not fucking do something with This is
Speaker 1: the thing, and this is why. And I'm not frustrated,
Speaker 1: but he says defensively, I'm not. But I get excited,
Speaker 1: I get motivated, I get my energy goes up because
Speaker 1: this stuff that I'm talking about now, this is the stuff.
Speaker 1: This is the stuff that changes us. Listening to me
Speaker 1: doesn't change you. Reading a book doesn't change you. Turning
Speaker 1: up to a workshop doesn't change you. Knowing getting new
Speaker 1: information doesn't change you. Somebody encouraging you doesn't change you.
Speaker 1: All of those things that I just mentioned might or
Speaker 1: might not impact you. And as a result, you may
Speaker 1: or may not make a decision or decisions, and you
Speaker 1: may or may not take some action, and you may
Speaker 1: or may not persevere, and you may or may not improvise,
Speaker 1: adapt and overcome in the fucking mayhem of doing the work.
Speaker 1: And you may keep going, and you may change your
Speaker 1: life or none of that. But irrespective of the idea,
Speaker 1: the information or the stimulus, be that my show, be
Speaker 1: that a book, be that a moment in time, be
Speaker 1: that some kind of personal revelation, irrespective of the stimulus
Speaker 1: or the external influence, it still comes down to you.
Speaker 1: Number six is the truth. That truth according to me.
Speaker 1: So take that with a grain of salt. That we
Speaker 1: all look at the world through our own window. And that,
Speaker 1: of course window is a metaphor, of course, but I
Speaker 1: guess if we're talking about this metaphorical window, our window
Speaker 1: would be comprised of things like our beliefs, our values,
Speaker 1: our ideas, our experiences, our memories, our lifestyle, aforementioned programming
Speaker 1: and indoctrination, and all of the influence is s an
Speaker 1: influence who influence ers ers on planet us. But more
Speaker 1: often than not, we don't even see the window because
Speaker 1: our face is pressed up against the glass. We don't
Speaker 1: see it. We don't see our own programming. We don't
Speaker 1: see our bias. We don't see that we are being shaped, molded, influenced,
Speaker 1: and to a large extent, determined by the things that
Speaker 1: we think and believe, irrespective of how right or wrong
Speaker 1: they are. So back to the topic of the chat,
Speaker 1: which is being prepared to be wrong and being okay
Speaker 1: with it. And while we're why we are so terrified
Speaker 1: of being wrong. The challenge for us, part of the
Speaker 1: challenge is to recognize our own programming. This is not
Speaker 1: to say, ah, it's everything I thought was right is
Speaker 1: now wrong. It's not that at all. It's just recognizing, Oh,
Speaker 1: I know why I think this way. I know where
Speaker 1: this belief came from. I know I see that particular
Speaker 1: topic or situation the way that I see it because
Speaker 1: Dad does and Dad's been my dad forever, and he
Speaker 1: thinks that, and and I love Dad, and I respect Dad,
Speaker 1: or Mum and Mum thinks this, and I think that,
Speaker 1: and maybe Mum's right, maybe Dad's wrong, or the other
Speaker 1: way around, or but nonetheless, it's good to have that
Speaker 1: awareness and then consider that maybe maybe I'm looking through
Speaker 1: Mum's window and Dad's window half the time. Maybe I
Speaker 1: don't need to look through a window at all. Maybe
Speaker 1: I can look beyond the window and see what is
Speaker 1: not just what I believe is. Number seven is because
Speaker 1: why people are so desperate to be right and not
Speaker 1: wrong is because sometimes that's what the group that someone
Speaker 1: is in requires. Like we have been in groups where
Speaker 1: in order to stay in the group that I was in,
Speaker 1: I needed to believe certain things and do certain things,
Speaker 1: and align with certain things and behave certain ways, and
Speaker 1: all of those absolute non negotiables were prerequisites of being
Speaker 1: in the group. And so in order to stay in
Speaker 1: the group, I need to make sure that I defend
Speaker 1: the thinking of the group. I need to defend the beliefs,
Speaker 1: the mandates, the ideology, the philosophy of the group. Because
Speaker 1: I am in the right group, of course I'm in
Speaker 1: the right group, and everyone who isn't in my group
Speaker 1: is in obviously the wrong group. And because I'm in
Speaker 1: the right group, then what I believe in, what I
Speaker 1: think being part of the right group is right. And
Speaker 1: this is why people don't want to be wrong. I mean,
Speaker 1: imagine if after years or decades of believing a certain thing,
Speaker 1: and I know this is scary. But imagine if somehow
Speaker 1: you actually truly discovered Imagine if some curtain was pulled
Speaker 1: back in your brain, some metaphoric curtain got pulled back
Speaker 1: that exposed you to the truth that you couldn't see,
Speaker 1: a truth that you couldn't see. I mean, wow. I
Speaker 1: mean over the years, when I really believe certain things,
Speaker 1: and sometimes I would get presented with not a thought
Speaker 1: or an idea, but actually evidence like yeah, data, science,
Speaker 1: like hard evidence that, by the way, did prove to
Speaker 1: be true, not pseudo evidence or pseudoscience. Oh. I really
Speaker 1: pushed back. I really pushed back because when I've believed
Speaker 1: a certain thing for a long time and then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, I get some new information that is
Speaker 1: not in line with what I know. In inverted commas,
Speaker 1: is right, that shit's going to fuck you up. That's
Speaker 1: going to dissorient your whole cognitive, emotional, sociological world, Like
Speaker 1: how on earth? Like that's the that's terrifying, you know,
Speaker 1: And this is the This is the again, this is
Speaker 1: the practical reality of actually being vulnerable, of actually being
Speaker 1: open to learning and unlearning. Like I've said, people love
Speaker 1: the idea of it because sounds good, I want to
Speaker 1: be vulable, vulnerable. I want to be raw, real, authentic.
Speaker 1: I want to be open to learning and unlearning. Yeah,
Speaker 1: high five until you actually discover that the thing that
Speaker 1: is intertwined with who you are is bullshit or is
Speaker 1: only partially true. And number eight, recognizing acknowledging and leaning
Speaker 1: into our lack of knowledge and understanding of certain things.
Speaker 1: I'm going to say that again, recognizing acknowledging and even
Speaker 1: leaning into our lack of knowledge and understanding of certain
Speaker 1: things in front of other people. Like being real and
Speaker 1: raw like this is actually an exercise in self awareness
Speaker 1: and humility and authenticity and personal growth because you're doing
Speaker 1: we're doing the hard thing, the hard thing, the uncomfortable thing.
Speaker 1: And most importantly in that scenario, when you're leaning into
Speaker 1: you know, when you're saying, oh look I don't know,
Speaker 1: or you're saying I got it wrong, or you're saying
Speaker 1: I fucked up, or you're saying I was misinformed, that
Speaker 1: is that is an exercise in resilience. That is an
Speaker 1: exercise in growth. That is that is you not role playing,
Speaker 1: not pretending, not trying to gain social status or social
Speaker 1: credit points. That's you being real and raw no matter
Speaker 1: the social cost, no matter the outcome. And this is
Speaker 1: the you know, the personal development journey. While there is
Speaker 1: a lot of you know resources, books and me and
Speaker 1: videos and podcasts, and I mean, there's mountains of shit,
Speaker 1: right and you all know that there's fucking mountains of stuff.
Speaker 1: Some of it's bullshit, some of it's brilliant, some of
Speaker 1: it's in between. And if I'm being honest, probably I
Speaker 1: vary between bullshit and brilliant. Who knows, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'll let you decide.
Speaker 2: But but really, really, really, the personal growth journey is lonely.
Speaker 1: It's lonely because ultimately, it's you. It's you and your thoughts,
Speaker 1: it's you and your courage, it's you and your self awareness,
Speaker 1: it's you and your honesty. It's you. When no one's
Speaker 1: fucking looking, it's you. It's you. Going I fucked up.
Speaker 1: Not here's five excuses. Just I fucked up. I'm not
Speaker 1: looking for self pity or a pat on back or
Speaker 1: a fucking group hug. Just I fucked up. And that's okay.
Speaker 1: Now I know better. I'm going to do better. I
Speaker 1: got that wrong. I've got lots of things right, I've
Speaker 1: got a few things wrong. I'm trying like this journey.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm fifteen hundred and whatever episodes in now
Speaker 1: I must be nearly fifteen fifty. I don't know, but like,
Speaker 1: this is the thing. Like I'm sitting here, it's Saturday night,
Speaker 1: it's June one, it's eight forty seven, and I was
Speaker 1: just sitting here writing some stuff, and I decided to
Speaker 1: just record this in the moment and right now, sitting
Speaker 1: in my house by myself, I'm reflecting, I'm thinking, and
Speaker 1: this is raw and real. This is not manufactured, this
Speaker 1: is not scripted. I'm not role playing. And some people
Speaker 1: will do I think everyone will love this, of course
Speaker 1: I don't. Do. I think some people have already tuned out.
Speaker 1: Of course they have. Do. I think some people are
Speaker 1: going to find a reason to to take action. I
Speaker 1: do do. I think some people will give it another
Speaker 1: day or two's thought. I do. Do. I think some
Speaker 1: people will think it's bullshit and discard it. I do.
Speaker 1: And all of that is okay. When I want to
Speaker 1: coach someone, or I do coach someone, or I want
Speaker 1: to encourage or support or serve someone, what I care
Speaker 1: about is first and foremost, like, are they ready to
Speaker 1: do the work because it doesn't matter what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: doesn't matter how right, accurate, informed, well intentioned it is,
Speaker 1: or whoever is. What matters is that we're ready to
Speaker 1: actually take charge, and we're ready to be okay with
Speaker 1: being flawed. We're ready to be okay being wrong. We're
Speaker 1: ready to be okay publicly socially with saying I don't know,
Speaker 1: or I'm embarrassed, or I'm a bit scared, or I
Speaker 1: feel a bit insecure, because all of those things are
Speaker 1: true for all of us. At some stage, I think
Speaker 1: that's it. I think I'm done. It's probably more, but
Speaker 1: maybe I need a cup of tea. See your team,
Speaker 1: Hope you got something from that