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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Kate Richie podcast. Christy

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Speaker 1: Swatin with us this morning. Let's talk about flirting.

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Speaker 2: This is an interesting technique because really, I mean, there's

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Speaker 2: some game playing and he could suggest you're misleading the

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Speaker 2: one you're interested in, but the power of the mislead

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Speaker 2: could bring that one towards you.

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Speaker 3: I don't like the whole premise of this that women

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Speaker 3: in order to flirt need to ask for help and

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Speaker 3: that men like that. It's the whole damsel in distress thing,

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Speaker 3: which I am not here for.

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Speaker 4: And techniques there's so many different I think when someone

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Speaker 4: goes use this technique to pick that person up, because

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Speaker 4: it never it works for one person but not the

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Speaker 4: next exactly.

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Speaker 1: This is an interesting technique where you get close to

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Speaker 1: somebody you might be interested in, and then you share

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Speaker 1: with them that you're interested in somebody else.

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Speaker 5: What the idea is saying.

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Speaker 1: Let's say it was you and I, Swanny, and I

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Speaker 1: was interested in you, not the bloody first time, and

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Speaker 1: then I then come up to you and I say,

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Speaker 1: you know, Chrissy, I really need your help, and you're thinking,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, this could be the moment. And then

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Speaker 1: I say, well, you see I've had feelings for Sally,

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Speaker 1: your friend for quite a while, and I just wanted you.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to ask what should I do? You know,

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Speaker 1: how should I approach this? So then you're like, oh

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Speaker 1: my god, but I thought he was with me.

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Speaker 3: Are you saying that this is you flirting with me

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Speaker 3: by asking him?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, because I'm triggering you to realize your feelings for me,

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Speaker 5: because that's when you go, oh, I don't like the

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Speaker 5: idea of him being interested in Sally, because I think

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Speaker 5: he was. I thought he was close to me.

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Speaker 1: Oh, your body has gone there's love for him right now.

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Speaker 3: Oh this is so interesting because if that happened and

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Speaker 3: it has my whole life, then I just take that

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Speaker 3: as you wanting me to help you with someone else.

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Speaker 3: I would never I am such a terrible nurse. I

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Speaker 3: don't know how to flirt, and I don't know when

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Speaker 3: people are flirting with me. And I'll give you a

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Speaker 3: really great example. I was at a function and there

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Speaker 3: was a guy there that I knew this is a

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Speaker 3: while ago, that I knew from previously, like a historical no,

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Speaker 3: not an explotaller. Anyway, he was like, Hey, it's great

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Speaker 3: to see you. Let's let's you know, it was a

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Speaker 3: noisy place. So he sort of pulled me into this

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Speaker 3: room where it was like a catering breakout room, you know,

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Speaker 3: for the function. I was like, yeah, great, it's so

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Speaker 3: good to see you. What have you been up to?

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Speaker 3: La la lap? Anyway, the mood changed, and you know,

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Speaker 3: apparently that's normal, the mood change, and he had decided

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Speaker 3: that he was going to make a move. But of

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Speaker 3: course I was absolutely unaware of what's going on because

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Speaker 3: I am not wired that way. So I'm talking to him,

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Speaker 3: you know, boring and probably talking about you know, my

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Speaker 3: discontinued Carmen's musedly and stuff. And then and then he

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Speaker 3: was sort of coming in a bit closer and what

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Speaker 3: and then he sort of closed the door, and I

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Speaker 3: say it, I still didn't realize what was going on.

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Speaker 3: And I said to him these words, what are you doing?

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Speaker 3: Are you going to do a magic trick? Because I

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Speaker 3: thought I thought that he was trick. He was sort

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Speaker 3: of making me look at his hands and faces, and

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Speaker 3: I thought, oh, clearly, what's going to happen here is

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Speaker 3: is a magic trick. So that is how I'm wired.

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Speaker 4: So what you wanted to do? This this heer as

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Speaker 4: quick as you could. But did you think he was

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Speaker 4: going in for the kiss, Chrissy, or is he No?

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Speaker 3: He was just I didn't know what was happening. And

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Speaker 3: my fault was absolutely not, oh, he is going to

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Speaker 3: kiss me. My default was he's going to do a

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Speaker 3: magic trick.

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Speaker 1: You're not ten years old on the magicians turn up

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Speaker 1: and he's going to turn a balloon into.

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Speaker 5: A dog swanny. This is a man in a corner

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Speaker 5: of a room talking to you, staring into your eyes.

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Speaker 4: Did you not think is this?

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Speaker 3: And so did?

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