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Speaker 1: This is the fits In with Her with Kate Richie

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Speaker 1: podcast Arnicle that's been online over the weekend. It girl

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Speaker 1: has taken to Instagram and she's spoken about how she's

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Speaker 1: lonely in her marriage and she's been having an invisible affair.

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Speaker 1: Write that down, guys, brand new terment at the dating scene.

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Speaker 2: And invisible Tell what take me through?

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Speaker 1: Well, you might be married technically, so by law, you

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Speaker 1: are living with that person that you said, yes, I

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Speaker 1: will be with them for the rest of my life.

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Speaker 1: But things are a little quiet and you're not talking

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Speaker 1: too much in your marriage, so you find conversation with

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Speaker 1: somebody else in an online sense, okay, gotcha, And those

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Speaker 1: conversations are deep and emotional and can sometimes be saxueal well.

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Speaker 2: But see, do you regard this as cheating? So if

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Speaker 2: there's no physical sort of.

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Speaker 1: Element to it, is, is it okay to talk to

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Speaker 1: someone else online? What a wonderful question.

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Speaker 3: I think it comes under the category of emotional cheating.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, goa. I mean you can't get away with anything

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Speaker 2: these days. There's a name for everything, isn't there.

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Speaker 1: Everything's sort of label everything is wrong, Yes, Amy, you

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Speaker 1: we told off or celebrated, depending on what you google.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's cheating. It depends where you go to.

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Speaker 1: I mean, if this becomes I mean where it says

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Speaker 1: deep and emotional but also sexual connection, If that becomes

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Speaker 1: the main purpose for the conversation you're having online, then

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Speaker 1: I think it's is it cheating? It's sad I know

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Speaker 1: that much, because your marriage is obviously breaking down. If

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Speaker 1: you're looking for it elsewhere are you?

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Speaker 2: Though? Is it sad?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 2: Is it unreasonable?

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Speaker 1: It's not unreasonable to no.

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Speaker 2: No, no.

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Speaker 3: Is it unreasonable to expect that there is one person

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Speaker 3: in your life that can fulfill every single need. I

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Speaker 3: think that is deeply unreasonable, and it puts too much

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Speaker 3: pressure on couples to be.

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Speaker 2: People who they're not. Isn't it enough to just have?

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Speaker 3: But if I was someone that you trust, that you

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Speaker 3: know helps with all sorts of bits and bobs, and

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Speaker 3: you can get your deeper connection or your belly laughs

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Speaker 3: or whatever from somebody else.

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Speaker 2: You can't have a one stop shop.

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Speaker 1: I know what you mean. It depends on the impact

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Speaker 1: it's on your other relationship, Because you're right, it might

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Speaker 1: act as the perfect balancer because you need both in

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Speaker 1: your life. And if it's not existing here, Well, then

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Speaker 1: you can have it over there in a very innocent way.

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Speaker 2: And there's no.

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Speaker 3: Doubt that whoever you know you're having this invisible affair with,

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Speaker 3: you know, would.

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Speaker 2: Would not meet your other needs either, do you know

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Speaker 2: what I mean?

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Speaker 3: Like, Carl, I'm going to get this from that shop,

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Speaker 3: and I'm going to get this from that shop.

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Speaker 1: If I found Lisa in conversation with another guy, sharing

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Speaker 1: deep thoughts, maybe a tear, maybe a laugh, yes.

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Speaker 3: But that's because you have that element in your relationship.

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Speaker 3: What if you but I might think that, Okay, what

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Speaker 3: is something? What is something you're not great at or

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Speaker 3: you don't enjoy? Like do you like feedback on outfits or.

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Speaker 2: Cooking?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, cooking, go with cooking.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: So let's say that you're a terrible book and it

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Speaker 3: fills you with misery every time she says, Darling, can

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Speaker 3: you make the ragou tonight? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: And it's just a miss.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. If she's got Damien, a real estate agent from Wallara,

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Speaker 3: popping in to make the ragou and give her tips

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Speaker 3: on the gramulata, you'd be like, thank god.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Maybe I wouldn't want to think that Damien could

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Speaker 1: do something I couldn't.

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Speaker 2: But he's six foot six, just got gorgeous hair.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what.

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Speaker 2: But his land Rover is leased, yes.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and mine is a purchase slash slash Sponsorship's got

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Speaker 1: a seventeen foot yacht and so he's definitely going to

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Speaker 1: be catching up with her a little bit more. I mean,

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Speaker 1: but you know what she needs, Lisa. I think Lisa

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Speaker 1: would be nervous now that I think I spoke about

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Speaker 1: this last week that I've started Pilarates. Guys, I'm off

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Speaker 1: to Peaches again today at the midday class at Peaches.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, what's peaches?

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Speaker 1: It's a Pilartis studio. Yes, it's a Pillarates studio. And

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Speaker 1: it wasn't reformer just on the mat. Is that sort

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Speaker 1: of the peaches because that's the sort of the shape

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Speaker 1: of the gluteus maximus. Is that what they're going with.

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Speaker 1: I didn't ask about whether they're it was named after them.

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Speaker 3: Bum, you're getting your peaches all juicy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they come in a can. They were put there

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Speaker 1: by a man. But I'm I'm the only guy in

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Speaker 1: the class, and I think Lisa would feel threatened. There's

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Speaker 1: a lot of attractive women in there, and I would

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Speaker 1: think they are. They are perving on me.

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Speaker 2: I haven't spoken to her, but I reckon She's.

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Speaker 1: Well, you don't know, you're jumping the gun. You don't

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