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Speaker 1: Hi, Bobby Craig, I secretly do admire your radio voice.

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Speaker 1: I was like, how does he do that radio voice?

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Speaker 1: Because whenever I try to do a radio voice kind

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Speaker 1: of thing, like all of my producers and videographers are like,

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Speaker 1: you sound creepishly breathy. It's like, what do you do breathy?

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Speaker 1: You just get very breathy, like like you just like

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Speaker 1: you just ran and like you exceeded your aerobic capacity

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Speaker 1: and then you dragged yourself into the studio to like

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Speaker 2: I don't know, it's funny, a good book. I don't

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Speaker 2: feel like I have a radio voice, but I did

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Speaker 2: work in radio. But but maybe yeah, but also my

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Speaker 2: I think your voice and my voice are pretty much

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Speaker 2: the same on and off like on a podcast off podcast,

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Speaker 2: Like if people met you out and about if our

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Speaker 2: listeners met you at the cafe and had a chat

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Speaker 2: with you, they wouldn't say you kind of sound like Bobby,

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Speaker 2: but a bit like you're the same, you know, But oh, I.

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Speaker 1: Thought you were saying that me and you sound alike.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, yeah, no, I was mistaken for crack

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Speaker 1: opera until they see my face.

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Speaker 2: No, But but you're right in that some people definitely

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Speaker 2: have an on air voice which is very different to

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Speaker 2: their real life voice.

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Speaker 1: You just have a natural radiotape persona like you have

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Speaker 1: this this like keydance, this inflection to you, it's like,

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Speaker 1: all right, to next.

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Speaker 2: Episode I do I do feel compelled to do so.

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Speaker 2: In radio, you always do like what's you know? Station ID?

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Speaker 2: So it's halfway through a thing, like before I would

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Speaker 2: ask you another question, like you're listening to the You Project.

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Speaker 2: We're chatting with Bobby Capuccio, so mate, tell me right.

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Speaker 2: So in the middle of that kind of there's a link,

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Speaker 2: there's a segue between sentences where you know, I'll go

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Speaker 2: like right now, we'll go it's eleven thirty three. You're

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Speaker 2: listening to the You Project, Bobby tell me about So

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Speaker 2: there's these little fillers in the in the middle that

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Speaker 2: always happened in radio that you just get so used to,

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Speaker 2: Like you said that cat, it's in radio where you're

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Speaker 2: telling people quite often, especially if it's live radio, what

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Speaker 2: the temperature is, what the time is, what station they're

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Speaker 2: listening to, who we're chatting with, and what's coming up next.

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Speaker 2: But you do that on autopilot, but on a podcast

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Speaker 2: you don't do any of that, Like, I don't ever

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Speaker 2: break mid mid kind of thing and say, listening to

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Speaker 2: the new project, we're chatting with Bobby. He's on every week,

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Speaker 2: he's a regular. You can hear him here blah blah

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Speaker 2: blah blah blah, and now back to you. We don't

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Speaker 2: do that. But I like that. I like the non

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Speaker 2: radio kind of organicness of just going wherever we want

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Speaker 2: to go in a podcast. I think it's it's the

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Speaker 2: closest thing to a natural, authentic, just real world conversation

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Speaker 2: that happens to be recorded.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that I doubt that many of your listeners around

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Speaker 1: the world are going, oh, this is really great, gas.

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Speaker 1: I love the conversation, but I want to what the

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Speaker 1: temperature is in Melbourne. It's like that is that funny?

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Speaker 2: That is so fucking funny. And I wonder, by the way,

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Speaker 2: what's the name of this podcast again?

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Speaker 1: And what what time exactly do they record this? Like

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Speaker 1: why are they leaving all this information out? Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: a mystery podcast.

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Speaker 2: Stop talking about the meaning of life. Tell me the

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Speaker 2: fucking temperature.

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Speaker 1: Let's get down to brass tax and practicality. Have you

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Speaker 1: watched only murders in the building?

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Speaker 2: No, what is that?

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Speaker 1: Ah, it's it's masterful. It's a Selena Gomez Steve Martin,

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Speaker 1: Martin Short. It is just such. I mean, these people

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Speaker 1: think I get impressed watching Martin Shorter Steve Martin because

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Speaker 1: my level of expectation is mastery. But she comes right

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Speaker 1: in with the these two legends, and she her performance

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Speaker 1: their characters. And it's about, you know, they live in

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Speaker 1: a building in Manhattan and there are murders, and they

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Speaker 1: go out and they investigate these murders because, you know whatever,

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Speaker 1: their acting careers have failed and they're old and what

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Speaker 1: these shenanigans and they make a podcast about it. It's

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Speaker 1: a great show. What is it call only Murders in

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Speaker 2: in the Building. What's it stream on?

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Speaker 1: Oh shit? What is it on? I forgot?

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Speaker 1: if you google, like google it. Anyone who's listening to

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Speaker 2: I I wanted to have a chat today about something

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Speaker 2: that we've touched on, and we kind of bump into

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Speaker 2: this topic. But we've never done a standalone chat about it.

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Speaker 2: So you coach people, I coach people. I don't know

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Speaker 2: if you call yourself a coach officially. I don't really.

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Speaker 2: get where you want to go with whatever area of endeavor,

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Speaker 2: anything from doing your masters to building a business and brand,

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Speaker 2: whatever it is, relationships, coaches, everything. So I thought we

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Speaker 2: might go through you and I might just wax. And

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Speaker 2: that means you do one, I do one. I've bumped

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Speaker 2: I've done the same, and you would never say this,

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Speaker 2: and you are in rare air. And so I'm interested,

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Speaker 2: and I think our listeners would be interested to know

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Speaker 2: but general advice for people thinking about going down this path, Bobby.

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Speaker 2: Now they're thinking about hiring a coach, Yeah, about using

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, there's a couple of things in They're like

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Speaker 1: everything I say there are nuanced, there's definitely exceptions. One

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Speaker 1: self education, self direction. Why a coach exactly? And you

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Speaker 2: What is sorry, what does that mean? Unpacked? That you're

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Speaker 2: the okay? So what is so unpacked that?

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Speaker 1: Okay? So, as a coach, they might understand coaching as

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Speaker 1: as a way of being. They might understand some skill

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Speaker 1: overarching presuppositions in coaching is that you're the expert of

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Speaker 1: your own life. You might not be intimately connected with

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Speaker 1: this level of knowledge, but that's part of what coaching does.

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Speaker 1: It brings you to different vantage points, different proximities with

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Speaker 1: do this when I'm doing content creation. I listened to

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Speaker 1: instrumental music because it kind of helps keep me focused

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Speaker 1: in the zone and creative. I was listening to Henry

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Speaker 1: Mancini's Nadist theme and it's just this beautiful instrumental and

433
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 1: it wasn't written for Nadia Komenich, but like it kind

434
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Speaker 1: of led my mind to Nadio Kominicic and stuff that

435
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:31,919
Speaker 1: we were talking about. And have you ever seen the

436
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Speaker 1: story that the film about Nadiya kominicch No.

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Speaker 2: And for those our younger listeners who don't know who

438
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 2: she is, she was arguably, along with Olga Kohr, but

439
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,880
Speaker 2: at the greatest female gymnast, Olympic gymnast of all time,

440
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:49,920
Speaker 2: I think, remaining Bobby and the first to score old men's.

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Speaker 1: Or perfect ten. I think she did it like seven times. So,

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00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,880
Speaker 1: and I'm thinking about this one scene in this film.

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Speaker 1: It's It's kind of an old, low budget film but fantastic.

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00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 1: It's about Nay Komenich and she's It starts off she's

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Speaker 1: she's six years old and she's in She's in a

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Speaker 1: playground in Romania doing cartwheels, and this guy comes up

447
00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 1: to her and approaches her. And if the story ends there,

448
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:19,040
Speaker 1: it's very dodgy, like.

449
00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:22,879
Speaker 2: Right on this film, it sounds bad so far.

450
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:28,320
Speaker 1: But this this guy was Bella Coroli, her coach, and

451
00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: he just he sees this kid and he's like, he

452
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: recognizes instant innate talent, like you know, like I'm hearing

453
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:38,200
Speaker 1: Paul Taylor with the Sesame Street song. You know, one

454
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:40,200
Speaker 1: of these kids is doing his own thing. One of

455
00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:43,679
Speaker 1: these kids is not the same. So he sees something

456
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,639
Speaker 1: spectacular and he goes over to this kid and he

457
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 1: kneels down and he asks this crazy question. He says,

458
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Speaker 1: do you believe it's possible for a little girl to fly?

459
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Speaker 1: She's six years old doing car wheels in a playground? Like,

460
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: what is she gonna say at six? She says nothing,

461
00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:12,719
Speaker 1: because this girl is built differently. She just stares him

462
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: in the face and very slowly and certainly nods her

463
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,360
Speaker 1: head yes and he looks back at her, and it's it,

464
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:25,400
Speaker 1: and he says, so do I And I find that

465
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 1: story so powerful, whether it happened or not, or it's

466
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 1: a film, you know, like in poetic license interpretation, because

467
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:38,159
Speaker 1: she's she's arguably not the greatest that ever lived, like

468
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 1: Simone Bile has already surpassed her. But why do we

469
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 1: celebrate a Nadia. We celebrate a Nadia company because she

470
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:52,080
Speaker 1: did it when nobody believed it was possible, Like, so

471
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: there was no precedent, So she attained the unattainable. And

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00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 1: that's very different than having that models for you. That's

473
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Speaker 1: very different and not any less remarkable. I mean, you're

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Speaker 1: competing in the Olympics, regardless, you're a remarkable human being

475
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Speaker 1: who's endured and invested a lot of hard work and sacrifice.

476
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Speaker 1: But to attain the unattainable, then where did that start?

477
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 1: It started with two people exploring a possibility. So she

478
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:27,920
Speaker 1: didn't win, she didn't win, and a gold medal by

479
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Speaker 1: earning a perfect ten in nineteen seventy four in the

480
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Speaker 1: Olympics in Canada at fourteen. It began that day, at

481
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Speaker 1: six years old, on the school yard.

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Speaker 2: Yeah power, Yeah, I love I love that and not

483
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 2: totally dissimilar Customato and Mike Tyson when that I think

484
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 2: he was thirteen years old, and yeah, and I think

485
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 2: this is I reckon. This is one of the tough things,

486
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Speaker 2: is so I reckon. There's two Well, there's probably ten

487
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 2: groups people, but two groups of people amongst the ten

488
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 2: groups listening now. One group is thinking, yeah, I wouldn't

489
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 2: mind working with somebody to help me do A B

490
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:12,520
Speaker 2: and C right, and with my whatever it is with

491
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 2: my business, my brand, my body, my whatever, my mind,

492
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 2: my habits, my behaviors, whatever. And then there's another group

493
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 2: who are thinking, I would like to become a coach.

494
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Speaker 2: You know, I'm fascinated with personal growth and psychology and

495
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 2: human behavior and coaching, you know. So there's two. There's

496
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 2: two kind of groups, distinct groups that I'm thinking about

497
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 2: in the middle of all of the groups listening now.

498
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Speaker 2: But so one of my questions out of that kind

499
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 2: of awareness is, and I know there's no fucking simple answers,

500
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 2: So let's just talk about the answer. How do we

501
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:56,120
Speaker 2: find the right person? Because you know, like, uh, I know,

502
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 2: for lots of people, I was the right person, not

503
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,560
Speaker 2: for everybody, not for every everybody, by the way, Like,

504
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 2: if you need somebody who's going to, you know, tell

505
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 2: you every day you're amazing and special and incredible and unique.

506
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 2: I'm not the person. I'm not the person, but you know,

507
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 2: I think one of the reasons that I did okay

508
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 2: after you know, lots of failures and fuck ups, but

509
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:22,960
Speaker 2: was you know. I literally would say to my clients,

510
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 2: I care about you. I want you to get amazing results.

511
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 2: I want to help you explore your potential. But my

512
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 2: job is not to make you feel good every day.

513
00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 2: That's not my job. And if that's what you need,

514
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 2: then you don't need a coach, by the way, because

515
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 2: that's not a coach's job either. So if we are

516
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:47,400
Speaker 2: in the group where we're thinking about maybe working with someone, like,

517
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 2: what are the attributes and qualities that you think matter?

518
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Speaker 2: Or maybe even more, you know, stepping back, how the

519
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 2: fuck do we find that person? Is it recommendation? Is

520
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 2: it trial and error? Like I don't think the internet

521
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:02,719
Speaker 2: is on that person.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean that there are directories, Like with my

523
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 1: National Board certification, you know you could. I don't even

524
00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 1: think I've registered, so you can't find me. Actually, but

525
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 1: most people do when they have a certain credential, they

526
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: register and you can go on the website and you

527
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 1: can find them, or if you go to the International

528
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 1: Coaching Federation ICF, they have listings of their PCC and MCC.

529
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 1: Those are your professional coaches or your master level coaches,

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00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 1: which you know, if they've got that credential, they have

531
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 1: invested a lot of hours in training and development into

532
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:49,920
Speaker 1: becoming a skilled coach. So that's something really good. But

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00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 1: I will say this, Michael Lambert did a meta analysis

534
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 1: on seventeen studies exploring what accounts for the variants of

535
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 1: success outcomes which within coaching and therapy. He found the

536
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:06,640
Speaker 1: thirty to fifty percent of the outcomes depended on the

537
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: relationship dynamic between therapist and patient, coach and client. So

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00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,160
Speaker 1: that's something really important. It's kind of like dating, like

539
00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 1: just to share something like you know my wife and

540
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:21,720
Speaker 1: I Amy. You know Amy and I she I see

541
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: I listen, you're the best, You're the best. Yeah, I

542
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 1: told her about that.

543
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:30,880
Speaker 2: While you're pausing, I asked Bobby last time, everyone if

544
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:33,480
Speaker 2: you didn't listen, if because he says my wife, my wife,

545
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 2: I'm like, just tell us her name, bro, It's okay,

546
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 2: And then you can just say moving forward, Amy, I

547
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 2: want to know who's Michael Lambert because you spoke of this.

548
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: He's a researcher and he basically wanted to determine what

549
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:55,680
Speaker 1: accounts for success within a coaching relationship. So he I

550
00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:59,640
Speaker 1: think it was seventeen studies that he looked at. And

551
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:02,760
Speaker 1: because there's a lot of things that do account is

552
00:33:02,760 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 1: it the methodology, it's is how someone's trained. You know,

553
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 1: what school of therapy or coaching did they come from? Yes, yes,

554
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: all that's important, but one of the biggest contributing factors

555
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 1: is the relationship. So that's key. And when we were

556
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: going for you know, like counseling, you know, we looked

557
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:28,920
Speaker 1: around a bit and there's just there's got to be

558
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:33,920
Speaker 1: this rapport because the first step in coaching is engagement.

559
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 1: Like before you get down to okay, well, what are

560
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 1: we really going to focus on? What's most important about that?

561
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:43,080
Speaker 1: What's our plan? How do we move forward and actualize that.

562
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 1: You've got to be engaged and you've got to feel

563
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 1: safe with your coach. There's got to be a level

564
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 1: of rapport. And there's a lot of coaches that are fantastic,

565
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 1: they just might not be fantastic for you. It's like dating.

566
00:33:55,560 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: You meet someone, they're attractive, they're lovely, but you know what,

567
00:33:58,880 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 1: there's no spark, there's no real chemistry there. So talking

568
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 1: to a coach in advance would really help. And you know,

569
00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 1: sometimes you work with a coach and you realize, I

570
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:12,000
Speaker 1: know this has happened to me. Hey, this was great,

571
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:15,359
Speaker 1: this was helpful. But I don't really think long term,

572
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: this is the coach for me. And that's fine. So

573
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:20,839
Speaker 1: you might not find the coach you might. You might

574
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 1: have to bounce around a little bit. I do think

575
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:31,600
Speaker 1: that any coach that has a message like, oh this

576
00:34:31,640 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 1: is this is my message in coaching walk away. You

577
00:34:35,840 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 1: don't have a message as a coach. A client has

578
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 1: a message as a public speaker an educator. Yeah, what's

579
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 1: your point of view? What's your message? You've got a podcast,

580
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 1: what's your message? And a coaching situation like your message

581
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:54,000
Speaker 1: is irrelevant? Yeah, right, So a good coach will probably

582
00:34:54,040 --> 00:34:57,120
Speaker 1: ask you more questions in the beginning than I think.

583
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 2: Also, sorry, buddy, I think also you know, knowing that

584
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 2: there there's what's going to work for one person won't

585
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 2: work for another, and what might be optimal for clell

586
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:12,439
Speaker 2: be terrible for Bobby or you know, when people would

587
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:15,239
Speaker 2: back in the day when personal training was brand new,

588
00:35:15,440 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 2: you know, in the late eighties early nineties in Australia,

589
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:20,520
Speaker 2: and I was trying to figure out what the fuck

590
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 2: I was doing. And I'm like, how do I do

591
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 2: this one on one thing with human beings? And you know,

592
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 2: how do I build a business and a product and

593
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 2: a service around this fundamental thing of me and another

594
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:34,600
Speaker 2: human in the gym, you know, And then realizing, oh,

595
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 2: it's not only about you know, anatomy and physiology and

596
00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:41,360
Speaker 2: biomechanics and movement. It's also about conversation and stories and

597
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:46,320
Speaker 2: beliefs and values and inspiration and anxiety and fucking body

598
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:50,920
Speaker 2: dysmorphia and all of these variables. And I was trying

599
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 2: to figure out how like what's the best way to

600
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,359
Speaker 2: do this? And then I realized there's no best way,

601
00:35:57,600 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 2: Like there's one hundred best ways. So I would have

602
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,359
Speaker 2: some people that would literally go, I'm going to train

603
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 2: with you for four to eight weeks and then fuck off,

604
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 2: and I would go, great, and then they would do that,

605
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 2: and then they'd say, but what I'd like to do

606
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 2: is could I pop back a once every four weeks

607
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:18,399
Speaker 2: for a kind of a touching base, and I go,

608
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 2: you can do whatever you want, you know. And then

609
00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 2: I would have people who lived one hundred miles away

610
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:28,160
Speaker 2: who obviously couldn't train with me regularly, so they would

611
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 2: drive down once a month and we would spend two

612
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 2: or three hours together. We'd do a workout, we'd have

613
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 2: a conversation, we'd do an assessment. We might even go

614
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 2: and have a cup of coffee. But we would talk

615
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 2: about the last month and the next month. We'd do

616
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:44,800
Speaker 2: some planning, we'd strategize, we'd set a timeline, we'd create accountability.

617
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:51,000
Speaker 2: And so there was just in that coaching capacity there

618
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:54,239
Speaker 2: was a range of options to suit a range of

619
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:59,279
Speaker 2: personalities and practical needs. It's not like, oh, we sell

620
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,840
Speaker 2: cheese samges and ham sandwiches, pick one or the other. No,

621
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:07,879
Speaker 2: there's literally like a small gus board of coaching options,

622
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:10,520
Speaker 2: and if what you want isn't on there, we can

623
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:13,719
Speaker 2: probably fucking make it out the back and do it anyway.

624
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 1: You know. Oh, that is so absolutely important. Although I

625
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 1: would say it would be kind of cool if you

626
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:22,720
Speaker 1: hired a coach and they made you ham and cheese sandwich.

627
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:28,400
Speaker 1: That would be nice, but I think when it comes

628
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: to that, avoid coaches. And I'm going to piss off

629
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 1: a lot of people when I say this, but it's

630
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: how I feel, so fucking I'm going with it. You

631
00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 1: do that, avoid coaches with a methodology, like, well, I

632
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 1: have my own methodology. Again, it's all centered on them.

633
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:50,440
Speaker 1: There is enough empirical evidence that goes into multiple coaching

634
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 1: models and methodologies. You don't have to name one after yourself.

635
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 1: That's not the coach you're looking for.

636
00:37:57,760 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 2: Ha ha. And well it's funny you say that because

637
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:05,479
Speaker 2: I was about to announce the Harper methods, So oh fuck,

638
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 2: this is awkward and cringey.

639
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, that that's something that I would stay away from.

640
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 1: Like so with with the coaches that I work with

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Speaker 1: now currently on my team, they're they take a lot

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Speaker 1: of initiative. They're really great with seeking out information, and

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Speaker 1: when they first got hired, obviously they wanted to absorb everything.

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Speaker 1: And one day I came in like, oh, we've been

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Speaker 1: you know, we've been like looking up and reading a

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Speaker 1: lot on coaching, and you know, we went to YouTube

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Speaker 1: and I was like, okay, tell me more about that,

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Speaker 1: and it's like, oh my god, We're watching all these

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Speaker 1: great coaches, and I'm just like, Okay, So when you're

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Speaker 1: when you're reading about coaching, right, you're picking up a

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Speaker 1: book like Appreciative Inqureer reading about self determination, what are

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Speaker 1: the distinctions? Is anything different than when you are reading

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Speaker 1: being evidence based tools around coaching? When you see someone

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Speaker 1: coaching on a stage with someone in front of an

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Speaker 1: audience to two thousand people, what are the differences? And

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying that if you do this, I mean

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Speaker 1: I know people that have done this. I know you've

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Speaker 1: done this. I know I've done this. So it's a

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Speaker 1: bit hypocritical. Nick Jarvis, who I think you know? You know,

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Speaker 1: I used to work with him a lot. He's done this.

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Speaker 1: So but a lot of times when you're watching someone

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Speaker 1: at an event, anyone with an issue in the audience,

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Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, we're off to an interesting start to

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Speaker 1: begin with. Come up, and I'm going to coach you.

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Speaker 1: When that person gets off the stage, right, If people

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Speaker 1: in the audience are going, oh my god, that coach

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Speaker 1: was amazing, that's not a coach. Don't hire that person.

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Speaker 1: That person is performative, and they are a talented speaker,

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Speaker 1: and they are a question askser, which is not the

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Speaker 1: heart of coaching, is not asking better questions. I am

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Speaker 1: so sick of hearing that shit. That's not what you want.

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Speaker 1: You don't want a coach that is a spectacular performer,

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Speaker 1: because when you watch a really highly skilled coach, it

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Speaker 1: kind of it's almost like, what are they doing? It's

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Speaker 1: kind of a little bit boring. Who really shines in

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Speaker 1: that process is the client. And it takes so much

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Speaker 1: skill and years of practice to show up and be caring, empathetic, open,

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Speaker 1: curious and have everything look like you're doing barely anything

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Speaker 1: at all. But you're just asking questions, you're just reflecting

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Speaker 1: things back. If there's not there doesn't have to be

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Speaker 1: that area of boredom because coaching is very exciting because

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Speaker 1: it's dealing with the client's favorite subject themselves. But if

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Speaker 1: you would watch someone and go, oh, that that's like

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Speaker 1: a superstar coach, it.

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Speaker 2: Might not be Yeah, yeah, it's so, I bloody love this,

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Speaker 2: hey mate. Unfortunately, we've got to wind up because just

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Speaker 2: because I've got something I need to do in seventeen

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Speaker 2: minutes at another venue that is not the current venue

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Speaker 2: I am at. So I feel this is a time

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Speaker 2: for you to plug yourself and tell.

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Speaker 1: People about like, are you begging your button? Are you?

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Speaker 2: Are you still available to coach people like I know

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Speaker 2: that you can do it on Zoom anyway, and not

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Speaker 2: too many of our listeners live around the corner from you,

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Speaker 2: but so feel free to blatantly, just bloody share your

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Speaker 2: wares off your services or tell people where they can

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Speaker 2: find and connect and.

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Speaker 1: All that I am not available for one on one

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Speaker 1: coaching simply do not have that bandwidth. But I am

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Speaker 1: absolutely available to answer any questions or concerns or help

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Speaker 1: you navigate through the coaching land landscape to the best

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Speaker 1: of my ability. You can find me at Robert Capuccio

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Speaker 1: dot com, the self albandad dot com. I'm on LinkedIn.

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Speaker 1: I even checked my messages occasionally, so wow, yeah, sent

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Speaker 1: me a DM there.

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Speaker 2: You didn't You didn't check your messages today? Did you?

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Speaker 2: From Jumbo?

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Speaker 1: Why don't check them five times a day? I do

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Speaker 1: like one daily check in. You missed? You missed my

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Speaker 1: check in window?

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Speaker 2: Oh dear well, I will say goodbye affair. But as always, mate,

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Speaker 2: I appreciate that that was great. I really I would

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Speaker 2: actually like to revisit that and do part two of that,

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Speaker 2: because I feel like we're halfway through that conversation. But

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Speaker 2: we may even pick it up next week, but we'll

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Speaker 2: see how we go. But for now, mate, thank you,

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Speaker 2: see you next week.

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Speaker 1: Thank you mate, thank you everyone,