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Speaker 1: We need to feel that roster a bit more. Hi,

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Speaker 1: Hi guys, welcome back. Welcome back to Just for Girls,

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Speaker 1: the best podcast in the world. Yeah. I love hearing

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Speaker 1: when there's something that's satisfying about knowing that a boy

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Speaker 2: This guy dmmed me the other day and was like,

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Speaker 1: But my friend Hannah was like said her boyfriend had

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Speaker 1: And I love it. So welcome all listeners back.

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Speaker 2: And I love it when guys say they find me funny.

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Speaker 2: They're like, oh, listen to the podcast, Like I actually laugh.

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Speaker 1: Maybe this is the moment that we knew that your

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Speaker 1: little situationship was going downhill when he said I was funny, then.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, guys, seeing Barley was like easy is funnier than you.

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Speaker 2: I was like, that is not something you say to

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Speaker 1: Why because like, being told you're funny is like such

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Speaker 1: Oh please?

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Speaker 2: Actually Easy, I've called Easy straight after it happened last night,

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Speaker 2: and Easy goes, Oh my god, you have to tell

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Speaker 1: I like advice from people. I like to handle all

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Speaker 2: Yes, so it's like, rip the fucking band aid off

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Speaker 1: How do we approach this situation? My boyfriend and I

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Speaker 2: You were in Europe together, you've been dating for three

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Speaker 2: When there's fuel, there's fire, baby, When fire and fuel,

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Speaker 1: See this is exactly what I'm talking about again.

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Speaker 2: Tell me the show that because now I'm mad that

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Speaker 1: You've done two things now, and get mad at yourself

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Speaker 1: saying she understood my pain and that nothing romantic has happened.

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00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:20,640
Speaker 1: She only sees him as a brother. Girls talk as

438
00:19:20,680 --> 00:19:22,320
Speaker 1: they do, and my friends and I found out that

439
00:19:22,400 --> 00:19:24,120
Speaker 1: he definitely slept with her.

440
00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:28,120
Speaker 2: Sally, Now, you're a fucking cool priv because why did

441
00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:28,920
Speaker 2: you message her at all?

442
00:19:29,359 --> 00:19:31,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't message and say I'm sorry. I get

443
00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:33,639
Speaker 1: your pain. If it's just gonna come out that you

444
00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:37,760
Speaker 1: fucked him. Look, it's always the boy's fault. Well, in

445
00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:40,480
Speaker 1: this situation, it is, but girls are not doing the rest.

446
00:19:40,800 --> 00:19:45,040
Speaker 1: I confronted him again and he told me he lied again.

447
00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:48,159
Speaker 1: He'd slept with her three times that we know of.

448
00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:50,240
Speaker 1: There's always more. They're just the only ones they feel

449
00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:52,360
Speaker 1: like they have to own up to. As far back

450
00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:54,479
Speaker 1: as when we were still in high school. After spending

451
00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:56,720
Speaker 1: multiple boat trips and family dinners with both of them,

452
00:19:56,800 --> 00:19:58,879
Speaker 1: I looked absolutely oblivious to the fact that they were

453
00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:01,560
Speaker 1: sleeping together. God, that would be so hard. He told

454
00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:03,560
Speaker 1: me he felt absolutely nothing towards this girl, and he's

455
00:20:03,560 --> 00:20:06,879
Speaker 1: only ever been in love with me. To make matters worse,

456
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:09,240
Speaker 1: six months prior I had to get an STD check

457
00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:13,200
Speaker 1: to get the IUD results came back positive for COMMITTEEA twice,

458
00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:16,040
Speaker 1: and when I confronted him, he denied cheating and said

459
00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:18,480
Speaker 1: he'd never been near another girl. That actually happened to

460
00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:22,560
Speaker 1: me when I was in my first relationship. Something was

461
00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:24,480
Speaker 1: going like I think it wasn't cleven.

462
00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:26,400
Speaker 2: Her or anything, but something wasn't right down there.

463
00:20:26,560 --> 00:20:29,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, like and then I was like, where, like, I've

464
00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:32,120
Speaker 1: only ever slept with this one guy. He's only ever

465
00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:34,240
Speaker 1: meant to have slept with me. Why have I got this?

466
00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:38,760
Speaker 1: And he'd been cheating on me? Yeah, So trust your body.

467
00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:41,680
Speaker 2: If you're only sleeping in one person and you're continually

468
00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:47,240
Speaker 2: seping with one person and continually something the only yeah,

469
00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:48,359
Speaker 2: you ain't the only bitch.

470
00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:51,160
Speaker 1: Thrust you can get thrushes back to here. But it's

471
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:56,400
Speaker 1: like if you're getting like the clap, there's another girl

472
00:20:56,440 --> 00:21:01,440
Speaker 1: involved in all right? What is the up? Gone? A real?

473
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:05,399
Speaker 1: When I confronted him, he denied cheat cheating, saying you

474
00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:07,400
Speaker 1: never been near another girl. He was hesitant to get

475
00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:09,360
Speaker 1: tested and took one and a half months to send

476
00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:14,400
Speaker 1: me his negative test results. Oh he probably got treated. Yeah,

477
00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:17,679
Speaker 1: this guy's a dick, all right.

478
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:20,280
Speaker 2: So he got treated, he came back and he got tested,

479
00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:21,200
Speaker 2: he came back positive.

480
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,359
Speaker 1: He was like, oh, fuck, give me the fucking cream

481
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:25,119
Speaker 1: or whatever it is. I've never had CLAM, so I

482
00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:25,520
Speaker 1: wouldn't know.

483
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,959
Speaker 2: No one know. Then he goes, all right, now, I'm

484
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,200
Speaker 2: gonna get another set check also negative.

485
00:21:30,320 --> 00:21:32,879
Speaker 1: Here you go, that's ye crazy crazy.

486
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,199
Speaker 2: How didn't gas like you into thinking that you cheated

487
00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:36,520
Speaker 2: on him and got the clam?

488
00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:40,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, stop saying the clam. That is not what they

489
00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:45,480
Speaker 1: called care for me, because all right, quick side, my

490
00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,440
Speaker 1: mom and I were closed and would hang out one

491
00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:50,600
Speaker 1: on one all the time, his mom and I, his

492
00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:53,119
Speaker 1: mom and I. After she found out her son cheated,

493
00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 1: it gave me chlamydia and potentially infertility because chamdia gone

494
00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 1: untreated can't cause infertility. That's why she said that. She

495
00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:04,159
Speaker 1: turned against me and told me not to be petty.

496
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:06,760
Speaker 1: She's told everyone, I'm making up rumors and I'm trying

497
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,200
Speaker 1: to be disrespectful towards him. She's also trying to hide

498
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:11,480
Speaker 1: the fact that her son is still seeing Sally every night.

499
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:16,040
Speaker 1: The disrespect. That's so fucked up. This man could have

500
00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:18,720
Speaker 1: made me potentially infertile, and him and his mother have

501
00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:21,200
Speaker 1: the audacity not to be honest with me. Fast forward

502
00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:23,360
Speaker 1: to right now. There is not a week that goes

503
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:25,520
Speaker 1: by where I'm not finding out new information. He was

504
00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:28,359
Speaker 1: liking girls' stories, chatting them up, go on in girl's houses,

505
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:31,000
Speaker 1: leaving his phone at home while we were together. I

506
00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,439
Speaker 1: just found out that he's about to start dating Sally

507
00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 1: and doesn't see a problem with it. I'm gonna see

508
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:37,879
Speaker 1: them around all the time is they're in a similar

509
00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 1: friendship group, including multiple events coming up together. I feel

510
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:42,880
Speaker 1: sick to my stomach knowing he's getting away with all

511
00:22:42,880 --> 00:22:44,639
Speaker 1: of this and I have to see them around. I

512
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 1: would really appreciate you with your advice on how to

513
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 1: deal with this.

514
00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:50,679
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say one thing, Karma is going to be

515
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,600
Speaker 2: a fucking bitch, babe, and clap.

516
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,000
Speaker 1: He's gonna fucking eat his us.

517
00:22:58,640 --> 00:23:02,080
Speaker 2: Sorry, I'll take it seriously, But like you were going

518
00:23:02,119 --> 00:23:03,800
Speaker 2: through a really hard time at the moment, and you

519
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:05,600
Speaker 2: feel like you can't escape it, and you feel like

520
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,440
Speaker 2: everything is like doomed for you. But I'm telling you,

521
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:10,479
Speaker 2: you'll go through this hard time and you'll come out

522
00:23:10,560 --> 00:23:12,560
Speaker 2: the end of a better person. You'll be so grateful

523
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:17,080
Speaker 2: that you have this fucked up, psycho pathological liar out

524
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:19,560
Speaker 2: of your life. Let him date Sally, because if he's

525
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:20,840
Speaker 2: got to do it to you, he's going to do

526
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:21,399
Speaker 2: it to Sally.

527
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 1: How they get them. He's been cheating on you for years.

528
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 1: I've gotten away with it. That does it to an

529
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 1: extent like that doesn't change? Yes, Like I maybe I

530
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:35,240
Speaker 1: do believe that sometimes someone can maybe once cheat on

531
00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:37,880
Speaker 1: a partner, and I do be and is an actual mistake.

532
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 2: I think once, if you do it once and you

533
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:42,120
Speaker 2: come clean and you realize it was the wrong thing,

534
00:23:42,160 --> 00:23:45,560
Speaker 2: you can change. But if you're consistently doing it, he doesn't.

535
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 1: He doesn't have it, and it's not going to change

536
00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 1: now that he's dating Sally. Let me tell you now,

537
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,560
Speaker 1: So it's all going to go fucking tits up soon eventually.

538
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 1: Don't worry. But if I can give you any advice

539
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 1: for the coming months, if you're an event to them,

540
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 1: try and not drink too much, and do not embarrass

541
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 1: yourself if you're yelling at them in public or yeah,

542
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:04,960
Speaker 1: saying anything.

543
00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 2: Like.

544
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 1: The best thing you can do now is remove yourself

545
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,640
Speaker 1: from the situation and just move forward.

546
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 2: I just stay silent. Silence is you do not have

547
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:13,840
Speaker 2: to have the last word. You do not have to

548
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,399
Speaker 2: try to ruin it, because then they're all they're gonna do,

549
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:18,520
Speaker 2: and they're not sounding like great people at the moment,

550
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 2: they're gonna go, oh, Benny is a fucking psycho.

551
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 1: She's fucking psycho. She's so obsessed with me. She won't

552
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 1: leave me alone, Like it's fucked.

553
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 2: Like she's literally like in love with me, Like like

554
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 2: shut up.

555
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 1: Like shut Nothing you're gonna say now to either of

556
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 1: them is going to change the situation at hand. So

557
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:36,120
Speaker 1: it's better to just not say anything because then they're

558
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 1: just gonna call you crazy, which is so fucking sad

559
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 1: that that's something that would happen, but best believe it does.

560
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,359
Speaker 1: Just steer clear from them. They will fuck it up

561
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:46,320
Speaker 1: all on their own, babe, and you can sit and

562
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 1: watch and laugh when it happens.

563
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:50,199
Speaker 2: And I think you also have to kind of change

564
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 2: in yourself. And it's just like anyone trying to get

565
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 2: over someone. You said at the start when you were

566
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 2: telling the story, like he was the best boyfriend eghver,

567
00:24:57,359 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 2: we had the best relationship, Like he's all I could

568
00:24:59,240 --> 00:24:59,600
Speaker 2: have asked for.

569
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 1: Wasn't the best boyfriend ever.

570
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,639
Speaker 2: He cheated on you multiple times, he did things behind

571
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 2: your back, he was not being loyal. He wasn't the

572
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 2: best boyfriend ever. Yeah, you may have had a good connection,

573
00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 2: but he wasn't a good boyfriend. So change the narrity

574
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 2: in your head and stop like romanticizing him, because look

575
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 2: what he did to you. Villainize that in your head,

576
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:19,640
Speaker 2: and that will make it so easy to get over.

577
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 2: The thing I struggle with with my relationship is like

578
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,399
Speaker 2: and getting over my ex is like, nothing bad happened

579
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 2: in my relationship. It's so hard to villainize him. It's

580
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,400
Speaker 2: so hard to like. But you can't villainize him. He's

581
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,119
Speaker 2: giving you so many reasons.

582
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:34,680
Speaker 1: All the bad thing he's done you, and read them

583
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 1: out every time you're feeling.

584
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:38,199
Speaker 2: So lood as your fucking notes app So when you

585
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,119
Speaker 2: know that you're going to like you as your home screen,

586
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 2: So when you know that he's going to cheat it.

587
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 1: On me, like girls stories gave me chlamydia, Like this

588
00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:50,439
Speaker 1: guy is a dick. And if you if there's an

589
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:52,320
Speaker 1: event where they're there and you just actually something you

590
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 1: just know in your soul, I think whether you're going

591
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:56,919
Speaker 1: to be able to handle it that night or not,

592
00:25:57,720 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 1: don't go if you do, you know what I mean.

593
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:02,239
Speaker 1: Take sometimes you used to want to go because I

594
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 1: was like, but I look really good and you'll see

595
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 1: me and be jealous and want me back. I end

596
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,439
Speaker 1: up fucking crying in the corner. Do you know what

597
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: I mean? Like, you can't avoid it, and you have friends,

598
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:13,240
Speaker 1: maybe go do something else first, going to an event

599
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 1: where they're going to be there. Just try and create

600
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: some distance from them for a while. Protect your energy,

601
00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:23,400
Speaker 1: protect your pace, girl, all right? Story number two.

602
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:27,880
Speaker 2: Me and this guy, let's call him Chad, very good

603
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 2: friends for over five years now and he's in the

604
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:33,680
Speaker 2: same friendship group. Recently, I found out that Chad was

605
00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:36,200
Speaker 2: seeing another girl and told him that him and I

606
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 2: have slept together.

607
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:40,400
Speaker 1: As in, Chad told the girl he's seeing.

608
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 2: That, Yeah, it's like you're seeing Chad.

609
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:46,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, And Chad goes, well, by the way, was sound yeah,

610
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 1: And Sam's like, no, we didn't. Yeah. I feel like

611
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:49,960
Speaker 1: this is that's where it's going.

612
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 2: I found this out through my boyfriend, as him and

613
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:54,640
Speaker 2: Chad are really good friends and they always hang out.

614
00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:56,920
Speaker 2: Chad and I have never slept together, and it.

615
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 1: Made my boyfriend beyond mad.

616
00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 2: I saw him out on the weekend with my boyfriend

617
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:03,159
Speaker 2: and I couldn't even look or speak to him. How

618
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 2: can I maintain this friendship when he's told everyone I've

619
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 2: slept together, but never have. This goes back to our question.

620
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:10,919
Speaker 1: Of the week. Yeah, it's like like that, that is

621
00:27:10,960 --> 00:27:13,520
Speaker 1: exactly the situation that's happened with me, But it isn't

622
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 1: the guy that was that I've supposedly slept with, saying

623
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 1: that we had it was another guy that's gone. I

624
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:22,879
Speaker 1: know they did, and we're both sitting there going when

625
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 1: when the fuck did we do that? Which is crazy.

626
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:28,479
Speaker 2: The thing you need to do here is you need

627
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:30,879
Speaker 2: to be out on the weekend and you need to

628
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 2: put Chad with your boyfriend and go, Chad, have we

629
00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 2: slept together? So when we slee together, can you explain

630
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,120
Speaker 2: where we were, what we did, how was it?

631
00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,560
Speaker 1: Because I can't recall it. But another thing, the question

632
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 1: you asked is how do you maintain this friendship? To

633
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 1: be honest, you don't. You don't.

634
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 2: People don't put him in an awkward position and then

635
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 2: he can then be caught out on his life.

636
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,800
Speaker 1: Why has he done that? Yeah? What was the point

637
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,440
Speaker 1: when I'm doing Unless I don't know whether to ruin

638
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:01,240
Speaker 1: your relationship or cause a riff between you and your friend.

639
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 1: I just think if he's gonna lie like that, he's

640
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 1: not someone worth being in your close circle, but I

641
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:13,439
Speaker 1: confront all the way Number three. Long story short, my

642
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: single girl roster is low key overflowing right now. Ah Babe,

643
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 1: I wish, but I'm actually in a position where I

644
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: don't want to cut any of them off right at

645
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,919
Speaker 1: this second slash dedicate my time to just one person

646
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 1: because I'm scared I'll can't one of them off, then

647
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 1: realize later that it's actually been the one I want,

648
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: and then it'll all be too late quickly. Can I

649
00:28:31,840 --> 00:28:34,200
Speaker 1: just say, I'm a huge believer in what yours will

650
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 1: never pass you by, regardless of the mistakes you make

651
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: along the way, whether you separate for years or months

652
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 1: in a time, if that is the person that the

653
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 1: world is deemed meant for you, it will always always

654
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:45,000
Speaker 1: come find you.

655
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 2: Use my parents for an example. They broke up when

656
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 2: they were twenty one. They literally had the different boyfriends

657
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 2: and different girlfriends. They and my mum always knew in

658
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 2: the back of her head that Jeff gee off my

659
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 2: father will be the father of her children. And they're married,

660
00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 2: and now they've been married for thirty three years. If

661
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 2: they're meant for you, they'll come back. Yeah, and like

662
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 2: I have done and I have had situations where one

663
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 2: of us haven't done right by one another, but you

664
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 2: always feel like if it's meant to be, you always

665
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 2: find a way to forgive each other.

666
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:18,959
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I wouldn't fret about that. Yeah, I've been

667
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 1: single for so fucking long and I'm at the point

668
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 1: where I've had enough and i just want to settle

669
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 1: down with my person. So I've started dating, if that's

670
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 1: what you call it. I'm currently talking to four different men, babe,

671
00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 1: go you, each of which I feel like he's getting

672
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 1: a little more serious. But I'm so jealous of you

673
00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 1: to have four different men that it's all getting like

674
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 1: a little bit serious with is my dream? That's kind

675
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: of harding You've got power. That's a big ros stop. Yeah,

676
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 1: because seven days to be serious getting do you know

677
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 1: what I mean? That means you're generally commuting quite Yeah.

678
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 2: Like there have seven days of the week, and that's

679
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 2: over half the days that you're spending at least with

680
00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 2: one of these guys.

681
00:29:56,560 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you'd probably be seeing them models a week,

682
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 1: all right, each of which I feel like is getting

683
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 1: a little more serious as time goes on. The Only

684
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: thing is I kind of think each of them think

685
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 1: that they're the only man in my world right now,

686
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: and they don't know about each other. That's fine, It's

687
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:13,480
Speaker 1: preferred because then I think they can just you can

688
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 1: figure it out without them being jealous and weird and

689
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:16,800
Speaker 1: trying to compete. Do you know what I mean?

690
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 2: It's like you're not exclusive with any of them, so

691
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 2: they don't really need to know.

692
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 1: I think it's probably it's better for you and you're

693
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 1: working out of the situation that they don't know. My

694
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 1: question is, how would you go about this? How do

695
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 1: you approach this kind of situation? I honestly just want

696
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 1: to keep testing the waters with all of them, But

697
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,440
Speaker 1: I also feel bad that I'm giving them the wrong idea.

698
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:35,719
Speaker 1: What if I'm honest about seeing other people and then

699
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 1: I end up with my single girl era with no

700
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: men fml help?

701
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 2: All Right, Okay, so this is the situation you've got

702
00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 2: to play out in your head. We've got tom, We've

703
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 2: got Johnny, we've got Bobby, and we've got Ben. You're

704
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 2: not gonna remember Let's just go on to and for john, Tommy, Bobby,

705
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 2: and Ben.

706
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, so all.

707
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:57,880
Speaker 2: Four have messaged you saying what are you doing Thursday night?

708
00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 1: Who do you want to see? Who do you want

709
00:30:59,560 --> 00:30:59,840
Speaker 1: to see?

710
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 2: But in saying that and then limit it to two,

711
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 2: so maybe it's just John and Bobby and you're like,

712
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 2: all right, I'm gonna fuck off Tom and Ben.

713
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 1: Because Tom and Ben didn't even pop into my mind.

714
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, You're like, it was John and Bobby, Like there's

715
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 2: always some more contenders, there's a pool towards like there's

716
00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 2: always like a few guys in the DMS, And I'm like, yeah,

717
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 2: I'll lead you on a little bit. Doesn't happen to

718
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 2: some more compliments or something like that. It's like you

719
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 2: have you have some men that are like in your

720
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 2: DMS or that you speak to for an ego boost,

721
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 2: that you like, you know, are always going to kind

722
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 2: of be around there when you want a little little comfort,

723
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 2: you know, And that could just be Tom for you,

724
00:31:37,400 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 2: for example. You go, all right, hypothetically, if all four

725
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 2: of them wanted to see you on a Thursday night,

726
00:31:43,440 --> 00:31:45,840
Speaker 2: limit it down to two, and then you can play

727
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 2: with those two until it gets exclusive, until one of

728
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 2: them asks you, are you seeing anybody else? I'd really

729
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 2: like to be exclusive and everybody else, And then you

730
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:55,800
Speaker 2: figure out when it comes to that.

731
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 1: I just I do not think it's an issue to

732
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 1: continue doing it as long as you. I do think

733
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:05,280
Speaker 1: it's necessary to mention to them or at least say that, like,

734
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 1: don't say it's exclusive if it's not, you know, mention

735
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 1: that maybe you're still kind of seeing other people, or

736
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:12,960
Speaker 1: you know that you're still very open and you're trying

737
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:15,000
Speaker 1: to work out what you want right now, Like don't

738
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 1: tell these guys they're the only one. But I'd say

739
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,239
Speaker 1: limit it down so you can start figuring it out,

740
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 1: because if you do want to settle.

741
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 2: Down some relationship, I think you just limit it down

742
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 2: to two and then wait until they asked you the

743
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:30,600
Speaker 2: question like, hey, like you know, I'm really enjoying your time,

744
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 2: and like I would just like to make it exclusively

745
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 2: you'll know, yeah, yeah, I think you just like really

746
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 2: need to do your research into like these boys.

747
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 1: You know what worst comes to us, there's always polygamy.

748
00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 2: And then yeah that too, you could test the waters

749
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 2: and that if you want to, or you also had

750
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 2: to put yourself in their shoes. What did they turn

751
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 2: around to you and was like, well, I'm seeing easy too.

752
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, how would you feel would you feel would that

753
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,840
Speaker 1: make you upset? Would you want to stick around? Yeah?

754
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 1: So to make you upset?

755
00:32:58,080 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 2: Or even if you didn't care, then they're probably not.

756
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 2: And then if you're worried, you're like, fuck, so I

757
00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 2: limited it down to John and Bobby, And you're like,

758
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 2: I shouldn't have Johnny miss Johnny. Johnny probably still misses

759
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 2: you too, And if Johnny is meant.

760
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 1: For you, get him back and can hit him up

761
00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:18,600
Speaker 1: and ask him what he's doing on Friday after you

762
00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 1: see Bobby. But girl, honestly, this is not a problem.

763
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 1: Not about it you have? Is he know? I wish

764
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:28,720
Speaker 1: we were in your fucking position? Hand off Bobby to

765
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:30,880
Speaker 1: me and John to her. We need to feel that.

766
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: Rolster a bit more.

767
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 2: Dilemma Number four. You're twenty four years old. You're in

768
00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 2: a four year relationship, but your partner is quite a

769
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 2: few years older than you. You've begun to realize that

770
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:44,960
Speaker 2: you want to travel and feel like you want to

771
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:45,600
Speaker 2: do it alone.

772
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 1: You want to go learn and experience life.

773
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 2: Do you try and travel with him and see if

774
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 2: that's what you want and are you just in your

775
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 2: head about wanting to do it alone? Or do you

776
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 2: break up in order to have those experiences?

777
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:57,240
Speaker 1: Do you need to break up in order to have

778
00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 1: that experience? Do you know what I mean? Or are

779
00:33:59,240 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 1: you allowed to say I really want to experience the

780
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 1: world by myself for a month, Like I'm gonna go

781
00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 1: on a holiday by myself for a month, Like I

782
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:09,399
Speaker 1: know a friend that's boyfriend's going away for a bit.

783
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 1: Like some people are just those people that like experiencing

784
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,839
Speaker 1: things on their own like that. But then I also

785
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:16,439
Speaker 1: want there is it the right guy if you don't

786
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 1: want to experience it with them?

787
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think in your head it kind of

788
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 2: sounds like you're questioning in your mind if the grass

789
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 2: is greener. He's a bit older than you, And you're.

790
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:30,160
Speaker 1: Kind of like, is this am I locking myself into?

791
00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 2: Am my locking myself down? Like I spoke to this woman,

792
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:36,239
Speaker 2: like one of my housemate's friends. She's thirty, and she

793
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,760
Speaker 2: was with her boyfriend since she was like sixteen or seventeen.

794
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 2: They got married, they had a huge extravaganza, and then

795
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:42,879
Speaker 2: a couple months after the wedding, she was like, wait,

796
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:44,680
Speaker 2: I don't want this life, Like I don't want to

797
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 2: settle down. I don't want to have kids in the

798
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,759
Speaker 2: next few years, like I want to do my own thing.

799
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:50,759
Speaker 2: I've been with you throughout my whole twenty She was like,

800
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 2: I was living a life that I thought I wanted

801
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 2: and I actually didn't. And in hindsight, I'm really glad

802
00:34:56,880 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: that I'm now twenty two and I was single in

803
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:03,359
Speaker 2: my early twenties. I think it's so important and I've

804
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 2: really I am so grateful I've been.

805
00:35:05,719 --> 00:35:06,960
Speaker 1: Able to experience that.

806
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 2: And I in my last relationship, there's nothing wrong with it,

807
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 2: But I was always thinking like, oh.

808
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 1: He's not doing this, and he's not doing this, and

809
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 1: he's not doing that.

810
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:17,880
Speaker 2: And you find problems in your relationship that you always

811
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 2: then question, well, like if I was with somebody else,

812
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 2: would that be better? As the grass greener? Sometimes the

813
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 2: grass isn't greener. And again that comes down to the thing.

814
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 2: If they're meant for you, you'll make it work. And

815
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,440
Speaker 2: maybe you do need to go off and be experienced

816
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:31,359
Speaker 2: like single, because you need to get that itch out

817
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 2: of you. And I'm so on board of like, if

818
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:35,600
Speaker 2: you're having those things, you've got that and if you

819
00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 2: try to push past it now, you're gonna have a

820
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 2: fucking midlife crisis when you're twenty eight.

821
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just think maybe see if you can just

822
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 1: go on a little single trip, like a trip on

823
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:46,880
Speaker 1: your own without if you don't want to break up

824
00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:48,839
Speaker 1: with the guy. I'm sure he seems like a nice guy,

825
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 1: and maybe, like, would you really be that offended if

826
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 1: someone's like, I want to travel on my own. I

827
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 1: still want to be with you, but like I just

828
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 1: want to solo travel for a bit. Some people need

829
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 1: that independence. You could be in one of those rot

830
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 1: situations where it's like is the grass greener? And in

831
00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 1: that case, maybe it is worth going on a break,

832
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: experiencing those things and seeing how you feel when you

833
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 1: get like break up. Break Yeah, break not I meant breakup, but.

834
00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 2: Like sometimes you almost need to prove to yourself that

835
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:16,520
Speaker 2: the grass maybe isn't greener.

836
00:36:16,840 --> 00:36:18,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, and if it was meant to be at will

837
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: just do stupid shit in around then maybe it won't

838
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:26,400
Speaker 1: work out, but you can do it enjoy your travels.

839
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:32,160
Speaker 1: He'll probably still be waiting. So number five, how would

840
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:34,319
Speaker 1: you approach it? If your so called best friend makes

841
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 1: a joke in front of new friends about your dating life.

842
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,239
Speaker 1: It goes a bit like this, get back to me

843
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 1: when you get out of the talking stage. Oh that's brutal.

844
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 1: If I said that's fucking rude, as like, I'd be

845
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:48,360
Speaker 1: really angry, especially around people that a new you know,

846
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 1: it's embarrassed just trying him like to be a team here. Yeah, yeah,

847
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 1: knowing I have really bad commitment issues due to an

848
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 1: absent biological dad and a cheating step dad, which is

849
00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 1: well aware of. It could have been a joking matter,

850
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:02,359
Speaker 1: but she knows how sensitive when it comes to this matter.

851
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:04,360
Speaker 1: How would you approach it? And did I overreact or

852
00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 1: was it actually fucked up? No, it's fucked up.

853
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:10,400
Speaker 2: Like there's certain things, like there's certain triggers in everybody's life,

854
00:37:10,719 --> 00:37:14,240
Speaker 2: Like something like I wouldn't ever say, like and people

855
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 2: have said is like when Easy and I are out,

856
00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:18,759
Speaker 2: everyone always goes to Easy, Oh you're gonna be.

857
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:19,320
Speaker 1: The fun, aren't.

858
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 2: Like if I turn around to you and go, oh

859
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 2: you're gonna be the fun, aren't, you'd be like, are

860
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:24,719
Speaker 2: you fucking kidding me?

861
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 1: Like there's just things you don't say because it's a

862
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 1: sensitive topic to somebody else.

863
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 2: And if like I don't think you're going to be

864
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 2: a fun making but I'm like, I'm now so aware

865
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 2: that I wouldn't say that because it's like, what am.

866
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 1: I trying to humiliate you? Trying to embarrass you? We're

867
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 1: meant to be a team. Trying to embarrass your humiliate you,

868
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 1: maybe be funny in front of new people at the

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Speaker 1: expense of you, which is nothing that a friendship should

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Speaker 1: never be using someone else at the expense to try

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Speaker 1: and get a joke. So I just think maybe she

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Speaker 1: thought it would be funny, it's clearly fucking not, and

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Speaker 1: it's like, what kind of friend does use you to

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Speaker 1: try and get laughs, you know what I mean? So

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Speaker 1: I think talk to her about her, say how it

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Speaker 1: made you feel, and if she's a good friend, she'll

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Speaker 1: apologize I didn't mean it, I'm so sorry, and you can.

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Speaker 2: Just try and just say like, I don't like the

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Speaker 2: way that you're talking about that, I don't like the

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Speaker 2: way that you're speaking out you meant to be on

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Speaker 2: my team, and I don't like the way that you

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Speaker 2: approach that. Can you please not speak about it like

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Speaker 2: that how she handles it? If she says, what the

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Speaker 2: fuck's seriously, like, why are you that angry? Then it's like, well,

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Speaker 2: this girl's a bit of a cunt. Anyways.

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Speaker 1: But if she apologizes, agrees and like doesn't do it again,

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Speaker 1: then I don't think, you know, forgive her, but it's

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Speaker 1: it's fucking rude, like she's done that to embarrass you,

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Speaker 1: which no, friends.

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Speaker 2: I don't think she was intentionally. She might have intentionally

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Speaker 2: trying to embarrass you. Sometimes you just like get a

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Speaker 2: bit carried away with a joke and she could say

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Speaker 2: that it's like, sorry, I got carried away. I didn't

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Speaker 2: really realize and it wasn't really being very like sensitive

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Speaker 2: to your issues.

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Speaker 1: I think just confront her, see how she just say

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Speaker 1: it upset you and she knows how sensitive you are

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Speaker 1: to stuff like that. So allmations. All right, guys, that

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Speaker 1: was today's episode.

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Speaker 2: We are doing a part two on the Thursday episode

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Speaker 2: because we've got some really good ones. So we'll see

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Speaker 2: you guys over on Thursday where we unpack more of

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Speaker 2: how it would you approach it?

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Speaker 1: All right, guys, you love you