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Speaker 1: you don't need to know this, but eleven forty seven,

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Speaker 1: eleven forty seven, slide down Harps Sunday morning, not evening,

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Speaker 1: Sunday morning. It's beautiful outside. I'm going to chat to

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Speaker 1: you for twenty or thirty. Then I'm going to get

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Speaker 1: Get my feet in the earth, a bit of grounding.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to get a bit of vitamin D carefully

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Speaker 1: on my body because I've had a million things cut off.

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Speaker 1: It's I might say hello to a few people. I

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Speaker 1: might pick some caffeine up on the journey. Then I

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Speaker 1: might come home and sit in a bloody front yard

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Speaker 1: like the King of the world. But before I do

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Speaker 1: all of that, I want to talk to you about perfection.

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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about the idea of

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Speaker 1: progress over perfection. Now I don't think I've really ever

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Speaker 1: been personally a perfectionist, but I've always been very interested

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Speaker 1: in being a better version of me, a more high performing,

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Speaker 1: a more educated, a fitter, or stronger blah blah blah,

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Speaker 1: all that stuff. Like many of you, I've always been

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Speaker 1: fascinated with performance and productivity and effectiveness and potential and

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Speaker 1: doing the work and creating outcomes. And as I said recently,

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Speaker 1: you know, like I think that we don't want to

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Speaker 1: about how do I be better? Think better, do better?

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Speaker 1: Because we've got to we've got to live. We've got

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Speaker 1: to have life. We've got to have We're going to

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Speaker 1: have peaks and troughs. We need to laugh, we need

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Speaker 1: all days, as I call them, where we do fuck all,

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Speaker 1: we achieve fuck all, we're not particularly effective or productive

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Speaker 1: or proactive. We're not killing it, we're not crushing it,

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Speaker 1: we're not ticking boxes. We also need time where we're

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Speaker 1: just having fun and being human. But in the space

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Speaker 1: that I work, where I've worked with lots of people

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Speaker 1: with people in you know, the general community who really

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Speaker 1: want to be the best version of themselves, there can

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Speaker 1: tend to be, I guess perfectionistic behavior and thinking. And

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Speaker 1: while I think aiming for better or improvement or growth

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Speaker 1: that aiming for perfection, which many people seem to and

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Speaker 1: being even I reckon I've made a mistake in that

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Speaker 1: I talk about okay, so I'm throwing me under the

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Speaker 1: bus here. I think I talk too much sometimes about

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Speaker 1: being the best version of me, or you being the

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Speaker 1: best version of you. And I guess what I really

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Speaker 1: should say, what is a better strategy? Is better? Better?

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Speaker 1: Let's be a better version and maybe one day I'll

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Speaker 1: end up somewhere close to the best version of me.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, And I mean, how do we know?

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Speaker 1: How do I know what the absolute best version of

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Speaker 1: me is? Psychologically, emotionally, mentally, physiologically, creatively, professionally, personally, How

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Speaker 1: do I know? How do I know? And I guess

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Speaker 1: I don't know. But I think we need to get

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Speaker 1: never met anyone who's perfect. I've never met anyone who's

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Speaker 1: really perfected anything. Maybe I've met people who have been

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Speaker 1: But you know, I think, if if we can be

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Speaker 1: not we're talking about our work or our finances, or

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Speaker 1: long as we're getting better, you know, like one hundred

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Speaker 1: And have you noticed the old moving goalpost syndrome two?

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Speaker 1: the amount of people go, Wow, I've done that. I'm good. Now,

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Speaker 1: So I just think that understanding I'm digressing a little

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