1 00:00:05,881 --> 00:00:13,241 Speaker 1: Apode Production. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast. I'm Ashy 2 00:00:13,281 --> 00:00:15,201 Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana. This podcast is. 3 00:00:15,201 --> 00:00:18,761 Speaker 2: About female empowerment and encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, 4 00:00:18,801 --> 00:00:20,801 Speaker 2: and most authentic version of yourself. 5 00:00:20,961 --> 00:00:23,281 Speaker 1: We help you shed the shame, grow to a new level. 6 00:00:23,321 --> 00:00:26,241 Speaker 1: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone 7 00:00:26,281 --> 00:00:27,801 Speaker 1: else is too afraid to talk about. 8 00:00:28,401 --> 00:00:31,841 Speaker 2: Get ready for your next level of self. Welcome back 9 00:00:31,841 --> 00:00:33,160 Speaker 2: to another episode of She Rises. 10 00:00:33,241 --> 00:00:35,481 Speaker 1: I'm Tiana and I'm actually thank you for joining us. 11 00:00:35,521 --> 00:00:38,601 Speaker 1: We've got a spicy, fun, sexy episode for you today. 12 00:00:39,161 --> 00:00:42,321 Speaker 1: We're looking at our downloads and seeing which episodes were 13 00:00:42,721 --> 00:00:46,041 Speaker 1: most well received, most downloaded, most loved, and it was 14 00:00:46,081 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 1: all the ones about sex. So let's talk about it. 15 00:00:48,361 --> 00:00:50,761 Speaker 2: We love talking about it, and apparently you guys love listening. 16 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:53,361 Speaker 2: We do here with the juicy stuff today. 17 00:00:53,441 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: I think it's just because sex is still taboo and 18 00:00:55,641 --> 00:00:57,641 Speaker 1: still something people don't want to talk about, or they 19 00:00:57,681 --> 00:01:00,121 Speaker 1: feel awkward talking about, or maybe they feel shameful, or 20 00:01:00,161 --> 00:01:02,761 Speaker 1: they don't have people around them that talk about it. 21 00:01:02,801 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: I think it's quite normal for us, but it's definitely 22 00:01:05,801 --> 00:01:08,041 Speaker 1: not for everyone. Yeah, but the numbers don't lie the 23 00:01:08,121 --> 00:01:08,881 Speaker 1: numbers don't lie. 24 00:01:08,881 --> 00:01:11,041 Speaker 2: And I think we have this conversation as well, Like 25 00:01:11,081 --> 00:01:14,000 Speaker 2: what you mentioned is normalized for us, but for you listening, 26 00:01:14,121 --> 00:01:17,361 Speaker 2: it might not be normalized in your friend group. Yes 27 00:01:17,401 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 2: maybe up home, Yeah maybe at home, it wasn't a 28 00:01:19,721 --> 00:01:21,641 Speaker 2: normalized thing to talk about. There's still a lot of 29 00:01:21,881 --> 00:01:24,401 Speaker 2: you know, sexual shame around the topic of sex and 30 00:01:24,441 --> 00:01:26,601 Speaker 2: intimacy and all of those things. So we want to 31 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 2: make it light, playful and fun and hopefully help you 32 00:01:29,481 --> 00:01:31,241 Speaker 2: remove some of the shame around these kind of topics. 33 00:01:31,241 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: And we also get it because we've carried sexual shame. 34 00:01:33,601 --> 00:01:35,761 Speaker 1: I not growing up like I couldn't talk about it. 35 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:39,321 Speaker 1: I got uncomfortable talking about it. I projected my own 36 00:01:39,401 --> 00:01:42,081 Speaker 1: judgments onto other women when they were really sexually expressed. 37 00:01:42,161 --> 00:01:44,961 Speaker 1: And it's being really cool to go through that transition 38 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:46,521 Speaker 1: of coming out the other side, and it feels so 39 00:01:46,601 --> 00:01:48,841 Speaker 1: normal and feel so beautiful because it gets to be 40 00:01:49,441 --> 00:01:52,401 Speaker 1: you know. So today we're talking about the five things 41 00:01:52,441 --> 00:01:55,401 Speaker 1: that really turn us on the most. And the reason 42 00:01:55,401 --> 00:01:57,161 Speaker 1: we're talking about this is not just to tell you 43 00:01:57,201 --> 00:02:00,321 Speaker 1: all about our sex life. It's too empower and remind you 44 00:02:00,361 --> 00:02:03,161 Speaker 1: of these little things that can make the biggest difference 45 00:02:03,161 --> 00:02:05,921 Speaker 1: in helping you tap into more pleasure. And it's not 46 00:02:06,081 --> 00:02:08,321 Speaker 1: just inside the bedroom with a partner. It's things that 47 00:02:08,401 --> 00:02:11,481 Speaker 1: just make you feel really turned on. So we want 48 00:02:11,521 --> 00:02:13,401 Speaker 1: to access more of that pleasure wherever we can, but 49 00:02:13,481 --> 00:02:17,081 Speaker 1: especially with your intimate partners or your sexual self pleasurable 50 00:02:17,281 --> 00:02:18,721 Speaker 1: moments that you have with yourself, and. 51 00:02:18,641 --> 00:02:21,921 Speaker 2: Making this more about pleasure and intimacy as opposed to 52 00:02:22,041 --> 00:02:24,841 Speaker 2: just performing or getting it done or just you know, 53 00:02:25,081 --> 00:02:27,041 Speaker 2: being like this one and done thing. It's got to 54 00:02:27,041 --> 00:02:28,441 Speaker 2: it's something that you've got to tick off. Like, we 55 00:02:28,481 --> 00:02:30,521 Speaker 2: don't want sex to be a topic where you have 56 00:02:30,561 --> 00:02:32,401 Speaker 2: to just tick it off because it's something that you know, 57 00:02:32,561 --> 00:02:35,081 Speaker 2: rotations to be doing like that, it's meant to be 58 00:02:35,121 --> 00:02:37,801 Speaker 2: slow and sensual. You want to enjoy the process. We 59 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:38,881 Speaker 2: want to bring that in today. 60 00:02:38,721 --> 00:02:40,601 Speaker 1: And whether you have sexual shame, or you're a mom 61 00:02:40,601 --> 00:02:42,641 Speaker 1: and you've just had a baby, or you've lost yourself 62 00:02:42,761 --> 00:02:45,240 Speaker 1: or you've lost your body confidence, or you look back 63 00:02:45,281 --> 00:02:46,881 Speaker 1: at your younger self you're like, oh my gosh, I 64 00:02:46,960 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: was so frisky and adventurous, Like where has she gone? Like, 65 00:02:49,481 --> 00:02:52,081 Speaker 1: let's bring that back in because she's in there. There's 66 00:02:52,201 --> 00:02:57,281 Speaker 1: just conditioning or situations or trauma or outside noise that 67 00:02:57,321 --> 00:03:00,041 Speaker 1: has told you that that's a good, wrong, bad, right, whatever. 68 00:03:00,201 --> 00:03:01,521 Speaker 1: So we're going to bring it back in today and 69 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:04,121 Speaker 1: share some of ours and hopefully inspire you to tap 70 00:03:04,161 --> 00:03:06,881 Speaker 1: back into that play for sexy energy. We love it 71 00:03:07,081 --> 00:03:09,601 Speaker 1: all right. These are in no particular order, but one 72 00:03:09,641 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 1: of my five is music, and I have a Spotify playlist. 73 00:03:13,561 --> 00:03:15,281 Speaker 1: If you guys want it, let me know, comment in 74 00:03:15,281 --> 00:03:16,881 Speaker 1: the foreg and I'll link it to you. Love it. 75 00:03:16,881 --> 00:03:19,881 Speaker 1: It's just titled spicy. It just gets me in the mood. 76 00:03:19,960 --> 00:03:22,121 Speaker 1: It helps my body relax, It kind of gets me 77 00:03:22,161 --> 00:03:24,361 Speaker 1: out of my head, back of my body, and it 78 00:03:24,441 --> 00:03:27,441 Speaker 1: just turns me on. Whether it's the tune of the music, 79 00:03:27,481 --> 00:03:29,961 Speaker 1: whether it's the words of the music, whether it's the 80 00:03:30,001 --> 00:03:32,881 Speaker 1: deep voices, whether it's the sexy voices of females, like 81 00:03:32,881 --> 00:03:35,681 Speaker 1: whatever it is. I just find different songs like just 82 00:03:35,801 --> 00:03:37,641 Speaker 1: do it for me in different ways. Yes, I so 83 00:03:37,761 --> 00:03:40,201 Speaker 1: get that lit It's environment, doesn't it. Yeah, I've got 84 00:03:40,201 --> 00:03:40,880 Speaker 1: a playlist too. 85 00:03:41,041 --> 00:03:43,121 Speaker 2: Love it called seduice, Oh. 86 00:03:43,001 --> 00:03:46,281 Speaker 1: Nice, Nice's called spicy. It so good. It does. 87 00:03:46,321 --> 00:03:48,121 Speaker 2: It makes all the difference because it does I feel 88 00:03:48,161 --> 00:03:50,721 Speaker 2: like for women, it's very much a mental game. Yeah, 89 00:03:50,761 --> 00:03:53,001 Speaker 2: it's very much. If you're in your head, you're not 90 00:03:53,041 --> 00:03:55,001 Speaker 2: really in your body or in your pleasure. 91 00:03:54,681 --> 00:03:55,881 Speaker 1: It will affect your experience. 92 00:03:55,961 --> 00:03:58,561 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it does. It impacts you what's happening before 93 00:03:58,681 --> 00:04:00,641 Speaker 2: leading up to the bedroom, and yeah, what you're doing, 94 00:04:00,681 --> 00:04:02,601 Speaker 2: how your day's been. So music, I feel kind of 95 00:04:02,681 --> 00:04:04,201 Speaker 2: just like softens your body in. 96 00:04:04,161 --> 00:04:06,521 Speaker 1: Doesn't it. And when you go to a dance class 97 00:04:06,521 --> 00:04:09,401 Speaker 1: and you're learning like a sexy routine, the song is 98 00:04:09,521 --> 00:04:12,121 Speaker 1: everything it is. Yeah, yeah, that's yours. 99 00:04:12,441 --> 00:04:15,361 Speaker 2: So I think for me, the mental build up is 100 00:04:15,441 --> 00:04:18,161 Speaker 2: a really big thing for me. Hot Yeah, so for me, 101 00:04:18,361 --> 00:04:21,241 Speaker 2: like I think the intimacy really does start at the 102 00:04:21,241 --> 00:04:23,601 Speaker 2: beginning of the day and not actually the moment that 103 00:04:23,641 --> 00:04:25,921 Speaker 2: you start being intimate or in the bedroom, whether it 104 00:04:25,961 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 2: be with a partner or with yourself. It's more of 105 00:04:28,961 --> 00:04:32,361 Speaker 2: like essential experience, whether that be through your different senses, 106 00:04:32,921 --> 00:04:35,921 Speaker 2: so you know, hearing your partner say something to you, 107 00:04:36,001 --> 00:04:37,841 Speaker 2: reading a text message from them. 108 00:04:38,001 --> 00:04:38,361 Speaker 1: Yeah. 109 00:04:38,601 --> 00:04:42,961 Speaker 2: Physical types that be just moisturizing your body really slowly 110 00:04:43,001 --> 00:04:45,440 Speaker 2: and just like saying thanks and appreciating yourself or having 111 00:04:45,481 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 2: your partner do the little neck touches. Yeah, little you know, 112 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:51,561 Speaker 2: side swipes or little bum grabs like yeah. Through that 113 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:55,041 Speaker 2: mental build up of those consistent things throughout the day, 114 00:04:55,081 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 2: it almost allows, at least for me personally allows me 115 00:04:58,041 --> 00:05:00,761 Speaker 2: to get mentally ready to be intimate and kind of 116 00:05:00,841 --> 00:05:02,281 Speaker 2: like energetically open my body. 117 00:05:02,521 --> 00:05:06,641 Speaker 1: Love that for me is just oh oh so true. 118 00:05:07,201 --> 00:05:08,801 Speaker 1: One thing that I really love. And I know not 119 00:05:08,841 --> 00:05:12,161 Speaker 1: everyone loves this, but I love lingerie and dressing up 120 00:05:12,561 --> 00:05:15,440 Speaker 1: and it's something I kind of forgot about for years, 121 00:05:15,681 --> 00:05:18,361 Speaker 1: even after Tyler, I didn't wear anything for ages. And 122 00:05:18,401 --> 00:05:22,361 Speaker 1: then my girlfriend Megsi is always in like silky robes 123 00:05:22,521 --> 00:05:27,321 Speaker 1: or a silky nighty or nude, beautiful lacy underwear. She's 124 00:05:27,361 --> 00:05:29,801 Speaker 1: always very feminine like that, and it's something she teaches 125 00:05:29,841 --> 00:05:32,081 Speaker 1: in a lot of her courses around this as well. 126 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:34,881 Speaker 1: But she's always been my biggest inspiration for that, and 127 00:05:34,921 --> 00:05:37,561 Speaker 1: I make a conscious effort now. I love buying lingerie, 128 00:05:37,681 --> 00:05:39,801 Speaker 1: or even if it's just like layering it, like wearing 129 00:05:39,841 --> 00:05:42,001 Speaker 1: lingerie and then a nighty and then a sexy robe 130 00:05:42,001 --> 00:05:43,481 Speaker 1: and I've got the layers to take off and it 131 00:05:43,481 --> 00:05:46,601 Speaker 1: feels the experience, but it also just helps me feel 132 00:05:46,681 --> 00:05:50,041 Speaker 1: quite feminine and it helps me step out of mum hat, 133 00:05:50,201 --> 00:05:52,281 Speaker 1: and it helps me step out of any masculine energy 134 00:05:52,281 --> 00:05:54,281 Speaker 1: that I might have been carrying for the day. The 135 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,001 Speaker 1: texture of the silk feeling on my skin and the 136 00:05:57,041 --> 00:05:59,121 Speaker 1: look of the lace. I just really love it. And 137 00:05:59,521 --> 00:06:03,281 Speaker 1: Steve loves it. Loves a lingerie. He does anytime a 138 00:06:03,361 --> 00:06:05,441 Speaker 1: rarity is like yep, come here. 139 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:07,281 Speaker 2: It's almost like a queue, almost like it is a 140 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 2: cue putting this beautiful set on and you're getting in 141 00:06:09,961 --> 00:06:12,001 Speaker 2: the energy of like getting ready to be intimate or 142 00:06:12,001 --> 00:06:14,681 Speaker 2: be central of being that playabul energy. Like it sounds bad, 143 00:06:14,721 --> 00:06:16,481 Speaker 2: that's like obviously putting on a hat of like ew. 144 00:06:16,561 --> 00:06:18,601 Speaker 2: You know, you're putting on this costume and you're getting 145 00:06:18,641 --> 00:06:20,241 Speaker 2: ready to like enter this beauty. 146 00:06:20,241 --> 00:06:22,161 Speaker 1: If I don't want to have sex or be intimate 147 00:06:22,281 --> 00:06:25,281 Speaker 1: and I come out of my moomoo, he knows the 148 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:27,321 Speaker 1: momo is not going to happen tonight. If I come 149 00:06:27,361 --> 00:06:31,801 Speaker 1: out in my black long, like beautiful lacy silk nighty 150 00:06:32,001 --> 00:06:34,481 Speaker 1: with a robe, He's like, Okay, when the kids go 151 00:06:34,521 --> 00:06:37,880 Speaker 1: to bed, you give me your cue. And I love 152 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 1: it because it's also that build up too of like 153 00:06:39,841 --> 00:06:42,041 Speaker 1: knowing that it's coming. That's really fun as well. Yeah, 154 00:06:42,041 --> 00:06:43,001 Speaker 1: it's one of the It is a cute. 155 00:06:43,041 --> 00:06:44,721 Speaker 2: It's a beautiful cue, like the anticipation. 156 00:06:45,001 --> 00:06:47,281 Speaker 1: Yeah. So even if you don't feel fully confident in 157 00:06:47,281 --> 00:06:49,080 Speaker 1: your body, like find something it does make you feel 158 00:06:49,121 --> 00:06:51,001 Speaker 1: more sexy, like brother, it's a one piece, or whether 159 00:06:51,041 --> 00:06:54,321 Speaker 1: it is just a dressing gown, something just like makes 160 00:06:54,361 --> 00:06:56,561 Speaker 1: you feel feminine step out of those other hats. 161 00:06:56,641 --> 00:06:59,481 Speaker 2: Yeah. Oh, I love that. It's very empowering for me 162 00:06:59,561 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 2: because I love one to feel just sexy in my body. 163 00:07:02,561 --> 00:07:05,041 Speaker 2: And it's I've come a long way from the second 164 00:07:05,281 --> 00:07:06,801 Speaker 2: shame that I've had when I was younger to be 165 00:07:06,961 --> 00:07:09,841 Speaker 2: suppressing myself entirely, to being able to get to the 166 00:07:09,841 --> 00:07:12,841 Speaker 2: point where I feel sensual in my body and I 167 00:07:12,881 --> 00:07:15,001 Speaker 2: get to like put on these beautiful pieces of like 168 00:07:15,121 --> 00:07:17,521 Speaker 2: lingerie and feel like I love my body and like 169 00:07:17,841 --> 00:07:19,961 Speaker 2: get to explore myself and then also get to do 170 00:07:20,001 --> 00:07:22,281 Speaker 2: that for my partner as well, and so like for me, 171 00:07:22,361 --> 00:07:23,921 Speaker 2: it's been always a big thing in my head. I'm like, 172 00:07:23,961 --> 00:07:26,601 Speaker 2: I love being able to create an experience for my 173 00:07:26,681 --> 00:07:30,081 Speaker 2: partner because it just feels like such a connecting thing. 174 00:07:30,281 --> 00:07:32,321 Speaker 2: It's so mud let me do this feel, let me 175 00:07:32,321 --> 00:07:33,961 Speaker 2: take care of you, let me like you know, it 176 00:07:34,041 --> 00:07:36,081 Speaker 2: just feels like really fun. So it is fun. I've 177 00:07:36,081 --> 00:07:37,841 Speaker 2: always found a lot of enjoyment in doing that. 178 00:07:38,161 --> 00:07:40,841 Speaker 1: Can we just talk about the tags on Honeyburdet? Oh? Sorry, 179 00:07:40,881 --> 00:07:43,201 Speaker 1: if we're paying four hundred dollars for a set of lingerie, 180 00:07:43,601 --> 00:07:45,281 Speaker 1: they're not ripple with tags. And when you put the 181 00:07:45,361 --> 00:07:47,681 Speaker 1: lingerie on it's obviously C three you can fully see 182 00:07:47,681 --> 00:07:50,881 Speaker 1: this massive black tag grunt too, front, back side of 183 00:07:50,921 --> 00:07:52,881 Speaker 1: the bra wherever it is. I'm like, this is horrendous 184 00:07:52,921 --> 00:07:55,041 Speaker 1: for a four hundred dollars set of lingerie. It's termed 185 00:07:55,041 --> 00:07:58,001 Speaker 1: me off buying from them. I would love to know. Actually, girls, 186 00:07:58,161 --> 00:08:00,041 Speaker 1: jump it to our forum. Where are you buying a 187 00:08:00,041 --> 00:08:02,681 Speaker 1: beautiful lingerie? I went to Bras and Things. They've got 188 00:08:02,681 --> 00:08:05,721 Speaker 1: a couple of really beautiful sets and I bought one online. Oh, 189 00:08:05,761 --> 00:08:07,481 Speaker 1: I walked past the shop and Sydney with Steve the 190 00:08:07,481 --> 00:08:10,041 Speaker 1: other week was like cloud something. I forget the brand. 191 00:08:10,281 --> 00:08:11,721 Speaker 1: We were in a rush, but they looked like they 192 00:08:11,761 --> 00:08:14,121 Speaker 1: had really nice things. So if you guys have any recommendations, 193 00:08:14,441 --> 00:08:16,321 Speaker 1: please let me know. Love to know someone to spend 194 00:08:16,321 --> 00:08:18,921 Speaker 1: four hundreds on one set for the tags we show angreed, 195 00:08:19,161 --> 00:08:20,161 Speaker 1: not okay. 196 00:08:20,361 --> 00:08:23,361 Speaker 2: I think lounge wear do some, but I haven't personally 197 00:08:23,361 --> 00:08:24,161 Speaker 2: bought any from there. 198 00:08:24,241 --> 00:08:26,881 Speaker 1: It just looks like really branded lounge lounge lounge lands, 199 00:08:26,881 --> 00:08:28,521 Speaker 1: like all around the unders and stuff. 200 00:08:28,601 --> 00:08:30,281 Speaker 2: Yeah, their underwear is like I don't know if the 201 00:08:30,561 --> 00:08:32,241 Speaker 2: I've looked at the lazy ones though, Yeah, I don't 202 00:08:32,241 --> 00:08:34,401 Speaker 2: know if they like the actual sets are like that. Yeah, 203 00:08:34,441 --> 00:08:36,481 Speaker 2: but I do remember seeing they have some variety. I 204 00:08:36,521 --> 00:08:37,681 Speaker 2: just personally haven't bought them. 205 00:08:37,761 --> 00:08:39,561 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I might have a look on their look. Yeah, 206 00:08:39,641 --> 00:08:43,041 Speaker 1: let us know if you guys have any other restomundations. Okay. 207 00:08:43,121 --> 00:08:46,441 Speaker 1: My next one is don't forget to flirt with your partner, 208 00:08:46,641 --> 00:08:49,161 Speaker 1: big one. Like I've been with Steve seventeen years, but 209 00:08:49,161 --> 00:08:51,681 Speaker 1: we still flirt. Yeah, and it's so important. I mean, 210 00:08:52,001 --> 00:08:55,561 Speaker 1: I love flirty text messages, sending photos. That's not for everyone. 211 00:08:55,561 --> 00:08:57,521 Speaker 1: I know you don't love doing that, but I love 212 00:08:57,601 --> 00:08:59,961 Speaker 1: doing that for Steve. Even during out the day, like 213 00:09:00,041 --> 00:09:01,841 Speaker 1: we obviously work in the same office. We're just going 214 00:09:01,921 --> 00:09:03,561 Speaker 1: up and giving them a kiss on the cheek or 215 00:09:04,161 --> 00:09:07,001 Speaker 1: sex talking, you know, dirty talk. There's so many little 216 00:09:07,041 --> 00:09:09,081 Speaker 1: things that you can do. Just it's been more flirtatious 217 00:09:09,121 --> 00:09:11,401 Speaker 1: and you used to do that at the start, so 218 00:09:11,521 --> 00:09:13,521 Speaker 1: why would you not continue to do that in your relationship. 219 00:09:13,561 --> 00:09:15,561 Speaker 1: It just adds the build up. But as the fun, 220 00:09:15,601 --> 00:09:17,161 Speaker 1: it gets you in the playful energy and it's really 221 00:09:17,161 --> 00:09:19,521 Speaker 1: connecting and it makes you feel. For me, it makes 222 00:09:19,561 --> 00:09:22,321 Speaker 1: me feel desired, and I'm guessing it makes Steve feel 223 00:09:22,321 --> 00:09:24,241 Speaker 1: desired as well, which I think is a really important 224 00:09:24,281 --> 00:09:27,081 Speaker 1: factor in a relationship, especially long term. At the start, 225 00:09:27,121 --> 00:09:29,081 Speaker 1: you feel super desired, you can't get enough of each other, 226 00:09:29,361 --> 00:09:30,921 Speaker 1: but as you go on long term, that's something you 227 00:09:30,921 --> 00:09:33,161 Speaker 1: have to be really conscious about. I love flirting. I 228 00:09:33,161 --> 00:09:33,961 Speaker 1: think it's really fun. 229 00:09:34,121 --> 00:09:37,561 Speaker 2: It's like consciously creating that yeah each other, Yeah, yeah, 230 00:09:37,681 --> 00:09:41,001 Speaker 2: keeping that fire alive, keeping the fire aliveful energy when 231 00:09:41,001 --> 00:09:43,881 Speaker 2: you're in a floating isn't it. It's so playful so far. 232 00:09:43,921 --> 00:09:45,481 Speaker 2: It's like you bat a little bit their way, and 233 00:09:45,481 --> 00:09:46,921 Speaker 2: then they bat a little bit. Yeah, You're like, oh, 234 00:09:47,361 --> 00:09:49,001 Speaker 2: this energetic peas is so fun. 235 00:09:49,121 --> 00:09:51,921 Speaker 1: It's so fun. So like tap back into that. And 236 00:09:52,241 --> 00:09:54,081 Speaker 1: I had a story for a while there that I 237 00:09:54,201 --> 00:09:55,961 Speaker 1: didn't know how to flirt and I'd kind of lost 238 00:09:56,041 --> 00:09:58,521 Speaker 1: that about myself. And then once you practice to get 239 00:09:58,521 --> 00:10:02,521 Speaker 1: into you're like, no, it's always there. Stephanie's like yeah, 240 00:10:02,681 --> 00:10:03,961 Speaker 1: Stephanie is there. We love that. 241 00:10:05,041 --> 00:10:10,281 Speaker 2: I feel like focusing on breath, like when I'm being 242 00:10:10,441 --> 00:10:12,961 Speaker 2: intimate or even leading up to being intimate, I find 243 00:10:13,081 --> 00:10:15,841 Speaker 2: is really helpful. So whether it be whether I'm by myself, 244 00:10:16,161 --> 00:10:19,081 Speaker 2: I'm always conscious of my breath before I actually go 245 00:10:19,161 --> 00:10:20,121 Speaker 2: into like self pleasure. 246 00:10:20,241 --> 00:10:21,801 Speaker 1: So what do you do just like stop to do 247 00:10:21,841 --> 00:10:23,841 Speaker 1: a meditation or do you just like focus on slowing 248 00:10:23,841 --> 00:10:25,241 Speaker 1: it down? Depends what kind of mood I'm in. 249 00:10:25,281 --> 00:10:27,601 Speaker 2: So sometimes it might be like putting on a Temanute 250 00:10:27,641 --> 00:10:30,321 Speaker 2: meditation where I'm like on the bed, laying down my 251 00:10:30,361 --> 00:10:34,521 Speaker 2: eyes closed, breathing and following the guided meditation. Or sometimes 252 00:10:34,561 --> 00:10:36,601 Speaker 2: it might even be putting music on and then just 253 00:10:36,641 --> 00:10:38,841 Speaker 2: breathing to the rhythm of the music and it's just 254 00:10:38,921 --> 00:10:41,881 Speaker 2: about creating rhythm with my breath. And then that way 255 00:10:41,921 --> 00:10:44,361 Speaker 2: it gets me connecting to my body because then it's 256 00:10:44,401 --> 00:10:46,561 Speaker 2: like out of my head and into my body and 257 00:10:46,601 --> 00:10:47,881 Speaker 2: I can kind of like slow it. 258 00:10:47,801 --> 00:10:49,881 Speaker 1: Down more of that. That's really good bye. 259 00:10:49,961 --> 00:10:51,881 Speaker 2: I find it's really good. And then also if you're 260 00:10:51,921 --> 00:10:54,321 Speaker 2: with a partner, it's like you can do rhythmic breathing together, 261 00:10:54,601 --> 00:10:56,241 Speaker 2: so it's like you don't even have to voice it. 262 00:10:56,241 --> 00:10:58,241 Speaker 2: You can just follow their breath. Yeah, and then you 263 00:10:58,321 --> 00:10:59,921 Speaker 2: kind of get into this like pattern together. 264 00:11:00,041 --> 00:11:00,841 Speaker 1: That's beautiful and. 265 00:11:00,761 --> 00:11:03,401 Speaker 2: Then it's like a connection with them. Yeah, I find 266 00:11:03,441 --> 00:11:05,481 Speaker 2: that that's bad. That's a good one. 267 00:11:06,721 --> 00:11:08,601 Speaker 1: If you've seen the ad and you want your free 268 00:11:08,801 --> 00:11:12,321 Speaker 1: natural lubricant, your code is slippery. Let's get back to 269 00:11:12,321 --> 00:11:15,961 Speaker 1: the episode. Okay, So my next one is really hard 270 00:11:16,041 --> 00:11:18,241 Speaker 1: with children. And Steve and I went to Sydney a 271 00:11:18,241 --> 00:11:20,881 Speaker 1: little while ago and just had the best time. It 272 00:11:20,921 --> 00:11:22,441 Speaker 1: was a couple of days just full of lots of 273 00:11:22,481 --> 00:11:24,681 Speaker 1: sex and when we came home we were in that 274 00:11:24,721 --> 00:11:28,041 Speaker 1: really sexual energy and let we forgot we got interrupted, 275 00:11:28,161 --> 00:11:30,041 Speaker 1: like you know, we put Tarla to bed, but then 276 00:11:30,281 --> 00:11:33,241 Speaker 1: five minutes later she's knocking on our door. I'm like, 277 00:11:33,281 --> 00:11:35,041 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I forgot about this. But when you 278 00:11:35,161 --> 00:11:38,001 Speaker 1: have the time and space like for me really turns 279 00:11:38,041 --> 00:11:40,041 Speaker 1: you on. Knowing that there's no rush. Yeah, and that's 280 00:11:40,081 --> 00:11:41,561 Speaker 1: why you do want to wait to your kids are 281 00:11:41,601 --> 00:11:43,441 Speaker 1: asleep or they're having a nap and knowing you've got 282 00:11:43,441 --> 00:11:45,441 Speaker 1: that time, which I know for a lot of parents 283 00:11:45,441 --> 00:11:47,241 Speaker 1: listening you're probably rolling your eyes been like we never 284 00:11:47,281 --> 00:11:49,881 Speaker 1: get that time. You got to find it. You really 285 00:11:49,961 --> 00:11:51,641 Speaker 1: do have to find and make it. But if I 286 00:11:51,681 --> 00:11:53,521 Speaker 1: feel like I'm in a rush, I just find it 287 00:11:53,561 --> 00:11:55,881 Speaker 1: harder to really be in the moment and enjoy it 288 00:11:55,881 --> 00:11:57,441 Speaker 1: as much as what I do. When I know there's 289 00:11:57,481 --> 00:12:00,001 Speaker 1: no rush, we can explore each other's bodies and just 290 00:12:00,041 --> 00:12:01,881 Speaker 1: be really present and have fun with it and try 291 00:12:01,921 --> 00:12:04,641 Speaker 1: new things. I don't love the rush to get it 292 00:12:04,681 --> 00:12:07,601 Speaker 1: done feels when you've only got a certain amount of time. Like, yes, 293 00:12:07,601 --> 00:12:09,001 Speaker 1: there's a time and place for it, for sure, where 294 00:12:09,001 --> 00:12:11,561 Speaker 1: it's spontaneous, of course, But for me, I feel a 295 00:12:11,601 --> 00:12:13,761 Speaker 1: lot more turned on when I can just fully relax 296 00:12:13,881 --> 00:12:15,401 Speaker 1: knowing there's no time limit and we're not going to 297 00:12:15,441 --> 00:12:18,881 Speaker 1: be interrupted ta staycase. I know they're not accessible to everyone, 298 00:12:19,041 --> 00:12:21,721 Speaker 1: you know, especially in this financial crisis, I suppose that 299 00:12:21,721 --> 00:12:24,041 Speaker 1: a lot of people are in Yeah, gosh, Stayka's. I 300 00:12:24,121 --> 00:12:26,201 Speaker 1: just feel so connected and so nice to just be 301 00:12:26,281 --> 00:12:28,201 Speaker 1: able to really pour into each other and be in 302 00:12:28,241 --> 00:12:29,001 Speaker 1: that energy together. 303 00:12:29,201 --> 00:12:31,041 Speaker 2: You get to like plug back into each other outside 304 00:12:31,081 --> 00:12:32,401 Speaker 2: of all the other hats that you've got going on 305 00:12:32,441 --> 00:12:32,801 Speaker 2: in life. 306 00:12:32,841 --> 00:12:35,001 Speaker 1: Because I had a conversation with Steve once we got 307 00:12:35,001 --> 00:12:36,641 Speaker 1: back to it's like a week or two later, I 308 00:12:36,681 --> 00:12:38,361 Speaker 1: was like, far right. You can really feel the difference 309 00:12:38,401 --> 00:12:41,401 Speaker 1: of when you come back into stress, into kids, into 310 00:12:41,841 --> 00:12:44,801 Speaker 1: doing into routine, and it's so easy to get out 311 00:12:44,801 --> 00:12:47,321 Speaker 1: of that energy. You've got to be really conscious to 312 00:12:47,361 --> 00:12:49,601 Speaker 1: bring all of these things that we're talking about, yeah, 313 00:12:49,641 --> 00:12:51,481 Speaker 1: into your day to day and not just waiting for 314 00:12:51,521 --> 00:12:53,681 Speaker 1: a stay CA And that was my lesson this time. 315 00:12:53,721 --> 00:12:55,161 Speaker 1: I was like, I can't just wait for a stay 316 00:12:55,201 --> 00:12:59,281 Speaker 1: k to bring this playful, sexual, flirty energy in. How 317 00:12:59,281 --> 00:13:01,081 Speaker 1: do I bring some of that back and pull it 318 00:13:01,081 --> 00:13:02,761 Speaker 1: in each day? And I've been really conscious of it, 319 00:13:02,841 --> 00:13:05,241 Speaker 1: and yes, it's not the same being away, but it's 320 00:13:05,241 --> 00:13:07,801 Speaker 1: still really nice. Yeah, so that when we are into 321 00:13:07,841 --> 00:13:09,801 Speaker 1: met we've got that lead up, we've got that connection, 322 00:13:09,841 --> 00:13:12,801 Speaker 1: we've got that energy that we've consciously been working towards 323 00:13:12,841 --> 00:13:14,641 Speaker 1: and enjoying day to day, and. 324 00:13:14,561 --> 00:13:16,081 Speaker 2: Then you're not waiting for the stay care. You can 325 00:13:16,081 --> 00:13:17,081 Speaker 2: actually have it now. 326 00:13:17,121 --> 00:13:19,721 Speaker 1: Virtually get to create it. But it takes a lot 327 00:13:19,721 --> 00:13:21,921 Speaker 1: of conscious effort, especially when you're parents. 328 00:13:22,161 --> 00:13:24,961 Speaker 2: I could imagine, especially with the constant interruption, because that 329 00:13:24,961 --> 00:13:25,761 Speaker 2: would be chology. 330 00:13:26,201 --> 00:13:28,201 Speaker 1: It's like an instant mood killer. 331 00:13:28,361 --> 00:13:30,201 Speaker 2: Yeah, Immediately you're like, you know, there's a little human 332 00:13:30,241 --> 00:13:30,881 Speaker 2: outside the door. 333 00:13:31,441 --> 00:13:35,441 Speaker 1: Literally You're like, I'm not present at all. No, now 334 00:13:35,481 --> 00:13:36,761 Speaker 1: I'm worried. Now I'm paranoid. 335 00:13:36,921 --> 00:13:40,241 Speaker 2: Yeah. Love it so something that I'd love to do. 336 00:13:40,281 --> 00:13:43,441 Speaker 2: I love slowing it down. Yeah, Like, especially with a partner. 337 00:13:43,801 --> 00:13:45,401 Speaker 2: I feel like I've come a long way with this 338 00:13:45,441 --> 00:13:47,601 Speaker 2: as well, because when I was younger, I think maybe 339 00:13:47,641 --> 00:13:51,441 Speaker 2: just the young belief of needing to be objectified and 340 00:13:51,561 --> 00:13:54,641 Speaker 2: overly sexualized growing up around especially around the eighteen mark, 341 00:13:54,761 --> 00:13:56,801 Speaker 2: like you kind of go through different phases where you 342 00:13:56,841 --> 00:13:59,161 Speaker 2: think this is what men want kind of thing, right, 343 00:13:59,321 --> 00:14:01,481 Speaker 2: I mean, at least idea right, And so I think 344 00:14:01,481 --> 00:14:03,841 Speaker 2: for me, I really got into like this headspace of 345 00:14:03,881 --> 00:14:07,201 Speaker 2: like needing to perform and like having to be a 346 00:14:07,241 --> 00:14:09,361 Speaker 2: certain way or shore up a certain way, or like 347 00:14:09,481 --> 00:14:11,561 Speaker 2: certain things that were maybe a little bit more rough 348 00:14:11,601 --> 00:14:12,881 Speaker 2: than what I liked, do. 349 00:14:12,841 --> 00:14:13,361 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? 350 00:14:13,481 --> 00:14:15,881 Speaker 2: And so what I've learned, especially of the last couple 351 00:14:15,921 --> 00:14:19,281 Speaker 2: of years with my past partners, is that I actually 352 00:14:19,281 --> 00:14:21,801 Speaker 2: really like to slow things down because it just is 353 00:14:21,921 --> 00:14:25,281 Speaker 2: such a different experience. And again, like what you said before, 354 00:14:25,321 --> 00:14:28,041 Speaker 2: like there's a time and a place for different moods. Sure, wrong, right, 355 00:14:28,241 --> 00:14:30,761 Speaker 2: But for the most part, I think slowing it down, 356 00:14:30,801 --> 00:14:34,241 Speaker 2: whether that be kissing or for play or like the 357 00:14:34,281 --> 00:14:38,121 Speaker 2: actual art of sex and intimacy is like slowing it 358 00:14:38,161 --> 00:14:40,281 Speaker 2: down so that you're feeling things more and then it's 359 00:14:40,321 --> 00:14:44,841 Speaker 2: more about connection and presence and pleasure as opposed to 360 00:14:44,921 --> 00:14:47,321 Speaker 2: like getting to a specific outcome or getting it down. 361 00:14:47,721 --> 00:14:50,761 Speaker 1: You're enjoying the whole experience rough and just the orgasm. 362 00:14:50,881 --> 00:14:52,721 Speaker 2: And like we had a little bit of a conversation 363 00:14:52,801 --> 00:14:56,441 Speaker 2: like this this morning around not rushing the process, like 364 00:14:56,681 --> 00:15:00,121 Speaker 2: just actually being present, out of your head, in your body, 365 00:15:00,281 --> 00:15:04,361 Speaker 2: enjoying that moment of pleasure as opposed to like performing 366 00:15:04,601 --> 00:15:06,921 Speaker 2: rushing or feeling like you need to get it done. 367 00:15:07,001 --> 00:15:09,121 Speaker 1: We'll talk about the conversation we had this morning, because 368 00:15:09,161 --> 00:15:11,681 Speaker 1: even after seventeen years, Steve and I are still exploring 369 00:15:11,681 --> 00:15:15,041 Speaker 1: and asking questions and checking in. And we both said 370 00:15:15,601 --> 00:15:18,361 Speaker 1: sometimes we're worried that we're in our head like, oh, 371 00:15:18,721 --> 00:15:21,081 Speaker 1: is it taking too long to organism? Are they getting 372 00:15:21,161 --> 00:15:23,321 Speaker 1: over it? And I said that to you the other day, 373 00:15:23,321 --> 00:15:25,361 Speaker 1: I said, is there ever any a point where you're like, oh, 374 00:15:25,401 --> 00:15:28,241 Speaker 1: she's taking so long? He's like, are you joking? Yeah, 375 00:15:28,281 --> 00:15:31,361 Speaker 1: no way, I enjoy the whole prochus. I enjoy seeing 376 00:15:31,401 --> 00:15:33,441 Speaker 1: you in pleasure. That's never never like get that out 377 00:15:33,441 --> 00:15:35,801 Speaker 1: of your head, because that would just make you paranoid 378 00:15:35,841 --> 00:15:37,281 Speaker 1: and not be in the moment and not relax and 379 00:15:37,281 --> 00:15:39,161 Speaker 1: then not be able to come yep. I was like, yeah, 380 00:15:39,201 --> 00:15:40,841 Speaker 1: it's a good point. We both said we felt like that. 381 00:15:40,961 --> 00:15:43,601 Speaker 1: I'm sure so many of you listening maybe you get 382 00:15:43,641 --> 00:15:46,241 Speaker 1: paranoid I about that, but don't like this is your 383 00:15:46,281 --> 00:15:48,521 Speaker 1: time to relax and be in the moment and enjoy 384 00:15:48,801 --> 00:15:51,281 Speaker 1: every moment. So enjoy every moment. 385 00:15:51,521 --> 00:15:53,521 Speaker 2: I think it's like even sometimes a reflection of like 386 00:15:53,641 --> 00:15:56,281 Speaker 2: how scared you can get to like take up space. Yeah, 387 00:15:56,361 --> 00:15:58,521 Speaker 2: you know, and like I really noticed sometimes a part 388 00:15:58,561 --> 00:16:00,641 Speaker 2: of me being like, oh, like am I taking too long? 389 00:16:00,761 --> 00:16:03,121 Speaker 1: Like the people pleasing too, isn't it like oh I 390 00:16:03,201 --> 00:16:04,521 Speaker 1: want to make this about them that. 391 00:16:04,681 --> 00:16:07,001 Speaker 2: Yeah, like just want to take care of them step 392 00:16:07,121 --> 00:16:09,561 Speaker 2: or anything like that. And I, yeah, just coming back 393 00:16:09,561 --> 00:16:11,521 Speaker 2: to the performative thing for a sec because yeah, we 394 00:16:11,561 --> 00:16:15,241 Speaker 2: had this conversation actually around how when it's very performative 395 00:16:15,241 --> 00:16:17,481 Speaker 2: based or it's very like rough and hard and all 396 00:16:17,481 --> 00:16:19,521 Speaker 2: those sorts of things. I don't know, maybe it's like 397 00:16:19,561 --> 00:16:22,161 Speaker 2: my insecurities, but I feel a little bit like used 398 00:16:22,161 --> 00:16:25,041 Speaker 2: a bit, you know, it doesn't feel as nice, doesn't 399 00:16:25,041 --> 00:16:28,241 Speaker 2: feel as nice. There's no caressing, there's no love making, 400 00:16:28,401 --> 00:16:31,201 Speaker 2: there's like and I just I noticed the head noise. 401 00:16:31,681 --> 00:16:34,041 Speaker 1: Well, I think when if you're getting smashed and you're 402 00:16:34,081 --> 00:16:35,481 Speaker 1: doing it rough, so I don't know how else to 403 00:16:35,481 --> 00:16:37,481 Speaker 1: put it, but if you're doing it rough, yeah, you 404 00:16:37,481 --> 00:16:39,481 Speaker 1: don't feel as taken care of. Was when you're love 405 00:16:39,521 --> 00:16:41,721 Speaker 1: making and you're holding each other and you're slowing it down. 406 00:16:42,041 --> 00:16:44,241 Speaker 1: I just feel taken care of. Feel like my body, 407 00:16:44,281 --> 00:16:46,961 Speaker 1: I feel like my pleasure. I feel like everything together 408 00:16:47,121 --> 00:16:50,841 Speaker 1: is like this beautiful dance. I suppose it's safe and 409 00:16:50,881 --> 00:16:53,441 Speaker 1: it's loving, Whereas when it's a bit rougher, it feels 410 00:16:53,481 --> 00:16:55,921 Speaker 1: like it's just sex and time and place for sure, Yeah, 411 00:16:56,161 --> 00:16:58,801 Speaker 1: time and place. Everyone loves different things, and every now 412 00:16:58,801 --> 00:17:01,081 Speaker 1: and again I do too, but I'm the same most 413 00:17:01,081 --> 00:17:02,841 Speaker 1: of the time. I prefer to feel taken care of 414 00:17:02,881 --> 00:17:05,281 Speaker 1: and loved on and gentle, and yeah, make it more 415 00:17:05,321 --> 00:17:07,080 Speaker 1: intimate rather than just a fuck. 416 00:17:07,281 --> 00:17:09,561 Speaker 2: Yeah, And obviously, like it's obviously important to know that, 417 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:11,440 Speaker 2: like when you have a safe space you can kind 418 00:17:11,441 --> 00:17:13,281 Speaker 2: of explore it. Oh yeah, good for you, you know, 419 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:15,840 Speaker 2: but like sometimes it can be fine line between like 420 00:17:15,880 --> 00:17:17,321 Speaker 2: feeling safe and feeling objectified. 421 00:17:17,561 --> 00:17:19,401 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, definitely. 422 00:17:19,441 --> 00:17:21,041 Speaker 2: Yeah, But when you're with a safe partner, it's like 423 00:17:21,041 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 2: that's not really think because you know it's safe and 424 00:17:22,961 --> 00:17:24,041 Speaker 2: you know yeah. 425 00:17:23,801 --> 00:17:26,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't say I felt objectified before, but I 426 00:17:26,640 --> 00:17:29,480 Speaker 1: can hear how women could feel like that. But it's 427 00:17:29,521 --> 00:17:31,881 Speaker 1: still you still feel more taken care of when it's 428 00:17:31,921 --> 00:17:34,441 Speaker 1: slower because they are, they're caressing you there, holding you. 429 00:17:34,681 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 2: It's a better experience. 430 00:17:36,160 --> 00:17:38,321 Speaker 1: I agree. I'm sure most women if you're listening and 431 00:17:38,321 --> 00:17:40,640 Speaker 1: people are like, yeah, agree. By time place for rottle 432 00:17:40,761 --> 00:17:43,160 Speaker 1: for sure. My last one is kind of what I've 433 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:45,841 Speaker 1: already covered, which was stacase when you just fully get 434 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 1: to relax, plug into each other. You're each other's number one. 435 00:17:49,080 --> 00:17:52,160 Speaker 1: You're so plugged into each other and each other's pleasure 436 00:17:52,201 --> 00:17:55,160 Speaker 1: and listening and connecting and talking and experiencing, and not 437 00:17:55,241 --> 00:17:57,360 Speaker 1: just in the bedroom. It's like even out for dinner, 438 00:17:57,441 --> 00:18:00,281 Speaker 1: you know, interrupted every three seconds. It's just that time 439 00:18:00,321 --> 00:18:02,480 Speaker 1: to really plug in. And it's something we put on 440 00:18:02,481 --> 00:18:04,761 Speaker 1: our vision board. We do like a joint vision board 441 00:18:04,761 --> 00:18:07,681 Speaker 1: and goal sitting each year. We put it on last 442 00:18:07,761 --> 00:18:10,440 Speaker 1: year's and we didn't do many, So this year I 443 00:18:10,481 --> 00:18:12,440 Speaker 1: was like, not doing that again. Yeah, that was an 444 00:18:12,481 --> 00:18:15,161 Speaker 1: intention that we didn't follow through with once again. It's 445 00:18:15,201 --> 00:18:17,120 Speaker 1: very hard when you have kids and finances and all 446 00:18:17,120 --> 00:18:18,841 Speaker 1: the things if you don't have the support around you. 447 00:18:19,321 --> 00:18:21,720 Speaker 1: But this year I was like, we're gonna prioritize this 448 00:18:21,801 --> 00:18:25,401 Speaker 1: and make this it's a must, and it just really 449 00:18:25,561 --> 00:18:28,721 Speaker 1: fills our relationship cut back up. I think a lot 450 00:18:28,721 --> 00:18:31,000 Speaker 1: of us are not pouring into the relationship cup as 451 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:32,521 Speaker 1: much as what we'd like to, as much as what 452 00:18:32,561 --> 00:18:35,801 Speaker 1: we should, because for me, it's the foundation for everything. 453 00:18:35,961 --> 00:18:38,241 Speaker 1: I grew up not seeing a loving relationship, not seeing 454 00:18:38,241 --> 00:18:40,241 Speaker 1: my parents put each other first. In fact, it was opposite. 455 00:18:40,281 --> 00:18:44,401 Speaker 1: It was disrespect, abuse, never priority. It was just horrible. 456 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:46,640 Speaker 1: I want my kids to see what a healthy relationship 457 00:18:46,681 --> 00:18:48,521 Speaker 1: is and how important it is to put your partner 458 00:18:48,521 --> 00:18:50,761 Speaker 1: as a priority and for them to feel loved and 459 00:18:50,801 --> 00:18:53,281 Speaker 1: cared for and desired. So I want my kids to 460 00:18:53,281 --> 00:18:56,041 Speaker 1: have that. I feel like that's my responsibility to model that. 461 00:18:56,160 --> 00:18:58,240 Speaker 1: Of course, otherwise how else do they learn and see it? 462 00:18:58,921 --> 00:19:00,201 Speaker 1: So that's my last one. 463 00:19:00,321 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that. Yeah, my last one is knowing 464 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:07,001 Speaker 2: there's no pressure to orgasm. 465 00:19:07,041 --> 00:19:07,841 Speaker 1: Oh explain. 466 00:19:08,160 --> 00:19:10,960 Speaker 2: So for me, it must be that to do with 467 00:19:11,041 --> 00:19:12,920 Speaker 2: that thing of getting in my head of feeling like 468 00:19:12,961 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 2: I might be taking too long. But when I know 469 00:19:15,441 --> 00:19:19,161 Speaker 2: that my partner is actively telling me like there's no 470 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:21,400 Speaker 2: pressure when I'm here to get to an outcome, like 471 00:19:21,481 --> 00:19:24,721 Speaker 2: you're okay, like just relax and enjoy, then immediately it's 472 00:19:24,721 --> 00:19:25,641 Speaker 2: be things up for me, and. 473 00:19:25,561 --> 00:19:27,561 Speaker 1: I like like excellent, I turned on. 474 00:19:27,721 --> 00:19:31,281 Speaker 2: It's almost like knowing that there is no pressure to organism. 475 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:33,281 Speaker 2: When I feel like I'm getting in my head, I 476 00:19:33,321 --> 00:19:35,240 Speaker 2: start to feel pressure to orgasm, and then I'm like, oh, 477 00:19:35,281 --> 00:19:37,281 Speaker 2: I've got to get to the outcome. It's just not 478 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:39,521 Speaker 2: about that. And so when I actively know that my 479 00:19:39,561 --> 00:19:41,440 Speaker 2: partner's on the same page with me in that, I 480 00:19:41,481 --> 00:19:43,440 Speaker 2: can kind of soften and my body can kind of relax, 481 00:19:43,481 --> 00:19:45,561 Speaker 2: and then I'm like, Okay, I get to enjoy this. 482 00:19:45,761 --> 00:19:47,920 Speaker 1: I think every female listenings to be like, yeah, I 483 00:19:47,921 --> 00:19:48,640 Speaker 1: helt that before. 484 00:19:48,761 --> 00:19:51,521 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I find something that helps me. And what 485 00:19:51,561 --> 00:19:54,721 Speaker 2: I've done is actually asked my partner to say those 486 00:19:54,761 --> 00:19:55,201 Speaker 2: words to. 487 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:56,721 Speaker 1: Me like that's nice. 488 00:19:56,801 --> 00:19:59,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, pressed to request, yeah, like can you tell me 489 00:19:59,840 --> 00:20:03,041 Speaker 2: that it's safe that I'm safe with you that I 490 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:06,360 Speaker 2: can relax, that you know, all of the things whatever 491 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:08,120 Speaker 2: it feels good for you in that moment and actually 492 00:20:08,201 --> 00:20:11,121 Speaker 2: say like there's no pressure, orgasm, this is just your enjoyment. 493 00:20:11,241 --> 00:20:13,680 Speaker 2: Like I just want you to receive right now. And 494 00:20:13,721 --> 00:20:16,441 Speaker 2: I've found that that nine times out of ten has 495 00:20:16,561 --> 00:20:17,321 Speaker 2: really helped me. 496 00:20:17,521 --> 00:20:19,721 Speaker 1: And you know what, they would love that guidance because 497 00:20:19,761 --> 00:20:21,561 Speaker 1: they want to make you happy, they want to see 498 00:20:21,561 --> 00:20:23,161 Speaker 1: you in pleasure, they want you to relax. So it's 499 00:20:23,201 --> 00:20:26,201 Speaker 1: like sometimes just hearing those words is all you need. Yeah, 500 00:20:26,241 --> 00:20:27,001 Speaker 1: but reassurance. 501 00:20:27,041 --> 00:20:28,761 Speaker 2: I think for me a big thing is like I'm 502 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:30,920 Speaker 2: very like audible. Is that how you would say it? 503 00:20:31,001 --> 00:20:33,281 Speaker 2: So like when I hear like my partner's voice, it 504 00:20:33,441 --> 00:20:36,200 Speaker 2: softens me entirely. I'm like, take care of me, love me, 505 00:20:36,441 --> 00:20:37,120 Speaker 2: like never leave me. 506 00:20:37,360 --> 00:20:40,521 Speaker 1: Yeah, take care of my money, love me. Yeah. Oh 507 00:20:40,521 --> 00:20:42,761 Speaker 1: that's beautiful. We hope you guys enjoyed this episode. It's 508 00:20:42,761 --> 00:20:44,001 Speaker 1: a bit of a shorter one, but we want to 509 00:20:44,001 --> 00:20:46,120 Speaker 1: get straight to the point and just talk about the 510 00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:48,001 Speaker 1: things that really help turn us on. And I think 511 00:20:48,041 --> 00:20:51,200 Speaker 1: when you're experiencing beautiful pleasure and connection, it just overflows 512 00:20:51,201 --> 00:20:53,840 Speaker 1: into every other area of your life. I know when 513 00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:57,520 Speaker 1: I've had beautiful sex and intimacy and i feel connected, 514 00:20:57,561 --> 00:21:00,281 Speaker 1: I'm so lit up. Yeah, it's like that glow. It 515 00:21:00,561 --> 00:21:04,321 Speaker 1: does that happiness, that high vibrational frequency that you're in 516 00:21:04,360 --> 00:21:07,681 Speaker 1: and then everyone gets the benefits of that, your family, yourself, 517 00:21:07,721 --> 00:21:10,880 Speaker 1: your work. You're in a higher state. And I know 518 00:21:10,921 --> 00:21:12,921 Speaker 1: there's been times I've been really stressed and say, Steve 519 00:21:12,921 --> 00:21:14,360 Speaker 1: and I haven't had sex for a couple of weeks 520 00:21:14,360 --> 00:21:15,680 Speaker 1: and we haven't. I'm like, oh my gosh, why do 521 00:21:15,761 --> 00:21:17,880 Speaker 1: we stop doing that? But you can get stuck in 522 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 1: your ruts and you're tired, and your stress and all 523 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 1: that busy period. Yeah, all the different things, but it 524 00:21:23,321 --> 00:21:26,001 Speaker 1: is just such an important thing to continue to do. 525 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:28,321 Speaker 1: It's the only thing being intimate that separates you from 526 00:21:28,321 --> 00:21:31,361 Speaker 1: being roommates. It's the only special thing that you do 527 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:33,521 Speaker 1: just with your partner that you don't do with anyone 528 00:21:33,521 --> 00:21:37,360 Speaker 1: else unless you're an open relationship, which can't relate that. 529 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,481 Speaker 1: It's the thing that you two just have for each other. 530 00:21:39,721 --> 00:21:43,160 Speaker 1: It's so important to make the time. So we love it. 531 00:21:43,281 --> 00:21:45,561 Speaker 1: Have you guys enjoyed that? And we'll see you on Friday. 532 00:21:45,721 --> 00:21:47,400 Speaker 1: Bye bye.