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Speaker 1: Apoge Production. Welcome back to another episode about My Bad

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Speaker 1: MoMA podcast.

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Speaker 2: It's been a big week.

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Speaker 1: I feel like we were talking about this last week,

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Speaker 1: but school holidays is so close.

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Speaker 2: So close. I have an update though.

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Speaker 3: Oh school holidays, your kids going? Yeah, so I think

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Speaker 3: we spoke about it. How I was super excited for

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Speaker 3: these particular holidays because somebody had offered to take them camping,

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Speaker 3: and so then they started to reneg on the offer.

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Speaker 3: And so what I did was I went out of

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Speaker 3: my way to make sure that we sat down, all

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Speaker 3: four of us, to locate some days in between the

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Speaker 3: holidays that maybe Dad was available that he didn't quite

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Speaker 3: see that he was available to still be able to

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Speaker 3: take the girls camping.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so Dad was supposed to take the girls camping,

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Speaker 1: you weren't going to be going now. We've got all

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Speaker 1: the jobs at home, much going on. And I even

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Speaker 1: said to your husband Sam the other day, all exciting

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Speaker 1: taking the girls camping school holidays. He was like yeah,

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Speaker 1: so he was fully it sounded like you fully in

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Speaker 1: and then he decided he had too much work on.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, okay, it was so funny.

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Speaker 3: He's sitting there and it was like nighttime, So it

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Speaker 3: was like everyone was winding down, and I said to him,

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Speaker 3: let's look at calendars right now and.

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Speaker 2: Just see what it looks like. Oh so busy. I

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Speaker 2: was like, well, show me. Let's have a look, because

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Speaker 2: this is.

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Speaker 3: The difference of men and women, right, is that I

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Speaker 3: can see the calendar and I can go, well, you

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Speaker 3: could make it work here here and here, let's just

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Speaker 3: move that. And then that's four days. Long story short.

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Speaker 3: We've locked in Monday through to Thursday. We've booked the

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Speaker 3: camp site. Did you book the CA? I booked, it's booked.

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Speaker 1: It's booked.

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Speaker 3: You are going, Yeah, they're all locked in Monday to Thursday,

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Speaker 3: first week, and then I've got work Thursday through to Sunday.

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Speaker 2: So then they go to nun's.

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Speaker 1: Well that was convenient, wasn't it. So pretty much for

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Speaker 1: the whole school holiday. So Dad's got them for half

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Speaker 1: of it, NaN's got them for the.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, NaN's got for the middle, and I will just

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Speaker 2: have for the end.

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Speaker 1: I feel like you've got the good end of the

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Speaker 1: school holidays. Yeah. We did talk about this because I

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Speaker 1: mean Dad's got the tiredness from end of school term. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: plus then the tiredness from camping. We all know you

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Speaker 1: don't sleep well when you're camping. Then Nan is cleaning

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Speaker 1: that shit up. Yeah, the tired coming home from camping

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Speaker 1: fallout yep. They will then be all refreshed ready for you.

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Speaker 1: And then you're going to fill the last few days

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Speaker 1: with fun stuff yep, and then off. That's why you

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Speaker 1: go back to school. I know it's not this perfect.

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Speaker 3: See I thought, and I did say this on our

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Speaker 3: last podcast, was Dad will bail.

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Speaker 2: On it and it will be all too hard.

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Speaker 3: And no, there's no days and there's no no, absolutely not.

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Speaker 1: That you made sure. Remember you put it in the

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Speaker 1: calendar and book the campsit all. He's got to do

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Speaker 1: a show up, am I bad mom for not realizing

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Speaker 1: that everyone grieves differently. You might have.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh no, a little while ago on

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Speaker 1: that it had to have seven thousand dollars rached. That

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Speaker 1: wasn't the end of the story. Sadly, I know I

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh no, I didn't know we were

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Speaker 3: doing this.

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Speaker 1: He got sick again. Long story short, he wasn't going

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Speaker 1: to make it without another ten thousand dollar operation. However,

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Speaker 1: it really didn't sit well with me thinking that there

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Speaker 1: insurance after that and so it probably would have been covered. However,

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Speaker 1: the VET said he probably won't make this operation.

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Speaker 2: Operation was huge.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so we had to make the sad decision

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Speaker 1: it was sad, underestimated, bad. I'd feel right when people

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Speaker 1: have said in the past, honestly, oh, I can't go

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Speaker 1: to work today, my cat's passed away or something like that, right,

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Speaker 1: I honestly Rach had done a little eye roll. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Out of all four of us, I was so sad

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Speaker 1: about this PODC. I did everything in my mind. What

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Speaker 1: For all of that stuff? Right, But there was a

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Speaker 1: funny part to this, and then I'll then go into

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Speaker 1: the crazy part. Okay, So the funny part was Amelia

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: I've spoken to you before about Amelia and her spending.

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Speaker 1: She gets paid her wages from macas I've been putting

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Speaker 1: it into another account because she just.

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Speaker 2: Can't hole in her pocket. Yeah, totally.

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Speaker 1: Now she had something she was buying, and I was like, okay,

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Speaker 1: bought not just one thing, she's bought something else, and

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Speaker 1: then she's bought vinyl, and then she's bought some more

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Speaker 1: merch and then she's bought another concert ticket. I was like, mate,

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Speaker 1: She turns around to me, Rache, and she goes, mom.

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Speaker 1: Everyone grieves differently.

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Speaker 3: I'm spent every cent in my account, and then it's

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Speaker 3: just because I'm grieving.

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Speaker 2: I was like, good one. Oh yeah, good one.

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Speaker 1: I like where you've gone with that. But it gets

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Speaker 1: So when Orgie the cat was at the vet and

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Speaker 1: I had to sign the form, well, I sign the

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Speaker 1: form before they did it, just agreeing to usinase it's

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Speaker 1: such a horrible word. Yeah, I signed the form and

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Speaker 1: then there's an option at the bottom of what you

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Speaker 1: want to do with the body, and I just ticked

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Speaker 1: all the rest of it. I was like, now he's gone, okay,

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Speaker 1: afternoon after everything's done, Amelia goes, when do we get

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Speaker 1: the ashes? And I went, I didn't have a conversation

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Speaker 1: I just ticked the box and jay'sa like staring at me,

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Speaker 1: you mean? I thought we were gonna have ashes blah

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Speaker 1: Jay turns around to me and goes, shall I call

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Speaker 1: up the vet And I went out, she'll forget about

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Speaker 1: it next week, and he went, well, we've got to

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Speaker 1: let everybody grieve differently, and I was like, okay, so

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Speaker 1: he's caught up the vet. Hey, any chance, you've still

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Speaker 1: got our cat's dead body lying around. They were like,

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Speaker 1: yes we have. I was like, thank god. So then

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Speaker 1: the body. Can I just tell you where we've ended up, Rach.

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Speaker 1: So we've gone from ticking the box to go that's

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Speaker 3: But the vet, oh yeah, yeah, you've got the cat

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Speaker 1: Not just that doing a viewing what we're driving. I honestly,

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Speaker 1: I said to myself, I wasn't going to say this

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Speaker 1: Because out loud you go, are you fucking kidding?

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Speaker 3: You?

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Speaker 1: Crazy, weird, crazy cat lady? You have spent money. You

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Speaker 2: What have they been doing with the cat's body since

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Speaker 1: This is a long time.

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Speaker 2: It's long. There's so many days we're doing. This is

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Speaker 2: making me go great.

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Speaker 1: I spoke to them the other day. They were so lovely,

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Speaker 1: such beautiful people. We've given him a bas Oh my gosh, guys. Right,

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Speaker 1: I went this morning I've printed out photos so he

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Speaker 1: understand how much he was loved. It's in I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: I'm saying you.

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Speaker 2: I know it's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, it's so crazy.

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Speaker 2: I go, I can't actually, but do you know the

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Speaker 2: funny thing is.

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Speaker 1: That other people do this, because it's actually a part

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Speaker 3: He ended up getting doug up by my dogs three times,

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Speaker 2: My dogs dug up my dead cat's body.

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Speaker 3: And then at that stage, Sam found one of the

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, So do you know where he ended up?

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Speaker 2: He ended up.

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Speaker 3: Sam didn't tell me this for quite a while, and

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Speaker 2: And I was like, who puts a cat's body in

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Speaker 2: the bin? And I can laugh about it now. You

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Speaker 1: See, I bet you wish you'd done what we've done

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Speaker 1: out You could have driven out there, you could have

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Speaker 1: spent some time with the body. You could have written

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you viewings are not for me. I've gone

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Speaker 1: pretty extreme. I understand if you don't want to be

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Speaker 3: I'm questioning our decision in lives, but that's okay.

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Speaker 2: This is your decision. I love this.

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Speaker 1: However, you know what's another option. I'm not doing this.

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Speaker 2: The people do it?

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Speaker 1: No, No, I mean I'm crazy. They offer a service

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Speaker 1: where you take your other pets so they.

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Speaker 2: Can say goodbye.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, people do that.

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Speaker 2: Rache do that.

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Speaker 1: I have not gone that.

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Speaker 3: Far if we were putting this whole entire episode with

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Speaker 3: the video my facials right now that I have thought

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Speaker 3: for this.

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Speaker 2: Entire episode, It's been a wicked ride.

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Speaker 1: It's really rude to h