WEBVTT - I am a crazy cat lady

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<v Speaker 1>Apoge Production. Welcome back to another episode about My Bad

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<v Speaker 1>MoMA podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's been a big week.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like we were talking about this last week,

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<v Speaker 1>but school holidays is so close.

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<v Speaker 2>So close. I have an update though.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh school holidays, your kids going? Yeah, so I think

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<v Speaker 3>we spoke about it. How I was super excited for

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<v Speaker 3>these particular holidays because somebody had offered to take them camping,

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<v Speaker 3>and so then they started to reneg on the offer.

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<v Speaker 3>And so what I did was I went out of

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<v Speaker 3>my way to make sure that we sat down, all

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<v Speaker 3>four of us, to locate some days in between the

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<v Speaker 3>holidays that maybe Dad was available that he didn't quite

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<v Speaker 3>see that he was available to still be able to

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<v Speaker 3>take the girls camping.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so Dad was supposed to take the girls camping,

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<v Speaker 1>you weren't going to be going now. We've got all

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<v Speaker 1>the jobs at home, much going on. And I even

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<v Speaker 1>said to your husband Sam the other day, all exciting

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<v Speaker 1>taking the girls camping school holidays. He was like yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so he was fully it sounded like you fully in

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<v Speaker 1>and then he decided he had too much work on.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, honestly, okay, it was so funny.

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<v Speaker 3>He's sitting there and it was like nighttime, So it

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<v Speaker 3>was like everyone was winding down, and I said to him,

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<v Speaker 3>let's look at calendars right now and.

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<v Speaker 2>Just see what it looks like. Oh so busy. I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, well, show me. Let's have a look, because

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<v Speaker 2>this is.

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<v Speaker 3>The difference of men and women, right, is that I

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<v Speaker 3>can see the calendar and I can go, well, you

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<v Speaker 3>could make it work here here and here, let's just

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<v Speaker 3>move that. And then that's four days. Long story short.

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<v Speaker 3>We've locked in Monday through to Thursday. We've booked the

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<v Speaker 3>camp site. Did you book the CA? I booked, it's booked.

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<v Speaker 1>It's booked.

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<v Speaker 3>You are going, Yeah, they're all locked in Monday to Thursday,

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<v Speaker 3>first week, and then I've got work Thursday through to Sunday.

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<v Speaker 2>So then they go to nun's.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that was convenient, wasn't it. So pretty much for

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<v Speaker 1>the whole school holiday. So Dad's got them for half

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<v Speaker 1>of it, NaN's got them for the.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, NaN's got for the middle, and I will just

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<v Speaker 2>have for the end.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you've got the good end of the

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<v Speaker 1>school holidays. Yeah. We did talk about this because I

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<v Speaker 1>mean Dad's got the tiredness from end of school term. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>plus then the tiredness from camping. We all know you

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<v Speaker 1>don't sleep well when you're camping. Then Nan is cleaning

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<v Speaker 1>that shit up. Yeah, the tired coming home from camping

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<v Speaker 1>fallout yep. They will then be all refreshed ready for you.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you're going to fill the last few days

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<v Speaker 1>with fun stuff yep, and then off. That's why you

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<v Speaker 1>go back to school. I know it's not this perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>See I thought, and I did say this on our

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<v Speaker 3>last podcast, was Dad will bail.

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<v Speaker 2>On it and it will be all too hard.

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<v Speaker 3>And no, there's no days and there's no no, absolutely not.

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<v Speaker 1>That you made sure. Remember you put it in the

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<v Speaker 1>calendar and book the campsit all. He's got to do

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<v Speaker 1>a show up, am I bad mom for not realizing

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<v Speaker 1>that everyone grieves differently. You might have.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't even Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh no, a little while ago on

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast about the cat and the very expensive operation

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<v Speaker 1>that it had to have seven thousand dollars rached. That

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't the end of the story. Sadly, I know I

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<v Speaker 1>need to not cry.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, oh no, I didn't know we were

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<v Speaker 3>doing this.

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<v Speaker 1>He got sick again. Long story short, he wasn't going

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<v Speaker 1>to make it without another ten thousand dollar operation. However,

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<v Speaker 1>it really didn't sit well with me thinking that there

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<v Speaker 1>was any decision made over money. And actually I'd got

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<v Speaker 1>insurance after that and so it probably would have been covered. However,

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<v Speaker 1>the VET said he probably won't make this operation.

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<v Speaker 2>Operation was huge.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, so we had to make the sad decision

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<v Speaker 1>to have him put to sleep. Now that all happened,

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<v Speaker 1>it was sad, underestimated, bad. I'd feel right when people

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<v Speaker 1>have said in the past, honestly, oh, I can't go

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<v Speaker 1>to work today, my cat's passed away or something like that, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I honestly Rach had done a little eye roll. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>sad about your cat, but come on, I was so sad.

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<v Speaker 1>Out of all four of us, I was so sad

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<v Speaker 1>about this PODC. I did everything in my mind. What

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<v Speaker 1>if could we have made his life better? Could he

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<v Speaker 1>have gone outside more? Should I have fed him better?

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<v Speaker 1>For all of that stuff? Right, But there was a

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<v Speaker 1>funny part to this, and then I'll then go into

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<v Speaker 1>the crazy part. Okay, So the funny part was Amelia

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<v Speaker 1>comes down.

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<v Speaker 2>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I've spoken to you before about Amelia and her spending.

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<v Speaker 1>She gets paid her wages from macas I've been putting

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<v Speaker 1>it into another account because she just.

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<v Speaker 2>Can't hole in her pocket. Yeah, totally.

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<v Speaker 1>Now she had something she was buying, and I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>that's fine, So I put her money back where she

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<v Speaker 1>could access it. Next thing I know, Rach, she has

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<v Speaker 1>bought not just one thing, she's bought something else, and

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<v Speaker 1>then she's bought vinyl, and then she's bought some more

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<v Speaker 1>merch and then she's bought another concert ticket. I was like, mate,

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<v Speaker 1>look what you've done. You've spent all of that money.

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<v Speaker 1>She turns around to me, Rache, and she goes, mom.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone grieves differently.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm spent every cent in my account, and then it's

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<v Speaker 3>just because I'm grieving.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, good one. Oh yeah, good one.

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<v Speaker 1>I like where you've gone with that. But it gets

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<v Speaker 1>a little crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Rag.

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<v Speaker 1>So when Orgie the cat was at the vet and

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<v Speaker 1>I had to sign the form, well, I sign the

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<v Speaker 1>form before they did it, just agreeing to usinase it's

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<v Speaker 1>such a horrible word. Yeah, I signed the form and

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<v Speaker 1>then there's an option at the bottom of what you

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<v Speaker 1>want to do with the body, and I just ticked

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<v Speaker 1>the vet deal with it. I wanted him to still

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<v Speaker 1>be there. I didn't want him to be sick and

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<v Speaker 1>all the rest of it. I was like, now he's gone, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>the vet can just deal with it. Get home That

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<v Speaker 1>afternoon after everything's done, Amelia goes, when do we get

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<v Speaker 1>the ashes? And I went, I didn't have a conversation

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<v Speaker 1>about that, And then what do you mean? I said, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I just ticked the box and jay'sa like staring at me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I just ticked the box to

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<v Speaker 1>say the vat can the body do what they do peacefully?

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<v Speaker 1>They'll do it nicely. I'm sure she was so horrified.

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<v Speaker 1>This was probably five hours after everything had happened, and

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<v Speaker 1>she was so upset and she was like, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you mean? I thought we were gonna have ashes blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah blah. And I was like, I was thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>where are we going to put cats ashes? Like where

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<v Speaker 1>are they gonna go? What are they going to go in?

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<v Speaker 1>Jay turns around to me and goes, shall I call

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<v Speaker 1>up the vet And I went out, she'll forget about

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<v Speaker 1>it next week, and he went, well, we've got to

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<v Speaker 1>let everybody grieve differently, and I was like, okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>he's caught up the vet. Hey, any chance, you've still

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<v Speaker 1>got our cat's dead body lying around. They were like,

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<v Speaker 1>yes we have. I was like, thank god. So then

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<v Speaker 1>the whole pets in peace are then involved and taken

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<v Speaker 1>the body. Can I just tell you where we've ended up, Rach.

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<v Speaker 1>So we've gone from ticking the box to go that's

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<v Speaker 1>so sad.

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<v Speaker 3>But the vet, oh yeah, yeah, you've got the cat

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<v Speaker 3>on the mantelpiece, Rach.

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<v Speaker 1>Not just that doing a viewing what we're driving. I honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I said to myself, I wasn't going to say this

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<v Speaker 1>out loud. Oh my god, why out loud to anybody?

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<v Speaker 1>Because out loud you go, are you fucking kidding?

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<v Speaker 3>You?

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<v Speaker 1>Crazy, weird, crazy cat lady? You have spent money. You

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<v Speaker 1>are going to drive an hour out to Logan, going

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<v Speaker 1>to spend half an hour with your dead cat's body.

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<v Speaker 2>What have they been doing with the cat's body since

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<v Speaker 2>he passed? Just preserving it? Babe.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a long time.

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<v Speaker 2>It's long. There's so many days we're doing. This is

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<v Speaker 2>making me go great.

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<v Speaker 1>I spoke to them the other day. They were so lovely,

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<v Speaker 1>such beautiful people. We've given him a bas Oh my gosh, guys. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>I went this morning I've printed out photos so he

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<v Speaker 1>understand how much he was loved. It's in I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying you.

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<v Speaker 2>I know it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know, it's so crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>I go, I can't actually, but do you know the

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<v Speaker 2>funny thing is.

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<v Speaker 1>That other people do this, because it's actually a part

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<v Speaker 1>of it. Service people do it. Katie, you want me

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you where my cat finished up? And I

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<v Speaker 1>loved him to be my favorite thing in this whole

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<v Speaker 1>entire world.

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<v Speaker 3>He ended up getting doug up by my dogs three times,

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<v Speaker 3>three different times.

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<v Speaker 2>My dogs dug up my dead cat's body.

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<v Speaker 3>And then at that stage, Sam found one of the

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<v Speaker 3>dogs chewing on its tail.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, So do you know where he ended up?

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<v Speaker 2>He ended up.

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<v Speaker 3>Sam didn't tell me this for quite a while, and

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<v Speaker 3>he blames it on me because he said, if you

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<v Speaker 3>saw the dogs chewing on its tail, Rachel, you would

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<v Speaker 3>have done the same.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, who puts a cat's body in

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<v Speaker 2>the bin? And I can laugh about it now. You

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<v Speaker 2>went in the bin.

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<v Speaker 1>See, I bet you wish you'd done what we've done

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<v Speaker 1>out You could have driven out there, you could have

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<v Speaker 1>spent some time with the body. You could have written

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you viewings are not for me. I've gone

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<v Speaker 1>pretty extreme. I understand if you don't want to be

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<v Speaker 1>friends anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm questioning our decision in lives, but that's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>This is your decision. I love this.

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<v Speaker 1>However, you know what's another option. I'm not doing this.

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<v Speaker 2>The people do it?

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<v Speaker 1>No, No, I mean I'm crazy. They offer a service

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<v Speaker 1>where you take your other pets so they.

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<v Speaker 2>Can say goodbye.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, yeah, people do that.

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<v Speaker 2>Rache do that.

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<v Speaker 1>I have not gone that.

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<v Speaker 3>Far if we were putting this whole entire episode with

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<v Speaker 3>the video my facials right now that I have thought

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<v Speaker 3>for this.

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<v Speaker 2>Entire episode, It's been a wicked ride.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really rude to h