WEBVTT - IT'S GOING TO BE A BIG YEAR AHEAD 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:03.800 Matt, you are looking absolutely glowing today. What's your secret? 0:00:03.960 --> 0:00:06.880 Well, Anna, I've been using this new hydrating tanning myss 0:00:06.920 --> 0:00:08.400 called Goldie B with two e's. 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:11.000 I have to check it out. I've never heard of it. 0:00:11.920 --> 0:00:13.200 Go to their instagram. 0:00:13.640 --> 0:00:16.640 I want the fairy Tale, I want the prince charming. 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:19.440 She how do I put? This? Isn't a fan of 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:20.760 my kissing style. 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:24.079 Boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:25.160 He's in a trash bin. 0:00:25.239 --> 0:00:26.400 He's non recyclable. 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:30.680 Catching her muf I love being love, I love love. 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:33.640 You're definitely airport hot. If I was, if I didn't 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:35.600 know who you were, I'd be staring at you and 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:37.519 I was like, baby, I'm everywhere. 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:44.239 Hosh oh, where's your head? At? Is a podcast that 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:49.239 talks all things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:50.320 everything in between. 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:53.320 This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip, 0:00:53.479 --> 0:00:55.640 intimate details, advice, and much more. 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:05.360 Hello and happy summer holidays everyone. We are currently not 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:07.679 in the studio, but we are bringing you this episode 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:10.760 because we didn't want to miss a week. So Hello, Hello. 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:12.520 Anna, and welcome to twenty twenty four. 0:01:12.760 --> 0:01:15.640 Twenty twenty four, and it's feeling good. 0:01:15.720 --> 0:01:19.000 Isn't it big year ahead of us, big year for you, 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:21.040 big year for me? What have you got planned? 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:23.640 Well, I mean my turn on of the week, it 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:27.880 has to be it. It's wedding year. We're officially in 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:31.520 wedding year, like less than five months until my wedding. 0:01:31.640 --> 0:01:34.360 That's flowing my mind. Still have so much to organize, 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:37.880 but also just so excited. I'm a twenty twenty four bride. 0:01:38.360 --> 0:01:40.800 It's amazing. I can't believe that suck up so quickly. 0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:43.760 It has, Like his house, the planning going, Are you there? 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:44.200 Are you? 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:47.080 Like? Planning is going okay. I just think it's all 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:49.040 going to fall into place, Like I'm not that worried 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:52.760 about it. That looks worried because like, get that wedding 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:55.080 sorted up a long way weird. 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:56.920 It's just all going to happen when I get there. 0:01:56.960 --> 0:01:57.960 Do you have a wedding planner? 0:01:58.360 --> 0:02:00.600 No, we don't have a wedding planner. But the lady 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:03.280 who owns the estate is helping us find vendors who 0:02:03.320 --> 0:02:04.840 are local to the area. 0:02:04.680 --> 0:02:06.560 So bendors like food supply. 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:08.359 Vendors, so yeah, like the people who are going to 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:11.880 do the catering, the lighting, the DJ all of that 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:14.640 kind of stuff to make the party happen and fun. 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:17.720 Have they found an MC We still don't have an 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:20.880 em that we still don't have to taking my. 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:24.320 Heart out of the ring? Yeah, I'm not interested anymore. 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:29.200 I didn't realize there was a time of it on that. 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:31.480 Yeah there is, you know it should it's corrected it. 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:32.880 I should have had to call up by now. 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:36.520 I mean, what happened to twenty twenty four, New Year, 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:39.040 New Me, positive vibes. 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:41.040 I would assume I would have had to call up. 0:02:41.400 --> 0:02:43.280 That's five months I got to work on my material. 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:44.360 I'm not going to have it in time. 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:48.120 Matte, you were ever working on any sort of material? 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:51.600 I know you too well. Don't even try to play 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:54.919 that card. What's your turn on of the year? Week? 0:02:55.280 --> 0:02:58.520 Mine is a new Year, a new me. I'm going 0:02:58.560 --> 0:03:00.800 to be the best version of my star and I 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:02.600 can't wait to put my best foot forward for the 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:03.160 new Year. 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:06.640 I actually love that. And this episode we're actually doing 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:09.400 what's in for this year and what's out? And I 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:11.120 can't wait to touch on that because we have some 0:03:11.160 --> 0:03:14.440 real goodies in there. Before we get into that. What's 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:15.720 your turnoff of the year? 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:19.320 Pretty much on my turn on. My turn off is 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:21.680 that recently, I've been so busy, you know what I mean, 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:24.880 flying in a bit slack, flying in and out. I've 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.120 just been doing a lot of work, you know. It's 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.160 the pointing end of the year, everything trying to seal 0:03:29.200 --> 0:03:31.480 everything off. So I just haven't been going to the gym, 0:03:31.560 --> 0:03:33.960 and it's really been a turnoff for me, especially not 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:36.360 going to the sauna. I'm starting to realize how much 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:38.280 I appreciate the sauna these days. 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:39.600 Like, yeah, that's your me time. 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:42.920 Yeah, I haven't been in a while, and I just 0:03:42.920 --> 0:03:45.440 want to get into it. I might look buying myself 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:45.840 a sauna. 0:03:45.880 --> 0:03:48.080 So at least it's where would you put it? 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:50.160 Put it in my bedroom, I guess, or out the back. 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:52.440 So you can't put a tuna in a bedroom. It 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:53.560 doesn't work like that. 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:57.040 I'll figure it out. I just yeah, I need to 0:03:57.040 --> 0:03:58.600 go sauna more and go to the gym more. And 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:00.920 on that being the I sposure to myself, I'm going 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:01.960 to go to the gym a bit more. 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:04.720 Yeah, fair enough for my turn off of the week. 0:04:04.920 --> 0:04:07.040 I think my turn off has just been that I've 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:09.240 been super busy, and I think now that we're in 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:12.360 summer holidays, a lot of people are off work. I 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:15.160 think it's just a reminder to slow down, to take 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:18.279 it easy, to take some meatime, even if you're not 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:21.200 going away, try and get to your local beach or 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:23.600 try and you know, just go out in your backyard 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:26.240 and relax, do nice things, read a. 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:28.520 Book, go get brunch with a friend, catch up with 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:31.040 all those friends that you are Otherwise during the year, 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:32.640 when you're busy, you don't get to see I know 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:35.240 that it happens all the time. Now when you get older, 0:04:35.320 --> 0:04:37.400 it's just like, yeah, you don't get time to hang 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:39.560 out with people. So on the break, make sure you 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:40.800 can do a lot of that sort of stuff. 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:43.479 And I think learn to say no sometimes it's good 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.520 to just not have a busy calendar. Even if you 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:50.040 could have potentially gone to a friend's gathering, just say 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:52.240 no if you're not feeling up to it. Just have 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.719 some mea time, focus on self care. And I think 0:04:54.720 --> 0:04:59.080 that's so important, especially in January, just before the year 0:04:59.160 --> 0:05:01.920 is about to start. Like we all have such high 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:05.240 hopes and expectations for our year. You know, we've both 0:05:05.240 --> 0:05:07.680 said this is our year, this is our time to shine. 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:11.080 We're so excited, but also take some time for your 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:18.159 emotional health and just take a chill, pil relax. Okay, 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:22.080 it's twenty twenty four. We have some inns of the year, Matt. 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:23.239 Do you want to start us off? 0:05:23.400 --> 0:05:27.680 The first in is working out, So what I said 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:30.320 before as my turn off of the week, I want 0:05:30.320 --> 0:05:32.080 to work out a lot more. I've been slack having 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:34.359 getting to the gym, So an inn is going to 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:34.960 the gym. 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:39.320 Next in sex three times a week. I think sometimes 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:43.159 when we get busy, our sex life can sometimes fall 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:45.880 it the wayside, and I think it's time to just 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:49.839 like get those sex drives back up, have spontaneous sex. 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:51.160 Surprise your partner. 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:58.880 No one's three times a day. 0:05:56.760 --> 0:05:58.559 Don't even act like you're doing. 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:02.919 That's being nice to strangers and people in general. So 0:06:03.520 --> 0:06:05.800 like that, you know, when you get busy, Like I'm 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:08.359 not guilty of it, but I find myself sometimes, you know, 0:06:08.440 --> 0:06:11.560 forgetting to say thank you, or like just being in 0:06:11.560 --> 0:06:13.680 my own head when I'm rushing around in that and like, 0:06:13.720 --> 0:06:15.120 you know, you could get served or something and you 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:16.480 forget to say thank you, then I will, for my 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:19.040 damn it. I've known myself to walk back and say 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:21.000 thank you, Just be like thanks for that, because like 0:06:21.040 --> 0:06:22.400 you're just in your own head, you know what I mean. 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:25.480 There's nothing more attractive than just being nice to everyone, 0:06:25.600 --> 0:06:28.720 being nice to strangers. And then also just like not 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:31.080 having a guilty conscience of being like, oh, I wish 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:34.679 I wouldn't road rage that poor guy the other day. 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:36.680 Or whoever it is, poor old lady driving the. 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:39.680 Poor old lady who like was literally having such a 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:42.520 nice day until I beat the living daylights out of her, 0:06:42.560 --> 0:06:44.919 you know what I mean, Like having a guilt free conscience, 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:47.680 and I think just having that positive energy where you 0:06:47.760 --> 0:06:49.800 know that you've been nice to everyone, and I feel 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:51.240 like the universe rewards you for that. 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:55.280 It definitely does. Another one is reading the newspaper more 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.440 in books, so I want to My mate buys a 0:06:57.480 --> 0:07:01.200 newspaper every day and he reads it and that's an effort. Yeah, 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:02.960 he would always date if you had the day off, 0:07:03.000 --> 0:07:04.720 he'd go get the newspaper and sit down and read it. 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:06.200 And I'm like, I think that's a good way. I 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:08.839 get a lot of my news through like Instagram and 0:07:08.880 --> 0:07:11.520 TikTok i, I follow a lot of pages, but maybe just 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:14.120 sitting down reading the newspaper, taking in my news that 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:15.920 way I can see you doing it might be a 0:07:15.960 --> 0:07:16.440 lot better. 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.640 I'm definitely on board with reading more. I think it 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.720 also just improves your grammar and your spelling, being able 0:07:22.720 --> 0:07:25.160 to read quickly. I'm a slow reader anyway, but I 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:28.280 think when I do read books, my reading just gets 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:30.200 really fluent, and I think that's something that I want 0:07:30.240 --> 0:07:30.800 to do more of this. 0:07:31.080 --> 0:07:35.000 I'm undiagnosed dyslexic, so like you can definitely. 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:40.320 Read a book or two for sure. Definitely new hobbies. Okay, 0:07:40.760 --> 0:07:42.480 this is a big one. I really want to get 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:44.280 into pottery. I've said it to you a couple of 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:47.680 times this year. In twenty twenty four, I'm going to 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.040 book into my first pottery class. I'm going to bring 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:52.320 a friend, and I really want to get into it. Yeah, 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:54.800 you're more than welcome to come. We could even do 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:57.160 like bring Michael, you could bring Tammy. 0:07:57.680 --> 0:07:58.640 You know you've seen from. 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:03.280 Ghost, could read create a scene from Ghost. Whatever the 0:08:03.320 --> 0:08:05.840 hobby may be. I just think it's so good to 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:08.400 be able to put your phone down and actually just 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:12.200 focus on something that isn't work related, that isn't you know, 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:15.360 money making related, and just be able to switch off 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:17.000 the brain that way. I think that would be so 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:19.360 cool and I'm definitely doing that this year. 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:22.000 The next one's dressing up. Does it's mean role playing? 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:23.560 I didn't write this one. 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:27.080 No, I think dressing the way that you want to 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:30.320 be seen, dressing like a CEO, going to meetings and 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:32.920 dressing up, and you know, I sometimes fall into the 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:34.840 trap of just being in my active wear. I'm currently 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:39.000 an active wear right now, but dressing up, not wearing 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:42.920 the same thing every day. Dress for the dress for 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:45.079 who you want to be. Yeah, I think that's the 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:46.400 big one. I love that. 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:51.400 I've always said that. Another one is saving, big one 0:08:51.440 --> 0:08:54.720 for me, Yeah, putting some money aside and saving. I 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:57.400 know it's hard over the Christmas break saving You've obviously 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:00.000 got all the presents, holidays and all that sort of stuff. 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:02.200 So I think a good one would be saving. Yeah. 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:05.040 I think as well. With like weddings coming up, I'm 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:09.280 really like emphasizing saving money this year, and I think 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:11.760 we'll talk a lot about the wedding on the podcast 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:15.239 and saving money and how to save money. So definitely 0:09:15.400 --> 0:09:16.880 one of my priorities this year. 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:20.680 Another one would be respecting people closest to you. So 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:23.520 I think that, like, sometimes you take people close to 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:25.320 you for granted. I know I'm guilty of this with 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:28.240 my mum, my sisters, and even my partner sometimes that 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:30.400 I just, you know, I take it for granted that 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:33.800 they're there, and not that I don't disrespect them, but 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:36.800 I I'm not the kindest to them because sort of 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:39.320 when I'm with them is my unwinding time, and I don't. 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.560 You're not trying to impress, trying to impress, Yeah. 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:45.040 You know, slip into just being like just relaxed and 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:47.679 on my phone sometimes ignoring them, not listening to everything 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:49.679 they're saying. And I want to be better at that. 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:52.600 Yeah, I love that, and I couldn't agree more. That's 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:55.559 definitely on my list of inns this year in twenty 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:57.839 twenty four. Respecting the people close to you, the people 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:00.000 you care about the most, and the people that probably 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:02.680 probably have the biggest effect on your mental health, so 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:07.680 you really want to like nurture those relationships. Absolutely. This one. 0:10:07.720 --> 0:10:11.520 I love adding chili oil to your food because God, 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.080 I love chili oil. If you're a chili person and 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:17.480 you like spicy food, chili oil is just so good. 0:10:17.760 --> 0:10:19.760 I'm not big on I used to be huge on 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:23.079 chili and spicy food, but in my old age, I've 0:10:23.120 --> 0:10:24.920 sort of come back. I'm like, I don't I don't 0:10:25.000 --> 0:10:27.800 like it anymore. Really, Yeah I used to love it. 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:30.440 Yeah, you did used to love chili oil. That's interesting 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:33.880 to me because your gut just a bit, a bit off. 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:36.280 I mean, it doesn't tickle on the way in, but 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:37.720 it definitely hurts on the way out. 0:10:41.960 --> 0:10:45.839 Okay, let's talk about our outs of twenty twenty four. 0:10:46.679 --> 0:10:50.679 The first one is burning out overworking ourselves. We are 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:53.360 all guilty of this. I think we all live such 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:56.280 a busy life. We're all on the grind and we 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:58.160 go from thing to thing to thing, and sometimes we 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:02.520 just don't take time for all ourselves and you burn 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:05.120 out and it's not cute, it's not fun. 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:08.679 And on that as well. Overthinking, So just overthinking. I'm 0:11:08.720 --> 0:11:10.800 the worst at overthinking, and I'm trying to get better 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:11.199 at it. 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:15.360 But yeah, my remedy for overthinking is gratitude. And it's 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:19.120 so good because when you're overthinking things, you just start 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:23.000 listing things you're grateful for. And I think Michael's mum 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:26.960 actually told me this quote and I just think it's 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:30.160 resonated with me so much. She's like, why worry about 0:11:30.200 --> 0:11:35.320 something twice? Like anxiety and overthinking normally happens when you're 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.880 worried that something will happen. Well, if it does happen, 0:11:38.320 --> 0:11:40.200 then you're gonna have to worry about it if you 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:42.640 worry about it before it happens, and you're worrying about 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:45.720 it twice, So don't bother worrying about it twice this life. 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:48.840 I'm not worrying about it. So then we speak about 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:53.319 heaps as well. Alcohol. Yeah, I'm just, you know, I'm 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:55.520 just I think the culture around it's changed a lot 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:57.640 from what I'm hearing from people, and I think alcohol, 0:11:58.000 --> 0:12:00.679 I'm leaving that out as much as possib Obviously we're 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:05.320 wedding special occasions, but just not drinking as much, not 0:12:05.360 --> 0:12:07.720 binge drinking and knowing my limits that I think I've 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:08.600 learned so well. 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:11.280 Even last year when people were going on school is 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:14.200 there was a lot of chatter around the fact that 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:18.040 the year twelve were much better behaved, binge drinking wasn't 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.040 as bad of a thing as it was when we 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.200 were younger, and I think people are just it's not 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:24.120 a lot more aware. No, it's not. 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:26.160 I don't think it is anymore, Like if I imagine, 0:12:26.200 --> 0:12:27.720 I think I thought it was because I was old, 0:12:27.800 --> 0:12:28.679 when we're older now. 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:30.400 But I just think that, like, it's just not it's 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:33.840 just education. Yeah, you know, when people in our parents' 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.040 generation like used to go into sun beds all the 0:12:36.080 --> 0:12:38.079 time and it was like cool to be tanned and 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:40.320 that type of vibe. I think there was just a 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:43.040 lot more education around sun beds, and then people stopped 0:12:43.920 --> 0:12:46.320 going in them because they actually care about their skin 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:48.959 health and they care about the fact that like one 0:12:49.000 --> 0:12:51.160 in two Australians are going to get skin cancer in 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:55.400 their lifetime. And I think the education is so much stronger. 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:59.120 And I think education around alcohol is starting to get stronger. 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:02.280 Even the fact that there's alcohol companies who are now 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:05.480 making non alcoholic versions of their drinks. I think that's 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:08.520 so cool and like so interesting. You know that I 0:13:08.520 --> 0:13:11.960 didn't drink for the end til twenty twenty three basically 0:13:12.080 --> 0:13:14.600 at all, and I'm going to continue that throughout twenty 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:17.960 twenty four. Of course, I'm going to start so much healthier, 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:22.240 so much clearer, less fuzzy, like more sharp. 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:25.320 It's a present just suppresses you totally. 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:27.800 So I think twenty twenty four, obviously we're leading into 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:29.319 the wedding. I'm going to have a couple of drinks 0:13:29.320 --> 0:13:31.120 here and there. I've got my hands party coming up. 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:33.559 You know, we just celebrated New Year. I had a 0:13:33.640 --> 0:13:35.880 drink there, and I'm going to pick and choose things 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:37.079 that I'm going to drink at and I'm going to 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:39.400 have fun. But I can also have fun. 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:41.440 Well that's it. People without it, people pull me out, 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:42.760 they go, oh, well, you drink here in that. I'm like, 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:44.920 but I'm not drinking as much as I would normally. 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:47.120 I'm not drinking as often as I used to. I'm 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:49.720 just picking it for the right time, So serve me 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:52.640 that I want to drink at. Another one on that 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.560 as a suppressant is mindless scrolling. I need to stop 0:13:55.559 --> 0:13:58.880 scrolling on the Instagram TikTok. Just as I say that, 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:00.800 pick up my phone, but I go stop taking that, 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:02.920 like just yeah, that's the suppress and you get stuck 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:03.320 in those. 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:05.480 All is as well is when you want to like 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:08.800 unlind right, you pick up your phone to unwind, but 0:14:08.840 --> 0:14:11.160 it actually doesn't unwind you. So you just need to 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:13.960 remind yourself of that and be like, Okay, I'm gonna 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.560 put this down. We've spoke about the hobby or like 0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:20.760 going for a nice walk or doing alternative things, reading 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:24.160 a book, doing alternative things to being on a device, 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:26.880 because all you're really doing, if someone's looking from the 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:30.280 outside in, you're just sitting. That's all you're doing. Your 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:32.760 mind might be moving, but you're just sitting. And we 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:34.800 just want to be more active in twenty twenty four, 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:37.520 So scrolling is out through twenty twenty four. 0:14:37.760 --> 0:14:40.720 Also, one is just gossiping about people, I mean like 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:43.760 our Yeah, yeah, just talking about people that you don't know, 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.280 like friends in that or like bitching and inventing and 0:14:46.280 --> 0:14:48.200 all that sort of stuff. Like I'm just done with that. 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:51.680 You're just hooking your own energy onto someone else instead 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:54.440 of just like focusing on you and bettering yourself. 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:56.280 Just focus on yourself and people around you. 0:14:56.560 --> 0:14:59.480 Yeah, And when you think about bitching about someone or 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:03.520 talking tog negatively about someone brings you down, Yeah, move 0:15:03.560 --> 0:15:07.320 the conversation along and actually just catch yourself before you 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:09.680 do it, because I think it's it's all about just 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:12.000 being in tune with what the person you want to 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:16.160 be and catching yourself out before you actually go into gossiping. 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:17.080 Okay. 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:19.600 The next one is staying in relationships that don't serve 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:22.600 you anymore. That's out this year. If you and someone 0:15:22.680 --> 0:15:25.720 else have grown apart, sometimes you just have to let it. 0:15:26.040 --> 0:15:29.080 Like I said, we're all busy. Sometimes you fall apart, 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:30.640 and if you can't catch up with someone as much 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:33.920 as normal, maybe then it's probably right. It doesn't serve 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:37.080 you anymore, Like I mean, staying your relationships could be 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:39.640 with a partner as well. You're not feeling it anymore, 0:15:39.920 --> 0:15:41.800 like and you just with them because it's comfortable in 0:15:41.840 --> 0:15:43.600 the sake of it, like you know, maybe look at 0:15:43.640 --> 0:15:48.960 breaking up with them. Ye, friends, jobs who go as 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:52.640 far as like you know, clothes and actual material items 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:54.360 like your car or closing that if you don't use 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:55.880 them anymore, just if they don't serve you, get rid 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:56.240 of them. 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:59.240 Break up with them, wake up with it absolutely. And 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:01.920 the final thing that out this year is impulse buying. 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:02.760 I'm such a. 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:04.760 Culprit or a victim. 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:10.200 Yeah, I'm a victim of impulse buying. I do it regularly, 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:13.359 especially when I'm stressed. I find myself to say it. 0:16:13.360 --> 0:16:15.800 It's a dopamine hit. You get new things and you're like, Okay, 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:18.520 I'm happy again. I'm not doing that anymore. We're saving 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:20.440 this year, and there's no impulse buying. 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:22.600 I used to be such an impulse buyer, like I 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:25.520 would have it on Amazon or like bidding on things 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:28.600 and buying stuff all the time. And I learned pretty 0:16:28.640 --> 0:16:30.680 quickly that I'm not going to save if you're doing that. 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:33.880 So that's like I've been off that and I've been 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:37.480 sober now maybe for three years, three years clean of 0:16:37.520 --> 0:16:39.720 impulse buying. It's just a quick dopamine hit. 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:42.560 Yeah. Okay, guys, that's our ins and outs of twenty 0:16:42.600 --> 0:16:45.320 twenty four. Head over to our Facebook page to add 0:16:45.320 --> 0:16:47.080 to our list. We want to hear from you guys. 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:53.800 Okay, and so this am I the asshole comes from 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:58.280 an anonymous person. They say, hello, Anna and Matt, I 0:16:58.280 --> 0:17:00.200 want to ask you if I am an asshole. I 0:17:00.240 --> 0:17:02.840 went up to my family's holiday house over the summer break, 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:05.440 where on a night out I met this beautiful man. 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.000 We hit it off and had heaps of sex and 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.960 a real summer romance. We agreed to catch up when 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:13.560 we got back to Sydney for some drinks and take 0:17:13.600 --> 0:17:16.080 off where we left it. But when he picked me 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:18.199 up straight away, I did not see an attraction to 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:20.880 him anymore. I want to break it off with him 0:17:20.960 --> 0:17:23.600 now that I do not find him hot. Am I 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:25.040 the asshole? Love you guys. 0:17:25.320 --> 0:17:28.720 So basically, she has met a guy on holiday, was 0:17:28.760 --> 0:17:32.119 really into him, and then came back home and she 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:33.639 was like, he's not that hot anymore. 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:36.520 Dragon asked was the dating pool wherever she went to 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:39.360 the holiday house? I'm assuming it was somewhere, you know, 0:17:39.600 --> 0:17:42.639 not as big as like Sydney, and there wasn't as 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:44.720 many people there, and he was the best that there 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:45.200 was there. 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:48.520 I reckon, Well, this has come up a lot recently 0:17:48.960 --> 0:17:52.280 that people who are situationally hot. Have you heard of that? 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:55.000 I have, and I saw an episode of Seinfeld about 0:17:55.040 --> 0:17:56.119 it recently as well. 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:59.080 Yeah, So, like if you're at a gym and like, 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:01.760 no one is like really tickling your fancy and then 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:05.120 someone more attractive than the average person at the gym 0:18:05.200 --> 0:18:07.560 walks in, then you're like, oh, they're hot. But if 0:18:07.560 --> 0:18:10.199