Speaker 1: Apoge Production. Welcome back to another episode about My Bad
Speaker 1: MoMA podcast.
Speaker 2: It's been a big week.
Speaker 1: I feel like we were talking about this last week,
Speaker 1: but school holidays is so close.
Speaker 2: So close. I have an update though.
Speaker 3: Oh school holidays, your kids going? Yeah, so I think
Speaker 3: we spoke about it. How I was super excited for
Speaker 3: these particular holidays because somebody had offered to take them camping,
Speaker 3: and so then they started to reneg on the offer.
Speaker 3: And so what I did was I went out of
Speaker 3: my way to make sure that we sat down, all
Speaker 3: four of us, to locate some days in between the
Speaker 3: holidays that maybe Dad was available that he didn't quite
Speaker 3: see that he was available to still be able to
Speaker 3: take the girls camping.
Speaker 1: Okay, so Dad was supposed to take the girls camping,
Speaker 1: you weren't going to be going now. We've got all
Speaker 1: the jobs at home, much going on. And I even
Speaker 1: said to your husband Sam the other day, all exciting
Speaker 1: taking the girls camping school holidays. He was like yeah,
Speaker 1: so he was fully it sounded like you fully in
Speaker 1: and then he decided he had too much work on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, okay, it was so funny.
Speaker 3: He's sitting there and it was like nighttime, So it
Speaker 3: was like everyone was winding down, and I said to him,
Speaker 3: let's look at calendars right now and.
Speaker 2: Just see what it looks like. Oh so busy. I
Speaker 2: was like, well, show me. Let's have a look, because
Speaker 2: this is.
Speaker 3: The difference of men and women, right, is that I
Speaker 3: can see the calendar and I can go, well, you
Speaker 3: could make it work here here and here, let's just
Speaker 3: move that. And then that's four days. Long story short.
Speaker 3: We've locked in Monday through to Thursday. We've booked the
Speaker 3: camp site. Did you book the CA? I booked, it's booked.
Speaker 1: It's booked.
Speaker 3: You are going, Yeah, they're all locked in Monday to Thursday,
Speaker 3: first week, and then I've got work Thursday through to Sunday.
Speaker 2: So then they go to nun's.
Speaker 1: Well that was convenient, wasn't it. So pretty much for
Speaker 1: the whole school holiday. So Dad's got them for half
Speaker 1: of it, NaN's got them for the.
Speaker 2: Yeah, NaN's got for the middle, and I will just
Speaker 2: have for the end.
Speaker 1: I feel like you've got the good end of the
Speaker 1: school holidays. Yeah. We did talk about this because I
Speaker 1: mean Dad's got the tiredness from end of school term. Yeah,
Speaker 1: plus then the tiredness from camping. We all know you
Speaker 1: don't sleep well when you're camping. Then Nan is cleaning
Speaker 1: that shit up. Yeah, the tired coming home from camping
Speaker 1: fallout yep. They will then be all refreshed ready for you.
Speaker 1: And then you're going to fill the last few days
Speaker 1: with fun stuff yep, and then off. That's why you
Speaker 1: go back to school. I know it's not this perfect.
Speaker 3: See I thought, and I did say this on our
Speaker 3: last podcast, was Dad will bail.
Speaker 2: On it and it will be all too hard.
Speaker 3: And no, there's no days and there's no no, absolutely not.
Speaker 1: That you made sure. Remember you put it in the
Speaker 1: calendar and book the campsit all. He's got to do
Speaker 1: a show up, am I bad mom for not realizing
Speaker 1: that everyone grieves differently. You might have.
Speaker 2: I didn't even Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh no, a little while ago on
Speaker 1: the podcast about the cat and the very expensive operation
Speaker 1: that it had to have seven thousand dollars rached. That
Speaker 1: wasn't the end of the story. Sadly, I know I
Speaker 1: need to not cry.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh no, I didn't know we were
Speaker 3: doing this.
Speaker 1: He got sick again. Long story short, he wasn't going
Speaker 1: to make it without another ten thousand dollar operation. However,
Speaker 1: it really didn't sit well with me thinking that there
Speaker 1: was any decision made over money. And actually I'd got
Speaker 1: insurance after that and so it probably would have been covered. However,
Speaker 1: the VET said he probably won't make this operation.
Speaker 2: Operation was huge.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so we had to make the sad decision
Speaker 1: to have him put to sleep. Now that all happened,
Speaker 1: it was sad, underestimated, bad. I'd feel right when people
Speaker 1: have said in the past, honestly, oh, I can't go
Speaker 1: to work today, my cat's passed away or something like that, right,
Speaker 1: I honestly Rach had done a little eye roll. Okay,
Speaker 1: sad about your cat, but come on, I was so sad.
Speaker 1: Out of all four of us, I was so sad
Speaker 1: about this PODC. I did everything in my mind. What
Speaker 1: if could we have made his life better? Could he
Speaker 1: have gone outside more? Should I have fed him better?
Speaker 1: For all of that stuff? Right, But there was a
Speaker 1: funny part to this, and then I'll then go into
Speaker 1: the crazy part. Okay, So the funny part was Amelia
Speaker 1: comes down.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: I've spoken to you before about Amelia and her spending.
Speaker 1: She gets paid her wages from macas I've been putting
Speaker 1: it into another account because she just.
Speaker 2: Can't hole in her pocket. Yeah, totally.
Speaker 1: Now she had something she was buying, and I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: that's fine, So I put her money back where she
Speaker 1: could access it. Next thing I know, Rach, she has
Speaker 1: bought not just one thing, she's bought something else, and
Speaker 1: then she's bought vinyl, and then she's bought some more
Speaker 1: merch and then she's bought another concert ticket. I was like, mate,
Speaker 1: look what you've done. You've spent all of that money.
Speaker 1: She turns around to me, Rache, and she goes, mom.
Speaker 1: Everyone grieves differently.
Speaker 3: I'm spent every cent in my account, and then it's
Speaker 3: just because I'm grieving.
Speaker 2: I was like, good one. Oh yeah, good one.
Speaker 1: I like where you've gone with that. But it gets
Speaker 1: a little crazy.
Speaker 2: Rag.
Speaker 1: So when Orgie the cat was at the vet and
Speaker 1: I had to sign the form, well, I sign the
Speaker 1: form before they did it, just agreeing to usinase it's
Speaker 1: such a horrible word. Yeah, I signed the form and
Speaker 1: then there's an option at the bottom of what you
Speaker 1: want to do with the body, and I just ticked
Speaker 1: the vet deal with it. I wanted him to still
Speaker 1: be there. I didn't want him to be sick and
Speaker 1: all the rest of it. I was like, now he's gone, okay,
Speaker 1: the vet can just deal with it. Get home That
Speaker 1: afternoon after everything's done, Amelia goes, when do we get
Speaker 1: the ashes? And I went, I didn't have a conversation
Speaker 1: about that, And then what do you mean? I said, well,
Speaker 1: I just ticked the box and jay'sa like staring at me,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I just ticked the box to
Speaker 1: say the vat can the body do what they do peacefully?
Speaker 1: They'll do it nicely. I'm sure she was so horrified.
Speaker 1: This was probably five hours after everything had happened, and
Speaker 1: she was so upset and she was like, what do
Speaker 1: you mean? I thought we were gonna have ashes blah
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah. And I was like, I was thinking,
Speaker 1: where are we going to put cats ashes? Like where
Speaker 1: are they gonna go? What are they going to go in?
Speaker 1: Jay turns around to me and goes, shall I call
Speaker 1: up the vet And I went out, she'll forget about
Speaker 1: it next week, and he went, well, we've got to
Speaker 1: let everybody grieve differently, and I was like, okay, so
Speaker 1: he's caught up the vet. Hey, any chance, you've still
Speaker 1: got our cat's dead body lying around. They were like,
Speaker 1: yes we have. I was like, thank god. So then
Speaker 1: the whole pets in peace are then involved and taken
Speaker 1: the body. Can I just tell you where we've ended up, Rach.
Speaker 1: So we've gone from ticking the box to go that's
Speaker 1: so sad.
Speaker 3: But the vet, oh yeah, yeah, you've got the cat
Speaker 3: on the mantelpiece, Rach.
Speaker 1: Not just that doing a viewing what we're driving. I honestly,
Speaker 1: I said to myself, I wasn't going to say this
Speaker 1: out loud. Oh my god, why out loud to anybody?
Speaker 1: Because out loud you go, are you fucking kidding?
Speaker 3: You?
Speaker 1: Crazy, weird, crazy cat lady? You have spent money. You
Speaker 1: are going to drive an hour out to Logan, going
Speaker 1: to spend half an hour with your dead cat's body.
Speaker 2: What have they been doing with the cat's body since
Speaker 2: he passed? Just preserving it? Babe.
Speaker 1: This is a long time.
Speaker 2: It's long. There's so many days we're doing. This is
Speaker 2: making me go great.
Speaker 1: I spoke to them the other day. They were so lovely,
Speaker 1: such beautiful people. We've given him a bas Oh my gosh, guys. Right,
Speaker 1: I went this morning I've printed out photos so he
Speaker 1: understand how much he was loved. It's in I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I'm saying you.
Speaker 2: I know it's crazy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, it's so crazy.
Speaker 2: I go, I can't actually, but do you know the
Speaker 2: funny thing is.
Speaker 1: That other people do this, because it's actually a part
Speaker 1: of it. Service people do it. Katie, you want me
Speaker 1: to tell you where my cat finished up? And I
Speaker 1: loved him to be my favorite thing in this whole
Speaker 1: entire world.
Speaker 3: He ended up getting doug up by my dogs three times,
Speaker 3: three different times.
Speaker 2: My dogs dug up my dead cat's body.
Speaker 3: And then at that stage, Sam found one of the
Speaker 3: dogs chewing on its tail.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, So do you know where he ended up?
Speaker 2: He ended up.
Speaker 3: Sam didn't tell me this for quite a while, and
Speaker 3: he blames it on me because he said, if you
Speaker 3: saw the dogs chewing on its tail, Rachel, you would
Speaker 3: have done the same.
Speaker 2: And I was like, who puts a cat's body in
Speaker 2: the bin? And I can laugh about it now. You
Speaker 2: went in the bin.
Speaker 1: See, I bet you wish you'd done what we've done
Speaker 1: out You could have driven out there, you could have
Speaker 1: spent some time with the body. You could have written
Speaker 1: I'm telling you viewings are not for me. I've gone
Speaker 1: pretty extreme. I understand if you don't want to be
Speaker 1: friends anymore.
Speaker 3: I'm questioning our decision in lives, but that's okay.
Speaker 2: This is your decision. I love this.
Speaker 1: However, you know what's another option. I'm not doing this.
Speaker 2: The people do it?
Speaker 1: No, No, I mean I'm crazy. They offer a service
Speaker 1: where you take your other pets so they.
Speaker 2: Can say goodbye.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, people do that.
Speaker 2: Rache do that.
Speaker 1: I have not gone that.
Speaker 3: Far if we were putting this whole entire episode with
Speaker 3: the video my facials right now that I have thought
Speaker 3: for this.
Speaker 2: Entire episode, It's been a wicked ride.
Speaker 1: It's really rude to h