WEBVTT - 260. Problem or solution? What are you sitting in? How this mindset can change EVERYTHING 0:00:05.881 --> 0:00:13.241 Apodjay Production. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast. I'm Ashy 0:00:13.281 --> 0:00:15.201 and I'm Tiana. This podcast is. 0:00:15.201 --> 0:00:18.800 About female empowerment and encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, 0:00:18.801 --> 0:00:20.800 and most authentic version of yourself. 0:00:20.961 --> 0:00:23.320 We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level. 0:00:23.321 --> 0:00:26.241 We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone 0:00:26.281 --> 0:00:27.801 else is too afraid to talk about. 0:00:28.401 --> 0:00:31.521 Get ready for your next level of self. Hello and 0:00:31.561 --> 0:00:34.201 welcome back to another episode of the She riseres Podcast. 0:00:34.361 --> 0:00:36.321 Your favorite hosts I'm Tiana. 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:38.041 And I'm Ashley. Thank you for joining us, and if this. 0:00:37.961 --> 0:00:40.281 Is the first time you've ever been here, well welcome. 0:00:40.361 --> 0:00:43.161 We love to have you. Today's episode is actually all 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:46.040 about a mindset shift that we have integrated that has 0:00:46.040 --> 0:00:48.561 helped change everything for us and will help you kind 0:00:48.601 --> 0:00:50.200 of if you're stuck in a problem right now, and 0:00:50.241 --> 0:00:53.481 you're stuck in kind of like quicksand feeling really overwhelmed 0:00:53.480 --> 0:00:55.881 by your current situation, this episode is going to help 0:00:55.921 --> 0:00:58.041 you really come out of that and to start to 0:00:58.121 --> 0:01:00.601 see things from a different perspective in your life. 0:01:00.761 --> 0:01:02.361 Yes, hop Before we get into it, we're going to 0:01:02.401 --> 0:01:04.281 do our share of the week. I'll go first. If 0:01:04.281 --> 0:01:06.761 you like, yes, please. I can't believe I've only just 0:01:06.761 --> 0:01:09.440 gotten to lipliners, maybe two years ago. I'd never used 0:01:09.481 --> 0:01:11.681 them before that it was really a lipstick or a 0:01:11.721 --> 0:01:14.441 lip balm, girl, but now I just lipline. It's probably 0:01:14.521 --> 0:01:18.280 one makeup product I can't be without. I love lipliner 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:20.360 with a lip balm. But there's a new lip liner. 0:01:20.441 --> 0:01:24.961 It's the tanil j or gy Ones in ruby chocolate. 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:26.840 I think the color I got is but I want 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:28.280 to try all of them. And it's actually like a 0:01:28.360 --> 0:01:30.761 lip stain. So when you put it on, you can 0:01:30.801 --> 0:01:33.241 buy her matching brush or you can just use your finger, 0:01:33.241 --> 0:01:35.200 but you have to kind of rub it in because 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:36.240 it sticks to your lips. 0:01:36.401 --> 0:01:36.881 Oh wow. 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:38.600 So after like a couple of minutes, so you can't 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:41.241 move it. It like stains it. It's so good, tho, 0:01:41.241 --> 0:01:42.321 because it lasts way longer. 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:43.600 I need that in my life. 0:01:43.601 --> 0:01:45.681 I think you would really like it. I really really 0:01:45.721 --> 0:01:47.441 like them, So I want to get a couple more 0:01:47.481 --> 0:01:49.081 of that color because I just lose them all the time, 0:01:49.081 --> 0:01:51.721 and I like having one in my makeup corner, one 0:01:51.721 --> 0:01:53.521 in my car. Yes, I don't want to try some 0:01:53.521 --> 0:01:55.841 more colors, but yeah, she's a Brisbane makeup artist and 0:01:55.881 --> 0:01:58.921 she's so funny online. She's got a really cool personality 0:01:58.921 --> 0:02:01.041 and she's brought out a ton of makeup products a 0:02:01.081 --> 0:02:05.361 really good quality. Can you buy it in store online? Okay? 0:02:05.641 --> 0:02:09.321 Ja I J dry? Yeah? Interesting, really good cool. 0:02:09.641 --> 0:02:11.801 My share of the week is actually this vitamin C 0:02:11.921 --> 0:02:15.321 serum that I've been using and am obsessed with. I 0:02:15.321 --> 0:02:19.361 am obsessed with it. It's the brand Laroche Posy Jose. 0:02:21.001 --> 0:02:23.641 It's Vitamin C twelve brightening serum and it comes in 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:27.241 an orange bottle. I've been using this religiously for maybe 0:02:27.281 --> 0:02:30.481 the last two weeks. It's been very new, but the 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:33.881 smell is amazing. It makes my skin feel so incredible. 0:02:34.001 --> 0:02:35.921 And I just I've been looking for a vitamin C 0:02:36.041 --> 0:02:37.761 serum for a really long time because I used to 0:02:37.841 --> 0:02:40.561 use one a couple of years back and just wanted 0:02:40.601 --> 0:02:42.960 to trial a different one. Very lucky to have found 0:02:43.001 --> 0:02:44.520 this one because I just it'll be a product that 0:02:44.561 --> 0:02:45.721 I keep in my rotation for. 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:47.681 A long time. Good for brightening, hey. 0:02:47.721 --> 0:02:53.081 Yes, just even complexion hydration, also anti aging, anti aging 0:02:53.081 --> 0:02:53.881 and brightening serum. 0:02:54.081 --> 0:02:58.240 Hi and confirm it works so good? All right? So yeah, 0:02:58.281 --> 0:03:00.561 today is all about not sitting in the problem energy, 0:03:00.561 --> 0:03:02.281 which I think a lot of us can do and 0:03:02.361 --> 0:03:05.401 sometimes get stuck there. We're all about moving forward, and 0:03:05.441 --> 0:03:07.761 this came about because we shared this with our accelerated 0:03:07.761 --> 0:03:11.121 girls the other day. Actually, we were finding ourselves winging 0:03:11.161 --> 0:03:13.720 and complaining about the same problem. We don't have enough time. 0:03:14.041 --> 0:03:16.001 We don't have enough time to do as she rises work, 0:03:16.001 --> 0:03:18.321 we don't have enough time to get everything done for 0:03:18.441 --> 0:03:20.881 Tiana and I. For context, we only have Tuesdays and 0:03:20.921 --> 0:03:24.161 Wednesdays together for she Rises because Thursday I'm with my daughter, 0:03:24.441 --> 0:03:26.681 Thursdays you're with clients, Friday with my daughter. You were 0:03:26.721 --> 0:03:30.281 clients Mondays, I do highaway Mondays. You normally film content, 0:03:30.401 --> 0:03:32.521 so there's not a lot of time in between, and 0:03:32.601 --> 0:03:35.441 our to do list is progressively always getting larger, and 0:03:35.521 --> 0:03:37.601 we kind of felt like we were falling behind, and 0:03:37.681 --> 0:03:39.601 we kept just talking about the problem but not doing 0:03:39.641 --> 0:03:41.721 anything about it. And then, I don't know, one of 0:03:41.761 --> 0:03:44.601 us suggested it. We're having an ad midnight, and I 0:03:44.601 --> 0:03:46.521 was like, well, Steve goes to tennis on a Monday night, 0:03:46.601 --> 0:03:48.160 so why don't you come around. I've got the kids 0:03:48.201 --> 0:03:49.521 at home, so you want to come around and we'll 0:03:49.561 --> 0:03:51.361 just smash out a couple of hours one, two, three, 0:03:51.401 --> 0:03:54.001 But we're just knuckle in and get everything done, and 0:03:54.041 --> 0:03:56.321 it's helped so much. We're getting so much done and 0:03:56.361 --> 0:03:58.281 it kind of gets us on top of things for 0:03:58.361 --> 0:04:00.481 the week moving ahead. And it's just been such a 0:04:00.481 --> 0:04:02.481 game changer, and like, wow, we sat in that problem 0:04:02.601 --> 0:04:05.961 energy for way too long. We found us now like 0:04:06.001 --> 0:04:07.561 whenever we get a problem with like, Okay, what is 0:04:07.601 --> 0:04:09.641 a solution? What are our options? That's not sitting this 0:04:09.761 --> 0:04:11.641 for too long. There has to be another way to 0:04:11.681 --> 0:04:13.841 do it. So we just wanted to talk about that 0:04:13.921 --> 0:04:16.241 because it's so easy to get stuck there. It is. 0:04:16.321 --> 0:04:18.161 I think when you're in the energy of the problem 0:04:18.201 --> 0:04:20.761 of whatever it is you're facing in life, it's so 0:04:20.801 --> 0:04:22.841 easy to be consumed by how it feels to be 0:04:22.921 --> 0:04:25.320 in that problem. Like for us, it was, oh my gosh, 0:04:25.361 --> 0:04:27.441 we don't have enough time or enough hours in the 0:04:27.521 --> 0:04:30.281 day for what we want to do. Whereas yours might 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:31.961 be a time thing, it could be a sleep thing, 0:04:32.001 --> 0:04:34.961 it could be you know, whatever it is that you're navigating, 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:38.601 and yeah, it can be all consuming. And I think 0:04:38.721 --> 0:04:41.001 the powerful thing about this mindset shift that we want 0:04:41.001 --> 0:04:43.201 to talk about, which is no longer sitting in the 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:45.401 energy of the problem, but sitting in the energy of 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:48.641 the solution, or sitting in the energy of the opportunity 0:04:48.801 --> 0:04:51.841 that could be presented to you. And it's such a 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:54.161 cool way for you to shift your mindset and to 0:04:54.161 --> 0:04:57.001 know that you're never stuck in what you're experiencing. And 0:04:57.041 --> 0:04:59.681 this has been really powerful for us. Is the faster 0:04:59.801 --> 0:05:02.401 we move through the energy of the problem, the quicker 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:04.161 we get to the solution, and then all of a 0:05:04.161 --> 0:05:07.361 sudden things start to snowball and start to pick up momentum, 0:05:07.761 --> 0:05:09.921 just like what we did with the admin night. It 0:05:09.961 --> 0:05:11.960 was you know, it's only a couple of hours. Been 0:05:12.001 --> 0:05:13.681 in the grand scheme of things, what you can do 0:05:13.721 --> 0:05:16.761 in a couple of hours productive hours, productive hours, it's 0:05:16.801 --> 0:05:19.881 actually amazing. It's been so good for us, and I 0:05:19.921 --> 0:05:22.841 think having that extra time, you know, obviously it's at 0:05:22.961 --> 0:05:26.320 night we've been having this conversation. Sometimes you were just 0:05:26.361 --> 0:05:28.681 in a season of hustle exactly, or you were just 0:05:28.721 --> 0:05:30.561 in a season of putting your head down and bum 0:05:30.721 --> 0:05:32.241 up and you just have to do what you have 0:05:32.281 --> 0:05:34.721 to do, like I'm sure Ashley would love to, you know, 0:05:34.801 --> 0:05:37.081 have that time and spend with Steve or something like that. 0:05:37.121 --> 0:05:40.121 Steve's obviously going to tennis, but there are other things 0:05:40.161 --> 0:05:42.561 that you know, I'm sure from a leisurely standpoint, like oh, 0:05:42.601 --> 0:05:44.761 I'd love to read a book before bed or whatever. 0:05:44.801 --> 0:05:47.321 But right now we're in a season of growth and 0:05:47.401 --> 0:05:50.161 we have goals and we have a standard for ourselves 0:05:50.161 --> 0:05:52.521 of how we want to show up. And in those 0:05:52.601 --> 0:05:55.961 season it's about asking the question of how do we 0:05:56.001 --> 0:05:57.681 double down here and what can we do to actually 0:05:57.761 --> 0:06:00.361 move ourselves closer towards the goal that we actually want 0:06:00.401 --> 0:06:03.681 to achieve. And for us, that's been about adding an 0:06:03.721 --> 0:06:04.440 admin night. 0:06:04.361 --> 0:06:06.881 Remove quite quickly. We are not everyone's cup of tea 0:06:06.921 --> 0:06:09.161 when it comes to working with us. There has been 0:06:09.361 --> 0:06:11.841 different situations or different events or different people we've tried 0:06:11.880 --> 0:06:14.121 to work with and they just don't move at our pace. 0:06:14.721 --> 0:06:17.080 And so for us to keep up with ourselves, we 0:06:17.161 --> 0:06:19.641 had to create more time. And you know, even if 0:06:19.641 --> 0:06:21.041 you're not in business and you're like, well, I can't 0:06:21.041 --> 0:06:23.681 relate to that. But back to accelerator one about accelerated 0:06:23.681 --> 0:06:25.361 girls like I just really struggle to get up in 0:06:25.401 --> 0:06:26.961 the morning. I can't get up in the morning. She 0:06:27.041 --> 0:06:29.001 had this story and this problem of not having time 0:06:29.001 --> 0:06:31.401 to exercise. I was like, what time to go to bed? 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:33.720 And it's like, oh, ten, ten thirty. I'm like, no, wonder, 0:06:33.761 --> 0:06:35.961 you can't get up early. You need to start training 0:06:35.961 --> 0:06:37.801 yourself to get to bed early. I want your phone 0:06:37.841 --> 0:06:40.241 down by eight and a sleep by eight thirty. Guarantee 0:06:40.241 --> 0:06:41.721 getting up at four four thirty would be a lot 0:06:41.721 --> 0:06:44.001 easiercause you're still getting eight hours of sleep. And that's 0:06:44.041 --> 0:06:46.081 not natural for a lot of people, and it is 0:06:46.201 --> 0:06:47.921 natural for me, but I wasn't born like that. I 0:06:47.961 --> 0:06:49.481 was a personal trainer for years and I had to 0:06:49.481 --> 0:06:51.200 train myself to get up at three to meet my 0:06:51.241 --> 0:06:53.681 first client. That was my job. And now I've done 0:06:53.721 --> 0:06:56.721 that religiously for so many years. It feels very natural 0:06:56.721 --> 0:06:58.961 for me. But you don't have the time to exercise, 0:06:59.161 --> 0:07:01.121 make the time to exercise, and where do you need 0:07:01.161 --> 0:07:04.241 to adjust and sacrifice something? And if you're saying actual 0:07:04.241 --> 0:07:06.200 ten thirty, like what are you don are you scrolling? 0:07:06.201 --> 0:07:08.281 You're watching Netflix? I think you'll be okay, put your 0:07:08.320 --> 0:07:10.401 phone down and start training your body so you have 0:07:10.441 --> 0:07:11.841 more time in the morning to get that done. 0:07:11.921 --> 0:07:13.761 Absolutely, And I love what you Just to bring it 0:07:13.801 --> 0:07:16.081 back to what you were saying around some people don't 0:07:16.121 --> 0:07:17.721 move in the way that we do. And we really 0:07:17.761 --> 0:07:20.641 notice that in the beginning where this like quote unquote 0:07:20.641 --> 0:07:23.081 problem has actually shown up, was that like, our beautiful 0:07:23.161 --> 0:07:26.241 va Ash is so incredible and she's just like such 0:07:26.281 --> 0:07:29.121 a garner what she does. And also she came to 0:07:29.201 --> 0:07:31.681 us not that long ago and was like, guys, can 0:07:31.721 --> 0:07:34.281 you please tell me when we're doing something. 0:07:34.001 --> 0:07:35.840 New to tell me you're doing another retreat? 0:07:35.881 --> 0:07:36.041 Oh? 0:07:36.321 --> 0:07:37.321 Did we not? Oh? 0:07:37.401 --> 0:07:39.441 Because we brought it to her and we said, hey, 0:07:39.521 --> 0:07:42.280 can you do up a payment live for this retreat 0:07:42.281 --> 0:07:45.041 and for this retreat? She was like, this retreat January? 0:07:45.401 --> 0:07:46.361 What do you mean like? 0:07:46.401 --> 0:07:49.481 And she had no idea because obviously we communicate between 0:07:49.521 --> 0:07:51.961 each other. But because of that fast paced energy where 0:07:51.961 --> 0:07:54.881 we're just like think of something, execute, move on, think 0:07:54.921 --> 0:07:56.481 of something, execute venue, we. 0:07:56.361 --> 0:07:58.601 Were done like in our heads, we're just doing the things. 0:07:58.641 --> 0:08:00.361 And you know, it was a weekend, right, so I'm 0:08:00.361 --> 0:08:02.801 over here creating the brochure I'm talking about She about 0:08:02.801 --> 0:08:06.921 it come Monday morning, She's like, guys, I need some structure. Yeah. 0:08:07.401 --> 0:08:10.041 So this was also another challenge that we ran into, 0:08:10.441 --> 0:08:13.401 which was Ash needing some more structure within the business 0:08:13.441 --> 0:08:16.481 because we are moving at more of a fast pace 0:08:16.601 --> 0:08:19.521 and we are now taking on more projects. She goes, 0:08:19.561 --> 0:08:21.641 girls like, I would love some more structure. So here 0:08:21.681 --> 0:08:24.041 we go, sit on the weekend create like work with 0:08:24.161 --> 0:08:27.521 AI and now we have like an entire dashboard. And 0:08:27.561 --> 0:08:29.881 that was a problem, right, we would we were losing 0:08:29.921 --> 0:08:32.521 out on structure, organization and making. 0:08:32.321 --> 0:08:34.441 Our PA feel overwhelmed. That's right, we were feeling a 0:08:34.441 --> 0:08:35.801 bit overwhelmed sometimes too. 0:08:35.681 --> 0:08:38.041 We were too so having that lack of structure was 0:08:38.081 --> 0:08:40.561 creating a problem that we then became the bottleneck and 0:08:40.561 --> 0:08:42.641 we were like, okay, cool, So what is the energy 0:08:42.681 --> 0:08:46.001 of the solution. What is the energy of the opportunity here? Well, 0:08:46.041 --> 0:08:48.921 it's for us to refine our systems to make us 0:08:48.961 --> 0:08:51.721 feel better, to make our beautiful VA feel so much 0:08:51.761 --> 0:08:54.881 more supported in her role and make her job easier. 0:08:55.161 --> 0:08:57.561 So now we've created this entire dashboard, as I mentioned, 0:08:57.841 --> 0:09:00.721 where it has everything structured. It's got her schedule in 0:09:00.801 --> 0:09:03.921 their content planner, it's got all our finances, all of 0:09:03.921 --> 0:09:07.081 our finances, all of our retreats organized based on a 0:09:07.121 --> 0:09:10.801 timeline from now till May twenty twenty seven. And that 0:09:10.881 --> 0:09:13.281 in itself is just such a powerful way for us 0:09:13.321 --> 0:09:16.401 to streamline and to be able to move even smoother 0:09:16.561 --> 0:09:17.121 on the journey. 0:09:17.281 --> 0:09:19.121 Yeah, and then for you even personally, because you've got 0:09:19.161 --> 0:09:21.321 your personal clients and you have the retreat clients, and 0:09:21.361 --> 0:09:23.761 you had she Rises stuff in your stuff, and it 0:09:23.841 --> 0:09:26.281 was sometimes you would double booking yourself. Yeah, oh my gosh, 0:09:26.401 --> 0:09:28.641 we had this meeting. Fuck, I had this client call 0:09:28.721 --> 0:09:30.801 on and it was getting a bit overwhelming there. So 0:09:30.921 --> 0:09:33.041 you jumped over to time Tree, which is I've spoken 0:09:33.041 --> 0:09:35.721 about it many a times, not sponsored, should be sponsored. 0:09:36.081 --> 0:09:39.241 Love this app. It's like a scheduling app where you 0:09:39.241 --> 0:09:41.161 can put everything color coordinate and everything can be in 0:09:41.201 --> 0:09:43.281 the same spot, and you could bring over your Google 0:09:43.321 --> 0:09:45.361 calendar and combine it and now it's just like you 0:09:45.361 --> 0:09:47.481 look each Shane. You can exactly see everything that's on, 0:09:47.521 --> 0:09:50.321 which prevent you from double booking and feeling overwhelmed because 0:09:50.321 --> 0:09:51.761 everything just goes in that one spot. 0:09:51.801 --> 0:09:54.681 There would be micro moments where we would increase what 0:09:54.761 --> 0:09:57.201 we were doing, or we'd add another project in, and 0:09:57.201 --> 0:09:58.881 then I'd be like, oh, scrambling, and I'd get a 0:09:58.881 --> 0:10:01.441 little bit overwhelmed and I'm like, okay, I need better systems. 0:10:01.681 --> 0:10:03.481 And it kept coming back to that question, I need 0:10:03.521 --> 0:10:06.961 better systems, I need better organized I need better time management, 0:10:07.241 --> 0:10:09.241 and those were all things that I was struggling with 0:10:09.281 --> 0:10:10.801 for a while and going, oh my gosh, I don't 0:10:10.801 --> 0:10:12.641 have enough time, I don't know this, or you know, 0:10:12.761 --> 0:10:16.001 juggling both of the businesses. But also that's a choice 0:10:16.041 --> 0:10:18.401 that I've made and now again, I could sit in 0:10:18.441 --> 0:10:20.681 the energy of the problem all I want, but it's 0:10:20.681 --> 0:10:23.681 not going to get me anywhere. And what actually benefits 0:10:23.721 --> 0:10:26.281 me is sitting in the energy of the solution because 0:10:26.321 --> 0:10:28.321 I have this big vision for you know, what we're 0:10:28.361 --> 0:10:31.601 doing and what we're creating and how incredible I believe 0:10:31.641 --> 0:10:33.521 that it will be and what we're working towards and 0:10:33.601 --> 0:10:36.881 striving towards every single day. It's like, okay, cool, what 0:10:36.881 --> 0:10:38.641 can I do with the time that I do have, 0:10:39.201 --> 0:10:42.001 and how can I refine everything that I'm doing to 0:10:42.201 --> 0:10:42.961 improve that? 0:10:43.161 --> 0:10:47.081 For myself, it's not to glamorize overworking and working late nights. 0:10:47.081 --> 0:10:48.601 Like Steve at the moment, he works all day, in 0:10:48.601 --> 0:10:50.721 the most evenings he's working. It's the season he's in 0:10:50.761 --> 0:10:53.521 as well, and it's not to glamorize that and encourage that. 0:10:53.641 --> 0:10:57.281 But sometimes there is seasons, especially if you're a business owner, 0:10:57.321 --> 0:10:59.601 where you do have to double down. Your head needs 0:10:59.641 --> 0:11:00.921 to go down, your bum needs to go up, and 0:11:00.921 --> 0:11:01.961 you need to do what you need to do to 0:11:01.961 --> 0:11:04.361 get it done. And it's not going to be forever. 0:11:04.961 --> 0:11:06.841 You've got goals and you're moving at a fast pace 0:11:06.841 --> 0:11:09.121 and you want to achieve them. Then that's just a 0:11:09.161 --> 0:11:11.361 season we're in right now. So like, yes, Monday night, 0:11:11.481 --> 0:11:13.801 no offense, but I would now to spend time attage. 0:11:14.241 --> 0:11:16.241 He's on the screen that night because he steves at tennis, 0:11:16.281 --> 0:11:18.481 So I do allow TAG a bit of screen time 0:11:18.561 --> 0:11:20.921 each night anyway, but I would love to spend time 0:11:20.961 --> 0:11:22.761 with him. But that's what I'm sacrificing right now, is 0:11:22.801 --> 0:11:24.481 to get my admin done so I can get a 0:11:24.481 --> 0:11:26.201 good start to the week and we don't fall so behind. 0:11:26.321 --> 0:11:28.481 We feel so much more ease, and we can show 0:11:28.561 --> 0:11:31.281 up better for our community and we can actually expand 0:11:31.521 --> 0:11:33.401 our capacity to do more of the things that we love, 0:11:33.401 --> 0:11:35.521 which is running retreats right now, which is so cool. 0:11:35.761 --> 0:11:39.081 So yeah, it's a really really powerful thing to think about. 0:11:39.521 --> 0:11:43.281 Instead of getting stuck in that problem energy and victim 0:11:43.321 --> 0:11:45.601 and I can't do anything about it, you actually can. 0:11:45.641 --> 0:11:47.361 It's just you need to explore and open up your 0:11:47.481 --> 0:11:50.241 options and find a solution. That's where I love the 0:11:50.281 --> 0:11:52.641 masculine energy. You know, there's this big move of being 0:11:52.721 --> 0:11:55.081 soft girl and you're feminine. I'm one hundred percent need 0:11:55.161 --> 0:11:57.121 more of that. I know I do, and I'm conscious 0:11:57.121 --> 0:11:58.521 and aware of that, but gosh, I love being our 0:11:58.561 --> 0:12:01.361 masculine anyway. Just get shit done. Yeah, I just get 0:12:01.401 --> 0:12:02.601 in and I get it done, and so do you. 0:12:02.641 --> 0:12:05.601 And it feels like so empowered. Yeah, what we're really 0:12:05.601 --> 0:12:07.641 capable of and how much we can push the boundaries 0:12:07.961 --> 0:12:09.161 to get us to where we want to. 0:12:09.161 --> 0:12:11.801 Go, absolutely, and I think it's that beautiful dance. I 0:12:11.801 --> 0:12:13.961 wouldn't say that there's a fifty to fifty balance because 0:12:14.001 --> 0:12:16.161 I definitely don't live in a fifty to fifty balance, 0:12:16.681 --> 0:12:19.321 But the way that I am navigating my life right 0:12:19.361 --> 0:12:22.401 now suits what I want. So maybe it's seventy percent 0:12:22.481 --> 0:12:25.041 masculine thirty percent feminine, but I know how to dance 0:12:25.081 --> 0:12:26.841 between them now. So even if I'm at work all 0:12:26.921 --> 0:12:29.001 day and I'm in my masculine energy, I'm still also 0:12:29.121 --> 0:12:31.161 dipping in and out of my feminine energy throughout. We're 0:12:31.161 --> 0:12:34.921 having giggles, we're having last Yeah, feeling playful, feeling feminine, 0:12:35.081 --> 0:12:37.561 go home like be with my partner, feel sexy. It's 0:12:37.641 --> 0:12:41.161 dripping that in and throughout. And I think this is 0:12:41.201 --> 0:12:44.361 something that women in general who are stepping into business 0:12:44.441 --> 0:12:47.201 or stepping into anything that they want to achieve, really 0:12:47.281 --> 0:12:50.361 any goal that they have for themselves needs a healthy 0:12:50.401 --> 0:12:53.641 amount of masculine energy, and without that, you will get 0:12:53.681 --> 0:12:58.121 lost in being fluffy and being pottering around and moving slowly. 0:12:58.401 --> 0:13:01.081 And you need to move at a fast pace in 0:13:01.201 --> 0:13:04.561 order to create momentum. What's the thing like success? Love speed, 0:13:05.121 --> 0:13:07.201 The faster that you move, like, the quicker that you 0:13:07.241 --> 0:13:09.321 will get to that goal, whether in business or any 0:13:09.321 --> 0:13:11.361 other area of your life. So I feel like this 0:13:11.401 --> 0:13:14.681 really applies to any goal that you are working towards. 0:13:14.681 --> 0:13:16.361 So I want you to just close your eyes for 0:13:16.401 --> 0:13:18.121 a second, and I just want you to think about 0:13:18.121 --> 0:13:21.161 the thing that you're going through right now and ask yourself, 0:13:21.521 --> 0:13:24.721 if I could be open minded in this moment, what 0:13:24.921 --> 0:13:29.321 could be the potential solution or the potential opportunity that 0:13:29.361 --> 0:13:33.161 this problem is showing me. And I just want you 0:13:33.201 --> 0:13:36.001 to ponder on it, just sit with it. You can 0:13:36.041 --> 0:13:39.841 even pause this episode and just like write down what 0:13:39.881 --> 0:13:42.601 actually comes out. If you allow yourself to be open minded, 0:13:43.161 --> 0:13:47.601 you might be surprised with yourself and what actually comes through. HM. 0:13:47.601 --> 0:13:52.921 Powerful, howe everyone's pausing and actually reflecting on that. But yeah, 0:13:52.961 --> 0:13:55.961 this week in our Accelerator chat, we've been teaching the 0:13:56.041 --> 0:13:58.801 TENX mindset and you've actually been reading a book about it. 0:13:59.001 --> 0:14:01.321 The book is called TENX is Easier Than Two X 0:14:01.401 --> 0:14:04.761 by Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy. It is a powerful 0:14:04.761 --> 0:14:07.361 blame need to read it. I highly recommend even if 0:14:07.361 --> 0:14:09.601 you just go on audible and you listen to the 0:14:09.641 --> 0:14:12.921 audio book, it will change your perspective on the way 0:14:12.921 --> 0:14:15.601 that you try to achieve your goals. And essentially it 0:14:15.721 --> 0:14:18.361 just allows you to think much bigger than what you're 0:14:18.361 --> 0:14:20.801 currently allowing yourself to do. And I think there's a 0:14:20.881 --> 0:14:23.881 power in that. I think there's definitely a conversation that 0:14:23.961 --> 0:14:26.161 floats around where people are like, if you think too 0:14:26.241 --> 0:14:29.881 big in the dreamer aspect, you don't actually do the 0:14:29.921 --> 0:14:32.761 actionable steps that you need right now. But also I 0:14:32.801 --> 0:14:35.521 do believe that there is some benefit in you giving 0:14:35.561 --> 0:14:38.881 yourself permission to explore what might actually be possible for yourself, 0:14:38.881 --> 0:14:42.161 because without that without the vision, how do you then execute? 0:14:42.201 --> 0:14:44.401 How do you know what you're then moving towards? Just 0:14:44.481 --> 0:14:47.161 for me in us and she rises and what we're 0:14:47.201 --> 0:14:50.521 doing here, it's almost like, oh, TENX is like multiple 0:14:50.641 --> 0:14:51.561 multiple retreats. 0:14:51.641 --> 0:14:52.681 It's bigger, it's. 0:14:52.481 --> 0:14:54.881 Doing more, it's accessing more people, it's getting visible in 0:14:54.881 --> 0:14:57.081 front of more people. Like that's the ten X vision 0:14:57.201 --> 0:15:00.641 versus Oh, maybe we could do an extra retreat per year. 0:15:02.041 --> 0:15:04.201 I'm like, how about six? We started with that? Hey 0:15:04.401 --> 0:15:07.081 we did? I remember the video. It was like two 0:15:07.121 --> 0:15:11.081 days after my brain aneurism. We jumped on TikTok or Instagram. 0:15:11.481 --> 0:15:14.081 We're like, oh, guys, if we get to thirty thousand followers, 0:15:14.201 --> 0:15:16.881 maybe we'll consider running a Bali retreat. We're not at 0:15:16.881 --> 0:15:19.561 thirty thousand followers, no, close on both accounts, we're not. 0:15:20.001 --> 0:15:21.641 And then one day we did it, and once we 0:15:21.761 --> 0:15:23.641 booked that one in, we're like, let's book a second 0:15:23.641 --> 0:15:25.281 one the same week. Sold out. And now it's the 0:15:25.281 --> 0:15:27.721 same with our January retreat, Like we booked the one, 0:15:27.721 --> 0:15:30.121 it's sold out, Okay, we'll do another one. We've just 0:15:30.121 --> 0:15:32.481 got so many plans like why not, Like what is 0:15:32.481 --> 0:15:35.041 that ten X vision? That ten X goal, Like if 0:15:35.041 --> 0:15:37.121 we were in that energy of ten X, we'd be 0:15:37.161 --> 0:15:39.281 doing I measure if we did a retreat a month. 0:15:39.081 --> 0:15:41.521 Oh my god, that is beautiful. That would it's so possible, 0:15:41.561 --> 0:15:42.321 would be a dream. 0:15:42.561 --> 0:15:44.881 Got two in January, We've got one in April, which 0:15:44.921 --> 0:15:46.601 we haven't launch. Sh it, We've got one in May, 0:15:47.361 --> 0:15:49.601 and it's like, why would we not do one a month? 0:15:49.601 --> 0:15:50.601 Like is that possible? Yeah? 0:15:50.641 --> 0:15:50.881 It is. 0:15:50.961 --> 0:15:52.921 Yeah, that's the ten X thinking is two X, which 0:15:52.961 --> 0:15:54.121 just like one or two a year, and like we'll 0:15:54.161 --> 0:15:54.761 see how that goes. 0:15:54.881 --> 0:15:57.841 Yeah. Also, we've got September as well in Bali. Then 0:15:57.881 --> 0:16:01.241 we've got November Baren. So you know we've been able 0:16:01.281 --> 0:16:04.081 to sell out like six retreats in within seventy two hours. 0:16:04.121 --> 0:16:06.641 And it's like, without that TENX vision or that TENX thinking, 0:16:06.681 --> 0:16:08.801 we would have played it safe. That's right, And I 0:16:08.881 --> 0:16:11.761 believe that that TENX thinking or that TENX vision. We 0:16:11.881 --> 0:16:15.201 often relate that with being like years and years away. 0:16:15.361 --> 0:16:17.601 And this is a conversation we've been having, is that 0:16:17.601 --> 0:16:19.881 TENX vision doesn't have to be ten years away. 0:16:19.881 --> 0:16:22.081 Or when you hit thirty thousand followers or when you 0:16:22.161 --> 0:16:24.481 hit x amount of downloads, when you hit X amount 0:16:24.521 --> 0:16:25.121 of anything, some. 0:16:25.161 --> 0:16:28.161 Imaginable goal and timeline that you've created for yourself in 0:16:28.201 --> 0:16:31.721 your head. It speeds up the timeline and like, how 0:16:31.761 --> 0:16:33.801 cool We've been talking about this so much lately in 0:16:33.841 --> 0:16:37.881 our personal conversations in Accelerator and also in our group spaces. 0:16:38.681 --> 0:16:41.281 Is what if that TENX version of yourself didn't have 0:16:41.361 --> 0:16:42.881 to take ten years but could happen now? 0:16:43.081 --> 0:16:43.801 Yeah, totally? 0:16:44.001 --> 0:16:46.361