1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,600 Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gaddigle Land Always was, always 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:12,320 Speaker 1: will be Aboriginal Land. Hey Chicks, I'm out and I'm 3 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: so and this is Two Boat Chicks, the show that 4 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 1: shares life lessons and tips to help make you rich 5 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:20,920 Speaker 1: in life and happy Happy New Year Chickies. Twenty twenty 6 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:24,079 Speaker 1: six for the Chicks. Let the new track I Know, 7 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: how are we feeling? 8 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 2: Did everyone had a good New ys? Everyone had a 9 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 2: good New Year's Wow? 10 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:34,920 Speaker 1: Well, a little rusty on the tools a couple of 11 00:00:37,120 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: I didn't even do that right. Yeah, but it's good 12 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:39,640 Speaker 1: to be back. 13 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 3: We've missed you, chicks, We've missed being behind the mix 14 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:45,520 Speaker 3: and we're excited for another big year of two Broa Chicks. 15 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:47,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, we've heard your requests of where are the new 16 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: episodes coming out? 17 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 2: And were he So we're getting back into our. 18 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: First episode of the year, which we did a similar 19 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 1: structure or format last year and New Chicks loved it. 20 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:01,880 Speaker 1: So we're going to be sharing our cheat codes to 21 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 1: have your best year ever. 22 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 3: Twenty twenty six for the Chicks. 23 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:08,360 Speaker 2: Let's go. 24 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: But before we get into the episode, of course, we 25 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:15,480 Speaker 1: have to discuss our obsession of the week, So sour what. 26 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:16,039 Speaker 2: Do you have for me? 27 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 3: My obsession of the week is actually an Instagram account 28 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 3: that you shared with me, al and it's. 29 00:01:21,680 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 2: Called hot Girl Walk God. 30 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. 31 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, And this chick puts together curated playlists that you 32 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 3: can listen to when you're on the treadmill. 33 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:34,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like a treadmill workout. Yeah, it's so good. 34 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:35,720 Speaker 1: So she has different themed ones. 35 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 3: So Alex sent me the Britney Spears one naturally, but 36 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 3: she has like Zy Larson, Taylor Swift, all the pop divas. 37 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 1: She has also like Wicked. Yeah, like so many different things. 38 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 2: Greatest Showmen? What else is going to get you inspired 39 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 2: for your workout? 40 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, the Greatest Showman soundtrack. If you want to 41 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 1: become health and wealth, just fucking go for a round 42 00:01:57,200 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: listening to that. 43 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, you don't even need playlist. 44 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 2: But hey, it's you. It's you. It's you. 45 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: But yeah. 46 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 3: In her post that she does on Instagram, she you know, 47 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 3: will have the list of the songs, and then she 48 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:14,079 Speaker 3: also has the incline and then also the kilometers per 49 00:02:14,160 --> 00:02:16,240 Speaker 3: hour that you put it on, which I feel like 50 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:18,239 Speaker 3: really mixes it up because sometimes when I go on 51 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 3: the treadmill at the gym. 52 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: It can be like really boring, or I don't really 53 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:23,639 Speaker 1: know what I'm doing, or I end up just being 54 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,839 Speaker 1: lazy and doing the same thing, or I like set 55 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: it too high and then I go, well, this is 56 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:31,520 Speaker 1: too hard, I don't want to do it anymore exactly. 57 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:35,639 Speaker 2: And then it's like two minutes relatable. Yeah, so that's 58 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 2: my wreck. Oh I like that. 59 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: What's yours? Okay? My obsession has like multiple facets to it. 60 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 1: My obsession of the wheat is Mecca Okay. Yeah, I 61 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 1: feel like we could not record this episode and not 62 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,519 Speaker 1: discuss the multiple headlines that Mecca has at the moment, 63 00:02:54,600 --> 00:02:56,560 Speaker 1: Like it's not just one, there's lots. 64 00:02:57,080 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 2: So to start with, probably the. 65 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: Simplest one, has ended its seventeen year partnership with Maya. 66 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:06,560 Speaker 1: So if you are unaware, Mecca would have like mini 67 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 1: stores within a lot of Maya stores that you could 68 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: shop Mecha products within Maya, Like there was one in 69 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 1: the Sydney CBD, and I'm sure there's ones in a 70 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:19,080 Speaker 1: lot of those other larger Maya stores within like head 71 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: cities like Melbourne and brisbanam Memmong. 72 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:23,239 Speaker 2: And yeah, so they've ended that partnership. 73 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: The second headline, which we've just seen come in this 74 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: morning of recording, is that Road is officially coming to Mecca. 75 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: Hailey Beaber's skincare brand will be coming to Mecca on. 76 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 2: The twelfth of February, but not all of it. 77 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:40,880 Speaker 1: So Mecha have stated the world of Road is on 78 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 1: the way. We're so happy to announce that our lineup 79 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: of curated everyday essentials is coming to Australia and New 80 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: Zealand very soon. They've also stated that fans will also 81 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: be able to shop the complete collection from Rhodeskin dot 82 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: com as of February twelve, six am Australian Eastern Daylight 83 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: Savings TARFE. So it's not clear what we're actually getting. 84 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: My interpretation of that is that we're not getting the 85 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 1: entire collection. 86 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 2: Is yours the same? 87 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:11,560 Speaker 1: Yeah? When I initially read it, that's what I thought. 88 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 3: Because the use of the word curated, I was like, Oh, okay, 89 00:04:14,920 --> 00:04:17,559 Speaker 3: so maybe they're just going to be stocking the best 90 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:21,200 Speaker 3: sellers or some of their really sought after cult products 91 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 3: at Mecca. 92 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 2: But then I was like, or are they. 93 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 1: Using curated as a descriptor for their products? So I'll 94 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: be very interested to see and I'll also be very 95 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:33,360 Speaker 1: interested to see regardless what the stock levels are going 96 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:36,600 Speaker 1: to be like at Mecca, because we've seen that when 97 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: Road dropped at Sephora overseas, it's sold out very very quickly. 98 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 1: So I'm wondering how much stock they're going to get 99 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: and if they'll be able to keep up with the 100 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:48,599 Speaker 1: demand in the Mecca stores. Well. The other thing that 101 00:04:48,680 --> 00:04:51,479 Speaker 1: I was wondering is how it's going to roll out 102 00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: in terms of beauty loop, because I think there's been 103 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 1: a lot of feedback over the last couple of months 104 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 1: about those who spend more at Mecca. You know, they're 105 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:00,160 Speaker 1: in higher. 106 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 2: Beauty loops of Beauty Loot Level four or Magic Circle buckles. 107 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:07,760 Speaker 1: They get access to things first. They get access to 108 00:05:07,839 --> 00:05:10,160 Speaker 1: you know, the boxing day sales first, which we'll get 109 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:14,159 Speaker 1: into that, and then they get access to new brand 110 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: drops like when a Flur I'm saying that bright Flur, 111 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 1: the Fragrance brand, the Fragrance brand, they got first access 112 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: to that first as well. So I wonder and potentially 113 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:30,760 Speaker 1: if I had a little Crystal Ball for c I 114 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:32,880 Speaker 1: hope that they'll ensure that if they do that, there 115 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: is enough stock for those who are interested in shopping 116 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 1: the brand regardless of whether or not they could afford 117 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 1: to spend thousands and thousands of dollars at the store. 118 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 1: But at the end of the day you will still 119 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: be able to shop it from road directly. And the 120 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: reason why this is for those who don't know. When 121 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:54,280 Speaker 1: brands launch into Mecca, a lot of the brands have 122 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:58,600 Speaker 1: exclusivity contracts, so the brands actually can't sell to Australia, 123 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 1: they can only sell through. It's different with different brands like, 124 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: for example, Frank Body, they're stocked at a lot of 125 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 1: brands they're not exclusive to Mecca. But for previously hour 126 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 1: Glass you could only shop our glass through Mecca. They've 127 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:13,359 Speaker 1: now left Mecca. 128 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:13,960 Speaker 2: But yeah, I know. 129 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: There's also been a couple of questions about the pricing 130 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 1: in sales, yes, which moves me to my third obsession 131 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 1: speaking of it in this story, what the fuck was 132 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 1: going on with the mecha Boxing Day tale? 133 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm scoured. This is alleged. 134 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: This hasn't happened to Salary personally. This is just what 135 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:38,280 Speaker 1: we've seen on the interwebs and from first hand dms 136 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: from people and videos and also brand statements. So we 137 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 1: did not shop the Boxing Day sale. We did not 138 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: receive any products that were less than the quality that 139 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:50,359 Speaker 1: we're expecting, so I really want to preface with that. 140 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: So basically, Mecca is receiving quite a fair amount of 141 00:06:54,000 --> 00:07:00,120 Speaker 1: backlash on TikTok and Instagram because a lot of the 142 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,799 Speaker 1: products that people have bought during the boxing day sales 143 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 1: have been a lower quality than what people are expecting. 144 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: And by that, I mean people have received products with mold, 145 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: they've received products with bugs. We had one chick send 146 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: us a DM that she had ants and like larvae 147 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: in her product that she received, and also expired products. 148 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: And the way that people have gone about checking this 149 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 1: is by looking at the batch codes. So on your 150 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 1: beauty products, you get like a serial number, and that 151 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:37,960 Speaker 1: is the batch code of when the product was made. 152 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:40,840 Speaker 1: It's important to note that there is not a way 153 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: to completely and one hundred percent accurately check a batch 154 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: code unless you go directly to the brand. 155 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 2: But that's what some people have done. 156 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 1: So some people have gone to the brands, such as 157 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 1: Laura Mercier and asked when the product was made, and 158 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: the Laura Mercier has come back and said that product 159 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: is expired. Go to Mecca and get a refund. So 160 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: I think absolutely a valid kind of argument that's happened 161 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:08,200 Speaker 1: is like, you can't pull batch codes from third party 162 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:10,440 Speaker 1: sites because they're not a brand, and you can't pull 163 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: that data that's not readily available. 164 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:13,119 Speaker 2: And I think that's a fair point. 165 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, to be honest, However, I think the fact that 166 00:08:16,920 --> 00:08:19,800 Speaker 1: people have gone to brands directly said when was this 167 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 1: made and they're finding products that are over four years old, 168 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: five years old and potentially upwards of that is pretty wild. Also, 169 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 1: if you look online, it does recommend that the shelf 170 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 1: life of an unopened product is three years. Okay, So 171 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:43,080 Speaker 1: that's where this discrepancy is happening and where people are 172 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:46,040 Speaker 1: getting annoyed. And I'm kind of like, fair enough when 173 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:49,920 Speaker 1: it's a brand that notoriously never does sales and you 174 00:08:50,040 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 1: hype up this thing and people get. 175 00:08:51,360 --> 00:08:52,319 Speaker 2: So excited for it. 176 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, and you know what, that's not something that I 177 00:08:57,440 --> 00:09:01,560 Speaker 3: would have expected from Mecca. Definitely, they can understand people's 178 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:04,840 Speaker 3: frustrations because every time we cover a sale event, we 179 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,079 Speaker 3: do the cheat sheet, we get lots of dms and 180 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:08,840 Speaker 3: people asking is Mecha doing a sale? 181 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 1: Is Mecha doing a sale? 182 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:13,160 Speaker 3: And people wait all year for their Boxing Day sale, 183 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:16,720 Speaker 3: which really is their one sale of the year. It's like, 184 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:21,880 Speaker 3: isn't anything particularly amazing, but still or competitive, I would say, 185 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:25,400 Speaker 3: but people are still excited because they're loyal to Mecha, 186 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:30,520 Speaker 3: and I think it's just a really bad look and like, 187 00:09:30,600 --> 00:09:34,560 Speaker 3: I'm actually really surprised that they've gone with that strategy, 188 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 3: knowing that they have been under the microscope for not 189 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 3: offering many sales and also, you know, some of the 190 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 3: critiques that they've been under fire for, like the beauty 191 00:09:42,840 --> 00:09:44,080 Speaker 3: loose so on TikTok. 192 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:47,240 Speaker 1: Someone commented on the Mecha TikTok saying, Hey, you guys 193 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: going to address the thousands of customers receiving stock that's 194 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 1: expired from old batches, to which Mecha responded, we review 195 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 1: all products before sale to meet our quality and freshness standards. 196 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 1: For any questions, email our custom care team at Hello Twitch. 197 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: Then someone's replied from a customer care team from Westman Attilie, 198 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 1: to which they confirmed that a petal addition was produced 199 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 1: in September twenty twenty two and the shelf life is 200 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:17,440 Speaker 1: thirty six months unopened. 201 00:10:17,760 --> 00:10:23,440 Speaker 2: It's expired. Yeah, there's no response to that, so I 202 00:10:23,480 --> 00:10:25,600 Speaker 2: think it's a little bit disappointing. I think it's fair 203 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:26,960 Speaker 2: enough that people are disappointed. 204 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, I do really feel for the staff that are 205 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 1: working in stores. 206 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 2: That's what I was just thinking too, are. 207 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: Probably copying it and the customers a decision that was 208 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 1: made from a lot higher of a level. And there's 209 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 1: these poor angels working in store and people are coming 210 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:47,719 Speaker 1: in being like the FuG Yeah, and it's not their 211 00:10:47,760 --> 00:10:50,560 Speaker 1: fault at all. So if you do have a return, 212 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:52,280 Speaker 1: and if you are going in store. 213 00:10:53,559 --> 00:10:54,680 Speaker 2: Bigconto the girlies. 214 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:57,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, sure everyone is, but I do feel for them 215 00:10:57,559 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: because they would be like, for fuck's sake. 216 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:03,959 Speaker 3: Yeah, And like I know, it is really frustrating and 217 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 3: like understandably so you're spending your hard earned money on 218 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 3: something and not getting the quality that you expect. But 219 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 3: even when you are making a complaint and it's valid, 220 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 3: you always catch more flies with honey than with vinegar, 221 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 3: so they're probably more likely to help you out. 222 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, and if you're confused, go on the h tripleC website. 223 00:11:22,160 --> 00:11:24,840 Speaker 1: It's all very straightforward on there, and they can also 224 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:28,200 Speaker 1: help you with writing any emails that you need to. Yeah, 225 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 1: good shot, damn your seat. I'm excited for road though, 226 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:34,559 Speaker 1: I'm excited for road. I'm excited to try it. I've 227 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 1: never tried it. Maybe I'll be beautiful, I know, maybe 228 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 1: I'll be helly Biber. You had that like sailor moon moment. Oh, 229 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: I come out and a halle beba. 230 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:46,080 Speaker 2: Lave for that saying you're going to kick off with 231 00:11:46,320 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 2: our word of the year. We did this last year. 232 00:11:49,760 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 2: I really enjoyed it. Do you remember what yours was? 233 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 1: Do you? Yeah? 234 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 2: What mine was? Yours? Joy wasn't it? What was it? 235 00:11:57,720 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: It was less? That's right, it's all coming back. It's 236 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:07,319 Speaker 1: a comember. 237 00:12:07,640 --> 00:12:08,120 Speaker 2: How'd that go? 238 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: Yeah? Good roller types. 239 00:12:13,160 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 3: I think my word of the year last year was consistency. Yeah, 240 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 3: which again I think I think you nailed it. 241 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 1: I think so. 242 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 2: I think crushed it. 243 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:25,320 Speaker 1: Probably had, you know a few moments where we fell off. 244 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 2: No no, no, no no, no, I am not was. 245 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: I am so proud of you because like last year 246 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: you said you want to start drunk journaling, and you 247 00:12:36,559 --> 00:12:39,560 Speaker 1: like have never necessarily like we fucking love a hobby. 248 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:41,680 Speaker 1: We love like a dope meine hit of like a 249 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 1: new bing bong. Yeah right, And I was so proud 250 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: of how much you like stuck to it. 251 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 2: And really just leant in and enjoyed it. 252 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 1: Because you do so much for other people, that's just 253 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:57,439 Speaker 1: like in your nature, and for you to just do 254 00:12:57,520 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 1: something that was like for yourself and so fun and 255 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 1: I just thought it was the best and also so 256 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 1: consistent with like your strength and your health. 257 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:09,360 Speaker 2: I feel like you nailed it. 258 00:13:09,559 --> 00:13:13,800 Speaker 1: Ah, thank you. Also your meal prep like you crushed it. 259 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:14,560 Speaker 2: Oh, thank you. 260 00:13:14,679 --> 00:13:17,840 Speaker 1: I appreciate it. The meal preps, They've been mighty delicious, 261 00:13:17,880 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 1: having teas instead of like, why am I like your 262 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 1: FBI agent. 263 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:24,840 Speaker 2: That's everything that you're doing. I need to calm down. 264 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:26,920 Speaker 1: You have actually done a progress. I'm like, this is 265 00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 1: actually your performance reviews. Sally, thank you for joining us today. 266 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:33,640 Speaker 3: But I do think that choosing a word of the 267 00:13:33,720 --> 00:13:37,959 Speaker 3: Year is a really good way to harness or anchor 268 00:13:38,520 --> 00:13:41,640 Speaker 3: your goals to something that you want more of in 269 00:13:41,679 --> 00:13:44,839 Speaker 3: your life. Yeah, because a lot of us map out 270 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:48,880 Speaker 3: our goals or our resolutions based on maybe expectations or 271 00:13:48,880 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 3: things that we think that we should be doing. But 272 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:55,719 Speaker 3: I do think that the word helped me at least 273 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:57,360 Speaker 3: shape some of those goals to do things that. 274 00:13:57,360 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 2: I actually want to do. 275 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:02,959 Speaker 1: I feel very differently about New Year's resolutions this year, 276 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:04,760 Speaker 1: and I think as well, if you would listen to 277 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:08,079 Speaker 1: like maybe an episode three years ago, I've always been 278 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:11,200 Speaker 1: like a fucking love news revolutions. I love the best 279 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:13,800 Speaker 1: of January and the like I'm drinking that goolo bitch 280 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 1: like I love it right, Whereas this year I feel 281 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: quite differently about it, and I don't actually feel like 282 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 1: I have a word of the year this year. I 283 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 1: have a mantra Okay, hit me okay, celebration of the 284 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: rules already. 285 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 2: That's okay. 286 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 3: I think mine is more of a phrase than a 287 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:32,000 Speaker 3: one yea yeah, yeah, okay. 288 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 2: Phrase of the year. 289 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:37,880 Speaker 1: Let's go rebrand, rebrand. So my mantra for twenty twenty 290 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 1: six is life happens from you, not to you. And 291 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 1: we have referenced this as a quote on the show before, 292 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: but this really has been something that I've already been 293 00:14:50,800 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: leaning on this year over the break, like there was just, 294 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:57,680 Speaker 1: you know, the perfect storm, and it just is one 295 00:14:57,720 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 1: of those things. And I'm not complaining because at the 296 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:02,640 Speaker 1: end of the day, shit happens, right, yeap. But it 297 00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:06,840 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, calm down, like stop it, everyone, 298 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:11,000 Speaker 1: come stop. My cat got fucking pneumonia in summer, which 299 00:15:11,160 --> 00:15:14,800 Speaker 1: like cool, get petiturance, everyone that's on your homework, but 300 00:15:14,960 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 1: just shit like that that. It was like, at the 301 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 1: end of the day, still so grateful, had my health, 302 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 1: had my friendships, had my family, have my partner, my 303 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:24,760 Speaker 1: cat's Okay, it's fair enough to have those moments where 304 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:26,680 Speaker 1: you're like, this is not ideal, like this sucked, Like 305 00:15:26,680 --> 00:15:28,720 Speaker 1: we didn't get to go on our camping trip that 306 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:29,640 Speaker 1: we wanted to go on. 307 00:15:30,240 --> 00:15:32,920 Speaker 2: We had like eighteen thousand dollars worth. 308 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:38,040 Speaker 1: Of vet bills peturance, And in that moment, I was like, Oh, 309 00:15:38,520 --> 00:15:39,960 Speaker 1: life happens from you, not to you. 310 00:15:40,400 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 2: And I'm such a reactive person right that it's so. 311 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:45,840 Speaker 1: Easy to be like why is this happening to me? 312 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:48,680 Speaker 1: Is this so annoying? I'm so annoying, I'm so sad, 313 00:15:48,720 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 1: And yeah, you do have to sit in those moments. 314 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 1: But I think for me, this mantra is like a Okay, 315 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:55,440 Speaker 1: this is happening. 316 00:15:56,320 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 2: Maybe I can't. 317 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 1: Control that, but I can control what I do with that, 318 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:01,440 Speaker 1: and like how I why navigate this and maybe what 319 00:16:01,480 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: I do next time? Creating situations where I feel like 320 00:16:07,120 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 1: empowered or I'm enjoying myself like if I'm feeling a 321 00:16:12,560 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: bit you know, when you feel like a bit of 322 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:17,240 Speaker 1: a sandbag, and you're like, oh, yeah, you know, I 323 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: got to make something else happen. Life happens from you, 324 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:21,760 Speaker 1: not to you. And I also need to be conscious 325 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:23,280 Speaker 1: of making sure this doesn't mean I'm like. 326 00:16:23,240 --> 00:16:25,040 Speaker 2: I'm going to do a million fucking things. Yeah, so 327 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 2: I'm going to hack my entire life, blah blah blah blah. 328 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:28,680 Speaker 2: It's not like that. 329 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:32,280 Speaker 1: It's more like I get to create the universe that 330 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 1: surround me, and that is a clean space at home 331 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:39,640 Speaker 1: and doing my fucking washing, and like, how do my 332 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:43,320 Speaker 1: actions reflect in the universe that I'm creating. It's a 333 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:45,440 Speaker 1: very good perspective to have. 334 00:16:45,680 --> 00:16:49,640 Speaker 3: And again, like something that can be linked to so 335 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 3: many different goals or projects or speed bumps or fuck 336 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:58,360 Speaker 3: ups or whatever will inevitably happen. In twenty twenty six, 337 00:16:59,040 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 3: my word or phrase or mantra. 338 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: Of the year, I do think it is more of 339 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:12,880 Speaker 1: an aspirational phrase is peace of mind, because I am 340 00:17:13,160 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 1: a very anxious person, as we all know, and I 341 00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 1: do think that a lot of the time, like the 342 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: spirals that I'm having in my own head, like they 343 00:17:21,560 --> 00:17:24,000 Speaker 1: just they've like my own worst enemy. 344 00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 3: I'm sure a lot of people feel the same way. 345 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:27,800 Speaker 3: So I'm like, what are the different things that I 346 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:31,680 Speaker 3: can do to just make me feel more relaxed, more prepared, 347 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 3: like I'm more on top of things, and just setting 348 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 3: up some of those things in my life. Similar thing 349 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:39,320 Speaker 3: like how you like do your washing, make sure your 350 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:41,679 Speaker 3: face is clean, like stuff like that that I feel 351 00:17:41,680 --> 00:17:45,399 Speaker 3: like will make me feel a little bit more grounded 352 00:17:45,720 --> 00:17:48,480 Speaker 3: and less frazzled. So I was doing a lot of 353 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:51,439 Speaker 3: that sort of stuff during the break, so you know, 354 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 3: like going back through the year and checking, like just 355 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:58,400 Speaker 3: reviewing where some of my money is being going. Unsubscribing 356 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:01,399 Speaker 3: from a bunch of subscriptions, but when I signed up, 357 00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:02,560 Speaker 3: I was using and now I'm not. 358 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:05,040 Speaker 1: I felt like I was in the fucking Godfather's how 359 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:06,400 Speaker 1: I was like. 360 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:09,919 Speaker 2: My family, you don't give me my vote for money, 361 00:18:10,600 --> 00:18:14,400 Speaker 2: your good brother, I am. 362 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:17,399 Speaker 1: Might have been all the Mafia smart books I was 363 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 1: reading as well potentially might have been up there. 364 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:22,160 Speaker 2: Do you know what that makes sense? That makes sense? 365 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:26,639 Speaker 3: Also, like decluttering all the spaces in my apartment that 366 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:28,520 Speaker 3: I just don't have time to and I'm doing my 367 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 3: regular claim stuff like that booking in like the doctor's 368 00:18:31,680 --> 00:18:34,159 Speaker 3: appointments and things that I'm like, I really need to 369 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:36,040 Speaker 3: get on top of that. I think I said that 370 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:38,080 Speaker 3: at the end of last year, Like what are those 371 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 3: things that. 372 00:18:38,520 --> 00:18:40,719 Speaker 1: You're like, fuck, like I really need to do that. 373 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:42,639 Speaker 1: Those are the things that I want to get on 374 00:18:42,680 --> 00:18:47,440 Speaker 1: top of. Yes, how can I prioritize peace of mind? 375 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:50,160 Speaker 1: You know how they say how you spend New Year's 376 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:53,360 Speaker 1: is how you're going to spend the year. So this 377 00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 1: year for New Years, there are a few things that 378 00:18:56,119 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: you know, I could have done. I could have gone 379 00:18:57,640 --> 00:19:00,560 Speaker 1: to but I was like, instead, I'm going to stay in, 380 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:05,240 Speaker 1: took a sleeping tablet at like ten o'clock, I'd gone 381 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:07,280 Speaker 1: to the gym, had. 382 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 3: Like a yummy homemade dinner, and clean my sheets and 383 00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:12,560 Speaker 3: made my bed and like did skincare and just like 384 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:16,000 Speaker 3: went to bed at ten thirty. And I was like, 385 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:19,000 Speaker 3: now I'm going to prioritize my peace of mind and 386 00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:21,399 Speaker 3: I know I'm going to feel really good and fresh tomorrow. 387 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:23,439 Speaker 3: That's not everybody's cuff of tea, and it's not what 388 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:24,879 Speaker 3: you have to do every year, but it's just what 389 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:25,800 Speaker 3: I felt like doing. 390 00:19:25,960 --> 00:19:29,680 Speaker 2: I think it's more and more people cup, I think, yeah, 391 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 2: I think more, more and more of us it yeah, yeah, 392 00:19:36,040 --> 00:19:38,600 Speaker 2: all right, shall we get into our cheat codes? All right? 393 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 2: Kick us off sale? 394 00:19:39,840 --> 00:19:40,159 Speaker 1: Okay? 395 00:19:40,480 --> 00:19:44,280 Speaker 3: My first cheat code of twenty twenty six is use 396 00:19:44,359 --> 00:19:45,920 Speaker 3: the fudge ratio. 397 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:47,040 Speaker 1: Have you heard of this? 398 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:47,360 Speaker 2: No? 399 00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 1: But I love fudge? Right? Who fucking doesn't? When setting goals, 400 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 1: a lot of us fall victim to something that is 401 00:19:56,119 --> 00:20:00,199 Speaker 1: called the planning fallacy. And essentially it's because a lot 402 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:04,440 Speaker 1: of us have a bias towards optimism. So when we're planning, 403 00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 1: we're planning based upon the best possible and best case scenarios. Right, 404 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:13,560 Speaker 1: So when we're planning out how much time or energy 405 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:17,639 Speaker 1: or resources you put towards something, you're not really factoring 406 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:19,720 Speaker 1: in the things that could go wrong or things that 407 00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 1: might take longer than what you think. And apparently that 408 00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:25,120 Speaker 1: is a big part of why a lot of us 409 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:28,080 Speaker 1: don't reach our goals or don't reach our resolutions, because 410 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 1: we're essentially not giving ourselves enough slack. 411 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:34,600 Speaker 3: During these planning moments. That's when the fudge ratio comes in. 412 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:39,000 Speaker 3: So if you do struggle to meet your deadlines or 413 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:40,879 Speaker 3: you're like, fuck, like, why don't I ever reach my 414 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 3: goals or things always take me longer than I think. 415 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:46,520 Speaker 3: Here's how you can calculate your own or fudge ratio. 416 00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:49,680 Speaker 3: So let's say that you're planning out. 417 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:51,960 Speaker 1: Like a project for work, for example, how you would 418 00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:56,320 Speaker 1: figure out your fudge ratio is you list out each 419 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:59,640 Speaker 1: of the steps that you need to complete to meet 420 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,639 Speaker 1: your goals or to complete the task right. Then for 421 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 1: each of these you would plan an estimate amount of 422 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:06,120 Speaker 1: time that you. 423 00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:07,160 Speaker 2: Think that it will take. 424 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:11,520 Speaker 1: Then, as you're actually completing each of those steps, track 425 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:16,080 Speaker 1: down how much time it actually takes and see if 426 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:19,199 Speaker 1: there's a difference between how much you predicted and how 427 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:22,280 Speaker 1: much time it actually took, because sometimes it might take 428 00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:24,280 Speaker 1: longer or it might have might take less. 429 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:27,000 Speaker 2: Then you add up all of. 430 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,560 Speaker 3: The estimates how long you thought it was going to take, 431 00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:34,480 Speaker 3: and then you add up all the time it actually talk. 432 00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:39,600 Speaker 3: Then divide the total actual time by the estimated time 433 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:44,280 Speaker 3: to calculate your fudge ratio. So let's say that you 434 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:47,439 Speaker 3: thought it was going to take you sixty minutes to 435 00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 3: complete a task and it actually took you ninety minutes 436 00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:55,400 Speaker 3: to complete the task. That means that you are underestimating 437 00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:59,480 Speaker 3: your time by fifty percent. And apparently if you do 438 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 3: this a cross multiple tasks, a lot of people identify 439 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:08,720 Speaker 3: a pattern where they'll say that very commonly they underestimate 440 00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:10,520 Speaker 3: how much time it's going to take them to complete 441 00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:13,199 Speaker 3: different tasks. And then that way, you know, Okay, if 442 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,159 Speaker 3: I'm sitting down and I sort of estimate, oh, this 443 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,399 Speaker 3: is going to take me two hours to do based 444 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:22,880 Speaker 3: on previous data, I'm probably gonna need an extra hour 445 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 3: on top of that because I know that I typically 446 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:27,200 Speaker 3: underestimate how much time that. 447 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,199 Speaker 1: I need by fifty percent. 448 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:29,720 Speaker 2: Yeah. 449 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,560 Speaker 1: I do also think that breaking down each step that 450 00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:36,439 Speaker 1: it takes, you could potentially find like different steps in 451 00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 1: the process that a time leaks for you. Like maybe 452 00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:41,080 Speaker 1: there's a step in the process that's taking you longer 453 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,399 Speaker 1: because you're not doing it as efficiently as you could, 454 00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:46,400 Speaker 1: or isn't required, or like is a real time suck 455 00:22:46,480 --> 00:22:48,040 Speaker 1: that you didn't really think about. 456 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,160 Speaker 2: So, if you were planning your New Year's resolutions. 457 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,960 Speaker 1: This year, right, and it's something that you haven't necessarily 458 00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:58,240 Speaker 1: done before, how would you go into doing that because 459 00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 1: you haven't done it? Yeah, So I think that's the 460 00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,320 Speaker 1: thing you have to start with an estimate. So that's 461 00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 1: why you just kind of have to go off your 462 00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:08,439 Speaker 1: gut instinct, and that's why it's okay for it to 463 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:10,679 Speaker 1: be wrong. Yeah, and it's okay for you to change. 464 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 1: I guess it's more of. 465 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:14,800 Speaker 2: A checking in, like at the end of the like 466 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:15,719 Speaker 2: at the end of January. 467 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:17,000 Speaker 1: If you're like, Okay, I thought it was going to 468 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 1: take this long, but my fudge says this exactly. Yeah, 469 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,520 Speaker 1: my first sheet you go to twenty twenty six. Stop 470 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:24,080 Speaker 1: buying the sheet. 471 00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:27,080 Speaker 2: You don't need this. Hurt my own feelings. 472 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:33,199 Speaker 1: Yep. I know that this is so obvious, but the 473 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:36,159 Speaker 1: way that I'm going to put it into perspective for 474 00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 1: you is going to break your mind. You're going to 475 00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:39,480 Speaker 1: blow your mind. 476 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:40,879 Speaker 2: If you're twenty twenty five. 477 00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:45,800 Speaker 1: Wardrobe clean out or declutter ended with multiple bin bags, 478 00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:51,080 Speaker 1: this is for you because each one of those bin 479 00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:55,480 Speaker 1: bags of clothes to donate, all things to throw out, 480 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 1: was money that you've spent. You need to start looking 481 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:03,080 Speaker 1: at your declutters and your wardrobe donations and all of 482 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,800 Speaker 1: those things as every single one of those bin bags 483 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,720 Speaker 1: is your money. That's like taking it out of the ATM, 484 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:12,520 Speaker 1: put it in the bin and check it out. 485 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:17,639 Speaker 2: Hurt my feelings. Yeah, hurt my feelings. So welcome to 486 00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:22,200 Speaker 2: the bin bag theory. Love it exactly. 487 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: The volume of what you did clutter is a direct 488 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:30,720 Speaker 1: measurement of your impulse spending tax. According to r MIT's 489 00:24:30,800 --> 00:24:35,120 Speaker 1: twenty twenty four consumer behavior research, Australians discard an average 490 00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 1: of twenty three kilograms of clothing per person annually AH, 491 00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:44,000 Speaker 1: with most items being worn fewer than seven times before disposal. 492 00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:47,920 Speaker 1: So not only is that financial self sabotage, but it's 493 00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:53,560 Speaker 1: incredibly unsustainable. And A and z's Financial Wellbeing survey found 494 00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:58,040 Speaker 1: that fifty percent of young Australians report financial stress linked 495 00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:03,119 Speaker 1: to discretionary spending, including fashion and lifestyle first purchases. So 496 00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:06,520 Speaker 1: we're like, I'm stressed about money, but here's my bin 497 00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,320 Speaker 1: bags of shit that I didn't need to buy, and 498 00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:10,680 Speaker 1: I don't have anywhere to put. 499 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:11,600 Speaker 2: It, and I don't want it. 500 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,840 Speaker 1: But I think it is a direct translation and wake 501 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:18,639 Speaker 1: up call to how we spend money and how to 502 00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:21,119 Speaker 1: spend money in twenty twenty six. So I think to 503 00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:26,000 Speaker 1: make your broke Chick twenty twenty six manifesto right is 504 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:34,920 Speaker 1: one fewer better intentional buys two Quality over quantity always three, 505 00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:39,200 Speaker 1: sales are strategy, not permission to lose your mind. 506 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:42,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, heavy on that one. 507 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 1: And then four is wardrobe value over wardrobe volume. I 508 00:25:48,560 --> 00:25:50,639 Speaker 1: think in twenty twenty six, the real flex isn't like 509 00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:53,439 Speaker 1: a packed fashion wardrobe like we've seen on Hannah Montana 510 00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:54,160 Speaker 1: on Clueless. 511 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,080 Speaker 2: I know, but yeah, we get it. But it's a 512 00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,800 Speaker 2: smart one. So learning things like. 513 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:04,720 Speaker 1: Fabrics work well in Australian weather, for example, how to 514 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:08,960 Speaker 1: spot fake discounts during sale events, or how to build 515 00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 1: a wardrobe that actually holds value and doesn't fall apart 516 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:14,640 Speaker 1: after one wash. Also how to take care of your clothes. 517 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 1: So the tailoring your clothes, that's something that I. 518 00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:20,040 Speaker 2: Want to do more. 519 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:21,760 Speaker 1: Maddie's going to come over and teach me how to 520 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,960 Speaker 1: use a sewing machine. Love that, Yeah, Maddie McCrae. 521 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:28,399 Speaker 2: Shout out, Mattie McRae. Or just take them to a 522 00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:29,960 Speaker 2: tailor if you don't want buy a sewing machine, because 523 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:31,439 Speaker 2: that's the other thing that I'm also thinking of. 524 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:32,879 Speaker 1: Am I going to spend the money on a sewing 525 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,520 Speaker 1: machine and be like, oh, I can't be bothered? Yeah, 526 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 1: So it's like okay, maybe not like when you also 527 00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:42,960 Speaker 1: manually track your expenses, which is something that I've started 528 00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:46,879 Speaker 1: doing and like physically putting the number into a spreadsheet 529 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:50,600 Speaker 1: every single time. You're like and then also when you 530 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,560 Speaker 1: do your budget, you won't feel bad. You'll have that 531 00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: spending allocated that it's like, Okay, do you know what 532 00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:58,520 Speaker 1: I do want to buy this one thing and it's 533 00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:00,480 Speaker 1: a bit expensive, and I want to buy this other thing, 534 00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:04,120 Speaker 1: But you can buy the other thing in a couple 535 00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,240 Speaker 1: of weeks when you have it in your budget and 536 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,440 Speaker 1: you know you want it, and not buying things because 537 00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:10,680 Speaker 1: you've just seen it on Pinterest. We've just seen it 538 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:14,120 Speaker 1: pop up on your TikTok. I promise it feels really good. 539 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:19,520 Speaker 1: It gets like addictive and no more bin bags, no 540 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 1: more bin bags. Yeah, it's really good to you know, 541 00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:25,959 Speaker 1: donate your clothes and sell them on deepop and deck clutter. 542 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:28,480 Speaker 2: I completely understand that that's you know. 543 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:32,040 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that's like the worst thing in the world, 544 00:27:32,119 --> 00:27:35,160 Speaker 1: but I think you know, that number from that survey 545 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:40,720 Speaker 1: is obviously incredibly high and one needs to be brought 546 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,000 Speaker 1: down for not only a wallet but the planet. 547 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my cheat code. 548 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 1: No, that's a very very solid one. 549 00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:51,199 Speaker 2: I back it that can be like our goal for 550 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 2: no bin bag the end of the year. 551 00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:57,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, significantly. It might mean that you have to do 552 00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:01,720 Speaker 1: like a practic one to start, and I do really 553 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:07,199 Speaker 1: recommend trying to donate or sell or like rehome or 554 00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,080 Speaker 1: upcycle what you do have. 555 00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 2: I'm not saying just go to the red bin and 556 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 2: be like babee, but. 557 00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:15,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, theme your week. 558 00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 2: Oh we love this. 559 00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:21,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, So credit to Arissa Bua on TikTok for 560 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:23,520 Speaker 3: this one. I'll put a link in the show notes, 561 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:27,320 Speaker 3: but assign a theme to each day of the week, 562 00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,160 Speaker 3: and this will help you remain more intentional. 563 00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:32,679 Speaker 2: Throughout the year and fucking eating this. I know. 564 00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:34,960 Speaker 1: I saw this and I was like, like, this is yes, 565 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,159 Speaker 1: this is a bit of Alex. Yeah, it's a bite. 566 00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 3: It's definitely So you can obviously customize this to suit 567 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 3: your interests, your schedule, your needs, YadA, YadA, YadA. But 568 00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:48,400 Speaker 3: here is how Arissa structures every single day of the 569 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:52,080 Speaker 3: week to be more intentional. In twenty twenty six, meal Mondays. 570 00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:56,240 Speaker 3: Every single Monday, she makes a new recipe, She lights 571 00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 3: a candle, she puts on a beautiful playlist, and makes 572 00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:03,480 Speaker 3: a delicious meal that she's never made before tidy Tuesdays, 573 00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:07,920 Speaker 3: she does house admin washes the sheets, clothes, or does 574 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 3: a house project like tidying her jewelry box or organizing 575 00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:15,000 Speaker 3: the junk draw those little things that you often forget about. 576 00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,960 Speaker 3: You'll like this one with someone Wednesdays. 577 00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:18,960 Speaker 1: I do like this. 578 00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,840 Speaker 3: Plan a date with a friend, do a group workout class, 579 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,880 Speaker 3: or go to a public space where there are just 580 00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:31,520 Speaker 3: other people around trivia bingo, pub feed to the library, 581 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:33,800 Speaker 3: a coffee shop. Even if, like all your friends are 582 00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,200 Speaker 3: busy during the week, just go out and like be 583 00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:39,360 Speaker 3: around other people could be a good opportunity to make 584 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:43,920 Speaker 3: new friends that girl. Thursdays, wear a cute outfit that 585 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 3: makes you feel confident and put a little bit of 586 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,840 Speaker 3: extra effort into your hair or your makeup to have 587 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:56,480 Speaker 3: that that girl energy. And then future life Fridays, spend 588 00:29:56,600 --> 00:30:00,640 Speaker 3: intentional time learning something that takes care of your future yourself. 589 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:04,320 Speaker 3: So this could be working on your budget, or listening 590 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:07,480 Speaker 3: to an educational podcast or a book where you're going 591 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,480 Speaker 3: to learn something, or watching a documentary. 592 00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:14,160 Speaker 1: But I love that she uses a literation Oh my god, 593 00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,080 Speaker 1: yeah in because like I said. 594 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:19,680 Speaker 3: You obviously can customize it to whatever you want to 595 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,959 Speaker 3: do with your week. But I'm a basic bitch, and 596 00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 3: I feel like using alliteration or having fun titles for 597 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,120 Speaker 3: this it really scratches something in your brain and it's 598 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,800 Speaker 3: going to help you remember it. It's kind of like 599 00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:35,800 Speaker 3: cheap Tuesday, Mad Monday, Like it's the sort of shit 600 00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:38,760 Speaker 3: that you are going to remember and every Monday you're 601 00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:40,640 Speaker 3: going to be like, Yeah, cool, it's my meal Monday. 602 00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:43,000 Speaker 3: What exciting recipe am I going to be making this week? 603 00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,160 Speaker 3: I just think that that's such an easy cheat code 604 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:49,640 Speaker 3: to live more intentionally beyond January, beyond the beginning of 605 00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 3: the year, and also add some excitement but also some 606 00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 3: routine to the week that is a little bit more 607 00:30:57,680 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 3: fun and whimsical. 608 00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,800 Speaker 1: I feel like you would love this. Have you seen 609 00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,720 Speaker 1: the TikTok? I can't remember the creator that started it, 610 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:06,000 Speaker 1: but I'll find out. I'll put in the show not 611 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:10,520 Speaker 1: three hundred and sixty five buttons. Oh my god. 612 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 3: It actually doesn't have to make sense to anyone but me, 613 00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:20,400 Speaker 3: so I don't have to explain myself whatever I paraphrase, 614 00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:21,160 Speaker 3: I paraphrase. 615 00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:22,160 Speaker 2: God. I love that. 616 00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:25,880 Speaker 1: So for those who don't know and didn't just have 617 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:27,040 Speaker 1: an orgasm. 618 00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:28,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, if you're not chronically online. 619 00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:32,720 Speaker 1: Yeah. Literally, So this creator to be more conscious of 620 00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 1: their time and more intentional in their days and kind 621 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:38,400 Speaker 1: of realize, you know, I get one day to enjoy myself. 622 00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 1: Created this like three hundred and sixty five buttons, and 623 00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:43,600 Speaker 1: so she has two jars and she puts three hundred 624 00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:45,640 Speaker 1: and sixty five buttons in one jar, and then she 625 00:31:45,680 --> 00:31:48,720 Speaker 1: has an empty jar, and every day she picks up 626 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 1: one button for that day and puts it in the 627 00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:52,280 Speaker 1: jar to be. 628 00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:54,280 Speaker 2: Like, this button is my day. 629 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:58,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, I get this one button to spend my day 630 00:31:58,240 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 1: however I want to spend it. 631 00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:04,600 Speaker 2: Do I want to spend it stressed or anxious or overwhelmed? 632 00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:09,560 Speaker 1: No? I want this button is fucking button to be 633 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:13,480 Speaker 1: happy and joyful and experience the best that life has 634 00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:17,240 Speaker 1: to offer and be intentional with my time and acknowledge 635 00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,280 Speaker 1: that I get this one day to be alive. I 636 00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,160 Speaker 1: was like, that's so up your alley. But I also 637 00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:25,800 Speaker 1: love all of the content around out people being like, 638 00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,160 Speaker 1: but what are you doing with the button where you're 639 00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,520 Speaker 1: getting the button? Like you're fining a new button every day, 640 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:32,920 Speaker 1: And she was like, I don't have to explain myself. 641 00:32:33,080 --> 00:32:37,160 Speaker 1: I was like I actually love that, even yeah, it psychonic. 642 00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:42,040 Speaker 1: My final cheat code potentially a controversial one, And this 643 00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:45,320 Speaker 1: is what I've kind of been like talking about at 644 00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:47,920 Speaker 1: the start of the episode and where I'm kind of 645 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:50,840 Speaker 1: sitting with news resolutions, and my cheat code is that 646 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:55,520 Speaker 1: news resolutions won't make you happier, healthier, smarter, or richer. 647 00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:59,720 Speaker 1: I was reading a substack from Celeste Davis who has 648 00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:03,200 Speaker 1: an article that's news resolutions won't make you happier, and 649 00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:06,560 Speaker 1: it referenced to nineteen thirty eight Harvard study and the 650 00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:10,280 Speaker 1: study said, what is the most important contributor to human happiness? 651 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:14,000 Speaker 1: They interviewed hundreds of participants from all around the world 652 00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:18,200 Speaker 1: and followed up with them every two years, recording their incomes, 653 00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:23,320 Speaker 1: health records, relationship statuses, air quality, and dozens of other metrics. 654 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:28,360 Speaker 1: Eighty five years later, the same study is still ongoing. 655 00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,000 Speaker 1: And what have they found to be the number one 656 00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:36,760 Speaker 1: most important indicator in predicting someone's life long health and happiness. 657 00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:42,080 Speaker 1: Is it diet, fitness, air quality, wealth, No, it's the 658 00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:46,760 Speaker 1: strength of their relationships. Fuck. So I found this incredibly 659 00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:51,480 Speaker 1: enlightening because when you look at the most popular news resolutions, right, 660 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:56,000 Speaker 1: it's save or make more money, improve fitness, eat healthier, 661 00:33:56,160 --> 00:34:00,080 Speaker 1: potentially lose weight, sleep more. And yes, having goals is 662 00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:03,880 Speaker 1: important and prioritizing your health is also important. Yet the 663 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:09,200 Speaker 1: number one indicator for lifelong health and happiness is strong 664 00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:13,640 Speaker 1: relationships and doesn't make a feature in the top resolutions 665 00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:18,400 Speaker 1: of the year. Yeah, she continues to say, Harvard's longest 666 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:22,400 Speaker 1: longitudinal study says that people who live the best lives, 667 00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:25,440 Speaker 1: the most fulfilled lives, weren't the ones who made the 668 00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,160 Speaker 1: most money. They weren't the ones that stayed the healthiest. 669 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,200 Speaker 1: They weren't the ones that exercised the most. They weren't 670 00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:33,960 Speaker 1: the ones with the best jobs, the greatest social status. 671 00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:37,480 Speaker 1: They were the ones that had a threadline of meaningful 672 00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:41,759 Speaker 1: connection relationally throughout the tapestry of their life. So it 673 00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:43,719 Speaker 1: just made me think about my priorities for the year 674 00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:47,319 Speaker 1: that I was like, do I want to sit here 675 00:34:47,360 --> 00:34:49,960 Speaker 1: and be like I'm going to exercise three times a 676 00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:52,680 Speaker 1: week and I'm going to eat four apples, And I'm 677 00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,799 Speaker 1: like it, you know, like I'm going to drink seven 678 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:57,080 Speaker 1: hundred liters of water. 679 00:34:57,680 --> 00:34:59,200 Speaker 2: Do you know what that would actually probably be less 680 00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:03,400 Speaker 2: than you're actually suppose ye drink that I just was like, 681 00:35:03,560 --> 00:35:07,200 Speaker 2: I don't really care. I don't really care. 682 00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:10,239 Speaker 3: Do you think we're shifting more towards this as a 683 00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,440 Speaker 3: society as well? I think a lot of people are 684 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:18,680 Speaker 3: getting quite overwhelmed by the constant pressure to feel like 685 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,120 Speaker 3: we need to improve and that. 686 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:23,320 Speaker 2: We're all our own little black. 687 00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:25,799 Speaker 3: School projects that we need to work on. And of 688 00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:28,919 Speaker 3: course we want to be the best version of ourselves, 689 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:32,640 Speaker 3: but maybe that does mean putting more of a priority 690 00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:36,239 Speaker 3: on the relationships with people in your life, but also 691 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:36,920 Speaker 3: with yourself. 692 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:40,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. In twenty twenty six, I wanted to also share 693 00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:43,879 Speaker 1: another article I found, which you could say is maybe 694 00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,640 Speaker 1: my third sheet code, And it's an article called the 695 00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:51,120 Speaker 1: Regrets of Dying Oh God. So for many years the 696 00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:55,400 Speaker 1: author worked in palliative care and she says that my 697 00:35:55,480 --> 00:35:58,000 Speaker 1: patients were those who had gone home to die. Some 698 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:01,000 Speaker 1: incredibly special times were shared with them for the last 699 00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:04,720 Speaker 1: three or twelve weeks of their lives. And she's written 700 00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:08,920 Speaker 1: an article. She also has a book, and it's the 701 00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,960 Speaker 1: top five regrets that people had when they were dying. 702 00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:15,840 Speaker 1: Five I wish that I had let myself be happier. 703 00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,760 Speaker 1: This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize 704 00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:22,319 Speaker 1: until the end that happiness is a choice, and that 705 00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:25,319 Speaker 1: they had stuck in old patterns and habits of so 706 00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:28,719 Speaker 1: called comfort, and the fear of change had them pretending 707 00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:33,080 Speaker 1: to others and to themselves that they were content. Number four, 708 00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:35,440 Speaker 1: I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 709 00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:39,200 Speaker 1: Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of 710 00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,560 Speaker 1: old friends until they're dying weeks, and it was not 711 00:36:41,600 --> 00:36:44,560 Speaker 1: always possible to track them down. When you were faced 712 00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:47,640 Speaker 1: with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. 713 00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,600 Speaker 1: People do want to get their financial affairs in order 714 00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:53,480 Speaker 1: if possible, but it's not money or status that holds 715 00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:56,840 Speaker 1: the true importance for them. They want to get things 716 00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,480 Speaker 1: in order more for the benefit of those that they love, 717 00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:02,480 Speaker 1: usually though they are too ill and weary to ever 718 00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:05,160 Speaker 1: manage this task, and it all comes down to love 719 00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:09,480 Speaker 1: and relationships in the end. Number three, I wish I 720 00:37:09,560 --> 00:37:14,680 Speaker 1: had the courage to express my feelings. Number two I 721 00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:19,360 Speaker 1: wish I hadn't worked so hard. By simplifying your lifestyle 722 00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:22,799 Speaker 1: and making conscious choices along the way, it's possible to 723 00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:25,480 Speaker 1: not need the income that you think you do, and 724 00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:28,640 Speaker 1: by creating more space in your life, you become happier 725 00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:32,160 Speaker 1: and more open to new opportunities, ones that suited your 726 00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:37,160 Speaker 1: new lifestyle more. And number one, the number one regret 727 00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:38,800 Speaker 1: that people had when they were dying. 728 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,840 Speaker 2: This is very morbid, but it's very powerful. 729 00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:45,120 Speaker 1: Is I wish I'd had the courage to live a 730 00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:48,719 Speaker 1: life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 731 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:53,919 Speaker 1: And she says this was the most common regret of all. 732 00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:56,719 Speaker 1: When people realize that their life is almost over and 733 00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,480 Speaker 1: look back clearly on it, it's easy to see how 734 00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:03,400 Speaker 1: many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored 735 00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:05,759 Speaker 1: even half of their dreams and had to die knowing 736 00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,239 Speaker 1: that it was due to choices they had made or 737 00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:11,440 Speaker 1: not made. It's very important to try and honor at 738 00:38:11,520 --> 00:38:13,920 Speaker 1: least some of your dreams along the way from the 739 00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:17,120 Speaker 1: moment that you lose your health, it's too late. Health 740 00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:20,240 Speaker 1: brings a freedom very few realize until they no longer 741 00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:26,760 Speaker 1: have it. And I was like, oh my god, yeah, 742 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:32,160 Speaker 1: that like hurt my feelings, but also is so enlightening 743 00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:37,920 Speaker 1: and empowering and like a fucking stick of gratitude dynamite 744 00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:40,440 Speaker 1: up the ass to be like, come on, girl, like 745 00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:44,680 Speaker 1: I've read that, And I went, oh, my god, you 746 00:38:44,800 --> 00:38:47,360 Speaker 1: don't care about half of this shit that I'm supposed 747 00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:50,400 Speaker 1: to fucking care about. Like I'm supposed to care about 748 00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:52,440 Speaker 1: all this crap. 749 00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,799 Speaker 2: That I'm like, I'll just drink a glass of water. 750 00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:57,560 Speaker 1: I don't need to put it on a board, Like 751 00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:01,839 Speaker 1: I don't need to track my progress with Like if 752 00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:03,080 Speaker 1: I want to go for a walk, I'll go for 753 00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:05,360 Speaker 1: a walk because I feel good and it makes me happy, 754 00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:09,040 Speaker 1: but not because I'm supposed to be doing it or 755 00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:09,960 Speaker 1: I should be doing it. 756 00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:11,120 Speaker 2: What do I want to do? 757 00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:13,840 Speaker 1: So last year I shared a cheat code that I 758 00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:16,240 Speaker 1: think I'll be carrying into this year again, but maybe 759 00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:19,240 Speaker 1: a little bit differently. And it's the one hundred hour 760 00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:23,520 Speaker 1: rule or the rule of one hundred and that simply 761 00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:28,200 Speaker 1: eighteen minutes a day of one thing is one hundred 762 00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:32,160 Speaker 1: hours a year, and you'll outperform ninety five percent of 763 00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:35,959 Speaker 1: the world in any skill you choose. So you could 764 00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:38,320 Speaker 1: look at that as like, I want to learn piano, 765 00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:41,240 Speaker 1: and I'm going to do eighteen minutes a day of piano, 766 00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,080 Speaker 1: or I'm going to learn French. But my goal this 767 00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:48,200 Speaker 1: year is to spend eighteen minutes a day just doing 768 00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:53,400 Speaker 1: something I wanted to do and literally intentionally having that 769 00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:56,640 Speaker 1: time and putting a timer on and saying, Okay, for 770 00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:58,880 Speaker 1: eighteen minutes, I want to read my book, or for 771 00:39:58,920 --> 00:39:59,680 Speaker 1: eighteen minutes. 772 00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:01,640 Speaker 2: I'm going to go for a walk. And my goal, 773 00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:03,520 Speaker 2: my one goal. 774 00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:05,719 Speaker 1: Is to get to the end of the year and 775 00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:07,799 Speaker 1: look back, and I'm going to write it down in 776 00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:08,680 Speaker 1: my little notes app. 777 00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:09,960 Speaker 2: I'm thinking of putting a little thing on. 778 00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:13,960 Speaker 1: My fridge and be like, Okay, I spent one hundred 779 00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:18,560 Speaker 1: hours this year having fun or doing something I wanted 780 00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:22,680 Speaker 1: to do, and that's my goal. Because I'm like, I 781 00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:25,759 Speaker 1: don't fucking care about how many squats I did, yeah, 782 00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:28,920 Speaker 1: or if I ate enough sweet potato or like. 783 00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:31,200 Speaker 2: Whatever, I feel like it just gets two in the weeds. 784 00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:35,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just like Bobes, I think that's important. So 785 00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:40,680 Speaker 1: it is important. Yeah. And also, if your goals are structured, 786 00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:46,440 Speaker 1: if your goals are five set goals with absolute yes 787 00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:48,960 Speaker 1: or no values to them, that is beautiful. That is 788 00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:50,359 Speaker 1: so fine because that is what you want to do. 789 00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:55,640 Speaker 1: But that is where my brain is at this year. 790 00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:59,360 Speaker 2: That I'm like, do you know what I'm good? I 791 00:40:59,360 --> 00:41:00,640 Speaker 2: feel like as well. 792 00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:06,560 Speaker 1: I have never necessarily achieved a New Year's resolution, and 793 00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:10,080 Speaker 1: I think that can get in your head of like, well, 794 00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:11,040 Speaker 1: what's the point? 795 00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:13,759 Speaker 2: And so I'm kind of leaning a little bit into. 796 00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:16,680 Speaker 1: Myself and my habits of like, Okay, well, why do 797 00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:20,160 Speaker 1: I keep setting these things that I never achieve? Maybe 798 00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:23,640 Speaker 1: I just need to be myself and enjoy that and 799 00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,479 Speaker 1: take little baby steps of eighteen minutes of doing things 800 00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:28,359 Speaker 1: that I think at the end of the day you 801 00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:30,320 Speaker 1: know will make you feel good. You know, going for 802 00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:32,120 Speaker 1: a walk will make me feel good. I don't need 803 00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:33,520 Speaker 1: to put rules on it. 804 00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:36,239 Speaker 3: Yeah, take away some of that pressure that a lot 805 00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:38,439 Speaker 3: of us feel at the beginning of the new year 806 00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:42,440 Speaker 3: to set those goals, which, as we said, if you 807 00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:45,400 Speaker 3: do like them, to be in that sort of format 808 00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:47,400 Speaker 3: where you have like this is my goal, this is 809 00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,960 Speaker 3: the outcome, this is how I track it. That's incredible 810 00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,759 Speaker 3: and of course we love that. But it reminds me 811 00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:56,799 Speaker 3: of a quote that I saw, and it's actually from 812 00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:02,120 Speaker 3: Virginia Wolf and in nine eighteen thirty one, she wrote 813 00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:06,400 Speaker 3: in her diary, my New Year's resolution is to have none, 814 00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:10,160 Speaker 3: not to be tied, to be free and kindly with 815 00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:15,520 Speaker 3: myself sometimes, to read, sometimes to not read, To go out, yes, 816 00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:19,040 Speaker 3: but stay at home in spite of being asked. And 817 00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:22,759 Speaker 3: as for clothes, I think to buy good ones. So 818 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:23,680 Speaker 3: just do what you want. 819 00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:27,160 Speaker 1: I feel like that's the entire paaring of this episode. Yeah, 820 00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:30,200 Speaker 1: so yeah, I think lean into your freedom of choice. 821 00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:32,200 Speaker 2: Free will is sexy. 822 00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:35,320 Speaker 1: It is, you know, the best cheat code of all. 823 00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:38,080 Speaker 2: The best cheat code of all, free fucking will. 824 00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:42,680 Speaker 1: Now if you did listen to that and kind of 825 00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:44,600 Speaker 1: felt a little bit overwhelmed because maybe you don't feel 826 00:42:44,600 --> 00:42:48,600 Speaker 1: like you have community yet very emphasis, strong emphasis on yet, 827 00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,600 Speaker 1: or you don't feel like you have that connection all 828 00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:55,000 Speaker 1: those friendships. I want to recommend the one book you 829 00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:58,239 Speaker 1: should read in twenty twenty six to build community and friendships, 830 00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:00,239 Speaker 1: and it is Finding Your Peace People. 831 00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:04,160 Speaker 2: We wrote this book purely for this purpose. 832 00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:07,719 Speaker 1: So if you want to build strong community in twenty 833 00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:10,279 Speaker 1: twenty six, you need to read Finding Your People because 834 00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:13,880 Speaker 1: this book is the bible to prioritizing your own happiness, 835 00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:18,640 Speaker 1: to identifying the friendships that don't support that, and also 836 00:43:18,719 --> 00:43:22,600 Speaker 1: to finding the community that does. So I may be biased, 837 00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,279 Speaker 1: but I wish I had this book when I was 838 00:43:25,320 --> 00:43:30,440 Speaker 1: twenty because it is every piece of hardship and joy 839 00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:36,520 Speaker 1: and fruitfulness in gaining community and friendship that we've experienced, 840 00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:40,360 Speaker 1: and it makes you truly realize how much time you 841 00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:43,359 Speaker 1: have wasted on the wrong things in life, but. 842 00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:47,239 Speaker 2: Also helps you feel joy and excitement for the right 843 00:43:47,280 --> 00:43:50,640 Speaker 2: things too, So we'll link that in the show notes. 844 00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:54,160 Speaker 1: But yeah, love it, love it. 845 00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:58,640 Speaker 2: Whoo. I feel so pumped, I feel so excited. 846 00:43:59,880 --> 00:44:03,920 Speaker 1: The check Sorry, sorry that was that was probably a. 847 00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:06,440 Speaker 2: Lot for anyone listening. The go ahead phones twenty twenty 848 00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,640 Speaker 2: six for the Chicks Chi Fudge. Yeah. 849 00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:12,400 Speaker 1: Well, on that note, thanks for having some holes. We 850 00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:15,799 Speaker 1: love to be here and we'll see you next time. 851 00:44:16,040 --> 00:44:21,640 Speaker 1: Yeah well do wait back bye bye